The Ex Girlfriend Recovery Podcast

Today, we’re going to talk about why your ex pushes you away. And most importantly, figuring out what to do if you are in a situation where your ex has pushed you away. Now, I originally got this idea after I was going through our private Facebook support group of which there are 6,300 members, both men and women trying to get their exes back. Most of the time I’m dealing with women who are trying to get their ex-boyfriends back. Very rarely do I have a woman try to get an ex boyfriend back who’s actually broken up with that boyfriend. In other words, most of the times the clients I’m dealing with have been broken up with. Very rarely do I encounter a client who’s done the breaking up themselves. So I thought this would be a really great opportunity to dive into the female psyche of what’s actually going through a woman’s head when they push you away. I’m going through the private Facebook group and I stumble across this woman’s post, and she said some really interesting things that I think will really answer why women tend to push men away, even if they want that man back. So let’s tackle the big question first, which is why do women push men away when they break up with them? What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back? Take the quiz Understanding Exactly Why Your Ex Girlfriend Pushed You Away Ultimately what we found happening a lot when we encountered women who would push men away during a breakup was this push-pull mentality. One minute they would often push their exes away, and then the next minute they would kind of flirt back with them and then push them away again and flirt back with them. This is really interesting behavior. What’s interesting is when I went through the woman’s post on our private Facebook group, she basically says, “I just want to share an experience where I was on the other side of the equation. I was the dumper, so that we could kind of understand why men react a certain way after the breakup.”” Now she’s writing this from the perspective of helping women, but I took it and I’m looking at it on basically someone’s honest opinion of what they went through when they went through a breakup. So in 2017, she breaks up with her guy after they’ve been together for seven years. She was absolutely sure of it. She knew for a fact, she wanted this breakup. She felt stuck. She felt suffocated in the relationship and she told him things that were not working out between them anymore. Now, while she did this, he was actually on vacation when she initiated the breakup. When he came back, her resolution for the breakup kind of melted away. So I’m assuming he came back into the picture after she exhibits this, I don’t want to be with you anymore, and tries to win her back. Just tries to beg for her back. And her resolution for the breakup kind of melts away.But when he asked me if I was going to change my mind, I said, no. At that point I just thought, if I were to ask him to stay while things were so emotional, the same thing might happen two months down the road. So I did not waiver. And to me, this is the important part of understanding why women end up pushing you away in situations where they are the dumpers. It all has to do with self preservation. Now I’ve long been a proponent of trying to help people understand that when it comes to relationships, we all are very self-interested. We don’t really care much about other people, and this is kind of a weird thing to admit, but we ultimately, all we really care about when it comes to our relationships, our romantic relationships, are how they are going to make us feel. Now it gets kind of complicated because someone who’s very philosophical can come and say, well, what about me? Because I care very deeply about what my partner feels. Well, I would actually argue that’s not the case. The only way you care very deeply about what your partner feels is weirdly enough if they feel bad, it makes you feel bad, because their opinion matters to you. So by making them feel better you in turn, weirdly enough, feel better, which is sort of a philosophical paradox in self-interest. So what’s interesting about this is if you look at someone pushing you away with the frame of mind that they’re being incredibly self-interested, they’re trying to protect themselves from being hurt, it makes a lot of sense. We often will talk about the emotional wall. Like I said, most of the time I’m dealing with women on a one-on-one basis. But one thing that I see a lot that is kind of universal among the human race is the idea of putting up the emotional barrier. We all have been there where we put up an emotional barrier, or we’ve been with someone who’s put up an emotional barrier. You can sense somethings off. You’ll oftentimes confront them about it and say, “A

Today we’re going to talk about how to get your ex back if you live together with them. So, if you stick around until the end of this article you’re going to learn, Some of the common pitfalls our clients fall into when they still live with their exes. Our five step process for getting an ex back in this exact situation. Enough talk! Let’s get to it. What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back? Take the quiz How To Get Your Ex Back If You Live Together With Them Situations where you’re living with your ex are always difficult, because a lot of the times, the situations or the game plan that we’ve created is designed for more general purposes, and what I mean by that is it’s designed for situations where you’re not living with your ex, where usually cheating hasn’t been involved, or there’s no long-distance situation involved, so a lot of the core basic concepts that we come up with on Ex Girlfriend Recovery really don’t apply to situational circumstances. This is actually one of the reasons why we have so many articles, because there’s so many nuances to getting an ex back in this situation or that situation, and living together is no different. But what we’ve done is we’ve come up with sort of a five-step process for getting an ex back if you live together, so very quickly, here are the things that we want you to do, and what I’m going to do after I list these things is go in-depth on exactly what I mean by them. Have A Plan For Moving Out Go Out With Other People Begin Limited No Contact Until You Do Move Out Shift Your Anxious Attachment To A More Secure One Institute The Value Ladder If this sounds like rocket science to you, don’t worry, I’m going to make it make sense, so let’s just start from the top. Step One: Have A Plan For Moving Out The big one is step one, being the plan for moving out. So this is actually a difficult thing to maybe hear, but one of the things that we tested when we first started Ex Girlfriend Recovery, and even our first website, Ex Boyfriend Recovery, when we saw situations where people were living together with their exes, we actually tried to get them to just simply use what you’re going to learn about later, a limited no contact rule, and the value ladder, and the value chain, and concepts like that, but what we quickly found out was they were ineffective. Almost always, the concept of the value ladder and the value chain, which we will talk about as step five, was a lot more effective when you weren’t actually living together, so we tried to… We decided a few years ago to try, for our clients who were living together with exes, to advise them, “Hey, if it’s possible, move away from your ex, move out of the situation entirely.” So we started advising people to do this, and almost instantly we saw much better successes. In fact, one of the situations that… This is maybe a bit of a tangent off-topic, but one of the situations that we were encountering early on that we were really struggling with was what do you do if you’re living together with an ex, and your ex is dating someone new? And almost by accident, we advised this client, it was actually a female whose ex literally was with someone else at the time that they were living together, we advised this client to move out, and it actually helped spur us to realize, hey, number one, moving out actually really works, it kind of levels the playing field, but number two, for this particular situation, we actually advise longer periods of no contact, which kind of we’ll talk a little bit about when we talk about the limited no contact and sort of the concept with that, so we almost kind of stumbled upon these two insights just from our very first person who we advised to move out. So really step one is create a plan, if possible, for moving out, so if you’re living together with your ex, you need to move away from them. Now, this may seem like the worst thing in the world, because I think a lot of the misconception is, “Well, if I’m living together with my ex, that’s such an advantage,” but we find it’s actually not an advantage, it’s a disadvantage, so many things can go wrong, so what we try to do is we try to level the playing field by advising all of our clients who are living together with an ex, if possible, because some people, it’s just not possible, if possible, move out, get your own apartment, become more independent, that’s step one. Step Two: Begin Going Out With Other People Step two is begin going out with other people. Now, most of the time, this is not what you think. A lot of times, I think the natural assumption is, “Okay, so Chris wants me to go out with other people, I need to start finding dates.” Well, yes and no, it doesn’t necessarily have to be dates. What we&#8217

Today, we’re going to be talking about how to act when you see your ex at work. This is actually a topic that I was shocked that we hadn’t covered before, even though I’ve definitely talked about it on Ex Girlfriend Recovery and talked about it in even my other website, Ex Boyfriend Recovery, I haven’t actually put a podcast episode or a YouTube video, or even an article specifically dedicated to this topic. So I thought this is the perfect time to do just that since it is an issue that we find a lot of people having. Now before I get into the nitty gritty of exactly how you should act and giving you tactical advice. The one thing that I do want to say is if you’re a newbie listening to this podcast, or you’ve never been introduced to Ex Girlfriend Recovery, probably the best place to start is first by figuring out what kind of chance you have of getting your ex back. Believe me when I say there’s nothing worse than trying to get an ex back when you really don’t have a chance of getting them back at all. Now luckily for you on our website, www.exgirlfriendrecovery.com, we put together a special free two-minute quiz that’s designed to basically tell you what kind of chance you have. So you know whether or not you’re wasting your time. What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back? Take the quiz How Do You Act If You See Your Ex At Work? I think the first thing that you need to understand is where you stand throughout the process that we teach. So if you’re not familiar, we have a very strict process that we’d like to have our clients go through when they are attempting to try to get an ex back or even attempting to try to get over an ex. And that process always starts at the same place. It starts with the no contact rule. Now, if you’re not familiar with what the no contact rule is, it’s like the ultimate buzzword for breakups. You can’t pretty much go to any expert out there without hearing about it. There’s always several differences between each expert. One expert will talk about the no contact rule and say do it for 30 days. Another will say do it for 90 days. We have our own version of the no contact rule, but it’s based on what we’re finding actually works out on the field. So the no contact rule, you kind of need to understand where you are at throughout the no contact rule. The rules for communicating with an ex at work is different. If you’re in a no contact rule versus if you’re not in a no contact rule. So that’s a key component. You need to first figure out where you are in the midst of no contact. Now I’m going to go out on a limb here and just kind of assume that the people who are most likely to be searching for this topic are not basically using a no contact rule. They’ve probably either never heard about it, or they have heard about and thought, “Well that sounds too hard. I’m not going to try that.” You need to try no contact rule. That’s always the first step, pretty much in every single situation that we’ve ever found. It’s a great first step for a lot of different reasons. I don’t want to get into them here since I want to stick to how to act when you see your ex at work and on the topic with regards to that. But I’m going to go ahead and kind of assume that you’ve not tried a no contact rule, which means you’re going to try it, right? So here are the rules for how you should handle no contact when you see your ex at work. So one of the interesting nuances between the no contact rule and seeing an ex at work is there’s no way to, “no contact an ex at work,” especially if you work together, especially if you’re guaranteed to see each other so that no contact rule actually becomes something that we call the limited no contact rule, which means you’re essentially going to ignore your ex in every way that you would with a no contact rule. The only difference there is when you’re forced to see them at work, you’re going to act in a very secure way and more on the secure sort of way in a minute. But one thing I want to kind of get into here is this concept that we’re noticing of the doomsday clock. Now I made actually a really good friend. One of the people that I decided to help on Ex Girlfriend Recovery became my friend. And he was a really brilliant guy and he is the one who kind of came up with this doomsday clock thing. And I asked if I could borrow it. And he said yes. What Do I Mean When I Talk About The Doomsday Clock? Well, one really interesting thing that we noticed with regards to people who try the no contact rule is they almost like look at the no contact as a doomsday timer, right? So as each day goes, it’s like another day that they’re closer to losing their ex. And we found that, that’s the wrong way to loo

Today we’re going to be talking about what to text an ex who hates you or dislikes you. Basically, you ended on very contentious terms and you’re trying to figure out how you can kind of bridge the gap and get a conversation started. Now, one thing that we’re going to talk about today in this podcast episode is the fact that we may have finally found a way to do just that, and we’ve been looking for a very, very long time. But first things first, if you haven’t already, make sure you stop everything you’re doing and take the Ex Recovery Chances Quiz that we have on our website here. All you have to do if you want to take this quiz is simply click the prompt below. It’s free. It should only take you two minutes. And by the end you should have pretty much a good idea on whether or not you should be trying to get your ex back or not, or simply be moving on in your particular circumstance. What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back? Take the quiz What Do I Talk About With An Ex Who Hates Me? So let’s talk about ex’s who really dislike you and you’re having trouble with texting them or starting a conversation with them. So, always we’ve talked throughout the years … So I’ve been doing this for maybe, almost nine years now, which is a pretty long time because I feel like it’s just yesterday since I started this entire business up. But my theory from the get-go has still proven to be the most effective one that we found, and that’s simply when you are going through a breakup and you determine that you want to get your ex back, the number one thing you should do, the theory that we have is to find a way to start a conversation with them, build value and move up the value ladder and the value chain. So what are the value ladder and the value chains? Well, basically the value ladder and value chains is this concept that I created to show you how different mediums occur in relationships, where you’re talking to them through text message, talking to them over the phone, talking to them in person and what you should be doing during those events. And also the different types of conversations you need to be having with them during those type of mediums of conversations that you’ve been having. I know it’s a little bit complicated, but if you actually go to our website, I’m going to put sort of a picture that sort of defines what this looks like visually and that should sort of clear it up. And if you’re wondering what our results have been, for the most part they’ve been pretty overwhelmingly positive, but we’ve always had one fly in the ointment, and that is contentious situations. Now, we all know that when you go through a breakup emotions are bound to run high. And usually when emotions bound to run high, you’re going to say things that you don’t mean, your ex is going to say things you don’t mean. And of course when you say these things you’ll think you mean them, and when they see those things they’ll think they mean them. And of course, with the barriers of communication being what they are, it just leaves an icky feeling. Eh. But what’s interesting is, we view ex-girlfriend recovery not as a one size fits all situation, but as an organic process that’s constantly ever evolving. And that’s something and sometimes really hard for people to wrap their minds around. See, a lot of people think that I have all the answers to their problems, that because I’ve created Ex-Girlfriend Recovery and seem to know what I’m talking about, that I know every single situation in the history of man and how to handle it. And the truth is, I don’t. I know a lot of situations and how to handle them to give you the best chances of success, but even in circumstances where you do everything right you can still fail. And that’s a really hard pill for a lot of people to swallow, but it’s just simply the truth. And I’m not in the business of disguising the truth. The truth is that you can do everything right and still fail. But there’s always been one really contentious issue that we’ve had, and that’s with issues where you and your ex are constantly fighting, you left on bad terms. How do you handle that? And for years we didn’t really recommend anything different for people who are in situations where … And let’s kind of structure it in levels. Let’s say level one is like you just get into a little petty disagreement and you breakup. Level 10 is like you’re throwing things at the other person, and they’re throwing things back at you and it’s just really bad. Right? How To Handle Extremely Contentious Situations What is the best way to handle those contentious situations? And after eight, nine years of doing this, we think we finally found a way to diffuse

Okay, so today we’re going to do something a little bit different. Now normally what I do is I leave kind of the phone lines open. I let people leave voicemails to ask me a question, and then I answer those questions, but I thought I’d kind of flip the script a little bit and let you behind the scenes into one of my coaching sessions. So right now there’s just this really awesome guy that I’m coaching. And I asked him, I said, “Hey, if there was one question that you wanted an answer to more than anything, what would that be?” And so he wrote down the question for me. I’m going to read it. And after I read it, I’m going to kind of riff, kind of give you an idea, because I read his question obviously before I started recording. And I think it’s going to not only tackle a lot of the emotions that happen after a breakup, but also a lot of the doubt and the worry, and sort of how you kind of have to embark on this program with not a lot of faith that you’re going to succeed in the end. And that’s really difficult to deal with. So without further ado, here’s his question. What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back? Take the quiz What Can I Do If I Feel Like Getting My Ex Back Is A Lost Cause? So I ask him real quick, “If there’s one question that you wanted an answer to you more than anything, what would it be?” Here’s his response. “I just totally feel that it’s a lost cause at this point, Chris. I’m speaking from my head and not my heart. She truly loves this guy and only calls me when it comes to money situations. She has acknowledged multiple times that he can’t keep up with her bills and lifestyle, but that she truly loves him. Today is my 40th birthday. And her and I were supposed to spend some time together and she said that wouldn’t be fair to the other guy. The writing is on the wall. And it’s time for me to walk away. She said that she feels he is going to ask her to marry him eminently, and she is going to say yes. So I guess I don’t have any questions. I think it’s overdue that I walk away and understand it. I lost.” Okay. So I’m actually just going to talk directly to my client now. So I don’t want that to throw any of you off because essentially what this is is sort of like a little bit behind the scenes coaching call, where no names are going to be used, and we’re just going to be dealing with the situation at hand. So here’s what we got. Taking Stock Of What I’m Seeing With Success Stories We got essentially a situation where you’re sitting there, not necessarily feeling sorry for yourself, but you’re kind of wallowing in the despair because so much seems to be going wrong. So here’s what in your head is going wrong. Number one, she’s moved on to another guy, which was sort of happening even before you and I met. Number two, you’re worried that he’s going to pop the question, but she’s even admitted that he can’t keep up with her bills and lifestyle. N umber three is you feel kind of just defeated. And so I’m not going to sit here and tell you what to do, but here’s what I will say. For the past few weeks I’ve been doing this really interesting thing on my other website, Ex Boyfriend Recovery. So you found me through Ex Girlfriend Recovery. Basically the whole website is teaching men how to handle breakups, what to do if they want their ex back, or even what to do if they want to get over their exes. But believe it or not, Ex Girlfriend Recovery started after Ex Boyfriend Recovery did. Ex Boyfriend Recovery was for women basically in the exact same scenario. Now the real big difference between these two websites isn’t the fact that, hey, one’s for men, one’s for women. It’s the fact that there’s a lot more women that search breakup questions than men. So when I look at the vast majority of the success stories, people who have gone through my program, gotten their exes back successfully, I have mostly women to draw from. And this is a little difficult because there’s a lot of men wanting hope. And I think that’s kind of what you’re looking for. The breakups, you’re going to go through many different phases of one minute you’re going to be angry, the next minute you’re going to want them back, then you’ll be angry again. It’s almost like you go through the five stages of grief and then you have a relapse again. I’ve seen that happen multiple times. But I think when we look at your situation, I actually don’t see it as that bad. So if you remember, when we first started working together, you were paying for all of her bills. She was living at your house, she was dating some new guy, and you basically drew the line. You said, “No more. I’m not g

Hey there and welcome to another episode of the Ex Girlfriend Recovery Podcast. Today, we’re going to be taking on one of the arguably, the most difficult situation you can find yourself in if you are going through a breakup and have decided that you want to get your ex girlfriend back. And that’s what to do if you have cheated on your ex girlfriend and your relationship has been extremely toxic. How do you overcome that? So we’re going to be hearing from a man named anonymous. He didn’t want to be named, who’s going to give us kind of a breakdown of his situation. And his situation is really, really heavy. There’s a lot going on there. In fact, generally speaking, when I post these voicemails I get, I usually only give people about a minute and a half to talk. He was still talking after that minute and a half. So I had to cut him off for brevity’s sake, but pretty much got what we needed to know to help him on what to do going forward. What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back? Take the quiz Without further ado, here is his message. His Ex Girlfriend Broke Up With Him Because He Cheated Me and my girlfriend been broken up for about maybe two months and a half, three. It all happened over a dumb fight. And we’ve been toxic, we’ve argued a lot. I’ve cheated because I was insecure and I thought she was up to no good. Then I found out the truth after she broke up with me, she wanted to tell me the truth. We had sex, but she’s like hot and cold and then now she hates me, spreads all these rumors about me in town and she’s dating some other guy who I guess has money. I don’t know if I’ll ever have a chance to get her back, I don’t hear from her, I haven’t spoken to her, I haven’t broken no contact. I think I’ve been in no contact for almost like a month and a half. I’m willing to at least talk to her and try to figure something out or, I don’t know, fix things, but I don’t think she wants to speak to me at all. I don’t think I have a chance at all. I don’t think she really likes me too much anymore. So I don’t know. She just went straight up cold and distant and just talk smack and I’m waiting for the gym to open so I could work workout. But we were together for basically like three years. We did everything together. Cook, hang out, play video games, everything. Now she’s just stuck up that guy’s ass and she won’t even take care of her son and she’s keeping like a fake image. Here’s How To View A Situation Like This Okay. So there’s obviously a lot going on here to unpack. And before I really start advising, I want to kind of explain to people how I typically view situations like this. So generally speaking, when I’m working with a client, the very first thing that always enters my mind is understanding that they are in a highly emotional state. And sometimes this emotional state can creep in sometimes in their explanations and I feel that’s what happened here. So what you’re getting, when … And just from the 30,000 foot perspective, so you can actually see how I handle situations like this. What you’re getting here as someone who’s in a highly emotional state that’s trying to quickly describe everything that’s going on, but they can’t really put concrete words to it. So you’ll notice his explanations are all over the place. He had a girlfriend who broke up with him for two and a half months, no, wait, three months. Then it happened over a fight, then cheated on her, then they slept together again, now she’s being hot and cold. Now she’s dating someone with new money. I haven’t heard from her. It’s been no contact from one and a half months. Doesn’t want to speak to me at all. We’ve been together for three years, he’s jumping all over the place. And it’s hard to kind of put a timeline on exactly what’s happened. And if we can guess when we’re looking at this situation is like putting it in a timeline. To me, I would say, “Okay look, they probably broke up. And the catalyst of the breakup is him cheating on her.” And then after that, they started talking again, back and forth and it looks to me like they had makeup sex or they had some type of rekindling, but ever since then, she’s been hot and cold. So he read about no contact somewhere, whether that’s on ex-girlfriend recovery or somewhere else and decided to implement it for one and a half months, but she hasn’t been reaching out to him at all. And now that he sees he’s been in no contact she’s with some other guy. So there’s a lot to unpack here. How To Work On Rebuilding Trust So I think the number one thing I would point out here is when you’re dealing with a situation with cheating involv

Today, like always, we’re going to be taking a listener question. Now, if you didn’t already know the format of the show is basically we take listener questions, we’ll take like a minute-and-a-half question, and then I just riff and give my thoughts on the situation based on what I’m seeing because I’ve dealt with so many breakups situations from people who want to get their exes back and even for people who want nothing to do with their exes. I give my best piece of advice to the person on how they should approach their situation going forward. Now, the number one question that people tend to ask is what kind of chance do I have of getting my ex girlfriend back? I think probably the better thing to do when you find yourself asking this question is to actually just hop over our website and take a special quiz that I put together that’s designed to answer this question for you. Now, all you have to do if you want to take that quiz is simply just stop everything you’re doing, go to Google or just type in your phone exgirlfriendrecovery.com. Then right there on the homepage, there’ll be a little ad to take this free quiz. The free quiz basically will give you an idea of where you stand with your ex so you’re not wasting your time, because believe me when I say there’s nothing worse than wasting your time in a situation where you really don’t have a great shot. Okay, with all of the precursor-type stuff out of the way, let’s actually talk about what we’re going to be talking about today. What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back? Take the quiz What Do You Do If Your Ex Girlfriend Has The Grass Is Greener Syndrome? What’s up, man? Long story short, since I only have 90 seconds, my girlfriend broke up with me about a month and a half ago. We were dating for two years. She just said that she seems really confused and she doesn’t know what she wants. At first, I thought there was another guy in the picture or another guy that she possibly started to like, but I know for a fact there’s not now. It’s funny because her behavior on social media, just you can tell that she’s confused. Even my friends are like, “What’s she doing?” She’s just posting a bunch of stories on her Instagram, which she never really has done before. I actually saw her a few nights ago and she came over and she gave me a big hug and was flirting with me. She just said she feels really weird, but even when she came over, it seemed like we weren’t even broken up. We still acted like a couple. I’ve been going no contact and it seems like every four or five days she’ll reach out to me and tell me she misses me and all that. Yeah, I’m just, I guess, just trying to give her her time and space and hopefully she figures out what she wants soon, but yeah, it’s just a confusing situation. If you have any input, that’d be great. Okay, let’s take it from the top. The first thing I like to do typically when people leave questions is to just summarize them so we’re both working from the same page. I was actually trying to pick a question, and for those of you who want to be featured on the podcast, my best piece of advice to you is to be clear and concise like this message. This message from Anonymous, you’ll notice he wasn’t all over the place. He spoke very clearly, he had a very good connection, and his question was something that I feel like a lot of people struggle with. Let’s summarize his situation. Him and his girlfriend broke up about one and a half months ago, so it’s been about 45 days since they broke up, after dating for two years. Now, the reasoning she gave for the breakup was pretty standard. She broke up with him saying that she’s confused and she doesn’t know what she wants. I have some thoughts on that, but I’ll save that for later. At first, he was worried there might be some other guy, but after some time he realized, no, there’s not some other guy. His ex-girlfriend seems to be acting very odd on social media, posting things that she typically didn’t post when they were together. He also said he’s trying the no-contact rule, but he’s also seeing every few days she’ll reach out to him. A few nights ago he actually saw her in person, she came over and said she feels really weird. They’re still acting like a couple and he’s just confused about the whole situation to begin with, and he wants my thoughts. Here are my thoughts, Mr. Anonymous. First things first, let’s go back to the start and talk about this breakup. Does His Ex Girlfriend Have GIGS? Typically, what I tell my clients is that when a girl breaks up with you, she’s not going to often tell you the real reason she broke up with you because she’s worried it will hurt your ego or hurt your fee

Today we’re going to be doing something a little bit unique. You see, most of the times when I start these podcast episodes I have a really clear idea of what I’m going to say whenever I take a voicemail from a listener. But today I listened to this voicemail from Brian, I believe his name was, and I came up blank on exactly what he should do. And I thought this is a perfect opportunity for not only me to challenge myself but for you to maybe get an insight into how my brain works and how your brain should be working if you’re going through a breakup. What makes Brian’s situation unique? Well, essentially he’s not only trying to get his ex-girlfriend back, he’s trying to get his Fiancé back. His Fiancé essentially left him, moved out of the state and blocked him. What is he going to do? Well, that’s what we’re going to try to organically come to a conclusion about today. But first things first, the number one question that I’m always getting on my websites and on my YouTube channel and even on this podcast is, “Chris, what kind of chance do I have of getting my ex-girlfriend back? Should I be trying to get my ex-girlfriend back or should I be trying to move on?” What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back? Take the quiz Why Did His Ex Fiancé Break Up With Him For Flirting? Hi Chris, my name is Brian. I’m a follower of your channel and I just had a quick question for you about my breakup. Me and my ex-fiancée have been together four years and we broke up two months ago because she found out that I had been talking to an old girlfriend online, an emotional affair type of thing. Never met up with her, never done anything with her outside, just had a short little conversation with her. She got mad, she moved out of our home, left the state that we lived in to go live with her sister, changed her phone number and blocked me on all platforms of communication. We’ve been at no contact for two months since this happened. I was wondering what the chances were of trying to rekindle this. I have to say that without a doubt Brian is in one of the most difficult situations that you can imagine. You see, one thing I always tell people is they need to get comfortable with this idea of no, embracing the no, embracing rejection, because ultimately rejection is where you learn but it also opens up some type of communication with an ex. If you reach out to them and they’re angry at you for example, that’s a lot better than you reaching out to them and they block you completely. Let’s get an accounting of Brian’s situation. Brian basically is trying to get his ex-fiancée back and she broke up with him because she caught him flirting with his ex. Now, the flirting with his ex maybe, he says there was nothing physical there so it seems like it’s more emotional support than anything. He says that he just had a short little conversation with his ex-girlfriend, but obviously this made his ex-fiancée mad. She moved out of state with her sister and blocked him. Now, I don’t know the extent of the block fully but we’ll get to that later. And essentially he’s wondering what are the chances to try to rekindle this? Let’s Talk About His Ex Blocking Him First Okay, there’s a lot to go on here, there’s a lot to unfold. And I think I’d like to first start with the blocking bit, because ultimately what you need to understand from what we’ve learned about when exes block you, it is almost always an emotional response to the breakup, that seems to be what happens here. Most of the times, I would say probably above 80% of the time, when you actually go through a situation where you’ve been blocked, guess what’s going to happen? Your ex will unblock you at some point. They’ll just get curious to see what you’re up to, they’ll just not be able to help themselves and they will unblock you. But I will say that there is also a percentage of exes who are, or subscribe to that theory of one and done, like, “Hey, this is it. You had your one chance and that will be it for everything,” and they won’t unblock you. Time’s going to have to tell to see which of the situations Brian has found himself in. Personally speaking I like to believe in statistics and the statistics do say that Brian’s ex will unblock him in any way, shape or form in the future or in some way shape or from, excuse me, in the future. It’s just a matter of being patient and waiting. Yet, what do we mean by wait? I mean, what happens if she has him blocked for a year? What does he do then? Well, it’s a good question. That’s where I’d like to maybe talk about the differences between a hard block and a soft block. A hard block is where your ex girlfriend maybe blocked you in every way you can potentially communicate with her. And a soft blo

Today we’re going to be listening to a question from a guy who would like to remain anonymous, but he has a really interesting question because it’s kind of all over the place. And so I kind of just chalked it up to him, trying to … or him being felt left reeling by the fact that his girlfriend left him for no reason. She gave him a few reasons, but he’s sort of confused and maybe doesn’t even believe her. But before I play his question, and I think everyone should be listening to what advice I give him today, because it’s something that is applicable to all relationships. I want to first talk about the Ex Recovery Chances Quiz on our website If you don’t know, on our website, Ex Girlfriend Recovery, we put together this special quiz that’s designed to help you understand whether or not you should be trying to get your ex girlfriend back, because I think we can all agree, there are definitely situations where people should not be trying to get their ex girlfriends back. So we put together this ex recovery chances quiz. It’s a simple, free, two minute quiz designed to basically help you understand that. Now all you have to do if you want to take the quiz, it’s super easy. Just simply go to the website Ex Girlfriend Recovery, and instructions on the quiz will be there. So with that out of the way, let’s talk and here from the anonymous person’s question. What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back? Take the quiz Mr Anonymous Asks; My Ex Girlfriend Broke Up With Me For No Reason I’m dealing with a breakup. It’s been about two months. My girlfriend broke up with me and said she needs to figure herself out. She’s not going to date anybody else. She’s going to leave our pictures on the bedroom wall, and she can’t give me a timeframe and doesn’t want to hold me back. I tried doing no contact. For about two weeks I made it, and I started texting her about once a week. We started some minimal conversation. I probably screwed up when I sent her a love book, which is like a cartoon thing that tells all the ways I love her, which I probably should not have. That overwhelmed her a little bit I think. And then she ended up cutting me off on Facebook and Snapchat. And now I’m trying to actually do no contact. Hopefully it’s not too late. I’m hoping to get back together with her. And I’m going to wait a little bit to talk to her and see what happens then. Yeah, she kind of left it open ended, so … Okay, there’s a lot to unpack here. So ultimately this person who left this question is kind of left reeling because he feels like his ex girlfriend left him for no legitimate reason. Though he never spells that out, you can tell he’s sort of confused about how he should approach things. So let’s talk about his situation or his breakups so that we can kind of get … take stock of it. And then we’ll get into kind of the advice portion and I’ll tell you sort of what I think is wrong and what needs to get fixed and his approach should be. So his ex girlfriend left him. She gave the reason, she needs to figure herself out, which is the most generic reason ever. And what we have here is kind of the ultimate litmus test of someone who’s tried the no contact. Maybe they heard about it online, but they only made it two weeks into no contact before breaking down. He started a bit of conversation with her through text, where she was somewhat responsive. And then he sent her a love of book. This overwhelmed her quite a bit to the point where she cut him off on Facebook and Snapchat. And now he wonders, is it too late? So what’s going on here? Understanding Sympathy Vs. Empathy I think what we have here is someone who is struggling with the concept of sympathy versus empathy. What do I mean by that, sympathy versus empathy? Well, what I’ve thought a long time ago … when I first started Ex Girlfriend Recovery … I believe I started it in 2013, so it’s almost been seven years now … I believe that the key to winning exes back, if that was what you wanted to do, was sympathy, was understanding their worldview and trying to make them feel better, trying to fix things. But that’s not what worked. That’s the beautiful part about being kind of tenured in this program. We’ve gotten multiple people to come through the program and we’re able to see really what’s working. And it isn’t sympathy. Sympathy is him trying to understand that she was unhappy in the relationship and sending a love book. He thinks this will make her feel better. It has all the ways in which he loves her, but it had the opposite effect he was hoping for. It overwhelmed her and she cut him off on Facebook or Snapchat. Now he doesn’t really specify what being cut off on Facebook and Snapchat is or means, but we can as

Welcome to another episode of the Ex Girlfriend Recovery Podcast. Today, we’re going to be tackling one of the most common questions that I tend to get, and you may be wondering after your breakup, which is the quandary of going through a breakup and having your ex girlfriend basically say, “It’s not you. It’s me.” We’re going to really dive down deep and explore what she means when she says that and what you can do about it. And in some cases, understanding or coming to the realization that there’s nothing you can do and being okay with that. So what I’m going to do, and if you don’t know, how this podcast typically works is I take questions. So basically, listeners of this podcast come, they’re able to film a quick question for me anywhere between usually a minute to a minute and a half. And I play the question, and then I answer it as organically as possible. But before I actually play the question from our listener, I would first like to say that if you’re going through a breakup, and you’re really determining whether or not you should be trying to get your ex-girlfriend back or really just moving on from your ex-girlfriend, probably the best resource that you can use is something called the Ex Recovery Chances Quiz on my website, www.exgirlfriendrecovery.com. It’s a simple two minute quiz designed to basically answer the question of whether or not you have a good chance of getting your ex back. And you can use that information to really determine whether or not you should be trying to get your ex back or should be focusing on moving on. What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back? Take the quiz A Listener Asks What It Means When An Ex Says It’s Not You, It’s Me? Hello, Chris? My question is the following. What does that mean when my ex… Or yeah, when a girlfriend tells you, it’s not you, it’s me? She says she is not in love with me, but she loves me. And how is that possible, from someone who loves you the previous month? And then the next month, they don’t love you anymore. Why is that? It’s not you it’s me. So first off, I want to say like always. Thank you so much for basically recording a question. I know sometimes it can be hard to put your heart out on the line and make yourself vulnerable, but you ask a really good. And the question is, what does your ex mean, essentially, when she says, “Hey, it’s not you. It’s me.” And what’s interesting is a few months ago, I actually wrote an article for Ex Girlfriend Recovery, entitled What She Says Versus What She Means. The article was entitled to be basically a starter article that, as time went on, I was going to add more to it, based on real life consensus from women. So if you don’t know, anyone who buys any of the programs that I basically have gets access to this special private Facebook support group. I believe there’s 4200, 4300 people in there, as of today. And what’s really interesting is it’s a really nice mix of women and men, but more so women because the group originally was started for women, and it gained so much traction and success that we opened it up for men. But what’s really cool is most of the time what I’m finding from our male clients who are going through a breakup, that get into the Facebook group, is they’ll actually use women to decipher, “Hey, what does it mean when my ex-girlfriend says this or this?” And so what’s interesting is that was kind of the approach I took when I was writing this article on what your ex girlfriend says versus what she actually means. And so essentially, what I did was I polled people in Ex Girlfriend Recovery and I asked them, “Hey, what is the five most important things that you want girls to decode for you?” What does my ex mean when she says this? And I came up with those five most important things, but what’s interesting is not one of them was, “Hey, what does it mean when my ex-girlfriend says, “It’s not you. It’s me.” But one of the things that men were wondering what women meant when they said it was, “Hey, what does it mean when my ex-girlfriend says that her feelings have changed for me, or she’s not into me so much anymore?” And I actually think that’s kind of close enough to what the it’s not you, it’s me type mentality that women have is. And what was really interesting is for pretty much all of the other four things that I had polled people that men wanted to know, there was a pretty clear consensus. Women were pretty united on what they thought. Maybe there was a couple of different meanings that women thought it could mean, but for the most part, it was pretty straightforward. Actually, you know what? It’s probably even helpful for me to just pull the article up for you,

Hey there and welcome to another great episode of the Ex Girlfriend Recovery Podcast. So if you don’t know how this podcast works, it’s pretty straightforward. I essentially take listener questions and answer them to the best of my ability. Usually these questions relate to breakups, wanting an ex back, trying to get over an ex, everything in that realm. And today we’re going to hear from a guy named Sebastian who has a question about jealousy, specifically, what kind of jealousy works, if you should use it and the personality types that it will work on. But before I actually do play Sebastian’s question, my recommendation for you if you’re going through a breakup is to first gauge your situation and figure out if you even have a chance of getting your ex-girlfriend back. And luckily for you, we put together a special resource on our website, which has been newly redesigned www.exgirlfriendrecovery.com. It’s a special quiz designed to tell you what kind of chance you have of getting your ex girlfriend back, it’s free and it only takes two minutes to take. So my biggest recommendation for any newbie out there who’s just starting to listen to the podcast is you stop by our website and take our quiz because it will give you the ultimate starting point for what you should be doing going forward. What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back? Take the quiz Sebastian Asks When It Is Appropriate To Use Jealousy On Your Ex? Hey Chris, this is Sebastian. It was actually difficult to come up with a question that you haven’t maybe previously answered in one of your podcasts, YouTube videos, articles, or even eBooks. So my question is, when is it appropriate to make a jealousy post for social media? A little bit of background about me. I dated for four and a half years, she fell out of love with me, and she broke up with me. Three weeks later, I successfully did a 30 day no contact and then we’ve been texting ever since. We’ve had 16 text exchanges so far, six of those she’s initiated, but I’ve gotten to the point to where I’m trying to build attraction, I’m sending some flirty texts and I’m getting neutral responses. And I even got a no response once. So I’m wondering if a jealousy post will help me cross that line to where she’d be more receptive of the flirting and the attraction text. Let me know what you think. All right, Sebastian, thank you so much for your question. There’s a lot to unpack here. So ultimately I want to kind of divide up this podcast episode into three distinct categories, which is, Is sending kind of a jealousy text message or trying a jealousy ploy a good idea? What types of personalities will jealousy actually work on? Because sometimes it can backfire. And then, what types of jealousy tactics or techniques should you actually be trying? The last time I actually wrote about jealousy was maybe about four or five years ago. And we’ve learned a lot more since then about what works and what doesn’t work. So let’s look at this podcast episode as kind of the more updated version behind what we’ve learned about jealousy. So let’s hit the ground running. Is Using Jealousy On Your Ex Girlfriend A Good Idea? And ultimately it depends. So, what do I mean by that? Well, I think a lot of people misinterpret jealousy because they only look at one singular strategy as the be-all end-all. We see this commonly with the no contact rule. You’ll hear people talk about the no contact rule and how important it is to use the no contact rule, but they have kind of this false belief that all they need to do to get your ex backs is just implement the no contact rule. And it’s a lot more complicated than that. Jealousy is kind of within that same category of complication. Jealousy where you’re finding is a great enhancer to your overall strategy assuming that you want your ex back. We do notice from interviewing many different success stories that there are many different factors that are patterns that the people who are successful are exhibiting that the people who aren’t successful aren’t exhibiting. So what are some of those patterns? Well, the first pattern we see is they’re using a no contact rule and they’re extremely disciplined with that no contact rule. Generally speaking, they don’t break it. The second thing is they’re using the time during no contact wisely. In other words, oftentimes you’ll hear someone who gets their ex back get to this place emotionally where they just don’t even care about getting their ex back. It’s almost like, “Hey, that would be great if I got them back, but I’ll live without them.” And achieving that frame of mind we’re finding is more and more important the more success stories we get a chance to interview, but we have also noticed a

Hey there, and welcome to another episode of the Ex-Girlfriend Recovery Podcast. We’ve got a real interesting one scheduled for you today where we’ve got a guy who’s asked a question about what his ex-girlfriend means when she says that they’re being too dependent on each other. Before I play Mr. Anonymous’s question, because he wanted to remain anonymous, I feel it’s important that if you’re listening to this podcast and you’re struggling through a breakup, probably the first thing you should figure out is whether or not you even have a chance of getting your ex-girlfriend back. What’s funny is actually the voicemail that I’m about to play literally ends with the guy asking, “Should I give up or not?” And a really great way to get a quick answer on if you should give up or not is to stop by our website and take our ex recovery chances quiz there on the homepage of the website. What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back? Take the quiz Anonymous Asks What His Ex Girlfriend Means When She Says He’s Too Dependent Hi, Chris. This is from Anonymous. But me and my girlfriend of three years, three and a half … just recently broke up … and she said that she wanted to find her own happiness, that we were becoming too dependent to make ourselves happy when we should be doing it on ourselves. And now that we’ve broken up, I really see what she means and says by all that, and we still care about one another. At one point in time, we were thinking about getting engaged, so it was pretty serious. I don’t want to walk away from it. She really does feel like the girl from me. She says I feel like I’m the guy for her, but we just were working on ourselves and trying to better, but she doesn’t want to give me a promise for a future because she doesn’t know the future or how long she’ll need. I really don’t know if I should just pack up and just move completely on or if I should try to work on myself and hope to win her back over and just any advice on what to do. I feel like I’m just stuck in limbo right now, but I appreciate it. Okay. There’s a lot to unpack here. Even though it’s not that long of a voicemail, there’s some really interesting things that we can talk about with his situation. And before I really do that, I want to give a quick synopsis of what’s going on here with him, really what he’s trying to get at. It looks like him and his ex-girlfriend were together for three and a half years, which is a long time. He didn’t really tell me their ages, but I’m assuming they’re probably somewhere in their mid 20s. It’s a relatively serious relationship, especially if they’re talking about getting engaged and things of that nature. They were together three and a half years. They recently broke up. His ex-girlfriend cited the reason as they were being too dependent on each other to make themselves happy. In other words, she is coming under the conclusion that being together is a function of not deriving happiness from the other person, but deriving happiness from themselves. He says they still care about one another. I’m assuming they’ve been talking ever since the breakup, and she seems confused about whether or not she wants to get back with him. Ultimately, the way I’m going to structure this podcast episode is by talking about what she means and what approach should he take. What His Ex Girlfriend Actually Means What does she mean, right? His ex-girlfriend literally sits there and says, “We’re being too dependent on each other,” for the breakup. But the trick is, I know what men mean when they say things a lot more easily than what women mean when they say things. Luckily for you, Mr. Anonymous, I called in my secret weapon to help you out. I thought I had maybe an idea of what your ex-girlfriend meant, but I don’t want to tell you anything without verifying it by asking real women first. And so if you don’t know, anyone basically buys any of my programs, the Ex-Boyfriend Recovery Program or the Ex-Girlfriend Recovery Program, get access to this really cool private Facebook support group community where there are over 4,000 members currently. Most of them are women because we haven’t really launched it to men yet, but we will. Don’t worry, Anonymous. We will launch it. Anyways, what I did is I basically took notes on your situation. I went to the private Facebook group and I asked the women there, “Hey, what does it mean when a girl says during a breakup that you’re being too dependent on each other?” And within about five minutes, I got one, two, three, four, five, six, seven responses, which is mind-blowing. What that tells me is that most women know exactly what it means and also they don’t tell you exactly what they mean in

Today, we’re going to be hearing from a listener named Daniel, who has an interesting situation. He’s in a long distance relationship and he sort of reeling from the breakup and as you listen to his voice message, you’ll notice that he’s a little noncommittal on whether or not he wants his ex-girlfriend back. It seems like, and this is a sentiment I can totally understand. It seems like he doesn’t want to put in the work if there’s not going to be a guaranteed result. And that’s probably the most difficult thing for a lot of people when they begin this process, whether they want to get their exes back or not. When they’re making that decision, a lot of it’s going to be based on, well, what are my chances? How good of a chance do I actually have? Is this going to be a waste of my time? And unfortunately getting your ex back from what we understand is an inexact science. In other words, there’s nothing I can say that will guarantee your chances of success. But what we can do, is lay out the options for you and give you a clear idea of what we think might be best for you in the long run. And Daniel is going to tell us about his situation in a minute here. But one thing I think is important to mention is, when you’re trying to make this decision of whether or not you should be getting your ex-girlfriend back, you should first figure out what kind of chance you have of getting her back. Now, luckily on Ex Girlfriend Recovery I’ve put together a special quiz. And this quiz is special because it’s designed to make you or ask you questions. And I want you to be brutally honest as you answer these questions. And then we’re going to take your questions, we’re going to run them through what we see between our success stories and the people who aren’t succeeding, and we’re going to spit out a score for you that will give you an idea of where you stand with your ex. So you know if you’re wasting your time or not. So if you want to take that quiz, it’s pretty simple. Let’s hear from Daniel! What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back? Take the quiz Daniel Wonders How To Get His Ex Girlfriend Back In A Long Distance Relationship “Hey Chris, my name is Daniel from San Diego. I recently got out of a relationship that was about a year and a half to two years long. And how it went about is, I was in a really tough spot emotionally, my dad passed away and I lashed out on other people through cynicism. And so, it ended up to the point where my girlfriend couldn’t really take it anymore. We were doing long distance by the way. And she just needed like, as she put it, to be selfish. So, I wanted your advice on whether or not I should try to give her the upper hand and say, she’s justified in doing that, and try to re-establish at least a friendship with her. Or if I should just let it go and accept that she wasn’t really justified in doing so. Just let me know. Thanks.” What To Do To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back In A Long Distance Situation All right, Daniel from San Diego. I want to talk about your situation quite a bit. Because there’s a lot of parallels that I’m seeing between the women who were trying to get their ex-boyfriends back through the Ex Boyfriend Recovery Podcast, and what you’re saying as you went through your breakup with your ex-girlfriend, right? So, let’s first recap Daniel’s situation. So, Daniel says that he recently went through a breakup after about one and a half or two years with his ex-girlfriend. And what he believes the catalyst for this breakup is, is the fact that his father passed away. And of course, this just devastated him emotionally and caused him to view the world in a very cynical lens, right? So, by doing this, he pushed his girlfriend away, and then he mentions an interesting piece of information that I think is essential. And that’s the fact that they’re long distance, right? And so, I actually think that can play into breakups a lot more than you would actually believe. And I’m going to explain that in a little bit. He also said that one of her reasonings when she broke up with him was that, she deserved the right to be selfish. And he’s wondering if he should tell her that she’s justified, and play into purposely friend zoning himself. So, there’s a lot to tackle here, but ultimately what I’d like to do is start by talking about some of the differences I’m noticing between men and women. So, as you probably have heard, if you listened to the first few episodes of this Ex Girlfriend Recovery Podcast, I also run another podcast that’s quite a bit bigger, on the bigger website Ex Boyfriend Recovery. Essentially thousands of women come every single day to the website, Ex Boyfriend Recovery, and basically try to get their exes back, their ex-boyfrien

Today, we’re going to be taking another listener question that we got. Actually, it was the very second question that we got when I actually started launching the podcast. And a lot of it is going to be focusing on the reasons why ex-girlfriends break up with you and what to do about them. So I’m going to play the question. It’s from someone who wanted to remain anonymous. What he said resonated with me because you could just tell the defeat in his voice. And what I’d like to do is by the end of this podcast episode give him and some of the listeners some clarity on what ex-girlfriends really mean when they say you’re being too pessimistic or that they’ve changed or that you should move on because that’s something that not a lot of women will really sort of tell you what they really mean by. What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back? Take the quiz What Does My Ex Girlfriend Mean When She Said That She Changed So without further ado, let me play Mr. Anonymous’ question. “My girlfriend left me a few weeks ago. She said that I was too pessimistic, which I suppose I was, but none of the reasons she gave were really a deal breaker in anyone’s mind, I wouldn’t think, and I haven’t contacted her since the breakup. And I still have deep feelings for her. And she said that she wanted to be happy, or she said she needed to do what’s best for her. And that’s why I let her go so easy. But since then it hasn’t been so easy, and I just don’t know what direction I need to take it. It’s been almost a month now since I’ve spoken to her, and none of the guides I’ve read have really hit my breakup specifically. And I was just looking for advice on that.” Okay. There’s a lot to unpack here. So what I’d like to do typically when I get questions is to sum them up so I can hit the bigger points and sort of help you. So the person who left this voicemail just had his ex-girlfriend break up with him a few weeks ago. He hasn’t talked to her at all since then. It looks like it’s been about a month since they’ve talked. And the reason she gave was, or initially that he was being too pessimistic, I guess, about the relationship. But ultimately she kind of backed that up a little bit by giving him other reasons for the breakup occurring, but none of those rules reasons were really deal breakers in his mind. So again, they haven’t contacted each other since the breakup. She said that she wanted to be happy and do what’s best for her, which is why he kind of didn’t fight for her. And what I think is interesting about this particular situation is the fact that we got a guy who’s struggling clearly, but hasn’t fought for the girl yet because he’s falling into this victim mode of thinking what is best for the girls that he backs up. And what I guess the thing that I would want to combat anyone who’s listening to this that they have is that anytime someone says that they’re going to do what’s best for them, or being away from you is what’s best for them, they really do mean it in the moment. That’s an important thing that a lot of people don’t quite understand. My Theory On Self Interest I’ve been a long proponent of the fact that human beings are self-interested. So especially when it comes to relationship decisions, they make self-interested decisions. In other words, they’re going to do what they think is best for them. So at this point of her life, your ex-girlfriend, Mr. Anonymous, she thinks that being away from you is what’s best for her. So your overall game plan needs to be, how can I take that preconceived notion and prove it wrong? And so what I thought I’d like to do is not only tell you how to do that, but also explain a little bit about what she meant when she said that you’re being pessimistic. And essentially what she meant when she say that she’s changed or something along those lines. And what’s really interesting is a few weeks ago, I actually wrote this article called What Your Ex Girlfriend Says Versus What She Really Means. Now. I don’t understand women like I can understand us guys because we’re guys, I’m a guy. I can pretty much understand, hey, this is what a guy is thinking. But women are still sort of a mystery to me. But one thing I’m lucky to have is actually a larger website than Ex Girlfriend Recovery. So a lot of you coming here and listening to this podcast are probably doing so on my website, exgirlfriendrecovery.com. And what’s interesting is exgirlfriendrecovery.com wasn’t the very first website I created in the relationship space. It was actually a website called exboyfriendrecovery.com, helping women try to get back with their ex-boyfriends. I think you can see where this is going. But what&#8217

Hello there, and welcome to our first official episode of the Ex Girlfriend Recovery Podcast. Today, we’re going to be talking about a situation where you think you really have a chance, but your ex girlfriend has moved on and is now dating another dude. We’re going to be talking about what the chances are of getting your ex back in that particular situation, as well as really what we’re seeing working and what’s not working when your ex girlfriend has moved on to another guy. And really, before I really get started, the first thing I want to always tell everyone who is starting this process out is you really need to figure out if you have a chance of getting your ex back before you even embark on the adventure of trying to get your ex girlfriend back. Luckily for you, we get asked this question so many times that on my website, Ex Girlfriend Recovery, I put together a special quiz that’s designed to basically answer that exact question for you and give you a few next steps on what to do going forward. What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back? Take the quiz Tom Has A Question About His Ex Girlfriend Moving On But this podcast, like many others of its kind, it’s going to be taking listener questions. And today, we’re going to be hearing a question from a man named Tom, who has an interesting situation where his ex girlfriend has moved on to another guy. But his ex girlfriend, now that she’s with the other guy has a bit of the grass is greener syndrome and is thinking maybe it’s not going to last with the new guy. So you’re going to get my thoughts on Tom’s situation, as well as exactly what I think he should be doing to give him the best shot of getting his ex girlfriend back. So without further ado, let’s just hear from Tom. “Hello. My name is Tom. My girlfriend and I broke up about nine months ago. And during that time she got with another guy, but it’s been rough for her. She says it’s been ups and downs. Recently we’ve reconnected over text and she said that she doesn’t know how long this is going to last, but hasn’t given me any indication. I told her that I really want to give it another shot, and then she started to ask me to help her sister with an issue, so I did. Then she started to send me some pictures over texts of just fun pictures of her, and then she was reminiscing our relationship, joking about how I have long hair now and she always insisted that I have short hair. So, I’m wondering what the chances are of us getting back together. Bottom line is she’s with a guy that she told me she doesn’t know how long it’s going to last, and then she’s given me these hints over text about reminiscing, and then sending me pictures of herself doing fun things like walking the dog. What does that mean? Do I have a chance? Thanks very much. Bye.” His Ex Girlfriend Said She Doesn’t Like The New Guy She’s With So Tom is in one of the more interesting situations that I’ve heard in a long time, and that’s where his ex girlfriend has moved onto someone new and has basically come back to him and said, “I don’t like the guy I’m with,” but she still hasn’t broken up with the guy. What’s up with that? It looks like her breakup with him was around nine months ago. He didn’t give us much details on what caused the breakup, which in my opinion or in my experience rather, usually there’s always a big catalyst for what causes a breakup when women initiate it. But I’d actually be interested to figure out if she initiated the breakup or he initiated the breakup. So she gets with this new guy, but she’s messaging him constantly saying that she doesn’t think it’ll last with the new guy, and what does it mean when she’s sending him pictures and everything like that? The Being There Method The first thing I want to point out to Tom is this concept of the being there method. This is a concept that we accidentally stumbled upon in our private Facebook support group, and that’s essentially we had a situation where my wife was essentially coaching this woman. T his woman had been in this situation where she had been broken up with by her ex boyfriend. I realize it’s not totally relevant here, but it’s the thing that we stumbled across that really makes the difference. She ended up coaching this woman and she asked for me for help. So this woman who had been broken up with by her ex boyfriend, her ex boyfriend had moved in with another girl and was with that other girl and living with her. She came to us and she was like, “How do I get him back?” Before we accidentally stumbled upon this technique, we would look at each other, my wife and I, and we would be like, “Let’s try this, let’s try this, let’s try this.” An

Welcome to the very first episode of the Ex Girlfriend Recovery Podcast. Today we’re going to talk about what this podcast will be, my vision for it and when you can expect episodes to drop, but first things first. After years of debating on whether or not I should have a podcast for my website, Ex Girlfriend Recovery, I’ve decided now is the time. So, What Is This Podcast? Well, this podcast is going to be taking many different routes on helping you go through your breakup, whether that’s you trying to get your ex-girlfriend back or you trying to move on from your breakup, or even you not really knowing what you want to do. We’re going to be talking about all areas of breakups that you can possibly imagine, the good aspects of them, the bad aspects of them. But most importantly, we’re going to be telling you exactly how you should be handling breakups from real life success stories. The First Type Of Content This Podcast Will Feature Well, it’s going to feature, in my opinion, three types of content. Number one is going to be the most common type, and that’s going to be listener questions. On our website, exgirlfriendrecovery.com, we have a special area designated where you can actually ask us questions and you can leave sort of a voicemail and ask us a question about your situation. Now, the one constraint I put in there is that the voicemail can be no longer than 90 seconds long. Sometimes people have a tendency to get wordy and, while I love having details, what I don’t love is having too many details. The episodes would be 50 minutes, if that was the case. What we recommend you do, if you want your question answered about your breakup and what you should do to get your ex-girlfriend back, or how you can get over the way you’re feeling right now, is to actually leave a voicemail on our website. Basically, all you have to do if you want to do this is just simply go to the podcast section on our website and we will get you taken care of. You can leave that 90 second voicemail and then, if your voicemail is interesting enough, or if it’s on a topic that I think I haven’t covered before, I’ll feature it. I’ll always make sure your name remains anonymous. I’ll even give you the choice on whether or not you want to name yourself. I’ll never say your last name. I’ll always, if you don’t name yourself, just say, “This is from anonymous,” or I’ll say, “It’s from Brett,” for example, if you wanted to be called Brett. It’s up to you, truly. That’s the first type of content you can experience here on the Ex Girlfriend Recovery Podcast. The Second Type Of Content This Podcast Will Feature The second type of content will be just natural ramblings of things I’m noticing are working in the ex recovery space. You see, a lot of people think that the art of reconnecting a couple after a breakup is sort of a set in stone type science where there’s one set of rules that work universally. But I have found the opposite is true over my past decade of researching this concept. What tends to happen over the years is that there’s certain trends and some things that we learn we couldn’t learn before because we didn’t have enough of a customer base to actually try things out on to see what was working. So every once in a while, I may do an episode where I just talk. I talk about, “Hey, I’ve had coaching clients and this is what we’re seeing is working.” I’m a big believer in not just being derivative with our conversations. I’m a big believer in always trying to add something new to the phrase that you always have something new to think about. Oftentimes what’s interesting is when you have real life success stories, you can learn about what they did and use those techniques on your clients and get them to see success. Sometimes some of the things we learn shock us. So every once in a while, when something like that shocks me, I’ll come on here and I’ll tell you about it. The Third Type Of Content This Podcast Will Feature The third type of content that this podcast is going to feature is interviews. I’m going to be going out and interviewing some of the best minds with relationships, self-confidence, basically anything you can imagine that I think will be helpful to you. Now, these interviews will tend to be about an hour long, and sometimes I’ll even interview our success stories, men who have gotten their exes back, or men who have not gotten their exes back, but have moved on, or even sometimes men who just want to be featured and sometimes have sort of a live coaching session over the podcast. We’re going to be giving a wide variety of content to you through this podcast and it’s really important that you pay attention to when these episodes come out. We’re trying to m