Sober Awkward

Alcoholic, me? Not on your Nelly! On this Episode of Sober Awkward Vic and Lucy discuss the impact of words related to sobriety. During the chat they discover how some words support recovery, and how others can actually derail it. For some people (including Vic) being called an 'Alcoholic' felt extreme and didn't represent the sort of drinker she was, but for Lucy, that word gave her strength, identity and eventually enabled her to address her drinking habit. So, todays episode is an opportunity to help you untangle some of these controversial words and find ones that fit your personal path to lasting sobriety. Show noteshttps://australianpodcastawards.com/vote@soberawkward@drunkmummysobermummyBlog Post - Alcoholic me?htthttps://www.drunkmummysobermummy.com/post/alcoholic-meLucy Good - https://beanstalkmums.com.au@beanstalksinglemumsVictoria Vanstone – [email protected] Group for Sober Curious Women - https://www.facebook.com/groups/drunkmummysobermummyAlcoholics Anonymous - https://aa.org.auMental Health - https://www.mindaustralia.org.auHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today Vic and Lucy welcome Sober Dave onto the podcast. Since Dave ditched the booze nearly 3 years ago he has become one of the most prominent sober voices out there. Speaking out about his battle at events, schools, and on line. Dave has gone from rock bottom to becoming a sober coach and major influencer and his story is now helping destigmatise alcoholism in society. On this episode of Sober Awkward you'll get the male perspective, what it's really like as a man speaking up about alcohol and how heavy drinking affected Dave's life, work and relationships over the years. So, go and put the bloody kettle on and settle in - this is going to be a cracker.Show notes@soberdavehttps://davidwilsoncoaching.com/Sober Dave Podcast - One for the Roadhttps://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/one-for-the-road/id1565341712Book Catherine Grey - Sunshine, Warm, Sober. - https://unexpectedjoy.co.uk/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There is a lonely place where heavy drinkers get stuck. This grey area or 'Pinot Gris Purgatory' as Vic likes to call it, is sadly where many boozers suffer in silence and don't get the help they deserve. This is a topic very close to Vic and Lucy's hearts, having both fallen through this crack themselves. They got stuck in a drinkers no-mans land, where they didn't feel that their drinking was bad enough to be worthy of support. Today they discuss why they felt so trapped and the denial that kept them there, how eventually they took responsibility for their drinking habits and how getting support lead them to not only liking themselves, but also understanding that no matter where they sat on the vast spectrum of alcoholism, they, like you, were worthy of help. An insightful and motivating episode. Show noteswww.lyres.com.au/soberawkwardBlog Post - Blacking out Life and waking up to reality - https://www.drunkmummysobermummy.com/post/blacking-out-and-waking-upLucy Good - https://beanstalkmums.com.au@beanstalksinglemumsVictoria Vanstone – www.drunkmummysobermummy.com@drunkmummysobermummy@[email protected] Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/drunkmummysobermummyBook of the week - 'UnFuck Yourself' By Gary John Bishophttps://garyjohnbishop.comhttps://www.amazon.com/Unfu-Yourself-Your-Head-into/dp/0062803832Resources mentioned: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Get your cup of Chamomile and Rescue Remedy at the ready because this episode might be a little anxiety inducing for some. Today Vic and Lucy are talking about drinking trauma and triggers. You know, those pesky daily reminders that pop up out of nowhere and momentarily plop you back into who you once were. A heavy drinker. They look at why these flashbacks happen, what their own personal experiences are, how they change the longer you're sober and how you can deal with them in a peaceful sober manner without going full circle and reverting to your bad habit.Vic and Lucy hope that by being open and honest about what makes them ache for a wine, you'll be able to take heed and learn how to avoid leaning in for a drink when these reminders suddenly sneak up on you. Show notesBlog Post - https://www.drunkmummysobermummy.com/post/a-sober-hangoverReview Sober Awkward Now!https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/sober-awkward/id1565657975Lucy Good - https://beanstalkmums.com.au@beanstalksinglemumsVictoria Vanstone – www.drunkmummysobermummy.com@drunkmummysobermummy@soberawkwardFacebook Grouphttps://www.facebook.com/groups/drunkmummysobermummyResources mentioned:Series 2 - Episode 2Book of the week.Black Out - Sarah Hepola - https://sarahhepola.comAlcoholics Anonymous - https://aa.org.auMental Health - https://www.mindaustralia.org.auHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode Vic and Lucy welcome their first guest onto The Sober Awkward Podcast - William Porter. William is the Author of one of the most popular 'Quit Lit' books out there - 'Alcohol Explained.' He's an expert in the chemical, physiological and psychological factors at play when alcohol is consumed. In this chat Lucy and Vic break down 'A day in the life of a drinker' with William and get his brilliant insight on everything from that first drink until the anxiety ridden hangover. They find out what's really going on when in our brains when take that euphoric sip, why we seem to always fail at moderation and how sleep deprivation plays a huge part in over drinking.This is a fascinating look inside our habits, our bodies and our minds. This episode is a must for those considering an alcohol-free life. Show notesBlog Post - A Sober Hangoverhttps://www.drunkmummysobermummy.com/post/a-sober-hangoverLucy Good - https://beanstalkmums.com.au@beanstalksinglemumsVictoria Vanstone – [email protected]@drunkmummysobermummyFacebook Group - Drunk Mummy Sober Mummy - The Grouphttps://www.facebook.com/groups/913823235768685Resources mentioned:Series 2 Episode 1 – Alcohol Explained – William Porterhttps://www.alcoholexplained.com/buy/https://www.facebook.com/alcoholexplained@alcoholexplained@soberawkwardAlcoholics Anonymous - https://aa.org.au Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you've been a heavy drinker for many years you might have a few war wounds, perhaps you've had a couple of hospital visits, been to the STD clinic or even suffered mental health problems due to your alcohol intake. Vic and Lucy have both suffered in different ways from being big boozers. In this episode they discuss all the different ways they put their bodies and minds at risk over the years, the dangerous situations they found themselves in, why they ignored all the red flags and how it feels now to be on the other side of the chaos. So, if you've woken up recently with a cut on your head or a stranger in your bed, then maybe it's time to stop taking risks and make some changes. A funny and insightful episode. Show notes@drunkmummysobermummy@soberawkwardemail - [email protected] Post - Risk -https://www.drunkmummysobermummy.com/post/_riskLucy Good - https://beanstalkmums.com.au@beanstalksinglemumsVictoria Vanstone – www.drunkmummysobermummy.comFacebook Group for Sober Curious Women - https://www.facebook.com/groups/drunkmummysobermummy Resources mentioned:Book of the week - Jordan P Barnes - 'One Hit Away' https://www.amazon.com.au/One-Hit-Away-Memoir-Recovery-ebook/dp/B085M78JWTThe Big Book AA - https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/read-the-big-book-and-twelve-steps-and-twelve-traditionsAlcoholics Anonymous - https://aa.org.au Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this weeks honest, yet slightly humiliating episode, Vic and Lucy discuss all the positive side effects of choosing an alcohol-free lifestyle. They go over all the changes you'd expect to happen (no more hangovers, better sleep and more available parenting) to all the things that have come as a wonderful surprise to them, (liking themselves more, being more environmentally friendly and Lucy no longer having bad breath!) So, if you're questioning your relationship with booze, this candid chat will hopefully inspire you to bid farewell to the bottle and try a happier, healthier lifestyle. Show notesBlog Post - Waking up with a steady heartbeat https://www.drunkmummysobermummy.com/post/waking-up-with-a-steady-heartbeatLucy Good - https://beanstalkmums.com.au@beanstalksinglemumsVictoria Vanstone – (drunk mummy sober mummy) www.drunkmummysobermummy.com@drunkmummysobermummy@soberawkwardFacebook Group for Sober Curious Women - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thesobersocialResources mentioned:Episode 9 – Book for the week - The Sober Lush By Amanda Eyre Ward and Jardine Libaire Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you're wondering what it feels like to be sober in a room full of people drinking then this is the episode for you. Vic and Lucy tell us what it was like for them the first time they partied with nothing but a fizzy water. In this hilarious episode they take the Sober Awkward listeners through a top ten guide to a successful first sober outing. They cover everything from being AF prepared and taking a sober mate with you, to stuffing your face with treats on the way home. They both admit that these first toe-dips into socialising were hard, but with time they promise you'll get more confident and eventually learn how to relax and have fun on a sober night out. So, go and grab a cuppa and a snuggle in to a cosy corner of a comfy couch to enjoy some amazing tips and a few giggles.Show notesBlog Post - First Sober Social - https://www.drunkmummysobermummy.com/post/first-sober-socialLucy Good - https://beanstalkmums.com.au@beanstalksinglemums@soberawkward@drunkmummysobermummyVictoria Vanstone – www.drunkmummysobermummy.comFacebook Group for Sober Curious Women - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thesobersocialResources mentioned: Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this Episode Vic and Lucy tell us what they thought about sober groups and sober people before they ditched the booze and how, actually, once they both dipped their toes in, they realised sober groups were no where near as boring as they perceived. In fact they are full of inspiring and interesting people that have excellent stories! They will share with you how to approach these groups, how to find online support and as always.... how to feel the awkward and do it anyway. Sobriety is all about connection and finding other people you resonate with. This episode is an absolute must for those feeling solitary in their choice to quit drinking. Show notesBlog Post - Making Friends Sober - www.drunkmummysobermummy.com/post/making-friends-soberLucy Good - https://beanstalkmums.com.au@beanstalksinglemumsVictoria Vanstone – www.drunkmummysobermummy.com@drunkmummysobermummyFacebook Group for Sober Curious Women - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thesobersocial Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when party girls become mums? Do you just stick the baby in a carrier and head off down the pub? Or are you magically turned into a perfect, cake baking earth mother as soon as a baby pops out? In this hilarious and insightful episode, hosts Vic and Lucy, delve deeply into their very personal journeys from party girls to mums. They tell you how this confronting transition felt for them, why they leant on wine to get through, how heavy drinking impacted their beloved children and of course, how they managed to turn it around and become sober mums on a mission.Show notes Episode 6 Blog Post -The Mother of all Hangovers https://www.drunkmummysobermummy.com/post/the-mother-of-all-hangoversLucy Good - https://beanstalkmums.com.au@beanstalksinglemumsVictoria Vanstone – www.drunkmummysobermummy.com@drunkmummysobermummy@soberawkward Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today Vic and Lucy discuss their very similar personality traits which they believe may have led them to be such heavy drinkers. They share what those characteristics were (things like shyness, low self-esteem and anxiety); why they felt the need to drown them out with booze; the mess they created by doing this; and how they have accepted and adapted these traits in their sobriety.As everybody that sits on this vast alcohol spectrum knows, alcoholism does not discriminate and absolutely anyone can be affected. This chat is about Vic and Lucy's own personal journeys and their uncannily similar experiences. They hope that by sharing them, it might help you identify why you reach for a drink and hopefully get you to consider other ways to be YOU without the booze.Show notes Episode 5Blog Post - A Self-Aware Sobrietyhttps://www.drunkmummysobermummy.com/post/a-self-aware-sobrietyLucy Good - https://beanstalkmums.com.au@beanstalksinglemumsVictoria Vanstone – www.drunkmummysobermummy.com@soberawkward Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why is it so hard to stop after that first drink? And why can’t we be ‘Normal Drinkers’ no matter how good our intentions? Today Vic and Lucy delve deeper into everything moderation. Is it science based, a cultural thing or just that some humans are born to over drink? For their entire drinking careers, both Vic and Lucy tried and tried to moderate, but they both always, without fail, failed! So how long can you fail at something before deciding you can’t fix it on your own? and are other forces at play after having that first drink, is it environment? drinking culture? Trauma? or just a naughty pixie? Join them for some sober giggles in this brutally honest sobriety podcast. Show noteswww.hellosundaymorning.orgTo download the Day Break App -https://apps.apple.com/app/apple-store/id1107514492Blog Post - The Moderation Pixie - https://www.drunkmummysobermummy.com/post/the-moderation-pixieLucy Good - https://beanstalkmums.com.au@beanstalksinglemumsVictoria Vanstone – www.drunkmummysobermummy.com@drunkmummysobermummyFacebook Group for Sober Curious Women - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thesobersocial@soberawkwardResources mentioned:Episode 4 – Alcohol Explained – William Porterhttps://www.amazon.com/Alcohol-Explained-William-Porter/dp/1516997190 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this episode Vicky and Lucy discuss the correlation between choosing an alcohol-free life and becoming boring. Why are the two so closely related and is it possible to shake off this negative reputation?is it possible to change your perspective? and how long will it take before the fear of being boring is flushed away down the bog with that last bottle of wine.... and is it really possible embrace the boring?As Vic and Lucy know, sober is boring by default, but, there's good news! Life without beer goggles for both these podium hogging party girls is better....In every boring way!Show notesLucy Good - https://beanstalkmums.com.au@beanstalksinglemumsVictoria Vanstone – www.drunkmummysobermummy.com@drunkmummysobermummy@soberawkwardFacebook Group for Sober Curious Women - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thesobersocial Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week Vic and Lucy discuss that super-duper awkward moment you decide to tell people you no longer partake in a tipple. For some this can be one of the most difficult steps to take on this sober path, so hard in fact, that it might feel easier just to keep on drinking. Vic and Lucy describe what this moment looked like for them, give you some tips on how to reveal all and why they were both pleasantly surprised how friends and family responded. So, if you’re not quite ready to shout about sobriety from the top of the Aldi carpark, then have a listen and get some inspiration. Join them today as they too learn how to feel the awkward and do it anyway! Show Notes:Show notesLucy Good - https://beanstalkmums.com.au@beanstalksinglemumsVictoria Vanstone – www.drunkmummysobermummy.com@drunkmummysobermummyFacebook Group for Sober Curious Women - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thesobersocial Resources mentioned: Alcoholics Anonymous - https://aa.org.auMental Health - https://www.mindaustralia.org.auFind a Therapist – https://www.goodtherapy.com.au Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's very personal and awkward moment when long-time heavy drinkers self-reflect and admit that their good old buddy booze is no longer serving them. Like so many people, both Lucy and Vic ignored numerous wake up calls and continued their destructive drinking patterns for years. But, as you’ll hear, imagining a life beyond the bottle seemed so unfathomable that they both suffered in silence until alcohol caused extreme anxiety and led to some very questionable behaviour.So, what are the signs that drinking has gone too far? When is it ok to ask for help? And what does it mean to be sober curious? This episode is all about reaching out, getting some answers and changing the cycle of destructive behaviour.SHOW NOTES:Lucy Good - https://beanstalkmums.com.au@beanstalksinglemumsVictoria Vanstone – www.drunkmummysobermummy.com @drunkmummysobermummyFacebook Group for Sober Curious Women - https://www.facebook.com/groups/thesobersocialResources mentioned:Episode 1 - Books – Sober Curious - Ruby WarringtonAlcoholics Anonymous - https://aa.org.auMental Health - https://www.mindaustralia.org.au Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.