T Time: Spiritual conversations For, With and About Women.

We think it is safe to say, 2020 was a challenging year for everyone. People were experiencing enforced social isolation, depression and anxiety were at an all-time high and more. However, those things don't just disappear because of a new year. On this T Time, we discuss the importance of seeking professional counseling, knowing when you need to seek counseling and the stigmas behind faith and counseling. 00:09 Twanna introduces special guest Felice Hightower Britt, who is a licensed professional counselor. 02:05 Felice shares her experience with how she became a licensed counselor. 04:37 Twanna points out that many biblical scholars think counseling and psychotherapy violate the Bible's integrity and asks Felice her views on this. 05:26 Felice explains her personal experience with avoiding counseling when she needed it most and how she learned that Christ, in Scripture, shares how he has sent counselors for his people. 09:14 Felice also explains the importance of taking your issues to God first and then seeking a counselor.11:36 Felice lists out signs people can look for to see if they need counseling. 14:34 Twanna and Felice discuss good ways to find the right counselor for you. 17:49 Felice breaks down the impact COVID-19 has had on Americans, in particular during 2020. 21:02 Felice shines a light on the difficulty of being single during social distancing and encourages singles to find purpose in this time. 23:53 Felice shares the benefits of counseling and what someone could get out of it. 29:12 Twanna asks if counselors need counselors. 32:55 Felice closes in prayer. For video versions of episode 48 and onward visit us on Youtube.

The focus is LOVE. This month on T Time, Twanna and her husband of 23 years, Pastor Michael Henderson, share transformational steps you can start today to experience and give love from John Townsend's book, Loving People: How to Love and Be Loved. 00:09 Twanna introduces Pastor Michael Henderson, her husband of 23 years, as the special guest for this month's special podcast for Valentine's Day. 01:05 This year, for one of Twanna and Pastor Henderson's goals, they committed to reading John Townsend's book, Loving People: How to Love and Be Loved. They share how they are going to talk about their biggest takeaways on loving people through this book. 03:11 Pastor Henderson unpacks the definition of love shared in Townsend's book.04:40 Pastor Henderson explains this new idea that some people are incapable of love because they have never genuinely received love themselves. 07:29 Due to his experience of growing up in a large family and not getting much attention, Pastor Henderson shares his thoughts on how he never really experienced or understood love until his conversion as a teenager. 09:00 The Greeks define love in different levels. Pastor Henderson explains three levels of love that were shared in Townsend's book. 13:46 Pastor Henderson talks about the common phrase of "loving yourself first" being more of a pop culture mentality and how Townsend debunks that thought in his book. 16:46 Twanna shares how Townsend, in his book, explains that for you to love people, you need two things: humility and tolerating discomfort. 20:00 If you want to connect with others, Pastor Henderson shares, you have got to be willing to get hurt by being vulnerable.22:21 Pastor Henderson answers Twanna's question about the difference between caring for someone and loving someone. The most significant distinction is that caring is safe, but you're taking a risk when you love. 26:22 Twanna asks, "why is letting go or forgiveness vital when loving people"? 26:45 Pastor Henderson explains the misunderstanding of forgiveness. Many believe forgiveness is for the offender when it is about the offended. 28:34 Pastor Henderson closes in prayer. For video versions of episode 48 and onward visit us on Youtube.

Toss the 100th gym membership thought out the door. Today on T Time, we talk about SMART goals for 2021. If you’ve never heard of or made a "SMART" goal, join us as we break down a life coaching strategy with Christina Lee, CEO and co-founder of Paradigm 360 Coach Training LLC.00:10 Twanna introduces special guest Christina Lee.02:21 Twanna asks Christina how she helps people set good goals.05:19 Christina breaks down what a "SMART" goal is.08:03 Twanna asks Christina how successful are people when starting goals to bring them to completion.09:42  Christina shares the "SEE" acronym and how it is essential to completing goals. 11:47 Christina shares that accountability is not just important for goals but every area of your life. 12:07 Twanna asks Christina what she would say to the people who feel like the goals they set for 2020 never happened.12:36 Christina says there has to be grace without lowering the standard. 14:36 Christina explains that as long as we set our goals through the lens of Scripture, then we should be getting our goals right 100% of the time. 17:00 Christina shares four things to start setting goals. 18:57 Christina shares how Jesus is the best coach to have ever walked the earth. 22:59 Christina closes in prayer. For video versions of episode 48 and onward visit us on Youtube.

Gratitude is not always easy but is essential to experience joy. Groundbreaking social researcher and best selling author Shaunti Feldhahn explains shares her analytical studies from both science and the bible and shares some tangible and key elements you need in order to have, keep and share joy. 00:10 Twanna introduces special guest Shaunti Feldhahn02:44 Twanna asks Shaunti if it is possible to experience joy in a season of pandemic? 03:15 Shaunti explains the difference between happiness and joy.05:10 Shaunti explains that one key factor to having joy is by living with an attitude of gratitude. 09:15 Shaunti shares about a myth that we have all bought into and that is the myth that venting is healthy. 12:00 Shaunti says, venting is not ok but seeking wisdom on a situation you need to talk through with a trusted friend is different. 15:36 Shaunti answers the question, "what has really been your journey to unshakable wonder" and how she began writing her devotional.  18:27 Shaunti discusses with Twanna how another piece to the puzzle of joy is to experience it. 21:04 Shaunti closes in prayer. For video versions of episode 48 and onward visit us on Youtube.

It takes practical skills to grow in emotionally healthy discipleship. Skills that help you speak the truth and not lie to yourself, learn how to disrupt false peace for true peace, begin to do clean fighting and not dirty fighting, and learning how to process difficult emotions. All of these skills are necessary for growing in emotionally healthy discipleship. Best-selling author Geri Scazzero shares her journey with her husband, Pete, in church planting and how she hit rock bottom with life's pressure of being the poster child for the church until she realized that pleasing and performing for others is far from the truth God wants for us. 00:09  Twanna welcomes listeners to the podcast and introduces special guest Geri Scazzero. 01:33  Geri shares her start to the journey of emotionally healthy discipleship. 03:14  Twanna mentions how there's nothing like pain that will push us to a whole new level of growth. 03:33  Geri shares her story on how her depression eventually led her to the point that her church no longer brought life to her but death. 08:39 Geri shares how she began to attend a different church from the one her husband and she had planted. This brought shame and embarrassment to her husband.  09:25  Twanna asks Geri to share how she has evolved now from that process.10:25  Geri shares how her core was not centered in the true gospel like she thought it was and that was the beginning of her transformation. 12:43  "If you're afraid of what other people think, then my okayness is not coming from the gospel, my sense of okayness my sense of self,  it's coming from your thoughts of me. In other words, I'm OK with me, if you're okay with me," says Geri. She shares that her identity was being built upon what others thought of her instead of God's gospel. 17:24  Geri shares the importance of telling the truth to yourself and how vital that is for your emotional health. 17:48  Twanna asks, how do people get to a place of emotionally healthy discipleship during a pandemic?18:36  Geri says it starts with self-awareness and knowing how to become self-aware, which begins with paying attention to your body and what is going on inside of you. 21:25  Twanna asks Geri if there is a difference between emotionally healthy discipleship for women than there is for men.22:18  Geri shares that it takes great courage to be emotionally healthy whether male or female and to go through that transformation. 26:34  Geri shares the importance of growing in self-awareness when you are a person in leadership. 27:32  Geri shares the purpose of her two-part course on her website emotionallyhealthy.org 30:34  Geri closes in prayer.For video versions of episode 48 and onward visit us on Youtube.

In life, the best thing we can do to move forward with our goals is to recognize our weaknesses. When we recognize our weaknesses, we can set up our environments to make it easier for us to do the things we need to do that will help us and not hurt us. This episode on taking back your temple will help you analyze the context of your life to help you fit in what works for you and your family to improve your health and fitness lifestyle. 00:27 Twanna introduces special guest Kimberly Taylor. 01:16 Twanna shares her excitement to talk about Kimberly's journey with health because of the common problem many people face of either currently struggling or having struggled with weight issues. 02:54 Kimberly explains that although she was a nurse, she never took her health seriously until the day she started to experience chest pain. 03:55 Kimberly shares where the name, "Take back your temple," came from and how taking care of ourselves is one of the ways we can show honor to God because our bodies are not our own. 05:30 Kimberly introduces her circle thoughts when it comes to stress eating: 1) what she can actually control and 2) circle of concern. 09:00 Twanna asks Kimberly if she has found that emotional issues play a part in weight gain.11:49 Kimberly encourages the audience to embrace foods in your life that will help keep you emotionally stable so that your focus could be on finishing the work the Lord has called you to. 13:50 Kimberly shares how it is a high honor for us to have the Holy Spirit living within us, and knowing that should propel us to take care of our bodies like a landlord who rents out their home. Whoever is renting it at the time needs to make sure to take care of it and keep it how it was given to them or even better. 17:32 Kimberly says, "We have to recognize our own weaknesses and set up our environment to make it easy to do things that help us and not hurt us." 18:00 Twanna asks how women can steer away from wanting what others have and learn to appreciate what God has already given us? 19:41 Kimberly asks, What would you do differently with someone else's body? Would you stare at yourself in the mirror all day or get out and share the gospel, which you can do in the body that God already gave you?21:17 Kimberly gives tips on how to introduce healthier meals without them noticing. 23:51 Twanna asks what people can do that want to get their bodies back on track.26:17 Kimberly says whatever weight loss system you are trying to adapt needs to work within the context of your life.27:28 Kimberly shares what the "take back your temple" ministry has to offer. 28:37 Kimberly closes in prayer. For video versions of episode 48 and onward visit us on Youtube.

Faith provides us with the ability to hope. It provides us with the ability to look beyond our circumstances and limitations, especially when battling sickness and/or disease. For years faith and medicine have been understood as competing entities when in reality we are learning that they work best when understood for what they are individually and how they can work together. 00:10 Twanna introduces special guest Rev. Percy McCray, National Director of Faith Based Programs. 01:33 Rev. McCray shares his story of his journey and how he ended up becoming the National Director of Faith Based programs at Cancer Treatment Center of America. 03:36 Twanna asks Rev. McCray whether there is a conflict between faith and medicine. 04:16 Rev. McCray presents that he believes there is a perceived conflict but the truth is there is no conflict at all. 07:34  Rev. McCray explains that although it is not obvious, many doctors are people of faith but because of the credentials they stand on they may not proclaim it when working verbally but within themselves, many pray and counsel their patients. 10:17 Twanna asks how faith potentially helps people experiencing COVID-19 and even cancer? 13:00 Faith provides patients with the ability to look beyond their own circumstances and limitations. 14:54 Twanna asks: how can we reconcile the fact as ministers that good people are getting something bad? 19:26 Rev. McCray refers to Romans 8:28, and emphasizes the word all. All things, whether good or bad, God will work it for our good. 20:28 Twanna shares how she believes God trusts certain people to suffer. 20:36 Rev. McCray discusses how suffering is a part of the walk of a believer. 22:19 Rev. McCray explains the connection between COVID-19 and cancer. 25:33 How do you encourage people who are encouraging? Asks Twanna. 28:07 Rev. McCray has to consistently remind his team that they are not the healer, they are to direct the people to the healer. 29:20  Rev. McCray defines what makes CTCA different from any other place and that is the fact that they embrace the idea of integrative medicine. 34:10 Rev. McCray closes the podcast in prayer. For video versions of episode 48 and onward visit us on Youtube.

"Women have never been insignificant in the presence of the Lord, and they never will be." Pastor Laurel Bunker shares her joys and challenges of the modern-day experience as a woman in higher education and leadership.00:09 Twanna introduces special guest Laurel Bunker, associate vice president of Christian Formation and Church Relations at Bethel University.01:17 Lauren talks about her many roles as campus pastor, primary preacher and bridge between Converge and Bethel.03:06 Laurel opens up about the challenges of being an African American woman in leadership.04:50 Laurel shares that her desire within the university and across the country is to help increase people’s cultural competence to be more mindful of their biases and perspectives.04:57 Twanna asks, "How do we break free of the influences of how we interpret Scripture based on our cultural values?"07:24 Laurel talks scripturally about the significance of a woman to Jesus.10:22 Laurel reveals that one of the biggest joys in her pastoral role to students is being able to pastor people who look nothing like her.13:00 From joys to disappointments, Laurel shares with Twanna about feeling that at times her personhood feels more like a liability.16:02 Laurel lists her women mentors and role models throughout the years.17:52 Twanna asks Laurel to share about her mentorship/leadership role toward women, specifically in the area of academia.23:28 Twanna asks Laurel what is next for her.26:17 Twanna asks Laurel to pray over women who are looking to seek higher educationFor video versions of episode 48 and onward visit us on Youtube.

Special guest Dr. Angela Courage (aka Doc Courage) is a change agent in the classroom and community, focusing on the study of interracial and intercultural communications. In this episode with Dr. Twanna Henderson, Dr. Courage discusses race in America and how listening more and talking less can lead to healthier conversations that will then empower you to communicate better with diverse others. 0:27 Twanna introduces special guest Dr. Angela Courage.1:25 Twanna shares Dr. Courage's mantra, which is "the quality of your communication dictates the quality of your relationships." 2:07 Twanna reminds everyone of the recent killings of Ahmaud Arbery and George Floyd.3:00 Twanna brings up the question that many people ask, "As believers, why should we care about the issue of race?" 3:42 Dr. Courage explains how race is not a real thing. "Race is a social construct. It's not a biological thing. It is a culture we have created." 5:18 Dr. Courage shares her passion to re-educate willing people who deal with misinformation, biases and racism. 5:55 Dr. Courage shares how her interest and desire to spread awareness on diversity and inclusion began at a young age being a military kid who grew up overseas. 12:17 Dr. Courage shares how she had a lot of opportunities to be exposed to other cultures because of her early imprinting and because she has always paid attention and made different cultures important. 13:30 Dr. Courage explains what white privilege is. "White privilege is just the fact that I can expect as a white person that I can do some normal things in life and even some bad things and be treated with more dignity than a Black person would be treated or a Latino person." 15:50 "Privilege is unearned benefits and white people have a lot more unearned benefits than people of color in this country because our forefathers set it up that way," shares Dr. Courage. 17:00 Dr. Courage shares a personal story of her son's unjust experience with a police officer, which resulted in him spending a week in jail. 19:45 Dr. Courage presents the Harvard implicit bias test that you can take if you want to know if you have an implicit bias toward a particular race. 21:55 The phenomenon of "in-group" behavior and "out-group" behavior is explained by Dr. Courage as active in every culture in history and a part of our sinful nature when we objectify and dehumanize people. 25:06 Twanna asks, "Why is it so difficult for people to listen to each other?" 26:08 Dr. Courage says, "If you're not being exposed to other people, you're trying not to be exposed and trying not to learn. It's not accidental anymore; it's intentional." 28:45 Dr. Courage says that as people of God, we are called to listen. 29:27 Twanna brings to light that there are some white people who defend themselves by saying, "I have a black friend." 31:12 Dr. Courage says that different cultures have different interpretations of what a friend is to them and how quickly they make friends and stop being friends. 32:48 Twanna asks, What are some practical things people can do to begin to understand one another?33:58 As white people, Dr. Courage says, instead of looking at listening like a 50/50 exchange, it's better to be quiet and realize you haven't listened enough. 35:36 The second way we can better understand each other is by educating ourselves on what we're not hearing. 37:44 Twanna asks, What should the church not be doing, and what should the church be doing?...

Part 2 of the interview with Dr. Christopher Yuan — going deeper in the discussion of faith and sexuality and the distinction of temptation and desire. Is temptation a sin or not? 0:12 Twanna asks to clarify what Dr. Yuan means when he says, "All desire has an end."1:45 Dr. Yuan shares the importance of using biblical terminology if we are discussing biblical morality.1:50 Dr. Yuan tells us that the word "attraction" is not used in the Bible. However, we do find the words "temptation" and "desire." Sticking to these words will help us clarify what we are trying to understand. 2:12 Dr. Yuan shines a light on how in Scripture we know that Jesus was tempted, and therefore being tempted is not a sin because that would mean Jesus sinned. 2:54 Dr. Yuan breaks down how "desire is teleological." 3:49 Dr. Yuan teaches that desire is both objective and based on purpose. 5:20 Twanna asks Dr. Yuan what his thoughts are on the purpose of marriage.5:50 Dr. Yuan enforces the thought that it is more important to talk about God’s "yes" than God’s "no."7:40 Dr. Yuan reveals that culture has idolized marriage as a sign of being mature or finally being whole. He shares that "marriage is a good and wonderful thing, but it’s not the best there is."9:00 Dr. Yuan talks about how both singleness in Christ is good, and marriage in Christ is good.10:25 Dr. Yuan shares how the people of the Old Covenant grew by procreation, while the people of the New Covenant grew by regeneration.12:30 Twanna and Dr. Yuan celebrate the truth that if you cannot have physical babies, the New Testament reveals you can have spiritual babies. If you do not have a family, the church is your family.14:50 Dr. Yuan says we have been diagnosing homosexuality as a developmental problem instead of as a sinful behavior due to our sinful nature. When we diagnose it correctly, we can find the correct answer, and that is Jesus.15:25 Perfect parenting does not guarantee perfect children. Dr. Yuan shed’s light on the story of Adam and Eve.16:06 Dr. Yuan shares what his parents have learned, "The job of a Christian parent is to be a godly parent and let God be God.18:30 Dr. Yuan shares many phrases that Christians say to unbelievers that they should not say.19:55 Dr. Yuan shares how his mother asked him if she could do anything better as a mom what should she do, he asked her to listen to his heart, not his words.20:20 Dr. Yuan says if we want people to listen to, we need to listen to them first.22:18 Dr. Yuan closes in prayer. For video versions of episode 48 and onward visit us on Youtube.

Speaker, author, Bible professor and bearer of Christ Dr. Christopher Yuan joins as a special guest discussing the topic of identity. He shares his journey of "coming out" to his non-Christian parents and how God's redemptive story for them begins with changing his parents’ hearts and ultimately catching up to him through a long and hard prodigal story. 0:27 Twanna introduces special guest, Dr. Christopher Yuan.1:24 Dr. Yuan opens up about his family history and how they did not begin as a Christian family. 1:51 Dr. Yuan shares about when he told his parents he was gay.2:10 Dr. Yuan describes his mother as a "Tiger mom." Tiger moms would go to the end of the world to make sure their kids are the best at everything. This is a common term that the Chinese would call their mothers.2:45 Dr. Yuan shares a quote from his friend, "often the enemy distracts us with good things from doing the best things." 3:40 Dr. Yuan opens up about how he abandoned his Chinese culture for the American dream. 4:50 Dr. Yuan shares how his mother was going to end her life. 6:07 Twanna reiterates how it wasn’t until his mother became a Christian that she was able to love him just as he was. 9:27 Dr. Yuan explains that sometimes mothers or parents can get in the way of God and try to remove the consequences that God wants to use to break them free. 10:50 Dr. Yuan shares how his miracle finally came knocking at his door when he was charged with having the equivalent of 9.1 tons of marijuana. 12:41 Dr. Yuan's mom specifically prayed that God would do whatever it takes for his friends to desert him.13:38 Dr. Yuan shares how he found a Bible in the trash in prison and scribbled on his cell wall it said, "if you are bored read Jeremiah 29:11." 14:30 Dr. Yuan says God was first calling him to himself before calling him out of homosexuality. 16:10 Dr. Yuan explains theological anthropology, which is the study of humanity through God’s eyes. 17:16 Dr. Yuan answer Twanna’s question on identity.18:42 Dr. Yuan shares how sexuality is not who we are; it is how we are. 18:50 Twanna asks Dr. Yuan, what is holy sexuality? 20:20 Holy sexuality is either chastity and singleness or faithfulness in marriage. 24:20 Dr. Yuan shares how there will be no sexuality in heaven; sexuality will be filled in Christ. For video versions of episode 48 and onward visit us on Youtube.

Special guest Coletta Smith, of Mission Hills Church and a pastor’s wife for over 26 years, shines a light on the topic, "what your pastor’s wife wishes you knew about her but didn’t know how to tell you until now." 0:14 Twanna Henderson introduces guest speaker Coletta Smith from Mission Hills Church in Littleton, Colorado.1:19 Coletta shares how there are two types of churches. Churches that look for perfection in their pastor and churches that look for imperfection in their pastors. 3:52 Coletta describes from her own experience and the pastors’ wives she has interacted with what the general reflection of a pastor’s wife’s heart is. 5:49 Coletta shares how a wise pastor’s wife navigates through trust. 7:44 Coletta shares a real-life experience of walking through criticism from others. 10:37 A nugget of truth Coletta and her husband hold on to: chew the meat and spit out the bones.12:34 Coletta honestly shares her thought struggle at the beginning of her ministry, saying, "There is a big place for my husband, but there is no place for me."14:02 Coletta is honest about her second struggle of feeling uninvited. 15:33 Twanna asks, "Does the pastor’s wife have friends?" 18:49 Coletta challenges pastors’ wives to think about where they are finding their value.21:22 The unique calling of a pastor’s wife is to walk shoulder to shoulder with her husband and figuring out how to support him in the role of shepherding his flock. 23:11 Twanna asks Coletta what she would tell a new pastor’s wife.24:42 Coletta shares her family’s fun and normal moments and also shares about their harder times. 28:33 Prayer is the best way the church can support their pastor’s wife.29:21 Pastors’ wives can feel under-appreciated at times.31:41 Coletta closes in prayer over all pastors’ wives. For video versions of episode 48 and onward visit us on Youtube.

God knows who you are as a mother. He also knows who he gave you as a mother and will use all of it, good and bad, as a vehicle to lead you into the purpose he has for your life and your children’s lives.1:28 Trina Jenkins discusses her family’s makeup.2:35 Trina shares what motherhood means to her.5:49 First Lady Jenkins answers the question, "If you could ask your mother anything today, what would you ask her?"7:41 Trina discusses what to do if you’ve had a challenging experience with your mother. She also shares one thing to remember: Who we are born to, whether they do good things to us or bad things to us, will not hinder God’s purpose for us.9:44 Twanna Henderson asks Trina what has been one of the hardest things she has had to navigate through with her six children.11:09 Trina shares that her hardest thing to navigate through has been letting go and letting her kids experience hard times on their own and just take the role as a coach as they walk through it.11:30 Twanna asks Trina: What is one of the best things you have experienced through motherhood?13:26 Trina shares some of the craziest things she has done with her kids.14:53 Trina reveals what she would tell her younger self today if she could, and she would let herself know that motherhood is a journey.16:30 Trina shares which mother in the Bible resonates with her. For video versions of episode 48 and onward visit us on Youtube.