The Paradox of Help: Safety, Shame & Belonging (S18E04)
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Show Notes
Why do we sometimes refuse help, even when it might be exactly what we need?
In this episode I explore what happens when we’re feeling sensitised, sensitive, activated or triggered - and why even a simple offer of support can feel like a threat.
Together we look at the patterns that sit beneath our instinct to say no: the way our nervous system tries to keep us safe, how dignity and self-concept can override our needs, and why vulnerability can feel so exposing. And we explore the other side too - how accepting help can soothe the body, build trust, and deepen our sense of belonging.
This episode feels particularly important in our current times. A chance to build and deepen awareness of our ourselves and others.
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With love, Henny
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