The Clifton Brantley Podcast

Do you wish that your wife would listen more and complain less? Do you wish she liked your favorite sport or hobby like you do? Do you wish she would be ready for sex more often? You probably chose the wrong wife to have the marriage you desire (and she chose the wrong husband). Let’s talk about what to do about that…

If you are a man, you were born to lead. In this episode I share with you the reason I believe this to be true. My hope is that it will inspire men to live out their God given design.

Marriage is God's idea, but what does that means? How can understanding God's original intent for marriage make your marriage better? That's what I am going to talk about in this multi-part series.

Fellas, I know you want your wife to be more submissive and follow your leadership but there may be some things you need to do first.

Nobody told me what it meant to be a husband. Being a husband is more than just being married. There are 4 main areas that you need to make sure you address as a husband.

I think it is time, once and for all, to be honest about what women believe a man is "supposed" to be. There are hundreds of thousands of women who need to divorce the idea in their head about what a man is, and learn how to love their current reality...or leave.

I need to share this with you to go with this morning's episode.

The bulk of marriage work is individual work. You cannot relate well to others if you cannot relate well to yourself. If you have unresolved childhood issues then you cannot relate well to yourself. You may not even know your authentic self. If you would like to schedule a consultation with me you can use this link https://cbrantleylmft.as.me Rules of Engagement Conflict Resolution Workshop July 31, 2023 https://www.cliftonbrantley.com/join-the-workshop

One of the things I've discovered the hard way is that life requires a mentor. If you are going to do life well then you need someone to help you. There is no such thing as a self-made man. I hope this encourages you. If you are struggling in your marriage and you want to learn how to resolve conflict more effectively then you need to join the Rules of Engagement Workshop! It is happening July 31- Aug 2. You can go here for more details: https://www.cliftonbrantley.com/join-the-workshop

Do the work so that you can have the benefit of having done the work. If you do not do the work then you will suffer. But so will those connected to your life.

Are you minimizing what God has done in your life because of fear? Do you feel like you have little to nothing to offer to the work of the kingdom? Well I hope this episode will help you break free from the prison of fear that has you bound. Let me know if this helps you.

In the midst of 30 days of 30 things I would tell a couple to have a successful marriage, this is day 18. We don't talk enough about sex in marriage. I want to encourage you to improve the quality of your sex life in your marriage and have as much of it as possible. If you would like to get the daily emails, sign up for the newsletter at this link: https://www.cliftonbrantley.com/links

If you do not understand the origin of marriage, you will struggle to do it well. If you would like to receive 30 Things I Would Tell A Couple To Create A Successful Marriage you can use this link: https://www.cliftonbrantley.com/links

Saudia Turney is a Licensed marriage and Family Therapist and Women's Empowerment Coach in Texas. She specializes in helping women reconnect with their authentic self and discover the fullness of who they were created to be. Free webinar with Saudia Turney, Wednesday May 31, 2023: https://saudia.mykajabi.com/pl/2147698084 IG: @saudiast

Why are you here? What is your purpose in life? When you do not know the purpose of a thing, abuse is inevitable. I want to help you discover your God-given assignment so that you can become the answered prayer that someone else needs.

I was listening to Kev On Stage's podcast with his wife. The name of their podcast is "Marriage Be Hard." But why is marriage so hard? In this episode I talk about a FEW of the reasons that marriage is hard. Let me know your thoughts.

The mind is a terrible thing to waste. It also the most powerful part of us. If you do not protect your mind, you will be a prisoner of your past pain.

Your biggest enemy lives with you. I'm not talking about your partner, I'm talking about the man or woman in the mirror. In this episode I expose the reason why your life looks the way it does and what you need to do to change it. You have to believe that who you have been may not be who you truly are. Listen and let me know if this resonates with you.

The thing about raising children or being around children for an extended period of time is that you can get a clearer picture of your relationship with God. Interacting with my grandson over the weekend helped me learn something about trusting God.

Mind Monsters are the enemies of your life. You must address your mind monsters in order to free your mind and live the life God has already ordained for you to live. In this episode I talk about the 3 main mind monsters you must conquer in order to win.

Sometimes we don't realize that the only REAL issue we have is with ourselves. If we could learn to master our minds then life on the planet would be a much different experience. This is part one of a series to start this new season.

Trying to prove your love to your partner is not solely dependent on what you do. It is also dependent upon their understanding of love. If you are not careful, you can find yourself in an emotionally abusive situation, trying to "prove" your love.

"Support" is one of the aspects of the marriage mindset. A lot of people who are married do not know how to support one another. Here are 4 things you can do to help you support your partner better. If you would like to take your marriage from surviving to thriving by mastering the 4 C's (Communication, Conflict Resolution, Connection, & Contribution) then you should join the 'Happily Ever After' Marriage Master Class. It is a whole year of coaching and it is currently on sale. Go https://cbrantleylmft.as.me to schedule a consultation to see if the class is right for you.

The thing that turned my marriage around was not the skills that I know and teach, but it was God's word. Specifically, it was the teaching of Dr. Myron Golden.

As we approach one of the most significant events for Christians, I wonder if the Cross still matters to people? I wonder if Jesus dying on the cross still carries weight with Christians, or are they just doing what seems acceptable? Things that make you go hmm.

What do you think is the first step in creating an amazing relationship? There are a lot of elements to an amazing relationship, but before you can have one with others, you need to have one with yourself.

As I was studying and discovering deeper insight about marital things, such as, "What God has joined, let no one separate," I started to think about the challenge of sharing truth. These are some of my thoughts.

Have you ever been offended by a question? My question is, "why?"

In this episode I share a message God brought to my attention about the assignment he's given me. But it is also a message for you!

Being a conscious partner means being intentional about the way you show up in your relationships. When we are intentional we can make our love more obvious. If you are in a relationship or marriage and you are struggling to resolve conflict effectively, I encourage you to join the Conflict Resolution Challenge. It will change the way you guys connect and understand each other. Challenge Link: https://www.cliftonbrantley.com/conflictchallengeinfo

With Valentine's Day just passing, I wonder how many men are trapped in the prison of pleasing their partner? That got me to thinking...

Fellas, if your lady tells you that you don't have to do anything for her for valentine's day, DO NOT BELIEVE HER! 😉 In this episode I just wanted to give you a few tips to help you not be in the dog house for the next few weeks.

Sometimes we hinder our own growth. This episode is about helping you identify some things that may keep you from creating the life and marriage you want. If you want to QUICKLY turn your relationship around, you should join the Conflict Resolution Challenge https://www.cliftonbrantley.com/conflictchallengeinfo

Marriage is God's idea. But as I was adding to my upcoming book, I realized that marriage is far more important that the average person thinks. I hope this will help you understand marriage better. ***Join the Challenge that is changing marriages!*** ***Follow Me On YouTube***

Random thoughts in the morning time.

My oldest son just had his first child a few weeks ago. Things have changed so much from when I was a kid, to when I was parenting, to now when my son is a father. Parenting is not an easy job at all. Being a good father is crucial to the development of your children, especially boys. This episode is dedicated to my son and my grandson, Kenzo.

After recording yesterday's episode, I had a conversation with God and myself (yes, the 3 of us) which prompted me to record this "addition" to yesterday's episode.

Why does your life look the way it does? Is it because you were neglected as a child? Is it because your spouse won't mature? Were you abandoned? The truth is, however your life looks it is a result of your choices. If you do not take 100% responsibility for your life then you will never be successful.

Many times we may think we have worked on an issue, only to find out that the issue is still a problem. How does change actually happen? What are the signs that I am better? Let's discuss.

Most of your issues in relationships stem from your level of emotional immaturity. You may need to address and heal unmet emotional needs because they are stopping you from being an "adult" in your relationship.

You know, we have a bad habit of mislabeling seasons in our life as "bad" while we are in it. But the truth is, we cannot know if it was actually bad or not until it has passed and we look back on it. Lets talk about counting blessings and experiencing God's peace. If you are married and want to take your marriage to the next level, you should join the Marriage Master Class. It starts January 6th. Email me at [email protected] and I will send you an application. We are only taking 10 couples.

Vulnerability is necessary for intimacy. A lot of men have difficulty being vulnerable, but I'm finding that a lot of women also have a problem being vulnerable. This is a serious issue that needs to change. If you are married or in a committed relationship with someone whom you cannot be vulnerable with then what is the reason you are still there? Let's talk about it...

Do you have trouble having hard conversations with your partner? This episode will help you have those conversations that do not make you feel warm and fuzzy. These conversations are necessary, so avoiding them only make things worse. Join the upcoming Challenge December 5th. https://cliftonbrantley.com/challengeinfo Follow me on YouTube @ https://youtube.com/c/CBrantleylmft Facebook @ https://facebook.com/cbrantleylmft 

On this Thanksgiving Day, 2022 we remember what we are grateful for. In this episode I talk about a new realization about love.

Over the years as I have grown in my knowledge of how marriage works, I have discovered that the one missing element that I believe couples need to have a successful marriage is humility. There are some situations that you can only overcome if you love God more than you love your partner. If you are tired of fighting about the same old issues...If you want to know how to rebuild connection...The Communication and Conflict Challenge is what you need. Go to https://cliftonbrantley.com/challengeinfo to sign up! The next challenge starts December 5th.

This is part two of People Pleasing. If you or someone you know struggles with this issue, please listen AND get help. It will limit your ability to create the life you want.

People pleasing looks and feels like love but it is not. It is a very dangerous condition that the majority of the world suffers from. In this episode I introduce you to some of the ways that people pleasers sabotage theirs lives.

Most people will agree on the importance of effective communication in a relationship. At the same time, most people are not good at communication. In this episode I talk about some of the barriers to effective communication.

When you chose your mate, you did not marry the person you think you married. You may need to divorce your idea so that you can stay married to your reality.

This is the first episode with the new focus. Let's call this a relaunching. This episode was supposed to be about me helping you understand some things that I have learned about life that would be useful for you. However, it kind of morphed into something different. This episode was probably more for me than you, but hopefully it blesses you the way it did me.