The Imperfects

Matt Okine has been privy to a few life changing events. 💌 subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy Hailing from Triple J infamy (the radio station ……. not the athletic event), Matt has seen success across television screens, the comedy scene and music stage. A triple threat, you might say. Joining us in the studio, Matt is incredibly vulnerable in sharing with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh the pain and confusion of losing his mum at just 12 years old, and how becoming a parent himself has filled him with an irrational, but at times crippling, fear of death. Matt and Ryan bond over the cathartic and confronting process of writing about yourself as a character, who doesn’t always get it right, and Matt talks to Josh about jealousy and how he learned to trust again after being cheated on. Matt, what a feeling. If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/SnV65OzHxEg  🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Dr Emily - Meaning of Mid-Life - http://bit.ly/3JRXb3O 📺 Things to watch The Other Guy - https://bit.ly/4m32zOL Ryan and Matt’s Legendary Moments Ad - https://bit.ly/4pfHxPE 🎧Things to listen to Helen’s Message 1992 - Matt and Alex - All Day Breakfast - http://bit.ly/46tLede 📖 Things to read Being Black ‘n Chicken, and Chips by Matt Okine - http://bit.ly/4nl9OCP 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Suicide is the leading cause of death for Australians aged 15 to 44. 💌 subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy On average in Australia, 9 people die by suicide each day, and for every suicide, it is suggested 135 people find themselves in the impact zone. Today we speak to Karissa Lewis, a lived experience practitioner, who sits with those in perhaps their darkest moment, in the hours, days and weeks after someone they know has died by suicide. We discuss what a lived experience practitioner is, how it is professionalised, and how postvention (done well) is the most incredible prevention. Going into specifics, Ryan asks Karissa what the impact zone is like in a school environment, and how you can know what to say, what to do, and how to talk to children about suicide with honesty and age-appropriate language. Karissa is candid with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh about the stigma of suicide, which prompts Josh to share a story about the complicated nature of the word ‘choice’. And we get some scientific evidence of the power of a good cry. Life is not better off without you. To watch this incredible episode on YouTube, follow this link: 🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode Dr Emily - Grief Lightening - https://bit.ly/4nijyxP Samuel Johnson - A Life of Vulnerability - https://bit.ly/4mK0zvW 📖 Things to read Is crying good for you? - https://bit.ly/41ys2Iy Zone of Fabulousness by Vikki Reynolds - https://bit.ly/3I0i5Nv 📱Things to download Beyond Now - Safety Planning App - https://bit.ly/466T9Mo 💻Things to check out Social Futures StandBy Support After Suicide - https://bit.ly/4mHWZ5s National Centre for Childhood Grief - https://bit.ly/466ONop Certificate IV in Mental Health Peer Work (there’s lots!) Living Works Australia - ASIST 2 Day Course - https://bit.ly/429tNMz 🎟️Things to buy tickets for Together Again, Imperfects Live Show - https://bit.ly/47VT9Bc 🚨If you, or someone you know, is thinking about suicide; Contact Lifeline on 13 11 14. 13YARN (Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander Crisis Support Line) – 13 92 76 Please call 000 in an emergency StandBy Support After Suicide – 1300 727 247 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mid-life crises have a bad rap. 💌 subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy Joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, this emisode is for everyone, but especially for those who’s back goes out more than them, and who are trying to fill the void with purpose (or a ponytail, or a sports car). Technically, you’re in your mid-life from about the ages of 35-70. Which would be quite bleak, if we didn’t have Dr Emily in the studio to reframe this period of our lives with hope, meaning and purpose. Tuning into what our soul is yearning for, Dr Emily discusses how we can intentionally look at generating legacy, combat narratives which suggest “we should have it all worked out”, and maybe even turn our intelligence into a …. um, butterfly. And then we hear from Josh, who’s right in the thick of it. Cue tears. Cue hugs. Cue sending Josh all of the love in the entire world. Dr Em, you’ve hit the nail on the head with this one. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/r6tdU-r5k4o 🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode Elizabeth Day - The Me-est Version of Me - http://bit.ly/3HTMKMi Lauren Zonfrillo - Grief: The Shittest Greatest Gift - http://bit.ly/4fYJonW Dr Emily - Compassion of The Self - http://bit.ly/45BW9kU 📖Things to read Unstuck, by Dr Emily Musgrove - http://bit.ly/4mAhUaA Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Your Life, by James Hollis - http://bit.ly/41oMED0 From Strength to Strength, by Arthur C Brooks - http://bit.ly/4lFObvD 💻Things to check out Erik Erikson’s psychosocial theory of development - http://bit.ly/4oV1knq Jungian Therapy - http://bit.ly/3JyslNh Chip Connolly - Modern Elder Academy - http://bit.ly/4fZUN70 Kristen Neff - Online Self Compassion Practice - http://bit.ly/4mUIs68 Chris Germer - Mindful Self-Compassion - http://bit.ly/3Vj5d82 Paul Gilbert - Developing Self-Compassion - http://bit.ly/4fYN74U Regina Gurlach - Self-Compassion - http://bit.ly/3HO1Xi2 U-Shaped Curve of Happiness - http://bit.ly/4p0m5hQ Ron Siegel - The Disillusion of Living - http://bit.ly/4fYO11i 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Not shut down by the fear of humiliation, Hannah Ferguson believes her biggest failure would be to never try in the first place. 💌 subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy In saying that, everything Hannah tries (and touches), inevitably turns to gold (media company, podcast, author, you get the point). In this episode of The Vulnerabilitea House, Hannah answers the question, “what have you learnt about love from the way you were cared for as a child?” Recounting the moment she was asked to be responsible for the lives of her siblings, Hannah is incredibly vulnerable and honest in reflecting on the status of her relationship with her parents now, and goes deep with Ryan about the importance of intention. In the spirit of her word of the year being ‘soft’, Hannah and Josh unpack why she has felt undesirable and undatable, and what makes her current partner feel like forev- a very long time (this could age poorly, but hopefully won’t). Hannah, our BFLT. If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, click here - http://bit.ly/3JLOd7S 🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Origin of the Pink Dildo Story (Tim Minchin - Lucky To Be Here) - https://apple.co/492kgsN Dr Emily - That Guilty Feeling - http://bit.ly/47BcFmn 🎧Things to listen to Big Small Talk - http://bit.ly/41fHklq Brene Brown on Oprah - http://bit.ly/3Jqeit6 📺Things to watch Hannah’s National Press Club Address - http://bit.ly/4oPN7s8 Tony Abbott Freeze video - http://bit.ly/3HIW85m Tony Abbott Onion video - http://bit.ly/3UFCvy3 📖Things to read Bite Back, by Hannah Ferguson - http://bit.ly/4lyOxEf Taboo, by Hannah Ferguson - http://bit.ly/4mQrC8D 💻Things to check out Cheek Media Co. - http://bit.ly/4oM4zO6 🚨If you, or someone you know, has experienced or is at risk of domestic violence, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you’re feeling unsafe, call 000. 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Inside what might be the biggest scandal in Australian sporting history, Dyson Heppell, at 23 years old, found himself at the centre with a choice to make. 💌 subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, here - http://bit.ly/4lMOdTj A leader from the beginning of his career, Dyson was living his childhood dream playing AFL for the Essendon Bombers when everything turned upside down. In this episode, Dyson chats to Hugh, Ryan, and Josh about his relationship with trust, his teammates and the public in the aftermath of the scandal. Reframing, and rebuilding, Dyson shares how he was able to find joy, empathy and positivity in footy, and life, again. Hugh discusses with Dyson how he chased control through limiting calories, which resulted in a period of disordered eating and finally, the guys talk about Dyson’s relationship with Harrison, and the starting of Haych the Label. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: http://bit.ly/41EIbw1 🎧Things to listen to Dyson Heppell I Dyl & Friends - http://bit.ly/4mKhZZ7 🧢Things to check out Haych The Label - http://bit.ly/47xSohB The Resilience Project Journal - http://bit.ly/3UZtXSH 🦋If this conversation has raised some uncomfortable feelings for you around eating and food, the Butterfly Foundation 1800 33 4673 is a great place to visit - https://butterfly.org.au 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Babe, what’s for (vulnerabili)tea? 💌 subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, here - http://bit.ly/4lMOdTj Andy Hearnden, better known for his online moniker Andy Cooks, is a professional chef and home cook extraordinaire, with more YouTube and TikTok followers than the population of a small country. Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House, Andy answers the question, “what’s been your biggest failure and how was it good or bad for you?” Imitating the behaviour of others around him, alcohol became a normal part of Andy’s daily routine, and eventually, his identity. Andy opens up to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the non-linear nature of his sobriety journey, and the incredible support of his partner Katelyn (Babe). As a garnish, Andy chats to Ry about breaking the cycle of poor people management, and learning how to become a leader. Andy, you can cook (or chat) with us anytime. To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/Pq8iKXWIfGA  🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence - https://apple.co/4hhc2RB Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made - https://apple.co/48hrQiQ Ben Shewry - Making It Right (And Delicious) - https://bit.ly/4jPHq9F 📖 Things to read The Cookbook, by Andy Cooks - https://bit.ly/3UIB161 💻Things to check out Andy Cooks - YouTube - https://bit.ly/4okLSRk 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you ever wonder whether you belong? 💌 subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, here - http://bit.ly/4lMOdTj According to Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist, belonging is an evolutionary need, literally built into our DNA. And in our current loneliness epidemic, the feeling of belonging uncertainty can impact our sense of safety, identity and even physical health. This week, Dr Em goes into the intolerable state of uncertainty, and the self-fulfilling prophecy we may induce when trying to protect ourselves. Unfortunately, for all of us introverts, creating connection involves risk. Thorough in her research as always, Dr Em explains the benefits to seeking perspective and crafting situations to help others feel like they belong. AND with a guest star appearance from Producer Bridge, we unpack what it looks and feels like to get it wrong, and how you can work to get it right. Dr Em, this is our favourite time of the month. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/r1qTUZwBLDw  🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Rana Hussain - Belonging For Connection - http://bit.ly/4odhGY8 Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - http://bit.ly/4l8Y4lt Grace Tame - “Sexy-time, Scissoring, Autism” - http://bit.ly/4mbPvaq Glenn Robbins - Listening to the Voice in Your Head - https://bit.ly/40HM8zK Billy Slater - Leading from the (Full) Back - https://bit.ly/45qvmrr 📖Things to read A question of belonging: race, social fit, and achievement by Geoffrey Cohen and Gregory Walton - https://bit.ly/4mbPMds A Brief Social-Belonging Intervention Improves Academic and Health Outcomes of Minority Students by Geoffrey Cohen and Gregory Walton - https://bit.ly/3UCcS0Y Breaking the cycle of mistrust: wise interventions to provide critical feedback across the racial divide by Geoffrey Cohen, David Yeager & others - https://bit.ly/4odZKgc Pygmalion in the Classroom by Robert Rosenthal & Lenore Jacobson - http://bit.ly/4fa2Tte BELONGING: The Feeling That We “Belong” May Depend in Part on “Affirmations” by Mary Rowe - http://bit.ly/4l8fPBo Unstuck by Dr Emily Musgrove - http://bit.ly/3J8tieV 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Well, well, well, it’s time to prove things. 💌 subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, here - http://bit.ly/4lMOdTj Today we’re jumping in your ears for a public service announcement: The Resilience Project (TRP) is officially backed by some rock-hard, super-sciencey evidence. Founded by our very own Hugh (you know, from the podcast), TRP delivers emotionally engaging programs to over 1000 schools across Australia, as well as workplaces and sporting clubs. This longitudinal, independent study conducted by Roshini Balasooriya Lekamge is peer reviewed (no Ryan, not that pier), published in The British Journal of Psychiatry, and most importantly, highlights a staggering decrease in depression and anxiety for kids who are engaged with TRP programs and content. Yay! We hope you love this news as much as we do xx If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/MGLr0I9UE94 🧐To read this study yourself, click here! - https://bit.ly/4l7y9KR 🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode How I Built Dis - The Resilience Project Story - http://bit.ly/40IhXZg 💻Things to check out The Resilience Project - https://theresilienceproject.com.au TRP @ Home - http://bit.ly/4ociNr0 The University of Melbourne Evaluation - http://bit.ly/44Snxe4 University of Adelaide Research Findings - http://bit.ly/44Sp83y 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Approached by 5 NRL clubs by the time he was 13, Joe was a sporting prodigy. 💌 subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, here - http://bit.ly/4lMOdTj  Thrust into the spotlight Joe was introduced to a world of concussions, accolades and copious amounts of drugs and alcohol. Now 18 years sober, Joe is honest about how he found his power through truth and the experiences and learnings through which he navigates racism and understands human behaviour. Joe chats to Josh about the difference between being a dad and a father, and how he has found compassion for his younger self. This conversation also touches on Joe’s bipolar diagnosis, his relationship with the natural environment and the incredible difference that he is making in the mental health space now. Joe, we can’t believe you found the time to join us. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, click here: 📖 Things to read: Defying The Enemy Within by Joe Williams - https://bit.ly/4eY3cr0 What Happened To You by Bruce D. Perry and Oprah Winfrey - https://bit.ly/4lYzl4F The Dreaming Path by Paul Callaghan with Uncle Paul Gordon - https://bit.ly/3ICXbEd 📺Things to watch: Seen The Film - https://seenthefilm.com 💻Things to check out: Our Way Academy - https://bit.ly/4lGt4uf 🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with suicidal ideation, thinking about suicide, or has issues with addiction, please call 000 in an emergency. Lifeline on 13 11 14 is also great resource, as well as the National Alcohol and Other Drug Hotline on 1800 250 015. 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Domestic violence is an epidemic in Australia, and Jess Hill has dedicated a good chunk of time trying to understand why.   💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au   Joining us in the Academy of Imperfection, Jess explains to Hugh, Ryan and Josh the unrelenting system of entrapment that many women find themselves in, including a detailed look at the history of coercive control, and the term ‘perspecticide’. Describing the importance of early intervention for young boys, and answering the question ‘Why don’t they just leave?’, Jess discusses with Josh the difference between guilt and shame, and the fundamental impact of these emotions. This episode is compulsory listening for everyone (obviously, it’s Jess Hill talking about one of the most significant issues in our country), but especially those who, in their quietest, most vulnerable moment, recognise themselves as a perpetrator and want to take the next steps to changing the cycle of trauma. Jess, we cannot thank you enough. If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qPAi24DyWRc 🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Tarang Chawla - Men Talking About Men’s Violence - https://bit.ly/45p2aBN Chanel Contos - Consensual Healing - https://bit.ly/3SSvrND An Imperfect Chat About Men - https://bit.ly/4n4ce9o Another Imperfect Chat About Men - https://bit.ly/4jUHQf7 🎧Things to listen to The Trap - Why Do They Do It? - https://bit.ly/3G0H9D1 📺 Things to watch See What You Made Me Do - https://bit.ly/3STaUbW Matt Brown TedTalk - https://bit.ly/4jP1RUc 📖 Things to read See What You Made Me Do by Jess Hill - https://bit.ly/3HG8gno The Reckoning by Jess Hill - https://bit.ly/3FQyZNy Losing It by Jess Hill - https://bit.ly/4ni3YD8 She Is Not Your Rehab by Matt Brown with Sarah Brown - https://bit.ly/45In6Uz Rape in Marriage by Diana E.H Russell - https://bit.ly/4n3q0Jr Home Truths by Jess Hill - https://bit.ly/402SfOC The Brain That Changes Itself by Norman Doidge - https://bit.ly/4eejITp Shame and Pride by Donald Nathanson - https://bit.ly/4lsrc7V Three Planet Model by Marianne Hester - https://bit.ly/4e4sG5t 💻Things to check out Yiliyapinya - https://yiliyapinya.org.au/about/ Inner Boy - She Is Not Your Rehab - Free 30 Day Program - https://bit.ly/4jPOdQA 🚨If you, or someone you know, is exhibiting behaviour that may be concerning or problematic, call MensLine on 1300 78 99 78, or No To Violence on 1300 766 491. 🚨If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend the nation24-hour national sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732. 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Art saved Vincent Fantauzzo’s life.   💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au   In this episode, Vincent paints the picture of his childhood in Broadmeadows, a childhood marked with violence and abuse, and how undiagnosed dyslexia deeply affected Vincent’s ability to read and write, as well as his memory. Now known worldwide for his award winning portraits of Asher Keddie (his now wife), Julia Gillard and Heath Ledger, Vincent chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the incredible father figures, role models and friends that he has connected with throughout his life, and the impact they have had on his sense of self. Vincent, this was a dream come true. To watch this video on YouTube (a picture paints a thousand words after all), follow this link - 🫖 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gwH3A-jSd3U   Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Billy Slater - Leading from the (Full)Back - https://bit.ly/45ZZfQ6 🎨Things to check out Vincent’s Gallery - https://bit.ly/4n4CyAr ‘Heath’ Portrait - https://bit.ly/3Tp8amG ‘Love Face’ Portrait - https://bit.ly/4lcE4yQ ‘All that’s good in me’ (self-portrait as son Luca) - https://bit.ly/4kJF8u1   📖Things to read Unveiled by Vincent Fantauzzo - https://bit.ly/4e3PsKO   🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with thoughts surrounding suicide, suicidal ideation or self-harm, please call 000 or Life Life on 13 11 14. 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How often do you feel guilty? Guiding us on a guilt trip today is our resident psychologist (and published author) Dr Emily Musgrove. 💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au Differentiating guilt from shame or regret, Dr Emily takes us back to the very beginning to explain the purpose and function of guilt as a pro-social behaviour which your cave-person ancestor probably would have used to keep them in the tribe. When used wisely, guilt is a useful recognition of information that can alert us when we have gone against our values or dropped our moral standards. However, as Dr Em explains (and people pleasers would know all too well) guilt can quickly becoming overwhelming, exhausting and make you feel like you’re always letting someone down. In this episode, Dr Em dives into the seemingly never-ending guilt of being a parent, especially a mum, as well as the guilt associated with caring for ageing parents. Dr Em, you’ve done it again. To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/wLLJdF1edVE 🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? - https://apple.co/4dckMpy Dr Emily - What Are Your Boundaries? - https://bit.ly/409jO91 Dr Emily - Truth v Harmony - https://apple.co/40pgYO7 Dr Emily - Who Is Your Inner Critic - https://apple.co/3XaFdw9 Ben Shewry - Making It Right (And Delicious) - https://bit.ly/4jPHq9F Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence - https://apple.co/4hhc2RB Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made - https://apple.co/48hrQiQ 📖Things to read Unstuck by Dr Emily Musgrove - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2 The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins - https://bit.ly/3SUcvhv Good Inside by Dr Becky Kennedy - https://bit.ly/443BPXE Choice Points by Russ Harris and Colleagues - https://bit.ly/4jUZjnw 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au - this week, featuring a reflection from none other than Cate Campbell. By the time she was 16, Cate Campbell had figured out her social currency: achievement, in the form of gold medals, no less. Four time Olympian and world record holder Cate joins us in the Vulnerabilitea House to answer the question ‘How and when have you been dishonest with yourself?’ From telling herself she was ‘fine’ to having a breakdown over a Milo, Cate recounts the intense period of loneliness she experienced during Covid, and the depression she ‘didn’t deserve’ to feel. This episode emphasises the critical importance of connection for our mental health, and Cate so beautifully articulates the impact of finding love at first sight (friend addition), and navigating a changing relationship with her sister Bronte. Coming of age in a world where perfection is praised and your failure makes headlines, Cate is so generous in sharing how she had learn to ask for help and to value her mental health like she would her physical. Cate, you are simply the best. To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: http://bit.ly/40ecuJc  🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Bronte Campbell - Comparison, The Thief of Joy - https://bit.ly/44h52iW 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you think of yourself as a creative person? How does being creative make you feel? 💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au Today we welcome into the Academy of Imperfection (reluctant) expert Campbell Walker, better known by his online moniker, Struthless. Drawing on his hypothesis that creativity is the antithesis of destruction, Struthless discusses how to train yourself in creativity, the 70% rule in completing a creative pursuit, and, thankfully for Hugh, how to recognise and celebrate your creative brain in everyday tasks. Struthless opens up about the moment he realised drugs had stopped becoming fun, going deeper into his struggles with addiction and how he reframed one of his most shameful moment by asking “how could this be the best thing that has ever happened to me”? Ryan and Struthless chat about the mental health benefits, and absolute joy, of journalling (just ask anyone who’s bought My Imperfect Life), and how to make sure that the pain doesn’t win. Figuratively, illustratively and literally, we loved hanging out with you, Struthless. If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - http://bit.ly/3TrGI7I  🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Adam Grant - The Potential of Your Potential - https://bit.ly/4ksJXYL How (And Why) Ryan Dumped His iPhone - https://bit.ly/41RY15O 📖 Things to read Doom and Bloom, by Campbell Walker - https://bit.ly/3HnCQSv Your Head Is A Houseboat, by Campbell Walker - https://bit.ly/3SxJUOW The Medium is the Message, by Marshall McLuhan - https://bit.ly/3T7tUmP 📺 Things to watch Boss Baby - https://bit.ly/4438FJe Pingu - https://bit.ly/43V1EsW 🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with addiction, the National Alcohol and Other Drug Hotline 1800 250 015, is a great place to start. 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au There is currently only one gay man actively playing in a professional, top-tier basketball league anywhere in the world. And today, we had the enormous privilege of welcoming him into the studio. Demonstrating Olympic-level vulnerability, Isaac Humphries made global headlines in 2022 when he came out as gay to his basketball teammates. However, as Hugh, Ryan and Josh learn in this chat, this moment was the result of a lifetime of chaos, confusion, darkness, and ultimately, courage. In this episode, Isaac talks through his horrific experience of childhood bullying, and how basketball became both a sanctuary and a space of secrecy. For Isaac, he never imagined a world where he could keep his career and live authentically as his whole self. An incredible journey, which includes a Beyonce-esque move of dropping his last name for a time, Isaac describes to Hugh, Ryan and Josh what it felt like to come out to his mum, live as an openly gay man for the first time, and finally, come out to the world. Finding light in the darkest of times, Josh and Isaac discuss the importance of purpose, which prompts Hugh to reflect on how this episode is the epitome of The Imperfects: how vulnerability leads to authentic connection. Isaac, we love you. If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube (and see Hugh’s model shot), click here - https://bit.ly/43YQXpc  🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD - https://bit.ly/42GsmEJ Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People - https://apple.co/4l4kw0m 📺 Things to watch Isaac’s Coming Out video - https://bit.ly/3HxvR9O 🎧 Things to listen to Isaac’s music, including the song Be Alright - https://spoti.fi/4mTSGol 📖 Things to read The Velvet Rage, by Alan Downs - https://bit.ly/43XZ3hH 🏳️‍🌈For some great educational resources, head to Pride in Sport - www.prideinsport.com.au/resources 🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling, these are a few great resources QLife - provides anonymous and free LGBTI peer support and referral for people over 18 wanting to talk about sexuality, identity, gender, bodies, feelings or relationships. 1800 184 527, www.qlife.org.au Minus 18 - Through a preventative model of mental health support, Minus 18 tackle social isolation by creating fun-filled spaces where LGBTQIA+ people under 18 feel they belong and are celebrated www.minus18.org.au Lifeline - 13 11 14, www.lifeline.org.au 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is where the fun begins.   💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au   Today we welcome the Return of the Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, to talk about the Force in all its (clinical) glory. Amongst the immense excitement of Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Dr Emily talks through the lightness and darkness inside us all, and how the presence of a good mentor makes a world of difference. Bringing psychology back to the forefront of this ep, Dr Emily likens Yoda’s general vibe to the principles of Acceptance Commitment Therapy, whilst also pointing out the incredible power of mindfulness (just ask Luke Skywalker). Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat with Dr Emily about The Hero’s Journey, main character syndrome and how to let go of our ego to embrace your authentic self. May the Force be with you. If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://bit.ly/3FGlYG6 🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Dr Emily - Resent Less, Live More - https://bit.ly/4mGNOCP Dr Emily - Hope - https://apple.co/4l9des9 Dr Emily - The Certainty of Uncertainty - https://bit.ly/3SyoWj0 Dr Emily - Grief Lightening - https://bit.ly/4kki9W6 Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://apple.co/4e2Io05 Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People - https://apple.co/4l4kw0m Hugh’s ADHD…brief (Bonus From Patreon) - https://bit.ly/4jefaNP 💻Things / people to check out Tara Brach - https://bit.ly/43Fk8gR Scott Barry Kaufman - https://bit.ly/4dSmwFK Dr Robyn D Walser - https://bit.ly/4kEI5M0 Joseph Campbell’s The Hero’s Journey - https://bit.ly/3HlH516 The Star Wars Catalogue - https://bit.ly/3HzXi2x 📖 Things to read Unstuck by Dr Emily Musgrove - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As the title suggests, Nas Campanella is really cool (and accomplished and driven and resilient).   Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au   You might recognise her voice from the Triple J cinematic universe or know her work as the Disability Affairs Reporter for the ABC. But what you might not know is that Nas is vision impaired, or that a neurological condition means that she can’t read braille either. In this episode of The Vulnerabilitea House, Nas answers the questions “what childhood challenges best prepared you for adulthood?” Chatting to Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Nas talks about her relationship with her disability, and how it shapes her identity. Nas also dives into a powerful conversation with the guys about the role agency and accessibility in the experience of discrimination, and shares why, if a magical operation could restore her sight, she wouldn’t change a thing. Nas, it has been an absolute joy. 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s that time of the month (sorry), and we’re welcoming back Dr Louise Newson to talk all things hormones. In case you missed it, last time we had Dr Louise on the pod, she shared her expertise on perimenopause and menopause. This, to no surprise, was Apple Australia's most shared podcast episode in 2024. Today, Dr Louise talks to the guys about hormones; what they are, how they impact our lives, and what the difference is between the natural and synthetic forms we can be prescribed. Discussing the naturally occurring cycles of hormones, as well as the dramatic hormone drop offs that can happen throughout a lifetime, Dr Louise shares the impact of hormones for PMS, PMDD and post-natal depression. Dr Louise, this has been life changing. If you would like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/l4naB7-GKto 🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode: Dr Louise Newson - Maybe It’s Menopause - https://bit.ly/43qYwon 🎧Things to listen to: The Dr Louise Newson Podcast - Talking to my daughter: understanding hormones, contraception, PMS & the gaps in sex ed - https://bit.ly/43vnliX The Dr Louise Newson Podcast - Testosterone and the hormone triangle, with Dr Mohit Khera - https://apple.co/4duWhow 💻 Things to check out: Balance website - https://bit.ly/4mlLFwp Balance App - https://bit.ly/436uozz 💊To find more information about contraception Sexual Health Victoria - https://bit.ly/4jgfJ9M Children by Choice - https://bit.ly/4je80Ju Dr Louise Hormone Health Hub - https://bit.ly/44HQARP 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Quick! Is anyone here an author? Yes! And her book is finally here! Our favourite psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove, has published the most anticipated book of the year, Unstuck: A guide to finding your way forward to the life you want to live. Feeling stuck, and the yearning for something to change, is a human experience. And in Unstuck, Dr Emily doesn’t just acknowledge this feeling, she walks with you through it. We’re talking values, we’re talking an introduction to acceptance commitment therapy, and we’re talking self-compassion (among many, many other things). At its core, this book is a model for how we might approach change. It’s compulsory reading. Unstuck is available now in all good bookstores, or you can order it online here - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2. If you want to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4mvgSgE 🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? - https://apple.co/4dckMpy 📖 Things to read: Summer Day by Mary Oliver - https://bit.ly/3Hh1gNo 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s a Monty type of day - and thank god, because this week we welcome the brilliant Monty Dimond into the studio. In this episode, Monty opens up about the heartbreak of losing her mum—her person, her sense of home and safety. She speaks candidly about the tunnel vision of ambition, living with imposter syndrome, and how a debilitating chronic illness left her bed-bound for 90% of last year. Hugh and Monty share an incredibly vulnerable chat about parenting neurodivergent children; sharing the intense challenges, boundless love and ways they can show compassion to themselves and others. If you're not familiar with Monty yet, she's the founder and co-host of the Show and Tell platform, which includes the newly released podcast iChronic, Monty is a pillar of Australian media (including a co-hosting a national drive show with our very own Sheltzy). Monty, we are in awe of you. To watch this full video of YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3GVUYmf 🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode: Janelle Booker - Living with ADHD - https://bit.ly/42GsmEJ Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People - https://apple.co/4l4kw0m Michael (Wippa) Wipfli - Light at the End of the Tunnel - https://bit.ly/3F6wy9d 🎧 Things to listen to: iChonric - https://bit.ly/4j1d3gb Show and Tell - https://bit.ly/3ZfWiGR 💻 Things to check out: Kristy Forbes’ Workshops - https://bit.ly/43eFxNK 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What would it look like if we were more open to grief? This week, as promised, we are joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove to talk through grief from a clinical perspective. Grief is proof of life, and proof of love. And while it is an incredibly unique experience for each person, there is a universality to it as well. Dr Em walks us through how grief impacts the brain on a neurological level, and unpacks its unpredictable, non-linear path. Explaining the difference between grief and grieving, Em reminds us about the importance of turning towards the pain and how to learn to ride the waves of grief, rather than expecting them to disappear. And on a practical level, Ryan asks about what you can actually do for someone in grief to show them love and support. If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4jKdlco  If you would like to pre-order Em’s book Unstuck, click here: https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2 🫖 Other Imperfects episode’s mentioned in this episode Lauren Zonfrillo - Grief: The Shittest Greatest Gift - https://bit.ly/3GGXCMA Jamila Rizvi - Living with the effects of a brain tumour - https://bit.ly/4jK7CmV Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8 Clare Bowditch - Music, Panic Attacks & Body Image - https://apple.co/43iqzau 📖 Things to read The Grieving Brain - Mary-Frances O’Connor - https://bit.ly/4m55Mi3 Self Compassion - Kristin Neff - https://bit.ly/4iQC25O Wherever You Go, There You Are - Jon Kabat-Zinn - https://bit.ly/3Z5LeMo Till Death Do Us Part - Lauren Zonfrillo - https://bit.ly/4m7Dy6z 💻 Things to check out Stroebe and Schut Dual-Process Model of Grief - https://bit.ly/4kbIeqc Elisabeth Kubler-Ross Stages of Grief - https://bit.ly/45tThVu Meghan Riordan Jarvis’ work - https://bit.ly/3RTyy7v ☎️ If you, or someone you know, is struggling with grief, Griefline 1300 845 745 is a great place to start 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfect, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Lauren Zonfrillo knows grief - intimately, devastatingly, and meaningfully. Almost two years since the sudden death of her husband Jock, Lauren describes grief as the ‘shittest, greatest gift’, and how she navigated unimaginable loss while continuing to parent two young children. In this episode, Lauren shares what she learnt about herself in the days, weeks, and months since Jock’s passing. Discussing with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about her evolving relationship with spirituality, Lauren vulnerably shares how she is beginning to reconcile her identity as a mother, widow, and person in her own right. Lauren, thank you for such a special episode. If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4mi4mkD  📖 Things to read: Till Death Do Us Part - Lauren Zonfrillo - https://bit.ly/4m7Dy6z Last Shot - Jock Zonfrillo - https://bit.ly/4iCyfJi Finding Meaning - David Kessler - https://amzn.to/44QgNNU ☎️ If you, or someone you know, is struggling with grief, these are some great resources to start with National Centre for Childhood Grief - https://bit.ly/4iEMvkP Griefline - 1300 845 745 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfect, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s the episode we’ve all been waiting for – a peek inside Hugh’s brain. After our episode with psychologist and ADHD expert Janelle Booker - and a reboot of his algorithm that Hugh related to on a spiritual level - Hugh began to wonder whether his time-blindness, reject sensitivity and inability to focus on things he wasn’t interested in, could be explained by ADHD. Turns out, yeah. Hugh pretty much definitely has ADHD. Exploring Hugh’s lived experience, Ryan and Josh chat through how Hugh has reconciled his incredible frustrations into acknowledgment and celebration for his strengths. This episode is a snippet from an A Little More Imperfects Patreon episode: a place where we publish fortnightly bonus episode, early access to tickets and talk to our community about upcoming guests, bonus content and what they want to see more of. If you would like to become a member of our Patreon community, follow this link: www.patreon.com/theimperfects To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/4cGOPpO 🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Janelle Booker - Living with ADHD - https://bit.ly/42GsmEJ 💻 Things to check out Alex Patridge - 12 Lie People with ADHD tell themselves - ttps://bit.ly/41cHcnd Alex Patridge - How to understand ADHD Overwhelm in 35 seconds - https://bit.ly/4jWRq22 📺 Things to watch Celeste Barber’s Australian Story - Unfiltered - https://ab.co/42l6VsD 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Chasing the ‘perfect’ diet is a trap; which is really great news for our brand. Simon Hill, nutritionist, physiotherapist, and host of The Proof podcast, joins us in the Academy of Imperfection to break down whether the latest dietary trends on social media actually match up with nutrition science. In this episode, Simon unpacks the role of both genetics and lifestyle choices in shaping our health, and specifically our risk of disease. Acknowledging the pressure, and sometimes shame, that comes with chasing the ‘perfect’ diet, Hugh, Ryan, and Josh discuss how to encourage kids to build positive relationships with food, and the incredible significance of ‘joy’ and ‘human connection’, that occurs when we get together to eat. And then, of course, we play Simon Says and bust some food-myths about supplements, plant protein, and whether breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Simon, thank you for all that you says. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4jyH2NL  🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode: Felice Jacka - Food For Thought - https://apple.co/4ciWgn5 Professor Tim Spector - Food Fight - https://apple.co/3OjRlXR Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way to Your Top - https://bit.ly/3E3flgi 📖 Things to read: The Proof is in the Plants - Simon Hill - https://bit.ly/4lbj7VC The Skeptics’ Guide To The Universe - Steven Novella - https://bit.ly/3QUPYjI 🎧Things to listen to: The Proof with Simon Hill - https://bit.ly/3XCCDjS The Proof - Menopause masterclass (Part 1) - https://bit.ly/42aAoXC The Proof - Your menopause questions answered (Part 2) - https://apple.co/4cx0MhW 💻Things to research: Approx. 50% of cardiac deaths are sudden cardiac deaths 50% - https://bit.ly/4juCffP 30 different plants a week study - https://bit.ly/3XIXORj To know more about ApoB, and it’s link to cholesterol - https://bit.ly/42mRL6b & https://bit.ly/426dVLe The Mind Diet - https://bit.ly/42p3zFd Mediterranean Diet - https://bit.ly/4cPqBKp To know more about the Carnivore diet - https://bit.ly/3RcMZmR & https://bit.ly/426xvqT Creatine and cognition - https://bit.ly/4j8sd4e Impact of creatine on depression and CBT - https://bit.ly/3G401AL Impact of creatine on bone health for menopausal women - https://bit.ly/4cuahym & https://bit.ly/424KxoD Impact of creatine on sleep deprivation - https://go.nature.com/4cvR0wC Simon’s Prebiotics - 38TERA - https://bit.ly/4caa96Q 🦋If this conversation has raised some uncomfortable feelings for you around eating and food, these are some great resources to find support: Eating Disorders Families Australia - https://bit.ly/3TLU7J5 The Butterfly Foundation - https://bit.ly/48YCSZe 🩷If you want A Little More Imperfects, join our Patreon to get just that - www.patreon.com/theimperfects 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Trauma ran through Courtney Ugle’s family - until it ran into her. CEO and founder of Waangkiny, as well as a football superstar, Courtney is on a mission to transform her adversity into resilience, power, and love. In our Vulnerabilitea House, Courtney answers the question, “what childhood challenges best prepared you for adulthood?”, diving into how she copes with the loss of her greatest source of unconditional love and support, and how this drives the work that she does today. In conversation with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Courtney speaks to the raw intersection of grief and joy, and what it is like to realise that the only person coming to save you, is you. Courtney, we can’t wait to have an oat magic with you soon. If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/G_Rdt1EhA0U If you would like to host your own Vulneratilitea House, you can purchase the cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 💻 Things to checkout: Waangkiny - https://www.waangkiny.com 📺 Things to watch: Once Were Warriors - https://bit.ly/3XPMxyJ 🚨If you, or someone you know, has experienced or is at risk of domestic violence, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you’re feeling unsafe, call 000.  🩷If you want A Little More Imperfects, join our Patreon to get just that - www.patreon.com/theimperfects 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au This episode of The Imperfects discusses domestic and family violence. If these topics are too much for you right now, then we suggest you skip this one and come back when you're ready.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Chances are, you’ve supported someone going through a tough time. And while the meaning sustains the sacrifice, today we want to support you ….. supporting them. A bit of support inception, if you will. To guide us through this incredibly complex and meaningful topic is our resident psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove. Navigating relationships requires awareness. Showing up as a partner, friend, parent, or sibling while holding space for pain – without being overwhelmed – is a skill that takes practice. Reminding us that no one hates their struggle more than the person suffering, Dr Em delves into some practical strategies of support, such as walking the line between respect and care, as well as always understanding the difference between effort and capacity. To all of the supporters and carers listening, we see you. We love you. And we hope you felt held, too. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3XILzEe To pre-order Dr. Em’s book Unstuck, click here - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2 🎧 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Dr Emily - Resent Less, Live More - https://apple.co/4hZiVWx Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - https://bit.ly/42phpsh 💻Things to check out: Carer Gateway - https://bit.ly/41UEJhA 🩷If you want A Little More Imperfects, join our Patreon to get just that - www.patreon.com/theimperfects 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is PART TWO of our chat with footballer, coach and uniter of people, Danielle Laidley. We HIGHLY recommend you go back and listen to part one if you haven’t heard it (linked below). In this episode, Danielle recounts how it felt to be publicly outed, her own voice removed as the media crafted their own narrative about her identity. A story of courage, resilience and love, Danielle vulnerably shares with Hugh, Ryan and Josh how she united her two worlds, and found the strength to live authentically for herself, and become a role model for others. To watch the entire interview with Danielle on YouTube, click here - https://bit.ly/3FJ8Lw2  📖 Things to read Don’t Look Away - Danielle Laidley - https://bit.ly/3XrTkyo 📺 Things to watch Revealed - Danielle Laidley: Two Tribes - https://bit.ly/3R8X6ct ☎ If you need support after listening to this episode, these are a few great places to start: QLife - 1800 184 527 Rainbow Door - 1800 729 367 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Danielle May Laidley was known by a different name for the first 53 years of her life. We are so proud that this episode is a contributing factor to her reclaiming her narrative as a transgender woman. An extremely talented AFL footballer, Danielle would go on to become a highly respected coach, always keeping within arm’s reach the version of herself which felt most authentic. Danielle’s story, in its entirety, is so incredibly important that we had to split it over two big and special episodes. In this first part, we are introduced to phase 1 of her life: the footballer, the husband and the coach and with an addictive personality that caused her to become tough, fierce and obsessed with footy. Danielle discusses with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh the strict compartmentalisation of the different parts of her life during her AFL career, and the terrifying risks she took to satisfy the cravings to be her authentic self. You can watch the entire interview (Part One and Part Two) on YouTube, here – https://bit.ly/3FJ8Lw2  🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Mick Fanning - Riding The Waves of Loss - https://apple.co/4hNT0RN 📖 Things to read Don’t Look Away - Danielle Laidley - https://bit.ly/3XrTkyo 📺 Things to watch Revealed - Danielle Laidley: Two Tribes - https://bit.ly/3R8X6ct 🖼️ If you want to join out patreon A Little More Imperfects, go to www.patreon.com/theimperfects ☎ If you need support after listening to this episode, these are a few great places to start: QLife - 1800 184 527 Rainbow Door - 1800 729 367 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s been a big few weeks since Hugh released his Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People (episode linked below). If you haven't heard it, it’s best to listen to that before you listen to this episode. Today we wanted to catch up and reflect on whats happened since. Hugh shares some beautiful messages, and Josh asks, practically, how we can show less judgement and more empathy to neurodivergent people and the people who care for them. Then, Ryan does some quick maths to fact check Hugh’s claim to reply to every single message he’s received since the Open Letter went live. We are so profoundly grateful for every message of love and support. Love, The Imperfects xxx 🎧 If you want to listen to Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People, click here - https://apple.co/4l4kw0m 💻 If you want to watch this full chat on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/wFrlUkqR8y4   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Get excited, it’s finally Steve Curry* day. Actor, comedian, and expert hole digger (you bet we snuck this in here), Steve joins us to share his personal and professional epiphany: a ‘collaboration realisation’ his lightbulb moment about teamwork, success, and the power of vulnerability. In our Vulnerabilitea House, Steve answers the questions ‘When was a time you genuinely needed help? Were you able to ask for it?’, and discusses the joy of working in a team where success is a joint effort. This is such a joyful episode, Steve, we are definitely friends for life (can you hook us up with Helen too?) *not the basket baller If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4iv72IO 🦁 Things to check out Helen Carmichael - https://bit.ly/4hv90YU  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Clinical psychologist Dr Julie Smith has a gift for explaining complex ideas in under a minute (which is GREAT for new-age attention spans). With over 4.8 million TikTok followers, two best-selling books and a glowing endorsement from our own Dr Em, having Dr Julie join our Academy of Imperfection is nothing short of a dream. In this episode, Dr Julie reframes the feeling of overwhelm, helping us to see it as valuable information about how we might not be meeting our needs, rather than something to fear. Then, it’s all about confidence, baby. Getting into the nitty-gritty, Ryan and Dr Julie redefine failure, showing how confidence isn’t just built from successes, but from every experience – good, bad and (luckily for Hugh) the awkward. Oh, and did we mention she’s Dr Em approved? Smithy, we’d gladly talk to you forever. If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4iwtFwz  🫖  Imperfects episode mentioned in this episode Missy Higgins - Quitting Music, Depression & Connection - https://bit.ly/4fVM8Bo 📖 Things to read: Open When by Dr Julie Smith - https://bit.ly/4hq7y9T Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before by Dr Julie Smith https://bit.ly/3FkC2wH  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This is an open letter to parents of autistic and neurodivergent people. It may be confronting. Please take care when listening. Love, Hugh See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hannah Diviney is one of the most powerful people in pop culture. At just 25 years old, the author, advocate, and actor hasn’t just called out Lizzo for using an ableist slur—she also took on Queen B herself. And she succeeded on both fronts. Which, once you get to know her, isn’t surprising at all. In our Vulnerabilitea House, Hannah reflects on the questions: “How do you see yourself? Is it the same way your loved ones see you?” Answering with incredible vulnerability, Hannah shares how her relationship with her disability has evolved over time and what it was like growing up in a world where the Paralympics seemed like the only visible marker of success. We talk to Hannah about being a part of intimate television history, and Ryan, the love doctor, Shelton manifests a Brad (or Stewie, or Chris, or Michael-Angelo) in her future. Hannah, we are so desperate to be your friend. To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/41vzALg 🫖 Imperfects episode’s mentioned in this episode Grant Denyer - Self Worth Was Worth Fighting For - https://apple.co/4fyvmsj 🎟️ Things to go see Audrey at the Melbourne Women in Film Festival - https://bit.ly/4bvMHkq 📺 Things to watch Latecomers - https://bit.ly/4kBLFaG Hannah’s speech at the National Press Club - https://bit.ly/3QJPzQZ 📖 Things to read I’ll Let Myself In by Hannah Diviney - https://bit.ly/3DjeffZ The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today, Dr Emily talks about hope. And in a world where things can feel a little bit hopeless, this really couldn’t have come at a better time. In contrast to all of our understanding up until this point, hope is not an emotion. Expertly defined by Dr Emily, hope is a belief. And most significantly, it can be learned, and it can be cultivated. Psychological mic-drop. This episode delves into strategies for creating both a sense of collective and individual hope, and in a discovery which happens to be VERY on-brand for this podcast, Dr Emily talks to the significance of vulnerability and connection in living a hopeful life. We hope you enjoy this one as much as we did. If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/41j0pT1 📚To pre-order Dr Emily’s book Unstuck, click here - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2 🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Dr Julia Baird - An Awe-full Conversation - https://www.theimperfects.com.au/episode/dr-julia-baird-an-awe-full-conversation/  📖 Things to read Martin Seligman - Theory of Learned Hopelessness - https://bit.ly/3EY1oR2 Rick Snyder - Hope Theory: Rainbows in the Mind - https://bit.ly/4bAbu6Z Jamil Zacki - Hope for Cynics - https://www.jamil-zaki.com Robyn Walser - Heart of ACT - https://amzn.to/4izIv5x Barbara Frederikson - Reflections on Positive Emotions and Upward Spirals - https://bit.ly/3EY2yfl Nick Cave’s letter - https://bit.ly/3ETlr2O Victor Frankl - Man’s Search For Meaning - https://bit.ly/4iizuNM 💻Things to check out Dacher Keltner’s work - https://bit.ly/3XfJpfe Obama’s ‘Hope’ poster - https://bit.ly/4kgkvG4 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Matthew Murphy, front-man of the iconic UK band The Wombats, joins us in our first VulnerabiliTea House of 2025. In this episode, Murph answers one of life’s most terrifying questions, “In what ways do you fear you could negatively impact your children?” He also shares his experience with panic attacks, anxiety and depression and is extremely honest detailing how alcohol became a crutch. Becoming sober, which Murph describes as the best decision of his life, was not easy.  Murph goes into detail about what the withdrawal process was like and how he began to find joy in activities again. Murph, thank you for soundtracking our youths (and current lives), and thank you for this incredibly helpful conversation.  If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4i6hRRi  💿 Things to listen to: Love Fame Tragedy (Murph’s solo project) - https://apple.co/432zLQP The Wombats new album Oh! The Ocean - https://apple.co/4gNrgvV Enjoyed this episode but want a little more? Good news, we have a brand new show called A Little More Imperfects over on Patreon! Visit: www.patreon.com/theimperfectsIf you would like to receive a weekly Vulnerabilitea-mail newsletter, where you can answer this question yourself, click subscribe on our website www.theimperfects.com.au The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s time for Announcement Number Three! A brand-new Imperfects Live Show (!!!!!!). That’s right, we’re going on the road again. In October, November, and December of this year (2025), we’ll be performing a brand-new stage show, around the country! It’s gonna be bigger, it’s gonna be better, and we promise we won’t let Hugh (or Chat GPT) write the show. All responsibility will henceforth be given to Random Word Generator! We would love and adore to see you there! 🎟️ Click here to get your tickets – https://bit.ly/3EHPYkj  If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3CYoOF8  If you would like to subscribe to A Little More Imperfects, click here – www.patreon.com/theimperfects 🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Psychologist Maria Ruberto is back to talk about one of the most important parts of our day: sleep. Starting off with the biology of sleep, Maria takes us through how we get to sleep, what happens when we sleep, and why we desperately need to sleep for good health and longevity. With metaphors galore to make the science as relatable as possible, we discuss the role of melatonin, the impact of screens on our suprachiasmatic nucleus and whether it’s worth cutting your sleep short to exercise? In more practical terms, Maria shares what sleep hygiene actually looks like, and, to Hugh and Josh’s relief, how hormones released during parenthood act to buffer against sleep deprivation. So set your sleep alarms, get comfy, and tuck yourself in for a BIG episode! Sweet dreams x If you would like to watch this full video on YouTub, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4htdJLj If you’d like to subscribe to our Patreon, A Little More Imperfects, sign up here: Patreon.com/theimperfects 🫖 Other Imperfect’s episodes mentioned in this episode: Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://apple.co/4e2Io05 Dr Emily - Social Anxiety, They’ve Got It Too - https://apple.co/3COk1pd 💻 Things to check out: Salutegenics Psychology - https://bit.ly/3WuhOFG Resilience First Aid - https://bit.ly/4dEYzQT  Matt Walker’s Website - www.sleepdiplomat.com Matt Walker’s QQRT assessment - https://bit.ly/4b0ErbF 🎧 Things to listen to: Jerry Seinfeld - The Tim Ferriss Show - https://apple.co/3CQc6Iv 📖 Things to read: Why We Sleep by Matt Walker - https://bit.ly/3COHNSv Michael Mosley’s Research - https://bit.ly/3WVkdKC Resilience First Peer Reviewed Research - https://bit.ly/3CB53n5 📺 Things to watch: Professor Jeff Ilaff - TedTalk on Sleep - https://bit.ly/3QhgB1G Matt Walker - REM sleep psychosis - https://bit.ly/4gJmv6J Matt Walker - MasterClass on Dreaming - https://bit.ly/3CQMkUs 💤 Melbourne Sleep Labs: *please note, some of these require a referral from a GP or specialist Alfred Health - https://bit.ly/42SKw80 Monash Health - https://bit.ly/3ECiLGM Epworth Sleep Centre - https://bit.ly/4hzylBI Melbourne Sleep Disorders Centre - https://bit.ly/4gDFcbS The Royal Melbourne Hospital Sleep Clinic - https://bit.ly/3ELbm7Y The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The stoke level is pretty high this week because we are joined by three-time world champion surfer, shark attack survivor, and maybe the nicest guy we have ever met, Mick Fanning. We had high expectations for this chat (we mean, it’s Mick Fanning), but he absolutely blew us out of the water with his humanity, compassion, empathy, and positivity in the face of incredible tragedy. Mick, we’ll definitely take you up on that offer of a surf (and lifelong friendship). To watch this full video on our YouTube, click here - https://bit.ly/3Er6W6g  To subscribe to A Little More Imperfects on Patreon, follow this link: Patreon.com/imperfects To subscribe to our newsletter, The Vulnerabilitea-Mail (which includes a reflective journalling question based on this episode), follow this link:  https://bit.ly/42bYguo 🎧 Things to listen to: Brooke Blurton - The Path of Most Resilience - https://apple.co/4e8XmkP Michael Klim - The Race of His Life - https://apple.co/40PZZ7s 📺 Things to watch Mick’s encounter with the shark - https://bit.ly/3CQa76V ⛳️Things to check out Mick’s Charity Golf Day (all proceeds are donated to communities impacted by the 2022 Northern Rivers Floods) - https://bit.ly/4eWUJnl  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Well, well, well. We’re (officially) back for 2025, baby! On Hugh’s agenda for today’s episode: nugatory chat, ghosts, general excitement for the new season and we also reveal THE SECOND BIG ANNOUNCEMENT! That’s right, The Imperfects are bringing you a new show. A Little More Imperfects, which can be found on Patreon, is bonus fortnightly episodes featuring everything that you know and love (Josh going deep, Ryan being hilarious and Hugh giving life changing advice / intense second hand embarrassment) PLUS early access to live show tickets and events and great discounts on our merch. So enjoy this sneak preview, and we can’t wait for the season ahead. If you would like to subscribe to our Patreon, follow this link - https://www.patreon.com/theimperfects If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube (and catch a glimpse of organised Hugh for the only time this millennia), click here - https://bit.ly/4hC4XKI 🎧 Things to listen to: Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://apple.co/4e2Io05 Janelle Booker - Living with ADHD - https://apple.co/41nL456 📖 Things to buy: Our new journal, My Imperfect Life - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 📃Things to subscribe to: Our newsletter, The Vulnerabilitea-mail - https://bit.ly/42bYguo  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s our last episode of Summer School, and today we welcome back clinical psychologist (and “clinical cousin” of Hugh and Josh), James van Cuylenburg. In this episode, James tells us EVERYTHING we need to know about our relationships… well almost everything…there’s a lot to cover. From attachment styles, to breaking trust, to learning how to own your feelings and navigating coupledom through life’s changing seasons. Getting into the nitty gritty, Hugh asks James about intimacy and what happens when you’re not…. having any. And how to start a conversation with your kids about pornography. Relationships make life worth living and whether they’re with an intimate partner, a friend, or yourself, they should be cherished and treated with care. James, we thank you for your guidance. If you liked this episode, and wanted to do some further reflection on it, each week our Vulnerabilitea-mail newsletter shares a question to get you thinking deeper. We’d love to hear from you, so please send your reflections in to the link provided. Subscribe here! If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://bit.ly/3WwDguJ   🎧Things to listen to James’ new podcast (that he makes with ANOTHER van Cuylenburg) You’re a Good Kid - https://apple.co/3E54MZR James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks - https://apple.co/3UYXmgt Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - https://apple.co/3Af9OB6 Chanel Contos - Consensual Healing - https://bit.ly/3RNKpEm 📖 Things to read Attached by Dr Amir Levine and Rachel S.F Heller M.A - https://amzn.to/3EeVDhe 💻Things to check out Teach Us Consent Website - https://bit.ly/3QVhlK0 Three Sided Pillar (triangle of happiness) - https://bit.ly/42kntmc 🚨If you, or someone you know, has experienced or is at risk of domestic violence or coercive control, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you’re feeling unsafe, call 000.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of our Summer School, we are joined by Sophie Walker, creator, and host of Australian Birth Stories. With over 17 million downloads, and 500 episodes, Australian Birth Stories podcast has been accredited by the Australian College of Midwives and has been instrumental in educating and empowering both people who are giving birth, as well as birthing partners. Hugh shares the incredible trauma and fear involved with his first experience of birth, and how tools of education and empowerment, such as Lael Stone’s excellent counselling, helped him prepared for birth a second time around. The power of information is invaluable, and Josh opens up about how Hugh’s experience with birth shaped his own, and what the experience was like for him. Sophie, it was such a pleasure. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/3sey26-L4Rw  🎧 Things to listen to: Australian Birth Stories Podcast - https://apple.co/4f3PgKx Lisa Wipfli’s episode - https://apple.co/3CZ34sx Lael Stone’s episode - https://bit.ly/3ZhaZZD Lael Stone on The Imperfects:  Creating Emotionally Intelligent Humans - https://apple.co/3V2vuIb Take Care of Yourself - https://apple.co/4eAJNuw Parent Yourself First - https://apple.co/3ZE28Tj Martin Heppell on The Imperfects: The Vulnerabilitea House - Martin Heppell - https://bit.ly/3ZerqqN Martin “Rac” Heppell - The other F word ….. FAILURE - https://bit.ly/4fUkDIk Jack Post - Natal Depression - https://apple.co/49AgxDb 💻 Things to check out: The danger of a single story TedTalk - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie - https://bit.ly/4f16DM5 Australian Birth Stories Birth Class Course - https://bit.ly/3BdMgxc 📖 Things to read:  The Complete Australian Guide to Pregnancy and Birth by Sophie Walker - https://amzn.to/3EscPQu  If you, or someone you know, is struggling with post-natal depression or anxiety surrounding birth, these are a few great websites we’ve found cope.org.au panda.org.au  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

B b b bonus episode! We proudly present to you My Imperfect Life: a novel journal written by you. That’s right, we’re releasing a book, but making you do all the work. With 100 questions inspired by episodes from 2024 on The Imperfects, My Imperfect Life is an introduction to vulnerability, allowing you to unpack your own imperfect life and be more vulnerable with yourself (because we know vulnerability with others can be A LOT). To celebrate the launch of My Imperfect Life, we are inviting you to a reverse book singing at Readings Emporium Melbourne on Friday January 31st at 5:30pm, where we want to meet you, the author (and perhaps get a photo with you too, and maybe an autograph if you’re not too busy). 🎟️ To buy a ticket to the Reverse Book Signing (which includes a copy of My Imperfect Life that you will pick up on the day), follow this link – https://bit.ly/4hh0tcl 📖 To just purchase My Imperfect Life, click here – https://www.theimperfects.com.au/shop/  📃 To become our penpal, join The VulnerabiliTea-mail, a weekly newsletter where we’ll send you one vulnerable question inspired by the current episode, to help you unpack your own imperfect life. Subscribe at theimperfects.com.au 🎧 Things to listen to Nathan Cavaleri – The Ups & The Blues - https://apple.co/42aTmh6 Michael Klim – The Race of His Life - https://bit.ly/4aiMyQr Rana Hussain – Belonging For Connection - https://apple.co/3NwftWC  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There will come a time for all of us (unless we REALLY make some improvements with bio-hacking) where we are faced with our own mortality. Who is at your hypothetical bedside? Are you happy with how you’ve lived? Do you have any regrets? In this Summer School edition of the Academy of Imperfection, we are joined by Bronnie Ware. Bronnie found herself in palliative care, caring for, and listening to, the dying. And boy, are we glad she did. Bronnie collated, and published, the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying (listed below for your convenience), and this episode is devoted to talking through what each of these might mean for Hugh, Ryan and Josh. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me I wish I hadn’t worked so hard I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends I wish that I had let myself be happier Perfectly timed for the New Year, we hope you get as much out of this episode as we did. Bronnie, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://www.theimperfects.com.au/episode/bronnie-ware-wha…r-future-regrets/ 📖 Things to read: The Top Five Regrets of the Dying - Bronnie Ware - https://bit.ly/4ghIKkf Bronnie’s original blog post - Regrets of the Dying - https://bit.ly/4f2nmPd From Strength to Strength - Arthur C. Brooks - https://bit.ly/3BlahT1 Strong Female Character - Fern Brady - https://bit.ly/3Vl5Uya Laughing Heart - Charles Bukowski - https://bit.ly/4g2DbGL 🎧 Things to listen to: Paul Kelly - I Wasted Time - https://bit.ly/4eZeWbc Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - https://bit.ly/48nT3Ax See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Quick heads up: Little Boy Christmas has a tenuous relationship with his parents, and therefore, this episode isn’t suited for kids. Have you ever wondered about Little Boy Christmas, the forgotten son of Santa and Mrs Claus? Nope, neither had we. That’s probably why he’s forgotten. Looking like an unbelievably shredded Dickensian orphan (you’re going to want to watch the YouTube for this one), Little Boy Christmas chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the physical and psychological pressures of being in the most famous family in the world.  A BIG thank you to Guy Montgomery who introduced us to Little Boy Christmas. All ad revenue from this episode will be donated to Guy Montgomery’s chosen charity of Auckland City Mission. Auckland City Mission responds to poverty, aiming to help people find permanent housing and food. If you’d like to donate, or check out what they’re about, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3VB0dfM 🎧Things to listen to: Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half - https://bit.ly/4gns2zX Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House - https://apple.co/40Y7HNs Guy’s podcast - The Worst Idea of All Time - https://apple.co/3DkUYKI 📺 Things to watch: Guy Montgomery’s Guy Mont Spelling Bee - https://ab.co/4izbmay 🎟️ Things to buy tickets to: I’ve Noticed So Many Things, It’d Be Unfair To Keep Them To Myself tour Australian Tickets - https://bit.ly/3DczzDx NZ Tickets - https://bit.ly/49BCuC4 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You may know Michael from Love on the Spectrum, or his podcast Mr A+, or even his appearance on Ellen – he’s done it all and has gained an incredible amount of wisdom on his journey so far. We’ve been doing this show for six years, and no-one has ever summarised it as well as Michael Theo: trying to be perfect is a wild goose chase. In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Michael about how he found his voice after growing up as a non-verbal kid, and instils on the guys some advice on how to handle nerves (and do some proper improv). Michael, we had an absolute blast. We’ll see you for a Yowie sometime soon. If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/eVtYKdJUpVU 🎧 Things to listen to: Mr. A+ - https://apple.co/3C3kS5i Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - https://apple.co/48nT3Ax Grace Tame - “Sexy, Scissoring, Autism!” - https://apple.co/404jXv7 Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me - https://apple.co/3yHdawf Jack Steele - Socials Anxiety - https://apple.co/41jNSjL Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD - https://apple.co/41nL456 Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House - https://bit.ly/40Y7HNs Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half - https://apple.co/4gns2zX 📺 Things to watch: Love On The Spectrum - https://ab.co/48r5iwb Austin - https://ab.co/4eYmvQl Michael’s Interview on Ellen - https://bit.ly/4eXRYBX Puss In Boots - The Last Wish - https://bit.ly/4foCuqF 📱Things to check out: Wable - https://www.hellowable.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today we welcome into the studio 7 time world champion surfer, and all-round legend, Layne Beachley. Layne, who had the self-described ‘compassion of a tiger shark’ during her competition days, has lived an incredible journey to learn how to love others, and more importantly, herself. Upon discovering that she was adopted, Layne internalised a fear of rejection and intense need to prove herself. What’s one way to prove yourself, you may ask? Becoming a world champion, no matter the cost. In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh talk to Layne about the narrative that she created for herself, and how this affected her self-worth, body image and relationships. There is SO MUCH good stuff in this episode, and we can’t wait for you to enjoy your day at the Beach(ley). Layne, you are an absolute legend. Thank you for your generous vulnerability. If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3VsnIrd ALSO if you would like to buy tickets to Josh’s gig (!!!!!) click here - https://bit.ly/3ZO6ojf 📖 Things to read: Awake Academy - Layne Beachley and Tess Brouwer - https://bit.ly/4fNThEh Beneath the Waves - Michael Gordon with Layne Beachley - https://bit.ly/410jgU2 From Strength to Strength - Arthur C Brooks - https://bit.ly/3VCaZTD Build the Life You Want - Arthur C Brooks and Oprah Winfrey - https://amzn.to/3ZpgFAK ☕️Places to get coffee (and find your laptop cover): Aegyo Cafe - https://bit.ly/3BqMNMi See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Johann Hari is a prolific author, deep thinker, and seasoned guest of The Imperfects. In this episode, Johann takes the guys on a deep dive into the Western food system, and how processed food has completely derailed our nutritional wisdom. Our relationship with food is a very personal one, and Johann and Josh get vulnerable about how they have used food to manage emotions. They discuss how vanity comes into play, the plethora of risks and benefits to the new weight-loss drug like Ozempic, and if their introduction of could derail any notion of self-acceptance. This episode does discuss eating disorders and suicidal ideation so tread carefully, and only listen to this episode when you’re ready. Johann, it is always a pleasure. This is a big and tricky conversation, and we thank you for having it with us. To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/2rcWI8zSOvE  🎧 Things to listen to: Johann Hari - The Importance of Connection - https://apple.co/4fE5V8n Johann Hari - Why You Can’t Pay Attention - https://apple.co/4flaoMG Johann Hari (P1 1) - How Can We Change? - https://apple.co/40liAIJ Johann Hari (Pt 2) - Why Do We Do What We Do? - https://apple.co/3UokTH2 📖 Things to read: The Magic Pill by Johann Hari - https://bit.ly/3NHoyw1 Johann’s other books - https://johannhari.com 💻Things to look into: Prof. Tracey Mann research into dieting - https://bit.ly/4eKbDEB Bee Wilson’s research into baby food - https://bit.ly/3ZtpklZ Dr. Paul Kenny research into the obesity - https://bit.ly/3ZbtZsm The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today we are introducing you to Jim Rogers, who, in amongst a wild and vibrant life, has been diagnosed with younger-onset dementia. So generous, and such an amazing storyteller, Jim tells us the three acts of his life, so far. The grief of losing his first love, the surprise of his second, and the shock of a dementia diagnosis at 55, this conversation left Hugh, Ryan, and Josh with an invigorated sense for the preciousness of life, love, and family. In Jim’s words, dementia strips you of the most important things: your memory and recognition of your loved ones, as well as your ability to make choices for your own wellbeing. Dementia affects the lives of more than 421,000 individual Australians, and countless family members, loved ones and carers. There is no known cure for dementia, however there are treatments for many of the symptoms. This episode is heart-breaking and heart-warming in the same breath, and we know you’re about to fall in love with Jim, just like we did. Special thanks to Hamish Macdonald, and the Dementia Australia team, who introduced us to Jim. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/MUk5ED2Ppug  🎧 Things to listen to: Hold The Moment - https://apple.co/3YCOjUz 📺 Things to watch: Still Alice - https://bit.ly/3YD5cyu 🧠 If you, or someone you know, has been diagnosed with Dementia, here are some great resources as a starting point: Dementia Australia Helpline - 1800 100 500 Dementia Australia - https://www.dementia.org.au The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How long have you been holding on to that grudge? Are you picturing that person or moment right now? Have you ever considered what a step towards forgiveness might look like? These are BIG questions, and thank God, Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is here to talk us through it all. In today’s episode, Dr Em begins by acknowledging that resentment is a normal human emotion. Phew. However, holding on to resentment for prolonged periods of time can have a serious impact on your physical and emotional wellbeing, as well as your relationships (just ask Hugh and Josh). Then we get onto the F-word. Yep, that’s right. We’re talking about forgiveness. And more specifically, how forgiveness is FOR YOU, and not about excusing behaviour. So get comfy, and enjoy the last of Dr Em for 2024. To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4i1FETt 🎧Things to listen to: Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life - https://apple.co/3yGPick Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8 Dr Emily - Truth v Harmony - https://apple.co/40pgYO7 📖 Things to read: Let Go by Hugh van Cuylenburg - https://bit.ly/4fpridx 💻 Things to check out: Fred Luskin’s research into Forgiveness - https://bit.ly/40DYgCC The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You may know Peter Bol as the 800m runner, who came fourth in the 2021 Tokyo Olympics and second in the 2022 Commonwealth Games. Or, if you’re Hugh, you may have hundreds of photos of Peter training. Wherever you are on the Peter-obsession-meter, we think you’re going to love this episode. Our chat with Peter starts in Sudan, where Peter and his family moved as a unit, through Egypt, before settling in Australia. They were chasing safety and opportunity, two values that continue to ground Peter through all of his sporting success. In 2023, Peter was on the most amazing upward trajectory, he'd just become the WA Young Australian of the year and things were looking good for the Paris 2024 Olympics. Then he was completely derailed with a false-positive drug test. Hugh, Ryan, and Josh talk to Peter about how he remained consciously grateful and resilient throughout the entire saga and was able to instil within himself such fundamental lessons around positivity, justice and mindset. Peter, we (Hugh) will see you on the track soon. To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4hC3CnP 🎧 Things to listen to: How To Write A Gratitude Letter - https://apple.co/3NGhccf 📺 Things to watch: Peter Bol’s 2021 Olympic 800m Race - https://bit.ly/4fhNPbS 📱Apps to download BBL - https://bit.ly/4hldXVd See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.