Sextras

In this episode we talk all about attachment styles from how to know your attachment style, to how attachment styles effect relationships, to some tips to change your attachment style. Obviously we are not experts, but we do know a fair bit about attachment styles from our own experience (plus we’ve done a lotttt of research).We begin the episode by breaking down insecure attachment styles: Maria tells us about what an anxious attachment style is, and Honey tells us about what an avoidant attachment style is (hint: those are each of their attachment styles).We also cover the other two attachment styles: fearful avoidant and secure, before moving on to how these symptoms have manifested for us.We attempt to give some tips for healing insecure attachment styles, which includes at the very least recognising the symptoms of your attachment style and trying to unlearn your triggers over time. Then, in case we hadn’t already convinced you just how important knowing your attachment style is, we explain how knowing our attachment styles have helped us.We end the episode with some polls we did a while ago where we asked you guys whether you know your attachment style (we’d be surprised if, after listening to at least one other episode of our podcast, you didn’t) and if it’s helped you in any way.Even though it can, at first, be overwhelming to learn your attachment style (one friend told us recently that she felt attacked after an attachment style quiz which ‘read her to filth’) it’s definitely important to understand how it can affect the way you form attachments with people, and even impact who you choose as a partner in future!We hope you enjoy the episode, we have plenty more information on our social media about attachment styles. You can do the test for attachment style mentioned in the episode here:https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/May we all become securely attached!You can find more of us on Instagram and Facebook @sextraspodcast, email us at [email protected] and visit our website www.sextraspodcast.comProduced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From before puberty, before we grow our first armpit hair, leg hair, pubic hair, women are raised to understand that this should all be removed. This week we sit down to question why, to point to the ways in which we’ve been taught to have shame about our bodies and its hair, and really examine the ways in which these messages of control have impacted us.We begin by hearing some of the messages our listeners heard about pubes and body hair growing up, (essentially to ‘shave’, that the hair is ‘bad and should be removed’ and that men don’t find it sexy). Some listeners even shared the ways in which these messages impacted them: causing them to question whether their body hair and pubes are bad, or desperately google how to clean shave ‘down there’, and live with razor burns and irritation and thus even more insecurities.We then get more into our own experiences and memories of getting body hair. Maria shares how shaving was engrained as an expectation, and how she was shamed by male figures specifically if there was any body hair showing. We discuss how its interesting that now we can look at shaving as an option when a lot of the time it doesn’t really feel like a choice.We continue to question society’s messages about shaving and ask whether it’s okay for a partner to express a preference on their partner’s pubic hair grooming, and whether it’s okay to ask your girlfriend to shave her pubes. Ultimately we conclude that it’s not, but pubes politics are complicated, as Maria hypocritically confesses she shaves for her boyfriend even though she doesn’t like shaving. Patriarchy 1, Maria 0.We update everyone on our pube status (share how we personally groom our pubes) and we encourage you to share your pube status with us!We hope you enjoy the episode! You can watch this episode on our YouTube (Sextras Podcast) and find us on Instagram and Facebook @sextraspodcast, our website www.sextraspodcast.com or send us an email at [email protected] don’t forget to leave us a review and share us with all your friends! We’ll see you next Tuesday.Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we’re talking to Dee about long term relationships. We went to school with Dee, and she’s been with her boyfriend for 11 years (since she was 15) so we ask her about the ins and outs of being in a long term relationship when young.We begin by hearing how she and her boyfriend met, or how they began dating, and later how Dee realised that she was in love and in it for the long run. We then ask about the pressures of being in a long term relationship in your teenage years and early 20s, from dating long distance at university to seeing lots of couples around you break up, to the expectations from your peers to sleep around. Dee tells us what those milestones have looked like for her relationship in the long run, and how she’s responded to the pressures of her friends and family. She then tells a crazy story about how they once nearly broke up over chlamydia.Naturally, both Dee and her boyfriend have changed over the course of time, so we hear how this has impacted their relationship and how they’ve managed to maintain their independence while also making time for one another. Lastly, we discuss the importance of sex in their relationship, before hearing some of Dee’s tips for a long term relationship. Ultimately, Dee tells us that the success to their long lasting relationship has been to take it day by day.We hope you enjoy the episode! You can watch this episode on our YouTube (Sextras Podcast) and find us on Instagram and Facebook @sextraspodcast, our website www.sextraspodcast.com or send us an email at [email protected] don’t forget to leave us a review and share us with all your friends! We’ll see you next Tuesday.Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode we get deep into developing a philosophy for fingering and handjobs. We attempt to unpack whether handjobs are something any penis-owning person enjoys, or thinks someone else can do better than them, and try to understand their place in sex as a whole.We begin with some polls where we ask people with penises about their handjob preferences and people with vulvas about their fingering preferences (namely whether they prefer clitoral or penetrative fingering). Then, we move on to the different roles fingering and handjobs play in sex, and debate which is harder (ha) skill-wise for people to do. Finally, we give some tips for fingering and handjobs and foreplay as a whole.We hope you enjoy this episode, we think it gives a rather accurate insight into what is going on in our brains, and attempting to establish an understanding of what penis-owning people are thinking.You can find more of us on Instagram and Facebook @sextraspodcast, email us at [email protected] or visit our website www.sextraspodcast.com.Don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode and leave us a review! It really helps us out. We’ll see you next Tuesday!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we’re talking all about the lessons learnt from breakups. When you’re going through a break up it can seem like it will never end, and you’ll most likely be in a place of thinking this is the most pain you’ve ever been in, but we promise once you get through that stage (and it will end!) you’ll be able to see all the things you learnt in both the relationship and the break up. We also cover what we think should happen in the aftermath of the break up, from whether you should follow the no contact rule, to if the person who breaks up with you owes you an apology.We begin the episode with a segment where we hear the lessons you guys have learnt from a breakup, before telling you our own lessons. We try to explain how our experiences have been very different: Honey has exclusively broken up with people, and Maria has exclusively been broken up with, so we divulge the different ways we have reflected on the relationship after a break up, as well as attempting to unpack how we move through stages of grief in a breakup, like blaming the other person and then thinking you’ve made a mistake; trying to cling on to them and not wanting to move on.We then discuss the conversations you have, and what not to do after a break up— such as whether or not to text your ex or if you should stay friends with an ex. We have a couple of other episodes about break ups— ‘Can You Be Friends With An Ex?’ & ‘The Break Up Process’— where we get more into these topics, but we wanted to talk a bit more about the idea of what is owed, or what some people think is owed to them, when one person ends the relationship, the idea of blame and self reflection in attempts to learn something about yourself after a relationship ends.We hope you enjoyed the episode! If you’re going through a break up, you can do this! You’ll eventually reach a stage of realising there is so much to take from a relationship, and we hope some of our tips help. If you’d like to get in contact with us or find more of us, you can find us on:Instagram and Facebook @sextraspodcastEmail: [email protected]’ll see you next Tuesday!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we’re joined by journalist, and author of the memoir ‘Open,’ Rachel Krantz to talk all about open relationships, toxic relationships, bisexuality and jealousy.We begin the episode by hearing what inspired Rachel’s book— she was dating a non monogamous man, who gave her the freedom to explore an open relationship and who her relationship with later became toxic.We then move on to learning about the different types of open relationship- from having a primary partner to practicing relationship anarchy. Rachel tells us about how she dealt with jealousy in her first non monogamous relationship, as well as giving us some tips for how to start a non monogamous relationship if you’re new to the world of polyamory, and some things monogamous people can take from polyamorous relationships even if they’re not looking to get into one. We end the episode with asking Rachel about her bisexuality and how that interacts with her polyamory.Thank you so much to Rachel for joining us this week, we had a truly informative conversation and we hope you all enjoy it too! Please buy Rachel’s book ‘Open’ and go follow her on Instagram or Twitter.You can follow us on Instagram @sextraspodcast, Facebook at Sextras Podcast, email us at [email protected] or find us on our website www.sextraspodcast.com.Thanks and we’ll see you next week!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do you think about when you masturbate? This week we’re talking all about watching porn and masturbating, or alternatively, imagining our sexual fantasies when we masturbate, as well as the ethics of watching porn.We begin the episode by asking our followers what they think about or watch when they masturbate, and if they remember the first time they masturbated. In true Sextras fashion, we look back at how our ideas about masturbating and porn were formed, from the first time we saw porn (whether by accident or on purpose) to not realising what we were doing was masturbating at a young age.We delve into our own sexual fantasies and whether watching porn and masturbating sets unrealistic expectations for sex. We also talk about whether we personally enjoy watching porn, and what our problems with porn are. Unfortunately, as women, we have experienced guys basing their sexual fantasies around what they’ve seen in porn and attempting to recreate that, and so we try to unpack if porn is bad for our sex lives or not.We all have sexual fantasies, and it’s important to let them play out and have fun sex lives, but at the same time we need to be really mindful of whether or not porn is bad for relationships with those we have sex with and with women, or anyone who’s negatively impacted by how they’re portrayed in porn, in the world around us.Please go check out our social media, we have tons more content on there that you might find interesting! You can find us on Instagram @sextraspodcast, Facebook Sextras Podcast or on our website www.sextraspodcast.com. Send us an email at [email protected], and leave us a review wherever you’re listening. We look forward to seeing you next week!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we’re talking to our wonderful guest Sayra Player (Founder of Guided By Glow; actor; and writer) all about sexual meditation.For women, it can be difficult to find erotic content that turns you on, especially if you have a busy mind. Sayra founded Guided By Glow in an attempt to encourage women and couples to have mindful sex practices.In this episode, we ask what sexual meditation is, before diving into how meditation is so powerful for our lives as a whole, but particularly for our sex lives, when we can get stuck in routines or find it hard to be present during sex.Sayra then tells us a bit about how sexual power can be a tool for transformation in our wider lives, and how sexual meditation can really help with this.Sayra has very generously given Sextras listeners $20 off a years’ membership to Guided By Glow, making it $27.99 for a year of unlimited guided masturbations. Find it on the App Store or on https://guidedbyglow.com/Get all the benefits of masturbation and meditation at once, and increase your sexual power at the same time! Even if you, like Maria, might be sceptical about meditation, it’s worth giving it a go.Thank you so much for listening. You can find more content about sex, dating and self love, or contact us viaInstagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras [email protected]’t forget to subscribe and we’ll see you next week!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we ask ourselves ‘should you date in your 20s?’ For some, getting deeper into our 20s means getting further into our long term relationships, and for others being single. We discuss whether there’s really a right way to live your twenties: single or dating.We begin the episode with a segment where we ask our followers whether they care more about freedom or finding love in their 20s; whether they’d rather meet the person they’re going to end up with now or live out the rest of their 20s single; and hear more of their thoughts about this dilemma.We decide that there isn’t really an answer to this question, but we wanted to examine it more closely because so many people our age feel like they shouldn’t date in their 20s to fulfil an idea that is sold to us of what our 20s should look like; indeed many people end relationships for this very reason: they feel as if dating in your 20s is pointless if you’re unlikely to end up with the person, and that you might as well embrace your freedom.Navigating dating in your 20s can be difficult, but we think that in the end, it comes down to whether you think you should date for fun, or for experience, rather than for the end result. As long as you’re happier in a situation than you are on the flip side, you should stick with it, and it might ultimately be good for you to make some dating mistakes in your 20s.We wish you all the best of luck! We know dating in your 20s isn’t always the most fun, especially when you have to begin to consider whether you’re ready to commit to the person you’ve been dating throughout uni going in to the real world, but we’re always here if you need any tips or at least want to make yourselves feel better by hearing about our mistakes and poor judgement.If you enjoyed the episode, or if it resonated with you in some way, we’d love to hear from you. You can contact us (and find more content) on Instagram @sextraspodcast; Sextras Podcast on Facebook, YouTube and Geneva; www.sextraspodcast.com or email us at [email protected]. Leave us a rating/review and we’ll see you next week!!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Can you escape the male gaze, even if you try? This week we discuss the dynamics of dressing for the male gaze, or attempting not to, and how it’s difficult to not dress for the male gaze, particularly when you’re dating men but also if you want to look or feel attractive at all. We touch on why the male gaze is harmful, beauty standards and how the male gaze has been repackaged through social media.We begin the episode with discussing terms we use to describe our appearance, unpacking the differences within them and how these are a product of the male gaze and our internalised male gaze as women. We then move on to a segment where we ask our listeners what they want to wear when they want to look sexy, to get an idea of what we’re calling the ‘sexy consensus’ (ie. what everyone’s shared idea of ‘sexy’ clothing is), which unsurprisingly involves a lot of black, red, and underwear.Then we give our own personal feelings about dressing for the male gaze, and what we wear when we want to look ‘sexy’ or ‘attractive.’ We grapple with the idea that we might never be able to escape the male gaze, and that denying the fact that everything we do is in some ways a product of, or scrutinised by, the male gaze in society. We also try to dive into the concept of ‘the main character’ and ‘romanticising your life’ to explain why these concepts might be a little bit problematic when we think about the male gaze and how women, under it, constantly picture themselves and what they’re doing by how it might appear to others.Ultimately, we don’t have an answer about how to deal with the male gaze, or how to escape it, but we think having some awareness of how we describe beauty and how we ourselves interact with the gaze when getting dressed, particularly for dates, is important.We also want to acknowledge that we can only give our own experiences with the male gaze, and often when we talk about beauty standards it is within a white and heteronormative framework, which we know brings us an enormous amount of privilege. If you have any personal experience or opinions on the male gaze and how it affects you, we would love to hear about it, however similar or different to our own experience.You can contact us and find more content on our Instagram @sextrapodcast, Facebook (Sextras Podcast, website: www.sextraspodcast.com, or email us on [email protected]. Please subscribe and leave us a rating wherever you listen to podcasts, we’ll see you next week!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we’re joined by our lovely friend Amelia, to discuss body confidence and dating.We begin the episode with a segment where we hear something our listeners like about their body, to get us into the mood of body positivity. Then, Amelia tells us about her experience of dating as a plus sized woman and dealing with body confidence. She explains that bigger women can sometimes be fetishised when dating, and that her body confidence issues in the past have come from dating people who haven’t appreciated her body or treated her kindly. This happened in one past relationship in particular, which we touch on, before hearing a bit about how Amelia has come to accept her body and celebrate it. She tells us how dating women has helped a lot with her body image, as she can see how features she has disliked on herself are attractive on someone else, which is affirming.We hope you enjoy the episode! You can find more of Amelia on Instagram @meels0nwhee1s, and more of us on Instagram @sextraspodcast, Facebook at Sextras Podcast, our website www.sextraspodcast.com or email us at [email protected]. Please send us your artwork, writing or sexy confessions, and don’t forget to subscribe. We’ll see you next Tuesday!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy New Year Sextras babies!!! We hope you had the most wonderful holiday celebrating with all your loved ones and wish you a wonderful 2022!We thought we’d do another New Year’s episode, continuing the tradition from our episode ‘Let’s Keep Trying In 2021’ last year, to reflect on everything we achieved in 2021 and what our goals are for the new year. We all had a tough year in 2021, so here’s to a better 2022, to being kinder to ourselves and spending more time with our loved ones.We begin the episode with a segment where we ask our listeners ‘What are your resolutions for the new year?’ before reflecting on the new year and what it brings, plus what we did last year. We then move on to our resolutions for the new year and set ourselves sex, dating, and self care goals and challenges for 2022.A lot can happen in a year, so we encourage you all to set goals for your own dating and sex lives (and other aspects of your life, too!) so you can hold yourself accountable and live your life to the fullest in 2022.Please don’t be shy about sending us your resolutions for 2022, or anything creative you’ve done that we think we might like and can feature on the website (this can include writing, drawings, songs, or anything you like). You can get in touch with us and find more of us at www.sextraspodcast.com, on Instagram @sextraspodcast, Facebook at Sextras Podcast or email us at [email protected] you to Manscaped for sponsoring this episode. Get 20% @manscaped + Free Shipping with promo code SEXTRAS20 at MANSCAPED.com! #ad #manscapedpodProduced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we discuss everything related to age difference when dating, wondering if it’s ok to date someone older than you and establishing a rule about dating age differences at the end.We begin the episode by hearing how much older and younger our listeners would go when dating, and read out some moments where you’ve really noticed the age difference in your relationships.Then we move on to discussing our own experiences with dating people different ages to us- we discuss how young and old we’d date and sleep with. Young girls in particular often want to date someone older than them, for reasons which we discuss, but there are a lot of issues that can arise from dating someone older, so we ask when it is ok to date someone older and how to stop young people wanting to date someone older, plus how to recognise when older people’s motives are wrong in wanting to date them.We hope you enjoy the episode. Stay safe and remember if someone much older wants to date you, it might be a little bit weird!!You can find more of us on Instagram @sextraspodcast, Facebook (Sextras Podcast), and our website www.sextraspodcast.com. You can email us on [email protected] by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode we talk all about how to deal with STIs, from what to do if you get an STI, to how to treat them, to how to reduce STI stigma, to living with herpes.We begin the episode by discussing some polls about whether our followers think that STIs are a big deal, and the ways they protect themselves against STIs. Although many of you said you 'do your best' to protect against STIs, it seems as though people aren't getting tested as often as they should or having completely safe sex (which we get, we've been there!) but we think it's important to talk about STI prevention.We then move on to talking about our own experiences with STIs, from having chlamydia when we were 18 to Honey's living with herpes tips. We cover how to get tested for STIs (at least here in the UK) and how often, the emotional impacts of an STI diagnosis and how to tell someone you have herpes.Finally we look at STIs and the stigma around them and how little we truly learn about them in sex education. We explain how ultimately STIs aren't a big deal- they're just like any other infection and they're a natural part of sex.Go get tested, educate yourself and help reduce stigma around STIs!If you want to learn more about the different types of STIs, their symptoms and treatment, we have more information on all of this on our Instagram, where Honey also talks about her herpes diagnoses.You can find us on:Instagram @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastEmail [email protected]'t forget to subscribe and leave us a review, and we'll see you next Tuesday! ByeeeeeProduced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1:10-18:00 Segment: Your worst dating app stories18:15 Which apps we've used-- what dating apps are there? Different dating apps explained38:40 How to use dating apps well, how to improve dating app profile47:00 Starting conversations on dating apps, good opening lines on dating apps + good questions to ask.Welcome back to season 2 of Sextras! We're so excited to be back and can't wait for you to hear the episodes we have coming your way.This week we're talk all about dating apps. We've both been doing some market research over the summer, and boy oh boy do we have some very strong opinions on how to use dating apps well and what not to do on dating apps. Listen in if you're just starting to use the apps and wondering how to approach dating apps, or if you're a seasoned user and wondering how to get better at dating apps.We begin the episode with a segment—how we've missed hearing all of your submissions :') — where we hear your worst dating app date stories, from being blocked by someone because of your star sign to having absolutely nothing to talk about on a date.We then delve into why we've used dating apps, and which ones we've used. We break down the purpose of dating apps, going through Hinge, Tinder, feeld, Bumble, and Positive Singles and discuss the positives of these dating apps, before launching into a very long debate about what to put on a dating app profile. Unsurprisingly, we've seen some absolutely shocking examples of dating app profiles over the years, and so we explain that we don't want to see any pictures of you at the gym, and that the key to a dating app profile is variety and showing some character.We then switch to how to make conversations on dating apps, which can be really hard. If you've ever used a dating app we're sure you know how many people just message you 'hey,' and you exchange a few messages backwards and forwards before the conversation fizzles out. We try to cover what you should say in first messages on dating apps, and when the best time is to ask someone out.We promise that, even though dating apps suck sometimes, there are some positives, and just like dating if you hack the formula for how to use them and making a good profile you can have a good time. It's all about your approach to dating, apps are just a way to facilitate these interactions.Go forth, create your dating app profile, and thrive!If you enjoy Sextras please don't forget to subscribe so you never miss and episode, and if you're feeling extra generous leave us a review and share the pod on your social media!You can find more of us on Instagram (@sextraspodcast), Facebook (Sextras Podcast), www.sextraspodcast.com or email us at [email protected] by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

!!! WE WILL BE BACK ON 7TH DECEMBER FOR SEASON 2 !!! But for now, enjoy a little bit of bonus content to catch up with us and what we've been up to in our sex and dating lives over the summer (and autumn!). After hyping up hot girl summer so much at the end of season 1, we had veryyy different experiences: Maria ticked a few things off her sexual bucket list before being launched into a (short) long distance relationship with her boyfriend, whereas Honey spent most of the summer recharging and trying to accept her herpes diagnosis before fully re entering her sex life at the end of the summer. Luckily, she did have a few sexual encounters (so has a few updates), and has been getting back into dating apps, and even a mindful masturbation app which she recommends to Maria. Sometimes it's important to have a sexy summer with your boyfriend, and other times it's important to acknowledge how you're feeling and recharge an intense year or two.Listen in to hear a few teasers for upcoming episodes and to be up to date with everything we've been up to in the run up to season 2.Most importantly, don't forget to subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts and to our YouTube channel (Sextras Podcast), where we'll be releasing the full video footage to each episode in season 2.You can also find us to catch us up on your summer, confess a sexy secret or get involved in all the extra content and segment prompts for season 2 on:Instagram @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastEmail: [email protected] by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

ALL NEW EPISODES COMING FROM 7TH DECEMBERWe're back, and with more exciting stuff than ever! We've been away putting together a studio and figuring out how to record video so you can see our lovely faces here on Youtube, as well as planning really exciting episodes. Last season we covered a lot, from friends with benefits to long distance relationships, to how to find out what gives you pleasure, and in season 2 we are going to keep expanding on these, plus coming in with all new topics. Stay tuned for episodes about attachment styles, how to be better lgbtq ally, dating with an age difference and many many many more! If you're a person that is interested in having open and honest conversations, listen in to our already existing 54 episodes, and stay tuned for brand new ones coming from the 7th December.In the meantime, you can find us:Instagram - @sextraspodcastFacebook - Sextras PodcastWebsite - www.sextraspodcast.comSubscribe wherever you get your podcasts!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal Music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For the last time this season, and thus the last time for a while, we get together to talk about what's going on in our sex life and our relationships, and reflect on the ways the podcast has impacted us and our lives.We open with an introduction detailing the cruel reality of what it means to run a podcast sometimes: a LOT of technical difficulties. This season finale seemed like a perfect opportunity to give our listeners some behind the scenes of podcasting. Or at least our experience, of what it is like to start a podcast in the last year of university. People always ask us, how much does podcasting cost? Or how hard is podcasting? How much work is podcasting? So we addressed some of the misconceptions of podcasting, as well as outlining how much work actually goes into a podcast.We begin our episode of reflection by breaking down our expectations when coming into starting a podcast, in contrast to how we feel about it now. As well as reminiscing about where we were at the start of the pandemic and the podcast, in terms of our sex lives and our relationships, and comparing it to where we are now. We spend a lot of the episode reflecting upon our views about love and how they have changed. We're looking back with love, as we've realised that self reflection and growth go hand in hand. In order to keep progressing and to form our identities and find out who we want to be, we have to have self reflection and self awareness. We are not offering a 'self reflection, how to', but in looking back to where we started, and looking back fondly and inquisitively will allow us to keep learning.Throughout our time doing the podcast, we haven't only grown ourselves, but the relationships to the people around us have strengthened too. We have learnt so much about how to open up in conversations, how to start up conversations, about sex and relationships, and all the intimate details that arise from those conversations, not only with strangers, but also with our friends and family, in particular our mums. Having so many guests, and opening up week after week about ourselves and our relationships provided us with plenty of examples of open conversations to then give us a guideline on how to start difficult conversations with our families and loved ones. Opening up is hard, and we are still working on it, but working on the podcast had provided a lot of clarity and practise in dealing with difficult conversations.It truly is the end of an era for us, we finish university and are about to enter the real world, we completed a full year of weekly episodes and are concluding the first season of a podcast we love! We are truly so grateful to all our amazing guests for opening up to us and educating us, to our beautiful friends for supporting us, to our parents for believing in us and being forever open minded, and to our listeners, for all their submissions and for making all of this so much more valuable.Go forth into this hot girl summer and have nothing but fun, we'll see you next season!In the meantime, find us on our website or social media:Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastWebsite: www.sextraspodcast.comDon't forget to subscribe and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts if you enjoyed!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you suffer from anxiety? This week we're joined by our lovely friend, and psychology student, Azura to talk all about how to deal with anxiety in relationships and being non binary.We begin the episode with a segment where we hear some of our listeners' insecurities in their relationships; how they broke their mental health to their significant others in relationships and how partners have helped them manage their mental health in relationships. We also did a segment to see how many people experience mental illness or mental health problems (81%) and whether they'd prefer to date someone who has similar experiences or not.Azura then tells us a bit about the differences between feeling nervous and having an anxiety disorder and why it can be important to distinguish between the two. They then tell us about their own relationships and tips for how they have encouraged her romantic partners to understand their anxiety in relationships, as well as what their current boyfriend has done to help them cope with anxiety while dating. We then move on to discussing how their gender has been a cause of anxiety in the past, before realising they identify as non binary, and how outwardly presenting yourself in a way that matches your inner feelings can really benefit your mental health.We hope you enjoy the episode! You can find Azura on Instagram @stdyio and you can find more of us on Instagram @sextraspodcast, Facebook on Sextras Podcast, our website www.sextraspodcast.com or email us at [email protected]. Don't forget to subscribe and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts if you enjoyed!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ready to get back out there? So are we! It's been a long year filled with lockdown and endless covid-19 restrictions and we are well and truly ready for hot girl summer, especially now that we've graduated. This week we talk all about getting back out there after a breakup, or even just putting yourself out there after lockdown and lack of dating practice.We begin the episode with a poll where we ask if people struggle to put themselves out there- to which 54% of people said yes and 46% of people said no. We then asked for some tips to put yourself out there and to have dating confidence, which is something we all need a boost of. We end the segment by hearing people's hot girl summer plans and telling you our own.The positive thing about the world opening up, even though so many of us lack dating confidence, is that we're all in the same position, and we can all build up our confidence and put ourselves out there together. We discuss what has held us back from putting ourselves out there in the past and discuss what we can do to meet more people to date, or to attract the right kinds of people.Gone are the days of low standards or wasting our time with people who are, quite frankly, not good enough for us. It's hot girl summer baby! Anything is possible, and boy oh boy are we going to spend the summer learning to date and be confident again. It's time to get back out there, for all of us, so let's go for it!We hope you enjoy the episode, if you're both excited and afraid to get back out there we're right there with you. Don't forget to subscribe, leave us a review, and you can find more of us on Instagram @sextraspodcast; Facebook at Sextras Podcast, on our website www.sextraspodcast.com, and we'll see you next week!!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode we're talking all about foreplay! In light of Honey recently being single and noticing the amount of men on Tinder who claim that they 'don't do foreplay' in their bios, we thought this was a much needed episode to emphasis the fact that foreplay is very important. Listen in for foreplay tips and ideas for both people with vaginas and penises (ie. actually doing foreplay at all!!)We begin the episode with a poll where we asked men and people with penises whether they 'need' foreplay (86% said yes, to our surprise) and 97% of women or people with vaginas said they needed foreplay (not surprising in the least). We also asked what foreplay means to our followers, from touching and kissing to oral sex, to licking and sucking to penis to penis; as well as hear some stories of weird and sometimes horrific foreplay techniques. You can find these segments on our Instagram stories if you want to get involved!We also talk about what foreplay means, whether it is a part of sex or can be separated from it, and determine that ultimately foreplay is extremely necessary for most people, both those with penises and vaginas. There is a misconception that foreplay isn't important for men, perhaps because they often don't engage in foreplay, but we think that foreplay shouldn't be skipped, and actually that it can take a lot of pressure out of sex. Porn has given us the idea that people are ready to start sex whenever, but actually a lot of pleasure comes from foreplay and good sex can't really happen without it.We hope you enjoy the episode! Don't skip foreplay, we promise it will make your sex life so much better. For more foreplay tips listen to the episode we did with Kinky called 'How to Have Better Sex' where she gives some oral sex tips. If you're enjoying Sextras please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Podchaser or share! You can find more of us on Instagram @sextraspodcast, Facebook at Sextras Podcast, on our website www.sextraspodcast.com or email us at [email protected]. We'll see you next week!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to our first ever submissions only bonus episode! From confessions about sexual fantasies to real sex stories about our follower's sex experiences to pondering whether your vagina can get tighter when you haven't had sex in a while, we cover it all.We begin the episode by telling everyone about some goals we have set for our own sex lives, and what we want our sex lives to look like in the future. We then move on to reading the wonderful submissions you have sent us! If you sent us a submission check the time stamps to hear what we said about your story or confession.We love hearing your confessions and sex stories! Please continue to send us more and interact with us so we can keep learning and talking about sex together! You can send us stories or questions for future submission only episodes on our Instagram @sextraspodcast, our Facebook (Sextras Podcast) or on our website www.sextraspodcast.com (we have an anonymous submission point) or you can email us at [email protected]. Please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts and don't forget to subscribe so that you can be notified about future episodes, we'll see you next Tuesday!1:00 to 13:05 Our sex goals13:52 Date to recycling centre14:52 Threesome fantasy15:03 Tying up and dominating a man with a woman18:24 Sucky kisser21:28 Hiding from parents and force fed potato salad22:50 Asked out on a pizza box28:21 Thoughts on the term 'easy'32:56 Butt dialling your mum during sex33:49 Wet wipes36:22 Apologise accepted only in the form of doritos38:50 Kicks for asshole licks39:30 Getting back at your best friend and ex41:58 A fetish for belly buttons48:57 Can your vagina get tighter?52:50 Friends chat shitProduced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What are you like in an argument? This week we discuss conflict and arguing styles. From heated arguments to the smallest disagreements, arguing is never entirely pleasant, but there is a way to communicate effectively and to be mindful in an argument so that it's respectful and doesn't become hurtful.We begin the episode with a segment where we ask our followers what they're like in an argument and what their argument pet peeves are. We discuss certain things we find annoying in arguments, such as when people walk away from your or insult you during an argument.We then move on to discussing what we are each like in a relationship, and how the way we argue is so related to our attachment styles. Maria is anxious, so wants to resolve conflict as quickly as possible, and Honey is avoidant, so wants to put off arguments for as long as possible. We identify different approaches to arguing, from the way you start an argument or bring an issue up to the way you act during the argument- do you walk away during an argument? or shout? do you argue to argue your point or to win or do you argue to understand the other person's perspective? Finally, how you recover from an argument- whether you take a while to calm down after an argument.We decide that understanding how your partner argues is very important in a relationship. Everyone argues! So it's important to remember that we shouldn't learn how to avoid an argument but how to argue effectively in a relationship so that both people feel validated in their feelings.Go forth, learn your attachment style, and argue effectively! Life is too short to spend it arguing about the same thing and being unhappy because it's never resolved.We hope you enjoy the episode, don't forget to subscribe, leave us a review on Apple Podcasts and share with everyone you know! You can find more of us on Instagram @sextraspodcast, Facebook at Sextras Podcast, on our website www.sextraspodcast.com, or email us at [email protected]. We have an anonymous submission point on our website so send us your sexy stories there! See you next week.Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you wish you were having better sex? This week we're joined by Kinky (aka. DaKinkyKid)- sex coach and kink educator- to learn how to be having better sex.We begin the episode with a segment where we asked our followers what some sexual things they're scared to try are, and Kinky gives us all some advice about how to get a little kinky with your sex life, from how men can ask to have butt stuff done to them, to being spanked or experimenting with pain and pleasure.Then, Kinky tells us how she became a sex educator, from being interested in sex from a young age, to having a sex blog, to now having a TikTok with millions of views that teaches people about sex education. Kinky tells us some things we all need to improve on during sex, such as not being scared to ask for what you want and not putting up with men who don't try to make women orgasm, to how to make your g spot enlarge and figuring out how to squirt.We learnt so much with Kinky, she gave us some oral sex tips for men and women and how to prepare for anal sex. Essentially, Kinky is all about having good sex because, as she says, good sex is important as it makes everyone's lives so much better, and makes you so much happier.Go forth, and have great, fun, rough, and kinky sex!You can find Kinky on Instagram, YouTube and TikTok under 'Da Kinky Kid,' on her website http://dakinkykid.com/ where you can buy her two books '365 Ways to Keep it Kinky' and 'Imma Sucka.'As always, you can find us on Instagram @sextraspodcast, on Facebook at Sextras Podcast, email us at [email protected] and visit our website at www.sextraspodcast.com. Don't forget to subscribe to get notified about new episodes, share and review! We'll see you next week.Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we're joined by Manny, past matchmaker and relationship coach to talk about finding the right person for you, based on what you want from a relationship and whether you have an alpha, beta, or omega personality.We begin the episode with two segments where we asked our listeners 'What are your dating pet peeves?,' including men paying for dates being normalised and awkward conversations before sex; and 'What's the most unbelievable or ridiculous thing someone has said or done to you on a date?,' including guys admitting they take their condoms with them and thinking feminism is a reason a woman rejects someone.We then move on to hearing about Manny's career, and how he got into matchmaking and then relationship coaching. Manny tells us how he tries to help people find the right person for them, as that is often the biggest thing people struggle with in relationships. Often people go for those who are nothing like them and want completely different things, which dooms their relationship for failure. Manny has a theory called the emotional alpha scale that helps people look for the right person for them based on whether their personality is alpha, beta, or omega. He explains that omega, alpha or beta personalities are not specific to men or women, and that none of them are negative even though beta is used to insult men a lot of the time.We then discuss toxic masculinity and how men feel as though they have to be an alpha male because of the way their parents raised them or the messages they get from society about what 'masculinity' should look like. So many men try to be an alpha male when they're not, which Manny calls the 'constant quest for manhood.' This means so many men don't know what they want or really struggle to come to terms with the fact that they're an omega or a beta. In reality all being a 'man' really is is honouring who you are. But no matter whether you're alpha, beta, or omega the most important thing is to be true to yourself and find the right person for you and what you want out of a relationship.You can find Manny on @iammannysantana on TikTok, Facebook, Twitter, Clubhouse and Instagram, on www.mannysantana.com and information about his book and his masterclasses on www.secretsoftheguycode.com, or you can email him at [email protected] he'd love to hear from you!As always you can find us on Instagram @sextraspodcast; Facebook at Sextras Podcast; our website www.sextraspodcast.com or email us [email protected]. Don't forget to subscribe so you can be notified whenever we release an episode (we have our bonus episode coming very soon!) and we'll see you next week!Produced by Mabel ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we're debating the hot issue of what makes better sex: quantity or quality?We begin the episode with a few polls where we asked 'Would you rather have ok sex every day or have really good sex once a week?' to which 95% said really good sex once a week; 'What makes someone a better fuck- to have lots of sex with different people or to have lots of sex with one person? to which 74% of people said lots of sex with one person; 'Does your partner's body count matter to you?' to which 87% of people said no; lastly 'Has your best sex been in a one night stands or in a long term thing?' to which 84% of people said in a long term thing.We then move on to discussing what quantity or quality of sex might mean. We're conflicted about the issue of quantity as we know it can cause some unnecessary competition when you're younger, with wanting to raise your body count, which is a big part of lad culture and toxic masculinity. On the other hand, for some people one night stands give them an idea of what more people are into and they can then try those things out if they have regular sex with one person- so quantity becomes quality. Also, we decide that sex is never that bad unless it is really terrible, so quantity without quality isn't a complete possibility.Then, we discuss quality, which we decide includes cumming, or a good effort on both parts to make the other cum, and for both people to have a good time and try a few spicy things out along the way. Good sex is addictive: when sex is good with one person, it's hard to look back at how you ever accepted sex that was less than quality, and you raise your standards. We’ve decided we’re raising our standards and not making any more excuses more not getting the most we can out of sex. At the same time, asking for what you want during sex and enforcing quality can be way harder than it seems, so we have to take it step by step to get to the point of being able to communicate what we want.Ultimately, we decide quantity and quality are not necessarily mutually exclusive, and which you prefer really depends how much sex is enough for you. We know some people don't need to have sex every day and others are okay with not cumming every time (but we obviously shouldn't make excuses for men who make no effort.)Go forth! Have sex in quantity and quality (but maybe don't go for quantity at the total expense of quality).We hope you enjoyed this (more chatty) episode! If you did, make sure to leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, and tell us what else you'd like to hear us discussing. You can find us to do so on our:Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastEmail: [email protected]: www.sextraspodcast.comDon't forget to subscribe so you get notified when our bonus episode comes your way very soon, and see you next week!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode we're joined by BDSM performer and educator Sir Ezra. He's the HeadMaster of the Leather/ BDSM household The House of Algos, and he's here to tell us all about the BDSM lifestyle, his career in BDSM and the BDSM community as a whole and how to introduce BDSM into your life. Listen in for an introduction to BDSMWe begin the episode with a segment where we hear about our listeners' kinks, from hentai to tentacle porn to bondage, and Sir Ezra teaches us the difference between a kink and a fetish. We then move onto how he got into BDSM, from being into dominating and sadism from a young age to pushing away his interests in BDSM because he thought it was 'bad,' to finally working in the BDSM community. He tells us what it's like to do BDSM as a profession, and that he got into BDSM education because he was interested in teaching.We then move on to BDSM communication, safety, respect and consent, which is extremely important. So many people think that BDSM is a dangerous community, but actually Sir Ezra teaches us that because the BDSM community are so open and educated about power roles that they are actually much better at communicating boundaries and setting safe words so that consent is clearer and safer. He also teaches us some BDSM terms and types of BDSM roles. We end the episode by hearing about how to introduce BDSM into your life, and how to find BDSM community sites so you can learn safe BDSM practices and rules.You can find Sir Ezra on https://www.houseofalgos.com/ for more BDSM information and to take some BDSM courses with an expert. You can buy his book 'Mindfucking Mindfully: A Guide to Mental Manipulation for BDSM & Sadomasochism' there too, and he's also on Instagram, TikTok and Twitter under House of Algos.Don't forget to subscribe and share with everyone you know, and you can find more of us at all the usual places:Instagram: @sextraspocastFacebook: Sextras PodcastEmail: [email protected]: www.sextraspodcast.comSee you next week!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From dildos to vibrators to fleshlights to butt plugs: this week we're talking all about sex toys. We're joined by Mel, the founder of Melba Toys, to talk about how to talk about sex toys with your partner, whether you guys are into sex toys and if you use them with partners, and she tells us a bit about the sex toy industry.We begin the episode with some polls, where we asked our followers if they have ever bought a sex toy (72% of people said yes); if they've ever used a sex toy with a partner (69% said yes) and if they'd be open to using one with a partner (97% said yes). We asked how often people use sex toys, and the most common answer was occasionally) and then we asked people to tell us if they didn't why not, as well as some stories or anecdotes about using sex toys.Mel then goes on to tell us about her company, Melba Toys, and why she was inspired to start it. She explains that the sex toy industry is completely unregulated, and this means sex toys are often not sustainably or ethically made. Also, it's impossible to find the right sex toy! Buying sex toys online can be so tricky, as there's loads of choice but most of them might not be quite right (especially if you're looking to buy your first sex toy and don't know where to start). This also means that affordable sex toys come at the expense of quality, and if you're looking for a big dildo you might only be able to find a big and thin one rather than the thickness you're looking for. Melba Toys solves all of this and will make sex toys out of sustainable and ethical materials to order so you can ask for whatever gives you pleasure!We end the episode by talking about how to talk about introducing a sex toy with a partner, as some people might find it uncomfortable, and using sex toys in general.We hope you enjoy the episode, and you might start to consider how you can have more sustainable sex. You can find Mel and Melba Toys on Instagram @melbatoys or their website www.melbatoys.com and do their sex toy quiz on https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/3622W5M.As always, you can find us on Instagram @sextraspodcast and Facebook under 'Sextras Podcast' or on our website www.sextraspodcast.com or email us at [email protected]. Don't forget to leave us a review on Apple Podcasts if you enjoyed, and share and subscribe, and we'll see you next week!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We hear time and time again, that in every relationship, you either get married or break up. That is to say, most of our relationships will ultimately end, and through another break up we must go.Inspired by Honey's real life events!! (i.e. she recently went through a break up), this week we sit down and discuss the whole breakup process. In our segment we asked you to tell us about your worst breakups, or any general stories you have of times that you have been broke up with or have broken up with someone. Someone was genuinely followed by their ex to university, whilst someone else simply boils it down to 'right person, wrong time'. Ultimately, all break ups hurt, or suck in some kind of way.We start talking about the build up to the break up; the beginning of the end. When the reasons to break up start showing up, and we discuss whether in previous breakups we saw any warning signs. In some cases, we can feel really blindsided, perhaps we are broken up with and given no reasons, perhaps we just don't think that those reasons are good enough. As the person being broken up with, it is easy to feel blindsided as we can turn a blind eye sometimes to what are actually signs that the relationship isn't going well, or that our partner or even we are unhappy. We discuss both perspectives of the 'build up', for the person that is doing the breaking up, it is a very different, and sometimes equally painfully experience (which is often looked over).We then move on to the actual breakup. Is there a good way to break up with someone? There's probably no perfect way to break up with someone, we can't give you a step by step guide or a 'breakup template', because every situation and person is different. However, having a conversation, or series of conversations, in which both people feel heard and understood seems like the ideal. Although, realistically breakups are messy, or over text, or facetime calls, it's impossible to have 'the perfect breakup'.And finally, the aftermath, the heartbreak, the putting the pieces back together. We talk about how wanting to remain friends can be quite problematic, but completely understandable. But here's the thing: it's quite hard to move on from someone that you still talk to, or see all the time, and so Maria swears that she will definitely block her ex after her next breakup. It can feel so hard, when someone that has become so engrained in your life, or your main point of contact, or in some ways your best friend is not there anymore, but we stress that it is more important to let them go, because you broke up for a reason. Honey tells us a little bit about her experience with a break up in a long distance relationship and how that has varied from her other relationships, and lets us know how she is dealing with it.Your relationship ending doesn't mean you failed, or anyone failed, in any way. Not to sound too mushy, but every relationship has its purpose, and we learn from all our experiences, good and bad. We're here for you if you're going through it, we are too!You can find us here:Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastEmail: [email protected]'t forget to subscribe, review, and send us your stories, and we'll see you next week!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we are joined by the lovely Yolanda, the host of Speak On podcast, to talk about toxic relationships. (TW: emotional abuse, coercive behaviour and gaslighting.)We begin the episode by hearing the most toxic things that have been done to our listeners, including name calling and lying continuously. We discuss how often these behaviours go unnoticed, and might seem like not a big deal at the time, but build up over time to erode trust in your relationship.Yolanda then tells us her toxic relationship story. She tells us what a toxic relationship feels like, and red flags of a toxic relationship. She explains that it's hard to recognise you're in a toxic relationship and to leave it as you're often hoping it will get better, but it's hard to know if a toxic relationship can ever get better. We discuss how to get out of a toxic relationship when you live together and how to help someone in a toxic relationship based on what she thinks people could have done to have helped her if they had known more about what was happening. We also cover healing after a toxic relationship and what a toxic relationship can do to you in the long term, such as making it difficult for you to trust others and to be in relationships further down the line.It can be hard to see the signs of a toxic relationship, but ultimately, we learn, putting a label to the actions is helpful in identifying that you're in a toxic relationship. There is so much victim blaming when it comes to those who are stuck in toxic relationships, too, but it's important to change how we discuss and learn about them so that we can know how to help someone in a toxic relationship and help them move on once they're able to break away.We love you all so much! Remember you can always reach out to us to discuss something, even though we're not professionals, and if you're in a relationship where you notice a toxic dynamic, or even if you're in a relationship where you're unhappy, leave it. You deserve happiness and you deserve to be loved for who you are.You can find more of Yolanda on her podcast Speak On- we recorded an episode with her over on her podcast about sex education, so go have a listen to that and all the other episodes! Find them on Instagram on @speakon_ or wherever you listen to podcasts, and you can find more of us on:Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastEmail: [email protected]'t forget to subscribe, review, and send us your stories, and we'll see you next week!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We thought we would expose ourselves this week by sharing some of our less glamorous sex stories, all the embarrassing, the awkward and the weird things that have happened to us during sex.We thought it might be funny to reminisce on the weird, cringe things we have done during sex, (because everyone does embarrassing things when they first start having sex). We laugh about things now, that may have felt traumatic in the moment, like the time Maria forgot about her tampon one time during sex, or the time Honey threw up in front of everyone, including the guy she wanted to shag that night.We talk a lot about drunk sex, mostly because most of Maria’s ridiculous sex experiences have happened whilst under the influence. It makes sense, since alcohol is known to make people more horny, or sometimes just makes people make worse decisions, like when Maria shagged a nameless stranger in a public bathroom, or sucked on a guy’s toes to get laid. Alcohol makes us dumb, like when Honey’s date called her by the wrong name. But as we note, in our younger years, especially whilst at university, sometimes sex and alcohol go hand in hand.Overall, even though some of our experiences seem embarrassing, or cringe-worthy, it’s nice to be able to look back and know that it is only embarrassing and cringe because we have grown, and probably wouldn’t do those things again today, but we sure as hell had a lot of fun doing them. Sex will only keep getting better and we can’t wait for social distancing restrictions to loosen so we will have even more embarrassing sex stories to tell.We love you all, thank you for your support. Your feedback is always appreciated, so please don't hesitate to leave us a rating or review on Apple Podcasts or Podchaser, or you can get in touch with us on...Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastWebsite: www.sextraspodcast.comBy Email: [email protected]’t forget to subscribe and we’ll see you next Tuesday!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal Music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wonder what other people's relationship is like with their mum? Now you can find out! This week we're joined by Honey's mum to discuss all things about their relationship and about raising a child on your own.We begin by asking what she thinks of us having a sex and relationship podcast. We then to move on to her sex education and what it was like talking about sex when she was growing up, as well as how this informed how she wanted to talk about sex and relationships with Honey.We then move on to life as a single mum, and what it was like raising Honey alone. We cover things like why being a single mum is hard, being a single mum and dating full time. Then we move on to dating as a single mum, and then finding love as a single mum and what that's like now Honey's grown up and they all live together. We discuss their family relationships during the pandemic, and how it's hard to not be codependent when you're living at home.It was so much fun talking with my mum, and it opened up some topics of conversation we probably never would've spoken about otherwise. I've always thought we have a special mother daughter bond, and friendship, hopefully that's obvious in this podcast.We encourage you to explore your family relationships, particularly your relationship with your mum. It's hard to know how to talk to your mum about sex and relationships or mental health sometimes, but once you do it will create more openness between you that can only be a good thing.We love you all, thank you for your support. Your feedback is always appreciated, so please don't hesitate to leave us a rating or review on Apple Podcasts or Podchaser, or you can get in touch with us on...Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastWebsite: www.sextraspodcast.comBy email: [email protected]'t forget to subscribe, and we'll see you next week!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There has been a lot in the news and on social media about sexual assault and sexual coercion in the past couple of weeks. Starting with the disappearance of Sarah Everard in London, where we're both from, women have been expressing their outrage at the lack of response from the government and the Metropolitan Police, as well as telling their stories online about the sexual harassment they experience on a daily basis.We wanted to share our thoughts about what has been happening, and tell our own stories of sexual coercion, which we know many women will be able to relate to. We discuss how sexual coercion is extremely common with people in relationships and not, as well as the fact that sexual coercion is so normalised amongst women because of how common it is. An often-asked question is why sexual assault goes unreported, but we wanted to bring light to the fact that because instances of sexual assault and sexual coercion happen so often, most women don't even consider reporting it. This is all a part of the victim blaming that comes along with sexual assault.We also discuss how the word 'no' is received, as well as how women use it, and how women can be scared to resist sexual coercion because of the fear of what that might lead to. Sexual coercion is a part of the larger conversation about sexual assault and rape culture, and how there are countless ways women are pressured and forced into sex or sexual acts that they have not consented to, or feel uncomfortable doing. In order for the conversation to change, both men and women need to do more to acknowledge the countless ways we are complicit in upholding this harmful culture with our silence and hesitation to call people out, especially those we are close to.If you have experienced any form of sexual harassment, sexual coercion, or sexual abuse, we're sorry you had to go through that, and you're not alone. There are so many people telling their stories online right now, but we also want to stress that it is okay to not share your experiences if you're not ready. And to those who have shared, thank you. If you'd like to talk to someone, know that help is always available. Victim Support have a 24/7 confidential hotline (UK based) on 0808 16 89 111We're sending love to everyone who is affected by sexual abuse, or who feels emotionally drained in the midst of these conversations. Stay safe, look after your mental health, and keep calling people out! We love you, and we'll see you on Tuesday <3 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What would life be like without friendship? This week we discuss the beauty of female friendships, as well as reflecting on our own friendship throughout the years; why friendship is important, and how female friendships are different to men and women being friends.We start the episode by hearing what our listeners favourite parts of their female friendships are. As it's Women's History Month we wanted to pay homage to our female friendships particularly, and we also hear moments that our listeners have felt closest to their friends. We then move on to reflecting why we're so drawn to being friends with other girls when we're younger, as it's often easier to relate to other girls, and you don't have to worry about people thinking you have a crush on them (even though we're bi, so the joke's on them, really). When you're at school, friendship can be really difficult as there's so much pressure to be popular and to fit in, and teenage girls are so judgemental and scary.We reflect on how our own friendship has changed, from the amount of friendship groups we've been through, to the ups and downs in how close we've been, as well as the dynamic with friendship and dating and how that often changes how close you are. We have lots of ideas about how friendship should be, and that's why it can hurt so much when you're not as close anymore, especially when going to university or going through big life changes. We've always said we're soulmates, but actually a lot of patience and caring has gone into our friendship, and what's made us close, more than anything, is that we've always been there for each other and come back to one another throughout our 8 years of friendship. To end the episode, we tackle the ways male and female friendships can be different to our female friendships, concluding that there's value in both.Friends are so important. They influence our decisions, motivate us, and are always there for us when we need it most. Friends become family, but the best part is you get to choose your friends. If you haven't found your people, don't worry, we've been there and we know how hard it is to go through a friend breakup, but if you know what kinds of people you want to surround yourself with, you will find each other! It's not about how many friends you have anyway, it's about valuing the ones you do have.We hope you enjoy the episode! Don't forget to send us your confessions for our submissions-only episode: you can do this anonymously via our website www.sextraspodcast.com/confessions or send us an email [email protected] with a voice note or your written story!Follow us on:Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastAnd leave us a review or a rating, and subscribe! We'll see you next week <3Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In honour of International Women's Day 2021 we thought we'd dedicate an entire episode to women who inspire us. We begin the episode by hearing who our listeners' female role models were growing up, and who their female role models are now.We then discuss how our role models have changed throughout the years, what role models' qualities are and why role models are important. There are so many inspiring women, and maybe we should not only choose role models who have overcome adversity, but also broaden our ideas of who are good role models and what role model characteristics are. Yes, being a leader and being brave make a good role model, but for some their role model might be someone who is open about sex our challenges our ideas of what makes a respectable woman, too.Role models influence our lives in so many ways, particularly when growing up, and that's why having good role models for girls is so important. If we see more female politicians we might actually start to believe we can be a politician and aspire to be, and if we see women being open about their sexuality like Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion, we might start to think that being open about our sexuality is healthy and normal.There are so many inspirational women today that we are spoiled for options, all we have to do is find them. We hope you hear about some inspirational women you've never heard of, or maybe never thought of as role models, and you learn that role models can be so many things: a parent, a spy, an activist, a model, or a rapper.Keep celebrating women, and keep sharing women's stories! Happy Women's History Month 2021!If you'd like to find more of us, you can do so on:Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastEmail: [email protected]: www.sextraspodcast.comDon't forget to send us your stories and questions for our upcoming episode. Our anonymous submissions page is: https://www.sextraspodcast.com/confessions or you can DM us on social media or email us with your stories or voice notes! We can't wait, see you next week!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A patriarchy is a system of society or government in which men hold the power and women are largely excluded from it. The bad news is, we live in a patriarchy. And what are the effects of the patriarchy? In this weeks segment we asked how the patriarchy affects your daily lives, from from being able to wear certain clothes, to being told to ‘smile more’, to being too scared to travel alone. We discuss how much we relate to a lot of daily occupancy of inequality, and how sad it is that we do.There are many problems with the patriarchy, and infinite ways it shows up in our daily lives. Some things are more deeply engrained: like the emphasis on female beauty standards and expectations that negatively impact women’s self perception and self worth. Other issues are more about what women are taught- to be polite, to be mothers, to be submissive- and the ways in which we adopt these roles ourselves.Touching briefly on family dynamics, we talk about the examples we were set growing up, and the kinds of future we could have when we were older, as well as how perhaps we have internalised sexism, limiting ourselves and our capabilities.We talk about how the patriarchy even affects our sex lives, although perhaps sometimes it won’t seem like a feminist issue or like something that is a result of the patriarchy, like finding it difficult to say no to sex. However, we establish that it impacts everything, especially the way men and women interact. We break down some of the pressures that we felt sexually with men that perhaps we haven’t felt with women, and how with men we fall into a position of submission.Ultimately, even though the patriarchy fucks us in many ways every day, we understand that in order to break all of these systems down we need to ourselves be aware of our misogyny and call men out on theirs. Let’s start now, this Women’s History Month. And let’s go and SMASH the patriarchy!!We hope you're enjoying the podcast, and if you are please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Podchaser. It means to much to us! Don't forget to subscribe, and you can find more of us on:Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras Podcastwww.sextraspodcast.comOr email us at [email protected], we’ll see you next week!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So many people don't have a sex life at the moment. Around the world, lockdowns have left people unable to fulfil their sexual desires, and for many women this has meant they struggle to feel sexual at all.This week we discuss what it's like when you're in a sexual dry spell, hearing from our listeners about what the longest they've gone without sex is and how they broke the dry spell. We discuss how long is too long for us to go without sex, and what is considered a dry spell, deciding that it's different for each person depending on how often they have sex normally. We then give some advice about how to manage your dry spell in quarantine, as well as how to end a dry spell if you're not in lockdown. Having a dry spell in a relationship before quarantine was bad enough, but with the added fact that so many people are in long distance relationships, or going through a dry spell after a break up, it's that much harder to stay sexually active or connected to your body, basic human needs and physical needs.Self pleasure is so important, so we encourage you all to try to stay connected to your eroticism in some way, even if you're in lockdown! Dry spells for women are particularly hard because it's so damn hard for us to feel aroused when we're not having sex with anyone, but you can do it! Get a stash of sex toys or flirt with that guy you like over text!We hope you're enjoying the podcast, and if you are please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Podchaser. It means to much to us! Don't forget to subscribe, and you can find more of us on:Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras Podcastwww.sextraspodcast.comor email us at [email protected]'ll see you next week!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, Morgan Doman, a life and clarity coach joins us to talk about saying no, how people pleasing affects our lives and relationships and how to set healthy boundaries. Sometimes it is hard to know how to set a boundary, or even to know there is a boundary to set at all.Morgan talks us through some ways to go around setting boundaries, as we discuss some of the boundaries that you guys have set in the segment, or boundaries you want to set. We talk about physical boundaries, like being touched, or hugged without warning, and the importance of consent, as well as knowing how to set boundaries with friends when you start feeling like their therapist. We discuss attachments styles and how recognising your attachment style might help you understand what boundaries you might need to set.Morgan tells us about her experience as a recovering people pleaser who helps people pleasers break out of those habits for a living. We talk about how we're not really taught that we can say no, and so that why we struggle setting boundaries sometimes. Especially as women it can sometimes be hard to know how to say no, or feel pressured to say yes, so Morgan advises us to try to start practising saying no to small things, so you are able to when it matters.We all admit it's hard to set boundaries, often the boundaries we need to set are for ourselves, or within ourselves, and that's the hardest part. Sometimes, when someone sets a boundary it can feel like rejection you or an attack, when in reality they are trying to make the situation healthier and better for everyone.Be brave! Go set those boundaries!You can find Morgan on instagram @morgan.doman and read her blog on her website www.morgandoman.com !You can find more of us on:Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastEmail: [email protected]: www.sextraspodcast.comWe hope you enjoyed the episode, don't forget to subscribe, review and share! We'll see you next Tuesday.Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For some people, Valentine's Day is overrated, simply an excuse to spend money and say 'I love you' for the sake of it. For other's, it's a day filled with magic, when love fills the air and it feels like we have all the time in the world to set aside for the people we love. On this week's episode, we talk about the things we love about Valentine's Day, like the fact it's a day completely set apart for love. But we also talk about the things we don't like, how a lot of pressure can build around the day leading to stress and disappointment.During COVID, the expectations surrounding Valentine's Day look a little different: we can't go out, a lot of people can't even see their significant others, some people may feel even more so isolated. But there are a lot of ways to make the day still feel special. In the segment this week, we share some ideas on what to do for Valentine's at home, like picnics and blanket forts. It might even be as simple as getting your favourite food delivered. If you're not with your partner, you could facetime and eat at the same time. And if you're single, you can spend it with your flatmates or your friends. Valentine's Day can people feel even more 'single' or alone, when the day is really about love, of all kinds, and that includes friendship.We talk about some of our Valentine's Day stories and experiences, and note that some of the best Valentines were those spent with friends and memories with parents, and some of our bad ones are when we actually had a valentine. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter if someone is going to kiss you this Valentine's or not, because we all have a Valentine somewhere, and that is anyone we love!Happy Valentine's Day you beautiful people! We love you!Show us love here:Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastEmail: [email protected]: www. sextraspodcast.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this week's episode we discuss a very curious phenomenon: the ick. Where does the ick come from? No one knows (although we theorise it might be a manifestation of your intuition telling you to get away from that person). Here on this podcast we're terrified of the ick and the power it holds over us. You can get the ick in a long-term relationship, or even when you're dating, and there's no knowing if if the ick will, or can, go away.We begin the episode by speculating how to describe the ick, and how it's different to simple turn offs and annoyances in dating. We then go on to a segment where we hear what gives you the ick, from people actually liking you back, to someone trying tooand tell our own ick stories. We try to dig deeper to understand what the ick really is and why we get it, but conclude that, ultimately, it is intangible, and laugh and how ridiculous the reasons for the ick ending a relationship can be.The ick is real!! Don't underestimate it's power- you could get the ick for anyone and everyone, and there's no reversing it once you acknowledge it. It will soon be downhill from that moment on.We hope you enjoyed the episode, and we appreciate all your support so much! If you want to see more of us, you can find us onInstagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastEmail: [email protected]: www. sextraspodcast.comDon't forget to rate, review (on Apple Podcasts or Podchaser), share and subscribe, and we'll see you next Tuesday!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we have a lovely guest, Mary, joining us to talk all things mental health and being single in lockdown. We begin the episode by hearing from what our listeners think the best part of single life is. We then dive into Mary's experience with being single, and having never been in an established relationship at 21. Some people think being single is lonely, but we discuss how sometimes being single is better as you can do some self-reflection, focus on your mental health and discovering what you want from a relationship. Mary explains that, while she's slightly bitter that covid began as she was ready to begin dating, she's grateful that she's single during lockdown, as maintaining a long distance relationship would be extremely difficult. She also tells us about how being single during covid has been difficult, and how she thinks her mental health would be affected by being in a relationship.We conclude that of course it's difficult to be single sometimes, especially during covid-19, when you can't get the intimacy (both physical and emotional) you need for your well-being, but that ultimately it's being single is best if you don't feel as if you're able to be in a relationship because of your mental health.Thank you so much to Mary for joining us, we hope you enjoy the episode! You can find Mary on Instagram @mazza.h99 and TikTok @mazza.h, and you can find more of us on:Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastWebsite: www.sextraspodcast.comEmail: [email protected]'t forget to rate, review, share and subscribe! We'll see you next Tuesday!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this week's episode we ask if you can be friends with your ex. We begin by hearing from some of our listeners' opinion on if exes can be friends, if they're friends with any of their exes, if they'd be okay with their significant other being friends with an ex, or if their significant other minds if they're friends with their ex.We then move on to explaining how we came to be friends with our exes, and what to do if your ex wants to stay friends and you don't. There are often so many reasons not to stay friends- they're your ex for a reason, after all (!)- but sometimes losing someone from your life forever is unnecessary and not worth it. Of course there are wrong reasons to stay friends with someone you dated, like you still secretly have feelings for them and you're hoping they'll change their minds and regret dumping you, but we truly believe, after some time and reflection, exes can be friends. You probably can't be friends straight after a breakup, though. We wouldn't recommend that (from personal experience). And you definitely, definitely, can't be friends with someone you love. We also discuss how we feel about our boyfriends being friends with an ex, and if it's ok for them to be friends with their ex-lovers, even if they don't have feelings for them.If you're going through a break up, we really feel for you. We know how difficult it can be, but maybe you'll get a friend out of it eventually! Just don't stay friends with them and lie to yourself about not having feelings for them, and you'll be fine!We hope you enjoyed the episode, we love making this podcast for you! If there's anything you'd like to see, any advice you'd like, please do reach out and make any recommendations you might have.You can find us on:Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastOur website: www.sextraspodcast.comEmail: [email protected]'t forget to subscribe, rate, review and share, and we'll see you next Tuesday!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Happy new year!!! If you're listening to this- congratulations on making it to 2021 baby- I can't believe we did it. Let's hope the new year brings the end of the pandemic and a lot lot more joy and freedom than 2020. We hope everyone had a wonderful holiday and celebrated new years safely, and you're all wrapped up at home working on your new year's resolutions.Even though starting the new year doesn't mean you have to set goals for yourself we think it's always important to be do some self reflection. It's easy to look back and be critical of what you achieved during the year, but maybe setting small goals for yourself like how you want to improve your relationships or something you want to explore in your sex life, like a new kink, will be more realistic than deciding you're going to cut out sugar forever! We encourage you set intentions if you will, or rather just resolutions you can keep.In this week's episode we discuss what we want from 2020 in our careers, relationships and sex lives, from learning to integrate exercise into our routine to wanting to have a threesome, and also hear our listeners' resolutions.We wish you all a happy 2021 and we can't wait to spend it with you and see you next Tuesday!Don't forget to subscribe, rate, review and share. We dedicate a lot of time to creating this podcast so if you listen regularly it would help us out a lot!You can find more of us on:Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastWebsite: www.sextraspodcast.comEmail: [email protected] by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We have finally made it to the final week of 2020. There is no beautiful, poetic, amazing way to bring up everything that has happened during 2020, and we by no means try to do that. We know that this year has brought challenges, pain, struggle in a way we have never in our lifetimes seen before, and in all of that, there is a lot of room for growth. Being quarantined and staying home for most of the year provided us, and people all over the world, with nothing but time to really think. Lockdown has forced people into really thinking about their priorities and what they want, and if anything we hope all this time to yourself has given people time to think, and maybe even learn. For this week's segment we ask our listeners what they learned this year, with answers ranging from valuing themselves to missing your job. We relate a lot with some of the answers, and talk about how in our own ways we've learnt to say fuck it and be happy. We tell you some of our best lessons learnt, from believing more in our own abilities, to learning how to really dress up for ourselves and not for others. All in all, we pat ourselves (and you guys too!) on the back for really just doing our best even though this year has been hard.We wanted to share some of our 2020 favourites and what really got us through the year, from TV shows, to Podcasts, to books, which will all be available to find in our website. We hope you can find something positive to say about the year, even if only small!Please don’t forget you can leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Podchaser, and you can subscribe and rate us, too, wherever you get your podcasts!You can find more content on our social media, below, and get in contact with us if you have any recommendations or feedback:Instagram: @sextraspodcastEmail: [email protected]: Sextras PodcastProduced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this week's episode, we take you through our experience as bisexual girls. We talk about the first times we ever heard of the term 'bisexual' and how we first started identifying with it, or questioning our sexuality. The bisexual identity can be difficult to come to terms with because often you are left in a limbo, of not being 'straight enough', nor 'gay enough'. This can bring forward a lot of confusion, we share how we often have felt like impostors, how maybe we are just saying we like girls for attention, and similar internalised biphobic tendencies.Since we have both been in relationships with men, we speak about how that can be difficult when identifying with our bisexuality, how the 'gay world' and the 'straight world' seem to fail to coexist sometimes, and how someone who is part of both, it can sometimes feel like the world doesn't have a place for bisexuals.We talk about how dating men and women can feel so different, and how lucky bisexuals are that we get to experience both and whether we fear 'missing out' on dating girls or dating guys once we settle down with one person.Ultimately, we complain about all the hard stuff that comes along with being bisexual, yet we both agree we would not want it any other way.Love the way you are! No matter who you love. We love you.Please don’t forget you can leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Podchaser, and you can subscribe and rate us, too, wherever you get your podcasts! You can find more content on our social media, below, and get in contact with us if you have any recommendations or feedback:Instagram: @sextraspodcast Email: [email protected]: Sextras PodcastProduced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We're joined this week by the lovely Pup Anarchy (aka Amir) who talks to us about kinks and how to pay attention to what you really want, whether that's during sex or just in your day-to-day life.We begin with a segment where we hear what the kinkiest thing our listeners have ever done is, ranging from peeing on someone to smelling people's underwear. Amir then tells us about his job as a shaman, and how he found out what kinks he's into (spoiler...he's into puppy play). He tells us how his work and his sex life are similar in that he has to pay close attention to what he really wants, making sure he knows what sort of energy he expects to receive from his interactions with others. We also dive into the BDSM community and what kind of space it provides people with kinks, as well as aftercare, with Amir teaching us about how submissives and dominants are really not that different when it comes down to it.We hope you enjoy this episode! You can find Amir on instagram @anarchy_flow7777,And you can find more of us on:Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastEmail: [email protected]: sextraspodcast.comWe now have stickers! We'll be giving one away every week to our favourite submission for the segment. Keep an eye out on instagram to see when we post the prompts for the segments, and you can also submit your stories anonymously through our website.Don't forget to review, rate, subscribe and share our podcast if you enjoy! See you next Tuesday.Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Why do we have such high expectations of our romantic partners and not of our friends? Do we just have a deeper connection with our significant others than with our friends or are our expectations setting us up for failure?In this episode we discuss whether expectations are good or bad, where they come from, and what they tell us about our relationship. We begin with our segment where we hear what our listeners expect from their significant others but not from their friends. We try to unpack how expectations have hurt or disappointed us, as well as wondering what to do when expectations in relationships lead to resentment.Sometimes we place more meaning on our relationships than our friendships because we love and care about someone, but communicating your (frankly sometimes impossible to meet) expectations can help both parties clarify the reality of the situation.What are your expectations? We suggest trying to understand where they come from and compromising with your partner to find a level of happiness and understanding.If you enjoy this episode please leave us a review, rate us, subscribe, and share with everyone you know!You can find more of us here:Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastEmail: [email protected] you next Tuesday!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal Music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode we have a lovely guest, Matilda, telling us all about her fairy-tale-like experience with falling for her friend and moving to another country to be with him after spending only ten days as an 'item'. We begin the episode with a segment where we ask our listeners about their craziest one night stands, also sharing ours. Matilda then moves on to how she and her boyfriend met; how she realised she had feelings for him and what it was like when they first kissed. We discuss the changes in going from friends to lovers, and what it was like saying 'I love you.' We're shocked with how certain she was- enough to then move half way across the world to be with him. She tells us what moving during coronavirus was like, the difficulties she faced, and having to tell her family she was going to be moving to France. Ultimately, she says, being in quarantine together really solidified their relationship and their feelings for one another.We end the episode with a brief discussion about the differences between sleeping with someone you have feelings for versus a one night stand, and how intimacy and closeness can make sex that much more special. We're so happy for Matilda and we wish her so much luck in love- and to all the rest of our listeners negotiating love during COVID-19, we hope this story brought you some joy and optimism!(We know not everyone can be with their loved ones right now, check out our episodes 'Sex, Love, and COVID-19'; 'Sanity, Love, and COVID-19' and 'Does Distance Make the Heart Grow Fonder?' for more.)We hope you enjoyed the episode, as always don't forget to subscribe, rate, review and share, and we'll see you next Tuesday!For more content or to contact us you can find us here:Instagram @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastEmail: [email protected] check out our website- www.sextraspodcast.comProduced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The coronavirus pandemic has restructured the world as we knew it, with restrictions on who we can interact with safely, and how we can interact safely, many people have been pushed into a very strange kind of isolation. In the UK we're in the middle of our second lockdown, and more curfews and restrictions are being introduced worldwide every day. Not to mention all the people that have lost their lives or loved ones, and all the people that have lost their jobs. Life is always unpredictable, but we have never experienced unpredictability like this. There is so much uncertainty that has come with the pandemic: about when we will return to ‘normal’; about when you’ll get to see someone again; whether you are infecting or harming people you love; or whether someone or something is worth all the time apart.We understand, and so this week we wanted to sit down and update our previous COVID-19 episode (Sex, Love and COVID-19), as well as outline, through your submissions, a diverse range of experiences and coping mechanisms. We asked, ‘What have you been doing to look after yourself during the pandemic?’: from making the bed to listening to wise Buddhist monks, we shared some of your self care tips. We also asked how many people’s mental health has been affected, with the majority admitting that it had been affected negatively. Lastly, we get an update on what everyone's dating lives have looked like during the pandemic, from long distance relationships, to break ups, to sexting, nudes, and difficult marriages. Sex and relationships have been hard during the pandemic, particularly in lockdown, and we wanted to get an update on what they look like now versus before.We ultimately discuss how people have changed during the pandemic and how we have seen ourselves change. We celebrate our listeners' achievements and remind everyone that even though lockdown can make life feel very monotonous it’s important to take a look at what has been going on and what we have actually achieved, and congratulate ourselves and our listeners for having the strength and patience to take this experience in and remind everyone that it’s okay not to be okay.Let us know what you’ve been doing to stay sane during the pandemic!You can find us on:Website: www.sextraspodcast.comInstagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastEmail: [email protected]'t forget to rate, review, subscribe and share, and we'll see you next Tuesday!Produced by Mabel ProductionsOriginal Music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's normal to feel nervous about introducing your girlfriend or boyfriend to your family. Sometimes they don't get on, or your parents don't approve of the person you're dating, and sometimes you scare your partner by suggesting they should be introduced 'too soon'. But it doesn't necessarily have to be a big deal, even if your family (and your partner) are extremely important to you.We begin the episode with our segment where we ask you guys 'What's something you would hate for your significant other's family to know about you?,' agreeing it's probably not the best idea to discuss anything related to your sex life or how many drugs you do around your s/o's family. We discuss what we wouldn't want our significant others' families to know about us, like our religious views, being bisexual, and the fact that we have a podcast where we talk about sex and relationships (we would die if they listened).We then move on to talking about the results to the polls we asked our instagram followers, with people saying it is a big deal to introduce your significant other to your family; it's important for them to like you and it's important for your family to like them. Our followers voted that it's also not important for someone you're dating to be close with their family, and we discuss what those situations would look like, such as your partner not telling you a family secret or not helping you to feel involved with their family when visiting.Overall, we conclude all of these questions depend on the type of person you want to date. We both want to feel involved in our partners' lives and past lives, so it's important for us to feel close with their families, but we also discuss what we would do if that wasn't the case (try and convince them to change their minds.)Let us know your thoughts and tell us your stories about your s/o's family.You can find us on:Instagram: @sextraspodcastFacebook: Sextras PodcastEmail: [email protected]'t forget to rate, review, subscribe and share, and we'll see you next Tuesday!Produced by Mable ProductionsOriginal music by Sacha Puttnam Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.