The Motherkind Podcast

It’s our final week of August re-releases, where we’re sharing some of our favourite episodes from the last year. This week, I’m delighted to share with you my interview with the wonderful Dr. Rangan Chatterjee, which was one of our most popular episodes from 2019. Dr. Rangan Chatterjee is one of the most influential GP’s in the UK with nearly two decades of experience. His podcast, ‘Feel Better, Live More’, is the Number 1 health podcast in the UK and he also has a number of bestselling books. In this interview, which we recorded around the release of his newest book ‘Feel Better in Five’, we talk about how to make changes in your life. Dr. Rangan shares some simple, yet effective shifts that you can bring into your life to feel better, in just five minutes. And in our busy modern lives, five minutes is often all we have! So, I hope you enjoy this week’s episode and I hope it resonates with you, too. For the full show notes, please head over to www.motherkind.co. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, we’re re-releasing the interview I did last year with the brilliant Sarah Knight. Sarah is the author of the ‘No ‘F*ck’s Given’ guides – including the bestselling book ‘The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving an F*ck’ and her most recent book, ‘F*ck No!’ This episode does come with an ‘explicit’ warning as there’s quite a bit of swearing - so it might be best to listen with headphones on, away from little ears! In this episode, we talk about how to say ‘no’. I’m a real stickler for keeping boundaries – because it’s so important to protect our precious time and energy. Sarah teaches us how to say no in a number of scenarios, and importantly how not to feel guilty about it afterwards. I think you’ll really enjoy this one. For the full show notes, please head over to www.motherkind.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We’ve got another fantastic re-release for you this week. My interview with Dr. Shefali Tsabary was a really important moment for me on the podcast, having been a huge fan of her work for years. Oprah described Dr. Shefali as the world’s most profound parenting coach – calling her work ‘so profound her ideas might just change the world’. Dr. Shefali’s book, ‘The Conscious Parent’ is my absolute favourite parenting book and it made a real impact on me whilst I was pregnant with Jesse. In this episode, we talk about what conscious parenting is and how it can become a gateway to learn more about ourselves. We also talk about the difference between control and connection, as well as the pressure we put on ourselves as parents. I really hope you enjoy the episode. For full show notes, please head over to www.motherkind.co. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This month, we’re re-releasing some of our favourite episodes of the podcast. We start with my interview with Dr. Gabor Maté, which I often refer to as the most important conversation I’ve ever had on the podcast. Dr. Gabor is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, trauma, stress and childhood development. His work has been profoundly impactful in not just my own life, but that of so many others. In this episode, we speak about addiction, childhood trauma, modern parenting practices and the impact of stress on our parenting. Dr. Gabor explains how everything in our lives can be traced back to our childhood and how this impacts the way that we parent now. It’s a really compassionate, judgement-free conversation and I think it might help you to find a deeper understanding of yourself, and your children. I hope you enjoy the episode. For the full show notes, please head over to motherkind.co. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to this week’s podcast, which is actually the last one this season, as we’ll be taking a break through the month of August and re-releasing some of our favourite past episodes. We’ve got an extra special episode for you this week, as I’m joined by Dr. Nneka Ikeogu and Dr. Emma Svanberg to talk about how to reset following the Covid-19 pandemic and lockdown. Dr. Nneka Ikeogu is one of my closest friends from University, and the best Child Psychologist that I know. She’s also the co-founder of Mellownest, a fantastic company which helps parents to take a more mindful approach to parenthood. You might already know Dr. Emma Svanberg – she’s joined us on the podcast before and is known as ‘The Mumologist’. Emma is a Clinical Psychologist, supporting mums through every stage of their parenting journey. We’re teaming up in this episode to talk about why exactly this time has been so challenging for parents, what support your children might need and how to give that to them – and, how you and your family can ‘reset’ after this experience. AND – I’m really excited to share that today is the launch day for my brand new online workshop called The Family Reset Plan, which the three of us also teach together! I’m really proud of what the three of us have created and I can’t wait to share it with you. You’ll learn a bit more about the plan in the episode - and you can also find all the details over at www.familyresetplan.co.uk. I hope you enjoy this week’s episode - and I hope you enjoy The Family Reset Plan! I’d love to hear what you think - please do get in touch and let me know. I hope you enjoy the episode and I hope you enjoy The Family Reset Plan too! For the full show notes, please head over to www.motherkind.co. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, I’m speaking with Dr. Sarah Vohra, aka The Mind Medic. Dr. Sarah is a Consultant Psychiatrist with over 10 years of experience working within the NHS. She’s really passionate about mental health and collaborates with leading companies on mental health initiatives across the globe. You might have heard of Dr. Sarah from her fantastic column in Women’s Health Magazine or through her work with The Telegraph’s weekly Stella Magazine. Her brand-new book ‘The Mind Medic: Your 5 Senses Guide to Leading a Calmer, Happier Life’ was released last week - it’s a great guide, packed full of useful tools, some of which she shares with us here in the episode. We had a fantastic conversation around ways to let go of anxiety, worry and comparison. I think you’ll find some really practical tips to help you navigate through what I’m calling the ‘perfect storm for parents’. For the full show notes, please head over to www.motherkind.co. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week’s episode, I’m super excited to be speaking with Tara Stiles. Tara is the founder of Strala Yoga, a revolutionary approach to moving, being and healing. Strala is practiced in more than 100 countries, with 1000’s of guides leading classes across the world. Tara is also the author of a number of bestselling books through Hay House, including Strala Yoga and Make Your Own Rules Diet. Tara became a mum a few years ago so I really wanted to talk about how she’s transitioned from running a hugely successful, international business into life as a mother to three-year-old, Daisy. We talk about how Tara has managed to slow down and how she now manages life and business as it continues to grow and expand. We also speak a bit about her experiences of lockdown – Tara is full of energy and so I was curious to hear how the last few months had been for her. And of course, we talk about how to practice yoga with your children. Tara shares some great tips around how to keep it fun and let them be in the practice. I think you’re going to love hearing from Tara in this episode. For the full show notes, head over to www.motherkind.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, I’m speaking with the wonderful Amy Taylor-Kabbaz about her work around matrescence. Amy is an author, journalist and a matrescence activist. Her latest book, ‘Mama Rising: Discovering the New You Through Motherhood’ , is brilliant and was released last year. For the last 10 years, Amy’s work has revolved around her search for an answer to the question of what happens to a woman when she becomes a mother. Amy’s search began after not being able to find anything that described the experience she had been through in her own journey to motherhood, until she came across the word ‘matrescence’. Matrescence means the experience of becoming a mother and the radical identify shift that goes along with it. Amy describes this in such a beautiful way – she says that when we become a mother, ‘we split in two’ – the person we used to be and the mother we are becoming. And, unless we honour that shift, we can get lost in the process of trying to figure out exactly who we are now. I know I really relate to this, and that many of you do, too. I really enjoyed my conversation with Amy and I think you’re going to get a lot out of this episode. For the full show notes, please head over to motherkind.co. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week’s episode, I’m speaking with the incredible Chloe Brotheridge. I’m delighted to welcome Chloe back to the podcast – after appearing in one of our very early episodes right at the very start! Chloe is a hypnotherapist, a coach and the author of two bestselling books, ‘The Anxiety Solution’ and ‘Brave New Girl’. We sat down to talk just as we were going into lockdown and we had such a great conversation that really re-affirmed for me the power of working on ourselves. Chloe talks about how she went from feeling highly anxious to feeling calm a lot of time. She shares her insights about reframing our mindset and having better relationships with others, ourselves and our emotions. Chloe also shares about imposter syndrome and confidence, and how we can totally change our experience of ourselves and our lives through some relatively simple tools. One of the things I love about Chloe is her calming energy which I think just exudes through the whole episode. I hope you enjoy the episode. For the full show notes, please head over to www.motherkind.co. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, I’m delighted to welcome my friend Anna Mathur back onto the podcast. Many of you will already be familiar with Anna and her incredible work. Anna is a psychotherapist and a mum of three, and she has a fantastic new book out called ‘Mind Over Mother: Every Mum’s Guide to Worry and Anxiety in the First Year’. It’s a brilliant book for mums, no matter how old your children are. Anna and I are so aligned in terms of our passions and our beliefs, and we have many shared experiences from our childhoods growing up. In this week’s episode, we talk about where the idea of ‘not being enough’ comes from and how to reach the core truth, which is that we are all enough, no matter what we do or don’t achieve as mothers and in life. Anna has a real way with words around these deep psychological concepts, which help to make them really accessible and interesting. I hope you enjoy this week’s episode. For the full show notes, please head over to www.motherkind.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, I’m excited to introduce you to Brooke Lightstone, whose work I’ve loved for a while. Brooke is a family energy healer, a women’s spiritual guide and meditation teacher and author. Brooke speaks beautifully about working to heal women and mothers. For me, she is the absolute epitome of grace, calm and wisdom and I really enjoyed our conversation. In this episode, Brooke shares about how she healed her relationship with her own mother. It’s a powerful topic as the ‘mother-daughter’ relationship can be one of the trickiest there is. The term ‘mother wound’ refers to where we feel that our mother wasn’t able to show up for us or didn’t show up in the way we wanted them to. We have a really touching conversation around this. Brooke shares her journey and how she’s now on a path of healing to release expectations around that relationship so that she can meet her mother ‘human to human’. I hope you enjoy the episode. For the full show notes, please head over to motherkind.co. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Candice is an activist, influencer and the founder of Make Motherhood Diverse, an initiative aiming to encourage a more representative and diverse depiction of motherhood in the media. Her first book, ‘I’m Not Your Baby Mother’ has just been released and I was lucky enough to speak with her on the publication date. And it’s an incredible book - part memoir, part manifesto about black motherhood. We speak about Candice’s childhood, her trauma and how she found herself in this activist role. We had such a great conversation and I think you’re going to love hearing from Candice. I hope you enjoy the episode. For the full show notes, please head over to motherkind.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I can’t tell you how excited I was to have this conversation. When I first started Motherkind, I wrote out a list of dream guests and today’s guest was right at the very top of that list. This week, we welcome the incredible Glennon Doyle to the podcast. If you don’t already know Glennon, she is the author of two New York Times bestsellers, her latest book, ‘Untamed’, which this conversation focuses on and ‘Love Warrior’, which was also named as an Oprah’s Book Club choice. If you haven’t read them, I highly recommend getting yourself a copy. Glennon is also the founder of a charity called ‘Together Rising’, an all-woman led non-profit organisation that has revolutionised grassroots philanthropy. Glennon has raised over $25 million for women, families and children in crisis. She's also doing some amazing work to support families who find themselves in difficulty through this period of coronavirus. We had a really honest conversation – I definitely shared some things with Glennon which I haven’t shared with anyone else before, apart from perhaps my therapist! What I took away from this conversation is that your mission as a parent is to live a life true to yourself. When we can break free from the training and conditioning that so many of us have had and then model that to our children, we can show them what a life well-lived really looks like. I hope you enjoy the episode. As always, the conversation continues over on Instagram, so do come and share with us there. For the full show notes, please head over to www.motherkind.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m so excited for you to hear this week’s episode. We have a returning guest, Eve Rodsky, whose last interview is one of the top three most listened to Motherkind episodes! Eve is working to change society ‘one marriage at a time’, and is the author of the incredible book ‘Fair Play: Share the mental load, rebalance your relationship and transform your life’. If you haven’t listened to her previous episode (Episode 75), I highly recommend you give it a listen. Our current situation has really highlighted exactly what us mothers have to do – the mental load and all the invisible labour to take care of our children and keep our households running. Eve invites us to treat this moment – this ‘pause’ of real life – as an opportunity to model fairness and equality for our children and our communities. In this episode, we talk about communication - and Eve shares some fantastic ideas for how to communicate with our partners about managing the household fairly. We also explore the ‘dirty dozen’ – the twelve tasks that are causing the most stress at home right now. Eve also talks a bit about home-schooling, which I know is a real pinch point for many of you right now. I really loved our conversation and I hope you enjoy listening to the episode. For the full show notes, please head over to motherkind.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Well, here we are at Motherkind's 100th episode, I can't quite believe it! I asked you all a while ago what you thought we should do in honour of our 100th episode and very flatteringly, you suggested I do a solo episode. So, here it is. In this week's episode, I share a bit about me, the podcast and what I've learned over the course of 100 episodes and many, many incredible guests. Hope you enjoy the episode. For the full episode notes, please see motherkind.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’ve been hearing from a lot of you over the last few weeks specifically around your concerns about home-schooling. You might be feeling worried that your children will fall behind or that they’re watching too much TV and not doing enough schoolwork. So in this week’s episode, I’m bringing on an expert to help you with some of these challenges. I’m really excited to be speaking with Natalie Costa, who runs a business called Power Thoughts, helping children with negativity and anxiety. Natalie is an ex-teacher – she supports children in everything from academics through to making friends and their body confidence. Natalie shares with us some easy, effective tools to help our children manage their emotions and feelings right now. Natalie also has some amazing ideas if you are feeling the pressure around home-schooling and getting it right. In fact, she says we shouldn’t even call it home-schooling and tells us exactly why in the podcast, so do listen in. I hope you find this week’s episode really helpful – and as always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram so do hop over and let us know what you thought. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Are you still a working parent through this time of a pandemic? Whether you're working from home or out there as a frontline worker, I’m sure your work has changed along with the childcare landscape. This week's episode is with Anita Cleare, a parenting expert who has been supporting working parents for seventeen years. She talks about what children need right now (hint: it isn’t more time) and what we need to do as parents. Anita also shares valuable tips on how to transition from being at work to then coming into parenting. I'm really excited to bring this conversation to you. I hope it's going to be really supportive. For the full show notes, please head over to www.motherkind.co. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What a time we are in right now. I hope this finds you, and your loved ones, safe and well. This week, I’m speaking with Sandy Newbigging. Sandy is a modern day monk - he teaches meditation and helps people to find calm in amongst their daily life. He’s the author of 12 books and has a number of incredible offerings online via his website. As mums, it is even more challenging for us right now. I’ve been calling it the perfect storm for parents. Life doesn’t stop just because of a global crisis. We may be feeling overwhelmed with fear ourselves and the burden of deciding how to handle matters with our kids, especially with their education. How can we transform that fear and stress into freedom and peace? In this week’s episode, Sandy shares that the only thing we can control right now is our mindset. The place to find peace is the present, and when we leave the present, this is when we tend to fall into stress and fearful thinking. Sandy shares lots of tips to help you do that including his ‘quick reality check’ technique, which can help you be present and stay present in the now instead of worrying about the regrets of the past and unknowns of the future. This episode is for all mums and parents who want to make every moment with their children count. I hope you find it helpful. Please know that I’m here for you so do reach out via email at [email protected] or over on Instagram to continue the conversation. For this week's full show notes, please head over to motherkind.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, I’m sharing a special episode of the Motherkind podcast. We are living in totally unprecedented times of change and unknown. My commitment is to use this podcast to help in any way that I can, so I’m bringing together some incredible guests to support you through this difficult time. I’m welcoming back Julia Samuel MBE, who appeared on the podcast recently. Julia has a Sunday Times bestselling book out right now, ‘This Too Shall Pass’, which is all about change and I felt that Julia would be perfect to start off this series of experts speaking about the coronavirus. In this episode, Julia shares some brilliant tips and ideas around how to talk to our children about what’s going on right now. She also shares some insight around how to stick together when you’re forced together and becoming aware of each other’s fault lines. We also talk about what you can do to look after your own wellbeing and how to find some positives, and even opportunities, in this situation. I found our conversation really reassuring and calming – and I hope you do too. I am incredibly grateful to have you in my community – please know that I’m here for you so do reach out via email at [email protected] or over on Instagram. Now is the time for us to come together more than ever and lead the way in helping others through this challenge. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

TRIGGER WARNING This week I’m speaking with Hannah Barrett, who you might know better as Yoga Girl London. Hannah is a yoga teacher and has a real passion for helping people transform their lives through yoga. Hannah particularly loves supporting mothers, and she specialises in pre and post-natal yoga. This episode comes with a trigger warning: Hannah shares in detail about the trauma she experienced during her daughter’s early days. It left Hannah with PTSD and a huge part of our conversation is how yoga helped her to save her sanity when she felt totally lost and in a very dark place. Even if you’re not into yoga, I think you’ll get a lot from this episode. We talk about self-care, Hannah’s ‘happy habits’ and how she learned how to ask for help, having found that really challenging to start with. I hope you enjoy the episode. For the full episode show notes, please head over to motherkind.co. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I sat down for a lovely conversation with Nehanda Truscott-Reid. Nehanda is a holistic wellness coach for women and she has an incredibly inspiring story. Raised by a single mother on an estate in Brixton, everywhere she looked, she was surrounded by stories of motherhood linked to pain, sacrifice and struggle. Through some inspiring inner work, Nehanda reprogrammed her views around motherhood and her life’s work is to help others do the same. We had a really inspiring, wide-ranging conversation. Here’s some of what we talk about: - Nehanda’s struggles to conceive and how she reframed that - How she was able to conceive naturally - The importance of values in parenting - and how they can change as we become parents - Conscious parenting - The parent we thought we’d be vs the parents we actually are – and how to navigate that gap - How to handle the lack of control we have as parents, specifically around who our children are One of the biggest things I took from our conversation is that how we are is how we will parent – so the biggest gift we can give our children is to work on our own stuff - our triggers, our pain and our anxieties. I hope you enjoy this week’s episode – and if you did, please do share it with a friend or loved one who would find it helpful too. For the full show notes from this week's episode, head over to motherkind.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I’m speaking to the wonderful Rebecca Campbell, who is a writer and teacher. Rebecca leads workshops internationally and helps to give people an experience of their soul. She is the bestselling author of the two books, ‘Light is the New Black’ and ‘Rise Sister Rise’. If you haven’t read them yet, I highly recommend them both and particularly ‘Rise Sister Rise’ which really spoke to me about our time to rise as women. Rebecca is a brand-new mum to Sonny, who is five months old. In our conversation, we talk about becoming a mum and the experience of her home birth. We also talk about how to find your purpose and how to connect with that small whisper inside, which Rebecca calls ‘your soul’. We speak about anxiety versus trust, connecting with our intuition and how to really feel our feelings. I really enjoyed speaking with Rebecca and I hope you enjoy the episode. For this episode's full show notes, please head over to motherkind.co. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I’m joined by Julia Samuel MBE, who is one of the UK’s leading psychotherapists, specialising in grief and loss. You may already know Julia from her brilliant book ‘Grief Works’ and through her work as Founder Patron of Child Bereavement UK, which teaches authorities how to support families to rebuild their lives after loss. We had a beautiful conversation about transition and change. We talk about the change of becoming a mother, which is far more complex and challenging than ever before. We also talk about the constant change of family dynamics and how we can use these moments of transition to help us grow. Julia’s new book ‘This Too Shall Pass - Stories of Change, Crisis and Hopeful Beginnings’ is released in March and is all about the challenge and power of dealing with change. I really enjoyed our conversation - it’s such a privilege to sit with people like Julia who are doing such profound work in the world. My focus right now is trying to reach more mums and parents with the podcast – if this episode resonates with you, I’d love it if you could share it with a friend or loved one. For the full episode show notes, please head over to motherkind.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I’m speaking with Dr. Alexandra Kasozi, a chartered counselling psychologist with a special interest in working with mothers. We had initially intended to frame our conversation around the inner critic and how we speak to ourselves. Whilst we do cover that, as you’ll hear it actually became a far broader, powerful conversation about one of my real passions; working on the relationship we have with ourselves. I really believe that this is one of the most important things we can do as mothers and it was so helpful to have Alexandra’s insight from her years of experience working in this area. We talk about how the way we speak to ourselves becomes internalised and affects how our own children speak to themselves. I share some personal insights from my own journey and Alexandra shares some practical tips and simple things you can do at home to start working on your relationship with yourself. I hope you find it useful. Read the full show notes over at www.motherkind.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

TRIGGER WARNING. This week I’m talking about intrusive, unwanted harm thoughts with Dr. Caroline Boyd. I didn’t realise this before I recorded the episode, but this is a really common issue – as you’ll learn, most parents will at some point experience intrusive, scary, harm thoughts about their children. However, it’s something that just isn’t spoken about, so I’m really glad we’re having this conversation. Caroline is a clinical psychologist, a writer and a mother. We speak about: • Where intrusive thoughts come from and why they happen • How to manage them • I share my own experience with intrusive thoughts • Caroline shares her experience and those of some of the people who took part in her study Our intention is that in listening to this you feel comforted and come to realise how normal this is. If you’d like more information, you can head over to Caroline’s website. If you are concerned by anything this episode raises please go to your GP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week’s episode is a re-release with Dr. Rebecca Moore. Becca is a consultant perinatal psychiatrist with over 20 years experience in treating the psychological aspects of pregnancy, birth and early motherhood. Her clinical expertise covers PTSD, birth trauma, anxiety, depression, and the mum-baby bond. She is also training to be an Integrative Practioner - which is a healing-oriented medicine that takes account of the whole person, including all aspects of lifestyle. It was great to chat with Becca and learn more about this vitally important area and the work she does. What we cover in this episode: - What birth trauma is and how we know if we need help- What we can do to prepare for birth- The importance of normalising psychologically challenging births- The power of journaling and other ways we can start to process our birth experiences I hope you enjoy the episode. As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so once you’ve listened to the episode, come and join me there. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode is with Katharine Graves - founder of KG Hypnobirthing and one of the first to bring hypnobirthing to the UK. She has personally taught over 3,000 couples and trained 2,000 practitioners in her method. We discuss - can birth really be empowering? Where does the fear of birth come from? How can our mindset help or hinder with birth? For full show notes, please head over to motherkind.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Giving birth is an incredible event yet the recovery from childbirth can take weeks or even months. Many changes occur along the way and one of these could be the relationship between you and your partner, especially in the bedroom. Unfortunately, postnatal sex is very rarely discussed and can be a real source of anxiety for couples. In this week’s episode, &Breathe founder Clio Wood shares her personal experience and insights on how to cope and get back to pleasurable, pain-free sex postpartum. She discusses how to deal with potential resentment between yourself and your partner after childbirth and how to ease your way back in to having sex. She also shares her thoughts on women putting too much pressure on themselves and what mindset to adopt to be more positive about this change in your life. For full show notes, head over to https://www.motherkind.co/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, we welcome Carolyn Cowan back to the podcast. If you’ve been listening for a while, you might remember the last conversation we had together. We had such an incredible response to that episode so I’m excited to welcome her back. Carolyn is a psychosexual and relationship therapist and in this week’s episode, we have a really wide-ranging conversation about relationships, shame and the difference between guilt and shame. As ever, we go quite deep and sometimes into some uncomfortable spaces. One of the things I most love about Carolyn are her practical concepts and ideas – she shares some really helpful advice around how to heal from some of the topics we discuss. I hope you enjoy the episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Rangan Chatterjee joins us to talk about making behaviour changes in our lifestyle and how all it takes is five minutes every day to create these changes. We talked about his new book, Feel Better In 5, which is about doing three things a day for five minutes each to help change your health, well-being, and mindset. Sit back and join us in this episode that will hopefully inspire you to not only achieve your New Year's resolutions but to make long-term changes to make your life better. For full show notes, please visit www.motherkind.co. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, in partnership with Sainsbury's and the mum-founded brand Bloom and Blossom, I'm joined by the founders Christina Moss and Julia Yule. We chat about the pressures of having five children and being entrepreneurs at the same time, how they handle the good and the bad days, and their journey from kitchen table to becoming the incredible businesswomen that they are today. Episode kindly supported by Sainsbury’s. To claim your FREE Bloom and Blossom gift go to https://www.motherkind.co/podcast-1 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It’s the Christmas season! We are always on the move, preparing for the next shopping trip or hopping from one gathering to another. More often than not, it is others who make us participate in these activities, and we feel compelled to say ‘yes’ all the time. And then, when things go awry, we blame ourselves in the end. We ask ourselves, ‘Is there a way to say “no” to all of these things?’ In this episode, we learn the answer to that question with the help of the international best-selling author of The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck, Sarah Knight. We are going to talk about how to be more forgiving of yourself and how to take back control of your own life. So, come and join us in today’s episode as we make you realise why saying ‘no’ and being a little selfish is a form of self-care. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

People need boundaries to stay grounded and maintain their reserves of energy. Without limits, life can be messy and tricky. Boundaries also teach people to prioritise their feelings over the emotions of other people. In this week’s episode, Courtney Burg talks about boundaries, their importance, and the challenges associated with setting limits. Courtney also shares essential guides on how a person can set boundaries for self-improvement and healing. Tune in to this episode and read some of the key takeaways from our conversation below. Key Takeaways From this Episode: The Healing Process: Courtney recovered from addiction through the 12-step programme. Her sponsor is a close friend. She also resorted to journaling and exercising. (08:13) It is advisable to try new things. Trying new things is essential for self-rebuilding and renewing. (09:13) Technological advancements have allowed the accessibility of different methods of healing. Now, people can talk about their issues with other people who can relate to them and who can help them. (10:00) Understanding Boundaries: Often, people think limitations or ultimatums set out of anger or vindictiveness qualify as boundaries. However, they don’t. (10:33) There is a long list of boundaries that we utilise that, without our knowledge, give power to other people instead. But we realise it once we start feeling anxious, stressed and depressed. (11:25) These feelings are brought by a lack of boundaries or inability to implement limitations in our lives. This inability stems from our inner child, the people-pleasers. (11:41) Having Boundaries: It takes practice to have boundaries. It is normal to feel guilty when setting limits for the first time. (12:21) Part of not having boundaries is the constant need for other’s approval. Courtney felt that if she had limitations, the significant people in her life would leave. (13:11) Letting go of those wrongful beliefs allowed her to engage in deep and authentic relationships with people who matter. (13:27) Dealing with Pushback: You cannot always make everybody happy or proud of you. Be comfortable with being uncomfortable. You will then be comfortable in setting boundaries. (20:31) You can recognise other people’s happiness without sacrificing your own. You are not responsible for other people’s needs and issues. (22:02) Setting boundaries is challenging, but it does not mean it is wrong. (23:41) When dealing with pushback, try writing a journal to sort out your feelings. (24:09) Raising Children with Boundaries: Parents must teach their children to have boundaries, especially at an early age. (24:39) Children do not need approval or adoration all the time. Parents can teach the act of sharing without forcing the children to share. (26:03) Parents must evaluate the way they are raised to correct unwanted behaviours. In this way, they will not enforce to their children the same practice enforced to them. (28:13) Dealing with Resentment: When you do not have boundaries, you will be resentful because you are not honest with your feelings. (35:14) Having boundaries makes you more connected to people because honesty becomes the foundation of the relationship. (36:11) Setting Boundaries: Spend at least five minutes each day to reflect on your life and ask yourself, ‘What is it that I need?’ Spending alone time is crucial to remain grounded. (38:26) Boundaries are like love letters because it lets you be vulnerable and honest with the people in your life. (46:33) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m bursting with excitement for you to hear this week’s episode of the podcast, because it’s my first ever totally solo episode. It also coincides with the launch of my first ever online course, ‘Freedom from Perfectionism’. You might remember a few months ago I asked what you would most like a self-study course on. The overwhelming response from you all was on freedom from perfectionism. This week’s podcast is all about my recovery from perfectionism - which I’m feeling nervous to share as it’s the most personal and vulnerable I’ve ever been, but I trust that by sharing my truth with you it might help you connect to yours. Modern motherhood is unbelievably hard. We have this perfect storm of technology and social media and the rise in parental standards matched with a decline in parental support. I believe if we have any perfectionist tendencies, it can be one of the things that push us over the edge. Perfectionism is the red thread that runs through my own journey of healing – so in this week’s episode, I share how I recovered from it – and am still recovering, daily. I hope you enjoy it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Traumatic experiences can have long-lasting effects. They can even transcend generations. Inherited generational trauma may be the reason why you experience negative emotions and behaviours you cannot explain. However, understanding the nature of family trauma can empower you to start your path towards healing. In this week's episode, Mark Wolynn shares his insights on how the effects of painful experiences can be passed down to children. He teaches ways to recognise the signs of inherited family trauma, as well as how to counteract its effects. By having a deeper understanding of ourselves and our families, people can achieve peace and prevent their children from inheriting the trauma. Generational Trauma: ● Traumatic events follow a cycle where younger generations experience similar traumatic experiences with their parents or grandparents. (10:17) ● Particular milestones, such as marriage or the birth of your first child, can act as triggers. (11:14) ● Traumatic events can leave lasting impressions, such as fear of harming your child, that gets passed down generations. (13:22) ● Like a computer, we already have an integrated operating system that contains the fallout from past family trauma. (16:28) Connecting Your Experiences to Past Trauma ● Recognising generational trauma is difficult since families tend to keep secrets. (15:17) ● However, red flags include unusual emotions and behaviours inconsistent with your personal history. (16:46) ● Struggles in dealing with money, success, or relationships can come from family histories. (15:29) Trauma Language: ● Trauma leaves crumbs that can help people trace the origin of their current mental state. (17:25) ● The brain stores traumatic experiences as fragments of information, many of which are hard to detect consciously. (18:13) ● The exact details of these experiences are challenging to put into words, so they manifest mostly through nonverbal behaviour. (18:38) Reversing Trauma Symptoms: ● Painful experiences alter gene expression, allowing traumatic fallout to affect many generations. (21:06) ● However, research shows that mice who live in positive, low-stress environments show fewer changes in gene expression related to stress. (21:10) ● Humans also benefit from exposure to positive experiences, which can reverse the effects of inherited trauma and prevent further transmission. (22:10) ● People need to regularly practise de-stressing techniques since trauma reversal needs sustained action to be effective. (22:42) On Healing Family Relationships ● Healing is an inner movement, and recovery is a continuous process. (24:47) ● You can start healing even if you still don’t have a good relationship with your family. (25:00) ● A proper technique is to take a photograph of the person, imagine an ideal version of the person, and communicate with it, allowing you to express your thoughts. (25:31) ● Another method is to practise gratitude, which permits you to let go of your pent-up anger and resentment. (29:49) Concrete Steps for Healing Family Trauma: ● Become a trauma detective; reflect and be on the lookout for the verbal and nonverbal cues of trauma. (33:22) ● Trace the trauma back into your family and find where things went south. (33:28) ● Finally, develop a healing mindset to allow you to decouple from inherited trauma. (33:36) ● It's beneficial to have someone who can help double-check ourselves, witness our work, and give feedback. (34:58) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I’m really excited to share this week’s episode with you – I speak with Maisie Hill, author of the fantastic book, Period Power. Maisie is a sought-out after women’s health expert, with decades of experience. Maisie’s book made such a difference to my life – it really helped me to get to grips with my cycle, to understand what my hormones were doing at the different stages and learn how exactly it would impact my mood. I think you’ll find this one a real game-changer – please help to spread the word and share this with at least a couple of friends. All women need to know this! - Maisie’s interest in women’s health and cycles - Why she wrote her book, Period Power - Understanding your hormones, mood and emotions during the various parts of your cycle - How to use this knowledge for an easier experience - Parenting through the different stages of your cycle - The one gift that Maisie would give to all women As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join me there. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's episode is brought to you in paid partnership with PR agency, Diffusion Together, we commissioned a research study of 1000 mums up and down the country to answer two questions - what are the pressures facing modern mums and does social media help or hinder? In this episode, with Zoe and Natasha Cobain, Director at Diffusion PR and mum of 2, we explore the fascinating results of the survey - and what we can all be doing to shed the pressure of modern motherhood. https://www.diffusionpr.com/home Episode kindly supported by Family Album https://family-album.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, I’m talking to Jennifer Petriglieri, a Professor of Organizational Behaviour at INSEAD. Jennifer studied the successful relationships of people who both had successful careers and what she found was absolutely fascinating. Jennifer is also the author of a new book called Couples that work - How dual career couple can thrive in love and work. I’ve been doing some research and two-thirds of all couples in the UK define themselves as having dual careers - this is where both partners feel like they have a career path they are both really invested in their work. So is it possible to have two people highly ambitious on a strong career path and stay happy? Jennifer and I discuss this and more during the episode. I cannot wait for you to listen to this episode I think it's going to be a game-changer, please share your thoughts as always. Episode kindly sponsored by Family Album https://family-album.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, I’m talking to Rachel Brathen, who you will probably know better as Yoga Girl! Rachel is an incredible yoga teacher, entrepreneur and New York Times bestselling author. Rachel has just written a new book, called ‘To Love and Let go: A Memoir of Love, Loss and Gratitude, which comes out in the UK on the 31st October. We talk about the new book quite a bit, as well as two of my very favourite topics: healing and motherhood. Rachel has so much wisdom, humility and humour, I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Here’s what we talk about: - Rachel’s new book, ‘To Love and Let Go’ - Rachel’s reflections on healing from her own journey - Rachel’s experiences of motherhood - How Rachel uses yoga and meditation to show up in the best way for her daughter - The one gift she would give all mothers Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Oprah loves her and so do I….it’s a big episode for me this week :-) I had the privilege and honour of interviewing Oprah’s favourite parenting teacher who she called ‘so profound her ideas might just change the world’. I have loved Dr Shefali Tsabary for years - in fact her book The Conscious Parent was the first I read when I found out I was pregnant with Jessie and I’ve read it many times since. Dr. Shefali Tsabary is the author of three best-selling parenting books, an international speaker and a clinical psychologist specialising in the integration of eastern philosophy and western psychology. What we cover in this episode: - What conscious parenting is(and isn’t) - How to move from control to connection - The difference between control and care - What it means to ‘awaken’ - The pressure we put on ourselves and what to do about it - How Dr Shefali came to this work - What to do if you find yourself worrying about your children - The one gift she would give all mothers Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This one’s a bit of a game-changer…in this week’s episode, I’m talking to Eve Rodsky about mental load and invisible labour – a really important topic which we’re hearing a lot about right now. Eve has just written an incredible book, called Fair Play: Share the Mental Load, Re-balance your Relationship and Transform your Life, which walks us through not just the problem but how to actually solve it. Eve spent seven years studying and understanding this topic and her message is that if we really want equality, we have to change how much mental load we are taking on. Reese Witherspoon describes Eve as ‘the Marie Kondo for sorting out your life, not your drawers’…listen in as we speak about: - Why the game is so rigged against us - Eve’s moment of realising that something had to change - Some of the shocking statistics around mental load, invisible labour and inequality - Why the ‘I’m the only one who can do it right’ mentality isn’t helping - The solution – how we can make a change I’ve also got five copies of Eve’s book, ‘Fair Play’ up for grabs – it’s a guide to dividing the mental load and invisible work more fairly in our families. For your chance to win a copy, head over to my Instagram to enter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you feel the pressure of modern parenthood? You’re not alone. I always say, if you are finding it hard, it’s because it IS hard. In this week’s episode I chat to Dr Emma Svanberg (known as The Mumologist), who is a clinical psychologist specialising in pregnancy, birth and parenting, about some of those pressures and what we can do to ease them. Listen to this episode if you want to hear…. - Why we’re parenting in unprecedented times - How to be a ‘good enough’ mother - Attachment theory and modern parenting - How to choose external childcare - Feminism, parenting and choice - How to handle relationship challenges - The importance of community and vulnerability I’ve bagged 5 copies of Emma’s new book ‘Why birth trauma matters’ - which is a guide to birth and birth related trauma, what causes it and how you can begin to recover. If you want a chance to win a copy - pop onto my Instagram(@motherkind_zoe) to enter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you want to find more ease, grace and space in motherhood? Who wouldn’t?! This week’s episode is with mum of 5, meditation teacher, doula and yoga guide Rebekah “Bex” Borucki. She is author of You Have 4 Minutes to Change Your Life: Simple 4-Minute Meditations for Inspiration, Transformation, and True Bliss and her new book - Managing the Motherload: A Guide to Creating More Ease, Space, and Grace in Motherhood. Listen to this episode if you want to hear…. - Why being vulnerable is the fastest way to find healing - How to surrender when our children make decisions we don’t agree with - The power of community - Listening to gut feelings and how to build up our intuition - How to combine self-care and taking care of children - How to recover from people-pleasing - How to let go of the opinions of others - Letting go of should’s and supposed to’s Head over to the motherkind instagram (@motherkind_zoe) to win one of 5 copies of Bex’s new book Managing the Motherload: A Guide to Creating More Ease, Space, and Grace in Motherhood. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this week’s episode I’m talking with Tamu Thomas, founder of Three Sixty, a wellness brand aimed at women in their late thirties and forties. Tamu delivers her work through holistic life coaching, group work, public speaking, podcasting and writing. Her passion is helping women find their joy. What does joy mean to you? In her late 30s, Tamu’s life was turned upside down by an existential crisis. After years of confusing achievement with fulfilment, she began to think about life differently and journeyed back towards joy. Today, Tamu describes joy as a calm, peaceful, contented space where we notice small beautiful things that are so often hidden in plain sight when we’re too busy running around. We discuss: - What joy is to her - Her experience of anxiety and depression - Productivity addiction - Self-kindness and compassion - What she’s teaching her daughter - The one gift she’d give all mums Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sarah Wilson is a multi-New York Times bestselling and #1 Amazon bestselling author, a philanthropist and founder of IQuitSugar.com, Australia’s largest digital wellness site. Ever experienced anxiety? Or love someone that does? Sarah Wilson has lived through high anxiety – including bipolar, OCD and several suicide attempts – her whole life. Perhaps like you, she grew tired of seeing anxiety as a disease that must be medicated into submission. So began a seven-year journey to find a more meaningful and helpful take on anxiety. Sarah travelled the world, meeting with The Dalai Lama, Oprah’s life coach, major mental health organizations and hundreds of others in a quest to unravel the knotted ball of wool that is the anxious condition. She emerged with the very best philosophy, science and hacks for thriving with the beast, which she shares in this episode. We chat about: - Why anxiety can be a superpower and serves an evolutionary purpose - Her tools for coping with anxiety day to day a - What she does in a full-blown attack - Anxiety and gut health - The gift she’d give all mothers Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Mastin is a number one best-selling author, speaker and Creator of Functional Life Coaching™ for people who are seeking rapid transformation in their lives. He has been recognised as a “thought leader for the next generation” by Oprah Winfrey. I've followed Mastin for years, and seen him talk a number of times, so it was a real honour to chat with him. Mastin and I chat about: - What trauma is and how you know if you have it - Mastin's own trauma - How you can heal from trauma - Emotional trauma and parenting - The one gift he'd give to all mothers mastinkipp.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What is burnout? How do you know if you are burnt out? And how you recover from it? Emily and Amelia Nagoski are highly accomplished in their fields as individuals, with Emily working as a well-known sex educator and Amelia working as a conductor in the competitive world of classical music. Despite these accomplishments, the two struggled with stress, feelings of inadequacy, and veering towards burnout in their careers, and have since dedicated themselves to educating women across all careers on the factors that lead to burnout and the best way to avoid it. For full show notes go to www.motherkind.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's episode is with the lovely Nicola Moore who is a nutritionist and well-being expert she's also been a part of the senior academic team at the Institute of Optimum Nutrition which is probably one of the best schools of its kind in the UK if not in Europe. As you know if you've listened to the podcast, I am fascinated by how what we eat makes us feel. In this episode Nicola and I chat about: What we as busy, tired, often overwhelmed mum's can do to help ourselves in terms of what we’re putting into our bodies. We discuss tips and tools to make it really practical and really easy to take care of ourselves, Nichola also debunks for us many of the diet myths and trends at the moment. This episode is kindly supported by Peppy - www.peppy.health/ Use code Peppy20 for 20% off your first service. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Shahroo Izadi is a behavioural change specialist and the author of the book The Kindness Method in this episode we talk all about changing our habits and behaviour. It's often said in self development our habits underpin our whole lives and if we can change our habits we can change our lives. Shahroo says that the way to change these habits Shahroo is to be kinder to ourselves which for some of us is quite radical. I’m a huge fan of self-compassion and self kindness so I loved this conversation with Shahroo and I hope you will too. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Carolyn is a psychosexual therapist and kundalini yoga teacher specialising in couples, prenatal and postnatal addiction, therapy and trauma. We discussed so much during this episode including: - Modern motherhood - The ideas of attachment and the theory behind this. - Relationships, this was a big one! We zoned in on how our relationships develop after having children - Contracting - What can come up during pregnancy for women. This episode is kindly sponsored by Peppy Health for 20% off enter PEPPY20 at checkout https://peppy.health/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices