Why Sex Starts Feeling Like Work for Women | Ep. 138
Taboo to Truth: Life & Sex After 50 · Karen Bigman
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Show Notes
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Sex feels like work for many women. Desire fades. Resentment builds. In this episode, Annette Benedetti explains why this happens and how intimacy breaks down over time. She unpacks the orgasm gap, the damage of performance driven sex, and why penetration centered intimacy leaves women disconnected. You hear why foreplay throughout the day matters, why aftercare changes desire, and how owning your own pleasure transforms relationships. This episode gives men clarity and gives women permission to stop performing and start feeling.
In this episode:
00:00 Why sex starts to feel like work
03:40 The orgasm gap and why it matters
07:50 How sex becomes performative for women
12:30 Why desire fades in long term relationships
16:45 Foreplay happens all day
21:30 Why penetration centered sex fails women
26:10 Aftercare and emotional safety
30:40 What men want and why they feel unwanted
35:20 How to talk about sex without blame
39:10 Owning your own pleasure and reconnecting
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Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: [email protected]
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
About the Guest:
Annette Benedetti is an intimacy coach and host of Talk Sex with Annette, the go-to podcast for bold, unfiltered conversations at the intersection of sexuality, identity, and empowerment.
From k*nk to connection, self-love to sexual healing, Annette dives into the topics most people are too afraid to touch—with expertise, raw storytelling, and a feminist lens that challenges shame and reclaims pleasure.
Connect with ___:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annettebenedetti/
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@talksexwithannette
Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannette
Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.
This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.
Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:
Email: [email protected]
Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruth
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcast
Substack: https://karenbigman.substack.com
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