Soul Led Living Podcast with Nikki Novo

Alright, so manifesting is all the rage, right? You’ve studied up on it, made the lists, closed your eyes, and still nothing.There’s even people out there that will tell you to demand from the Universe. Expect the Universe to deliver! And yet…. nada.What’s going on? Why isn't it working?Well, my friend, let me tell you about the one step you may be missing. The part where you take inspired action!Yeah, my friend, you’re going to need some dates to manifest that relationship.Yes lady, you’re going to have go out to places where you don’t just huddle around your friends who you’ve known since grade school.In other words, you have to open up funnels in order for the Universe to deliver your package.In this episode of The Final Swipe, I teach you what these funnels are and how to create them. I also teach how to not be in constant push or controlling mode. That’s for my recovering control freaks. Love you, guys!Let’s help the Universe out, yo. Listen to this episode.We talk about:Why manifesting might not be working for youHow to understand what dating strategy will work best for youHow to get over the anxious feeling of putting yourself out thereHow to hear your own intuitionLinks to resources:The Final Swipe bookUpdates:The Final Swipe Facebook groupGrab tickets to my event with Almost30 in Miami

Before every reading I do, I meditate. I focus on the person’s energy like a nosey mom going through her child’s drawers. I’m looking for what’s working, what trauma remains, what fears exist, and what future is set in place.Everyone is different, and there’s a ton of variation in people’s energy, but one thing I see 9 out of 10 times is a little fence around the heart. Some look like a thin curtain and others look like a full-on fortress.I see it so often because most of us want to protect our hearts. We’re afraid of what might happen if we allow anyone to get too close. We’re scared of what would happen if we let someone in who might hurt us later. Or, we may have suffered deep hurt in the past, causing us to close up shop.Funny enough, this doesn’t affect our ability to be a good person. What it does get in the way of is leading a heart-centered life.The heart chakra is the center chakra, because it’s our center. It’s the closest connection to our essence. When we live from this place, we connect more, experience more, love more.Sounds pretty amazing, right? But how are we supposed to knock down that damn wall?!On today’s episode of The Final Swipe, we speak to heart wall expert Nick K. Who get this guys, lives in Loveland, Colorado. I mean, talk about living your purpose.Nick was so kind to explain what the wall is, how we can work to release it, and what happens when we do. Get your journal ready!We talk about:What is a heart wallHow to know if you have a heart wallHow to release it if you doHow walls can affect our dating lifeLinks to resources:Nick’s websiteHow to book a session with NickHow to clear your heart chakra meditation Updates:Join the Final Swipe Facebook groupMeet me in Miami at the Almost30 event. Grab your tickets here today!

I see life in dating metaphors. Always have. Always will.And that started because, one day I just started to see my insides based off what I was doing in my dating life. It was the beginning of my awakening.Apparently, I’m not the only one.On today’s episode of The Final Swipe, we have author Kacie Main with us, whose dating experience was so spiritual that she gave it up for lent.This is such an insightful conversation on how we can let go the constant search for love, but also still be an energetic match for it.Kacie explains how she did it. How she let go, but in the end found herself and love.Enjoy!What we cover:How to use your journal to find loveResources:Kacie's websiteKacie’s InstagramKacie's bookUpdates:Join our free Facebook group, The Final Swipe Podcast group to connect with Nikki and other like-minded datersNikki will be teaching live in Miami alongside her sisters Krista and Lindsey of Almost 30. Grab your tickets today!

The reason we look for soul mates is because we're looking for a feeling.We're looking for a feeling of depth and intimacy.There's a misconception that intimacy and depth happens with some people and doesn't with others.When in fact, WE create the space for that. We can either make an environment that doesn't allow for depth or we can make one that does.In today's episode, I'm going to teach you how to make depth in a relationship. And spoiler alert: It has nothing to do with talking your way to closeness. As women, that's are go-to!In this episode, learn how to:Create depth and connection in dating and relationshipsHow to make space for someone to show upHow to spot people who are not able to create depth — or those who are not readyI'm excited for this one! Give it a listen.xo,Nikki

I know, I know. You want to meet people organically and in person, because that is how you get a better read on people. I get it! But it's 2019, and dating apps are a thing. So let's embrace it, rather than romanticize our old flip phones.Today on the pod, I offer three steps to help you get a read on those online profiles. Here they are:1. Recognize your judgementsIt's important just to note that the first few seconds of looking at someone's profile, you're coming from your judgement. Based off your past experiences, you're going to decide who this person is. Don't judge your judgements, lol! Let them come through, and let them past. And then give the profile a second look.2. Connect to your heartAs you give that second look, bring your attention to your heart center. See if you can connect to that part of you rather than your mind.3. Align with you courageLastly, once you feel from your heart and receive some sort of knowing, you may quickly fall into fear again. Ask yourself, "What would I do if I was coming from a place of courage," and then make your move.If you're liking this info, make sure to listen to the full episode where I give a lot more detail. Enjoy!

Today we go over a common question I receive often: How do I manifest, but not feel obsessive over calling in a partner?Such a good question!Here are my tips. I have three for you:1. When manifesting is not working, it's because we're being called to a journey of letting goIt's important to understand that manifesting is natural. We're doing it all the time. We want something, and within little time, it shows up. If manifesting is not working, it's because we're being called to walk a journey of letting go — of releasing all the baggage and false beliefs so that our energy is clean and light.2. Focus on the feelingWhat makes us feel obsessive is that we're focused on the union, on the partner, on the person. When in fact, we want to focus on the feeling. Being in a relationship represents some kind of feeling for us. For some of us it's security, fun, companionship, and so on. That feeling is what we're trying to manifest, and that's what we want to focus on, which in return eliminates a lot of pressure.3. Keep track of your actionsLastly, we feel crazy when manifesting because we're all up in our heads. We're thinking about it and visualizing it, but we also want to get honest about what we're physically doing to help co-create this relationship. Remember, we live on this place called Earth that's physical! So let's keep track of what we're doing to help ourselves.Enjoy the episode. Let me know if you have questions.

Conscious dating, you guys, is a thing! And today, we have the godmother of conscious dating, Angela Holton on the pod sharing wisdom.She shares with us her own personal experience — how she turned her dating life completely around to something positive and empowering. We chat about not feeling bad for ourselves when dating, how to reduce shame around dating, and how to attract without obsessing.Lots of great tips in this one! Check it out.Connect with Angela:Website: www.lovesanctuary.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/angelanholton/Online Course Waitlist: Conscious Dating: “Become The ONE You Want & Attract The Love You Desire”: https://www.lovesanctuary.com/conscious-dating

Do you find yourself hanging onto old love despite your logic? It makes no sense, right? You know your worth and that this can’t possibly be good for you, but for some reason you’re afraid of letting go. You’re afraid that you may never feel this way again despite the relationship being a total shit show. I’m here to tell you you’re not crazy. Not because you’re right. Truth is you’re probably not meant to be together. BUT the feeling and pull is real. Why? Because you’re dealing with a soulmate relationship. Now, first let me remind you that we have several soulmates. Your mother can be a soulmate. Your boss, too. And not all soulmate relationships are all rainbows and butterflies.The one you may find yourself in may be very difficult. Or perhaps it might feel cozy, but lack spark or attraction. That’s because you’ve done this before!  And just because you’ve done it before doesn’t mean it’s supposed to last. Let’s break down soulmate love, how you can heal, and how you can find one that will lead to a happy ending with little drama. Give this episode a listen and let me know what you think.

Today’s episode is a tough one. Here’s why. Many of us are looking for divine masculine energy. Whether we’re in search of a heterosexual relationship or same sex relationship, we’re looking for either predominatly divine femine or predominatly divine masculine energy. Today I’m speaking to those of you looking for a partner who is predominantly in their divine masculine energy. We’re going to talk about what those qualities really are and how to create space for them. Because the truth many times, we either don’t leave any room for the masculine to show up, or we condone it when it appears. As the patriarchy begins to dissolve it’s important to not label all masucline qualities as the patriarchy. It’s also important that we don’t just turn the patriarchy into the matriarchy. Let’s clear up all that funky energy and misunderstandings so you can better understand yourself and what you’re calling in. And so you can create a direct line for your manifestations.

I’m pretty obsessed with spirit guides if you haven’t noticed. I first got into them when I went to visit a psychic who was supposed to tell me that my ex-boyfriend was going to come running back to me. No such luck.Her reading was so fascinating that I had to understand what she was doing. She explained to me that she could speak to angels. Whaaaat?And these angels apparently were around us to protect us and had info on us. I needed to know more. As soon as I got over my fear of seeing and hearing spirits (religion will sometimes do that to you), through my studies I started to connect to spirit guides, accidently. And guess what? They were so chatty. Full of so much useful info. The first thing one of my guides did was show me a past life, in my dreams, with an ex that healed so much for me and finally allowed me to let go and move on. And eventually be open to attracting my husband. Besides assisting us in healing, spirit guides are here to do exactly what their title says: guide us. They are highly evolved souls that are assigned to work with us for various reasons. Some come and go depending on what season we’re in and others stick around for much longer. Their job is to help us evolve and reach our potential. If you’re feeling called to bring romantic partnership into your life, know that this is part of your purpose. And your guide wants you to fulfill your purpose, so they want to assist you in healing any blocks that is keeping you from love — that may be past life stuff or simply negative thoughts. Dating is a great teaching opportunity for them!In today’s episode, I go over what spirit guides are, how you can connect with yours, and how you can receive help in the love department. Give this episode a listen to learn more about your helpful guides.

I often think of us as little kicked dogs trying to find love again even though we were abused in a past. Have you ever been with an animal who was hurt in the past? You go in for a snuggle, and they just back up out of fear of getting hurt again.That's us, you guys! Don't you ever feel like that?At some point, you will be loved... really loved, and it'll be hard to believe it. One day, you'll allow yourself the love you really deserve, and you'll start to wonder if the person loving you is just pulling a prank on you.This has been the case for so many of us, and today, we have a guest who so generously shares her journey.It's a journey of reminding herself that she is worthy, that real love does exist and it exist for her.This is such a beautiful share from Liz Newman, who was on the first season of The Final Swipe. She found love — and it feels funny.Ready to feel all the feels on this one. Get ready to love again.

Have you ever had a reading and the person told you one thing was going to happen and it never did? What's the deal, right? Did that person take you for a ride? If you're wondering about this phenomenon, you have to listen to this episode.In this episode, I talk about what futures look like in a reading; I explain how you can allow your future to come in; and how to deal with the anxiety of dating in the unknown.The truth is, the future you're looking forward to wants to come in, but we're so bogged down. So let's learn how to release, surrender, and make space (all the buzz words, yes!) for the love you really want. Also, let's learn how to open up our hearts and date even when we don't know what's going to happen with a certain relationship.There's some good wisdom in your future. Just saying!

Because it's not, and Shani Silver wants to tell you why.Shani has been single for a decade, and one day she just became tired. Not tired of being single, but tired of being mad about it. And that's when things started to change for Shani.In today's episode, Shani shares how she changed her life by taking a different approach to being single than what we're normally taught. She explains how she got here, what dating looks like these days, and how she was able to start enjoying her life again.I was excited to have Shani on the show because she's a beautiful example of being hopeful and optimistic, but at the same time completely present. Meaning, she's looking forward to the future, but she's also truly loving her present.Her perspective on dating is so refreshing (and needed), that she scored a column with Refinery29 titled, "Every Single Day" and hosts a podcast called "A Single Serving Podcast." Shani is changing the conversation for shamed singles everywhere, so that we can finally look at this time in our life with clarityThere's so much wisdom in this one. Enjoy!

If you’ve hung out with me lone enough, you know all about dating blocks: The strange stuff we believe that get in our way when it comes to love. We get that healing those blocks is going to be part of the journey. But truthfully, sometimes you just need some damn good dating strategies. And that’s what today’s episode of The Final Swipe Podcast is about. Tips! Because no one ever teaches us how to date. For today’s episode, I was joined by dating and relationships coach Emilia Nagy. She is so sunny, candid, and well versed in dating. You can tell she geeks out on this stuff, which makes her so valuable. We talk about the positive side of shame, how to overcome narcissistic relationships, and how to kill the dating game. Grab that paper and pen!In this episode we talk about: Why dating is a struggleBest dating practices for womenHow men and women date differentlyNarcissistic relationships and abuseBringing your vision to lifeLinks we mention: Emilia’s WebsiteEmilia’s InstagramHow to Pick the Right Man Checklist

There is one thing we can’t go without when dating. If we try to leave this part of us out of the process, we will be completely lost. That thing is: our feelings. Connecting to what we feel is what gives us the direction towards what we want. It’s our compass. But, sadly, we’ve also learned that feelings are bad. We either want to jump out of our bodies when they come up, or we turn them off all together. No bueno, you guys. Let’s dig into that, shall we? And to do so, I had the pleasure of conversing with feelings expert, Maddy Moon. My friends, this woman has managed to figure out how to be guided by her feelings even when she’s on dating apps! My hero, and you’re new guide. In this episode, we talk about what life looks like without feelings, what it’s like to honor even the shadow parts of ourselves, and how to embrace the deep emotions in a way that serves us. This is such a good convo. It just embodies self-acceptance — which we can never get enough of, especially while dating. Get cozy. In this episode we talk about: Feelings!The Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine and how to use it while datingWhat are our shadow qualities and how to embrace themHow to use your intuition with dating appsLinks we mention:Maddy’s Wesbite Maddy’s InstagramMaddy’s PodcastThe Feminine Spirit SchoolMaddy’s 1:1 Coaching

Chances are you’ve heard about chakras, but really, what the hell are they?In today’s episode of The Final Swipe, we talk all about the heart chakra. In my private sessions, I use the chakras to read energy, which is how I’m able to see blocks in people. When I see an imbalance in that center, it’s either too open or too closed. When I was starting out on my spiritual journey, my heart was too closed. In this episode, I talk about the heart healing that changed my life and led me to my energy reading gift. If you’re feeling your heart chakra is a little off, this is the episode for you. Let’s learn how to bring that bright green energy center back to health. Listen on!Resources1. Free Heart Chakra Meditation: www.nikkinovo.com/heart 2. My new program, Living Your Best Love Life: http://nikkinovo.com/love

It's not an easy convo, but we need to have it. For those of us struggling with dating, our soul is asking us to stretch. We are going to have to put ourselves out there and challenge ourselves in a way that you've never done before. Because if we keep doing the same stuff, we're just going to see the same result, right?The stretch is scary and really uncomfortable, I get it. In order to avoid that uncomfortable feeling, we do this thing: We keep a placeholder around. A placeholder is someone we keep around as our backup plan. It's our "in case of emergency" plan. And while it seems harmless, what we don't understand is how this safety net keeps us small. When we stay small, we don't allow ourselves the true love we really desire. In today's episode of The Final Swipe podcast we talk about getting ready to release the energetic cords with these people who take up that "romantic love" space in our lives, but don't provide all that we want or need in a relationship. We also talk about how, sometimes, we keep ourselves busy with other people's lives in order to not feel the void of being alone. But the feeling of being alone is the thing that is going to push outside of our comfort zone in order to find love. So let's do this together, my friend. Let's get you ready for real love. Give the episode a listen.ResourcesMy book: https://amzn.to/2QbSzFT My new program, Living Your Best Love Life: http://nikkinovo.com/love/

I did a thing recently, and thought it came out really good so I wanted to share it with you. I was feeling myself. That thing was an interview with the ladies of Everyday Therapy Podcast. I'm so grateful to have been a guest on their amazing show. They are such pros, and they asked the best questions.There was so much great dating wisdom in this one that I just had to share. We covered topics like:Intentional swipingHow to feel confident around someone you likeHow to let go of dating expectationsHow to be in your divine feminine when datingHow to surrender and not controlAnd so much more.It's a great one, you guys. Enjoy!ResourcesEveryday Therapy WebsiteEveryday Therapy InstagramMy book, The Final Swipe

You’ve probably heard me talk about soulmates before because I’m pretty obsessed with clearing the air. When it comes to romantic relationships, there is not just one, person out there to love and cherish us. A soulmate is someone who has lived other lifetimes with us. Get it? Soul-Mate?So now that we’ve cleared that up, we can get into the real important stuff: manifesting a wonderful romantic relationship. And we’re going to do that today by creating a list.I know what you’re going to tell me, “Nikki, I’ve made my perfect-man checklist and all I heard were crickets.” And you know what I’ll say to that? You did it wrong. First off, manifesting is a real thing. We can call things into our lives through our thoughts and belief. Writing what we want down is physical action we can take in the manifesting process. So that’s why we make a list. But the reason your previous list did not work out was because you were coming from the wrong place.If your list said things like, “I want him to be tall, wealthy, and drive a truck,” I’m sorry to say but it’s not going to work. And here’s why. When we try to manifest things without addressing why we want it, we can attract really wonky stuff. The why is more important than the what. Our lists have to be based on how we want to feel.(Need more help with this? Check out my book "The Final Swipe," by following this link: https://www.amazon.com/Final-Swipe-Pe...)You want to attract someone who is wealthy, because maybe you want to someone to be equal to you, or because you don’t want to be taking care of someone, or because you want to feel secure. If you only write down “I want him to be wealthy,” you can attract someone who has a lot, but spends a lot. Or you can have someone who has a lot, but has a lot of debt. Now, if you create your list based off how you want to feel in the relationship, you can’t go wrong. You’re covering your basis. You would say something like, “I want to feel like an equal,” or “I want to feel financially secure,” or “I want to feel that my partner takes responsibility for himself.”When it comes to romantic relationships, what lasts is not the outside stuff. What lasts is how we feel. Our emotional needs are what need to be met. The outside stuff we’re trying to call in is the manifestation of a need. We don’t want a tall person just for the hell of it! We want a tall person, because we want to feel small and feminine. Our feelings list is this week’s spiritual assignment. Create your perfect partner manifestation list with your feelings list in mind. Here are some examples:“I don’t want to be second to his/her friends and family”“I want to feel like a priority”“I want to be able to trust and not feel like I’m going to be cheated on”“I want to feel emotionally secure and trusting”“I want to feel beautiful in his/her eyes”“I want to make sure this person is financially ok”“I want to feel financially secure”“I want to make sure this person isn’t a crazy partier”“I want to feel I’m with a partner who prioritizes his/her health”“I want to be with someone who will stick around for the hard stuff”“I want to feel I am in a mature and committed relationship, where communication is of highest importance”If you have any questions about your list, leave me a comment below. Much love always!Xo,Nikki

What if you found love, and then later experienced losing it?That was the case for today's guest, Carmen Ordonez, who was happily married and then lost her husband to cancer at a very young age. Suddenly, Carmen found herself heartbroken, a single mother, and single in a dating world that was very different than the last time she saw it. What she did to move forward was incredible, and I'm so grateful to have her on today's episode of "The Final Swipe Podcast."Even if we haven't experience death of a loved one, Carmen shares so much wisdom on how we can move forward after losing love — or what we thought was love (I'm talking to you, divorced or recently single friend). Although this wasn't the plan, Carmen managed to gather her vision for a beautiful life, create it, and honor her late husband at the same time. See dating in a new light with this episode. In this episode we talk about:Depression and how Carmen healed herselfDating as a widowLearning to be presentReconciling with God after lossResourcesCarmen’s Blog: http://www.vivafashionblog.com/Carmen’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vivafashion/

When I was dating and looking for love, I was only saying I was looking for love.The truth was, I wasn’t looking for only love.What I was really doing was hoping and waiting for my ex.At the time, I was pretty aware that I was recovering from a breakup. I assumed the way to get over this would be to meet someone who would sweep me of my feet.But that wasn’t happening.In fact, I couldn’t find anyone who cared much for me, and if they did, I couldn’t reciprocate.How many of us have this plan?“I’ll keep my ex on deck.”Whether we’re hoping they’ll come back or keeping them as our back up, if our ex is still in our heart, there is no space for something new.It’s also a waste of our time!We pretend to date. We pretend “there’s nothing out there.” But really all we’re doing is sabotaging ourselves so that we can prove to ourselves that our destiny is with our ex.What needs to happen is an honest conversation.Confront the situation. Ask your ex if there’s a chance. Ask yourself if that’s what you want or would you rather something new (with all the upgrades!).And when your ex replies, listen. Like really listen.Don’t just hear what you want to hear.Listen with your intuition.Listen with your heart.Because it’s time.Time to move forward. Or time to give it a real try.No more stuck in the middle.No more pretending nothing is working out for you.It’s time.We talk about:How to create space for your true loveWhy you shouldn’t have a “backup person” and how to close that door Resources:My membership program: http://nikkinovo.com/membership

I completely believe that we have everything we need right now, from where we stand to find the love we really want.BUT why isn’t it working for you, right?Well, because unfortunately we have a lot layers of crap on top of us — limiting beliefs, traumas, anxieties, and so on. So while we’re equipped, often we have to undress the layer, one by one. Which is basically what I mean when I say, “We have to do the work.”We often have to do the inner work to unlayer and love all of it. From that place is where we begin to create our dream relationships and dream lives. With this in mind, on today’s episode of The Final Swipe, I speak to my good friend Nina Endrst. Her journey to love was full of all of the shit, but then it led her to so much intention. She did the work. And it shows, because her and her husband are the cutest. I asked her to come on the show to share her process from trauma to love, because it’s always nice to have real-life examples. We also went on some tangents covering topics that include, emotional availability, dating anxiety, inner healing work, and SO much more. She takes us on her journey from experiencing trauma in the workplace and in relationships to healing her soul, discovering her passion, and ultimately, finding her husband. Enjoy this one. It’s a modern-day happily ever after. We talk about:Defining emotional unavailability and how to spot an emotionally available person. Why it’s important to move negative energy and anxiety out of your body to help you in the dating process  How to get to a place of trust in dating, relationships, and yourself  Resources:Nina’s website: http://www.ninaendrstyoga.com/ Nina’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ninaendrsthealth/

Have you ever fallen in love with someone who is off limits or unavailable? Cue:  “I wish that I had Jessie’s Girl.”Unavailable can be, they told you they’re not ready for commitment, or your heart is telling you they’re not open to receiving love. And off limits can me… they’re you’re boss!This can be really confusing. Because you’re like, shit, what is going on with my manifesting skills?!But guess what: this is actually a good thing.See, when it comes to manifesting a loving relationship, we need to get to a place where we can feel what it is like to be in love. When I teach this, you often respond by saying “But I’ve never had the kind of love I’m trying to attract, so how would I know how it feels?”When you ask, you receive! And this is when the universe brings you a person who you feel all the feels for, but can’t necessarily date. I know this may sound mean, but think of it as a gift. You now know what you’re looking for — you know what it feels like. You can borrow this feeling when manifesting. Still a little confused? Don’t fret. In today’s episode of The Final Swipe, I walk you through how to create a positive story around this seemingly shitty situation and how to use this experience to make you an even better manifester. Remember, my friend, the universe is going to help you get towards the vibration you need to be on to attract the love of your life, but often there are inspired steps you need to do in order to get there. For you, this might be one of the things. I know you’re on the right path, because you’re already receiving answers to your questions. Keep going!Annnnd, If you don’t want to walk this journey alone, I would love to have you in my membership program, where I’ll answer your question every week. We have a whole community of supportive and uplifting women who are walking the same path as you.We talk about:How to reframe your story around these experiences. How to use your feelings about this person to enhance your manifesting skills. Resources:My membership program: https://nikkinovo.com/membershipMy Book: https://amzn.to/2TUDz39

If you're reading this, it's because you understand what I understand, which is that finding love is a spiritual journey back to self — back to our worth and our wholeness. What happens along that journey many times is that we are confronted with our past. And if we're not aware of it, we'll be confronted with our past over and over again. This is when we start to question "Why do I keep attracting shitty situations?"This is when we get stuck. There's a part of us that believes in a new future, but we don't understand the role healing our past plays in creating a new reality. In today's episode of The Final Swipe, we take a look at your present through the lens of your past. And to do that, I brought in my soul sister Christine Gutierrez. Christine is a licensed psychotherapist and trauma expert. I love her perspective of trauma and dating, so I wanted to share her with you.If you're ready for a new future (and past and present), this episode is for you.We talk about:How trauma plays out when datingHow we heal our past sometimes through the presentThe process of the death of your pastResources:Christine's digital home: https://christineg.tv/Christine's retreat: https://christineg.tv/Diosa+RetreatMy membership program: https://nikkinovo.com/membership

The term ghosting may be new, but that practice has been around for a while. I remember being ghosted way before it was ever a thing, and feeling like crap. As if something were wrong with me. And it always seem to be "the nice guys" who would do it. You know, those people-pleaser type? Who are too afraid to confront you, so they just pretend nothing ever happened. Ugh, grow a pair.I'm actually happy there's a term for it now, because before it felt quite shameful and lonely. At least now, we're able to encourage a little accountability on the ghoster. With swipe culture, ghosting has become even more rampant, considering there are so many blurred lines when it comes to what kind of interaction actually deserve closure. Regardless, we can all agree it doesn't feel good to be ghosted. But it also doesn't feel great having to let someone know that you're not feeling the connection. So in the end, we ghost, too. Today, I want to talk about how we can all put an end to ghosting, but not ghosting on our end. I don't say this because I believe karma is going to get you. I say this because, for so many of us, dating feels like a scary, unsafe interaction with heartless strangers. When we ghost we perpetuate that belief. When we agree to close the loop on all our dating interactions, we start to see that the dating world is actually not scary or ugly, but rather filled with a group of feely humans all putting themselves out there in hopes of finding their version of love. In other words, we humanize the process, which then makes us feel better about the concept of dating as a whole. In today's episode, I go deeper into the topic. We talk about how to stop ghosting, how to handle being ghosted, and how to see the dating world as a good place. Give it a listen and share it with that friend who is a notorious ghoster! Make the dating world a better place. We talk about:How to stop ghostingHow to recover after being ghostedHow to see the dating world as a good placeResources:My Book, "The Final Swipe" https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=dp_byline_sr_book_1?ie=UTF8&text=Nikki+Novo&search-alias=books&field-author=Nikki+Novo&sort=relevancerankMy membership program: https://nikkinovo.com/membership

The reason we can't find love is not because there are no good people out there. It's not because "everyone on dating apps just wants to hook up."Truthfully, it's rarely what we think it is. It's always something so much deeper. When I was on my dating journey my biggest challenge was not feeling good enough. When I explored the origin of that belief, I was brought to mother. I realized that I saw myself through the eyes of my mother. And her eyes, weren't always the kindest when looking at me.Now that I'm a mother, I realize what a hard job it is. And how so many of us are mothering from a broken heart. But still, we affect the ones we mother. Even the best of us do! God knows my kids will be on some therapy couch one day talking about how I messed them up in one way or another. It can be scary, but we need to go there. Until we examine the mother relationship, we can't full see ourselves. And if we can't fully see ourselves, we can't fully accept love. For this reason, I sought out Mother Wound expert Bethany Webster to be a guest on The Final Swipe podcast. This is such an important topic, and Bethany did such a great job explaining what the mother wound is and how it can affect our dating life. Give it a listen. And if you know a friend who has mom issues, please send it along. We talk about:What the mother wound is. My mother wounds!How to overcome our mom issues in order to love ourselves more. How to manage troubled mom issues. Resources:Bethany's website: https://womboflight.com/

Have you ever found yourself having the same relationship over and over again? Somehow, you're always the healer in the relationship? Or the one who financially supports everything? Or you're with people who only want to hook up?You probably think your manifesting skills are off, when really it's this one little thing that's off. When dating, we subconsciously think about what we have to offer. Even if we are repeating, "I am enough," over and over again, we still tend to lead with a part of us — a part that we're usually proud of. This is what I call "our energetic agreements" in relationships. May you come into relationships saying "I'm really good at fixing. I will fix any problems you have or any that show up in our relationship."May you are proud of your financial success and your ability to provide. You may say "I will pay for all things."Or may be you've been told your whole life that you're really smart. Guess what you're going to rely on when texting? Yep, your smarts. So, it's not that we're manifesting these kid of people, we're unconsciously setting the tone right at the beginning, and we may be setting a tone we really are trying to get away from!In today's episode of The Final Swipe, I discuss this little thing we miss when dating, and I teach how you can switch it around so you can give yourself the best chance at creating the relationship into one you really want, rather than more of the same.We talk about:The energetic agreements we make at the beginning of each relationship. How to attract the right partner.How to be yourself when dating.Resources:My membership program: https://nikkinovo.com/membership

No matter how zen we try to be about dating, there's one thing women can't get around: our biological clocks. There is nothing fun about dating when you feel like "time is running out," which is why many women opt to freeze their eggs. And while it might be common in big cities, not all of us have access to real info about the process. Not all of us have a friend who have been through the process. In today's episode of The Final Swipe, my beautiful friend, Michelle, was so kind to share her story with us. We go deep into the details: costs, emotions, dating life... It's everything you would get from your close friend. I think many of you will see yourself in Michelle. And through her journey, you can understand yours better. Have you thought about the process? Are you thinking about it? Let me know your thoughts below. We talk about:Reasons why a woman might consider freezing her eggsThe costs related to freezing your eggsThe physical and emotional process of freezing eggsThe dos and donts of freezingHow freezing your eggs could affect your dating lifeResources:Michelle's doctor, Dr. Zaher Merhi MD, https://www.newhopefertility.com/

We all want to feel safe. Dating is often painful because the process does not feel safe at all. Because of this desire, we often look for our potential partner to make us feel safe. Which is natural, but sometimes we can take it a little too far and create too much pressure for this person we just met. In today's episode of The Final Swipe, you and I are going to talk about how you can soothe your own anxiety about not feeling safe. This way, you feel empowered internally and you're not putting unnecessary pressure on this new person that you like.I promise it won't hurt too much! Give this episode a listen and you'll feel better already.We talk about:How we can feel safe even when we're not sure of the other person's intentionsHow we unintentionally become needy and how we can turn it aroundTips and tricks for easing our own worry and anxiety during the beginning stages of datingResources:My membership program: https://nikkinovo.com/membership

One of the best things I did in in 2018 was join a sister circle. I'd heard all the hype about sisterhood, but didn't think it was for me. I'm one to think I can do it all by myself, ha!Seriously, gathering with the same group of women, every month, for a year created so much transformation in me. For this reason, I wanted to talk to you about sisterhood. To do that, I brought on my friend Emily Cassel who spends so much time in sisterhood, on the show to expand on the topic. Being that we're still in the beginning of 2019, I really hope you consider doing group work with like-minded women. Even though finding love seems like a goal for one, it's amazing what can happen when you're with other women who have that same intention for you and for themselves. Listen in on this conversation and see what sticks out to you. Don't let that intuition go to waste. We talk about:Sisterhood! What it is, what it isn't and why you need itHow to be in our divine feminine when dating How Emily found a boyfriend after only a few dates on TinderResources:Emily's website: https://www.emilycassel.com/Emily's podcast, Sexy Soulful Success: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/sexy-soulful-success-with-emily-cassel/id1440523808

Hello lovers!It’s our first episode of 2019. Woohoo! I was so over 2018. I mean, there was some good stuff. We welcomed our third child into the world this year! But other than that it was all sorts of ego dying. What’s ego dying? I talk about in this episode. In this episode, I talk about what 2018 meant and how that will lead into 2019. I also share a few predictions for what we’ll see as a whole when it comes to love. Hint, hint: it’s good stuff. Enjoy!

Despite wanting to find love, most of us hate dating because it makes us feel all sorts of crazy. That crazy, uncomfortable feeling is not a sign that you need to runaway to the monastery. That feeling is anxiety. What's tricky is that often we don't know it's anxiety. Instead, we think that feeling means "this isn't the right thing," or "I shouldn't be dating," or "I'm not ready to date," or "Maybe I shouldn’t be dating the opposite sex," and so on. Recognizing anxiety, and then understanding what triggers your anxiety, is going to be a huge part of your dating success. In hopes of bringing this super important topic to light, I asked anxiety expert — and just all around beautiful human — Sheryl Paul to joins me on The Final Swipe to share her wisdom on this topic. My friend, we are so lucky to have her. She hasn't done press in a really long time. And I did I mention she's been on the Oprah show? Yeah.This is a must-listen to episode. And beyond this show, I hope you continue to follow her work as she'll be an amazing resource for you on this journey to love. We talk about:Anxiety! How to catch and work through it when datingHow to know if the person you're dating has relationship anxietyHow dating someone with relationship anxiety can really mess with your intuition and self-esteemResources:Sheryl's websiteSheryl's new book on anxiety coming out in March 2019

For the last few months, it seems like every time I sit down to meditate with my spirit guide, I have the same vision. It’s like a reoccurring dream, only this vision happens in meditation. It’s basically my spirit guide saying, “Lady, until you learn this lesson, we are not moving on to the next vision.”Spirit guides can be tough like that.What she was trying to teach me was that my external reality is a reflection of my internal client. Meaning, what’s going on inside: my beliefs, my negativity, my positivity, my focus is what I’m creating outside in the world. I know this. You know this. Yet, we don’t always see the blocks that we’re placing in our way. In today’s podcast, I help a beautiful woman see her blocks during a reading I did with her. Lacey was kind enough to allow me to share a piece of her reading with you, so that we can all learn. We talk about:1.    Believing in what we really want2.   How to date with an open heart, but also not be attached to the outcome when dating3.   How to tell if we're resisting changeResources:1.    For making your list, I mention my book "The Final Swipe."2.   Lacey mentions a book she loved titled, "Attached."

Why is it that some people are on dating apps for two weeks and find the love of their life? While for others, it's more like five years?In this episode, I explain why dating luck seems to be unfair and what we can do to turn it around. I also talk about my:My group coaching course: The Final Swipe MasterclassMy bestselling dating book: The Final SwipeMy amazing readings

Get additional help by:purchasing The Final Swipe bookjoining my masterclassor booking a session with me

In this episode:- I speak with astrologer Beth Bullitt

Are you really ready to find love? And if you're not, how to get yourself ready.Need some extra help on getting ready for love?Check out my book, “The Final Swipe”Sign up for my masterclassOr book a session with me

Get to know the podcast host, Nikki Novo, and how she became an Intuitive Dating Coach