The Power of Going with the Slow (S19E9)

It's a sunny Saturday morning, and I've had a slow start. We're a little late recording this, but what's late? What's early? When there's no fixed time anyway.

I've talked about going with the slow before (back in Season 5), and I'm returning to it again because it's such a fundamental part of how I understand change. This time I'm exploring it through different lenses — the butterfly chrysalis, titration from trauma work, the alphabet between A and B.

In this episode, I explore...

• How we're conditioned to move faster through change when our internal mechanisms don't move at the same pace as external events
• The danger of leaving the slower parts of ourselves behind, and what it means to 'collect ourselves'
• Why small steps create lasting change — James Clear's Atomic Habits applied to deeper inner work 
• Beautiful disruption from my book The Heart of Change, and how subtle shifts in language can have profound impact 
• The butterfly chrysalis — if we strip it away too quickly, the butterfly can't survive
• Titration from trauma work — adding the solution drop by drop until reaction reaches completion, not rushing to resolution
• Why going with the slow isn't passive giving up, but attentive mindful recognition of what's changing
• The alphabet between A and B — we're so focused on the fastest route that we forget there might be a healthier, kinder path...

This approach builds our capacity, our resilience, and allows us to integrate changes sustainably. It's like taking one bite of an enormous meal at a time, stepping away from the table, coming back — making it deliciously nourishing rather than overwhelming.

I also share details about two offerings: 

• Join the mailing list for compassionate self-enquiry & intentional change
• Awakening Hopes and Dreams, a 5 week, small group coaching & Flow Journaling course beginning 26 March, 12.00-1.15pm (UK).

Settle in, and see where the episode takes you.