30. Here Is What It Means If You Are Annoyed, Irritated, and/or Frustrated With Even The Littlest Things
Reframing Neurodiversity · Melissa Jackson
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Hi guys.
Today, we're going to be talking about some specific strategies that we can apply when we find ourselves in the state of fight in our nervous system.
This is when we feel:
* Annoyed
* Irritated
* Angry
* Frustrated
* And oftentimes when we're in this state, you’ll notice, you kind of feel this way about everything.
A few weeks back, we started at the bottom of the nervous system ladder and really got into what it feels like to be in shutdown, dissociated, in that disconnection state. We then talked through what it feels like to be in the fawn state where we’re people pleasing, masking and self-abandoning.
As we begin to support ourselves in these states and move up the nervous system ladder we’ll move into the next rung, which is fight or flight.
The best way to approach this is with so much self compassion and curiosity and with the right tools to process these sensations in a slow titrated way.
When we're feeling activated in the state of fight, we're going to want to do things that move towards that activation and allows us to release those survival hormones that are going on in our body like these 4 techniques:
- Clenched Jaw
- Air Scream
- Clenched Fists
- Wall Pushes
This is a way of building capacity to be with our anger because we're pendulating back and forth between finding safety and being with the feelings of frustration and anger in our body. And the more we can go back and forth in this way, the more we build this capacity within our nervous system to be with these things that are uncomfortable.
I'm here for you.
Drop me a note, I'd love to hear if you relate to this at all? And if you're liking any of these techniques, drop them in the comments.
I really, really would love to hear from you guys.
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