Sam's Healing Podcast

Are you or your partner anxious when it comes to an attachment style? What is the anxious attachment style you might ask? An anxious attachment style is a type of insecure attachment that causes people to feel a deep need for validation and reassurance from others often preventing that individual from living a secure life relationally. People with an anxious attachment style may: Fear rejection and abandonment Come across as clingy or needy Have difficulty setting boundaries Have trouble accepting other people's boundaries Have big reactions to small conflicts Overanalyze or overthink their partner's behaviors Become jealous or possessive easily The anxious attachment style usually developed in childhood as a coping mechanism when a child's primary caregiver is inconsistent in meeting their needs. This can leave the child feeling insecure and fearful of abandonment. In adult relationships, people with an anxious attachment style may become overly dependent on their partner for validation and reassurance. How this plays out in dealing with infidelity is vital to understand how you can help yourself heal as well as your partner. Without an understanding of our attachment styles, relational recovery can be even harder due to the unseen forces working against the couple's attempt to communicate, lean in and display mutual empathy. ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

As a betrayed partner, have you ever wondered why your spouse or partner is so avoidant with you? Maybe you're an unfaithful and wonder why you have such significant trouble communicating your emotions, needs and overall feelings? Today on the podcast, trauma expert Amanda Asproni and I discuss two of the most complex attachment styles: the dismissive avoidant and the fearful avoidant and how they both became who they are. Not only do we discuss how they became who they are, but how the betrayed can navigate around these attachment styles and find hope, healing and practical help to understand how they operate. When dealing with infidelity it's vital we have a grasp of both our own attachment style as well as our partners AND how those styles interact. How did we become so avoidant or anxious? Was this attachment style modeled for us by our parents or care givers? Where do we find expert help and a safe approach to try and save our families and marriages? While avoidance can frustrate and isolate the betrayed partner, there are ways to engage the dismissive avoidant (DA) as well as the fearful avoidant (FA) that can create tangible forward progress and hope. It's not as hopeless as it feels or seems and today you'll find a light within what I'm sure feels like a never ending tunnel of darkness and despair. Amanda's journey into the field of complex trauma probably began in a similar place to where you're finding yourself right now. Her life brought her to a place full of despair, confusion and suffering. Amanda's journey into the field of complex trauma began right where many of you are right now, at the beginning. Experience taught her that the that path to healing the myriad and various aspects of complex trauma is not only long, but also daunting at times. Specialized professional help from practitioners with training to treat the complexity that is complex developmental and relationship trauma is critical to success. Her personal story makes her relatable and empathetic to her clients pain, confusion and the arduous road that coins recovery. Treating complex trauma is also about identifying the underlying root issues such as betrayal trauma, childhood sexual abuse, intimacy disorders, attachment disturbances and unresolved dysfunctional family of origin patterns. You can find more about Amanda Asproni here: https://www.healingaffairscounseling.com/about/ ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

If you're an unfaithful spouse, let me ask you a question that will define your recovery work: Are You Living Above Suspicion? If not, why? How can we expect the betrayed partner to trust us, lean into us, move towards us or even give us their heart again if we're not committed to living above suspicion? If you're a betrayed, is your partner committed to living above suspicion? Or, do you feel like you constantly have to search for information and details. Maybe you're in a situation where the only information you have found is the information you have discovered? Today, Dr. Jill Manning and I discuss snooping and it's effects upon both the betrayed and the marriage or relationship. It's normal to snoop. Sometimes snooping reveals information that the betrayed wouldn't have discovered otherwise. But is it healthy? Is it necessary? You will be surprised to hear Dr. Manning discuss the reasons for and against snooping while also discussing what to do instead of snooping. While a controversial topic, as usual Dr. Manning shares helpful and soothing insight to those who are walking through one of the darkest tunnels of their life hoping to find light and a survival strategy. ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Today on the podcast I discuss Infidelity, Betrayal Trauma and Self-Compassion with frequent guest clinician and trauma expert Michael Webb. For decades it's been known that shameful people do shameful things and commit heinously shameful acts. But how do we heal the shame while also owning our behavior and destructive choices as unfaithful spouses? How do we show remorse and empathy to our betrayed partners or spouses while also showing much needed empathy to ourselves? And....why do we still deserve self-compassion even though we're an unfaithful? Better yet, how can the betrayed find self-compassion for themselves while trying to heal from some of the most painful wounds they've ever known as human beings, let alone spouses of unfaithful? While it can seem messy, complicated and downright confusing, Michael and I talk through what self-compassion has meant for myself as well as Michael in his long time journey of healing from abuse, childhood trauma and relational challenges. Today's conversation is not just for unfaithful but also betrayed partners looking to heal and start a new chapter of their own. Michael has centered his work around trauma, addiction, attachment struggles and OCD due to the fact that he has identified with and experienced this sort of healing himself. Michael has further noted that complex trauma, attachment difficulties, addiction and OCD often cause chronic emotional dysregulation. Additionally, persistent negative beliefs about oneself, God, karma or others make healing feel unreachable at times and as though life has very little meaning, joy or fulfillment. Helping people find freedom and start living is the passion that fuels both his work and calling since he believes people are built to be self-healing and self-regulating. Michael also believes that therapy is a way of cleaning emotional wounds so that the natural healing ability of the mind can work. He uses advanced techniques and equipment to increase the speed and depth of healing and personal growth. His therapeutic techniques include Emotional Transformation Therapy (ETT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), Ego State Therapy, CBT and Revisioning. For more help from Michael or Sam please leave a comment here or reach out to Sam at [email protected] ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Are you an avoidant? Are you married to one? If you're married to an avoidant, you're probably frustrated as all get out with them, unless you too are an avoidant? If you're an avoidant you might be wondering what all the fuss is about and why is everyone making such a big deal about it? So what, you avoid conflict and shy away from confrontation and intimacy, what's the issue? Well, today I've invited my good friend and expert Tyler Patrick to talk about his own avoidance and how he helps both men and women deal with avoidance and quite possibly the avoidance of their partner. The reality is, no one just wakes up one day and is avoidant. We learn to avoid. Some of us cope with life, pressures, pain, responsibility and intense emotions by avoiding. Often times we avoid because we had to growing up due to developmental trauma or outright abuse. We learned to avoid in an effort to make sense of our life or survive awful circumstances, pain and trauma. I'm certainly not making excuses to justify avoidance in our own life or our partners, but if we don't understand where avoidance comes from, how can we heal and find freedom? How can we move them or ourselves closer towards not only secure attachment but better communication in our most closest relationships? Today begins a journey into the heart and mind of the avoidant. I hope you find healing and insight into either your own avoidance or your partners. For more help reach out to [email protected]. ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

For decades the 'inner child' has been a topic of confusion and misunderstanding as it relates to infidelity, problematic sexual behaviors and restoring both marriages and individuals. What actually is the inner child? Can I, an unfaithful, blame my inner child for my choices and affair(s)? Don't I have power over my own choices? Is the 'inner child' just an excuse for my affair or addiction? Today Dr. Eddie Capparucci and I discuss the answers to these questions while validating both the pain of the betrayed and the confusion of the unfaithful. I'm confident both unfaithful and betrayed partners alike will feel not only validated but safe by Eddie's heart and approach to both infidelity, trauma and long term sobriety. Eddie Capparucci, Ph.D., LPC, C-CSAS, CPCS, specializes in treating Problematic Sexual Behaviors including pornography. Among his many clients, have been professional athletes including NFL and MLB players and television personalities. Dr. Capparucci is the creator of the unique Inner Child Model for the treatment of Problematic Sexual Behaviors. Learn more at www.innerchild-sexaddiction.com. He believes at the heart of most Problematic Sexual Behaviors are unresolved childhood pain points. ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Understanding 'the why' of the affair is vital for a variety of reasons including but not limited to relapse prevention, safety for the betrayed and long term healing for both parties. If an unfaithful doesn't know why they had an affair or acted our, how can they expect to prevent it from happening again in the future? How can they assure their partner they'll never do it again when they were never supposed to do it in the first place and still don't know how to prevent the same circumstances from happening which led to the affair or addiction? It's a common choice of the unfaithful to just want to 'put it behind us' only to realize our betrayed partners don't feel safe, don't want to be vulnerable and don't want to take our word for it that we have it all figured out and we just won't do it again. Discovering why we have affairs or addictions is critical to finding healing, safety and for those who struggle with addiction, sobriety. Without an understanding of why the affair happened outside of our own minds and reasonings, we're doomed to repeat the behavior and run the risk of losing our families or partners. Today, a frequent contributor and expert, Amanda Asproni comes into the podcast to share her clinical insight into why it's vital to know the why of the affair(s) and how both parties can do work to discover either their own or their partner's 'why' of the affair. ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Today on the podcast you'll meet Tyler Patrick who is a licensed marriage and family therapist. Tyler shares his down to earth insight into how the unfaithful spouse can develop what he calls 'shame resilience.' Without the ability for the unfaithful to be resilient to shame, we'll continue to make every situation and conversation about us instead of our spouse or partner or even children. As long as we're making things about us, we're not empathetic, we're not kind, and we're not safe. Tyler is the cohost of a podcast entitled The Therapy Brothers where he discusses infidelity, betrayal trauma, addiction and several other topics related to marriage and family life. As a marriage and family therapist, Tyler has dedicated his career to mastering an understanding of recovery from sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. Tyler has come to believe that the men and women who embrace and live the principles of recovery do far more than get their lives back, they become the best kinds of husbands and wives, fathers and mothers. He feels privileged to act as a guide and support to those who embark in the life transformation of living a connected lifestyle. You can find more about Tyler at https://www.therapybros.com/about-us/ ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Have you ever wondered how to establish and keep your boundaries up after infidelity? What about when the betrayed struggles with abandonment or low self worth? How do they even determine what boundaries they need to set in the first place? Today you'll hear a no nonsense, heart to heart talk from expert clinician and survivor of infidelity, Sharon Rinearson as she shares how she made it through her own recovery work and found herself again. She'll also share key principles and approaches she uses with other betrayed partners as they navigate the difficult waters of betrayal trauma. You don't have to do this alone and you don't have to struggle to find clarity when you have the help and support of an expert like Sharon. You can find more info from Sharon and her husband James Annear at https://www.hopeforus.com/ ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Dr. Jill manning is quickly becoming a regular on Sam's Healing Podcast, encouraging both the unfaithful and the betrayed to find a new level of emotional maturity. While betrayal trauma can feel insurmountable, it's clearly not due to the insight and direction and hope that we can heal from the wisdom of Dr. Manning. While last time we discussed five signs of emotional immaturity, this week we discuss five pillars of maturity, while continuing to focus on relational trauma, family of origin issues and how we as adults can find new breakthroughs in self-compassion. For over two decades, Dr. Jill Manning has been a recognized thought leader, clinician, speaker, and researcher in the field of sexual betrayal, compulsive sexual behavior, and issues related to the impact of Internet pornography on marriages and families. Dr. Manning is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS), a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), and a Board Certified TeleMental Health Provider (BC-TMH) who specializes in working with individuals impacted by sexual betrayal in their primary relationship. In addition to her clinical work, Dr. Manning serves on the S.A. Lifeline Foundation Advisory Board. In the past, she has served on the Board of Directors for Enough is Enough (2015 to 2022), the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (2016 to 2018), and the Utah Coalition Against Pornography (2005 to 2014). ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Today you'll meet a great friend and hero of mine, author John Lee. Author of over 25 books, and known therapist to therapists, John Lee has been a guest on Oprah, The View, 20/20, PBS and Barbara Walters. The father of Regression one might say, shares his poignant insight into how we regress in life and how to grow ourselves back up. "Regression is what happens to us when we leave the present moment. When we regress, we go from being clear-thinking adults to talking, acting, and sometimes even looking like children who are not getting what they want. We feel powerless and out of control, as if we don't have choices." John goes on to say regression is equivalent to feeling choiceless as adults. How many times during a fight with your partner or spouse have you felt like you were without choices? Have you ever felt like you were feeling very similar adolescent or child-like feelings during an argument with your spouse? ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Today you'll meet Dr. Jill Manning who shares five key markers of emotional immaturity that help explain why we have affairs and develop addictions. An expert in her own right but compassionate to the wounds of both the betrayed and the unfaithful, Dr. Manning helps explain what emotional immaturity looks like in the unfaithful and how they can take practical steps to heal themselves and quite possibly, their relationship. While 'emotional immaturity' can sound like criticism or confrontational in nature, the fact is we need to understand why we unfaithful continue to jeopardize our lives, our families and our futures. A compassionate and insightful conversation is needed if both parties are going to be able to get to the root of the acting out and today Dr. Manning provides palatable wisdom for both parties to find new life again. Dr. Manning's diverse career has afforded her opportunities to be published in leading research journals; to testify before the U.S. Senate about the harms of pornography; to be featured in popular podcasts, magazines, TV shows, and documentaries; and to work clinically with resilient men, women, and youth who are striving to overcome some of life's darkest challenges. Dr. Manning is also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist (CCPS), a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), and a Board Certified TeleMental Health Provider (BC-TMH) who specializes in working with individuals impacted by sexual betrayal in their primary relationship. Additionally, Dr. Manning is an EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Therapist who has completed EMDRIA Approved EMDR Basic Training and is working toward full certification in this trauma treatment modality. ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Should a couple explore novelty in their sexuality? What about if that marriage has been affected by infidelity or addiction? If you're dealing with erectile dysfunction, what steps can you take practically to help bring about healing, change and mutual fulfillment? It's these types of questions that require an expert's protocol. Dr. Matthew Hedelius is a true expert in problematic sexual behaviors and continues to help those in crisis and today shares both practical and insightful help for those looking for healing. For many men dealing with erectile dysfunction the journey is filled with shame, confusion and massive frustration. Today I'll ask Dr. Hedelius to speak directly to that shame and provide direction for both spouses who are trying to heal. However you found yourself here today, I'm honored you're here. You'll find only healing, compassion and patience here as you walk this healing journey both unfaithful and betrayed. ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Today you'll meet Jordan, a great friend and survivor of infidelity. The nuances to the betrayed male story are different, yet not worse nor better than the betrayed female. They are however, very challenging. It's my opinion betrayed males all over the world continue to feel ostracized and embarrassed, feeling as though they are some sort of albatross with little to no one to relate to. The internet continues to produce massive amounts of information about infidelity and the betrayed female or unfaithful male, yet remains primitive for the betrayed male. Jordan a brave and courageous friend has chosen to come forward and share just a little of his story in hopes of helping the other betrayed males find healing, insight and a feeling of belonging in ways they just don't usually find. Infidelity in and of itself is one of the most isolating experiences a human can endure and the betrayed male finds themselves riddled with hopelessness looking for direction and insight from other betrayed males who dare to share their story and experience. Today I hope you the betrayed male, and possibly unfaithful female will experience a sense of insight and comfort from Jordan's story. If you're a betrayed male or unfaithful female, I hope you'll reach out to me personally if you're looking for healing or insight into this journey and how to not only make it out alive, but find personal and maybe even relational transformation. ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Today I welcome back Dr. Jake Porter into the podcast to discuss how the betrayed partner can deal with an unfaithful, narcissistic spouse while trying to save a marriage. It's a given that narcissism alone can be difficult to maneuver but coupled with infidelity and/or addiction and it can seem absolutely insurmountable. The good news is, while it may feel like there is literally no tomorrow for the relationship, Dr. Jake Porter shares insight into how the betrayed can both help and protect themselves as they try to walk this confusing, narrow road. It's at this point I can hear some viewers asking the question, "Sam, is it really even possible for someone who is highly narcissistic to truly change?" Today I ask Dr. Jake that exact question and a couple others just like it. You may be surprised at the answers. A recuring guest of Sam's Healing Podcast, Dr. Jake has continued to help those in crisis due to infidelity, addiction and yes, narcissistic personality disorder. Take an open mind into today's podcast and hear from an expert who is not afraid to graciously deliver the truth in both theory and practice. Now, you'll at this point need to know that Dr. Jake offers one, huge, monstrously important caveat that all couples and betrayed partners of narcissistic spouses need to know and remember. I hope today's podcast encourages you and comforts you along the harrowing road you're having to walk. Remember you're not alone and if I can help personally please leave a comment or email me at [email protected] ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Have you ever wondered if you can get your life back after infidelity or addiction? Maybe you feel, at this moment, there's no way in hell you could get your life back and you'll never make it through this awful chapter of your life? It's a normal belief that we'll never be the same again, until we meet someone who is on the other side of the awful ordeal we're going through and they give us hope. Not hope to be the same again, but hope to find new life and new meaning after monstrously difficult trauma and betrayal, while also providing tools to utilize. While the rug may have been ripped out from underneath us, or we may have even been the one who ripped the rug out from underneath our partner, life, value and meaning doesn't have to be over for the rest of our lives. Today you'll meet not only an expert but someone who has had to fight to find and embrace their new life after betrayal and lives to tell all of us about it. ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Today I'm joined by expert clinician Dr. Matthew Hedelius who specializes in infidelity, addiction and problematic sexual behaviors. While the director of Paradise Creek Recovery Center, Dr. Hedelius also provides both practical and multilayered insight into how to care for partners of those who struggle with infidelity and addiction. With a delicate scalpel you'll hear comforting insight into regulating our own nervous system and staying present in our own pain and trauma, while finding necessary footing to find new life after addiction and betrayal. ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Have you ever felt like you were the victim in your marriage or relationship? Maybe you've even felt like a victim all your life? It's also possible you've felt like your partner continually reverts back to a victim mindset in your situation? I wonder if they do it not just because they are a betrayed partner, but perhaps something in their childhood affected them so deeply that it's ingrained into their body and their brain? Maybe the pain is so deep they don't know how to rescue themselves or even care for themselves? Today James Annear and I will discuss how the unfaithful can care for themselves and rescue themselves as well as how the betrayed partner can actually make themselves safe and find healing and peace of mind. ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Today you'll meet a new friend, Dr. Jake Porter who shares insight into how to find meaning amidst the rubble of our own choices or our partner's after infidelity or addiction. Not only an expert in recovery work, Dr. Porter has experienced his own pain and heartbreak which provides a framework of compassion, insight and expert help for those looking for a reason to keep going. A survivor himself, Dr. Porter shares practical tools into how to find hope, meaning and courage to find new life, new purpose and even new vision. You can find more on Dr. Porter here: https://go.drjakeporter.com/?r_done=1 ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Today I'm joined once again by my great friend, mentor and colleague Michael Webb. I hope you'll join us today as we participate in fascinating discussion on how we sacrifice, if not abandon ourselves in the pursuit of closeness, oneness and hopeful restoration with our partner. The difficulty in this is we run the chance of losing ourselves, yet gaining a relationship back. But how solid is that relationship? How unified and fulfilling is that relationship? These are hard but necessary questions we absolutely have to answer if we're going to find new life and new healing. I hope you find courage to forge ahead today in your own journey. ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Today you'll hear from one of our favorite guests, a fan favorite and expert clinician, Amanda Asproni. Not only an expert in dealing with infidelity, addiction, and various forms of trauma, she's also a survivor of infidelity, trauma and narcissistic abuse. I ask her the tough questions today as she discusses how various forms of trauma can make healing from infidelity and addiction different than those who have not been diagnosed with PTSD and CPTSD. A healing guide to thousands in crisis, Amanda provides critical insight into how to help both the betrayed and unfaithful partners find new hope for their own healing as well as their relationship's. ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Today I welcome back in podcast regulars, James and Sharon to discuss why partners cheat in relationships. It's a common burden the betrayed carry: that somehow they are the reason their spouse or partner cheated and they were not enough. Since they are then are responsible for their partner's cheating, they cannot draw boundaries, have hard expectations of their mate, and are then powerless in their situation. From guilt to shame, to massive frustration and disillusionment, betrayed partners wonder if there is a roadmap to follow. Today James and Sharon, both survivors of infidelity and expert clinicians share not only a roadmap but parts of their own grief on the way to healing and restoration. While hosting countless intensives with those in crisis due to infidelity, addiction, and various forms of trauma, they continue to be a bright light of hope and direction. ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Today, a great friend of mine and an expert clinician, James Annear, discusses intimacy avoidance, childhood trauma, and infidelity. While digging deep into his own training and education James also shares masterful insight from personal experience with his own trauma and avoidance. Have you ever wondered why your spouse, particularly the unfaithful spouse is super avoidant? Have you ever felt like your partner refuses to allow you to see them on an intimate, scary level? Maybe your partner is just avoidant to the point of alienating you and other family members? Or, perhaps they were avoidant with you but not with their affair partner? Today James and I will do all we can to explain it, help you heal, and offer insight into why your partner may do what they do. ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Today you'll hear from developmental trauma expert Tom Gagliano on how to create safety for our kids. What if we could help our kids heal from trauma? What if we could prevent our kids from owning what they were never intended to own? From shame to humiliation to unnecessary guilt, what if we could spare our kids from our own baggage and trauma while also equipping them to live lives of joy, freedom and passion? Today Tom Gagliano shares 7 keys to not only raise healthy kids but heal ourselves in the meantime. You can find more from Tom on his Podcast "The Problem Was Me" on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1Dc1k3uFlZQUqliToPwGox ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].

Today you'll meet a friend and survivor of both his own infidelity and his wife's. From depression to anxiety, to hopelessness and despair, Jake shares his own private hell for those who feel like they're alone in their suffering. While he and his family are on the upswing doing great, their story takes an awful turn early on in recovery and you'll hear how he and his wife not only found restoration but solid help, new life and ultimately, clarity. The journey of any betrayed spouse is not only challenging but down right awful and immensely isolating. However, many betrayed male spouses feel a unique type of shame as a man and feel like they are time and time again, the only one, with no other men to relate to. Not true and not accurate. (( For those of you betrayed male spouses, I hope you find great solace and comfort in hearing Jake's story.)) Rest assured, if you're a betrayed female spouse you'll find Jake's journey not only insightful but riveting. ------ Sam's Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery's most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma's founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at [email protected].