Real World Peaceful Parenting

One of the most frustrating situations in parenting is when your kid just won't take "no" for an answer. Most of the time, our instinct is to explain back to them why we set a particular boundary and try to make them understand our reasoning.  The problem with this response is that we're looking for our kids' approval and they are just not going to give it to us.  In this episode, I'll discuss the dangers of being a people-pleasing parent when our kids won't take "no" for an answer. I'll explain why being firm with our boundaries actually teaches our kids resilience, models healthy behavior, and ultimately makes them feel loved.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/116

What's something your child does that triggers you? Maybe it's sneaking sweets or doing something they knew was wrong because a friend encouraged them to. Usually, the behaviors that trigger us the most are the ones that make us fear for our child's future and the kind of adult they'll become.   I explain why the best thing we can do when we're triggered is to get neutral. I'll give you some tools to show up for your kids in a neutral way and get away from fear-based parenting.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/115

One of the most powerful tools you can implement as a parent is the pause. Although it might seem small, just pausing during your parenting allows you to do so much.   I discuss the power of the pause as a parent. I talk about the major benefits of learning to pause in a difficult moment with your child – how it can help you to better connect with them and teach them how to regulate their own emotions.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/114

Our kids can be great teachers in showing us the things we feel shameful about or have tried to hide from the world – our shadow side. Often what we project onto our kids are wounds we developed as children ourselves.   I'll show you how to start identifying your shadow side and how you may unknowingly project it onto your child. I'll also explain how healing your inner child can help you overcome a major roadblock in connecting with your child.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/113

As a parent, the role you play at home has a completely different job description from the role you play at your corporate job. Different tools are required for different jobs, and it is so important that as parents, we take the time to consider this, and think about what needs to go into our parental job description.   Learn what new tools you can put in your toolbox to get closer to the parent you want to be and how this concept can completely change your life. Whatever transition you are struggling with right now, what I'm teaching you this week is sure to help.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/112

One of the major roadblocks many of us have on the road to peaceful parenting is our relationship with our own parents. They can be well-meaning and involved, but they are dominant.   I offer you a chance to become the cycle breaker you want to be by learning how to take small steps in setting boundaries with your parents, even when it feels wildly uncomfortable to do so. Discover why setting boundaries is always for yourself and never about the other person, and how to finally start taking control of your thoughts and actions when certain situations arise.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/111

There is a right time and a wrong time to parent your kids, and when you are stuck in dysregulation and anger, this is the wrong time.   I share a 3-step process to help you move from reactive parenting to responsive parenting. Hear one of the best ways I know to work on your triggers and reactiveness to them, and how to manage your thoughts and change your behavior to become the responsive peaceful parent you know you can be.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/110

Do you feel like you are at the end of your rope with no option to deal with your kids other than to yell? Do you ever feel trapped in the cycle of resorting to physical and verbal punishment when your kids' behavior pushes you to your limit?   Learn how to break the generational parenting cycle and create connection with your kids instead of fear and compliance. Discover the importance of modeling behavior for your children, how the way you are currently teaching your kids could be leading to further dysregulation, and how to model the behaviors you want to see from your children.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/109  

Witnessing your child in pain is one of the hardest things you can experience as a parent. You might think it's your job as a parent to fix all their problems, fight all their battles, or soothe all their heartaches, and it's natural to want to rescue your kids from their suffering. But this week, I share a different perspective and show you why doing so is a problem.   Find out why you are actually doing your kids a disservice when you try to fix their emotions and how to listen to your kids without the intention of fixing the situation.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/108

I am so excited to welcome an incredible guest to the show this week. Kiva Schuler is the Founder and CEO of the Jai Institute for Parenting, the world's leading parent coach training institute. Kiva is a very special person in my life. She is a friend, a mentor, a sister, and a colleague in this revolution of changing the world one family at a time, and she joins me this week to share more about the mission we're on together to help you uplevel your parenting, and more about the peaceful parenting revolution.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/107

Do you often feel pressured to do things right in the eyes of others? Do you parent in a way that tries to avoid the judgment of other parents? In this episode, I'm sharing why so many of us have a fear of doing things "wrong" and why your worth and value are not determined by your actions or your ability as a parent. Learn how to know if you are a people-pleaser, why this is showing up in your life, and how to stop depending on external validation to become the best parent you can be.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/106

In this episode, I'm showing you what to do when your co-parent responds differently to you in their parenting and sharing a different approach that will work beautifully to help the situation while creating deeper connection for all involved. Learn how to get on the same page as your co-parent while still maintaining a peaceful parenting approach and a powerful tool you can use to help ensure all parties feel seen, heard, and valued.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/105

I'm declaring 2023 the year of unconditional love and connection, so to welcome in the new year this week, I'm bringing you a replay of an episode that is more important than ever to hear. Tune in this week to hear 10 things I know for sure about real world peaceful parenting. These 10 things are absolute game-changers when it comes to your parenting, so learn how to apply them in your life to transform your parenting and create true connection with your kids.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/104

How's it going at your house this holiday season? Are your kids expressing the level of gratitude that you expected for their gifts? Instead of just giving you information on the topic of gratitude, coaching gives you the opportunity to create transformation in your own life, so don't miss this coaching call with Gail to hear my thoughts on gratitude when it comes to gift-giving. I encourage you to ask yourself what comes up as you listen to this conversation and uncover what you can take away and apply in your own life to stay in the moment and truly enjoy this holiday period.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/103

Your kids are going to storm around the holidays; you might as well add it to your calendar with the rest of the festive activities. But the important question is, despite all this, will you give them the most beautiful gift available this holiday season? This week, I'm showing you how to hold space for your children during this time without making their behavior mean they are difficult or ungrateful and showing you how to increase compassion and empathy for your kids this holiday season.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/102

In this episode, I'm giving you a fresh perspective on Elf on the Shelf and showing you how to use it for connection and cooperation, not threats and punishments. I'm encouraging you to move away from bribery, rewards, and fear-based parenting around the holidays and showing you why you need to keep in mind that they can bring extra stress, excitement, intensity, and anxiety for your kids, without them knowing Elf on the Shelf is watching their every move.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/101

To celebrate the 100th episode, I wanted to bring you something extra special, and boy, are you in for a treat today! I am joined by a group of amazing, progress-not-perfection parents who are all members of The Hive, and they are here to share their experiences of being in The Hive and how their parenting has changed as a result. Hear the dramatic changes they've experienced since joining The Hive, the struggles they faced before they joined, and what they're most proud of in their new way of parenting.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/100

What are your expectations of your kids? If you get real honest, do you expect your kids to know what you want when you want it? I get it, no judgment. In this episode, I'm diving into expectations, resentment, and parenting and showing you how to get clear on your own expectations of your kids. I'm sharing what expectations really are, two things that are working against us in our parenting, why you need to communicate the expectations you have for other people, and how not doing so can lead to storming.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/99

Did you know that holding space for your kids and staying regulated while they are storming is one of the absolute most important things you can do to build connection with your kids? We are so quick to take storms personally, and it can be difficult to hold space for our kids in the moment. But doing so is crucial in building connection. This is something we all need reminding of, so this week I'm giving you a refresher on the topic of holding space for others, but especially your kids.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/98

Hear more about Kimberly's experience of healing her own inner childhood wounds and how these were showing up in the way she was parenting her children. I'm sharing some questions to ask yourself when you are having a giant reaction to your child's behavior, how to recognize where your own inner wounds could be showing up in your parenting, and some tips to help you parent from a neutral place.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/97

In this episode, I'm encouraging you to dig into your anger and showing you how to start using it as a beacon in your parenting. I'm sharing my own experiences with anger as a parent, how I learned to change my approach to dealing with anger, and some tips to help you use anger to create more cooperation with your children.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/96

Do you identify as a run-of-the-mill worrier, an expert one, or the ultimate catastrophizer? In this episode, I'm showing you how to recognize catastrophizing showing up for you and some tips to help you manage it. I'm sharing how this has shown up for me in my own life and the effects it had, why you have full, complete control over your worrying even though it doesn't feel like it, and how to stop using control as your primary parenting tool.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/95

In this episode, I'm sharing the concept of The Productivity Quadrant and showing you how to use it to start feeling more recharged, refreshed, and rejuvenated in your life. Find out how you may be doing things that you think are productive but are actually robbing you of your energy and restoration, and some examples of how you can apply this work in your own life to start feeling more energized.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/94

Connection is something that we should give through the good, the bag, the storming, and the regulated. In this episode, find out why building connection with your children is one of the most important tools you can understand and implement as a parent. Hear why it's not always about how you choose to connect, but about your child feeling seen, heard, and valued, and how to use connection as a commitment to peaceful parenting.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/93

I'm sharing more about why teenagers suddenly need more freedom and autonomy and some ways you can satisfy this need for your own teen. I'm sharing an amazing exercise you can do together to teach your teen about autonomy, and 8 tools you can implement when your teen is begging for more freedom.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/92

This week, I'm busting the myth of parenting from a united front and bringing you a tremendous amount of relief around your parenting beliefs. Find out why a united front does not mean that you and your co-parent have to agree on every single situation, and why believing that you have to agree on everything is not an approach that is serving you, your co-parent, your child or your family.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/91

Many of the episodes so far have focused on your kids; how to help them, how to support them and how to work with them. But today's episode is for you, and about you. This week, we're talking about one of the most important tools you can have in your peaceful parenting toolbox: holding space. I'm sharing the benefits of holding space for your kids and some tips to help you if you are struggling with this.    Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/90

In this episode, I'm giving you some examples of what reactive anger looks like in children and naming some of the emotions that lie beneath it. You'll learn how to help your kids dig beneath the reactive anger and get to the bottom of what they're really feeling, and some tools you can use to help your children tolerate life's everyday disappointments.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/89

Today's episode goes out to all you parents, guardians, grandparents, and caregivers of teenagers out there. I'm sharing some important things you need to know about the teenage stage, and showing you how to stop the power struggle with your teen once and for all. Learn how to understand brain development, and how to be patient and loving with your teen while still setting limits.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/88

This week, I'm joined by returning guests Jim Huber and Jason Holzer. They are amazing men, mentors, coaches, and dads, and founders of 4D Athletes, a complete online training system for athletes that helps parents and coaches develop self-confidence, and empowers athletes to do their best. They're sharing how to use sports to teach your kids to become coachable and good teammates, one of the best pieces of advice for sports parents, and what you can do at home to support your kids in sports.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/87

Listen in this week as I show you how to pay attention to and observe the patterns, situations, and conditions that lead to you becoming triggered while parenting. I'm sharing some steps to help you stay regulated in your parenting, the benefits of being regulated for yourself and your family, and the importance of modeling regulation to your children.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/86

In this episode, I'm showing you how to handle it when somebody close to you tells you that you're parenting the wrong way. Discover the reasons other people may become triggered by your parenting, how to move away from people who want to argue their point with you, and some thoughts you can try to help you stay regulated when these conversations arise.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/85

If you feel consumed by constant worrying in your parenting, you aren't alone. This week, Hive member Hannah and I are discussing what it feels like to be consumed by worry, some of the problems that come with worrying, why it is such a drain on your mental focus and energy, and what we can do about it.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/84

In this episode, I'm sharing a real-life scenario from a member of The Hive involving a conflict of needs and how she dealt with it. Hear some practical advice to help you navigate these circumstances, why your kids need to get into the habit of managing their big emotions and how you can help them do so, and what you can do right in the moment of a power struggle with your child when there is a conflict of needs.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/83

What is the biggest parenting challenge in your household right now? What is the biggest obstacle you are facing that you need help with? We all have parenting struggles, and whatever that looks like for you, you are not alone. But if you are looking to make a change in your parenting and move further down the peaceful parenting path, listen in.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/82

Listen in this week to discover what to do when your child is storming. I'm offering what to avoid doing when you're in the eye of the storm, the keys to building connection and cooperation with your kids at any age, and a laundry list of actionable tools you can use whenever a storm comes rolling in.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/81

Listen in this week for a real, open, and authentic conversation with The Hive member Samantha about what moving down the Real World Peaceful Parenting path could look like for you. Hear how Samantha is healing and reparenting herself alongside her son and how doing so is helping her break the cycle of dominant parenting and be fully present with her son.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/80

Listen in this week as I'm sharing some common thoughts we have when our children storm, and some of the reasons you have those thoughts. I'm giving you a tool you can use the next time your child storms so you don't end up storming alongside them, and showing you how to use it to train your brain to remain calm when your child is storming.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/79

How many times have you told your kids to do something, they've ignored you, and you become frustrated and yell at them as a result? This week, Hive member Hannah and I are helping you wrap your brain around the reason your kids seem to not listen to you, sharing examples of how this has shown up in our own lives, and giving you a different way to look at and think about yelling at your kids as a result.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/78

When our kids are storming, stressed, or having big emotions, we often go into automatic fix-it mode. In this episode, discover the reasons your child is storming and how you are actually causing more harm than good when you try to stop and fix them. I'm inspiring you to stop being a storm fixer and sharing four things you can do the next time your child is storming.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/77

Tune in this week and hear how Francene and her son Kiran worked together to create more connection and cooperation in their relationship and what success looks like for them. Kiran shares the biggest disconnect he used to experience with his parents, how this has changed since his mom joined The Hive, and why real-world success is about progress, not perfection.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/76

Tune in this week as I share all of the things that I personally found useful in becoming a truly peaceful parent. I'm giving you an insight into my past life as a dominant parent, the setbacks we all experience on this journey, and I'm giving you the tools and the mindset that helped me keep going in pursuit of an authentic relationship with my family.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/75

In this episode, I'm diving deeper into process problems and giving you some action items to help you approach your parenting as a process problem instead of a character problem. We are all people with process problems who are trying to work it out, so I'm showing you how to stop viewing yourself as having a character problem, and how modeling this will have endless benefits for your kids.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/74

I'm showing you how to practice showing up for your kids and staying present in each moment, without invalidating their experiences. Discover what active listening is, how it can benefit your connection with your children, and how to empathize, not internalize.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/73

This week, learn the difference between a process problem and a character problem and why all process problems are fixable. Hear where Hannah started in terms of her parenting and the changes she has made to get to where she is today, and why YOU could be a success story, just like Hannah.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/72

Tune in for Tricia's incredible parenting transformation, how far she's come and how she's doing things differently on the path to peaceful parenting. Hear how Tricia has changed the way she approaches things when her son is storming, and how she stopped storming alongside him and taking his behavior personally.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/71

Hear how compliant children become compliant adults, the problem with this, and the lesson your child is learning when you teach them to be compliant. I'm challenging you to consider how you could be a peaceful parent without making your children compliant and how to stop sacrificing connection, trust, and honesty in favor of compliance.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/70

Find out why we want to rescue our children from their uncomfortable emotions and why doing so is unintentionally invalidating their feelings and creating disconnection. I'm sharing four steps you can use when you feel yourself going into rescue, fix, or solve mode, and showing you how to create more trust and connection with your kids.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/69

Have you ever snapped at your kid, yelled, or gotten really mad at them, without understanding why? In this episode, I'm discussing the concept of the 'shadow side' and explaining why we all have one and how to deal with your child's. Discover the importance of showing your kids unconditional love, even when they show you their shadow sides.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/68

In this episode, hear how Tricia is struggling to find a middle ground with her husband when it comes to the messaging they're giving to their children. I coach Tricia through some tools to help her and her co-parent bridge the gap between their differing parenting styles, and we walk through some examples of how to peacefully set limits with your children.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thepeacefulparent.com/67