The DadDHD Podcast

Join Shane Thrapp of Creating Order From Chaos and Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions as we tackle the conversation most neurodivergent dads avoid: therapy. Not coaching. Not podcasts. Not self-help books. Actual therapy. We dig into why so many dads resist getting professional help, what types of therapy actually work for ADHD, autistic, and AuDHD brains, and why relationship therapy isn't optional when you're in a neurodiverse marriage. Learn about why therapy and coaching serve different functions and you probably need both, what CBT, EMDR, and DBT actually do for neurodivergent brains, how to find a therapist who actually understands ADHD and autism in adults instead of wasting your time and money, why the parent-child dynamic quietly takes over relationships when neurodivergence goes untreated, and how to start the conversation about couples therapy without your partner hearing "we're failing." You can find Shane Thrapp at www.creatingorderfromchaos.com You can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com

Join Shane Thrapp of Creating Order From Chaos and Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions as we tackle neurodivergent burnout and what it really means for fathers. Not the "I need a day off" kind. The kind where your brain and body hit a wall because you've been running at 200% just to meet baseline expectations. We break down the difference between burnout and depression, why they need completely different treatment, and what happens when your doctor can't tell them apart. Learn about why neurodivergent dads are especially vulnerable to burnout, how to start having real conversations with your partner about capacity, why asking for help is a strategy and not a surrender, and what actual recovery looks like beyond just pushing through until the next crash. Don't miss our personal burnout stories, why the wrong diagnosis can take you to a dangerous place, and why grieving the version of yourself that could power through everything is actually part of healing. You can find Shane Thrapp at www.creatingorderfromchaos.com You can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com

Join Shane Thrapp of Creating Order From Chaos and Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions as they talk about managing work life with ADHD, autism, AuDHD, and fatherhood. From the provider pressure their dads drilled into them to the careers they actually landed in, Shane and Braden get real about what happens when the work you do fights your brain and why that cost follows you home to your kids. Learn about why "just clock out" doesn't work for neurodivergent brains, what the wrong job actually costs someone with ADHD, Autism, or AuDHD and why building a real transition between work mode and dad mode changes how you show up for your family. You can find Shane Thrapp at www.creatingorderfromchaos.com You can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com

Join Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions as he flies solo for this one and shares his legacy origin story. He talks about the biological father who said "I can't" and walked away, the complicated and often abusive relationship with his stepdad, and the mom who stepped in and showed him what choosing someone actually looks like. Braden opens up about stepping into his stepdaughter's life undiagnosed, the anger he carried, and the moments he wishes he could take back. Learn about how undiagnosed ADHD shows up as anger in fatherhood, why breaking cycles isn't clean and sometimes you interrupt them imperfectly, and why the voices your kids hear in their heads long after you leave the room start with the words you choose now. Don't miss Braden's story about discovering at the passport office that he'd never been legally adopted, the choice he made to change his name for his son, and the comic books in the closet that could have changed everything. You can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com

Join Shane Thrapp of Creating Order From Chaos and Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions as we dig into masking—the pressure to perform a version of yourself that isn't really you to hide your ADHD or Autism. We talk about where masking starts (the "be a man" messages, the bootstrap CEO myth), how it shows up in our relationships and kills intimacy, and why we accidentally teach our kids to mask when we do it ourselves. Learn about the difference between strategic masking and masking out of fear, how to unmask safely with your partner without dropping it all at once, and why naming what's happening ("Dad's brain is having a loud day") teaches your kids more about emotional regulation than "I'm fine" ever will. Don't miss our conversation on how masking hits boys and girls differently, why emotions like sadness and overwhelm aren't "soft"—they're human, and how to break the cycle so your kids don't spend decades hiding who they are. You can find Shane Thrapp at www.creatingorderfromchaos.com You can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com 00:18 Welcome to The DadDHD Podcast + Today’s Topic: Masking as Neurodivergent Dads 02:00 Where the Mask Starts: “Be a Man,” Don’t Ask for Help, and Internalized Pressure 05:46 Provider Expectations, Burnout, and the Hidden Cost of Performing ‘Normal’ 07:04 Masking at Home: Why It Damages Intimacy and Relationships 09:01 Dating & Persona-Building: When People Fall for the Mask, Not You 10:24 Sensory Overload, Sex, and Having the Hard Conversations (Not Mid-Moment) 14:12 Unmasking Safely: Let the Real You Out Gradually with Clear Communication 16:42 How Parents Teach Kids to Mask (and Why It Hits Boys & Girls Differently) 22:31 Breaking the Cycle: Modeling Emotional Regulation and Naming What’s Happening 26:30 Strategic Masking vs. 24/7 Masking: Making It a Choice, Not a Default 30:37 Authenticity with Kindness

Join Shane Thrapp and Braden Young as they interview Brendan Mahan from ADHD Essentials. Brendan, the author of the upcoming book 'Overcoming The Wall of Awful,' shares his experiences of raising 17-year-old twins, the complexities of his childhood, and how they inform his parenting. The conversation covers fatherhood, ADHD strategies, the influence of upbringing, and key insights into maintaining a balanced family life while managing neurodivergence. Don’t miss Brendan's advice on fostering trust, effective communication, and navigating the challenges of OCD. You can find Shane Thrapp at www.creatingorderfromchaos.com You can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 01:13 Brendan's Childhood and Parental Influence 05:50 Parenting Philosophies and Challenges 13:06 Building Trust and Communication with Kids 17:45 Professional Experience and Its Impact on Parenting 21:29 Specialized vs. Generalized Treatment for OCD 22:02 Impact of Parenting Twins on Expectations 24:56 Sibling Dynamics and Social Challenges 29:55 Navigating Neurodivergence in the Family 32:59 Overcoming Parenting Challenges and Burnout 36:54 Advice for Parents of Neurodivergent Children 41:25 Conclusion and Resources

Join Shane Thrapp of Creating Order From Chaos and Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions as they break down why the traditional "walk it off" mentality fails neurodivergent kids—and what actual resilience looks like. Through a real story about Braden handling his autistic son's scraped knee at school, they explain the difference between teaching resilience and teaching kids to mask their needs. This episode challenges fathers to show up emotionally, not just provide, and offers concrete strategies for co-regulation that work with neurodivergent brains instead of against them. You can find Shane Thrapp at www.creatingorderfromchaos.com You can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com 00:25 A Personal Story: Handling a School Incident 02:53 The Impact of Traditional Toughness on Neurodivergent Kids 05:35 Understanding Sensory Overload 07:24 The Importance of Co-Regulation 10:00 Breaking the Cycle: Emotional Support from Dads 16:10 Reality Check: Imperfection is Okay 20:35 Challenge for Dads: Breaking the Trauma Cycle

Join Shane Thrapp of Creating Order From Chaos Consulting and Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions as they discuss the phenomenon of afterschool restraint collapse. Learn about the challenges faced by both neurotypical and neurodivergent children, the impact on parents, and why co-regulation is essential. Discover practical strategies for managing stress and fostering a supportive family environment. Tune in for expert insights into building routines that accommodate the needs of every family member. You can find Shane Thrapp at www.creatingorderfromchaos.com You can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com 00:00 Introduction: The Chaos After Work 01:24 Understanding Afterschool Restraint Collapse 03:40 The Reality for Parents 06:12 What Doesn't Work: Managing Afterschool Restraint Collapse 07:27 Effective Co-Regulation Strategies 10:43 Practical Strategies for Daily Life 15:36 Conclusion: Breaking the Cycle

Join Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions as he discusses a recent study from Washington University in St. Louis that reveals surprising findings about the effects of stimulant ADHD medications. The study examines how stimulant ADHD medications affect brain activity differently than previously believed. Key findings include the role of stimulants in enhancing arousal, wakefulness, and reward centers, rather than directly improving attention. The discussion also explores the implications for sleep hygiene and its connection to ADHD symptoms, and Braden talks about the necessity of sufficient sleep for children with ADHD. Check out the study from Washington University in St. Louis here: https://medicine.washu.edu/news/stimulant-adhd-medications-work-differently-than-thought/ For more information about Braden Young check out his website at: www.empoweradhdsolutions.com For more information about Shane Thrapp check out his website at: www.creatingorderfromchaos.com

Join Shane Thrapp of Creating Order From Chaos Consulting and Braden Young of Empower ADHD Solutions for our first official episode of The DadDHD Podcast. We talk candidly about our personal histories and our fathers, our experiences as fathers with ADHD and autism, our neurodivergent kids, and why we started this podcast. Learn about effective parenting strategies for fathers, advocating for your kids at school and with family, and setting routines that work for neurodivergent children. Don’t miss our tips on using timers for smooth transitions and the importance of co-regulation. You can find Shane Thrapp at www.creatingorderfromchaos.com, and you can find Braden Young at www.empoweradhdsolutions.com. 00:00 Introduction to The DadDHD Podcast 01:17 Personal Stories of Fatherhood 06:15 Challenges and Strategies in Parenting Neurodivergent Kids 14:47 Advocating for Neurodivergent Kids at School 26:18 Effective Routines and Transitions for Kids 33:21 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Welcome to The DadDHD Podcast. This is where we start. We're Shane Thrapp and Braden Young—two certified ADHD life coaches and neurodivergent dads who are tired of parenting advice that assumes everyone has a neurotypical brain. There's a massive gap between research and what actually helps you at 3 AM when your kid won't sleep and your brain won't shut up. We're here to bridge that gap. In this episode, we introduce ourselves, explain why this podcast exists, and lay out what you can expect. We're talking practical strategies, no misinformation, no "just try harder" BS. Just real help for dads navigating ADHD, autism, and related conditions—whether that's you, your kids, or both. We break down what each episode will cover: research news, deep dives on parenting strategies and spousal relationships, and interviews with experts who actually know their stuff. Our goal is simple—help you understand yourself better so you can help your kids better, and stop the cycle of misunderstanding and shame. This is for dads who need resources that don't exist yet. Let's build this together. You can check Shane out at Creating Order From Chaos And you can find Braden at Empower ADHD Solutions!