Enhancing Sexual Intimacy: A Pastor Talks “Sex Tools”

Recently, my dear wife said to me, “Thank you for thinking about lube and vibrators.”

I recall that when I first suggested a “sex toy” she was hesitant. And that’s putting it kindly. I get it, we were taught that good people don’t use such things. We also got the message that using them would somehow hurt your sex life.

What made it an even harder sell was we technically didn’t need it. We were having mutually satisfying sex without a vibrator. It sometimes took more effort and time than either of us would like, but we managed.

In time, I talked her into trying a small egg vibrator. And it made sex better for both of us. We found it was a tool, and we all know the right tools make anything easier.

In the intervening decades, we have recommended various sex tools to a number of folks. The suggestion is usually based on a specific need or struggle. Most have tried what we suggest, and most of those report it was somewhere between helpful and revolutionary.

A few specific tools and how they can help:

• Egg vibrator: A versatile tool that can be used by you on her, her on you, or between your bodies during face to face intercourse. The between your bodies trick allows some women who normally can’t do so to orgasm from intercourse. You can grab one with a corded controller for less than $10. If you like it, I strongly recommend a quality tool with a remote control.
• If you get hard, but not as hard as you would like, or have difficulty staying hard, a penis ring can make a huge difference.
• If your length is a problem for her, the Ohnut Bumper is a must have.
• If she’s not feeling as much as she would like, or is feeling less due to menopause, an enhancement cream can help.
• If she struggles with doing manual or oral sex on you, a stroker can make it easier for her, and more enjoyable for you.
• Sex furniture can make sex more comfortable, or help you work around physical limitations.

If your wife is likely to be nervous about these things, don’t just buy one and spring it on her. Talk about the specific issue and a tool that could help. Or, if you just want to explore and try to make sex better, ask her to check out Married Dance with you. It’s a safe, no porn, Christian site. Unless she says “We need one of those” I’d suggest you make the first trip exploratory and don’t expect to buy anything. 

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