87: Getting a Coaching Session Back on Track

Here are some ways to get back on track when your coaching session has lost its way.

Highlights

• Lack of resonance can signal disconnect and that things are off track
• Speaking to what’s happening for you
• Locating sensations or feelings in your body
• Being with silence
• Asking the client what they need
• Getting curious about what “is”
• Trying to “think” your way to a better place usually doesn’t work very well
  • Listening instead to a certain part of your body often works better
• Poorly formed topics can lead to lack of resonance
  • Is there a way to clarify what is seeking to be known or the desired outcome?
• The value of venting or an emotional dump
• Asking a particular body part to inform you
• Prompts
  • What would you like to be different by the end of our time?
  • What would you like to be new by the end of our conversation?
  • What meaning are you assigning to how this is going?
• Gremlins and saboteurs can throw things off track
  • Sometimes they like to turn on the fog machine
  • The land of “I don’t know”
• What story or judgements are you telling yourself about how the session is going?
• Ways to break out of a particular state (during or after a session)
  • Meditation
  • Jump up and down
  • Stand up
  • Move outside
  • Change rooms/geography
  • Exercise
  • Hydrate
  • Journal
    • “The story I’m telling myself is …”
    • “The story I could tell myself instead is …”
    • Capture what worked or didn’t
• Co-Active Coaching: The proven framework for transformative conversations at work and in life by Karen Kimsey-House, Henry Kimsey-House, Phillip Sandhal, and Laura Whitworth
  • The book is okay (I read and studied from an older edition–I can’t speak to the latest one)
  • The in-person Co-Active training is life-changing
• Use an unsatisfying session as motivation to learn more or go back to your training
• Humans are involved
• The key to success is restarting

Credits

• Hallon by Christian Bjoerklund
• Cold Funk by Kevin MacLeod
• Original photo source

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