Restore The Glory Podcast

This week, Jake and Bob are once again joined by Heather Khym to continue with part two of their four part series on the four identities of a human. In this episode, they focus on the identity of brother/sister and explore the sense of belonging, safety, and camaraderie that stems from these types of relationships. They also delve into the wounds a broken brother/sister relationship can cause, discuss the healing power of healthy affection, and how the saints can become our spiritual siblings. Key Points: Healthy brother and/or sister relationships provide safety, camaraderie, and healing through healthy affection and mutual support. Woundedness in brother and sister relationships can lead to deep despair and a sense of not belonging. The power of brotherhood and sisterhood lies in the invitation to belong and the opportunity to heal from wounds. The saints can become our spiritual brothers and sisters. Resources: The Abiding Together Podcast series on Identity (Mother, Daughter, Sister, Bride) Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Heather Khym to begin a four part series on the four identities of a human: son/daughter, brother/sister, husband/wife, father/mother. In this episode, they focus on the identity of our sonship/daughtership, explore why this is the foundational identity, and unpack the core realities behind this identity from both a masculine and feminine perspective. They end the episode by sharing personal stories of healing and restoration within their identity as a beloved son/daughter. Key Points: Identity is bestowed by God and is a gift to be received. A solid foundation in sonship and daughtership is essential for all other identities to flourish. Trust and receptivity are key elements of a secure identity. Wounds and brokenness can disrupt and distort our understanding of our identity. Healing and restoration are necessary to fully embrace our true identity as beloved children of God. Healing comes through receiving love and being rooted in God's love. Resources: The Abiding Together Podcast series on Identity (Mother, Daughter, Sister, Bride) Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!

This week, Jake and Bob discuss the current state of therapy and its increasing popularity in society. They explore the factors contributing to the rise of interest in therapy, highlight the importance of philosophy and theology in therapy training, and reflect on the importance of objective truth in the healing process. Key Points: Therapy has become increasingly popular in society, with more people seeking it out and discussing it openly. The breakdown of trust in various institutions, including the church, has contributed to the rise in therapy as a means of finding support and guidance. A solid foundation in philosophy, anthropology, and theology is essential in therapy training to provide a proper understanding of the human person and their needs. Subjective experiences without objective truth and care can be dangerous, and therapy should aim to integrate both subjective and objective realities. Resilience and the ability to repair are part of human nature and therefore are important aspects of therapy and personal growth. The sacraments provide structure and guidance in relationships and can contribute to healing and growth. Therapy should be situated within the context of faith and community, and not isolated from them. Discernment is crucial when considering a career in therapy, and motivations should be rooted in a genuine call rather than popularity or personal dysfunction. Healthy Christian communities have the potential to provide healing and support, and may reduce the need for therapy. Jesus should be the centerpiece of the healing journey. Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!

This week, Jake and Bob discuss their journeys away from being therapists and the reasons behind their decisions. They reflect on their experiences, share how they outgrew their roles as therapists, and how they found other outlets to use their charisms and gifts. Jake and Bob also share the burdens they felt before and after making the change and how surrendering their work to the Holy Spirit has helped bear more fruit than ever before. Key Points: Therapy can be a demanding profession that requires selflessness and a high level of holiness. Outgrowing the role of a therapist can be a natural part of personal growth and development.It could be a difficult but necessary step in answering God's call to a larger audience. Supernatural opposition can occur when bringing the Kingdom of God into the world. The Holy Spirit is the primary therapist and therapists should surrender to His guidance. Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!

This week, Jake and Bob discuss their recent ministry experiences at Franciscan University, Assisi, and various JPII Healing Center events. They explore the transformative power of healing ministry, why they prefer ministering to groups instead of individuals, and the significance of holy sites. Jake and Bob also share insights into why we need so much healing in today's culture. Key Points: Team ministry is powerful and allows for mutual submission and a greater impact. Holy sites have an accumulation of grace and can facilitate powerful encounters with God. Blessing spaces is important to invoke God's presence and protect against spiritual contamination. Blessing places and spaces is critical for inviting the presence of God and experiencing His grace. The desecration of authority and the degradation of holy spaces contribute to the loss of worship, healing, and the culture's current state. Therapists and pastors have distinct roles, and it is important to recognize the limitations of therapy and the need for spiritual authority. Prayer has a powerful impact and can bring about healing and transformation in the lives of others. Resources: Fr. Joe Freedy and The Power of One Hail Mary Video Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Bishop Andrew Miller, the founder of HeartSync Ministries and a priest in the Orthodox Evangelical Episcopal Church to conclude their series on Parts Work. Bishop Andrew discusses the four core parts of HeartSync, the importance of placing God in the center of our hearts, and his process for helping others heal from brokenheartedness. He also discusses the ultimate goal of healing as bringing the whole heart into a loving relationship with God and how giving thanks to God can help bring us into deeper relationship and healing. For more information about HeartSync or Bishop Andrew, visit his website here. Key Points: Heart Sync is a therapeutic approach that focuses on healing brokenheartedness and integrating the core components of the heart. The four core components of the heart are function, guardian, emotion, and true self. Many people have parts of their heart that are not in relationship with God, and healing involves bringing these parts into communion with Him. Healing also involves making relational connections with God through memories and experiences as well as expressing thanksgiving to deepen the bond with God. It is important to recognize union with God as the ultimate goal of inner healing and deliverance. Resources: Bishop Andrew's website Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Brya Hanan, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, to continue their series on parts work. Brya shares her personal story from trauma to healing and how it has influenced her work as a therapist. She introduces her model of parts work, discusses the five A's of parts work therapy, and shares a practical meditation you can use to begin your healing journey. For more information, check out Brya's book Befriending Your Inner Child. Key Points: Understanding and integrating the different parts of ourselves is essential for healing and wholeness. Embodiment and the awareness of the body's sensations and needs can be the first step in one's healing process. The relational aspect of parts work, including self-compassion and love, is vital for healing and integration. The five A's of Internal Family Systems therapy are Anchor, Acknowledge, Attune, Ask, and Act. Incorporating Jesus into the therapy process can deepen the healing and anchoring experience. Resources: Brya's new book: Befriending Your Inner Child Brya's website Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Gerry Crete, a marriage and family counselor to discuss his work on internal family systems, or parts work. Parts work is a therapeutic approach that involves exploring and understanding the different "parts" of our personality and how they can influence the decisions we make in life. Jake, Bob, and Gerry explore the transformative applications of parts work in therapy, distinguish the differences between desires and wounds, and discuss the role of love and compassion in the healing journey. For more information check out Gerry's book Litanies of the Heart. Key Points: Parts work, or internal family systems, can lead to remarkable breakthroughs in therapy by helping individuals connect with and understand their different parts. Harmony and unity within oneself can be achieved through the integration of different parts, allowing for a more balanced and authentic experience of self. Understanding the distinction between desires and parts can help individuals navigate conflicting motivations and make choices that align with their true selves. Practical applications of parts work include using analogies and visualization techniques to help individuals relate to and understand their parts. It is important to recognize and distinguish parts from the true self, which is characterized by compassion and love. Resources: Gerry's new book Litanies of the Heart Gerry's practice Transfiguration Counseling Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!

This week, a special guest joins the podcast - Bob's mother, Peggy. Bob has shared the story of his absent father and the healing that took place over years of prayer. Now, Peggy shares her testimony of tender love, hardship, and forgiveness. She opens up about the beautiful relationship she had with her husband, the pain experienced in the divorce, and her self-sacrifice as she raised her 7 children. Key Points The impact divorce has on childhood & those previously in the marriage. The process of forgiveness and the role it plays in daily life. The power of prayer and the impact conversion has. What it takes to get through a divorce. The reason why many men struggle in marriage. Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Nicole Rodriguez as they continue their series on divorce. Nicole's parents divorced when she was 11 years old & the trauma she experienced affected her through childhood and into her marriage. In the episode, she shares how her marriage suffered because of these wounds as well as the healing she has received through her relationship with the Lord, her spiritual parents & her husband's willingness to walk alongside her. Key Points The impact divorce has on childhood & marriage. Children have a deep need for their parents. How to process the pain of divorce. The role spiritual parents have for children of divorce. Bring divorce wounds to Jesus in adoration. Resources Undone Retreat (virtual or in person) Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Joey Pontarelli, the founder and president of the ministry "Restored". After finding a lack of help after his parents' divorce, Joey decided to begin ministry with "Restored" to offer practical guidance and support for teens and young adults from broken families. Jake, Bob, and Joey discuss the wounds that come from divorce, their personal experiences, and practical advice on how to respond to this woundedness. Key Points If there isn't any transformation in the wounds, then the sins we fall into, as a remedy, make sense. They don't work, but they make sense. We often don't want to face these wounds, so we try to outrun them. But we can't outrun our wounds. We're made for more than that. The Lord understands why you struggle with each particular sin. It doesn't surprise or scandalize Him. And He loves you where you are. Divorce is a wound of broken love. So the medicine can only work when you reach the wound. Love is what heals. Relationship with God is the primary healing element and agent. Give God your attention, quality time, and trust Him. Consume great content that involves trauma and healing. Seek out coaching - a therapist, spiritual director, or mentor. Have a good community and deep relationships. For a healthy marriage - spend time with a couple who has a healthy marriage. The temptation in marriage is to harden your heart and to close yourself off. But instead, we are called to tenderness and vulnerability. Resources Restored Ministry Website RTG Anatomy of a Wound Series Adam Young's Podcast: The Place We Find Ourselves Restored Ministry Podcast Restored Ministry Podcast with Sr. Miriam It's not Your Fault (Book by Joey) Restored Ministry courses 5 tips to navigate the holidays in a broken family guide Jay Stringer Jason Evert Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Happy New Year! Jake & Bob kick off the year by answering YOUR questions. They field listener submitted questions on topics including parenting, loneliness, anxiety, scrupulosity & maturity. Key Points Cultivating an environment of unconditional love as parents Our kids are observing and modeling our behavior more than we realize How to handle loneliness when it pops up in our lives Dealing with anxiety & scrupulosity The similarities & differences between healing & maturing Resources Fr. Boniface on Matt Fradd's Podcast Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Merry Christmas from Jake & Bob! This week, they discuss the healing power of Jesus' infancy narrative. They recognize that this time of year can be difficult for many people and offer some solutions. Jake shares some of his triggers & wounds around the Christmas season so Bob leads him through a deep prayer and meditation. It's a beautiful insight into the work that they both do. We hope you all have a very blessed Christmas. Key Points The healing power of the Christmas story & Jesus' infancy narrative Dealing with difficult feelings and triggers during the holidays Bob leads Jake (and us) in a prayer through the difficult parts of the Christmas season. The role animals can play in our attachment healing Resources Life Restoration Website Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Sr. Miriam James Heidland shares her experience of being adopted. Jake, Bob & Sister have worked together for years and start the conversation off by discussing her impactful ministry, finding identity in Christ & her healing journey. She then shares about finding out she was adopted & the struggles & graces experienced along the way. Key Points Getting to a place where you are secure in your own identity that people's reaction to you doesn't affect you. A discussion exploring why Sr. Miriam's ministry connects so well with people. "The man who loves to walk will go further than the man who loves the destination." We are all adopted sons & daughters of God. What it means to truly belong. Sister shares her experience of finding out that she was adopted. Experiencing the kindness of the Lord that doesn't pull away or act harshly. Sister shares the struggles and graces during her healing process. Resources Sr. Miriam's Podcast Abiding Together Sr. Miriam's Books Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Chris & Michelle Benzinger share their story of adopting two children from Haiti after a hurricane devastated the country. They share with Jake & Bob how they weren't planning to adopt until the Lord put it on their heart. They discuss how they navigated integrating these children into their family & how there was joint restoration for everyone involved. Michelle also talks about her experience with Safe & Sound protocol & it's role in her healing journey. Key Points Before adoption, the call from the Lord was "Will you welcome them into your heart?" How Chris & Michelle's community helped to welcome their new children. The disorientation of the kids coming to a new place, with new people and they don't understand the language. Joint restoration for everyone involved. Healing of attachment wounds for Chris & Michelle as well as their kids. The importance of listening to your body in healing & a discussion of somatic methods. Our minds and body are so connected that healing in one helps the other. Safe & Sound Protocol explanation & it's usefulness in our own healing and especially in our parenting. Resources Chris' Website Michelle's Podcast Abiding Together Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

This may be the most special episode of the podcast yet! Jake & Bob are joined by Bob's sister, her husband and his 48 year old nephew Brian that Bob just met for the first time this year! They gave up their son for adoption after a teenage pregnancy and the wounds were still there for everybody after over 40 years. Then, by nothing short of a miracle, the family was reconnected! It's a beautiful story of grace, healing, reconciliation and God's abundant love. Key Points Nick & Kathy the experience of giving up their son for adoption after a teenage pregnancy. Brian shares his story of finding out he was adopted and his experiences with both families. "In my deepest wound, I saw Your glory and it dazzled me." -St. Augustine The beauty of the reunion of the family after many years apart. Offering support and encouragement to other parents who gave babies up for adoption. Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Jake & Bob kick off a new series on adoption. We have all been impacted by adoption, whether through family situations or spiritually since we are all adopted as sons and daughters of God. Jake & Bob tackle heart dynamics of adoption, separation anxiety & ruptures of primary relationships along with defining dissociation & attachment trauma. This series will have something for everyone! Key Points We have all been impacted by adoption, whether through family situations or spiritually. We are all adopted as sons and daughters of God. The heart dynamics of adoption, separation anxiety & ruptures of primary relationships. Attachment & attachment trauma is a popular topic in pop psychology. Healthy attachments are formed between the mother and child in the womb. An explanation of the different types of memory. Nothing is beyond the scope & capacity of God to heal. Dissociation is a God-given dynamic where we self-protect but it's not meant to be permanent. Resources The Places we Find Ourselves Podcast by Adam Young Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Trust is vitally important to the healing process. Jake & Bob discuss broken trust, healing relationships where trust has been broken and the barriers we put up that prevent us from building trust in our relationships. They share about how trust issues can affect our relationship with God, those closest to us & how we can rebuild that trust. Key Points Trust is vitally important to the healing process Gen 3:10 "I was afraid because I was naked so I hid." This verse is foundational to the human experience and a barrier in our relationship with God and others Wrestling with trust issues in marriage The first attack the enemy made in the garden was against trust Jesus still had wounds after His resurrection, but they were healed and became signs of glory as opposed to wounds of death Working through beliefs and vows that affect our ability to trust Resources Chastity & the Refusal to Grasp article Dr. Karl's Lehman's Website https://www.kclehman.com/ Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Dr. Karl Lehman joins Jake & Bob to discuss his Immanuel Approach to healing. He shares from his years of training and extensive therapy work on how to use this approach to bring people to deeper healing. Dr. Karl has been a leader in the field for decades and we are overjoyed to share this conversation with you. Key Points Dr. Karl explains the Immanuel Approach to therapy. He shares from his years of training and extensive work with people on how to use this approach to bring people to a place of healing. Encountering Jesus in both positive and negative memories. Dr. Karl shares how he has trained other professionals and volunteers to use this approach and the results it has gotten in people finding healing, particularly in 3rd world countries. Dr. Karl shares his personal experience with healing ministry and common blockages in people's minds and spirits. Finding healing in the the presence of the Eucharist How to know when we are truly encountering Jesus Resources Dr. Karl's Website https://www.kclehman.com/ The Immanuel Approach Book https://www.immanuelapproach.com/ Fr. Basil's Immanuel Approach in Catholic Theology Outsmarting Yourself Website https://outsmartingyourself.org/ Mind and Brain Book https://www.amazon.com/Mind-Brain-Separate-but-Integrated-ebook/dp/B0CC17X3X7 Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

We're back! Jake & Bob return after a summer break tan & ready to dive deep into the topic of what healing really is. They also share insight into the problem of suffering, how to shift mindsets when it seems like healing isn't coming & a consistent reminder that God is always up to something good. Key Points Healing is an essential part of the Church's mission as our mission is Jesus' mission & healing was an important part of His ministry. Healing is more than just physical. Suffering is an essential dimension of redemption "Healing is the restoration of our God-given glory" -Jake Khym God is always up to something good, even it we can't see it at the moment Healing is bringing about a greater good from whatever is experienced The dangers of disassociation Suffering is the door into healing, not the absence of healing Resources Pope Benedict's Book "Jesus of Nazareth" "Be Healed" by Bob Schuchts Catechism of the Catholic Church Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

This week, Jake and Bob talk about what it means to "process your emotions" and give ways to practically do that. They share that the steps to regulate emotions include awareness, feeling the emotion, naming the emotion, and relationships. They create a scenario where they navigate someone through a lot of intense emotion and bring it back to a wound. Through this scenario, they share the importance of uncovering a wound in order to bring about healing. Key Points The steps to regulating your emotions include: Awareness, feeling the emotion, naming the emotion, & relationship. How parents respond to their emotions affect their children's emotions & how to be aware of this as adults. They walk through a counseling scenario to recognize the root wound behind specific emotions. They discuss praying against, breaking, renouncing, & discovering any lies surrounding a vow. What "bodily anchor" means & how the nervous system has feeling sensors across the body that can be labeled as a specific emotion Resources Dr Daniel Siegel presenting a Hand Model of the Brain The Limbic System 4 Year Old Mic'd up at Hockey Flowers for Algernon by Daniel Keyes Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

This week, Jake and Bob dive deeper into their series on emotions. They discuss how the Church often seems to deemphasize our emotions and the culture overemphasizes them which can leave us confused about the role emotions play in our lives. They discuss how having emotions is natural and good and how we can best integrate them into a holy lifestyle. They also make the important distinction between an emotion, a wound, and a spirit. Key Points What is an emotion and why is it there? Holiness does not mean getting rid of emotion Jesus as the model for how to have emotions Understanding the emotion of anger Distinction between an emotion, a wound, and a spirit How to process our emotions in a healthy way Resources Feeling & Healing Your Emotions by Conrad Baars Life Model Works YouTube channel Eph 4:26-27 RTG Anatomy of a Wound Series Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Bob and Jake introduce a new series on emotions. Bob shares some personal exciting news to kick off the conversation & then he and Jake discuss what emotions are, where they come from & how we regulate them. Key Points What are emotions, where do they come from & how do we regulate them? Some exciting personal news for Bob! How to deal with your feelings maturely How emotions have caused the breakdown of many families Social Media battling for your attention & its impact on your emotions St. Thomas Aquinas on dealing with emotions/passions Lessons from negative emotions & where they stem from How emotions & love are connected The distinction between emotions & feelings Resources "The A.I. Dilemma" Video Feeling & Healing Your Emotions by Conrad Baars Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Jake and Bob answer questions submitted from the audience. They take time to diligently answer questions about spirituality & healing that Jake and Bob are able to answer based on experiences within their extensive careers in psychology. The questions range from what type of media we should be consuming, dealing with intrusive thoughts, working through vows & finding a spiritual director. Key Points How to discern whether or not you should watch movies with sinful actions in them. Art vs. Morality Dealing with intrusive thoughts. Should we focus on them or let them pass? Working through unhealthy vows Discussion of the future series topic, transgenderism Finding a spiritual director Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Resources JPII Healing Center Life Restoration Ministries Jason Evert on the Matt Fradd Show Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

This is the final installment in our series on "Healing Our Primary Relationships." Jake & Bob close this series by discussing how we can love others better. They open up about areas of struggle that can arise in relationships and the various avenues available for coming towards solutions with your spouse, friends & coworkers. Jake and Bob also pull important lessons from the teachings and lives of prominent Catholic role models like St. Mother Teresa and Pope St. John Paul II. Key Points Living out the greatest commandment We can better share the love of God with others when we have received His love first The importance of maturity in relationships, especially marriage An explanation of the "art" of loving: caring, respecting, responding & knowing Understanding the intentions of your partner & the importance of listening in loving Practical tips on how to love others more fully Stepping into love and vulnerability & sharing growth areas Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Jake and Bob break open the conversation they had in the previous episode with Dr. Peter Malinoski and dive deeper into the key points from that episode. This leads to a discussion where Jake and Bob talk about their own struggles with feelings of rejection and how to process that. The guys also talk about forgiving and loving our past selves, dealing with anxiety & the dangers of self-reliance. Key Points Were there "parts" before the fall? A deeper discussion into how "parts" play a role in our personal lives. Inviting Jesus into tough situations. Forgiving and loving our past selves. Confession is approaching a merciful God who loves us, not just temporarily removing his hatred towards us. How to deal with anxiety. The dangers of self-reliance. We can't fight pride with more pride. Examining the areas of self-hatred in our lives. Ask the Father how He sees you there. Resources RTG Episode 79 Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Jake and Bob bring on fellow podcast host & Catholic psychology leader, Dr. Peter Malinoski. Dr. Malinoski is a clinical psychologist and the president and co-founder of Souls and Hearts. In this episode, Dr. Malinoski talks about the different "parts" of ourselves and the process of getting those parts into a more perfect unity. This process will help us to live the Greatest Commandment more fully because when we love ourselves, we can love our neighbor more fully. Key Points In order to fulfill the greatest commandment, we must also love ourselves We have many different "parts" of ourselves that we need to try to bring in to more perfect unity Sin fragments us The role of a therapist in helping us become more unified Turning to love in the face of challenges The process of integrating a "part" of ourselves into the whole Building a better relationship with our self Working through self-hatred Resources Souls and Hearts Website. Dr. Peter's work that grounds psychology and human formation in a Catholic understanding of the human person Dr. Malinowski's Podcast "Interior Integration for Catholics" Particularly Eps 71 & 73, 93, 100, 102 & 104. The show is a long-form solo podcast focused on helping Catholics come to embrace their identities as beloved, cherished little sons and daughters of God the Father and Mary our Mother. CCC 330 - http://www.scborromeo.org/ccc/para/330.htm Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Following up on their series about healing and deliverance, Jake & Bob move into a conversation about healing our primary relationships with God, ourselves and with others. This stems from a recent talk that Bob gave with the assistance of his new book "Do You Want to be Healed." Bob shares his own story of healing and how some key stories in the Gospels aided in his journey. Key Points Theology and anthropology go hand in hand for healing Dealing with anger without shifting to timidity How to understand the balance between the justice of God and the mercy of God Bob shares from his own personal experience about finding healing from trauma through the compassion of another person. How Jesus interacted with broken people in the Gospels like the woman at the well. The idols that we put in front of our relationship with God. "Jesus' desire for us precedes our desire for Him." -Bob Jesus changes the woman at the well's relationship with Him, herself and her community. "Worshiping the true God is the only integrating factor in our life." -Bob paraphrasing the Catechism Resources "Do You Want to be Healed" Bob's new 10-day retreat book with 10 Scriptures about healing that lead to prayer & action. Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

In this episode, Bob and Jake reflect on all of the great conversations that have happened with their guests through the course of the season. They share their favorite insights that they gleaned from their guests and share their own final thoughts on discernment & deliverance. Key Points The Spiritual & Human components of our nature Renouncement of the lies of the enemy The different doorways we create that can allow the enemy to come into our lives Why deliverance ministry matters A review of the 5 Keys Closing thoughts on the discernment of spirits Resources Summary of The Rules for Discernment Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

In this episode, Jake and Bob sit down with Fr. Boniface Hicks, the director of The Institute for Ministry Formation at St Vincent Seminary in Latrobe, Pennsylvania. They discuss the role that spirituality plays in the healing of trauma and the numerous ways that opportunities for healing reveal themselves. There are several instances in this episode in which the hosts discuss the ways that Father Boniface's advice has led to healing within their own lives. Key Points Ways to distinguish between our own inner voice and God's voice How a soul may find change A discussion about some of the things that may bring about transformation How the formation of our thoughts and feelings are linked How a spiritual director's duty includes helping relationships grow Why spiritual direction is different than counseling Attunement and why it is necessary for healing Resources The Institute for Ministry Formation Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Jake & Bob are joined by their friends from Unbound Ministry, Neal and Matt Lozano. The conversation takes us through the journey of lifelong faith and how to spot the tactics used by the enemy in attempts to shake our foundations set in Christ. Neal and Matt share experiences from their relationships with Christ and their interpersonal relationships. They also share their system called the 5 Keys to Freedom, that helps to re-aim our sights back to the Father in times of trauma which leads to deeper healing. Key Points Discussion on the tactics used by the enemy & how evil spirits work primarily with deception. Acts of faith, such as renouncement, take away the weight of thoughts brought on by the enemy because of our inherent identity in Christ. Being able to identify the schemes of the devil are an essential part in implementing the 5 Keys to Freedom. The explanation of what it means to obtain deliverance. Working through the 5 Keys help to release you from the bondage in your life and to more fully see how Jesus is at work in you. Discussing how to seek God for revelation instead of blaming God for trauma and how that simple adjustment can contribute a great deal towards healing. The power that resentment has to control someone's life and how to break that connection through forgiveness. Resources Matt and Neal's Podcast - Open Doors: Conversations with Heart of the Father "Unbound" by Neal Lozano Heart of the Father Website Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Jake & Bob are joined by Fr. Justin Brady who leads the Office of Healing, Deliverance and Exorcism in the Diocese of Boise and has a long history of connection to our hosts. They continue the conversation on discernment and deliverance that began last week with Fr. Tim Gallagher. Fr. Justin shares insights from his work in deliverance ministry on how we can be brought back into right relationship with God, ourselves and our neighbors. Key Points Fr. Justin shares his conversion story and how he got involved in his faith and his current work as a priest. Embracing the fullness of Catholicism but uniting the tradition of the faith with movements of the Holy Spirit today through things like the charismatic renewal. Exorcisms are reunifying a person into right relationship with themselves and with God. True Religion is living charity: loving God and our neighbor as ourselves. "God desires your healing" -Fr. Justin The power of combining spiritual work like deliverance prayer with professional counseling. A walk through of healing/deliverance prayer and an idea of how exorcisms work. A lie is a lie that needs to be healed, no matter whether the lie comes from myself or a demon. Resources Previous Episode with Fr. Tim Gallagher Fr. Tim's book "The Discernment of Spirits" Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Jake & Bob are joined by Fr. Timothy Gallagher for a discussion on how discernment and healing go hand in hand. Fr. Tim is the author of the incredible book "The Discernment of Spirits" that teaches us how to utilize St. Ignatius' rules of discernment. He shares the process of discernment while Jake & Bob combine his knowledge with their expertise on healing. The process of healing and discerning God's will for us work beautifully together. Key Points Discerning what is from the voice of the Holy Spirit and what is from the voice of the evil one. The rules of St. Ignatius are an invitation to hope. "The more healing that can happen on both the physical and psychological levels, the harder the enemy's task becomes." -Fr. Tim The first step in discernment is to notice any movements, thoughts or stirrings of the heart. Identify whether it is from the good spirit or the bad spirit and then take the appropriate action. If it is from the good spirit, take it in and be guided by it. If it is from the enemy, reject it. The discernment process happens repeatedly throughout the healing process. It is continual and helps you know how to move forward. Our parents/guardians are the first representatives of God to us. We may often hear God's voice as our parent's voices which can either be positive or negative. If we believe lies about ourselves from our parents, we need to work through those so that we don't hear those lies coming from God's voice in our hearts. We need to invite Jesus' to speak His truth in our hearts. In times of desolation, never make a change. Renouncement prayer is a way to practically renounce lies and accept the opposing truths. Resources Fr. Tim's book "The Discernment of Spirits" Fr. Tim's Discerning Hearts Podcast Free Discerning Hearts App Fr. Tim's website Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Jake and Bob continue their series on working through hopelessness to find hope. When we feel hopeless, we often avoid God because we feel ashamed, guilty or unloved. In these times we only see God as a judge, pointing out our failings. But God is also our Savior who loves us even in the places we feel unloveable. We can try to find hope through things or people but this will let us down. God is the only one who can provide us with the hope we desire. Our hosts walk us through how to find hope again through an Encounter with the God who loves us. Key Points Hopelessness closes our hearts to the Encounter with God. When the sickness of our lives becomes evident to us, we often only see God as Judge and not as Savior. Jesus loves us in the places we feel unloveable. Healing is a real encounter that brings us into wholeness, truth and communion. If you lose sight of the Savior, Christianity is meaningless. When we put hope in things or people that aren't God, they become idols, and idols will always disappoint us. Resources Spe Salve by Pope Benedict XVI (Encyclical) Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

The season of Advent is a time of hope and waiting: preparing for the birth of Christ and welcoming Him into our hearts in a new way. But a season focused on hope can often reveal the places in our hearts that are hopeless. Jake and Bob kick off a new series on how to move from hopelessness to hope. They discuss how a lack of hope can often stem from a lack of trust, patience and intimacy with the Lord. Listen as they share some helpful shifts in mindset to grow in the virtue of hope this Advent season. Key Quote "The person who loves intimacy with Jesus will get farther in the healing journey than the person who just wants to be healed." -Jake Khym Key Points How the holidays and the Advent focus on hope can often reveal where we feel hopeless We need to desire relationship with Jesus even more than the healing He can give us. He wants to give us good gifts but desires our hearts more than all. A lack of hope can often come from a lack of intimacy and trust. Trust is the currency in the economy of relationship. "Gratitude is an antidote to hopelessness." -Bob Schuchts Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

The seasons of Advent and Christmas can bring up difficult family dynamics in our hearts, as well as a deep desire for a more whole and holy family. In today's episode, Jake and Dr. Bob welcome Sr. Miriam James Heidland onto the podcast to talk about her new Advent devotional, "Behold" which touches on these dynamics through relationship with the Holy Family. The Holy Family provides a healing lens for us to discover new depths and completeness in our understanding of motherhood, fatherhood, childhood and our own family life. Links to the Behold weekly videos can be found in the resources section below. Key Quote: The hidden life at Nazareth allows everyone to enter into fellowship with Jesus by the most ordinary events of daily life - CCC 533 Key Points: Why Sister loves speaking about healing Family dynamics around Advent and the Christmas season Sister's new Advent book and how it draws us into relationship with the Holy Family and our own family relationships Reflections on Mary's motherhood Ideas on how to tangibly connect with the Holy Family The analogy of radio waves and how we can tune into the Lord's kindness and tenderness Jake, Bob and Sister share about sculpting the Holy Family and the safety that it creates The importance of receiving our identity in different stages of life (ie. husband, wife, parent) before giving from it The difference between someone who is simply giving to give, and someone who is giving in order to receive How can we embody the Holy Family for one another? Practical Application/ Reflection Questions: Which member of the Holy Family are you most drawn to? Allow yourself to be loved by the Holy Family this Advent, especially inviting Mary to mother you and St. Joseph to father you. Pray about how you can embody the Holy Family for others in your family this coming Christmas season. Resources: Behold: A Guided Advent Journal for Prayer and Meditation, Sr. Miriam James Heidland (book) Trailer for Behold Advent series (video) Behold: Introduction (video) Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Episode 69: Forgiveness (Part 2) restoretheglorypodcast.com/episodes/69 Show Notes: In this incredibly practical and reflective episode, Jake and Bob walk listeners through a thirteen step process of forgiveness, offering guiding insights along the way. You may wish to find a quiet, prayerful place to listen to this episode in order to apply the exercises. We are praying for you! Key Quote: For with the judgment you make you will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get. - Matthew 7:2 Key Points: Surrender as part of the Christian approach to forgiveness Thirteen steps to forgiveness: Step 1: Ask the Holy Spirit to show you who you need to forgive. Step 2: Picture the person in front of you and pay attention to how you feel. Step 3: Make an account of the debt they owe you. Step 4: Imagine yourself telling them what they did to hurt you and how it has affected you. If you can, notice that this is not the person they were designed to be. Separate their dignity from the evil they have done. Step 5: Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal to you what you believe about yourself based on that incident. Step 6: Renounce the identity lies. Step 7: Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the judgements towards the person who hurt you. Step 8: Renounce those judgements. Step 9: Ask Jesus to forgive the person. Invite the person to stand at the cross with you. Step 10: Forgive the person. Step 11: Pray a prayer of blessing over that person, ask God to bless them in the opposite way they hurt you. Step 12: Ask Jesus to seal his forgiveness and heal the wounds. Step 13: Thank God for his healing. Resources: Forgiveness Meditation with Sister Miriam James Heidland Episode 12: Anatomy of a Wound (Part 1) Episode 66: Judgment, Mercy and Healing (Part 1) Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Forgiveness is not an easy topic. It's intimately connected to our hurts and areas that need healing. But forgiveness is also misunderstood. Building off the previous series on right judgment, mercy and healing, Jake and Dr. Bob begin a two-part series on forgiveness, diving into the etymology of the word, addressing our misinterpretations, and challenging us to look at how Jesus models forgiveness. They look at how forgiveness is the perfect marriage between right judgment and mercy, and go deep into the Catechism to unpack the spiritual and human reality of this virtue. Be prepared to pause, rewind and listen to this episode again and again. Key Quote: It is there, in fact, "in the depths of the heart," that everything is bound and loosed. It is not in our power not to feel or to forget an offense; but the heart that offers itself to the Holy Spirit turns injury into compassion and purifies the memory in transforming the hurt into intercession. - CCC 2843 Key Points: How right judgment and mercy combined equal true forgiveness Why dividing right judgment and mercy creates an awful reality The etymology of the word 'forgive' Why we hold on to unforgiveness Misinterpretations of what forgiveness is Reconciliation and restitution The pain and shame on both sides of hurt that can become identity lies Two powerful paragraphs from Catechism of the Catholic Church on forgiveness Forgiveness will not always be followed by restoration of the relationship The places we're not willing to forgive may be places where we've created idols in our lives Forgiveness and the connection with trust and surrender to God How forgiveness didn't diminish Jesus's dignity Applying what's been discussed to the sex abuse crisis in the Church Resources: Catechism of the Catholic Church, para 2840 Catechism of the Catholic Church, para 2843 Episode 66: Right Judgment Episode 67: Mercy Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

When we understand and exercise right judgement then we can offer and receive mercy, which leads to healing. Jake and Bob break down the role of mercy with helpful analogies and discussion to draw a more complete picture of healing. They also take a look at what happens when we get judgement wrong. Key Quote: Without the presence of the merciful Father, we are delivered up to our faults, without any possible remedy. There would be no forgiveness of error or sin. No place for weakness, frailty, or failure, all of which are nonetheless a part of our lives. - Fr. Jacques Philippe, Priestly Fatherhood Key Points: Bob illustrates with examples how mercy cannot exist without right judgement The opposite of wrong judgement leads to false or cheap mercy Mercy is the what leads to healing A sound anthropology is needed for real healing Mercy is a combination of truth and love Hesed = an Old Testament word for God's mercy and love toward his people, an undeserved kindness and generosity Misericordia = a heart for our misery Jake and Bob share personal experiences of experiencing hesed and misericordia The importance of remembering our encounters with God's mercy Notice what captivates you, and notice what challenges you Resources: Episode 66: Judgement, Mercy & Healing (Part 1) - Right Judgement Episode 14: Anatomy of a Wound (Part 3) Priestly Fatherhood, Fr. Jacques Philippe (book) Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

In response to the previous series on same-sex attraction, Jake and Bob begin a new series on Judgement, Mercy and Healing from a Catholic lens. The first topic on the table is Right Judgement as they address the tension between 'we have to judge' and 'we can't judge'. Key Quote: Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us - Matt 6:12 Key Points: Jake and Bob revisit some feedback from the series on same-sex attraction The umbrella of truth that underpins the entire podcast Catholic anthropology is the basis of good therapy Subjectivity as defined by JPII How the parable of the prodigal son illustrates Bob and Jake's approach to the podcast Defining right judgement and false judgement The tension between "we have to judge" based on objective truth and "we can't judge" because justice belongs to the Lord The important distinction between sharing truth and the way in which it's shared The backlash against judgement has manifested in the woke community Cancel culture What Scripture says about judgement Resources: Anatomy of a Wound series Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Jake and Bob take time to debrief the series on Same Sex Attraction and address feedback from listeners. Key Quote: For our struggle is not with flesh and blood but with the principalities, with the powers, with the world rulers of this present darkness, with the evil spirits in the heavens. - Ephesians 6:12 Key Points: Jake and Bob address some listener feedback about the series The distinction between a pastoral approach and a philosophical or theological approach to the conversation Can heterosexual and homosexual sins be weighted the same? The denial of truth that's pervasive in our current culture Why it's problematic to apply the term 'conversion therapy' too broadly Bad therapy vs good therapy The difference between being 'value neutral', imposing an ideology or respecting a client's freedom in therapy Defining healing and the healing process Jake and Bob close with their hopes for this past season and a reveal of what's coming next Practical Application/ Reflection Questions: Did you experience a reaction of grief during any episodes in this series? Note when and why and spend some time in prayerful reflection. Consider the distinctions presented between a pastoral approach vs a philosophical or theological approach to this topic. How do you find yourself more inclined to respond to others? Where might you need to adjust your approach to bringing more truth or more love to the conversation? What's your response to Jake and Bob's distinction between 'good therapy' and 'bad therapy'? Which guest did you appreciate hearing from the most and why? Resources: Begin our series on Same-Sex Attraction here Living the Truth in Love: Pastoral Approaches to Same Sex Attraction, Janet Smith & Fr. Paul Check (book) Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

In this extended episode, Jake and Bob sit down with Christopher Dowling for a deeply nuanced conversation examining the the Catechism of the Catholic Church, 'camps' that exist around the Church's teaching on homosexuality, and how we can love one another while fundamentally disagreeing on how to approach same-sex relationships. Christopher came out as gay in 2018 and is currently engaged to be married to another man. He and Bob know one another from their time in shared ministry, and for the first time revisit how the events of 2018 affected them individually. This is a powerful conversation that we hope is one small step towards healing and relationship as we respectfully dialogue about grief and hope, doubt and faith, sadness and love. Key Quote: We stand in different camps, but where we can be united is in reverencing each other, and wanting to understand each other's heart. - Jake Khym Key Points: Christopher shares his background in the Church, including several major ministries that he's worked for or spent time with Jake and Christopher define what sort of 'camps' they see emerging in the conversation around Church teaching and homosexuality Christopher shares his experience of 'coming out' and choosing to pursue relationships with men Jake pauses the conversation to assess how people may interpret the questions that he and Bob are posing to Christopher Christopher and Bob speak for the first time about how they both felt when Christopher came out in 2018 The men take time to address the personal and unique grief and hurt that is at the heart of much conversation around homosexuality and the Church, and how we can do better to listen to one another Christopher answers the common question, 'How can I love you without compromising my beliefs?' Christopher speaks to the difference between accepting vs affirming The men unpack how the pastoral tone changes around this topic when we're in relationship with each other and truly 'sitting across the table' instead of in a faceless forum A discussion ensues about paragraph 2357 in the Catechism of the Catholic Church that references the unexplained 'psychological genesis' of same-sex attraction and the 'great variety of forms' it has taken throughout history The episode concludes, as Christopher puts it, with lingering feelings of doubt, grief and sadness, but simultaneously faith, hope and love Practical Application: Do you find it difficult to listen to and receive someone who has an opinion or lifestyle that's different from yours? Practice having a conversation with someone you love without interrupting them to share your own opinion right away. Pay attention to how you feel throughout the episode. What emotions come up for you? Do you feel defensive or grieved by anything that is said? Do you feel encouraged? Consider your involuntary feelings and allow yourself to feel these things without jumping to immediate conclusions. Resources: Catechism of the Catholic Church para 2357 Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Jake and Bob sit down for an honest conversation with Hilde, a woman who would have once called herself a 'gay Catholic.' Hilde's lifelong attraction to the truth made her feel intensely divided between the Catholic faith she was raised with and a lifestyle of same-sex relationships. Then, a spontaneous trip to Medjugorje changed everything. Now, Hilde defines herself more through her identity as a daughter of God than her sexual desires. Hilde's unflinching retelling of her story is a beautiful example of how God always pursues us. Key Quote: Being Christian is not the result of an ethical choice or a lofty idea, but the encounter with an event, a person, which gives life a new horizon and a decisive direction. - Deus Caritas Est (Benedict XVI) Key Points: While wrestling with some deep questions, Hilde found a copy of 'Be Healed' on campus and ended up connecting with Bob for the first time Through her friendship and conversation with Bob, Hilde slowly grew trust and encountered inner healing Hilde shares her upbringing as the youngest in a large, orthodox Catholic family During a time of difficulty in her relationship with her mom, Hilde was innocently drawn into a relationship with an older woman which became sexual Hilde wrestled with questions of her identity and conscience while entertaining same-sex relationships, and some poor spiritual advice furthered her exploration In a moment of turmoil and prayer, Hilde felt drawn to go to Medjugorje and it was a transformative experience Hilde exhorts priests and spiritual leaders to share the truth in love about the Church's teaching, beginning with finding our identity as sons and daughters rather than focussing on our attractions Hilde continues her story, sharing what happened after Medjugorje and how she feels a strong new desire to become a saint, but doesn't feel called to marriage Each layer of healing comes with facing different shame but also experiencing deeper relationship with Jesus and new freedom Practical Application: Listen to this episode with a pen and paper in hand. What stands out to you? Make notes about key ideas that stand out to you. Reflect on why you highlighted those particular themes. Resources: Be Healed, Dr Bob Schuchts (book) Redeeming Love, Francine Rivers (book) Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

This episode, Jake and Bob sit down with AJ Benjamin, the author of "When the Son Frees You." They discuss his journey of healing that led to his writing a book. AJ discusses his childhood wounds, the pathway of his healing and how it led to a fulfilled life with his wife. Key Quote: "The purification of our hearts has to do with paternal or maternal images, stemming from our personal and cultural history, and influencing our relationship with God." (CCC 2779) Key Points: -AJ's journey of same-sex attraction. -His insistence on not labelling people as gay or straight because in his mind labels box people in and people are more than their sexual orientation. -A discussion of gender/sexual fluidity -Working through wounds from childhood to find healing Practical Application: Look into the work of Desert Stream Ministries and Living Waters small groups. Reflect on your own relationship with your mother and father and how it influenced your view of God and your experience your sexuality. Explore one of the resources below. Resources: When the Son Frees You: A Catholic Man's Journey of Healing From Same-Sex Attraction (Book by A.J. Benjamin) Desert Stream Living Waters Theology of the Body, Pope John Paull II (writings) Theology of the Body Institute (ministry from Christopher West) Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

This week in our series on same-sex attraction, Jake and Bob speak with Andrew Comiskey, founder of Desert Stream Ministries. Desert Stream helps people of all every sexual orientation begin to heal areas of sexual brokenness. Andrew brings his humor, passion, faith and care to this conversation. Andrew desires to offer a safe space within the Church to those who are seeking integration, wholeness and healing in areas of sexuality and we hope you experience the Father's merciful heart through him in this episode. Key Quote: The heart is our hidden center, beyond the grasp of our reason and of others; only the Spirit of God can fathom the human heart and know it fully. - CCC 2563 Key Points: Andrew introduces himself and his ministry The common ground of sexual healing no matter your sexual orientation and/or brokenness Why small groups at Living Waters are made up of women and men working through a variety of brokenness toward greater integration Andrew expresses his desire to see the Church be known for being a place that is safe, merciful and healing Andrew shares his testimony of experiencing same-sex attraction and encountering evangelical Christianity in his youth which set him on a path to reconcile his desires to Christ Andrew and Bob discuss some formative writings on this subject, especially those of Leanne Payne - they address why she's sometimes seen as controversial Andrew addresses some cultural shifts that have occurred in our view of homosexuality as well as enduring truths Jake and Bob summarize their conversation with Andrew and offer further clarification and explanation of what was discussed Practical Application: Look into the work of Desert Stream Ministries and Living Waters small groups. Reflect on your own relationship with your masculinity or femininity. Explore one of the resources below. Resources: Andrew Comiskey Desert Stream Living Waters Theology of the Body, Pope John Paull II (writings) Theology of the Body Institute (ministry from Christopher West) Leanne Payne Crisis in Masculinity, Leanne Payne (book) Broken Image, Leanne Payne (book) The Healing Presence, Leanne Payne (book) Restoring the Christian Soul, Leanne Payne (book) Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Jake and Bob begin a series on same-sex attraction with the desire to bring hope, clarity and understanding to this topic and the Church. Why this series? We have seen this topic impact many people who are trying to navigate this conversation well. As we move forward, we want to be sensitive and use great reverence toward the people that this directly affects, including our listeners. We believe that love and charity are essential in this discussion, as well as humility in the pursuit of truth. The depths of the human heart are holy ground. Key Quote: The number of men and women who have deep-seated homosexual tendencies is not negligible. This inclination, which is objectively disordered, constitutes for most of them a trial. They must be accepted with respect, compassion, and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided. These persons are called to fulfill God's will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord's Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition. - CCC 2358 Key Points: Jake and Bob introduce the topic, acknowledging that it is sensitive and may bring up many feelings for people We believe that the Church teaches infallibly what is true, and we also believe that this topic can be discussed in the Church with greater charity and humility Desires themselves are not inherently wrong, and disordered desires extend beyond same-sex attraction We define what is meant by 'psychological genesis' and why the Catechism of the Catholic Church does not attempt to explain a psychological genesis for same-sex attraction How to simultaneously honor the objective reality of who we are and the subjective reality of what we experience in our sexuality Trauma is inflicted on those who experience homosexuality when they are not treated with dignity Behind every disordered desire is a search for something good, for love Jake and Bob acknowledge the mystery and the unknown behind several dimensions of this topic Practical Application: Read and reflect on the section of the Catechism of the Catholic Church regarding the Sixth Commandment. Resources: Catechism of the Catholic Church paragraphs 2331-2359 Episode 41: Sexual Healing (Part 5) Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

In this episode, Jake and Bob speak with Renee Lemire, a podcast listener who used Dr. Bob's book, "Be Restored" as a guide for a personal healing retreat that led to tremendous healing. Her story has aspects that are common to us all, and we pray that this gives you hope that healing in your own life is possible and doesn't need to be costly or complicated. Key Quote: "And they implored Him that they might just touch the fringe of His cloak; and as many as touched it were cured." - Matthew 14:36 Key Points: Renee shares how she went from a destructive party lifestyle in highschool to finding comfort in the Church and ultimately experiencing an encounter with Jesus at Florida State University that changed her life After the initial conversion of her heart, Renee experienced a feeling of disintegration that she needed healing in other areas of her life "Be Restored" gave Renee words to understand her wounds and what needed to be healed Renee shares the origin of the wounds in her identity as a daughter Renee recounts her experience of going on a personal retreat and using Dr. Bob's book as a guide to healing Renee shares insight into what she tangibly did during her retreat and how she let the Holy Spirit lead Practical Application: Ask the Holy Spirit to be your guide in the healing process. Consider taking time out of the year ahead to use "Be Restored" as a guide for personal healing. If you can't take a day of time to conduct a personal retreat, simply read through "Be Restored" at home. Resources: St. Paul's Outreach (SPO) Brotherhood of Hope Be Restored, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book) Episodes 57 & 58: The Healing Process, Restore the Glory Florida State University - Catholic Student Union Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Jake and Bob walk step-by-step through the practicals of the healing process using the Immanuel Approach. This episode is packed with practical content that you'll want to revisit again and again. Note to listeners: there was an issue with Jake's audio in this episode and we are working to fix this for future recordings. Thanks for your patience. Key Quote: [In the Immanuel process], the goal of healing is connection with God - Jake Key Points: The disposition of our hearts and receptivity to grace How self awareness helps us respect the process Our interpretation of events matter - do we fear our triggers or see them as God wanting to heal us? A complete walk-through of the steps in the healing process, based on the Immanuel Approach (see the practical application) We can have pre-verbal memories that are attached to wounds Types of barriers: vows, judgements, lack of forgiveness, unconfessed sin Renunciation of vows and the announcing of God's truth/ blessing Practical Application: Draw your attention to God. Recall a positive memory of connection with God or others and allow it to overflow in an expression of gratitude to Him. This is called the 'Immanuel Moment.' Now, bring to mind a moment of recent distress or disconnection. What is it that you're feeling in that moment? What are you 'believing in the feelings'? Ask Jesus to show you the root of the distress; don't try to figure it out yourself. Identify the painful experience and corresponding belief. Ask the Lord to reveal what He desires for you to know. If you begin to feel 'stuck' in the process, there is likely a barrier present. Address the barrier using a corresponding technique such as renunciation. Test the fruit: go back to the original memory and original distress and sense if there is peace. If difficult emotion is still present, go back and repeat the relevant steps. Resources: The Immanuel Approach Anatomy of a Wound (Restore the Glory series) Be Healed, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book) and the seven signs of healing Be Restored, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book) and appendix with healing prayer scripts Be Transformed, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book) Healing content on the Hallow App with Dr. Bob Schuchts and Sr. Miriam James Heidland, SOLT Healing the Whole Person (retreat) Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Audio editing by Forte Catholic

Jake and Dr. Bob get practical about the healing process and provide examples of what it looks like to allow Christ to be the Healer. Note to listeners: there was an issue with Jake's audio in this episode and we are working to fix this for future recordings. Thanks for your patience. Key Points: Examples of inner healing happen throughout Scripture The pattern of healing through Christ looks like this: Always begins with an encounter with Jesus, Him seeing the person and their true dignity Jesus speaks the truth with hope and love Jesus offers himself as a remedy The Raising of Lazarus is a great analogy of our woundedness and healing through Christ There has to be awareness and desire for healing to take place. This takes humility. We have to understand what what it means to be human in order to enter into healing Begin the process of healing by deepening self-awareness and identifying where you are currently struggling Let Jesus be the Healer, rather than worshiping the process Some insights and specific examples modeling prayer ministry as part of the healing process Examples of internal barriers to healing Practical Application: Begin your healing journey by praying about questions that Dr. Bob posed: Where am I struggling in my relationships? Where are the areas of habitual sin? Where are the desires that are disordered in my life, even if I'm not acting on them? Where am I struggling emotionally in situations? Resources: Episode 55: Security, Maturity, Purity (Part 3) Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Editing by Forte Catholic

Jake and Dr. Bob are joined by two special guests: Fr. Burke Masters and Dr. Tom Nelson. As experts in their respective fields, the four men discuss integrated healing of the whole person: body, soul and spirit. They draw on their experience of working together at healing retreats through the JPII Healing Center and share how integrated healing has changed the way they minister. We hope this blesses you! Key Points: Healing has to do with wholeness and communion - no matter what angle you're approaching healing from (body, soul, spirit), it's important to keep the whole person in mind Sculpting, 'Visio Divina' and the power of touch for integrated healing Dr. Tom and Fr. Burke's experience with leading healing retreats based on Dr. Bob's model Dr. Tom discovered integrated healing as a skeptic who attended a retreat from Dr. Bob Fr. Burke also discovered integrated healing Dr. Bob's and his book 'Be Healed' Dr. Tom and Fr. Burke share how practicing integrated healing has brought them joy in their fields Practical Application: Consider whether you give weight to one area of healing over the others: body, soul and spirit (mind). How could you approach your own healing or the journeys of those around you in a more integrated way? Explore a new method of prayer using Visio Divina. Resources: Be Healed, Dr. Bob Schuchts (book) Visio Divina Connect with Restore the Glory: Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks! Editing by Forte Catholic