The Jordan Harbinger Show

David Burkus (@davidburkus) is a sought after speaker, business school professor, regular contributor to Harvard Business Review, and author of Friend of a Friend...: Understanding the Hidden Networks That Can Transform Your Life and Your Career. What We Discuss with David Burkus: How we can grow our networks based on the science of human behavior, not rote networking advice. How to take advantage of our existing network's weak and dormant ties. What it means to be a structural hole-filling broker of ultimate value to our entire network. How to become a superconnector. Using the illusion of the majority to our advantage. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is there a way to encourage a significant other to work on him or herself without coming off as critical or patronizing? What if your friends are right and you really are an asshole? How should (and shouldn't) you open a cold conversation with a stranger on LinkedIn? How do you persistently remind a potential mentor you exist without being annoying? Why don't we have more women guests on the show? (Short answer: we'd like to! Please refer them our way!) Should being transgender change the way you network and develop social connections in the workplace? What's the best way to travel and explore the world as a social, immersed adventurer rather than a passive tourist? Recommendation of the Week: Trump: An American Dream Quick shoutouts to Don Hoekwater and Anthony Sandora! Swannies Giveaway winners: Christian and Kathleen! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. You can also find him on Instagram at JPD. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) rejoins us to deep dive into why the fresh eyes of an amateur often spot what the professionals miss, and how we can get some of that so-called beginner's luck to rub off on us no matter how experienced we happen to be. What We Discuss with Gabriel Mizrahi: The experience paradox: while experience helps us solve problems with precision and focus, it also blinds us to alternative -- sometimes better -- solutions. Experts rely on technique and convention; amateurs are guided by insight and intuition. What Einstein understood about the importance of maintaining an amateur's mindset when tackling problems no expert had yet solved. Why making it through the amateur stage is crucial for growth -- or even beginning -- any endeavor. (If you knew then what you know now, you might not have even gone through the trouble of starting!) How we can take advantage of our expertise without losing the beginner's amateur insight. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Will Storr (@wstorr) is an award-winning investigative journalist and author of Selfie: How We Became So Self-Obsessed and What It's Doing to Us. What We Discuss with Will Storr: What is the neoliberal self? Are we born with innate self-obsession, or is it picked up along the way? What happens when our fictionalized sense of self clashes with reality? Why do we overprivilege and credit select individuals for the accomplishments of many while blaming ourselves for not living up to their impossible examples? The dangers of perfectionistic thinking. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Our episode with Vanessa Van Edwards should have video by the time you hear this. Sorry for the delay! Andrew Warner is hiring a second in command to run Mixergy, his Silicon Valley-based podcast business. Are you someone who can't stop thinking of podcast marketing ideas? Think you'd be good at recruiting top guests? To apply, go to AndrewWarner.com/hiring The roommate switch? It can't be done. How might an obliger (Gretchen Rubin, episode 18) self-motivate to learn a new language? How do you take notes like a pro -- and put them to good use afterward? Remember: anything "free" comes with a price. What chakras are to blame for someone's lack of personal responsibility? What can you do to tactfully reintroduce yourself to the world when you've effectively been away due to health issues, personal misfortunes, and downright bad luck? How can a teacher really inspire an underprivileged 11 to 13-year-old to excel? Recommendation of the Week: Wild Wild Country Giveaway winners: Kelvin S. and Nikki F. Quick shoutouts to Andrew McDougal and James Jordan! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. You can also find him on Instagram at JPD. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Bob Burg (@BobBurg) is the co-author of The Go-Giver Influencer: A Little Story About a Most Persuasive Idea, a parable about the power of genuine influence in business and beyond. What We Discuss with Bob Burg: Disagreement -- especially online -- is more common than persuasion or advancing the conversation. What can we do to change this? How "listening with the back of the neck" helps us find common understanding with others. The seatbelt principle of emotions and how we can work on our ability to react in ways that result in more productive disagreements. Setting the right frames and responding to negative ones. How to say "no" in a way that doesn't end up getting us in trouble later down the line. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Vanessa Van Edwards (@vvanedwards) is the lead investigator at human behavior research lab Science of People and author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People. What We Discuss with Vanessa Van Edwards: How to make a graceful exit with social cues. How to nicely interrupt someone with social cues. How to introduce someone whose name you don't remember. How to show someone you are (or are not) attracted to them with social cues. How to show someone you don't believe them with social cues. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Fixated on the past? Not us. Like The Jeffersons, we're movin' on up! That being said, we appreciate you passing the memo along to people who don't yet know about the move. If a friend avoids you to get out of paying back a loan, should you just write it off as an investment in learning who isn't your friend? If you grew up in the US but had to leave because you didn't win the work visa lottery, how do you make do in a place you don't really want to be until you can make it back to the US? Are you Jordan's good friend? How do you go about rebuilding your social circles when your old friends stop calling you back? Is it worth the investment of time to learn additional languages, or is that time better spent leveling up other skills? How do you give up your high-paying but soul-crushing job to pursue dreams of traveling the world and working remotely? How do you start building wealth as opposed to constantly going into debt -- especially when you have a significant other who can't hold down a job? Recommendation of the Week: Take Your Pills Quick shoutouts to Andrei in Russia and Brandl Moniz! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. You can also find him on Instagram at JPD. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

James Fallon (@jameshfallon) is a professor of psychiatry and human behavior at the University of California, Irvine and author of The Psychopath Inside: A Neuroscientist's Personal Journey into the Dark Side of the Brain. What We Discuss with James Fallon: The ingredients that go into creating a psychopath. The differences between psychopaths and sociopaths. How we as a society can limit the expression of psychopathic and sociopathic traits -- and why evolution hasn't done the job already. How to spot a psychopath. Why psychopaths are so good at manipulating people -- and what we can do about it. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

David Eagleman (@davideagleman) is a neuroscientist at Stanford, host of Emmy-nominated PBS/BBC series The Brain, author and co-author of several books including The Runaway Species: How Human Creativity Remakes the World, and CSO of NeoSensory, a company that specializes in sensory substitution technology. What We Discuss with David Eagleman: The science that encourages lifelong learning as a way to fend off the effects of neurodegenerative diseases like Alzheimer's. How the human brain processes senses beyond sight, sound, taste, smell, and touch -- and how we might upgrade our senses in the not-too-distant future. What flipping a coin can tell us about the subconscious brain. How our memories and self-identities are built from the brain's interpretation of reality -- which is quite different from reality itself. Will we ever be able to download skills directly into our brains? And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How do you maintain the momentum of your self-improvement milestones in the wake of a difficult breakup? Do you need continuous novelty in your professional life? In any industry, it's better to spend eight hours to miss the chance to work for a narcissist than eight months -- or eight years. But sometimes it's hard to spot them when the industry is entertainment. How do you approach someone cold and build rapid trust with them when you're an INTJ who only knows how to flirt with disaster? Is getting your hopes up just a recipe for disappointment, or should you embrace the motivation of excitement when it strikes? How do you keep your feelings in check when you have an unrequited crush on a colleague who flirts with people who aren't you? What's the best (and worst) way of asking for advice from us? Recommendation of the Week: Scam City Quick shoutout (and happy birthday wishes) to The Gabe! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. You can also find him on Instagram at JPD. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Joshua Fruth is a military intelligence officer, police captain, financial crime expert, and Director of Anti-Money Laundering Advisory Services at Matrix-IFS who joins us to discuss the war on money laundering and why it matters. What We Discuss with Joshua Fruth: What money laundering is and how it works. Who benefits and who loses from money laundering. How an investigator learns to think like the people he or she is investigating. What needs to happen before intelligence gathering can even begin. Why tracking the money trail is so valuable in the fight against criminals and terrorists. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Melissa Dahl (@melissadahl) is a senior editor covering health and psychology for New York's The Cut. In 2014, she co-founded New York magazine's popular social science site Science of Us. Her first book, Cringeworthy: A Theory of Awkwardness, is out now. What We Discuss with Melissa Dahl: Awkwardness does not have to make us feel alone -- in fact, the things that make us cringe can serve to remind us of how connected we all truly are. Our concept of ourselves is often constructed externally -- by how we think other people view us. How awkwardness can help us have tough conversations about race, politics, and gender. How we can stop stop reliving embarrassing memories. How to remap and reframe feelings of awkwardness or embarrassment and use them to our advantage. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Having trouble listening to this podcast on Android or iOS? We recommend CastBox or PodcastOne. Tips for someone with little to no self-control who procrastinates and is easily distracted. Is it strange to take the last name of someone you're dating -- even if you're not in a hurry to get married? What's our secret to reading so many books over the course of a week -- and do we recommend it for most people? Tips for learning about a subject or topic in which you don't have a lot of experience. Mean Girls and Heathers exist in college, too. How should you deal with these bantamweight bullies? What's the best way to make plans with someone a few weeks after you've unintentionally blown them off? Is there a way to prevent stumbling over your own words during important meetings or being caught off guard by a hallway conversation when you're mentally exhausted? How can you add more self care to your self-imposed busy life? Recommendation of the Week: LA92 Shoutouts to Ethel in the Philippines and Premysl Ciompa! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. You can also find him on Instagram at JPD. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) joins us for this deep dive into why we all compare ourselves with other people, the pros and cons that arise from this, and what we can do to filter out the unhealthy comparisons we inevitably make. What We Discuss with Gabriel Mizrahi: Why we all compare ourselves to others and what purpose this comparison serves. Why we tend to compare ourselves to people who are similar to us (often to the detriment of our relationships). The two types of comparisons we make between ourselves and others. Strategies to stop the unhealthy types of comparisons we make and how we can make ourselves better in the process. Do we really need to compare ourselves to other people in order to be happy? And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Benjamin Hardy (@BenjaminPHardy) has been the number one writer on Medium since 2015, is nearing the completion of his PhD in organizational psychology, and is the author of Willpower Doesn't Work: Discover the Hidden Keys to Success. "If you have to use willpower, it's because you actually haven't made a choice yet." -Benjamin Hardy What We Discuss with Benjamin Hardy: Your personality doesn't shape your behavior; your behavior shapes your personality. If you can't create and control your environment, your environment creates and controls you. What automaticity is and how it frees you up to be mindful of what matters. The four sources of willpower and why willpower doesn't work. Your identity is not fixed: how changing your behavior changes how you evaluate yourself -- and who you are. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: When your best friend had a romantic interest in you, you needed time to work on yourself. Now that you have those feelings for her, she's interested in someone else. What to do? You keep dating people who tell you you're someone they would want to marry but not date. What is that supposed to mean? Due to one unfortunate decision, you're broke and your best friend is a millionaire. How do you stop yourself from poisoning a long-term friendship with toxic jealousy or reverse the depressive spiral it's slowly throwing you into? How can you focus on cultivating a more confident vocal tone when conversing in a language not your own? Is it possible to get people interested in something they don't prioritize? Is there room for a relationship with someone who's needy in the life of a true workaholic? What do you do when your new wife says she's not sure she's turned on by you anymore? Recommendation of the Week: Seeing Allred A quick shoutout to Jane Miller and her son Bryce! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. You can also find him on Instagram at JPD. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Denise Shull (@DeniseKShull) is a performance architect, ReThink Group founder, and author of Market Mind Games: A Radical Psychology of Investing, Trading and Risk, considered the Rosetta Stone of trading psychology. "The worst decision you make is always from acting out some feeling you usually don't know you have." -Denise Shull What We Discuss with Denise Shull: Why understanding what we feel and why we feel it is a source of power for creating change and spurring transformation. Why the avoidance mechanisms high performers often use to escape the influence of emotion on actions is counterproductive. How feeling negative emotions can help us decode hidden information inside those emotions to help us perform at our best. What we can do to recognize what we're feeling -- especially if we've regulated ourselves to feel nothing in the face of difficult decisions. How a thesaurus can be used to keep us from making mistaken decisions. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Gretchen Rubin (@gretchenrubin) is a former lawyer turned podcaster and best-selling author. Her latest book is The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too). What We Discuss with Gretchen Rubin: We tend toward one of four archetypes based on how we respond to expectations: Upholders, Questioners, Obligers, and Rebels. Understanding these tendencies improves the ways we motivate and influence ourselves and others. We explore each tendency and how we can optimize our mental models and self-talk to get ourselves on the right track. We learn how to spot these tendencies in others and ensure we're using the right types of incentives and communication to get the best from those around us. Take the quiz 600,000 others have taken to better understand how these frameworks can galvanize significant and lasting change. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: You and your childhood friend's relationship has endured many trials. Will it survive the month he's spending on your couch quoting South Park catch phrases? Where's the line where loving what you do for a living crosses over into obsession? How do you make sure your voice doesn't get drowned out in a group conversation? Vocal demonstration: the cork technique. How do you move past the old boss defaming you among colleagues in your small industry's network? What's the best way to handle a friendship with someone who's become hostile and difficult to be around since receiving bad news? How can you get better at striking up first conversations? Recommendation of the Week: Dirty Money Quick shoutouts to Giuliana in South Africa and Maijid in Ghana! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. You can also find him on Instagram at JPD. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Tali Sharot (@affectivebrain) is an associate professor of cognitive neuroscience, the founder and director of the Affective Brain Lab at University College London, and author of The Influential Mind: What the Brain Reveals About Our Power to Change Others. What We Discuss with Tali Sharot: When hope is a better motivator than fear -- and vice versa. Facts and figures don't tend to change minds already aligned to a certain opinion -- in fact, they can have a backfire effect that further entrenches people in their beliefs. The four factors that determine whether or not we're likely to change our beliefs. What happens when new evidence doesn't fit our beliefs, but it fits what we want to believe. When trying to persuade, it's better to seed a new belief than to contradict the old one. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jocko Willink (@jockowillink) is a retired Navy SEAL commander, podcaster, co-author of New York Times Best Seller Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win, and author of Discipline Equals Freedom: Field Manual. His upcoming Marc's Mission: Way of the Warrior Kid (A Novel) will be out soon. What We Discuss with Jocko Willink: Effective leadership values and strategies are the same across all fields and industries -- whether you're a Navy SEAL, an office manager, or a startup entrepreneur. The difference between motivation and discipline. The intersection between leadership and humility. How to create a practice of discipline that will be there when we need it. A good leader isn't necessarily the most skilled person in the room, but he or she knows how to bring out the best in everyone to create a solid team. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now, let’s dive in! On This Week’s Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How do you distinguish between someone complaining or actually seeking feedback and help for their situation? What advice would we give a 20-year-old? Don’t short yourself: overcoming height insecurity isn’t such a tall order. They like your qualifications on paper but balk at your age when you show up to the interview. What should you do next? How does a young IT or cybersecurity professional get his or her foot in the door nowadays? Recommendation of the Week: Derren Brown: The Push Quick shoutouts to lots of fans Jordan met at SMMW #18! Have any questions, comments, or stories you’d like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason’s (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. You can also find him on Instagram at JPD. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Joey Coleman (@thejoeycoleman) is a customer experience designer, an award-winning speaker, creator of First 100 Days methodology, and author of the upcoming Never Lose a Customer Again: Turn Any Sale into Lifelong Loyalty in 100 Days. "We're not paying attention to maintaining the relationships that we claim are important to us." -Joey Coleman What We Discussed with Joey Coleman: Why everyone has customers -- even if we don't own a business. Why the first hundred days of a customer life cycle are the most important -- and if you can get the experience right within this time frame, you've got a customer for life. The eight phases of a customer journey and how they apply to business and personal relationships. The experience mindset -- why it's important and how we can develop it. Why Joey's only gotten three tickets in spite of being pulled over by the police 81 times. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dan Heath is a Senior Fellow at Duke University's CASE center and co-author of Decisive, Switch, Made to Stick, and most recently The Power of Moments: Why Certain Experiences Have Extraordinary Impact. What We Discuss with Dan Heath: Why we remember certain defining moments over others across the countless experiences of a lifetime. How we can use the defining moment formula to create such moments for ourselves and others. The opportunity most companies miss when hiring a new employee and how one organization goes over the top to get it right. Action leads to insight more often than insight leads to action. Why time seems to go faster as we age. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Sending a question for Feedback Friday? Remember: No cuts, no butts, no coconuts! How do you best take care of business today when you're squatting from a suitcase at Mom's while awaiting a possible job offer from a friend's company? You're a parent and you've just caught your child in a lie. What do you do? What's our advice for dealing with conversational narcissists? How do you add value for people in your network when you don't feel like you're bringing anything to the table? What's the way forward when a juvenile criminal record and a dysfunctional family keep you from achieving your dreams now that you've worked so hard to better yourself? How do you enjoy embracing your inner grown-up and a life with an amazing fiancée when you still have urges to revisit bachelor-era indiscretions? Where do you begin if you've never had a "passion" to pursue and it already feels too late in life to start? Recommendation of the Week: Darkest Hour Shout-outs to Mark and Stephanie whose Airbnb we enjoyed, and all the fans of our former podcast who have come to find us here on The Jordan Harbinger Show! Have any questions, comments, or stories you’d like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. You can also find him on Instagram at JPD. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps. Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) joins us for this deep dive into three surprising ways to cope with suffering that we've learned during our recent period of massive change, stress, and uncertainty. "All experience hath shewn that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed." -The Declaration of Independence What We Discuss in This Deep Dive: The difference between suffering and pain. The three thoughts that make up the architecture of suffering. The phenomenon of meta-suffering. How much of the suffering we endure is actually under our control? The beliefs and mindsets we can adopt to manage suffering more effectively. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps. Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ed Latimore (@EdLatimore) is a heavyweight boxer, physics major, chess nerd, survivor of Pittsburgh's public housing projects, and author of Not Caring What Other People Think Is A Superpower. "I'm so happy that I learned to like books instead of social approval." -Ed Latimore What We Discuss with Ed Latimore: What Ed Latimore learned from growing up in one of the worst environments in America. Why it's never too late to make big changes in your life -- and how to kick off the process if you're feeling resistant to making those changes. How Ed rebuilt his life from the ground up after one of his biggest defeats. Fear is a more powerful motivator than the desire to change. Why would someone who pulled Cs and Ds in high school math choose to double major in math and physics on a second try at college? And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Having multiple dreams to pursue can feel like a Choose Your Own Adventure book. Do you have to settle on one page's outcome, or can you cut and paste your way to happiness? Do you really want to travel for a month with a spiteful, knife-wielding grump who begrudges the good fortune of his peers and is loath to follow the sacred A-Team pledge to "never leave a man behind" when hiking in the wilderness? How does Jordan read so much in order to prep for podcast guests? How does an immigrant struggling to understand American culture make meaningful connections in a small town? Would living in a bigger city make things easier? Can you accurately gauge whether or not someone's romantically interested in you purely by text messaging? What's the next level for a relationship between two people whose core values don't even come close to aligning? Why should the most ambitious person in a relationship be expected to make all the sacrifices? Recommendation of the Week: Voyeur Quick shoutouts to Isabelle Yong and Max Rooke! Have any questions, comments, or stories you’d like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. You can also find him on Instagram at JPD. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Max Lugavere (@maxlugavere) is a science journalist focusing on brain health, performance, and longevity. His New York Times Best Seller Genius Foods: Become Smarter, Happier, and More Productive While Protecting Your Brain for Life is out now. "In the modern supermarket, dietary diversity is a terrible thing!" -Max Lugavere What We Discuss with Max Lugavere: Alzheimer's disease isn't just something that afflicts the elderly -- what can young people do today to ward it off? What does modern science have to say about the USDA's historical recommended daily allowance of grains? Problems like depression and brain fog can often be traced directly to our diet and lifestyle. How to arm ourselves for optimal brain function so we can wake up feeling awesome every day. How food companies spend big bucks on research and development designed to addict us to and overconsume their products. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Simon Sinek (@simonsinek) is the author of Find Your Why: A Practical Guide for Discovering Purpose for You and Your Team and Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action. "We are worth more than the work that we do; the work that we do is supposed to reflect who we are and what our worth is." -Simon Sinek What We Discuss with Simon Sinek: Why high performers get depressed the more they achieve. Even if you love what you do for a living, it's only a part of why you do it. The role of trust and how to develop a culture of trust in your life at work and at home. Can we incentivize performance or behavior? Goldman's Dilemma and how many of us play a real-life version of this shocking thought exercise. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at [email protected]. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: New beginnings! New excitement! New puppies! New levels of sleep deprivation! Here's a trick to convey contemplation rather than grumpitude if you've got one of those resting faces. How do you turn from a Fibbing Freddy into a Trustworthy Terry? How do we prepare for a show? (If you're interested in the longer story, tell us!) Do you like this show? Please tell your friends about it -- we're starting from scratch and need your help! Why should a woman who has more in common with her boyfriend and his friends be forced to hang out with the girlfriend group at social occasions? Sometimes people who are stuck in a rut don't even realize it. Is there a delicate way to tell them? There's something to be said for having the confidence to make mistakes (or dress like a kangaroo at the bar) without being embarrassed. Recommendation of the Week: Somm Quick shoutouts to Rick Higgins, Eric Onesto, and George Taylor! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at [email protected]! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. You can also find him on Instagram at JPD. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) takes a deep dive with us into one of life's scariest constants: instability. We'll discuss why it's crucial for personal growth and how to embrace what it has to offer rather than trying to outrun its transient discomforts. "Instability isn't just a thing we need to deal with in life -- it is life." -Gabriel Mizrahi What We Discuss in This Deep Dive: No matter how stable life might seem at any given moment, we should always count on one constant: instability. Change -- whether big or small -- is inevitable. Rather than trying to avoid or expel the uncertainty we experience in moments of instability, we should be taking notes and learning from it. At its core, uncertainty is really a function of how much information we have versus how much information we want. Uncertainty makes unpleasant events more unpleasant, but it also makes pleasant events more pleasant. Why you should trust that uncertainty exists to serve you. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Bill Browder (@Billbrowder) pioneered a brand-new market after the fall of The Iron Curtain while making powerful enemies -- including Vladimir Putin. He is the author of Red Notice: A True Story of High Finance, Murder, and One Man's Fight for Justice. "I made a vow on that morning to Sergei Magnitsky's memory, to his family, and to myself, that I was going to go after the people who killed him and make sure that they face justice." -Bill Browder What We Discuss with Bill Browder: How someone who grew up in a family of communist academics became one of today's most successful capitalists. How Bill Browder saw and continues to see and profit from opportunities that others discount as foolish. How Russian oligarchs rip off and defraud minority and foreign shareholders. How an Interpol Red Notice could mean arrest and extradition to Russia to face torture. Who was Sergei Magnitsky, and how is Bill seeking justice for his murder by the Russian state? And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Rob Weinhold (@FallstonGroup) is the CRO (Chief Reputation Officer) of Fallston Group and co-author of The Art of Crisis Leadership: Save Time, Money, Customers and Ultimately, Your Career. "Crisis is a growth strategy -- you have to expect it." -Rob Weinhold What We Discuss with Rob Weinhold: What four motivations are found at the core of any damaged reputation? Why bad press spread faster than the speed of truth can damage a person or brand's reputation forever. Understand the Resilient Moment Communications Model and how can it help us answer to an issue of sensitivity, adversity, or crisis. How to identify the warning signs of a crisis about to happen and prepare against them ahead of time. How to react to a crisis in a way that spins it into an advantage. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Frank Abagnale is a former con artist, bestselling author of Catch Me If You Can, and now one of the world's most respected authorities on the subjects of fraud, forgery, and cyber security, Frank Abagnale knows how scammers work. His latest book, Scam Me If You Can: Simple Strategies to Outsmart Today's Rip-off Artists, is out now. What We Discuss with Frank Abagnale: How the constant rush to get untested new technology on the market for the appeasement of investors makes us all vulnerable to security breaches. Why Frank believes it's much easier to pull off scams these days than it was 50 years ago in his fraudulent heyday. Why, according to Frank, there is no technology that can defeat social engineering, and there never will be -- not even AI. Why Frank says that passwords are for treehouses, and what he envisions as a more foolproof way to protect our data from would-be scammers. The three traits of a good con man, and the five simple steps you can take to scam-proof your life. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/1 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Does your business have an Internet presence? Save up to a whopping 62% on new webhosting packages with HostGator at hostgator.com/jordan! Better Help offers affordable, online counseling at your convenience. If you're coping with depression, stress, anxiety, addiction, or any number of issues, you're not alone. Talk with a licensed professional therapist for 10 percent off your first month at betterhelp.com/jordan! FIGS knows nurses, doctors, dentists, and other awesome medical professionals deserve to wear scrubs that are antimicrobial and comfortable! Agree? Head to wearFIGS.com and enter code JORDAN at checkout for 15 percent off your first purchase! With Mighty Networks, you're able to build a community that's so valuable you can charge for it and so well-designed that it essentially runs itself. Get three months free when you sign up for a year at mightynetworks.com/jordan! The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) reminds us that in the United States, one person dies every 50 minutes as a consequence of drunk driving. Drive sober or get pulled over! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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