The Courageous Life

Welcome to Practicing Courage - a space where we are dedicated to exploring what it means to live well, and engaging in practices that support finding the courage to do so. To support your own exploration of these deep and personal questions, once-a-week I will be offering you a brief practice that will infuse storytelling, research, and tips for making the most of whatever tool or practice may be offered. You’ll be able to find all of these recordings here on the Courageous Life podcast feed under the mini episodes that have “Practicing Courage” in the title, or at https://www.practicingcourage.com/join-library, which is a free space where we are housing all of the practices over time. The hope being that are able to choose to access them in whatever way is easiest and most preferable for you.The micro-practices will vary widely in content coming from my own experiences of exploring these questions over my career - including conversations on The Courageous Life, teaching positive psychology and mindfulness, and my work as a coach.Today, we are kicking things off with:An introduction to this communityThe intention of offering a space like thisHighlights from the science of courageAn inspiring clip from a conversation with Amy EdmondsonAnd a simple 3-part practice for finding more courage in the midst of our busy day-to-day experiences as well as tips for how to make the most of it.Thanks for practicing with us!Find out more at https://www.practicingcourage.com/join-libraryAnd remember, courage is contagious. If you know someone who would benefit from today’s practice please share!Support the show

There is a metaphor that comes out of ancient wisdom traditions of a bird. One wing of the bird represents wisdom and the other represents compassion. In order to fly the bird needs both wings. Like the bird, as people and leaders, cultivating wisdom and compassion in our lives, and in our organizations may help us to realize our potential. This metaphor serves as the centerpiece of our conversation today as Dr. Leah Weiss and Jerry Colonna dive deep into the power of compassion at work.This episode is the third installment of a 4-part series showcasing leading researchers and practitioners who are exploring themes related to compassion, courage, and living with a more open, kind, and loving stance toward the world. The first two episodes featured Sharon Salzberg and Barbara Fredrickson, as well as James Doty and Jacinta Jiménez. In this deep and inspiring conversation Leah and Jerry share: Why they have infused compassion and mindfulness so centrally in their work with leaders and organizationsWhy empathy, safety, love, and belonging may be the most important qualities for leaders to focus onThe role of suffering and a broken heart in compassionate leadershipUsing work as a crucible for realizing our potentialThe power of asking open questions, slowing down, and listening deeplyHow to navigate anger in organizationsReflections and insights on opening the heart in difficult conversationsThe importance of kinship and recognizing our shared common humanity**Please note: In this conversation Jerry and Leah share past experiences related to acute mental health issues and suicide. There is a possibility that some may find parts of this episode triggering. Please listen at your own discretion and in a caring and supportive way for you. Additionally, if you or someone you know is experiencing mental health issues, including those related to suicide please reach out for help. The International Association for Suicide Prevention is one organization that offers lots of free support, helplines, and resources globally. You can find them at https://www.iasp.info/ **More about Jerry:Jerry Colonna is the CEO, and co-founder, of Reboot.io, an executive coaching and leadership development firm whose coaches and facilitators are committed to the notion that better humans make better leaders. For nearly 20 years, he has used the knowledge gained as an investor, an executive, and a board member for more than 100 organizations to help entrepreneurs and others to lead with humanity, resilience, and equanimity. Previous to his career as a coach he was a partner with JPMorgan Partners (JPMP), the private equity arm of JP Morgan Chase. He joined JPMP from Flatiron Partners. For more on Jerry please visit reboot.ioMore about Leah:Dr. Leah Weiss is a researcher, lecturer, consultant, and author. She teaches Compassionate Leadership at the Stanford Graduate School of Business. She is a founding faculty member of Stanford’s Compassion Cultivation Program. In 2019, she co-founded Skylyte, a company that specializes in using the latest neuroscience and behavior change to empower high-performing leaders and managers to prevent burnout for themselves and their teams. Leah has taught and spoken in over 75 organizations across sectors. Her work has been covered by news outlets around the world, including BBC, the New York Times, TED, the Financial Times, Harvard Business Review, and countless others. For more about Leah visit: https://leahweissphd.com/Support the show

For some time The Courageous Life has featured conversations with people who are leading the way when it comes to researching, practicing, and teaching about ancient virtues like courage, kindness, empathy, compassion, humility, and love. Together we have explored the intersection between ancient wisdom traditions and modern science; discussing insights, tools, and practices that can be used to help people live well in the reality of our busy everyday experience. Today’s guest, Dr. Stephen G. Post, is a trailblazer in this space. He has helped to push so much of this work forward through his leadership in the fields of medicine, positive psychology, and spirituality. As part of his groundbreaking work, Stephen founded the Institute for Research on Unlimited Love, which researches and distributes knowledge on kindness, giving, and spirituality. We'll dive into this and much more in today's episode!In this deep and wide-ranging conversation we explore a variety of highlights from Stephen's pioneering career including:A variety of stories that offer a glimpse into some of the key moments that helped to shape the work he is doing today, including the amazing origin story of how, with the help of Sir John Templeton, he founded the Institute for Research on Unlimited Love. Why we lose access to compassion and empathy in busy environments, and a simple 3-step process for counteracting this, which he uses with healthcare workers and medical students.Practices to develop our ability to listen more fully and deeply. Highlights from his work on giving - including why How much you give isn’t as important as how much kindness you put into the giving.Some of the most intriguing research findings on giving, kindness, and love.The backstory on how the field of positive psychology was founded, and how an evidence-based book of character strengths and virtues came to be.Insights from his work on forgiveness and compassionate caregiving.More about Stephen: Stephen G. Post, PhD is an international speaker, and best selling author of Why Good Things Happen to Good People. He is also a frequent contributor to major magazines and newspapers including The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, and Time Magazine. He has also been interviewed on major broadcasts, including ABC 20/20, Nightline, The Daily Show, John Stossel, “Talk of the Nation,” and The Mehmet Oz Show. He is the founder and director of the Stony Brook Center for Medical Humanities, Compassionate Care and Bioethics. A leader in medicine, research and religion. Visit him online at StephenGPost.com and UnlimitedLoveInstitute.org.Did you find this episode inspiring? Here are other conversations we think you'll love!Dr. James Doty - Into the Magic ShopDr. Daryl Van Tongeren - The Transformative Power of HumilityEnjoying the show? Please rate it on iTunes!Thanks for listening!Support the show

Marc Lesser is a speaker, workshop leader, and executive coach. He is the CEO of ZBA Associates, an executive development and leadership consulting company and has led mindfulness and emotional intelligence programs at many of the world’s leading businesses and organizations including Google, SAP, Genentech, and Kaiser Permanente. Marc helped develop the world-renowned Search Inside Yourself (SIY) program within Google - a mindfulness-based emotional intelligence training for leaders. He was also the founder and CEO of the Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute (SIYLI). He has authored 5 books. His most recent is: Finding Clarity (which we explore in depth in this conversation). Prior to his successful business and coaching career, he was a resident of the San Francisco Zen Center for 10 years, and director of Tassajara, Zen Mountain Center, the first Zen monastery in the Western world. For more on Marc please visit marclesser.netIn this episode:Marc’s inspiring story about his somewhat non-traditional career path, and how he found the clarity and courage to pursue itThe importance of finding time to get quiet, and the practice of listening to our inner voice that may offer insight into what will contribute to deeper meaningThe role of compassion and an open heart when it comes to performance and accountabilityHow to receive feedback more skillfullyInsights from helping to build the world renowned Search Inside Yourself mindfulness and emotional intelligence at GoogleMarc’s answer to the age old question, what’s the least amount of meditation I can do to get the most benefit?How to turn breakdowns, failures, and missteps into breakthroughsMoving from reactivity to responsiveness and how this can contribute to vibrant relationshipsSome of Marc’s favorite practices for cultivating an open heart and greater compassion in life and leadership Please rate the show on iTunes!Did you enjoy this episode? Here are two others we think you will find inspiring:Parker Palmer Part Two: Reflections on the Power of Living With an Open HeartTal Ben-Shahar: Letting go of Perfection and Finding HappinessThanks for listening! Support the show

Today we're continuing our four-part series on the power of compassion with a deep, insightful, and moving conversation between Dr. Jacinta Jiménez and Dr. James Doty. Each episode in the series will showcase a powerful duo made up of a leading researcher and practitioner who will explore themes related to compassion, courage, and living with a more open, kind, and loving stance toward the world. If you happened to miss the first installment in the series with Barbara Fredrickson and Sharon Salzberg you can go back and listen to it now. It's become one of the most popular conversations in the show's history and we hope you enjoy this part two conversation just as much! In today’s episode Jacinta and James will explore: How moving from fear to love can be a powerful catalyst for wellbeing, performance, and flourishing in life and workA personal story from Jacinta about the power of having someone who sees you, and creates spaces for belongingThe research backed benefits of belonging, compassion, and kindness The argument for compassion and kindness at work and how these qualities can both fit into, and enhance, performance culturesHow qualities like compassion, empathy, and altruism can be learnedTools for practicing compassion in daily lifeLeadership practices for creating environments of careAnd more!More about Dr. Doty:James R. Doty, M.D. is an Adjunct Professor and the Founder & Director of the Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education (CCARE) at Stanford University School of Medicine. As the Director of CCARE, he has spearheaded research projects on compassion and altruism, and their relationship to the brain. He is also an inventor, entrepreneur and philanthropist. He is the New York Times bestselling author of Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon’s Quest to Discovery the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart. Dr. Doty is also the senior editor of the Oxford Handbook of Compassion Science.More about Dr. Jiménez:Jacinta Jiménez, (also known as “Dr. J”) is an award-winning Stanford-trained Psychologist and Board-Certified Leadership Coach with a 20+ year career dedicated to the betterment of individuals, leaders, and top organizations in Silicon Valley and throughout the world. Sought-after for her expertise bridging the fields of psychology and leadership she regularly contributes to international news and TV outlets, including CNN/HLN, Business Insider, Forbes, Harvard Business Review, and Fast Company. Her book, The Burnout Fix debuted as #1 New Release on Amazon, has been recognized by Business Insider as a top book to read about burnout, and was the winner in getAbstract’s prestigious 2021 International Book of the Year Reader's Choice Award. More about Dr. J: drjacintajimenez.comLearn more about the Practicing Courage Challenge HEREDid you find this episode inspiring? We think you'll love these conversations too: The Power of Compassion: Part 1 with Sharon Salzberg and Barbara FredricksonDr. James Doty: Into the Magic Shop Thanks for listening!Support the show

Today's guest, Dr. Marc Brackett, is on a mission to educate the world about the value of emotions and the skills associated with using them wisely. “I want everyone to become an emotion scientist”, he says. “We need to be curious explorers of our own and others’ emotions so they can help us achieve our goals and improve our lives.”In this deep dive conversation, Marc and I explore themes from his book Permission to Feel as well as his broader work as a leader in the field of emotional intelligence, including:Some of his story and how events in his childhood including surviving abuse led to his dedication to the work he does todayWhy people so often suppress emotions and what happens in our brains and bodies when we doWhy it’s so important to ask people “how are you feeling?” and to genuinely listen to the answerThe story of his Uncle Marvin, and what he learned from him about the power of creating safe spacesHighlights from the biggest study he has ever conducted and the case for empathy, compassion, non-judgment, and good listening as life changing qualities for leaders, parents, and individuals.An introduction to the RULER skills (Recognizing, Understanding, Labeling, Expressing, and Regulating emotions)How he uses the RULER skills in his own life to navigate daily challenges, enhance wellbeing, and stay on track with goals that are important to himThe link between emotions and performance - why and how emotions matter when it comes to thriving teams and organizationsWhy giving people the permission to feel may be one of the most important things we can do to help people thrive at work and in life. More about Marc: Marc Brackett, Ph.D., is founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and professor in the Child Study Center, Yale School of Medicine. As a researcher for over 20 years, Marc has focused on the role of emotions and emotional intelligence in learning, decision making, creativity, relationships, health, and performance. His book, Permission To Feel, has been translated into 22 languages. Most recently, with Pinterest co-founder Ben Silbermann, Marc and his team co-created the Apple award-winning app, HowWeFeel, that was designed to teach emotion skills and enhance well-being. Marc is the lead developer of RULER, a systemic, evidence-based approach to social and emotional learning that has been adopted by over 5,000 schools across the United States and has reached over 4 million children. Marc regularly consults with large companies such as Google, Amazon, and Microsoft on best practices for integrating the principles of emotional intelligence into training and product design. For more please visit: https://www.marcbrackett.comDid you find this episode inspiring? Here are more episodes we think you’ll love!Dr. Jud Brewer - Is Curiosity is a Superpower?Kelly McGonigal - Finding the Hope, Connection, and Courage to TransformEnjoying the show? Please rate it on iTunes!Thanks for listeninSupport the show

Today we're kicking off a 4-part series on the power of compassion which will feature inspiring conversations between some of the world's most renowned thought leaders, researchers and practitioners. Each episode will showcase a powerful duo who will explore themes related to compassion, courage, and living with a more open, kind, and loving stance toward the world. We hope you enjoy this first installment with Barbara Fredrickson and Sharon Salzberg.In today's episode we will explore themes from Sharon’s new book Real Life: The Journey from Isolation to Openness and Freedom as well as: How Barb and Sharon began their work together How Sharon’s deep expertise on lovingkindness and contemplative practices have influenced Barb’s conception of love as a co created positive stateA new definition of love that focuses on micomoments of connection Why love is the state where the most learning, growth, and expansion occur and details on groundbreaking research that Barb and her team are working onSome of Barb’s and Sharon’s practical and research informed strategies for opening the heartSharon will offer an overview of Lovingkindness and some of her latest thinking on this ancient contemplative practiceWhy compassion and love are so important nowAnd more!Interested in Sharon's new book? Order it here: sharonsalzberg.com/reallife/More about Barb:Dr. Barbara Fredrickson is Kenan Distinguished Professor of Psychology and Award-winning Director of the Positive Emotions and Psychophysiology Lab at the University of North Carolina. Her research reveals how micro-moments of love and other forms of positivity nourish your health, wisdom, and longevity. One of the most highly-cited contributors to psychological science, Barb is best known for her broaden-and-build theory of positive emotions. Barb’s scientific contributions have influenced scholars and practitioners worldwide, in disciplines ranging from business to healthcare and beyond. Her work has been featured in the New York Times, The Economist, CNN, NPR, PBS, U.S. News & World Report, USA Today, Oprah Magazine, and elsewhere. She has twice been invited to brief His Holiness the Dalai Lama on her research.More about Sharon:Sharon Salzberg is a meditation pioneer, world-renowned teacher, and New York Times bestselling author. She is one of the first to bring mindfulness and lovingkindness meditation to mainstream American culture over 45 years ago, inspiring generations of meditation teachers and wellness influencers. Sharon is co-founder of The Insight Meditation Society in Barre, MA, and the author of twelve books, including the New York Times bestseller, Real Happiness, now in its second edition, and her seminal work, Lovingkindness. Her forthcoming release, Real Life: The Journey from Isolation to Openness and Freedom, is set for release in April of 2023 from Flatiron Books. Her podcast, The Metta Hour, has amassed six million downloads and features interviews with thought leaders from the mindfulness movement and beyond. For more on Sharon visit www.sharonsalzberg.comDid you find this episode inspiring? We think you'll love these conversations too:Sharon Salzberg - Mindfulness to Heal Ourselves and the WorldDr. Jud Brewer - Is Curiosity a Superpower?Support the show

Every so often a researcher comes along and changes the game. Named a Rising Star by the Association for Psychological Science, Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren is doing just that. A leading mind on the science of humility - his work and his new book Humble, have helped debunk many of the myths around this ancient virtue, explaining why humility is a powerful strength at home, at work, in leadership, and how it can lead to thriving relationships. In this wide ranging and deep conversation Daryl will share more about:The link between humility and authenticity (or feeling at home in our own skin)The myths and misperceptions about humility including that humility is a weakness. The relationship between experiences of awe, big nature, and humilityHumility as a skill - how you can learn to be more humble with dedication, practice, and feedbackWhy humility is best cultivated in communityHow to handle tough feedbackHow to use humility to stay open to learning, to empathy, and to compassionThe case for more humble leaders, why organizations need them, and why employees and teams value humility. And more!More about Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren:Daryl R. Van Tongeren, Ph.D., is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Hope College. As a social psychologist, his research focuses on meaning in life, religion, and virtues. He loves asking deep and enduring questions about what it means to be human (darylvantongeren.com). His research has been covered by the New York Times, Chicago Tribune, and NPR. In 2016, he received a Rising Star designation from the Association for Psychological Science. In his free time, he enjoys running marathons and surviving triathlons. You can learn more about Daryl's work at darylvantongeren.com.Did you find this conversation elevating? Here are more episodes we think you'll love:Tal Ben Shahar - Letting go of Perfection and Finding HappinessDr. Jud Brewer - Is Curiosity a Superpower?Enjoying the show? Take a moment and rate it on iTunesFor more on the podcast, and upcoming events and courses with Joshua please visit and sign up for the latest updates: joshuasteinfeldt.comThanks for listening!Support the show

Dr. Rick Hanson is a multi-time past guest on the Courageous Life and is back to discuss themes from his new book, Making Great Relationships: Simple Practices for Solving Conflict, Building Connections, and Fostering Love. In today’s wide ranging conversation with Rick we discuss:How to find a sense of calm strength, groundedness, and choice that can help reduce reactivity and improve our relationships6 guidelines for speaking wisely and in ways that foster more effective communication, feedback, and that improve our connection with othersHow to work with anger more effectivelyRick’s thoughts on how to keep the heart open and come from a place of love more oftenRick’s insights from his experiences as a teacher and author on how to connect with your your audienceSome of Rick’s favorite tips and practices for great relationships from his new book And moreMore about Rick:Rick Hanson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, Senior Fellow at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center, and New York Times best-selling author. His seven books have been published in 31 languages and have sold over a million copies in English alone. He’s the founder of the Global Compassion Coalition and the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom, as well as the co-host of the Being Well podcast – which has been downloaded over 9 million times. He’s lectured at NASA, Google, Oxford, and Harvard. An expert on positive neuroplasticity, his work has been featured on CBS, NPR, the BBC, and other major media. To pick up Rick’s new book, find out more about him and his work please check out rickhanson.netDid you find this episode inspiring? Here are more episodes you may love:Dr. Jud Brewer - Is Curiosity a Superpower?Rick Hanson - The Heights of Human PotentialEnjoying the show? Please rate it on iTunes!For Joshua's classes and events please visit joshuasteinfeldt.comThanks for listening!Support the show

After spending nearly 20 years in Corporate America, holding executive positions leading public and privately held companies, Shelly Tygielski decided to stop following the expected path and start following her lifelong passion – mindfulness and meditation – and began to fuse this passion with her purpose – community organization and ensuring equity, social justice and access to wellbeing for all.Her journey began by teaching free meditation classes Sunday morning on the sands of Hollywood Beach, Florida. What started as a group of 12 friends blossomed into a community of more than 15,000 in a matter of two years.When the COVID-19 pandemic hit, Shelly rose to the occasion. On March 14th, 2020, at the dawn of the crisis, she posted two simple Google forms online. One read “Get Help” the other “Give Help”. The next morning, she was shocked to find hundreds of requests from both sides of the equation. She began directly matching those in need with patrons willing to help them meet their needs and the Pandemic of Love movement was born. Those few hundred requests grew to over 600,000 people matched within six months. Today, Pandemic of Love boasts nearly 4000 volunteers worldwide, has directly exchanged nearly $100 million in donations and has connected over 4.5 million people. It has been featured on over 100 media outlets, including CNN's Heroes, BBC and The Kelly Clarkson Show.In today’s conversation: Shelly and I dive deeper into themes from our part one conversation including how the Pandemic of Love has grown and evolved since that time. Shelly shares more of the backstory on leaving her work as a successful executive in corporate America to become a full time meditation teacher, the courage it took to take the leap, and what led to her decisionIdeas and strategies for how to gain courage and clarity when faced with difficult and potentially life changing decisionsHow deep meditative states can lead to courageous action and other themes from her book Sit Down to Rise Up.Insights into how to lead and live from a place of love (particularly when it’s difficult)Why proximity is a catalyst for greater empathy, compassion, and building connection across divisionDetails on Shelly's new TV show with Debra Messing based on her work with Pandemic of LoveIf you’d like to learn more about Shelly and the incredible work she is doing please check out shellytygielski.com and be sure to pick up a copy of Sit Down to Rise Up: How Radical Self-Care Can Change the World wherever books are sold. Did you find this episode inspiring? You might love these past conversations:Shelly Tygielski Pt. 1 - Pandemic of LoveDr. Emilia Elisabet Lahti Pt. 2 - Gentle Power: Shifting the Way We Define True StrengthFor my upcoming classes and events, and all episodes of the Courageous Life please visit: joshuasteinfeldt.comEnjoying the show? Please rate it on iTunes!Thanks for listening!Support the show

At the time we recorded this conversation Shelly Tygielski was ten days into the creation of what has now become a global movement called the Pandemic of Love. During the onset of the COVID-19 pandemic Shelly found a way using simple google forms to connect people in need of groceries, diapers, money to keep the heat on etc, to those who could help them directly. What started out as just an idea sitting around Shelly’s kitchen table boasts nearly 4000 volunteers worldwide and has directly exchanged nearly $100 million in donations and has connected over 3 million people. The Pandemic of Love and Shelly were also featured on CNN’s Heroes. An annual show that features profiles of modern day heroes making an extraordinary impact for the collective good. Next week, in part two we will take a deeper dive into some of the theme’s from this episode as well as dive into themes from Shelly’s new book Sit Down To Rise Up: Find Yourself, Build Community and Change the World.In this episode Shelly shares:Her inspiring story of how and why she got into the work she is doing today as a community organizer, activist, and meditation teacherHow meditation has helped her to rise up in the face of adversity and challenges in her lifeWhat her meditation practice involves todayCoping strategies for dealing with fear and uncertainty related to COVID-19The incredible story behind the Pandemic of Love, why she started it, and how to get involvedShelly has also offered a brief meditation for dealing with uncertainty that you will find included as a BONUS mini episode of the Courageous Life. About Shelly:Shelly Tygielski has been hailed by individuals ranging from President Joe Biden to Arianna Huffington and Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn to Maria Shriver. She is the founder of the global, grassroots mutual aid organization, Pandemic of Love. Her work has been featured in over 100 media outlets including on CNN Heroes, The Kelly Clarkson Show, CBS This Morning, the New York Times and Washington Post. She is a trauma-informed mindfulness teacher and a Garrison Institute Fellow who has been called one of the “12 Powerful Women of the Mindfulness Movement” by Mindful Magazine. Shelly has taught formalized self-care and resilience at organizations around the world and is widely considered to be a self-care activist. She is happily married to her husband, Jason, and is the mother of a son she adores, Liam. In her free time, Shelly enjoys skateboarding, playing guitar and making craft cocktails. She and her husband are currently living a nomadic existence, moving to a new location every few months.Did you find this episode inspiring? Here are some other conversations you may love:Ian Hockley: Empathy: An Antidote For Our TimeAli Smith - Transforming Communities With Mindfulness (and Love)Enjoying the show? Please rate it on iTunes!Thanks for listening!Support the show

Often times gentleness and power can be seen as opposites, ideas or ways of being that may not go together. Today’s guest, Dr. Emilia Elisabet Lahti invites us to rethink this. Sharing a number of insights from her new book Gentle Power: A Revolution in How We Think, Lead and Succeed Using the Finnish Art of Sisu she argues that the intersection of these two qualities can be a catalyst for unlocking some of our greatest potential as people, and as leaders. In this episode:We dive into more of Elisabet’s journey including reflections from Sisu Not Silence, a 2400km run across the country of New Zealand which she did to help end the silence around domestic and interpersonal violence. Check out part one with Dr. Lahti (episode 69) for more much more of the backstory on this.She will share key discoveries she gained during the run as well as her martial arts training over the years, and how these insights and revelations were a key part of her research on Gentle Power as an elevated expression of SISU. We will also take a deep dive into gentleness (what it is, what it’s not, and why it matters)Being nice vs. being kind and why being kind is a training ground for gentle powerHow gentleness can transform into strength when it meets difficultyElisabet’s in the moment practices for cultivating gentle power in difficult conversationsQuestions to help cultivate self-awareness that may be the first step toward unlocking true powerThe importance of humility and how it relates to true powerAnd more!Pick up your copy of Gentle Power now and learn more about Dr. Lahti at sisulab.comAbout Dr. Emilia Elisabet Lahti:Emilia Elisabet Lahti, who goes by her second name Elisabet, is an awarded educator, applied psychology researcher, published author, and international presenter on topics of inner strength in times of adversity and transformation through self-leadership. Elisabet studied applied positive psychology at the University of Pennsylvania under the guidance of Dr. Martin Seligman and completed a PhD at Aalto University in Finland in which she pioneered the research on the Finnish construct of sisu (a psychological strength potential referring to extraordinary determination, courage and resoluteness in the face of extreme adversity). She is passionate about the study of human flourishing and cultivation of virtues, and to determine how these can be leveraged on a systemic level to promote worldwide change. Founder of Sisu Lab which builds communities and organizational cultures based on everyday leadership as expression of courage and compassion. Her work has been featured in The New Yorker, Business Insider, BBC, and Forbes. Originally from Finland, she’s taught internationally and given talks at Fortune 500 companies. You can find more more information and resources at www.sisulab.com.Enjoying the show? Please rate it on iTunes! For more episodes, podcast updates, and Joshua's event schedule visit: joshuasteinfeSupport the show

As we continue our kickoff of season 3 we are re-releasing our first ever conversation on the Courageous Life, with Dr. Emilia Elisabet Lahti. In celebration of her new book, Gentle Power, coming out next week we will launch an all NEW episode with her that takes a deep dive into themes from the book including why the intersection of gentleness and power may be the future of leadership. We hope you enjoy this before and after (or part one and part two) conversation with Emilia Elisabet!In this episode we explore:Sisu - what it is, what it's not, and Dr. Lahti's original research on this innate human capacitySisu Not Silence - a 1500-mile / 50-day running journey across the length of New Zealand for nonviolence and peaceHow Elisabet works with fearStrategies and approaches for accomplishing massive goalsSelf-compassion - how it can be an unexpected and powerful force for training How to effectively work with doubt and the inner criticHow to create safe spaces and why safety can help to unlock courageAnd more!About Emilia Elisabet Lahti:Emilia Elisabet Lahti is an awarded educator, applied psychology researcher, and founder of Sisu Lab and Gentle Power Academy, which build communities and organizational cultures based on everyday leadership as expression of courage and compassion. Her work has been featured by The New Yorker, Business Insider, BBC, and Forbes. Originally from Finland, she’s taught internationally and given talks at Fortune 500 companies, TEDx, Stanford University, and UC Berkeley. For more, see sisulab.com.Support the show

Welcome to Season 3 of the Courageous Life! We are kicking things off with the return of one of our most popular guests of all time, Parker J. Palmer. In today’s episode we explore Parker's reflections on: Living with an open heart - the benefits, the drawbacks, and why this can be a lifelong practiceHow to have effective conversations across difference and why letting go ego is a big part of thisThe power of cultivating more humility and curiosity in one’s life and in relationships (particularly when that might not be the easiest thing to do)Why honesty can be a prerequisite for compassionStories and practices related to how he has strengthened his ability to be open hearted over timeThemes from his new book, On the Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting OldThe beneficial effects of awe and "big nature"Parker J. Palmer is a writer, speaker and activist who focuses on issues in education, community, leadership, spirituality and social change. He is founder of the Center for Courage & Renewal, holds a Ph.D. in sociology from the University of California at Berkeley, as well as thirteen honorary doctorates.Parker is the author of ten books— which have sold nearly two million copies and been translated into ten languages. Some of his most popular include Let Your Life Speak, A Hidden Wholeness, The Courage to Teach, and Healing the Heart of Democracy. Parker’s work has touched the lives of millions of people around the world seeking to live more courageously and authentically while serving the human possibility. To learn more about Parker you can simply google his name, or you can check out couragerenewal.org or newcomerpalmer.com. Did you find this episode inspiring? If so, you might love these past episodes:Jerry Colonna - Leadership and the Art of Growing UpMark Nepo - Finding Inner Courage Where it LivesEnjoying the show? Let us know by taking a moment to rate it on iTunes. Know someone who might enjoy hearing the insights in this episode? Please do share with friends. Thanks for listening!Support the show

Parker J. Palmer is a writer, teacher, and activist. Founder and Senior Partner Emeritus of the Center for Courage & Renewal, he has written ten books, including the bestselling Let Your Life Speak, The Courage to Teach, A Hidden Wholeness, Healing the Heart of Democracy, and On the Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting Old. He holds a Ph.D. in sociology from the University of California, Berkeley, and thirteen honorary doctorates. In 1998, The Leadership Project, a national survey of ten thousand educators, named Palmer as one of the thirty “most influential senior leaders” in higher education and one of the ten key “agenda-setters” of the past decade. Since 2002, the Accrediting Commission for Graduate Medical Education has given annual Parker J. Palmer “Courage to Teach” and “Courage to Lead” Awards to directors of exemplary medical residency programs around the U.S. In 2010, Palmer received the William Rainey Harper Award, whose previous recipients include Margaret Mead, Elie Wiesel, and Paolo Freire. In 2011, the Utne Reader named him one of 25 Visionaries on its annual list of “People Who are Changing the World.” To learn more about Parker and his latest project, The Growing Edge, please visit newcomerpalmer.comIn this part one episode we explore: Some of Parker's personal story including challenges and adversities he has faced and how these have shaped his lifeWhat wholeness is and the courage it takes live an undivided lifeParker's insights about writing, speaking, and connecting with an audienceLessons Parker has learned about finding courage and working with fearThe power of reframing situations and circumstances one facesHow to listen deeplyFinding one's vocation in lifeHow to create conditions that foster courage in others And more!For Joshua's upcoming events and classes please visit joshuasteinfeldt.com Please rate the show on iTunes and let us know what you think!\For show notes and more visit www.joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastThanks for listening!Support the show

In today's episode Kevin Cashman shares his incredible story of dying, coming back, and what life and work for him are like on the other side of this experience. Kevin and I have a deep and wide ranging conversation that covers:What Kevin experienced when he diedHis road back to health and what key factors helped him most on this journeyHow Kevin's experience has shifted his perspective and deepened a sense of meaning and purpose in his work with leadersHis view on the importance of expressing appreciation and gratitudeHis take on the central question we have been exploring in the Courageous Life: "how do I keep my heart open when it begins to close?"Exciting new research on the importance of openness in leadershipThe 3 B's: A framework for keeping the heart and mind open to learning, connection, and growthAnd much more!**Please note that due to the nature and topic of this conversation it is possible that some listeners may find parts of the conversation to be upsetting or triggering. Please listen at your own discretion. Thank you.**About Kevin Cashman:Kevin Cashman is a best-selling author, CEO Advisor, and pioneer of the ‘grow the whole person to grow the whole leader’ approach to transformative leadership. He is the founder of LeaderSource Ltd, and the Chief Executive Institute® recognized as one of the top three leadership development programs globally. In 2006, LeaderSource was acquired by Korn Ferry, where Kevin is now Global Leader of CEO and Executive Development across 130 offices that touch the lives of 100,000+ leaders monthly.Kevin has advised thousands of CEOs, senior executives and senior teams in more than 80 countries worldwide. He has written six books including Awakening the Leader Within and Leadership from the Inside Out, named the #1 best-selling business book of 2000 by CEO-READ and is now used at over 150 universities globally.For more on Kevin please follow him on LinkedIn or visit cashmanleadership.comSupport the show

Michael Jordan credits George Mumford, a.k.a The Mindfulness Performance Whisperer, with transforming his on-court leadership, helping the Bulls to six NBA championships. As Phil Jackson’s ‘Secret Weapon’ George has also served as Mindfulness Coach to Kobe Bryant, Shaquille O'neal, and countless other NBA players. George’s passion is teaching mindfulness to high profile sports, business and academic teams alike; from the Los Angeles Lakers, Chicago Bulls and New York Knicks, to senior global executives and systems. He is the author of The Mindful Athlete: Secrets to Pure Performance. George also has The Mindful Athlete Course, which can be found at GeorgeMumford.com.In this episode George shares:More about his personal journey and how he came to work with Phil Jackson, Michael Jordan, and Kobe BryantHis perspective on what separates the worlds greatest performers from the rest of the packHow mindfulness and meditation can boost performanceInsights on Flow and finding 'the zone'A simple and practical mindfulness framework George calls the 4A's for enhancing wellbeing and performanceHis thoughts about the importance of being a better friend to one's selfWhy "trying" to make things happen can actually be a barrier to successPractical tips for growing courage and taking compassionate actionAnd more!Enjoying the conversation? Please rate the show on iTunes!Thanks for listening!Support the show

Jim Detert is the John L. Colley Professor of Business Administration at the University of Virginia's Darden School of Business, and perhaps the world's foremost expert on courage at work. His research focuses on workplace courage, why people speak up or stay silent at work, ethical decision-making and behavior, and other leadership-related topics. His research, teaching and curriculum development and teaching have won multiple awards at UVA and Cornell. His work is regularly featured in various media outlets. If you are interested in taking a deeper dive into his work, check out his new book. Choosing Courage: The Everyday Guide to Being Brave at Work. For more on Jim please check out jimdetert.comIn this episode Jim and I take a deep dive into the topic of courage and explore:What courage is and what it isn'tHow courage can result in living with less regretsThe tie between courage and becoming a better and more respected leaderWhy courage is not a character trait, and how it can be developed through practiceWorking with impostor syndromeThe contrast between aspirational and core valuesA behind the scenes look at an experiential lab where Jim and his team train people to be more courageousAnd more!Enjoying the show? Please take a moment and rate it on iTunes.Know someone who could benefit from the insights in this, or other conversations on the Courageous Life? Please share the show with them. For show notes and more please visit joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastThanks for listening!Support the show

Andrew Reiner is a professor at Towson University, where he offers the seminar “The Changing Face of Masculinity.” He has written on masculinity and men’s issues for the New York Times,Italy’s La Republica and the Washington Post Magazine, and his work has been featured on NPR and the Canadian Broadcasting Company, and in The Guardian, Men’s Health magazine, and Forbes. He speaks about masculinity regularly at schools and conferences nationally and internationally. In this episode Andrew shares themes from his new book, Better Boys, Better Men including:His story and the reasons behind his passion and interest in his workReflections on traditional messaging around masculinity and why much of this thinking is outdated and no longer serving many of today's boys and men.How he is thinking about healthy masculinity today Why vulnerability and asking for help are forms of strength, and how these qualities can promote greater courage and emotional resiliencyWhy living authentically is courageous and is at the core of his workUpdated research findings in neuroscience and child development supporting the need for a new vision of healthy masculinity And more!Enjoying the show? Let us know by rating it or leaving a review on iTunes!For show notes and more please visit joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastThanks for listening!Support the show

Dr. Sunita Puri is the Medical Director of the Palliative Medicine Service at Keck Hospital and Norris Cancer Center of the University of Southern California, where she also serves as Chair of the Ethics Committee. Sunita is the author of That Good Night: Life and Medicine in the Eleventh Hour, an acclaimed literary memoir examining her journey to the practice of palliative medicine, and her quest to help patients and families redefine what it means to live and die well in the face of serious illness. Her work has been featured on PBS' Amanpour Show, the Guardian, NPR, the Atlantic, Forbes, and People Magazine, which named her book the Book of the Week. She has also written for the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, Slate, and the Journal of the American Medical Association. For more, please visit sunitapuri.comIn this episode we explore:Sunita’s personal journey toward greater self-acceptance Why honesty is a form of kindnessHow curiosity can be a key factor in keeping the heart open in the face of difficultyStrategies for having courageous conversations about what really matters in lifeWhat death can teach us about living wellEmpathy - why it’s about asking the questions that need to be listened toA few of Sunita’s learnings about when to keep fighting, and when to let goThe role of courage in living a life without regretAnd more!Enjoying the show? Please take a moment and rate it on iTunes. Thanks for listening!Support the show

Melvin L. Smith, Ph.D., is a Professor of Organizational Behavior and Faculty Director of Executive Education at Case Western Reserve University's Weatherhead School of Management. Melvin's teaching and research focus on leadership, leadership development, executive coaching and the development and use of human and social capital in organizations. He is coauthor of the book Helping People Change: Coaching for Lifelong Learning and Growth. Prior to his academic career, Melvin spent nearly 15 years in a series of Sales, Marketing and Organization Development roles at a number of Fortune 500 companies including IBM, Pepsi and H.J. Heinz. In this conversation Melvin and I explore:What renewal is and why it's fundamental to thrivingHow we can navigate stress in uncertain times using practices of renewalEvery day practices for finding renewal, including meditation, deep breathing, and moreHow community and compassionate relationships support renewal and thrivingWhy negative emotions help us survive, and positive emotions + renewal help us thriveWhy questions are so powerful when it comes to pursuing your dreamsThe importance of having a dream, and pursuing it with intentionalityHow Melvin works with coaching clients to realize their dreamsThe 4 foundations of a courageous lifeAnd more!Enjoying the show? Please take a moment and rate it on iTunes. Thanks for listening!Support the show

Jeffrey Hull, Ph.D. is an author, educator and consultant with over twenty years experience partnering with C-suite executives on issues of high performance leadership, change management, organizational strategy, structure and culture. Dr. Hull is a highly sought-after facilitator, keynote speaker and executive coach to both non-profit and for-profit global organizations. Dr. Hull is Director of Education & Business Development at the Institute of Coaching, McLean Hospital, a Harvard Medical School Affiliate. He is also a clinical instructor in psychology at Harvard Medical School and an adjunct professor of leadership at New York University. For more about Jeff, and his new book Flex: The Art and Science of Leadership in a Changing World, please visit jeffreyhull.comIn this episode Jeff and I explore:The current landscape of leadership and who is rising to the topWhy agility and being able to flex your communication style is key to succeeding as a leaderPractical strategies that will help you to flex Stories of inspirational leaders Jeff has worked withVulnerability as a form of courage How to tap into creativity including practices that are supportive of innovationJeff's latest thinking on the future of leadership and why compassion is at the coreAnd more!Enjoying the show? Please take a moment and rate the Courageous Life on iTunesThanks for listening!Support the show

Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman is a humanistic psychologist exploring the depths of human potential. He has taught courses on intelligence, creativity, and well-being at Columbia University, NYU, and the University of Pennsylvania. He is interested in using his research to help all kinds of minds live a creative, fulfilling, and self-actualized life. Scott's writing has appeared in The Atlantic, Scientific American, Psychology Today, and Harvard Business Review. In his latest book Transcend: The New Science of Self-Actualization, he presents a new hierarchy of human needs for the 21st century, one that allows for the fulfillment of individual potential as well as the actualization of transcendent purpose and peak experiences. Scott also hosts the #1 psychology podcast in the world, The Psychology Podcast. To learn more, please visit scottbarrykaufman.comIn this episode Scott and I discuss themes from his new book Transcend, including:His deep interest in the Abraham Maslow's work and motivation for writing TranscendThe psychology of everyday saintsThe link between a "quiet ego" and self-actualizationAcceptance as a form of courage Practical strategies for living a more authentic and fulfilling lifeFinding meaning and joy in everyday experiencesHow setting personal boundaries can unlock a deeper capacity for compassionAnd more!Enjoying the Courageous Life? Please take a moment and rate the show on iTunes!Thanks for listening! Support the show

Have you ever thought about us and them thinking, judgment, tribalism, or blame as habits? If they are habits, can they be broken using the latest science of habit change? Dr. Jud and I dive deep into this question in this episode. We also explore: A 3 step process for habit change developed by Jud and his teamWhy Jud believes curiosity is a superpowerHow to rewire your brain for greater kindness, curiosity, and connectionThe key to adopting a growth mindsetWhat Jud's team found when they analyzed Anderson Cooper's brain during meditationHow findings from Jud's neuroscience lab can be used to build bridges, counter tribalism, and foster communityPractical ways to keep your heart open when it begins to closeHow mindfulness can be helpful in dealing with difficult emotionsAbout Dr. Jud: Dr. Jud Brewer is passionate about understanding how our brains work, and how to use that knowledge to help people make deep, permanent change in their lives — with the goal of reducing suffering in the world at large. He is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in psychiatry at the School of Medicine at Brown University. As an addiction psychiatrist and internationally known expert in mindfulness training for treating addictions, Dr. Jud has developed and tested novel mindfulness programs for habit change, including both in-person and app-based treatments for smoking, emotional eating, and anxiety. He has also studied the underlying neural mechanisms of mindfulness. He has trained US Olympic athletes and coaches, foreign government ministers and corporate leaders. His work has been featured on 60 Minutes, TED, Time magazine, Forbes, CNN, BBC, NPR, The Washington Post, Businessweek and others. You can find out more at drjud.comEnjoying the show? Please rate the show on iTunes or leave a review.Thanks for listening!Show notes and more can be found at joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastSupport the show

Samantha Novick is passionate about amplifying the voices of people with disabilities, creating connections and sharing kindness with others. She pursues these passions as a speech-language pathologist, owner of her private practice Bridge Therapy, and President of The Friendship Journey, a charitable organization that cultivates equitable friendships and experiences amongst people of all abilities. Samantha grew up in Parkland, Florida. After a violent mass shooting devastated her community, her passion for activism, social justice and philanthropy grew. Samantha is committed to honoring those who lost their lives to hatred through acts of love and meaningful action in their memories. This summer, The Friendship Journey partnered with Dylan’s Wings of Change of the Sandy Hook community to create a free virtual summer camp for teens and adults with disabilities through the Covid-19 crisis. Their camp motto this summer was “look for the good.” For more about Samantha please visit thefriendshipjourney.orgIn this episode Sam shares:Strategies for finding joy when times are hardHow she has developed a quality called equanimity, the ability to "hold it all", and how this has helped her during the pandemicThe power of self-care and why she was resistant to it at firstHighlights from Camp Wings of Friendship, a free virtual summer camp for teens and adults with disabilities she co-created this summerWhy acts of kindness may be a key to resilience and thrivingWhy "looking for the good" can be a life-changing mindsetAnd more!Please rate the show on iTunes!Thanks for listening!Support the show

Fred Guttenberg began his public life after the murder of his beautiful 14-year-old daughter Jaime in the Parkland school shooting on Feb 14, 2018. The day after the murder, Fred decided to attend a public vigil in Parkland. While there, the Mayor asked him to speak. His words shook a nation and he has not stopped since. Only four months prior to the murder of his daughter, Fred's brother Michael passed away in October 2017 from cancer related to his service in 9/11. He was one of the original first responders at the World Trade Center with a team of doctors who got trapped in the building as it collapsed. Amazingly, the room that they hid out in did not collapse and Michael and his team of physicians spent 16 days at ground zero taking care of others. Following his involvement in these two distinct American Tragedies, Fred has traveled the country talking about both events but also talking about perspective, perseverance, and resilience. He discusses pivotal moments in life and how we respond to those moments. Fred uses his speech to inspire others. Learn more about Fred's work at orangeribbonsforjaime.org and pick up his book, Find the Helpers: What 9/11 and Parkland Taught Me About Recovery, Purpose, and Hope now. In this episode Fred and I discuss themes from his new book Find the Helpers including:Who his helpers are and how they have helped him to deal with grief, transform pain into purpose, and find hope after Parkland and 9/11What Joe Biden taught him about griefHow he has been able to respond to acts of hate from a place of compassion, and loveThe importance of community when it comes to being resilientPractical strategies for overcoming 'us and them' thinkingMore about his mission of reducing gun violence, and some of the incredible progress that has been made in terms of new laws and bills, including Jaime's Law that honors his daughter's death by continuing to save lives in her nameWhy it's not what happens to you, but your response that matters mostAnd more!Rate the show on iTunes! Find show notes and more at joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastSupport the show

Sharon Salzberg is a central figure in the field of meditation, a world-renowned teacher and NY Times bestselling author. She has played a crucial role in bringing meditation and mindfulness practices to the West and into mainstream culture since 1974, when she first began teaching. She is the co-founder of the Insight Meditation Society in Barre, MA and the author of over ten books including NY Times bestseller, Real Happiness, her seminal work, Lovingkindness, Real Love, and her latest release Real Change: Mindfulness to Heal Ourselves and the World. Acclaimed for her humorous, down-to-earth teaching style, Sharon offers a secular, modern approach to Buddhist teachings, making them instantly accessible. She is a regular columnist for On Being, a contributor to Huffington Post, and the host of her own podcast: The Metta Hour. For more, visit www.SharonSalzberg.com.In this episode Sharon and I discuss themes related to her new book Real Change including:How to deal with strong emotions using mindfulnessWorking with anger in a skillful way, harnessing it's benefits for action while not getting overwhelmed by itFinding joy today, in the face of these tumultuous timesWhy joy is a strategy for resilienceEquanimity and how to find a sense of balance even in the face of tremendous challenges like the pandemic, election stress, or other adversityMoving away from us and them thinking by embracing common humanityFinding compassion for people we may disagree with or not likePlease rate the show on iTunes!Find show notes and more at joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastSupport the show

Tal Ben-Shahar is an author and lecturer. He taught two of the largest classes in Harvard University’s history, Positive Psychology and The Psychology of Leadership. Today, Tal consults and lectures around the world to executives in multi-national corporations, the general public, and at-risk populations. The topics he lectures on include leadership, happiness, education, innovation, ethics, self-esteem, resilience, goal setting, and mindfulness. His books have been translated into more than twenty-five languages, and have appeared on best-sellers lists around the world. Tal is a serial entrepreneur, and is the co-founder and chief learning officer of Happiness Studies Academy, Potentialife, Maytiv, and Happier.TV. An avid sportsman, Tal won the U.S. Intercollegiate and Israeli National squash championships. Find out more about Tal at talbenshahar.comIn this episode we discuss:Perfectionism - what it is, how it works, and how to work with this tendency more skillfully in one's lifeHow Tal works with perfectionism in his own lifeThe power of acceptance and why this is such a powerful approach to working with perfectionism and finding happinessDetails on Tal's approach to teaching and speaking. How he prepares, and thinks about connecting with his audienceWhy reminders are so critical to a happier and more optimal way of living and workingStrategies and approaches for increasing gratitude, and for working with difficult emotionsAnd more!Please rate the show on iTunes!For show notes and more visit joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastThanks for listening!Support the show

Chris Germer, PhD is a clinical psychologist and lecturer on psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. In 2007, Chris began collaborating with Kristin Neff, psychology professor at the University of Texas, Austin, and pioneering researcher on self-compassion. In 2009, he wrote the book, The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion, and, in 2010, Chris and Kristin co-developed Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC), an empirically-supported, 8-week training program for the general public. The Center for Mindful Self-Compassion was established in 2012 and since then tens of thousands of people have learned MSC. Additionally, they have co-authored two books on MSC, The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program. Chris spends most of his time lecturing and leading workshops around the world on mindfulness and self-compassion, supporting MSC teachers and students, and maintaining a modest psychotherapy practice. To learn more about Chris, check out chrisgermer.comIn this episode Chris and I explore: How compassion meditation helped him overcome a long battle with public speaking anxietyHow acceptance can be a powerful way to reduce suffering and stressFierce compassion, and why compassion can be a form of courageWhat self-compassion is and what it's notThe myths and misconceptions about self-compassionWhy self-compassion helps build resilience, enhance motivation, and improve relationshipsThe health benefits of self-compassionHow self-compassion can be an antidote to shamePractical strategies for building mindfulness and compassion in one's lifeAnd more!Please rate the show on iTunes!For show notes and more visit joshuasteinfeldt.comSupport the show

Goalkeeper Stephanie Labbé has been part of the Canadian Women’s Soccer program since 2002. She made her Olympic debut at Rio 2016 where she started five of six games, allowing just four goals, as Team Canada won the bronze medal. Labbé was on the Canadian roster for the FIFA Women’s World Cup in 2011, 2015, and 2019 (starting all 4 games in 2019). Labbé played collegiate soccer for the University of Connecticut. In her senior year she was named the 2008 Big East Goalkeeper of the Year. Labbé is the current starting goalkeeper for the professional team the North Carolina Courage. Learn more about Steph at stephlabbe.com or on instagram @stephlabbe1In this episode Steph shares: Her inspiring story of walking away from the Canadian National Team to work on herself, and how she came back stronger, happier, and better than ever. Tips and strategies for performing under pressure and boosting resilienceHow to learn from failureMindset practices for dealing with uncertainty, particularly during COVIDThe importance of surrounding yourself with people who believe in you and allow you to be who you areKey learnings from her ongoing journey toward living a more authentic life The importance of humor for getting through challenging timesTips for anyone looking to pursue really big dreams and goalsAnd more!If you enjoy this conversation, please rate the show on iTunes!You can find show notes at www.joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastThanks for listening!Support the show

When the Hockley family relocated from England to Connecticut in the winter of 2011 it was the realization of a family dream. Ian had visited the United States regularly since childhood, Nicole was from Rhode Island and Jake was born on the 4th of July; in many ways it was coming home.They moved to the idyllic town of Sandy Hook which Ian selected after touring the beautiful neighborhoods and meeting the staff at the elementary school, knowing Dylan especially would get a fantastic start as they made their new life. This bright beginning ran full force into the American nightmare on December 14th, 2012 when Dylan was shot and killed in his first-grade classroom alongside 19 of his fellow students and six educators in one of the worst mass shootings in recent U.S. history. Ian and Nicole created Dylan’s Wings of Change, dedicated to his memory with a mission to inspire empathy, courage & hope. everywhere. Working with experts the foundation created Wingman, a program of experiential learning activities that foster deeper conversations, stronger teams and more connected communities. Wingman is effective for humans of all ages and works especially well as a peer-led social and emotional learning program both in and out of schools.Ian now works full time for the foundation, serving as Executive Director, and is dedicated to spreading the message of acceptance and inclusion for all. He warmly shares Dylan’s story with the world, the 6-year old boy who had his own way of communicating, who radiated pure love and described himself as “a beautiful butterfly” to his mother. Ian addresses the epidemic of social isolation and exclusion today and the need for social and emotional programming everywhere.In this episode we explore:More about Ian's story and the events that occurred on December 14, 2012His road to healingHis motivation for spreading messages of love, kindness, and empathy after experiencing acts of hate and violenceDetails about the Wingman Program and Dylans Wings of ChangeHow the Wingman Program promotes social and emotional learning, and positive leadership in schools Why Ian views empathy as an antidote for our timeWhy it is so important to focus on the things we have, as opposed to things we don't, in the face of adversityAnd much more!For more about Ian please visit Dylanswingsofchange.orgIf you enjoyed this episode please rate the show on iTunesShow notes can be found at joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastThanks for listening!Support the show

Scholars, consultants, teachers, and researchers Monica Worline and Jane Dutton are co-authors of the book Awakening Compassion at Work. Monica and Jane are co-founders of the CompassionLab, the world’s leading collaboratory for research on compassion and work organizations. Working together for more than fifteen years, Monica and Jane offer key insights regarding the value of compassion for addressing pain people bring into the workplace and pain that is created in the conduct of daily work. Monica and Jane teach and consult with leaders, managers, students, and change agents in a variety of organizations who are striving to awaken compassion in their work lives. For more on Monica and Jane, including their background and the important work they are doing please check out https://awakeningcompassionatwork.comIn this episode we explore: The stories behind how Monica and Jane got interested in studying, researching, and teaching compassion.The 4 parts of compassionTraining compassion - looking at compassion as a skill that can be developedThe importance of noticing suffering and how to do so in organizationsHow, and why, the stories we tell ourselves about other people amplify (or hinder) our ability to be compassionateThe business case for compassionWays to build compassion into processes, roles, and routines within organizationsAnd more!Enjoying the show? Please take a moment and rate the Courageous Life on iTunes. Looking for more resources or references from the show? Check out the show notes for this episode at www.joshuasteinfeldt.comMore about Monica Worline: Monica C. Worline, Ph.D., is founder and CEO of EnlivenWork, an innovation organization that teaches businesses and others how to tap into courageous thinking, compassionate leadership, and the curiosity to bring their best work to life. She is a research scientist at Stanford University’s Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education and Executive Director of CompassionLab, the world’s leading research collaboratory focused on compassion at work. Monica holds a lectureship at the Ross School of Business, University of Michigan, and is affiliate faculty at the Center for Positive Organizations.More about Jane Dutton: Jane E. Dutton, Ph.D., is the Robert L. Kahn Distinguished University Professor of Business Administration and Psychology at the Ross School of Business. She is a co-founder of the Center for Positive Organizations, and passionate about cultivating human flourishing at work. Her research focuses on compassion, job crafting, high quality connections, and meaning making at work. She has written over 100 articles and published 13 books, including How to be a Positive Leader: Small Actions, Big Impact.Thanks for listening!Support the show

Please enjoy this free BONUS guided meditation from Rick Hanson. This brief practice is the first of 7 practices outlined in Rick’s new book, Neurodharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness. This meditation focuses on steadying the mind. For more on Rick please listen to our most recent conversation (episode 49), or our first conversation on the topic of resilience in episode 12 of the Courageous Life. You can also check out rickhanson.net.Support the show

Please enjoy this free BONUS guided meditation from Rick Hanson. This brief practice is the second of 7 practices outlined in Rick’s new book, Neurodharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness. This meditation focuses on warming the heart. For more on Rick please listen to our most recent conversation (episode 49), or our first conversation on the topic of resilience in episode 12 of the Courageous Life. You can also check out rickhanson.net.Support the show

Rick Hanson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, Senior Fellow of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley, and New York Times best-selling author. His books have been published in 29 languages and include Neurodharma, Resilient, Hardwiring Happiness, Buddha’s Brain, Just One Thing, and Mother Nurture. He’s lectured at NASA, Google, Oxford, and Harvard, and taught in meditation centers worldwide. An expert on positive neuroplasticity, his work has been featured on the BBC, CBS, NPR, and other major media. He began meditating in 1974 and is the founder of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom. For more about Rick, his teachings, books, and events please visit rickhanson.net.Rick is back for round 2! In this episode we explore:How he thinks about the heights of human potential What he has learned from exemplars, neuroscience, and decades of meditation experience about realizing one’s potential7 practices for achieving the highest happinessHEAL - a practice for turning positive states into lasting traitsHow Rick thinks about being driven, and achieve-oriented while simultaneously having a sense of easeWhat Rick learned from the Dalai Lama’s body guard about being tough and lovingSome of my experiences with Rick as a participant on two of his 10-day meditation retreatsAnd more!Please also check out the BONUS meditations that Rick has generously shared which focus on the first two (of 7) practices from his new book, Neurodharma. You can find these listed as bonus episodes of the Courageous Life.Interested in learning more from Rick? Check out episode 12 of the Courageous Life where we explored the topic of resilience. Enjoying the show? Please let us know by rating the Courageous Life on iTunes! Show notes can be found at www.joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastThanks for listening! Support the show

Dr. Jo Boaler is a professor of education and equity at Stanford University and the faculty director of youcubed—an education resource that has reached over 230 million students. She is the author of the first MOOC on mathematics teaching and learning, as well as nine mathematics books and numerous research articles. Her work has been published in the New York Times, TIME magazine, The Telegraph, The Atlantic, The Wall Street Journal, and many other news outlets. She was named by the BBC as one of eight educators “changing the face of education.” Her latest book is: Limitless Mind: Learn, Lead & Live without Barriers, published by Harper Collins.In this episode Jo shares: Her incredible story of overcoming academic bullying and what it taught her about resilience and connectionWhat neuroplasticity is, why it's a game changing finding in neuroscience, and how understanding the way our brains work can transform the ways we learn, lead & liveThe neuroscience behind why mistakes are actually a good thingHow she teaches students to embrace mistakes, and learn from failureThe neurobiology of fear, and how curiosity may be an antidote to the fear responseHow adopting a growth mindset can be a key to living without limitsThe importance of believing in oneself and why anyone can learn anythingAnd much more!If you found this episode as inspiring as I did, please share it with friends and take a moment to let us know what you thought by rating the show on iTunes.Show notes and more can be found at joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastThanks for listening!Support the show

Tania de Jong (pronounced Yong) AM is a trail-blazing Australian soprano, global speaker, award-winning social entrepreneur, creative innovation catalyst and spiritual journeywoman. Tania is one of Australia’s most successful female entrepreneurs and innovators, developing 5 businesses and 3 charities over the past 3 decades including, but not limited to Creative Universe, Creativity Australia and the With One Voice program, Creative Innovation Global, and Mind Medicine Australia. She was appointed a Member of the Order of Australia and named one of the 100 Women of Influence and the one of the 100 Australian Most Influential Entrepreneurs. Tania has released eleven Albums and her TEDx Talk How Singing Together Changes The Brain has sparked international interest. To learn more about Tania, and the work she is doing please visit taniadejong.comIn this episode Tania shares: Her incredible story of being told by her best friend at 14 years old not to bother having singing lessons, and how this drove her to a successful career as a singer and entrepreneurPowerful lessons in unlocking creativity and innovation she first learned from the inventor of the foldable umbrella, who just happened to be her grandmotherThe backstory on the With One Voice choir program, a non-profit focused on empowering individuals to find their voice through communityHow she deals with fear and uncertaintyHow to turn failure into opportunities for learning and growthHer thoughts on the importance of diversity, inclusion, and community for creativityAnd more!Please rate the show on iTunes!Find show notes and more at www.joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastThanks for listening and enjoy the show!Support the show

Please enjoy this free BONUS guided meditation from Shelly Tygielski. This brief practice is intended to promote a sense of ease, and help one deal with uncertainty surrounding COVID-19. For more on Shelly please listen to episode 46 of the Courageous Life and check out pandemicoflove.comSupport the show

This is one of the most important and timely conversations I have had on the Courageous Life. Shelly Tygielski, a friend and return guest to the show, has started a movement called The Pandemic of Love. In response to the challenges surrounding COVID-19 including job loss, furloughs, illness, etc - the Pandemic of Love has connected over 10,000 families (to-date) in need of basic essentials like food and medicine with 10,000+ patrons who are offering support (financial or otherwise). Launched on March 14th, 2020 this movement is already going viral, with over 280 volunteers working behind-the-scenes, and more and more people connecting to help each other, and to spread love each and every day. Shelly and I will get into all the details and backstory on the Pandemic of Love about 30 minutes into the episode. If you want to get involved now, please go to pandemicoflove.comIn this episode Shelly shares:Her inspiring story of how and why she got into the work she is doing today as a community organizer, activist, and meditation teacherHow meditation has helped her to rise up in the face of adversity and challenges in her lifeWhat her meditation practice involves todayCoping strategies for dealing with fear and uncertainty related to COVID-19The incredible story behind the Pandemic of Love, why she started it, and how to get involvedShelly has also offered a brief meditation for dealing with uncertainty that you will find included as a BONUS mini episode of the Courageous Life. About Shelly:Shelly Tygielski is a “modern-life mindfulness” teacher and “self-care activist” who focuses much of her time on communities that are underserved, with social justice and community organizations, non-profits and schools. Shelly was made to create movements and regularly runs into the flames to help people in need. She is deeply involved in offering trauma-informed healing practices to communities affected by gun violence and mass shootings and has led retreats for survivors and victims’ families representing Parkland, Pittsburgh, Las Vegas, Aurora, Columbine and more. She also started the “Sand Tribe”community in Hollywood Beach, Fl that grew from 12 friends meditating together to over 15,000 individuals that practice together on a regular basis. She was featured on the cover of Mindful Magazine® in June 2019 for her work in this space and was recently referred to as one of the most “Powerful Women in Mindfulness” by mindful.org. Her work and classes have been featured on mindful.org, Tricycle, The New York Times and dozens of national and international television and online platforms. Support the show

Jerry Colonna is the CEO, and co-founder, of Reboot.io, an executive coaching and leadership development firm whose coaches and facilitators are committed to the notion that better humans make better leaders. For nearly 20 years, he has used the knowledge gained as an investor, an executive, and a board member for more than 100 organizations to help entrepreneurs and others to lead with humanity, resilience, and equanimity. He believes not only that work does not have to destroy us, but that work can be the way to achieve our fullest selves. Jerry is the author of Reboot: Leadership and the Art of Growing Up. Previous to his career as a coach he was a partner with JPMorgan Partners (JPMP), the private equity arm of JP Morgan Chase. He joined JPMP from Flatiron Partners, which he launched 1996 with partner, Fred Wilson. Flatiron became one of the most successful, early-stage investment programs in the New York City area. You can learn more about Jerry at www.reboot.ioIn this episode Jerry and I discuss:The process of moving from reaction to choice in our livesHow slowing down and engaging in deep questions about what matters can be a radical actHow he defines "radical self-inquiry" and why this is so foundational to his work with leadersHow to let go of old patterns of behavior and ways of being that are no longer serving usStories from his 1x1 work with some of his coaching clientsWhy resilience and equanimity are the larger aims of the work he doesOvercoming fear through courage and curiosityThe importance of a compassionate approach when we reboot our lives, and the way we leadPlease rate the show on iTunes!Show notes can be found at www.joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastThanks for listening and enjoy the show!Support the show

Shauna Shapiro, PhD is a best-selling author, clinical psychologist and internationally recognized expert in mindfulness and self-compassion. She is a professor at Santa Clara University and has published over 150 papers and three critically acclaimed books, translated into 16 languages. Her latest book, Good Morning I Love You: Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Practices to Rewire Your Brain for Calm, Clarity + Joy was released in January of 2020. Shauna has presented her research to the King of Thailand, the Danish Government, Bhutan’s Gross National Happiness Summit, and the World Council for Psychotherapy, as well as to Fortune 100 Companies including Google, Cisco Systems and LinkedIn. Her work has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, Mashable, Wired, USA Today, Dr. Oz, the Huffington Post, and the American Psychologist. Shauna is a Fellow of the Mind and Life Institute, co-founded by the Dalai Lama. Her TEDx Talk, The Power of Mindfulness, has been viewed over 1.5 million times. For more on Shauna visit www.drshaunashapiro.comIn this episode Shauna shares:How meditation helped her during one of the darkest times in her lifeInsights into her own personal mindfulness practice, including benefits she has experienced from meditatingTips for getting started with a daily mindfulness practiceThe IAA (Intention, Attention, Attitude) framework for practicing mindfulnessA simple equation for reducing suffering in our livesHow, and why, she let go of perfectionism and embraced self-compassion in her own lifeHow mindfulness and self-compassion practices can change your brain for greater calm, clarity, and joyWhy shame and self-criticism are poor strategies when it comes to achievementRate the show on iTunes!Show notes can be found at www.joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastThanks for listening!Support the show

Robin Dreeke is a best-selling author, professional speaker, trainer, facilitator, and retired FBI Special Agent and Chief of the Counterintelligence Behavioral Analysis Program, which has been depicted in TV and movies, including the acclaimed show Mind Hunter on Netflix. Robin has taken his life's work of recruiting spies and broken down the art of leadership, communication, and relationship building into Five Steps to TRUST and Six Signs of who you can TRUST. Since 2010, Robin has been working with large corporations as well as small companies in every aspect of their business. Whether it is newly promoted leaders, executives, sales teams, or customer relations, Robin has crafted his People Formula for quick results and maximum success. He is the author of multiple books, including Sizing People Up, and The Code of Trust. Learn more about Robin at www.peopleformula.comIn this episode Robin shares: His background working in counterintelligence for the FBIWhat he learned about building trust from recruiting spies.Why building healthy professional relationships is one of the keys to living a fulfilling and meaningful lifeStrategies for regulating emotions and staying rational and calm under pressureWhy curiosity may be an antidote to fearHow to build trust in the face of division and tribalismAnd more!Please rate the show on iTunes!Show notes can be found at www.joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastThanks for listening and enjoy the show!Support the show

Kelly McGonigal is a health psychologist and lecturer at Stanford University who specializes in understanding the mind-body connection. As a pioneer in the field of "science-help," her mission is to translate insights from psychology and neuroscience into practical strategies that support personal well-being and strengthen communities. She is the best-selling author of The Willpower Instinct and The Upside of Stress. Through the Stanford Center for Compassion and Altruism, she helped create Stanford Compassion Cultivation Training, a program now taught around the world that helps individuals strengthen their empathy, compassion, and self-compassion. You might know her from her TED talk, "How to Make Stress Your Friend," which is one of the most viewed TED talks of all time, with over 20 million views. Her new book, The Joy of Movement, explores why physical exercise is a powerful antidote to the modern epidemics of depression, anxiety, and loneliness. Learn more about Kelly at kellymcgongial.comIn this episode Kelly shares:Why reflecting on your values and clarifying what matters most to you can be one of the most powerful practices for changing habits and behaviorPractical skills for being able to better tolerate distress and discomfortStrategies for dealing with fear and cultivating courage including one of Kelly's favorite practicesMore skillful ways to navigate stressWhy asking for help, and receiving support from others can be a strength, and a form of self-compassionHow exercise and movement can create hope, courage, connection, and happiness in our lives (and some of the science as to why)Her process for creating powerful public talks, writing books, and connecting with audiencesPlease rate the show on iTunes!For show notes and more visit www.joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastThanks for listening!Support the show

Cory Muscara is an international speaker and teacher on the topics of presence and wellbeing. He has taught mindfulness-based leadership at Columbia University, and currently serves as an instructor of positive psychology at the University of Pennsylvania, where he completed his graduate work. In 2012, Cory spent six months in silence living as a monk in Burma, meditating 14-20 hours each day under the instruction of the late Sayadaw U Pandita. A frequent guest on the Dr. Oz show, he now aims to bring these teachings to people in a practical and relatable way, presenting to schools, organizations, and healthcare systems, as well as through workshops and retreats for the general public. Cory’s meditations have been heard more than 10 million times in over 50 countries. He looks forward to connecting with you through his first book, Stop Missing Your Life: How to Be Deeply Present in an Un-Present World. For more on Cory visit www.corymuscara.com.In this episode we explore: Cory’s journey around writing his new book, Stop Missing Your LifeInsights Cory gained in overcoming roadblocks in the creative processWhat presence is and why it is so important4 pillars for becoming more present in your life and relationshipsWhy curiosity is the opposite of fear and how it can help you to deepen presenceHow to let go of old habits that are no longer helpfulPractical strategies for building, or deepening a meditation practiceBenefits from practicing meditation more than you think you canPlease rate the show on iTunes! Find show notes for this episode at www.joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastThanks for listening!Support the show

Parker J. Palmer is a writer, teacher, and activist. Founder and Senior Partner Emeritus of the Center for Courage & Renewal, he has written ten books, including the bestselling Let Your Life Speak, The Courage to Teach, A Hidden Wholeness, Healing the Heart of Democracy, and On the Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting Old. He holds a Ph.D. in sociology from the University of California, Berkeley, and thirteen honorary doctorates. In 1998, The Leadership Project, a national survey of ten thousand educators, named Palmer as one of the thirty “most influential senior leaders” in higher education and one of the ten key “agenda-setters” of the past decade. Since 2002, the Accrediting Commission for Graduate Medical Education has given annual Parker J. Palmer “Courage to Teach” and “Courage to Lead” Awards to directors of exemplary medical residency programs around the U.S. In 2010, Palmer received the William Rainey Harper Award, whose previous recipients include Margaret Mead, Elie Wiesel, and Paolo Freire. In 2011, the Utne Reader named him one of 25 Visionaries on its annual list of “People Who are Changing the World.” To learn more about Parker and his latest project, The Growing Edge, please visit newcomerpalmer.comIn the first episode of Season 2 we explore: Some of Parker's personal story including challenges and adversities he has faced and how these have shaped his lifeWhat wholeness is and the courage it takes live an undivided lifeParker's insights about writing, speaking, and connecting with an audienceLessons Parker has learned about finding courage and working with fearThe power of reframing situations and circumstances one facesHow to listen deeplyFinding one's vocation in lifeHow to create conditions that foster courage in others And more!Please rate the show on iTunes and let us know what you think!For show notes and more visit www.joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastThanks for listening!Support the show

Mark Coleman has studied mindfulness meditation practices for three decades, and has taught mindfulness workshops and meditation retreats in six continents for the past twenty years. He is a senior meditation teacher at Spirit Rock Meditation Center, a trainer for Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute (developed at Google), and holds a MA in Clinical Psychology, drawing on his extensive experience in working with people as a therapist and coach. Mark leads Professional Mindfulness Teacher Trainings in the US and UK annually, and has brought mindfulness training programs to companies and the nonprofit sector across North America and Europe. He also leads wilderness meditation retreats from Alaska to Peru, taking people on inner and outdoor adventures through his organization Awake in the Wild. Mark is the author of several books including From Suffering to Peace: The True Promise of Mindfulness, Make Peace with Your Mind: How Mindfulness and Compassion Can Help Free You from the Inner Critic and Awake in the Wild: Mindfulness in Nature as a Path of Self-Discovery. For more, visit: www.markcoleman.orgIn this episode: Evolutionary reasons behind why we have an "inner critic"How and why the inner critic can hold us back in our livesMark's own journey with the inner critic, and how meditation has helped free him from it's negative impactThe importance of humor when dealing with the criticNeuroplasticity, and how meditation and compassion practices can change our brainsMark's favorite practices for working with the inner criticAnd more!For show notes and more visit www.joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastEnjoy the show and thanks for listening!Support the show

Bill Burnett is the Executive Director of the Design Program at Stanford. He directs the undergraduate and graduate program in design at Stanford, both interdepartmental programs between the Mechanical Engineering department and the Art department. He got his BS and MS in Product Design at Stanford and has worked professionally on a wide variety of projects ranging from award-winning Apple PowerBooks to the original Hasbro Star Wars action figures. Bill co teaches Designing Your Life, one of the most popular elective courses at Stanford. Centered on the principles taught in the Product Design Program and the d.school at Stanford, called “design thinking”, it is a process and a way of thinking about tough-to-solve problems. For more on Bill, his book Designing Your Life, and upcoming events please visit www.designingyour.lifeIn this episode: We unpack what life design really is, and how design thinking can be used to build a meaningful and fulfilling lifeLearn why "finding your passion" is often bad adviceBill shares findings from neuroscience about how the brains of the most creative people in the world are different and what we can learn from them about overcoming fear5 fundamentals of brainstorming that will help unlock innovative new possibilitiesWhat prototyping is and why it is important to designing your life For show notes and more visit www.joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastThanks for listening!Support the show

Ali Smith co-founded the Holistic Life Foundation in 2001, where he currently serves as Executive Director. He is a native of Baltimore, Maryland and graduate of the Friends School of Baltimore and the University of Maryland, College Park, receiving a BS in Environmental Science and Policy with a Biodiversity specialization. He has over 15 years of experience teaching yoga and mindfulness to diverse populations. Through his work at the Holistic Life Foundation he has helped develop and pilot yoga and mindfulness programs at public and private schools, drug treatment centers, juvenile detention centers, mental crisis facilities, and retreat centers, nationally and internationally. Ali has authored a series of children’s books, and co-authored several yoga and mindfulness based curriculum’s, as well as developed numerous workshops and training’s. His work with the Holistic Life Foundation has been featured on Making a Difference on the NBC Nightly News, CNN, and CBS, as well as O the Oprah Magazine, The Washington Post, Upworthy, Mindful Magazine, Yoga Journal, Shambala Sun, and many other publications.In this episode: Ali’s story about growing up, learning meditation, and starting a movement of bringing meditation and yoga into schools in BaltimoreHow Ali thinks about influencing and connecting with peopleHow meditation, and connecting with oneself can foster hope and inspire people to dreamThe origin story of the Holistic Life Foundation, from humble beginnings in the basement of one school to teaching contemplative practices to students around the worldThe transformative effects of meditation and yoga programs in schools including large scale reductions in fights, detentions, and suspensionsMoving from reaction to choice through learning meditation and yoga practicesAnd more!Please rate the show on iTunes!Show notes can be found at www.joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastThanks for listening and enjoy the show!Support the show

Oren Jay Sofer is the author of the acclaimed new book Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication, a practical guidebook for having more effective, satisfying conversations. He is also co-author of two books on teaching mindfulness to teens and adolescents: The Mindful Schools Curriculum for Adolescents and Teaching Mindfulness to Empower Teens. Oren leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication and meditation at retreat centers and educational settings around the United States. A member of the Spirit Rock Teacher's Council, he holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University, teaches in the Insight Meditation community, and is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication. Oren creates mindfulness training programs for a number of organizations, including Mindful Schools, Kaiser Permanente, Calm, SImple Habit, and 10% Happier. He is also the founder of Next Step Dharma and Mindful Healthcare. For more information, visit www.OrenJaySofer.com.In this episode:Oren shares his story of finding meditation and why he is so passionate about mindfulness and communicationOren discusses how mindfulness can be applied to communication to support more satisfying and effective conversationsWe discuss how to have difficult conversations including practical strategies for regulating your emotions, your body, and your mind when stressed, triggered, or upsetWe explore moving from reaction to choiceWe explore how to listen deeplyFor show notes visit www.joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastEnjoying the show? Please rate it on iTunes. Thanks for listening!Support the show

Douglas Stone is a Founder of Triad Consulting Group and a Lecturer on Law at Harvard Law School, where he teaches negotiation. Through Triad, he consults to a wide range of organizations, including Fidelity, Honda, HP, IBM, Merck, Microsoft, and Shell. Doug is co-author of the New York Times bestsellers Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most (Penguin 2000), and Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well (Even When It’s Off-Base, Unfair, Poorly Delivered and Frankly, You’re Not in the Mood) (Viking/Penguin 2014). His articles on negotiation and conflict resolution have appeared in the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, and the Boston Globe. He has appeared on many TV and radio shows, including Oprah. For more on Doug please visit www.triadconsultinggroup.comIn this episode we cover a wide array of topics including:-The three types of feedback (coaching, evaluation, and recognition), what they are, why they are important, and why we so often miss the mark with feedback-What gets in the way of receiving feedback-How to deliver feedback more effectively -The importance of moving from judgment to curiosity (and compassion) to foster learning-Why stories are so important in difficult conversations-Strategies and insights for engaging in difficult conversations more skillfully-And much more!For show notes and more please visit www.joshuasteinfeldt.com/podcastTake a moment and let us know what you think about the show by rating it on iTunes or writing a review. Thanks for listening and enjoy the show!Support the show