The One Thing: New Culture of Relationships – Paul D. Lowe & Lisa Jayne
SoulScape · Paul D. Lowe
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Show Notes
Paul is joined for the fourth time out of five by returning guest Lisa Jayne, an Australian educator, mentor, speaker and writer to talk about the part of her book, ‘The Emotionally Powerful Mother’, on a new culture of relationships.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Culture is a good word to describe the framework/paradigm that we’re in with relationships. We’re not aware. It’s like we’re in a house and we do all our work in it and to it. What I learned to do is open the door, walk out of the house and my experience of relationships is completely different. The culture of relationships then started to change; The foundations were different, the words I used were different, the outcomes were different, the experience was different.
- I’d encourage people who feel fear to make friends with it, unlike how culture tells you to hide from it. This is what emotion education is all about. It’s OK to feel afraid, but ask yourself “what is the opportunity here?” rather than reacting from fear and trying to control external circumstances, how can you use fear to grow? That’s a powerful way of dealing with fear.
- Human being will often feel little niggles and we don’t do anything about them, but eventually they all add up and we could have a health crisis on our hands, whereas if we just looked after ourselves in the beginning and made some slight adjustments, we wouldn’t be where we are right now. It’s the same with emotions, feelings and relationships.
- What I’ve realised from working with people as well as from my own relationships is that I created dynamics of relationships that were like persecutor/victim/rescuer so that I could come back to feeling OK about myself and deal with whatever feelings I was having that were making me feel bad. This is an unhealthy use of power, but we do it because we want to make the other person see that they really need us. If we learn to come back into our own source of power, that makes me feel self-assured, in order to be there we have to have dealt with the feelings we have that separate us from that place.
BEST MOMENTS
‘It’s more fruitful to put your energy into creating what you do want rather than fighting against a culture that you don’t want.’
‘In the acceptance of a feeling we allow it to process.’
‘The current culture that’s evident on TV, in movies and music is that; in order for me to feel loved you have to love me. That culture sucks, it creates insecurities and doesn’t create unity and harmony.’
‘Watch out for the feelings of persecutor/victim/rescuer, if you’re always wondering “why does this always happen to me?”, you feel like you’re walking on eggshells or you’re really angry at someone, these are red flags. Use them to see where you’re at, what’s really going on in my feeling world right now and how can I meet that need myself rather than acting out and creating this dynamic.’
VALUABLE RESOURCES
- Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272
- Paul’s Story: Emerging From The Forest (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Emerging-Forest-Pain-Purpose-Mastering/dp/1719373272
- Mastering The Game Of Life Book (UK): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679
- Mastering The Game Of Life Book (USA): https://www.amazon.com/Mastering-Game-Life-Paul-Lowe/dp/1782227679
- Speaking From Our Hearts Books: Volumes 1-3 (Available on Amazon)
ABOUT THE GUEST
Lisa Jayne is a tertiary-trained Educator, Speaker and Author whose professional interest lies in making it easier for mothers to raise courageous self-empowered 21st century daughters.
Her book “The Emotionally Powerful Mother” provides 5 vital keys for a transformative mother-daughter relationship that works to create a new culture around girls – one that keeps them emotionally safe, deeply connected and empowers them both.
Lisa facilitates online masterclasses, workshops and retreats for mothers and daughters and offers a 5-week immersive program for mothers to implement the 5 keys into their everyday life for great success. With two daughters, Lisa’s work is both practical and current, and teaches emotional skills for life.
ABOUT THE HOST
Paul has made a remarkable transformation from existing for many years in dark, desperate despair; to now living a really healthy, happy and fulfilling life.
From an early age, he was in the vice-like clutches of the demon drink and constantly embroiled within a dark cocktail of toxic beliefs, self-hate and destructive violence.
Along with his empathetic and dedicated team of world-class coaches and mentors, Paul’s purpose is deeply transformational:
Developing World Game-Changers…
He is extremely passionate about helping others to find their purpose, have a voice and ultimately, make a real difference.
This has been built on a long and distinguished history of heart-centred coaching and mentoring. He has also been responsible for raising significant amounts of funds for many charities and good causes around the world; positively impacting and inspiring thousands of children – mainly from challenging backgrounds – within the UK & worldwide.
Through this World Game-Changers podcast and books, he has been involved in – including being a best-selling co-author – Paul also helps others to get their own inspirational messages and stories out into the world; as well as offering support to many charitable organisations, in their development & fund-raising.
CONTACT METHODS
Tel: +44 (0) 7958 042 155
E-mail: [email protected]
Web: https://www.Paul-Lowe.com
Web: https://www.worldgamechangers.org/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/IamPaulLowe/