What Changes After 40: Love, Selfhood, and What Matters
The Angry Therapist Podcast · The Angry Therapist
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Show Notes
John sits down in Costa Rica (yes, literally in a golf cart) with two therapists — Vanessa Bennett and Madeleine Downey — for a “therapists are humans too” episode built around questions you’d ask in therapy… that end up turning into real-time revelations about identity after 40, emotional safety, and what we stop tolerating once we’ve lived a little.
This conversation lands especially hard if you’re in that season of life where you’re asking: Why doesn’t the old version of me fit anymore? and What do I actually want now — in love, in friendship, in myself?
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🔗 Guest Links: Madeleine Downey
Instagram: @madeleinedowney
Substack (It’s Giving Alchemy): https://madeleinedowney.substack.com
Shadow Work Group – Inner Compass Collective: https://inner-compass-collective.circle.so/
Vanessa Bennett
Instagram @vanessasbennett
Apply to Inner Compass Academy: https://www.vanessabennett.com/inner-compass-academy
Author of “The Motherhood Myth” Buy the Book Here: https://www.amazon.com/Motherhood-Myth-Reimagining-Expectations-Partnership/dp/1649633416
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