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Men using the internet have no idea they are losing a war they never knew they were fighting. The algorithm is not neutral, it is rewarding outrage, feeding pride, and quietly rewiring the way men think, speak, and relate to God. Timothy Flanders, Editor-in-Chief of OnePeterFive, has lived inside this tension for years. He has built a major Catholic journal online while wrestling personally with what the digital world does to a man's soul. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt sit down with Timothy to lay out what Scripture actually demands of a man's words online, why Christians are often the worst offenders in the digital public square, and how fallen angels use social media to attack Catholic men in ways most would never recognize. Timothy introduces the Internet Promise, a set of commitments rooted directly in Scripture, and offers a concrete battle plan for men who are ready to stop being used by the internet and start using it for the Kingdom. Timothy FlandersPelican Plus: https://pelicanplus.com — COUPON CODE for 10% Off: PLUS OnePeterFive: https://onepeterfive.com The Meaning of Catholic: https://meaningofcatholic.com 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Devin Schadt's new book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of Into the Desert, Fr. Ken Geraci and John Heinen confront the tension at the heart of Palm Sunday: the same voices that cry “Hosanna” can quickly turn to “Crucify Him.” What looks like devotion can collapse under pressure, revealing how easily men drift with the crowd, seek approval, and abandon the path of Christ when it becomes costly. They press into the question: “Will I remain with Him when the path leads through suffering, rejection, and contradiction?” This is not about chasing hardship or proving strength. It is about surrendering preference and choosing the will of God over comfort, efficiency, and control. Because the Christian life is not built on the easy road or the hard road, but on obedience. And Holy Week reveals it clearly: every man must decide which voice he will follow, and whether his “Hosanna” will last when the Cross appears. 🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ with over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com/rosary 🟢 Join us as we go Into the Desert with Fr. Ken Geraci -⁠ https://catholicgentlemanplus.com/lent 👉 Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: ⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/t... COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We get this question all the time, what do I need to do to find a wife or get married? So often we find men waiting for the right woman to find them, the right opportunity to arrive, the right moment to finally step up. The problem isn't that they lack a desire; the problem is that they haven't yet done the interior and exterior work of becoming marriageable. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt cut through the noise and lay out five concrete frameworks every man needs to examine, from the physical to internal, if he's serious about becoming the kind of man a woman of character actually wants. They cover what a man's physical discipline communicates to a woman long before he opens his mouth, why work ethic is inseparable from self-mastery, how the interior life anchors everything else, what brotherhood has to do with your readiness for marriage, and why posture - how you position yourself in the world - may be the most overlooked trait of all. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Devin Schadt's new book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every father eventually faces a moment when his child pulls away. The distance grows, the relationship hardens, and most men respond in one of three ways. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt use the parable of the Prodigal Son to diagnose what's really happening beneath the surface: why rebellion cuts so deeply into a man's sense of worth, and what the wounds underneath his reactions are actually telling him. But this conversation doesn't stay in the failings we have, it moves toward the father who ran. John and Devin unpack what it looks like to stop protecting your ego and start pursuing your child, how to separate your hurt from their harm, and why asking for forgiveness is one of the most powerful things a father can do. 🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: ⁠⁠https://catholicgentlemanplus.com⁠⁠ 👉 Devin Schadt's new book The Rule: ⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno ______________________ -- FOLLOW THE CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN – ➡️ https://www.instagram.com/catholicgentleman ➡️ https://www.facebook.com/TheCatholicGentleman ➡️ https://x.com/catholicgent Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We start Lent with strong intentions. The fasting plan is clear. The prayer routine feels doable. The discipline is there. But somewhere in the middle of Lent, the struggle begins. The motivation fades, the routine breaks down, and we quietly give up. In this episode of Into the Desert, Fr. Ken Geraci and John Heinen explain why this exact moment is where real spiritual growth begins. The desert exposes the limits of self-reliance and reveals how much a man still depends on his own strength instead of God’s grace. Instead of seeing failure as the end of Lent, this conversation reframes the struggle as the place where humility, surrender, and deeper conversion begin. 🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ with over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com/rosary 🟢 Join us as we go Into the Desert with Fr. Ken Geraci -⁠ https://catholicgentlemanplus.com/lent 👉 Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: ⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/t... COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The word "headship" has become so loaded that most men either weaponize it or abandon it entirely. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt cut through the cultural noise to recover what male leadership actually means, not as domination or control, but as a divine paradigm rooted in the very nature of God and modeled from the beginning in Adam, St. Joseph, and Christ Himself. Why do men of goodwill still feel confused about their role? This is Satan's playbook and plan of attack. What follows is a frank, theologically grounded unpacking of what Devin calls "charitable authority", the kind of leadership that doesn't demand compliance but authors the story of a family's glory by pouring itself out. The three P's of the leader of the family are examined not as a management framework but as a way of understanding the ransom a man pays so that his wife and children can be free. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Devin Schadt's new book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno ______________________ -- FOLLOW THE CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN – ➡️ https://www.instagram.com/catholicgentleman ➡️ https://www.facebook.com/TheCatholicGentleman ➡️ https://x.com/catholicgent 🔴 PLEASE HELP US GROW THIS CHANNEL 🔴 1. Don’t miss a Youtube Catholic Gentleman Video: Please click SUBSCRIBE, then Click the "Notification Bell" = 🔔 and select “ALL”. This will make sure that you are notified when any new video is released. 2. Please "Like" this video. 👍 3. Please share this video on Facebook and Twitter using the SHARE button. Please SUBSCRIBE, LIKE, AND SHARE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We can look disciplined on the surface while still clinging to comfort, control, security, and the illusion that what we have is our own. This conversation gets underneath the act of giving and presses on the deeper question: what am I holding onto? Fr. Ken Geraci and John Heinen talk about why almsgiving is more than generosity, why it exposes the heart, and how gratitude breaks the instinct to accumulate. If fasting teaches a man to master his appetites and prayer teaches him to abide in God, almsgiving teaches him to let go. It trains him to live open-handed before the Lord and to remember that everything he has has first been given. This is not just about money. It is about attachment, trust, possession, and whether a man lives like an owner or a steward. 🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com/rosary 👉 Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We avoid thinking about death until it forces its way into the room. But what happens when a husband and father is suddenly told he has ninety days to live? In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt examine the striking story of former Nebraska senator Ben Sasse, who recently revealed a stage-four pancreatic cancer diagnosis. Drawing from his candid interview reflecting on that moment, they explore how the ancient Christian discipline of memento mori, remembering death, cuts through ambition, noise, and distraction to reveal what actually matters in a man’s life. Sasse speaks openly about regret, fatherhood, selfishness, and the urgency of redeeming time when the clock is no longer theoretical. John and Devin unpack his reflections through the lens of the Church’s tradition, from Sirach’s warning to “remember your last end” to the teaching of saints like Jerome, Augustine, and Alphonsus Liguori, while confronting the questions most men quietly push aside: what would change if you truly believed your days were numbered? 🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com/rosary 👉 Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Prayer becomes one of two things: a religious obligation or a strategy to get results. But it's not a productivity tool. It’s not emotional therapy. And it’s not a way to convince God of anything. In this week’s Lent series, Fr. Ken Geraci and John Heinen cut through the purpose of prayer. If fasting makes room, prayer is where union happens. Prayer is where control dies, and where a man learns to be with God instead of trying to manage Him. Fr. Ken breaks down why so many men stall in prayer: they measure success by feelings, clarity, or outcomes. But real prayer is about fidelity, surrender, and transformation. It is less about talking and more about consenting to be changed. 🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ with over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentleman.lpages.co/l... 🟢 Join us as we go Into the Desert with Fr. Ken Geraci -⁠ https://catholicgentlemanplus.com/lent 👉 Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: ⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/t... COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How a man treats women is never a side issue. It is one of the clearest revelations of his interior life, where it is at and even where it is going. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt explore why masculinity is tested not in dominance, intellect, or achievement, but in whether a man honors, protects, and reverences the feminine. From the way a man looks at women in public, to how he speaks about them in private, to how he carries the emotional and spiritual weight of his marriage, the conversation exposes the subtle ways men either elevate women to their proper dignity or reduce them for personal use. Do you protect or consume? This episode moves beyond surface-level advice and into formation and practical use. John and Devin address lust, resentment, spiritual passivity, and the quiet temptation to withdraw when love becomes costly. They examine why a husband’s response to his wife shapes the entire atmosphere of a home, and why a man’s relationship with woman ultimately reflects something deeper about his relationship with God. The path forward is not control, but self-gift; not avoidance, but reverent strength. 🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ with over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 🟢 Into the Desert with Fr. Ken Geraci -⁠ https://catholicgentleman.lpages.co/into-the-desert/ 👉 Devin Schadt’s book - - LEAD - Daily Devotional for Men - https://shop.stewardshipmission.com/products/lead-daily-devontions-for-every-man - The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's time for a reset to the entire purpose of fasting. John shares how he spent years fasting the wrong way, treating it like self-mortification for the sake of self-control. Until a spiritual director challenged him: fasting isn’t mainly about proving you can suffer. It’s about making room for loving union with Christ. Fr. Ken explains why the Church gives a minimal fasting prescription. It’s meant to be doable for everyone, including children, the elderly, and those with health issues. But if you’re able-bodied and serious about Lent, the question becomes: what is Christ actually inviting you to do? 🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ with over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentleman.lpages.co/l... 🟢 Never miss each Into the Desert release -⁠ https://catholicgentlemanplus.com/lent 👉 Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: ⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/t... COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You see over 5000 marketing messages every day. In 2025, hundreds of billions of emails were sent every day, notifications never stop, and research shows the average person switches attention every 47 seconds. We are conditioned to live and stay teathered to noise. But all of this keeps us separated from God. In addition, Scripture warns that men will render account for every careless word they speak (Matthew 12:36), and God Himself speaks not in the earthquake or the fire, but in the whisper. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose how noise is not neutral; it weakens men, fragments our attention, and keeps us from a purposeful life. Silence is not passivity. It is your strategic power. It is an interior dominion. It is the hidden strength of St. Joseph, the composure of Christ before Pilate, and the battleground where identity and mission are clarified. John and Devin break down silence within ourselves, silence before others, and silence before God, why most men resist it, and why the man who refuses silence forfeits confidence, peace under pressure, and grace. 🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ with over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 🟢 Into the Desert with Fr. Ken Geraci -⁠ https://catholicgentleman.lpages.co/into-the-desert/ 👉 Devin Schadt’s books -- LEAD - Daily Devotional for Men - https://shop.stewardshipmission.com/products/lead-daily-devontions-for-every-man - The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20Join Email - https://catholicgentleman.com/podcast... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Ash Wednesday, Fr. Ken Geraci and John Heinen go straight to the heart of Lent’s first command: repent and believe. We're focusing on two concrete actions that we avoid until we're desperate: a real examination of conscience and a clean, simple confession. Not scrupulosity. Not vague generalities. An honest inventory of blind spots, weak spots, compromises, and missed opportunities for virtue. 🟢 Father's of Mercy Examination of Conscience: https://fathersofmercy.com/fathers-of... 🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ with over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentleman.lpages.co/l... 🟢 Into the Desert with Fr. Ken Geraci -⁠ https://catholicgentleman.lpages.co/i... 👉 Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: ⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/t... COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Men treat Lent as optional. However, if this were the case, Christ would NOT have begun His public ministry with the command to repent. Yet most Catholic men approach Lent as if it were extra credit — giving something up, struggling through forty days, and returning to the same patterns unchanged. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt discuss the real reason Lent exists. Penance is not a spiritual accessory, and conversion is not reserved for dramatic moments of crisis. Lent is ordered toward metanoia, a real turning away from sin and a deliberate turning toward Christ. Together, they clarify what penance actually means in Scripture and tradition, why many men resist it, and why discipline without direction produces little lasting fruit. Most importantly, they lay out a concrete three-step plan to help men structure Lent intentionally, not as a seasonal effort, but as a path toward becoming like Christ. 🟢 FREE ROSARY - Join Catholic Gentleman+ with over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness:https://catholicgentleman.lpages.co/lent-rosary/ 🟢 Into the Desert with Fr. Ken Geraci - https://catholicgentleman.lpages.co/into-the-desert/ 👉 Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pride among Catholic men rarely looks like arrogance. What men don't realize is that it surfaces as control, self-reliance, withdrawal, or even habits that appear virtuous on the surface. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt are joined by Patrick O’Hearn to examine why pride is so difficult to recognize in ourselves, and why it quietly blocks growth in the spiritual life, marriage, and leadership. They unpack why the Litany of Humility remains one of the Church’s most demanding prayers, and how it exposes attachments that many men don’t realize they’re carrying. 🟢 Get Patrick's Book for 20% Off Today - Code Gentleman20 https://sophiainstitute.com/product/humility-of-the-saints/ Patrick O'Hearn's Site - https://patrickrohearn.com/ 🙏 Litany of Humility - https://catholicgentleman.com/2026/01/the-litany-of-humility/ 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for exclusive formation, full sessions, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Get Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ Coupon Code for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Men today are often lost and quietly confused. Some know they should strive for more, yet feel strangely unmoved to pursue it. Others are driven but stuck, spinning their wheels, repeating the same habits and even the same sins, wondering why nothing ever changes. Still others feel unambitious, listless, and disengaged, moving from obligation to obligation without a clear sense of direction. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt name a reality they see everywhere: men who are not evil or careless, but internally stalled, unsure why they never seem to get ahead. Drawing on the work of Dallas Willard and their own experience walking with men, John and Devin unpack a simple but necessary framework for real change: Vision, Intention, and Means. They explore why some men burn with misdirected ambition while others drift without desire, how both stem from the same interior problem, and why a man’s belief in heaven, whether real or merely theoretical, shapes how he lives today. 🟢 Join over a 1000 men inside of Catholic Gentleman+ and get 33 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, dozens of books, and a lot more: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Get Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno Join Email - https://catholicgentleman.com/podcast-listing ______________________ -- FOLLOW THE CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN -- ➡️ https://www.instagram.com/catholicgentleman➡️ https://www.facebook.com/TheCatholicGentleman ➡️ https://x.com/catholicgent Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most men today feel torn in a dozen directions. Family, work, faith, pressure, expectations, comparison, and the relentless noise of a culture that confuses success with self-promotion. In this conversation, Jeff Schiefelbein dismantles those false narratives. He reveals a radically Catholic vision of leadership and manhood built not on ego, luck, or hustle, but on integrity, stewardship, and the courage to live the life God is actually calling you to live. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for deeper formation, exclusive content, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness:⁠https://catholicgentlemanplus.com⁠ 👉 Get Devin Schadt’s book The Rule:⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/⁠Coupon Code for 20% off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does God allow suffering, especially for good and innocent people who are trying to live faithfully? Many men assume suffering means something has gone wrong: a lack of faith, a mistake, or even abandonment by God. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt confront that assumption directly. Drawing from our own personal suffering they challenge the modern instinct to avoid pain at all costs and instead ask a more honest question: what if suffering is not evidence of God’s absence, but of His love and formation? The conversation moves beyond theory into the real struggles men face in marriage, fatherhood, prayer, and responsibility. John and Devin explore why men resist suffering, how pride and presumption distort our response to it, and what suffering actually produces when it is accepted rather than numbed or escaped. They also discuss why learning to suffer well is essential to becoming a strong, faithful Catholic man. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for deeper formation, exclusive content, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness:https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Get Devin Schadt’s book The Rule:https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/Coupon Code for 20% off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Men who are trying to be disciplined, responsible, and successful still feel internally restless, scattered, or dissatisfied. They work harder, set better goals, and chase improvement, yet something underneath remains unresolved. The problem is not effort. It’s formation. Many men were never given a clear vision of what masculinity is ordered toward, only pressure to perform and compete without understanding who they are or why they strive. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt name seven hard truths most men are not prepared for, truths about identity, discipline, interior life, spiritual warfare, vocation, marriage, and suffering. These are non-negotiables that reorder a man’s interior world and reshape how he lives, loves, and leads within his vocation. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman Plus for deeper formation and exclusive content:https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 📘 Get Devin Schadt’s book The Rule (Sophia Institute Press):https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ Coupon Code: Gentleman20Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Protecting your wife and family in 2026 looks very different than it did even a few years ago. The pressures facing marriages today are often subtle rather than dramatic. Constant noise, distraction, comparison, stress, and moral confusion now have unprecedented access to the home. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt examine why many men feel stretched thin yet unsure how to truly guard what has been entrusted to them. Rather than reducing protection to control or physical danger alone, John and Devin break down four concrete ways husbands are called to stand between their wives, children, and the forces that quietly erode peace and unity. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 33 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness:https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Get Devin Schadt’s book The Rule:https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/Coupon Code for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If Satan and his demons are going around waging a perpetual war on mankind and seeking whom they may devour, wouldn't it be great if we understood their tactics and strategies? Today John, Devin, and Sam discuss how the Church has grown in her understanding, through Scripture, theology, as well as exorcisms, and how we can use this knowledge to our benefit. We discuss man's need for temptation and how Satan gains entrance into our lives. We unpack why you need to know the tactics of Satan, how understanding this can provide clarity in your lives, and how you can be battle-ready to protect yourself against his attacks. Today we get to answer a question for a listener regarding his insecurities about measuring up while around other men. ✅ If you have any questions that we can answer on the show, please, send your questions to us at [email protected]. If you record yourself on your phone and send us the audio clip we will play it on air. 🔴 🔴 Watch the extended addition, all 1h 30 mins of episode 143 on Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com, and become a part of the movement to become a man and a saint. Help Support the Catholic Gentleman by either signing up for CG+ https://catholicgentlemanplus.com or https://catholicgentleman.com/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do so many men find themselves struggling with the same patterns their fathers struggled with: anger, distraction, work obsession, emotional distance, lust, even despite promising they’d be different? The truth is, fathers pass far more to their children than they realize. Not just beliefs or values, but habits, tone, priorities, and ways of relating that quietly shape the next generation. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose five hidden vices that fathers often pass on without ever intending to. They challenge men to see what their children are already learning from them, and how to break destructive cycles before they become generational. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for deeper formation, exclusive sessions, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Join us on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@TheCatholicGentleman 👉 25% OFF Devin’s new book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ Use coupon code Gentleman25 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Keith Nester spent more than two decades as a Protestant pastor. Preaching, leading, counseling, and absolutely certain he would never become Catholic. Yet his actual conversion story is long, often humorous, at times painful, and far deeper than a simple change of denomination. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt sit down with​ ⁨ @KeithNester to uncover what really happened behind the scenes: the fears he carried, the pride he had to confront, the moments of grace that broke him open, and the unexpected ways God used marriage, suffering, and friendship to draw him home. But this isn’t just a conversion story, the show quickly turns to truths every man needs to hear. Truths about how to lead, love, and live the faith with integrity. Keith shares the “hard truth” he believes all men must face: that authority without humility collapses, that evangelization begins long before words are spoken, but we still must speak, and that the quiet witness of fatherhood, sacrifice, and joy can transform more hearts than arguments ever will. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@keithnester Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/keithnestercatholic Website - https://down2earthministry.org/ 👉 25% OFF Devin’s new book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ Use coupon code Gentleman25 for 25% off this Christmas Season. SPONSOR - https://www.vocatiotravel.com Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every parent wonders if their child will grow up successful, strong, capable, and grounded in faith. Most turn to schools, activities, friendships, or strategies to secure that future. But in this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt cut through the noise and uncover what research, psychology, and the Catholic tradition all identify as the single greatest predictor of a child’s long-term success. It’s not more activities, better schools, or the right opportunities. It’s something far closer to home. John and Devin share stories, lived experience, and a practical framework any father can begin living today. You’ll walk away challenged, encouraged, and surprised by how simple, yet demanding, the path really is. If you’ve ever wondered what truly sets a child up for lifelong success, this conversation has the answer.🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 25% OFF Devin’s new book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/Use coupon code Gentleman25 for 25% off this Christmas Season. Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every father faces the immense challenge of shaping his son. In this compelling episode, John Heinen, Devin Schadt, and Sam Guzman confront the critical question: How can fathers avoid leaving emotional wounds and instead raise sons who thrive to be men? Discover the five essential needs every son has from his father. Needs that, when neglected, keep a boy from becoming a man. Join us as we unpack these vital lessons that empower fathers to break the cycle of hurt and build a legacy of strength and integrity. We love to answer your questions so please send them to us at [email protected] 🔴 NEW SESSION ON SURRENDER, now available. You can get this, dozens of talks, sessions, and books inside of CatholicGentlemanPlus.com - Join Us Today! 33 Sessions Now Available - Weekly Extended Episodes - Exclusive Monthly Guest Experts - Daily Saint Quotes and More Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do when your spouse’s past sins still frustrate your present? When forgiveness has been given, but you find yourself still losing your peace and thinking about it? In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt confront a painful and often-unspoken challenge in marriage, how to find peace, confidence, and love when your spouse’s past continues to echo in your life. They discuss why sexual sin leaves such deep scars, how comparison poisons peace, and how Christ’s mercy can restore both love and trust. Today, they share the theology, psychology, and practical steps that lead to freedom. Whether you’re haunted by your spouse’s past or your own, this episode reveals how God can make what was wounded whole again. SPONSOR - https://www.vocatiotravel.com 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for exclusive formation, daily saint reflections, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Get Devin Schadt’s new book The Rule — your roadmap to authentic Catholic manhood: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ Use coupon code Gentleman20 for 20% off. Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every couple begins marriage with love, purpose, and seemingly endless dreams, but then the kids arrive...and everything changes. Sleepless nights, endless noise, and unrelenting schedules can slowly replace tenderness with tension. Before long, spouses who once felt inseparable find themselves living like teammates or strangers, wondering where the closeness went. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt confront one of the hardest truths of married life: intimacy doesn’t die overnight; it fades when it’s no longer pursued. They share how to see, hear, remember, and respect your wife again, and how daily virtue (not quick fixes) restores the bond that children, exhaustion, and the world so easily erode. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for 30+ sessions to help you understand how to balance work, how to overcome lust, how to actually prayer, and a ton more: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com👉 Get Devin Schadt’s new book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ Use coupon code Gentleman20 for 20% off. Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno ______________________ 🔴 PLEASE HELP US GROW THIS CHANNEL 🔴1. Don’t miss a Youtube Catholic Gentleman Video: Please click SUBSCRIBE, then Click the "Notification Bell" = 🔔and select “ALL”. This will make sure that you are notified when any new video is released. 2. Please "Like" this video. 👍3. Please share this video on Facebook and Twitter using the SHARE button. ______________________ -- FOLLOW THE CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN -- https://www.facebook.com/TheCatholicGentleman https://www.instagram.com/catholicgentlemanhttps://twitter.com/catholicgent______________________ Go to our website https://catholicgentleman.com/podcast-listing to join our mailing list Please SUBSCRIBE, LIKE, AND SHARE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most couples believe love and faith are enough to build a marriage. But what if they aren't? Too often, the real cracks appear after the vows because they never talked about what truly matters. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt walk through the questions engaged or serious couples must ask to build a lasting, holy marriage - the ones no one talks about anymore. From intimacy and past wounds to faith, finances, and family culture, this episode uncovers the silent assumptions that quietly sabotage relationships. Whether you’re preparing for marriage or already living it, this conversation will challenge and strengthen you to love with purpose, lead with humility, and live your vows with integrity. QUESTION DOWNLOAD - https://bit.ly/TCG-Pre-Marriage-Questions 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 exclusive formation sessions, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Get Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/Use coupon code Gentleman20 for 20% off. Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every loving husband wants his wife to be happy. But what happens when every attempt, every word, solution, silence, seems to push her further away? Why is it that more often than not, she does not want us to help her fix her problems? In this episode, John Heinen & Devin Schadt dig into the struggle so many good men face: the instinct to fix their wife’s unhappiness… and why healing often begins when you stop trying to be her repairman. You’ll hear the truth about the masculine drive to solve, the feminine longing to be seen, and how the real breakthrough comes when you shift your focus from making her happy to loving her well. FREE Handmade Wooden Rosary with Pardon Crucifix This Month for those joining CG+. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: ⁠⁠https://catholicgentlemanplus.com⁠⁠ 👉 Devin Schadt’s new book The Rule: ⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule⁠ COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno ______________________ 🔴 PLEASE HELP US GROW THIS CHANNEL 🔴 1. Don’t miss a Youtube Catholic Gentleman Video: Please click SUBSCRIBE, then Click the "Notification Bell" = 🔔 and select “ALL”. This will make sure that you are notified when any new video is released. 2. Please "Like" this video. 👍 3. Please share this video on Facebook and Twitter using the SHARE button. ______________________ -- FOLLOW THE CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN -- https://www.facebook.com/TheCatholicGentleman https://www.instagram.com/catholicgentleman https://twitter.com/catholicgent ______________________ Go to our website https://catholicgentleman.com/podcast-listing to join our mailing list Please SUBSCRIBE, LIKE, AND SHARE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every man lives by a story, but what if the story you’ve been living isn’t true? We find ourselves, unknowingly, trapped in lies that define who we are and how we must act. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose the hidden lies that quietly shape how men see themselves, their worth, and their purpose. These lies are subtle, powerful, and universal, and until they’re revealed, they keep good men restless, anxious, and unsure of who they really are. With honesty and Catholic depth, John and Devin call men back to their true identity, one rooted not in lies but in something far greater. If you’ve ever felt like you’re striving but still empty, this is the episode you can’t afford to miss. FREE Handmade Wooden Rosary with Pardon Crucifix This Month for those joining CG+. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: ⁠⁠https://catholicgentlemanplus.com⁠⁠👉 Devin Schadt’s new book The Rule: ⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule⁠ COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer - Pietro Damasceno ______________________ 🔴 PLEASE HELP US GROW THIS CHANNEL 🔴1. Don’t miss a Youtube Catholic Gentleman Video: Please click SUBSCRIBE, then Click the "Notification Bell" = 🔔 and select “ALL”. This will make sure that you are notified when any new video is released. 2. Please "Like" this video. 👍3. Please share this video on Facebook and Twitter using the SHARE button. ______________________ -- FOLLOW THE CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN -- https://www.facebook.com/TheCatholicGentleman https://www.instagram.com/catholicgentlemanhttps://twitter.com/catholicgent______________________ Go to our website https://catholicgentleman.com/podcast-listing to join our mailing list Please SUBSCRIBE, LIKE, AND SHARE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

WARNING, this episode contains adult content. Few men realize how deeply silence about sex can wound intimacy. It’s not usually selfishness that causes distance, but fear of saying the wrong thing, being rejected, or exposing the ache for connection that runs deeper than words. Over time, unspoken needs harden into resentment, and what was meant to unite begins to divide. In this episode released from 9 months ago, John Heinen and Devin Schadt open a brutally honest conversation about how to talk with your wife about sex. Not as a demand, but as a path toward healing, holiness, and true partnership. Drawing from Scripture, Catholic wisdom, and personal experience, they reveal how mercy, patience, and honest communication can restore trust and rekindle desire. If you’ve ever wanted deeper unity in your marriage, this is where it begins. FREE Handmade Wooden Rosary with Pardon Crucifix This Month for those joining CG+. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: ⁠⁠https://catholicgentlemanplus.com⁠⁠/october-rosary 👉 Devin Schadt’s new book The Rule: ⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule⁠ COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno ______________________ 🔴 PLEASE HELP US GROW THIS CHANNEL 🔴 1. Don’t miss a Youtube Catholic Gentleman Video: Please click SUBSCRIBE, then Click the "Notification Bell" = 🔔 and select “ALL”. This will make sure that you are notified when any new video is released. 2. Please "Like" this video. 👍 3. Please share this video on Facebook and Twitter using the SHARE button. ______________________ -- FOLLOW THE CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN -- https://www.facebook.com/TheCatholicGentleman https://www.instagram.com/catholicgentleman https://twitter.com/catholicgent ______________________ Go to our website https://catholicgentleman.com/podcast-listing to join our mailing list Please SUBSCRIBE, LIKE, AND SHARE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

WARNING, this episode contains adult content. Most wives truly love their husbands, yet still feel confused by what he needs, what drives him, and what hurts him. Most husbands deeply love their wives, yet struggle to explain what’s really going on inside. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt unpack the four deepest needs of men. With honesty, research, and Catholic wisdom, they bring clarity to what women often misunderstand and what men rarely articulate. You’ll discover why intimacy is about far more than sex, why beauty speaks to a man’s soul, why respect is fundamental in your relationship, and how to move forward in true partnership. If you’ve ever wanted to better understand your husband, or yourself as a man, this conversation brings insight, compassion, and truth. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: ⁠⁠https://catholicgentlemanplus.com⁠⁠ 👉 Devin Schadt’s new book The Rule: ⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule⁠ COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno ______________________ 🔴 PLEASE HELP US GROW THIS CHANNEL 🔴 1. Don’t miss a Youtube Catholic Gentleman Video: Please click SUBSCRIBE, then Click the "Notification Bell" = 🔔 and select “ALL”. This will make sure that you are notified when any new video is released. 2. Please "Like" this video. 👍 3. Please share this video on Facebook and Twitter using the SHARE button. ______________________ -- FOLLOW THE CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN -- https://www.facebook.com/TheCatholicGentleman https://www.instagram.com/catholicgentleman https://twitter.com/catholicgent ______________________ Go to our website https://catholicgentleman.com/podcast-listing to join our mailing list Please SUBSCRIBE, LIKE, AND SHARE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most men want to succeed in life, but could never explain how it’s truly done. We chase goals, work harder, and push ourselves, yet still feel like something is missing. The world promises success, comfort, and freedom, but delivers noise, confusion, emptiness, and disappointment. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt reveal 7 Rules Only the Best Men Know, a framework that works 100% of the time. These rules cut through the noise and give men the clarity and strength they’ve been missing. With Scripture, Catholic wisdom, and lived experience, they challenge men to stop drifting, stop doubting, and start living with purpose. COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 👉 Devin Schadt’s book The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule FREE ROSARY the Month of October 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 31 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://catholicgentlemanplus.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most husbands love their wives and are trying to do their best, yet many still make hidden mistakes that quietly convince her she isn’t loved. These aren’t failures of bad men, but blind spots of good men who don’t realize how their actions (or inactions) land. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose the unseen ways husbands lose their wives’ hearts and reveal a path toward lasting love and trust. With Scripture, Catholic wisdom, and real experience, they challenge men to grow into the husbands they are called to be. If you’ve ever wondered why your wife doesn’t always feel cherished, even when you’re trying, this conversation is for you. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: ⁠https://catholicgentlemanplus.com⁠ 👉 Devin Schadt’s new book on THE RULE: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it lust or love? Many men are looking for a cure for lust and often think that marriage will cure it, only to discover the struggle follows them into married life. The truth is, marriage doesn’t magically cure lust. If you battled it before, you’ll still battle it after. Marriage doesn’t change the interior dispositions and temptations of man. Love does. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose one of the most misunderstood realities in marriage: the difference between lust and love. Wives know the difference, and they can feel when they are cherished and when they are being used. And if men don’t learn this distinction, it erodes trust, poisons communication, and slowly kills intimacy. 🟢 Join Catholic Gentleman+ for over 30 sessions of exclusive formation, daily saint quotes, and a brotherhood of men pursuing holiness: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 👉 Devin Schadt’s new book on The Rule: https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule COUPON CODE for 20% Off: Gentleman20 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Exorcisms have been around for millennia within the Church. No one outside the Catholic Church has the authority to cast out demons. In this episode, John Heinen sits down with Charles Fraune to talk about the spiritual war most men never see, and the unexpected allies exorcists call on to help them win it. These aren’t tricks or hacks within their toolkit. These are real accounts from modern-day spiritual battles, where demons rage at the names of certain saints and physical relics cause real torment. Charles shares what he’s learned from working with exorcists, what the Church teaches about the saints’ ongoing mission, and why every man needs to claim spiritual warriors to fight for him and with him. You don’t need to be possessed to need a saint. You just need to be in the battle, and we all are. Get the book: The Most Powerful Saints in ExorcismsUse code Gentleman20 for 20% off at checkout. 🟢 Support The Catholic Gentleman and join 100s of men united in changing themselves and changing the world. Whatever your struggle, whatever your need, there is something for you: ⁠https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Men underestimate the war being waged against them. The Devil doesn’t just tempt from a distance; he enters your home, seeking to pull you off your vocation as a husband and father, drown out the voice of God, and divide your marriage. Scripture, the saints, and even modern exorcists confirm it: this is how the enemy works. Yet the vast majority of men are unarmed and frankly unaware. Only 5–10% of Catholic men are even praying daily. Is it any wonder the family is crumbling? In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt break open The Rule to expose three subtle but devastating ways demons attack men. We’ll name what’s really happening, why it matters for husbands and fathers, and how you can resist. Get Devin’s new book The Rule: Coupon Code for 20% off: Gentleman20 https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ 🟢 Support The Catholic Gentleman and join 100s of men united in changing themselves and changing the world. Whatever your struggle, whatever your need, there is something for you: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

He was a successful trial lawyer, fighting every day in the courtroom and climbing the ladder of prestige, until God spoke two simple words to him: “Just leave.” God also spoke to his wife as well! In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John Heinen sits down with Mike Pacer to uncover the No. 1 lesson every husband needs to hear. From leaving behind worldly success, to praying daily for his wife, to finding strength in weakness, Mike shares the raw story of how a man becomes more than a provider. His lived experience is a lesson for us all. And it will change the way you listen to God, the way you love your wife, and the way you lead your family. Find Out More from Mike Pacer Books by Mike Pacer Prayers for Catholic Men Mercy and Hope⁠ The Three Comings of Christ - Daily Meditations for Advent 5 Stones weare5stones.com Get Devin’s new book The Rule — use coupon code Gentleman20 for 20% off - https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ 🟢 Support The Catholic Gentleman and join 100s of men united in changing themselves and changing the world. Whatever your struggle, whatever your need, there is something for you: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When words don’t work, agreements seem impossible, and distance grows, there are practices every man can begin today, hidden ways that rebuild trust, create clarity, and change the way you lead in every relationship. In this episode of The Catholic Gentleman, John and Devin reveal four hidden ways to win your wife’s heart every time. These principles apply to friendships, family, and work, but they work best where it matters most: in your marriage. They’re not gimmicks or tricks, but the kind of invisible leadership Christ Himself modeled. They never teach this… but it works. 📖 Get Devin’s new book The Rule — use coupon code Gentleman20 for 20% off - https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/ 🟢 Support The Catholic Gentleman and join 100s of men united in changing themselves and changing the world. Whatever your struggle, whatever your need, there is something for you: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many husbands confuse authority with control, and it’s slowly killing trust in their marriages. In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt unpack why your wife resists your leadership, how control is a counterfeit of true authority, and why authority, rightly lived, is a God-given responsibility that blesses and gives life. You’ll hear practical examples of the appropriate use of authority versus control over your spouse in spiritual life, finances, and parenting, along with the deeper fears that drive men to dominate or withdraw. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to lead with sacrificial love, preserve your wife’s dignity and free will, and rebuild trust even when your leadership has been rejected. QUESTION FOR US: We love to answer your questions on the show so send them our way to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠ 🔴 Join Catholic Gentleman+ – 30 SESSIONS AVAILABLE Enjoy 30 unique sessions for men, access exclusive weekly content, ebooks, guest series, and our live Q and A at Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today, John and Sam are excited to announce a new host to our show, Devin Schadt. He will be joining us weekly to answer the tough questions that men face and add to the depth of knowledge and discussion. This week we talk about warning signs that your wife is not feeling loved. We open up about what we have each learned about truly loving our wives and the many ways that we have failed. We then go into the importance of this topic and how by understanding the nature of women, we can be the husbands they need and the husband God is calling us to be. Finally, each week we are going to answer one of your questions during the podcast. This week we have a question from a father about how to be present to his kids after a long and exhausting day at work. If you have any questions, please, record yourself on your phone and send us the audio clip to ⁠[email protected]⁠. Or just send us your question and we will read it on air. Warning Signs - https://catholicgentleman.com/2023/01/your-wife-doesnt-feel-loved-8-warning-signs Watch all 1h 40mins of episode 130 on Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 🔴 FREE HANDMADE ROSARY THIS MONTH ONLY (This in addition to the book, leather keychain, and incredible content) Catholic Gentleman+ - https://catholicgentlemanplus.com 🔴 🔴 Help Support the Catholic Gentleman - https://catholicgentleman.com/support Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many men think staying in the marriage is enough. They don't cheat, they provide, they avoid conflict, but is this all there is to marriage? In this episode, John Heinen and Devin Schadt expose the silent drift that leads so many marriages to die long before anyone leaves. They unpack what 73% of divorcing couples identify as the root issue, and redefine it in light of Scripture, covenant commitment, and the honest purpose of marriage. The conversation dives deep into what it truly means to lead, to suffer with, and to sanctify through your vocation as a husband. If your marriage feels stunted, strained, or disconnected, let's discuss how marriage can be your ultimate glory. Join Catholic Gentleman+ for exclusive access to 29 sessions on marriage, fatherhood, prayer, and spiritual warfare:https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do you do when every conversation with your wife seems to go sideways, even when you're trying to do the right thing? John Heinen and Devin Schadt sit down to expose the hidden habits that slowly destroy communication within marriages. With spiritual clarity and lived experience, they unpack how small patterns, like avoidance, assumptions, or rushed “fixes/hacks", can consistently unravel trust between husband and wife. Instead of playing defense, this episode shows men 5 ways to take responsibility for the tone, clarity, and direction of the most important conversations in their home. We discuss how resentment breeds in the silent darkness of unmet needs. Because a Catholic husband doesn’t just talk, he leads. And that starts with the next conversation. QUESTION FOR US: We love to answer your questions on the show so send them our way to ⁠⁠[email protected]⁠⁠ 🔴 CATHOLIC GENTLEMAN PLUS – 29 SESSIONS AVAILABLE Enjoy 29 unique sessions for men, access exclusive weekly content, ebooks, guest series, and our live Q and A at Catholic Gentleman Plus: https://catholicgentlemanplus.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices