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Deception is everywhere. Fake psychics, dodgy investment deals, cults, and pesky scam calls can be hard to detect, even for the smartest or most vigilant individuals. This poses the question of what makes us vulnerable and what precautions we can take? Joining us for this episode are two exceptional cognitive scientists, Christopher Chabris and Daniel Simons. Through studies and findings from their highly anticipated book, "Nobody's Fool, Why We Get Taken In, and What We Can Do About It" they provide us with valuable insight into how to navigate the treacherous world of deception. In this fascinating conversation, Christopher and Daniel unveil the cognitive biases that plague us all while offering practical ways to safeguard ourselves from being duped. Drawing upon real-life situations, they come equipped with an arsenal of tactics that can be incorporated into your daily life and that won't breed paranoia or leave you in a perpetual state of vigilance—quite the opposite! Their goal is to provide you with the knowledge to navigate life confidently, cautiously, and securely.Listen and Learn: Is everyone susceptible to being duped? How have Daniel and Christopher become savvier at recognizing scams as a result of writing and researching their book, Nobody’s Fool? Daniel's clever suggestion for protecting your family from scam calls How ‘truth bias’ can make us more vulnerable in day-to-day life Why do we often fail to see something that's right in front of us? Even something so glaringly apparent? Principle of focus: what does it mean, and how is it used as a means to deceive? How our beliefs and expectations can deter us from seeing what is actually there and how to avoid falling victim to the trap Why it's crucial to consider all of the information that you're missing when interpreting information or data that is presented to you How can we protect ourselves from being fooled when the risk is high? The “illusory truth effect”: why do we have a tendency to treat familiarity as a sign of fact? How can we find that balance between accepting the truth bias and being cautious? Resources: Christopher Chabris Follow Christopher on Twitter Daniel Simons Follow Daniel on Twitter Nobody's Fool, Why We Get Taken In, and What We Can Do About It The Invisible Gorilla: How Our Intuitions Deceive Us Gorilla Experiment Influence: Science and Practice by Robert Cialdini About Daniel Simons and Christopher Chabris:Daniel Simons and Christopher Chabris are the authors of the 2010 New York Times Bestseller, The Invisible Gorilla: How Our Intuitions Deceive Us, which has been translated into 20 languages. They have collaborated on research for more than 25 years, and they jointly received the 2004 Ig Nobel Prize (given for research that "first makes you laugh and then makes you think"). They have contributed to The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Los Angeles Times, Slate, and other national publications, and their work has appeared in science museums worldwide. They spent nearly a decade researching and writing Nobody’s Fool.Related Episodes: 295. Buyer Beware: Pseudoscience and the Wellness Industry, featuring Pooja Lakshmin 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance 196. The Neuroscience of Marketing with Matt Johnson and Prince Ghuman 305. The Power of Saying No with Vanessa Patrick 186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab: 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Our expectations can shape how we navigate life in more ways than one. Expectations help us prepare, but not just through action; there are actual physiological changes that occur when we're anticipating certain things.David Robson, "an award-winning science writer who focuses on the extremes of the human brain, body, and behavior", joins us for this episode. Through practical takeaways founded on scientific theory from his book, The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Change Your World, David opens our minds to a fun and transformative look at the fantastical power that the mind has in making expectations a reality.Learn useful tools that you can use to your benefit, both in terms of increasing positive experiences and better managing the harder experiences that are unavoidable. Tune in for this game-changing episode that will shift your perspective and day-to-day experience in some fascinating and surprising ways. Listen and Learn: Why David describes the mind as a prediction machine Unpacking Alia J Crum’s "Mind-set Matters: Exercise and the Placebo Effect" study and why it propelled David to write The Expectation Effect Finding the ideal level of optimism and pessimism with regard to expectations How can people's perceptions of the same events differ so widely from one another, and why might this be a strength rather than a point of conflict? The power of context in directing our expectations and impacting how we experience the world Is willpower depleting or self-perpetuating, and does mindset play a role? The placebo vs. the nocebo effect The three different mechanisms for The Expectation Effect What is the best way to set up The Expectation Effect when we are experiencing sadness or depression? How researching The Expectation Effect changed the trajectory of David's depression The parallels between The Expectation Effect and other disciplines like Buddhism and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Resources: Visit David's website Follow David on Twitter The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Change Your World Mind-set Matters: Exercise and the Placebo Effect Another White Christmas: fantasy proneness and reports of ‘hallucinatory experiences’ in undergraduate students About David Robson David Robson is an award-winning science writer specializing in the extremes of the human brain, body and behavior. He’s written for the Guardian, the Atlantic, New Scientist, Men’s Health and many more. His first book was The Intelligence Trap and his second, discussed in this episode, is The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Transform Your World. Related Episodes 209. The Art of Managing Pressure with Hank Weisinger 227. The Science of Happy with Sonja Lyubomirksy 259. Rethinking Delusions with Victoria Sheperd 266. Future Tense with Tracy Dennis-Tiwary Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Get ready to tap into the power of your emotions, because they hold invaluable wisdom! From guilt to panic and everything in between, each emotion we feel has a story to tell. And who better to guide us through this emotional journey than Karla McLaren, an emotion and empathy expert?With more than a decade of research under her belt, Karla has mastered the intense power of language in identifying and regulating emotions. Described as an ‘emotional guidebook’ for navigating the highs and lows of your feelings while heightening your intuition, enhancing your relationships, and broadening your self-awareness, we’re here to dissect the latest edition of Karla’s book, The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You. As we break down anger, envy, forgiveness, anxiety, and even some lesser-known emotions that you might not even realize you're feeling, you'll discover how emotions can be instrumental in healing trauma and why having a negative approach to emotions can be problematic. If you’re looking to have your mind truly blown, join us as we explore the exhilarating world of emotions and learn how to decode them like a pro!Listen and Learn: Between the first and latest editions of Karla’s book, The Language of Emotions, what has changed in the world of our understanding of emotions? What's the harm in viewing emotions as something that's a problem? Toxic positivity bias: what is it, and why is it especially problematic in the workplace? How is Karla’s approach of using emotions to understand ourselves more intricately and channeling them effectively more beneficial? Why having a valence to emotions can be problematic How emotions can be useful in healing from trauma The relationship between the process of forgiveness and anger The function of shame and how it might actually be a helpful emotion to be aware of Why does Karla refer to envy as our “interactional radar” and how apathy is a mask for anger? The confusion between anxiety and panic Resources: Learn more about Karla and her work The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You Follow Karla on Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube The Empathy Academy Lisa Feldman Barrett The End of Trauma by George A. Bonanno About Karla McLaren Karla McLaren, M.Ed. is an award-winning author, educator, workplace consultant, and social science researcher. Her work revalues even the most “negative” emotions and opens startling new pathways into self-awareness, effective communication, and healthy empathy. She is the founder and CEO of Emotion Dynamics Inc.She is also the author of many books, including The Language of Emotions, The Power of Emotions at Work, and Embracing Anxiety, and she is the developer of the online learning site EmpathyAcademy.org. She is online at KarlaMcLaren.com.Related Episodes: 183. Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett 85. Emotion Efficacy with Aprilia West 216. Managing Anger and Irritability, Featuring Russell Kolts 240. Talking to Kids and Teens with Big Feelings with Adele LaFrance (EFFT Part 1 of 2) 241. Emotion Coaching Skills for Families with Mindy Solomon (EFFT Part 2 of 2) 244. What You Feel Is Not All There Is with Aprilia West 265. The Power of Emotions at Work with Karla McLaren 282. Toxic Positivity with Whitney Goodman 304. The Emotional Lives of Teenagers with Lisa Damour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you familiar with the term "gaslighting"? It’s been a popular topic for discussion in recent days, but how many of us actually understand its true meaning and, perhaps more importantly, how to identify it? Join us for this thought-provoking interview with Psychoanalyst and co-founder of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, Dr. Robin Stern, who gives us a fresh and detailed perspective on the subject. Shedding light on decades of research and heaps of knowledge as the author of The Gaslight Effect and The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide, Dr. Stern offers guidance on how to recognize the different stages of the gaslight effect, indicating who is most susceptible and offering strategies to escape from it. Don't tole­rate emotional abuse in silence any longer; tune in to learn how to spot the signs of gaslighting while moving forward toward a brighter future filled with kindness and respect—which you deserve!Listen and Learn: The fascinating origin of the term gaslighting Robin’s definition of gaslighting from her book Can gaslighting happen in both romantic and interpersonal relationships? Is gaslighting socially learned? The correlation between gaslighting and narcissism The three stages of gaslighting and how to identify them Are there certain traits that make someone more vulnerable to becoming a victim of gaslighting? How do you determine whether you should leave a relationship with a gaslighter? The type of person who would benefit from Robin’s workbook, The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide Resources: Robin Stern’s website The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide: Your Personal Journey Toward Healing from Emotional Abuse: A Gaslighting Book The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life Follow Robin on Facebook (@drrobinstern), Twitter (@RobinSStern) and Instagram (@educatorhealer) The Gaslight Effect Podcast Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence (YCEI) Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life Permission to Feel: The Power of Emotional Intelligence to Achieve Well-Being and Success About Robin Stern Dr. Robin Stern is the co-founder and senior advisor to the director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and has 30 years of experience as a licensed psychoanalyst. She is the author of The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life and The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide: Your Personal Journey Toward Healing from Emotional Abuse. She hosts the Gaslight Effect podcast.Related Episodes: 98. Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser 186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab 263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson 292. Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers with Stephanie Kriesberg 298. Drama Free with Nedra Tawwab Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The journey of parenting requires a unique approach for every family. Don’t get discouraged by claims that there is one right way to raise a child; this is simply not true.Dr. Cara Goodwin, an experienced child psychologist, author, and mother, was amazed at the volume of misinformation shared online by self-proclaimed 'experts'. To combat this, she created the “Parenting Translator”- a source of trustworthy, science-based research and information on parenting and child development. As a well-known voice in the online parenting world, we are super fortunate to have Cara join us to help us learn how to recognize pseudoscience, interpret research accurately, and use social media more strategically. Her message is clear: No single approach to parenting fits everyone, and we should be mindful of research that does not take individual differences into account.Listen and Learn: Cara’s mission with her Instagram account, Parenting Translator? Is there an ideal age gap between your children? Why you should be wary of online research that references brain studies The importance of being mindful of how you feel when interacting with social media The types of unsettling research articles Cara is sent and why she uses them as inspiration for her posts Why Cara crafts a peer review process to validate and inform the research in her social media and newsletter How to create a social media feed that engagingly highlights research Should you make your child apologize? Cara’s approach to correcting misinformation sold as science on social media, while also maintaining diplomacy Resources: Visit Cara’s website: http://parentingtranslator.com What to Do When You Feel Like Hitting: A No Hitting Book for Toddlers: https://parentingtranslator.org/book Follow Parenting Translator on Instagram (@parentingtranslator) Subscribe to Cara’s newsletter: https://parentingtranslator.substack.com/ Parenting Translator Podcast: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781541724389 Parenting Translator - Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/parenting-translator Messengers: Who We Listen To, Who We Don't, and Why: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781541724389 The Invisible Gorilla: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780307459664 About Cara Goodwin Cara Goodwin, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist and a mother to three children. She received a Ph.D. in child clinical psychology from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, a Master’s in Developmental Psychiatry from Cambridge University, and a Master’s in Child Psychology from Vanderbilt University, and she completed a postdoctoral fellowship at Duke University. She specializes in child development and has spent years researching child psychology and neuroscience and providing therapy and clinical services for children of all ages. She has published 18 research articles in peer-reviewed academic journals, written two book chapters, and completed numerous conference presentations. She also recently wrote a children’s book titled What to Do When You Feel Like Hitting which gives children evidence-based strategies to use when they are dysregulated. Goodwin translates recent scientific research into information parents can access and implement in their everyday lives through her Instagram account @parentingtranslator and her website.Related Episodes: Episode 87. Cribsheet with Emily Oster Episode 149. How Not to Lose It With Your Kids with Carla Naumburg Episode 214. How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Jerks with Melinda Wenner Moyer Episode 223. Mom Brain Returns with Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco Episode 245. Family Firm with Emily Oster Episode 267. You Are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Let’s end the unrealistic expectations placed on mothers and give them the freedom to make choices that benefit themselves, their children, and their communities.Join Debbie and Jessica Grose, a writer for The New York Times, as they jump deep into the systemic and cultural challenges of modern motherhood. Through highlights from her book, “Screaming on the Inside”, Jessica offers insights backed by science on how to navigate the tough journey of parenting and answers the big question of whether there is hope for a better future for mothers.With engaging discussions about societal expectations, generational differences in motherhood, and the importance of validation and compassion in the process, Jessica brings a treasure trove of valuable information and guidance. Whether you are a new mom or an experienced parent, this is a thought-provoking conversation that will leave you feeling supported and empowered.Listen and Learn: Before motherhood, what were some of the ideal stories, norms, and expectations that Jessica internalized? What we're seeing at this current cultural moment in parenting and what it means to be a parent that might be different from a couple of generations ago. How the standards of motherhood are embedded in a history of racism and classism. How the COVID pandemic impacted women specifically. The challenges working mothers face and how the pressure to be the “ideal worker” is incompatible with caregiving responsibilities. Why are we not seeing the whole picture when it comes to the way that motherhood is portrayed on social media? Is it time to establish more rigorous limits on our social media usage? What if the bar for being a good mother was simply that your children felt safe and loved? Jessica's personal experience with mom guilt and her tactics for responding to this feeling. Is there hope for sustainable motherhood, and what are some of the positive changes we are already seeing? Resources: Jessica’s website: https://jessicagrose.com Follow Jessica on Twitter @JessGrose, Facebook @Jessica-Grose and Instagram @jessgrosewrites Subscribe to Jessica’s NY Times Newsletter Screaming on the Inside: The Unsustainability of American Motherhood: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780063078352 About Jessica Grose Jessica Grose is an opinion writer at The New York Times. Her new book “Screaming on the Inside: The Unsustainability of American Motherhood” (Mariner Books) is out now! Jess was the founding editor of Lenny, the email newsletter and website. She also writes about women’s health, culture, and grizzly bears. She was named one of LinkedIn’s Next Wave top professionals 35 and under in 2016 and a Glamour “Game Changer” in 2020 for her coverage of the pandemic. Her second novel, SOULMATES, was published in 2016. It’s about a broken marriage, a spiritual awakening, and a murder at a yoga retreat. Soulmates is “delightfully sly” according to Elle, “a killer read” per Cosmopolitan, and “compelling, funny, painful and wry,” says the Globe and Mail. Her debut novel, SAD DESK SALAD, came out in 2012. It takes place at a women’s website and Jess refers to it as “the devil wears sweatpants.” Glamour called it “Dishy, zingy, hilarious.” She was formerly a senior editor at Slate, and an editor at Jezebel. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, New York, the Washington Post, Businessweek, Elle, Cosmopolitan, and many other publications. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband and daughters. Follow her on Twitter @JessGrose and Instagram @JessGroseWrites. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We’ve all been there: saying yes when we really wanted to say no. It happens all the time, from work requests and invitations, or favors for friends. Saying no can result in offense, awkwardness, and sometimes even trouble with relationships and reputations, so we often choose yes instead. However, in this episode, our guest encourages us to change our mindset. Saying no can actually empower us and should be seen as a valuable skill.Author Vanessa Patrick graces this episode to teach us the ins and outs of effective no-saying in her book, The Power of Saying No: The New Science of How to Say No That Puts You in Charge of Your Life. With experience, research, and sage advice to offer, Vanessa emphasizes why mastering the art of "no" is crucial and how to use our own values to make the right decisions.Listen and Learn What fueled Vanessa to research and write about the topic of saying no? When it comes to saying no, why do we find it so difficult? The main drivers of saying ‘yes’ when we want to say ‘no’. The Acquaintance Trap. Why saying yes can actually backfire sometimes. The Spotlight Effect and how you can better manage this when put on the spot. How to use The ART of Empowered Refusal to say no that does not invite pushback. How the two-by-two framework can be used to help categorize an ask and decide if it should be answered with a yes or a no. Tips to manage pushback when we say ‘no’. Do people in power receive fewer consequences for saying no than those from marginalized groups? Resources Vanessa’s website: https://www.vanessapatrick.net/ Follow Vanessa on LinkedIn (@vanessapatrick23), Twitter (@sourcebooks / @vpatrick23), Tik Tok (@sourcebooksnonfiction) and Instagram (@vanpat23) Follow Sourcebooks on Twitter (@sourcebooks), Tik Tok (@sourcebooksnonfiction) and Facebook (@sourcebooksnonfiction) The Power of Saying No: The New Science of How to Say No That Puts You in Charge of Your Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781728251523 Pinkcast 1.17: Why you should say “I don’t” instead of “I can’t.” How to Say No, Resist Temptation, and Stick to Your Health Goals How Saying “I Don’t” at Work Can Change Your Life A Policy of Saying ‘No’ Can Save You Time and Guilt “I Don't” Beats “I Can't” for Self-Control This Simple Trick Makes Breaking Bad Habits Up To 8 Times Easier About Vanessa PatrickVanessa Patrick, PhD, is the Associate Dean for Research, the Bauer Professor of Marketing, and lead faculty of the Executive Women in Leadership Program at the Bauer School of Business at the University of Houston. She has a PhD in business from the University of Southern California and an MBA in marketing and a BS degree in microbiology and biochemistry from Bombay University in India. Patrick is a regular speaker at both academic and practitioner conferences. She lives in Houston, Texas.Related Episodes 130. Working Less with Alex Pang 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez 186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 293. Quit with Annie Duke 298. Drama Free with Nedra Tawwab Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Teenagers naturally experience a rollercoaster of emotions, making everyday pressures and transitional changes overwhelming for parents and adolescents alike. Our guest Lisa Damour, a clinical psychologist, and best-selling author of ‘The Emotional Lives of Teenagers’ emphasizes the integrality of validating teenagers' emotions while also providing a framework on how to understand and support them. In this episode, Lisa reveals what to expect from teenage emotional development, and why we need to change the way we approach adolescent mental health. Learn effective ways to maintain open lines of communication, clearly articulate values, cope with common challenges such as too much gaming time and disengaging at school, and foster deeper bonds. With research-informed explanations and real-life examples, this episode gives parents the tools needed to support their teens through this difficult stage in life.Listen and Learn: From where does the reputation of teenagers derive, and is it justified? Why do teenagers experience such powerful emotions as they transition from childhood to adolescence? The distinction between hot and cold cognition, and how parents can use this knowledge to help their teenagers prepare for situations where they may become overwhelmed or not be able to think clearly. Is it a myth that difficult emotions are damaging or should be avoided? How to help teenagers with expressing their feelings. Why distraction can be an effective coping strategy for teens to regulate their emotions. How communication and a sense of safety can have a meaningful impact on adolescent behavior. Why do teenagers find their parents so ‘annoying’? Are there gender differences in emotion? Resources: For more on Lisa’s work, visit her website: https://drlisadamour.com/ Check out the Ask Lisa podcast: https://drlisadamour.com/resources/podcast/ Order your copy of Lisa’s books: The Emotional Lives of Teenagers: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593500019Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions Into Adulthood: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780553393071Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780399180071Follow Lisa on Facebook (@lisadamourphd), Instagram (@lisa.damour) or Twitter (@LDamour)About Lisa Damour Dr. Lisa Damour is the author of three New York Times best sellers: Untangled, Under Pressure, and The Emotional Lives of Teenagers. She co-hosts the Ask Lisa podcast, works in collaboration with UNICEF, and is recognized as a thought leader by the American Psychological Association. Dr. Damour is also a regular contributor to The New York Times and CBS News.Dr. Damour serves as a Senior Advisor to the Schubert Center for Child Studies at Case Western Reserve University and has written numerous academic papers, chapters, and books related to education and child development. She maintains a clinical practice and also speaks to schools, professional organizations, and corporate groups around the world on the topics of child and adolescent development, family mental health, and adult well-being.Dr. Damour graduated with honors from Yale University and worked for the Yale Child Study Center before earning her doctorate in Clinical Psychology at the University of Michigan. She has been a fellow at Yale’s Edward Zigler Center in Child Development and Social Policy and the University of Michigan’s Power Foundation. She and her husband are the proud parents of two daughters. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Life is an incredible journey full of paradoxical demands that can sometimes feel overwhelming. But what if we could embrace both sides of the equation and turn these tensions into opportunities for growth? This is exactly what our guest Marianne Lewis teaches us in the groundbreaking book Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems that she coauthored with her colleague, Wendy Smith.Delving into the risks of either-or thinking and the vicious cycles that can arise, Marianne and cohost, Yael discuss how binary thinking affects our lives. Packed with tools and lessons that will help you see the world with fresh eyes, you’ll learn tips on how to reframe questions, embrace paradoxes, as well as navigate complex tensions. If you're interested in exploring new ways of thinking and solving tough problems, this episode is for you! Listen and Learn: Why do we have difficulty escaping "either/or" thinking, and what impact does it have? Why is it important to understand and embrace paradoxes in order to move away from binary thinking? Question framing with the word 'how' Negotiating conflict in a constructive way The ways in which identifying a higher purpose can lessen friction between opposing factions A few tips for setting guardrails to help you do your job and all your roles more sustainably The impact of shifting from a scarcity mindset into an abundance mindset Tools for responding to tensions in a positive way Resources: Learn more about Marianne: https://business.uc.edu/faculty-and-research/departments/management/faculty/marianne-lewis.html Follow Marianne on Twitter @mariannewlewis Order Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems at our bookshop: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781647821043 A piece written by Yael that includes a quote from evolutionary psychologist on conflict: https://tricycle.org/article/working-parenthood-conflict/ About Marianne LewisMarianne W. Lewis is dean and professor of management at the College of Business, University of Cincinnati. She previously served as dean of the Business School at City, University of London. A thought leader in organizational paradoxes, she explores tensions surrounding leadership and innovation. Lewis has been recognized among the world’s most-cited researchers in her field and her work has appeared in media outlets, such as Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, and Newsweek. Her latest book Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems is co-authored with her colleague, Wendy Smith.Related Episodes: Episode 51. The Psychology of Political Division with Yael and Debbie Episode 234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer Episode 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's world, society is more polarized than ever before. With people taking positions on issues related to identity, diversity, and justice, engaging in these conversations can seem like a daunting task. Yet, this is precisely what we need to do if we want to build a more just and equitable society. In this regard, our latest episode where Jill Stoddard interviews author David Glasgow is a must-listen. Glasgow's book, "Say the Right Thing: How to Talk About Identity, Diversity, and Justice" provides valuable insights on how to approach these sensitive topics in a way that fosters understanding, empathy, and positive change.The discussion delves into the controversial "cancel culture" and the need to show compassion and understanding towards those who make mistakes. Additionally, he emphasizes the importance of embracing a growth mindset and illustrates strategies to overcome conversational traps and navigate disagreements respectively. Take advantage of this opportunity to learn how to engage in challenging and compassionate conversations. Listen to the episode now!Listen and Learn: How David’s background as a lawyer and personal struggle with belonging influenced his interest and career in social justice, equality, and inclusion. What makes conversations surrounding identity so difficult and why do we shy away from having them in today’s society? Why we should welcome the democratization of discomfort in social conversations. Cancel culture - why we should use this as an opportunity for growth, not villainization. How to respond to conversational traps. What privilege is and is not? Why misunderstandings arise in identity conversations. How to ‘right-size’ feedback in relation to privilege or bias. Tips for respectfully disagreeing. How to apologize effectively using the Four R’s. Is cultural sensitivity helping or hindering the conversation around diversity and identity? Resources: Learn more about David’s work as a diversity and inclusion specialist by visiting his website: https://www.david-glasgow.com/ Get your copy of Say the Right Thing: How to Talk about Identity, Diversity, and Justice at our bookshop: bookshop.org/a/30734/9781982181383 The Meltzer Center for Diversity, Inclusion, and Belonging: law.nyu.edu/centers/belonging Follow David on Twitter (@dvglasgow) Find out more about Deconstructing Karen referenced in the intro of this episode: deconstructingkaren.com Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well The Apology About David Glasgow David Glasgow is the executive director of the Meltzer Center for Diversity, Inclusion, and Belonging and an adjunct professor at NYU School of Law. He has written for a range of publications including the Harvard Business Review, HuffPost, and Slate, and served as an Associate Director of the Public Interest Law Center at NYU School of Law. Please visit him at david-glasgow.com. Related Episodes: 76. Gender and Sexual Minorities with Aisling Leonard-Curtin and Matthew Skinta 96. Effective Conversations About Diversity with Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez 169. Microaggressions, Mental Health Disparities, and Racial Trauma with Monnica Williams 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky 185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David Smith 273. A More Just Future with Dolly Chugh 290. Shared Sisterhood: Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work with Tina Opie and Beth Livingston Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Join host Debbie Sorensen and former co-host and guest Diana Hill as they discuss the power of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and introduce their new resource: The ACT Daily Card Deck. Through personal anecdotes and examples, they emphasize the importance of living in the present moment and taking committed action that aligns with personal values. They also touch on the concepts of self-doubt, impermanence, and the role of emotions in our lives. With their creative exercises, like visiting their younger selves and the watering seeds exercise, they help listeners break down complex therapeutic concepts into everyday language that is easy to understand. Discover practical tools for leading a more fulfilling life that bridge the gap between theory and action. Listen now and learn how you too can benefit from ACT and become the master of your mind.Listen and Learn: Diana and Debbie update us on what they’ve been up to and why they are joining forces for this special episode. The importance of making ACT more accessible in our daily lives. Debbie and Diana demonstrate the six processes of ACT through examples of skills from their new ACT Daily Card Deck - from choosing thoughts, controlling your emotions, and the power of impermanence, to taking committed, value-based action, compassion, perspective taking, and mastering the art of being present. Resources: Order your ACT Daily Card Deck: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781648481239 Go to drdianahill.com or her channels on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube (@drdianahill) to learn more Visit Debbie’s website http://www.drdebbiesorensen.com/ for more information and resources Follow Debbie on Twitter (@debbiesorensen) or Instagram (@drdebbiesorensen) About Diana and Debbie Diana Hill, PhD is a clinical psychologist, international trainer and sought-out speaker on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and compassion. Host of the podcast Your Life in Process and co-author of ACT Daily Journal, Diana works with organizations and individuals to develop psychological flexibility so that they can take wise action toward fulfilling and impactful lives. Integrating her over 20 years of meditation experience with yoga and psychological training, Diana blogs for Psychology Today, and guest teaches at InsightLA, Blue Spirit Costa Rica, PESI, Praxis Continuing Education, Yoga Soup and Insight Timer Meditation. Diana practices what she preaches in her daily life as a mom of two boys and bee guardian. Dr. Debbie Sorensen is a clinical psychologist with a private therapy practice in Denver. She specializes in providing individual Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for adults experiencing burnout, chronic stress, and anxiety. Debbie has a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University, and a bachelor’s degree from the University of Colorado, Boulder. She is a co-author of the book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and a co-founder and co-host the popular psychology podcast Psychologists Off The Clock. She speaks and gives workshops nationally and internationally to mental health providers, schools, and organizations. She loves living in her home state of Colorado and enjoying the Rocky Mountains with her husband, two daughters, and dog. Related Episodes: 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard 195. ACT Daily with Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen 237. Farewell to Diana Hill: Appreciations, Regrets, and Hopes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Let's raise a glass to Debbie, Jill, and Yael as they reach a milestone of 300 episodes on the fabulous Psychologists Off The Clock podcast! Can you believe it? Six-plus years of incredible conversations, phenomenal guests, mind-blowing ideas, and moments have uplifted us all.As they share their reflections on this journey, we get a glimpse of how POTC has transformed their understanding and application of psychology, impacted their lives, and connected them with listeners from all corners of the world. And can we stop to appreciate the wisdom, dedication, and passion they bring to this amazingly valuable show?We are so grateful to be part of this incredible community, and we know Debbie, Jill, and Yael share the same gratitude for all of us listeners who have supported them along the way.Listen and Learn: Yael, Debbie, and Jill marvel at the profound impact the podcast has had on their personal and professional lives The early beginnings of POTC From guests to co-hosts, Jill and Yael share their story Debbie, Jill, and Yael rave about their adoration for the POTC Book Club Stories of positive changes POTC has brought to both listeners and co-hosts A look back at some of the most memorable and meaningful episodes The time Debbie invited Michelle Obama to the podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to this exciting bonus episode where POTC co-host Yael Schonbrun joins the incredible Child Psychologist, Cara Goodwin, for an empowering conversation exploring the artful science of working parenthood on Cara’s podcast, The Parenting Translator.Discover how to use parenting science to guide healthy choices and transform guilt into a powerful tool that aligns with your core values. You'll also gain insights into developing self-compassion and cultivating a growth mindset. Get ready to be inspired to take your parenting journey to the next level. Don't miss this incredible opportunity to learn and grow!Listen and Learn: The concept of work-family enrichment The different pathways in which your competing roles as a working parent can feed each other How an exotic dancer’s experience negotiating with her own children helped her deal with her clients at work Is it possible to achieve the perfect work-family balance? Yael's tips for managing guilt as a working parent Intentional activities that can improve your life as a working parent Does working parenthood get easier as your children grow older? Resources: To learn more about Yael, visit her website: http://yaelschonbrun.com/about/ Visit the Parenting Translator website: https://parentingtranslator.org Tune in to the Parenting Translator Podcast: https://parentingtranslator.org/podcast Follow Yael on Instagram @yaelschonbrun and Twitter @dryaelschonbrun Follow Cara on Instagram @parentingtranslator About Cara GoodwinCara Goodwin, is the founder of Parenting Translator, a mother to three young children, and a licensed psychologist with a PhD in child clinical psychology. Before she had her second child, she spent her days doing research in child psychology and neuroscience, assessing children for developmental problems, doing therapy with children of all ages, and training parents on how to use the most recent scientific findings to help their children.After taking some time off to be with my own children, she became desperate for an intellectual outlet so, on the brink of the COVID-19 pandemic and pregnant with a third child, she decided to start an Instagram account (@parentingtranslator) and website (www.parentingtranslator.com) with the purpose of taking recent scientific research and translating it into information that parents can use in their everyday lives. That IG account has taken off, with considerably over 100K followers, a newsletter, a podcast, and she’s also the author of a kids book titled, What to Do When You Feel Like Hitting: A No Hitting Book for Toddlers.Related Episodes: 87. Cribsheet with Emily Oster 245. Family Firm with Emily Oster 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Over the past few decades, the workplace has undergone tremendous changes. With the rise of technology and globalization, companies operate in a more complex and interconnected world. This has created new challenges for leaders, who must now navigate a wide range of cultural, technological, and economic factors to succeed.We are privileged to have Chris Shipley as our guest on this episode. As a Technology Analyst and Future of Work Strategist, she has honed her expertise in developing effective leadership strategies in today's rapidly evolving and unprecedented workplace. Her recent book, The Empathy Advantage: Leading the Empowered Workforce, provides valuable guidance for leaders at all levels. From how to cultivate empathy and emotional intelligence, build trust, and lead a diverse, and multi-generational workforce. Whether you're an entry-level manager or a seasoned executive, her insights are invaluable for anyone looking to improve their leadership skills. We're delighted to have her share her wisdom with us, and we're confident that you'll be left feeling empowered, inspired, and resilient. Listen and Learn: Some of the significant shifts we're seeing in the workplace The relationship between psychology and leadership Why driving performance rather than productivity builds more economic value The psychological importance of autonomy and flexibility in the workplace How to keep employees engaged and sustain retention in our 'new normal’ The unique challenges younger generations face when entering the workforce What can be done to help different generations work together better The qualities of an empathic leader The changes needed to build a quality team Resources: Learn more about Chris by visiting her website: https://www.cshipley.com/ Order your copy of The Empathy Advantage: Leading the Empowered Workforce: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781394155514 Follow Chris on Twitter and Instagram About Chris ShipleyChris Shipley has documented, influenced, and predicted the impact of technology on business and society for more than 30 years. As a journalist, she covered the tech industry for leading publishing companies. As an analyst, she identified innovative startups and gave them a stage to launch their market-making products. As a catalyst, she has advised hundreds of early-stage companies on positioning, business modeling, and innovation practices.Today, Chris focuses her work on the human and organizational challenges in the face of technology-and economically-driven disruption. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dysfunctional family relationships can be complicated and extremely challenging to navigate, but it's essential to remember that we have the power to change the narrative. Whether you’re dealing with overbearing or abusive parents, toxic siblings, or any other form of unhealthy behavior, it can be difficult to know how to break free from these patterns and create more positive connections.This is where our guest Nedra Tawwab, a renowned therapist, New York Times bestselling author, and relationship expert, comes in. We are thrilled to welcome Nedra back to Psychologist's Off the Clock to discuss her latest book, Drama Free. A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships.With her relatable and practical guide, Nedra provides valuable tips on identifying and managing unhealthy family relationships that may be causing distress and turmoil in your life.Her expertise will empower you to take control of your life, move away from toxic behavior, and build stronger, healthier connections. Remember that you have the strength and resilience to overcome any obstacles. Don't let your past define your future!Listen and Learn: Nedra introduces us to what unhealthy patterns of a dysfunctional family can look like How to identify dysfunctional patterns within your own family How childhood dysfunction can impact people and their adult relationships Why trust issues commonly result from dysfunctional family relationships The importance of boundary setting, especially for those who come from dysfunctional environments The line between enabling versus helping The most common obstacles to making changes within dysfunctional relationships Strategies for boundary setting Nedra’s advice for people handling the guilt and the grief that comes with change within a family system How to handle pushback when dealing with unhealthy patterns of behavior Resources: Visit Nedra’s website: https://www.nedratawwab.com Order your copy of Nedra’s book Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593539279 Learn more about Group Therapy practice Kaleidoscope Counseling: https://www.kaleidoscopecounselingpllc.com/ Follow Nedra on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter - @nedratawwab About Nedra Glover Tawwab Nedra Glover Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. She has practiced relationship therapy for 15 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Every day she helps people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others. Nedra earned her undergraduate and graduate degrees from Wayne State University in Detroit, MI. She has additional certifications in working with families and couples and in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, plus advanced training for counseling adults who've experienced childhood emotional neglect. Nedra has appeared as an expert on Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS Morning Show to name a few. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Vice and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including Good Life Project, Sofia with an F, and Therapy For Black Girls. She runs a popular Instagram account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and hosts weekly Q&As. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you find yourself struggling to connect with the adolescents in your life, don't worry, you're not alone! The truth is, building relationships with teens and young adults can be challenging, but with the right mindset and approach, anything is possible.Get ready to be inspired by our guest, Emily Kline, a Harvard-trained clinical psychologist who has written a practical and research-backed guide called "The School of Hard Talks: How to Have Real Conversations with Your (Almost Grown) Kids". Whether you're a parent, teacher, mentor, or just someone who wants to connect better with the younger generation, this book is a must-read for improving communication and building stronger relationships with young people. So, let's dive in and explore some of the key insights and tips that Emily has to offer.Listen and Learn: The guiding principles of motivational interviewing for adolescents How is motivational interviewing helpful What we know about expressed emotion and how it can empower parents Why adolescents are often more willing to follow the advice and direction of supportive parents than those who demand obedience Emily breaks down the foundational skills needed for hard conversations with young adults using clinical scenarios Resources: Visit Emily’s Website: www.dremilykline.com Order your copy of The School of Hard Talks: How to Have Real Conversations with Your (Almost Grown) Kids: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781632174703 Follow Emily on Instagram and TikTok @learnaboutmilo Psychology Today Blog:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-school-of-hard-talks A Minor Revolution: How Prioritizing Kids Benefits Us All by Adam Benforado: https://bookshop.org/p/books/a-minor-revolution-how-prioritizing-kids-benefits-us-all-adam-benforado/18501375?ean=9781984823045 Influence is Your Superpower by Zoe Chace: https://bookshop.org/p/books/influence-is-your-superpower-the-science-of-winning-hearts-sparking-change-and-making-good-things-happen-zoe-chance/16987804?ean=9781984854339 About Emily Kline:Emily Kline is a clinical psychologist and writer who has held faculty positions in psychiatry at Boston University and at Harvard Medical School. She created a simple motivational interviewing curriculum for family caregivers and The School of Hard Talks Online free e-course, and her book, The School of Hard Talks: How to Have Real Conversations with You Almost Grown Kids is now available. Emily lives with her husband and children who graciously beta-test her experiments in family communication and a dog who can’t be reasoned with at all.Related Episodes: Episode 66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing with Nadine Mastroleo Episode 78. The Self-Driven Child with William Stixrud Episode 135. Power of Empathy and Motivational Interviewing with Stephen Rollnick Episode 205. Thrivers with Michele Borba Episode 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When it comes to money and love, the two are inextricably linked. Whether it's choosing where to settle down, starting a family, or taking that new job opportunity, our financial situation and our relationships always come into play.Thankfully, with the expert guidance of our guest Abby Davisson who co-authored the brilliant resource, "Money and Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life's Biggest Decisions" we can navigate these tricky waters with grace, ease, and confidence. Using Abby’s 5Cs framework, she offers guidance on how to strike a harmonious balance between love and money. With research-based insights and real-life examples, we learn how to holistically make value-driven decisions that are both financially sound and emotionally fulfilling. So let's dive in and discover the easy and practical steps to make strategic decisions that yield better results, without having to compromise your professional or personal life. Listen and Learn: How money and love are so intimately intertwined and why this was the catalyst for the book Abby co-authored with Myra Strober The 5Cs framework for big making decisions that involve money and love What is mimetic desire and why you should be aware of this The importance of identifying your core values in helping you to align your decisions with those values Examples of when it is a good idea to get input on decisions you are making and when is it not How to fairly decide who does what in a relationship using the 5Cs as a guide Resources: Visit Abby’s website for more information: https://www.abbydavisson.com Purchase Abby’s book, "Money and Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life's Biggest Decisions": https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780063117518 About Abby Davisson Abby Davisson is a social innovation leader and career development expert. Most recently, she spent nine years at global retailer Gap Inc., where she served as president of the Gap Foundation and co-founded the company’s employee resource group for parents. You can find more information on her book “Money and Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life’s Biggest Decisions” at https://www.moneylovebook.com. Press information is available at https://www.moneylovebook.com/press-kit.Related Episodes: 142. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) with Patrick McGinnis 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky 206. Fair Play Part 2 with Eve Rodsky 217. Redefining Rich with Shannon Hayes 238. Values During Times of Transition (with Us) 249. How to Be Single & Happy with Jenny Taitz 291. Finding Freedom from Regret with Robert Leah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When it comes to self-help, it's important to be cautious of information that seems too good to be true. Especially, in today's world of digital wellness influencers where there is a lot of misinformation out there that could cause you more harm than good. Subsequently, it's essential to thoroughly research products and services before making any decisions or commitments. To raise awareness about this issue, we (Debbie, Jill, and Yael) got together to co-host an episode dedicated to this very important conversation. We also invited Pooja Lakshmin, a board-certified psychiatrist and author of the book ‘Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness’ to discuss the nuances of pseudoscience and what it means to practice real self-care. Expect evidence-based self-care methods, in addition to tips on how to do your due diligence as a consumer. Listen and Learn: What led Pooja to make some pretty drastic decisions in her own quest for self-care The differentiators between faux self-care and real self-care The idea of using ‘pauses’ when making decisions and boundary setting Pseudoscience and the challenges it poses to the field of psychology Examples of scientists behaving badly Red flags for identifying faux self-care Suggestibility: we can be easily influenced in ways that are problematic Resources: Guest Learn more about Pooja and her work as a psychiatrist, author, founder, and speaker: https://www.poojalakshmin.com Order your copy of Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included): https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593489727 ArticlesControversy Over Ego Depletion/Decision-FatigueBooks Quick Fix: Why Fad Psychology Can’t Cure Our Social Ills by Jesse Singal Gospel of Wellness: Gyms, Gurus, Goops, and the False Promise of Self-Care by Rina Raphael American Detox: The Myth of Wellness and How We Can Truly Heal by Kerri Kelly Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know by Adam Grant Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion by Paul Bloom Podcasts Maintenance Phase Conspirituality The Daily: Women Have Been Misled About Menopause About Pooja LakshminPooja Lakshmin is a psychiatrist, New York Times contributor, an assistant professor at George Washington University, and a leading voice at the intersection of mental health and gender with a focus on helping individuals escape the tyranny of self-care. In 2020, she founded Gemma, a physician-led women’s mental health platform centering on impact and equity. She also maintains a private practice where she treats women struggling with burnout and perfectionism, as well as clinical conditions like depression and anxiety. Her new book which we are here to discuss, Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths not Included) is out now.Related Episodes: 65. Self-Care, Kindness, and Living Well with Kelly Wilson 105. The Self-Care Prescription with Robyn Gobin 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan Pollak 201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Neff 262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Let's talk about the magic that is improvisation, or what us cool kids call "improv." It's an art form that's all about unleashing your creativity and performing without a script or plan. Sure, you may have heard of it as a side-splitting comedy act, but improv goes a lot deeper than that. From acting to business to mental health, improv skills can be applied in various areas of life. Enter Kelly Leonard, the VP of Creative Strategy, Innovation, and Business Development at the infamous Second City in Chicago. Kelly, who over the decades has produced hundreds of original revues with comedians such as Stephen Colbert, Tina Fey, and Seth Meyers (to name a few) has a unique understanding of behavioral science through the lens of improv. Regaling us with lessons and stories from his career and book, ‘Yes And’, we learn how to utilize improv to help us adapt, empathize, communicate, trust, and collaborate better. We are reminded that saying ‘yes’ to new ideas and experiences sparks creativity and can lead to beneficial outcomes. From deepening our relationships with others by practicing active listening and learning to accept and appreciate new ideas, regardless of their origin. It also teaches us to think on our feet and work together to create innovative solutions to problems.Listen and Learn: How Stephen Colbert came to write a blurb for Kelly’s book, Yes, and: How Improvisation Reverses No, But Thinking and Improves Creativity and Collaboration Why so many successful comedy performers have an improv background How improv skills can help us to empathize, communicate and collaborate The idea of the ‘Yes And’ exercise Why Kelly prefers to use the word ensemble vs. team Improv's positive impact on caregiver burden and depression An introduction to the ‘I Am Somebody Who’ exercise Why adopting a Yes And mentality helps create a psychologically safe environment How improv can be applied in therapy If improv were an animal, what animal would it be? What’s next for Kelly’s work in science and the arts Resources: Learn more about Kelly: https://www.secondcity.com/people/kelly-leonard+ Get your copy of Yes, And: How Improvisation Reverses No, But Thinking and Improves Creativity and Collaboration: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780062248541 Check out The Second City website: https://www.secondcity.com/ Listen to Kelly’s podcast, Getting to Yes And: https://www.secondcityworks.com/podcast About Kelly Leonard Kelly Leonard is the Executive Director of Learning and Applied Improvisation at Second City Works. His book, “Yes, And: Lessons from The Second City” was released to critical acclaim in 2015 by HarperCollins and was praised by Michael Lewis in Vanity Fair who called it “...an excellent guide to the lessons that have bubbled up in Second City’s improv workshops.” Kelly is a popular speaker on the power of improvisation to transform people’s lives. He has presented at The Aspen Ideas Festival, The Code Conference,TEDx Broadway, Chicago Ideas Festival, The Stanford Graduate School of Business and for companies such as Coca Cola, Microsoft, Twitter, Memorial Sloan Kettering and DDB Worldwide. Kelly co-created an initiative with the Center for Decision Research at the Booth School at the University of Chicago, The Second Science Project, that looks at behavioral science through the lens of improvisation. He also hosts the podcast, “Getting to Yes, And,” for Second City Works and WGN radio that features interviews with academics, authors and leaders such as Brene Brown, Adam Grant, Michael Lewis, Lindy West, Ash Carter and Amy Edmondson.For over twenty years, Kelly oversaw Second City’s live theatrical divisions where he helped generate original productions with such talent as Tina Fey, Stephen Colbert, Amy Poehler, Seth Meyers, Steve Carell, Keegan Michael Key, Amy Sedaris, Adam McKay and others. In 2019, Arts Alliance Illinois awarded Kelly and his wife Anne Libera with their Creative Voice Award. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Quitting is often viewed as a sign of failure, but in some cases, it might be the best decision. Whether it's quitting a bad habit, a job, or an unhealthy relationship, it is always important to know when to call it quits.Annie Duke, an expert in decision-making and author of Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away, inspires us to feel empowered and proud when we choose to quit. She encourages us to embrace the freedom and opportunity that comes with knowing when to let go and move on to something better. So, let us be bold and confident in our choices to quit, and relish the journey of growth and self-discovery that follows.Listen and Learn: Annie’s thoughts on Tom Brady's repeated retirements Why is there such a stigma around quitting Defining expected value decisions How to wisely use expected value decisions The sunk cost fallacy and some ways that we can manage this Asso Teller’s monkeys and pedestals tool for quitting Growth mindset and quitting goals Resources: Learn more about Annie’s work on her website: https://www.annieduke.com/ Get your copy of Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593422991 Alliance for Decision Education: https://www.annieduke.com/the-alliance-for-decision-education/ Connect with Annie on Twitter or Instagram About Annie DukeAnnie is an author, corporate speaker, and consultant in the decision-making space, and a former professional poker player who is the only woman to have won the World Series of Poker Tournament of Champions and the NBC National Poker Heads-Up Championship. Annie’s previous book, Thinking in Bets, is a national bestseller, and her latest book Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away is, in our humble opinion, nothing short of transformative. We are here to discuss Quit today. Related Episodes: 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth291. Finding Freedom From Regret with Robert Leahy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Having a narcissistic parent while growing up can be incredibly difficult and painful. The emotional instability of the relationship can be detrimental to one's sense of self-worth, making it hard to trust others and form healthy relationships. Furthermore, the lack of consistent support and nurturing can lead to feelings of insecurity and the fear of being abandoned.Be inspired by our guest Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg, a clinical psychologist and author of ‘Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserve’. Through her research on narcissistic parenting, Stephanie has dedicated her work to helping adults lead healthier and happier lives. If you experienced a childhood with a narcissistic parent, let Dr. Kriesberg guide you in managing the difficulties of this complex relationship so you can live life on your own terms. Listen and Learn: Stephanie’s experience working with women who are impacted by narcissistic parenting The significance of the relationship between daughters and mothers The core features of narcissism How narcissism impacts the parent-child dynamic What does gaslighting look like How does growing up in a home with a narcissistic mother impact other relationships within the family Examples of the patterns female adults who grew up with a narcissistic mother might exhibit The work involved in grieving the parent you had versus the parent you wanted Setting boundaries with a narcissistic mother Resources: Visit Stephanie’s website: https://www.drstephaniekriesberg.com/ Buy Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserve at our Bookshop page: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781648480096 About Dr. Stephanie KriesbergDr. Stephanie Kriesberg brings over twenty-five years of experience to her practice. She has extensive training in the treatment of anxiety disorders and in the use of clinical hypnosis. Recently she was honored to be elected as President-Elect of the New England Society for Clinical Hypnosis. She is the author of the book Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the critical voice in your head, heal self-doubt, and live the life you deserve.Related Episodes: 98. Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser 226. ACT for Perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp 250. Anxiety and Perfectionism with Clarissa Ong 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel 263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson 274. Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood with Satya Doyle Byock Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We have all experienced a feeling of regret at some point in our lives. It can be a deep sadness and disappointment that results from realizing how we could have done things differently or a feeling of guilt or shame that we experience when we make a mistake. Regret is a powerful emotion, one that can send us spiraling. However, it is possible to move beyond it and not become stuck in the feeling of despair.Discussing his remarkable guide, If Only...: Finding Freedom from Regret, we are honored to be joined by renowned psychologist and the Founder of the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy, Dr. Robert Leahy. As we explore the impact of regret, we gain insight and actionable exercises from Robert on how it can be utilized as a valuable tool to create opportunities and inform our decisions in more productive ways. Listen in to understand and manage regret, so that it doesn't control your life!Listen and Learn: What is regret? Using the multiple selves concept to avoid regretful decisions How different styles of decision-making lead to more or less regret What distinguishes productive regret from unproductive regret How to identify when you are caught in an unproductive cycle versus using regret productively Existential perfectionism and regret Why is regret a more dominant experience in modern times The negation exercise The importance of risk assessment in managing regret Resources: Visit the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy website: https://www.cognitivetherapynyc.com/dr-robert-leahy/ Watch Barry Schwartz’s, The Paradox of Choice TEDx Talk mentioned in this episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VO6XEQIsCoM Grab your copy of If Only...: Finding Freedom from Regret: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781462547821 About Robert L. LeahyRobert L. Leahy is the Founder and Director of the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy in NYC, Clinical Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College, and Past-President of the Association of Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies, The Academy of Cognitive Therapy, and The International Association of Cognitive Therapy. He is the recipient of the Aaron T. Beck Award for outstanding contributions in CBT, is the author of 29 books and is a frequent keynote speaker and presenter of workshops worldwide. His new book is If Only...Finding Freedom from Regret. Related Episodes: Episode 48. Practical Wisdom with Barry Schwartz Episode 130. Working Less with Alex Pang Episode 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz Episode 226. ACT for Perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp Episode 232. Grounded to Soar with Brad Stulberg Episode 242. Four Thousand Weeks with Oliver Burkeman Episode 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

To make our world a more harmonious and equitable place, we must take the time to build bridges across the divides of race and gender. This can be challenging, but it is an essential step to take in order to remove bias, reduce tensions, forge deeper connections, eliminate disparities, and create respect, trust, and greater understanding among all people. Dr. Tina Opie and Dr. Beth A. Livingston, co-authors of Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work, join us for this episode to discuss how they are driving gender and racial equity in organizations. Their groundbreaking book provides leaders and individuals with effective guidance and tools on how to establish a safe, and equitable work environment.Learn why gender equity cannot be realized without also striving for racial equity, and how we can move beyond individual solutions toward collective action to effectively bridge the gap. Hear first-hand stories and get practical tips on how we can work together across challenging divides and develop collaborative approaches that can transform the workplace and our lives. Listen and Learn: What brought Beth and Tina together as friends, colleagues, and co-authors A history of the divide between black and white women Inauthenticity surrounding the conversation on racism The shortcomings of feminist movements that white feminists should be aware of The overarching goal of the shared sisterhood approach and what it has to offer The three-step process for individuals to build Shared Sisterhood Resources: Grab your copy of Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work at our Bookshop page: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781647822835 Learn more about Opie Consulting Group: https://www.opieconsultinggroup.com/about-tina-opie Check out Tina’s website: https://www.drtinaopie.com/ Visit Beth’s website: https://bethalivingston.com/ Connect with Tina on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook Connect with Beth on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook About Tina Opie and Beth A. LivingstonDr. Tina R. Opie is an associate professor of management at Babson College, and an award-winning teacher, researcher, and consultant. She is a sought-after speaker and has advised large firms in the financial services, entertainment, media, beauty, educational, and healthcare industries. Her research has appeared in such outlets as O Magazine, the Washington Post, the Boston Globe, and Harvard Business Review, and has been published in multiple academic journals. Dr. Beth A. Livingston is an Associate Professor in Management and Entrepreneurship at the University of Iowa’s Tippie College of Business. She is a researcher, speaker, and consultant, working with large companies and nonprofits. Her research has been highlighted in the New York Times, Harvard Business Review, and on NPR and has been published in several top academic journals.Together, they have co-authored the book Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work.Related Episodes: 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen 96. Effective Conversations About Diversity with Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado 169. Microaggressions, Mental Health Disparities, and Racial Trauma with Monnica Williams 185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David Smith 256. Social Justice Parenting with Traci Baxley 262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us 265. The Power of Emotions at Work with Karla McLaren 279. ACT for Healing Black Racial Trauma with Jennifer Shepard Payne 273. A More Just Future with Dolly Chugh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It can be hard to find feelings of happiness in our lives. After all, life is unpredictable and we’re all facing our own unique challenges. Nonetheless, it is possible to find happiness, even during difficult times. Specializing in the science of well-being, Clinical Psychologist, Jonah Paquette is dedicated to helping us understand the significance of positive psychological principles in achieving happiness. Drawing from learnings in his book, Happily Even After: Daily Practices to Recover Joy After Hardship, Heartache, and Heartbreak, Jonah offers us practical exercises to strengthen our 'emotional fitness', reduce suffering and build resilience even amid challenging times. Whether you’re facing a challenging situation in life, or simply want to know how to cultivate more happiness and peace, this episode will provide you with actionable steps on how to do just that.Listen and Learn: How can we expect to build happiness in the face of hardship, heartache, or heartbreak Why Jonah uses the term ‘emotional fitness’ and how this skill can help you in challenging times Distinguishing between happiness and toxic positivity Practices to help you cultivate emotional fitness What is awe and how it relates to happiness How can we access the experience of awe in times of hardship Creative ways to find connection when you feel the most isolated Resources: Get to know more about Jonah: https://www.jonahpaquette.com Subscribe to Jonah’s newsletter: https://www.jonahpaquette.com/site/contact Check out Jonah's books: Happily Even After: Daily Practices to Recover Joy After Hardship, Heartache, and Heartbreak and Awestruck: How Embracing Wonder Can Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Connected Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About JonahJonah Paquette, PsyD, is a psychologist, author, and speaker who specializes in the science of well-being and emotional fitness. He is the author of four books including Happily Even After, Awestruck, The Happiness Toolbox, and Real Happiness. Jonah’s writing aims to provide readers with practical, research-backed strategies to foster greater well-being and connection in our everyday lives. In addition to his clinical work and writing, Jonah offers training and consultation to organizations on the promotion of well-being and conducts professional workshops for clinicians around the country and abroad. He is a sought-after media contributor, having been featured regularly in print, online, radio, and podcast outlets. To learn more about Jonah and his work, visit www.jonahpaquette.com. Related Episodes: 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen 97. The New Happiness with Matthew McKay 192. Happier With Tal Ben-Shahar 227. The Science of Happy with Sonja Lyubomirsky 122. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson 280. Choose Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 251. Wonder with Frank Keil Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We all want to live a fun and fulfilling life, but the hustle and bustle of everyday life can leave us feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. That's why it's so important to make time for fun, even as an adult. From reducing stress to better relationships and improving mental and physical health, carving out time for fun activities can have a transformative impact on many aspects of our lives. Mike Rucker, an organizational psychologist, is here to share his best practices for incorporating fun habits into our day-to-day lives. Illustrating scientific evidence from his book, The Fun Habit: How the Pursuit of Joy and Wonder Can Change Your Life, we discover why fun is beneficial and what fun habits you can create to make life more enjoyable. So, let's dive in and learn why fun isn't just for kids—it's an essential part of adult life too.Listen and Learn: Fun: what is it all about? What makes fun different from happiness Why is it beneficial for us to prioritize fun as busy adults? Finding time for fun The importance of reminiscing on fun experiences The question of friendship or parenting How to create and maintain fun habits The Rucker-PLAY model How to incorporate more fun into our friendships Resources: To learn more about creating fun habits, visit Mike’s website: https://michaelrucker.com/ Visit https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781982159054 to purchase The Fun Habit: How the Pursuit of Joy and Wonder Can Change Your Life. Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Mike Rucker Dr. Mike Rucker is an organizational psychologist and charter member of the International Positive Psychology Association whose work has been published in the International Journal of Workplace Health Management and Nutrition Research. His ideas about fun and health have been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Fast Company, The Telegraph, Psychology Today, Forbes, Vox, Thrive Global, mindbodygreen, and more. Named one of ten digital changemakers by the Healthcare Information and Management Systems Society, he currently serves as a senior leader at Active Wellness.Related Episodes: 99. Make the Most of Your Time with Laura Vanderkam 130. Working Less with Alex Pang 192. Happier With Tal Ben-Shahar 247. Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky 251. Wonder with Frank Keil 271. Cultivating Friendships in Adulthood Featuring Adam Dorsay Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a powerful practice that has been proven to effectively reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety. But, while CBT can help bring us relief in the short term, it doesn't always create lasting change. That’s why many mental health professionals are now combining CBT with another technique - mindfulness. By combining the two practices, we can start to create long-term improvements in our behavior, thoughts, and attitudes.Here to discuss research-based practices from his recently published book, Mindful Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, A Simple Path to Healing, Hope and Peace, is best-selling author and psychologist, Seth Gillihan. Seth offers a model of fresh and practical strategies that build upon traditional techniques of CBT to transcend our capacity to control negative thinking and take the right steps to live in the present and enjoy life. Tune in to learn how these powerful practices can unlock a new path to healing. Listen and Learn: Seth's experience sharing so much of his personal mental health struggle in his book What mindfulness can do to help transcend the limitations of cognitive behavioral therapy Why mindfulness has lost its essence and how we can use mindfulness in a way that's beneficial An introduction to mindfulness for someone who might be resistant Acceptance vs. passivity Seth’s thoughts on psychiatric medication as a form of mental health treatment The relationship between cognitive behavioral therapy and acceptance and commitment therapy Resources: Learn more about Seth here: https://sethgillihan.com/ Check out Seth’s podcast: https://sethgillihan.com/podcasts/ Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Seth GillihanSeth Gillihan, PhD, is a licensed psychologist who specializes in mindful cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). He was a full-time faculty member at the University of Pennsylvania from 2008 to 2012, and taught in the Psychology Department at Haverford College from 2012-2015. He has been in private practice since 2012. Seth completed a doctorate in psychology at the University of Pennsylvania. He is the author of multiple books on mindfulness and CBT, Therapy Advisor with the self-therapy app Bloom, a medical reviewer for Everyday Health, and host of the Think Act Be podcast.Related Episodes: 80. Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics with Jeff Warren 257. The Gift of being ordinary with Ron Siegel 207. Burnout with Debbie and Jill 280. Choose Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Alcohol is a pervasive part of many of our lives, but have you ever questioned your relationship with alcohol? Taking an honest look at the way we use alcohol can be a powerful tool in identifying our motivations behind drinking, allowing us to make more conscious decisions and better manage our consumption. Therapist, Author, and Founder of Therapy for Women, Amanda E. White is determined to challenge the traditional “black-and-white” outlook on “alcoholism” by encouraging people to unlock a deeper understanding of their relationship with alcohol. Exploring practices from Amanda’s books Not Drinking Tonight, A Guide to Creating A Sober Life and Not Drinking Tonight: The Workbook: A Clinician's Guide to Helping Clients Examine Their Relationship with Alcohol, we examine how to identify the purpose alcohol serves in your life and how to use this knowledge to recognize patterns of unhealthy behavior, develop boundaries and create a healthier lifestyle. Listen and Learn: Amanda’s own journey with alcohol Why people don't have the language to explore their relationship with alcohol Why Amanda’s books are geared toward people who don’t necessarily meet the criteria for an alcohol use disorder Why the black-and-white mentality of alcohol is problematic What makes us feel obligated to give the right reason for not drinking alcohol How therapists can examine the issue of alcohol use with their own patients Why do emotional relationships with alcohol make it increasingly harder to cut ties Why Amanda coined the term ‘disordered drinking’ How mindfulness practices can be helpful for people who want to change their drinking habits The importance of self-care in cutting down or quitting drinking What to do if we think a loved one’s relationship with alcohol is problematic, but they don't agree or they don't see it Resources: Learn more about Amanda and her work here: https://amandaewhite.com/ If you are looking for modern approaches to therapy, visit Therapy for Women: https://therapyforwomencenter.com/ You can buy both of Amanda’s books here: Not Drinking Tonight, A Guide to Creating A Sober Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780306925856 and Not Drinking Tonight: The Workbook: A Clinician's Guide to Helping Clients Examine Their Relationship with Alcohol: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781683735519 Follow Amanda on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyforwomen/ About Amanda E. White Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular Instagram account @therapyforwomen. She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating A Sober Life You Love,” and the corresponding workbook by the same title. She is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. In her clinical work, she specializes in substance use disorders. People are drawn to Amanda’s unique expertise, accessible approach to healing and mental health. She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Self, Shape, Women’s Health Magazine, and more. Related Episodes: 27. Alcohol and the Brain with Lara Ray 43. Willpower With Kelly McGonigal 66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing With Nadine Mastroleo 202. The Addiction Inoculation with Jess Lahey 215. How to Change with Katy Milkman 233. Dopamine Nation with Anna Lembke 235. The Urge: The Shaping of Addiction & Mental Health with Carl Erik Fisher 243. Motivation to Get it Done with Ayelet Fishbach Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Taking the time to reflect on our values and goals is an essential practice for living a meaningful life. By considering what is most important to us, we can gain a greater understanding of our place and purpose in this world. It can help us to determine what direction to go in and how to prioritize our time and energy. Reflecting on our values and goals can also help us to stay motivated and inspired as we work towards achieving them.Valerie Tiberius, Professor of Philosophy, is here to provide us with a practical look at how to define and fulfill our values and goals. Through illustrative examples from her book, What Do You Want Out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters, Valerie guides us in finding our true purpose in life and how to get there. With her wise words and actionable advice, you’ll unlock the power to create the life you want and overcome obstacles to achieving it. Don't let this opportunity pass, take the chance to define your aspirations and make the most out of life!Listen and Learn: How psychology and philosophy intertwine to improve well-being An introduction to values fulfillment theory of well-being and what it has to offer Defining values and goals from a philosophical perspective Are some values better than other values? Managing conflict between competing goals Reinterpreting values When is it time to give up a goal that is important to you? Strategies for figuring out your values and what you want out of life How our moral values harmonize with our other values Real-world barriers that prevent us from realizing our goals Resources: Learn more about Valerie: https://www.valerietiberius.com/ Get Valerie’s book, What Do You Want out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780691240688 Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Valerie TiberiusValerie Tiberius is the Paul W. Frenzel Chair in Liberal Arts and Professor of Philosophy at the University of Minnesota. Her work explores the ways in which philosophy and psychology can both contribute to the study of well-being and virtue. She is the author of The Reflective Life: Living Wisely With Our Limits (Oxford 2008), Moral Psychology: A Contemporary Introduction (Routledge 2015), Well-Being as Value Fulfillment: How We Can Help Others to Live Well (Oxford, 2018), and What Do You Want out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters (Princeton University Press, 2023). She has published numerous articles on the topics of practical reasoning, prudential virtues, well-being, and moral psychology, and has received grants from the Templeton Foundation and the National Endowment for the Humanities. She served as President of the Central Division of the American Philosophical Association from 2016-17.Related Episodes: 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune 118. Moral Injury and Shame with Lauren Borges and Jacob Farnsworth 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser 192. Happier With Tal Ben-Shahar 238. Values During Times of Transition (with Us) 247. Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 280. Choose Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We often form deep emotional relationships with things that are important to us, from cherished items to hobbies and more materialistic possessions. But why do we become so emotionally attached to the things that we love and how does this affect our lives?Here to delve deeper into the topic and talk about his book, The Things We Love: How Our Passions Connect Us and Make Us Who We Are, is author and expert on non-interpersonal love, Dr. Aaron Ahuvia. We explore the psychology of how passions shape our identity and connect us in meaningful ways, as well as offer advice for optimizing how we love and use our things to live more value-aligned lives.Listen and Learn: Is the word 'love' accurate in describing how we feel, or is it just hyperbole? The parallels that exist in relationships between people and the relationships between people and the objects that they love Why do we get more frustrated with objects we love than the people we love? The ability to love things isn't a flaw in human nature, but rather a useful trait Loving things can detract from loving people - how to find the balance What can materialistic people do to love things more deeply? Letting go of objects that you are emotionally attached to How attachment styles with people translate to our attachment style with objects Tips for using our things in more value-aligned ways Resources: Visit Dr. Aaron Ahuvia’s site for more on his work: https://thethingswelove.com/about-aaron/ Sign up for Aaron’s blog: https://thethingswelove.com/subscribe/ For even more insights on the things we love, check out Aaron’s article on Peace, Love, and Happiness (and Marketing): https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/peace-love-and-happiness-and-marketing Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Dr. Aaron AhuviaDr. Aaron Ahuvia is the most widely published and cited academic expert on non-interpersonal love. A scientific study listed him as one of the top 20 most influential scientists studying consumer behavior, out of thousands US researchers working on related topics.Dr. Ahuvia has been at the forefront of this research since he published the first major scientific study on this topic entitled I Love It! Towards a Unifying Theory of Love Across Diverse Love Objects, over twenty years ago. Professor Ahuvia has over 100 academic papers and conference presentations. His research has been quoted in Time, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Glamour, and major publications in Europe and Japan. Dr. Ahuvia has also appeared on public radio talk shows as well as popular Television shows such as the Oprah Winfrey Show.Related Episodes: Episode 196. The Neuroscience of Marketing with Matt Johnson and Prince Ghuman Episode 249. How to Be Single & Happy with Jenny Taitz Episode 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance Episode 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Happy New Year, dear listeners! As we begin this new year, it's a great time to start developing some new healthy habits. It may seem like a challenge, but we can do it! Let's make this year a time for taking care of ourselves and striving for the best version of ourselves.If you're serious about your health but don't feel the urge to jump out of bed, drag yourself to the gym, and reward your progress with a kale smoothie, this episode is for you! We all know what constitutes a healthy lifestyle, but it can be hard to stay consistent, especially when it feels like a chore!Join Debbie for an engaging discussion with Dr. Dayna Lee-Baggley, author of Healthy Habits Suck: How to Get Off the Couch and Live a Healthy Life….Even if You Don’t Want To, about evidence-based strategies on how to overcome the internal obstacles that make behavior change hard, and how to sustain lifelong healthy habits.Listen and Learn: Why healthy habits violate the hard-wiring of our “caveman brain” How linking health habits to values can make them more meaningful and build motivation The benefits of focusing on behaviors rather than outcomes to foster success What is a “smart goal” and how to make them work for you How to work with the thoughts and emotions that makes healthy habits hard Resources: Visit Dayna's website: https://drleebaggley.com/about/ Listen to the interview Make the Most of Your Time with Laura Vanderkam mentioned in this episode here: https://offtheclockpsych.com/time/ Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Dayna Lee-BaggleyDr. Dayna Lee-Baggley is a Registered Clinical Psychologist in Nova Scotia, British Columbia, Ontario and Alberta with reciprocal agreements for clients in Atlantic Canada and Quebec. For close to 15 years she worked as a Clinical Health Psychologist for medical, surgery, and cancer care units at the hospital. She has taken all this experience to open Dr. Lee-Baggley and Associates, a virtual health psychology clinic offering clinical interventions, training for healthcare providers, and educational courses on health related topics. She holds an Assistant Professor appointment in the Department of Family Medicine and a cross-appointment in the Department of Psychology and Neuroscience at Dalhousie University and an Adjunct Professor appointment in the Department of Industrial and Organizational Psychology at Saint Mary’s University. She is an internationally recognized trainer in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.Related Episodes: 4. Habits: The Science of Behavior Change (Part 1) 5. From Awareness to Action: Behavior Change (Part 2) 43. Willpower With Kelly McGonigal 72. Committed Action with DJ Moran 132. The Joy Of Movement With Kelly McGonigal 167. Get Curious and Change Unhealthy Habits with Judson Brewer 215. How to Change with Katy Milkman 231. Eating Skills and Emotional Eating with Josh Hillis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Toxic positivity is a phenomenon that has become increasingly prevalent in recent years. It is characterized by the constant reinforcement of an overly optimistic attitude, to the point of ignoring, invalidating, or minimizing the hardships or feelings faced by individuals. This can create a sense of disconnect between people. It can also be detrimental to those struggling with mental health issues, as it invalidates their experiences and makes them feel like they are not allowed to have genuine emotions. To address the concept and challenges of toxic positivity to individuals and relationships, we consulted Psychotherapist, Whitney Goodman. Walking us through her book aptly titled Toxic Positivity: Keeping It Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy, Whitney helps us understand how to create an atmosphere of open communication, where people can be honest about their feelings without fear of judgment or invalidation.Listen and Learn: Toxic positivity: what does it mean? The repercussions of toxic positivity How toxic positivity can stunt creativity What does healthy non-toxic positivity look like? Why has the concept of toxic positivity become so controversial? How to avoid toxic positivity Toxic positivity in the workplace: challenges and solutions How do we let go of toxic positivity? The benefits and drawbacks of complaining Resources: Learn more about Whitney on her site: https://sitwithwhit.com/ Grab your copy of Toxity Positivity: Keeping It Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593418277 Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Whitney GoodmanWhitney Goodman, LMFT, is the radically honest psychotherapist behind the hugely popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit. She is also an author and the owner of The Collaborative Counseling Center, a virtual therapy practice in Florida. Whitney's debut book TOXIC POSITIVITY: KEEPING IT REAL IN A WORLD OBSESSED WITH BEING HAPPY, shows readers how to shift the goal from being happy to being authentic in order to live fully. A millennial on a quest to make mental health information accessible and easy to understand, Whitney helps people who want to improve their relationships and emotional wellness. She earned her undergraduate degree at Tulane University and a graduate degree in Counseling Psychology from The University of Miami. Whitney has a column in Psychology Today and has been featured in several publications, including The New York Times, Teen Vogue, NY Magazine, and Good Morning America. Related Episodes: 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah Tannen 179. How to Be An Adult in Relationships with Dave Richo 181. Stop Avoiding Stuff with Matt Boone 191. Conversations that Connect with AJ Harbinger 269. Connection Through Vulnerability with Rikke Kjelgaard 270. How Am I Doing? with Cory Yeager Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Belonging uncertainty is a common experience in social life. It is a feeling of not fitting into a particular social group or environment. People who experience this may feel like an outsider, isolated from those around them, or unable to connect with people in their environment. Professor of Psychology, Geoffery L. Cohen is here to remind us of the importance of fostering self-awareness to better understand our feelings and the actions we should take when faced with a sense of belonging uncertainty. Geoffery's book Belonging: The Science of Creating Connection and Bridging Divides provides a fascinating look into the realm of social psychology and how it can be used to combat the daunting feeling of not belonging. Through Geoffery's knowledge and insight, you will gain a clear understanding of the changes that can be made to conquer feelings of belonging uncertainty. His work is invaluable in the effort to empower individuals to create strong, meaningful connections and build bridges of understanding and empathy.Listen and Learn: The role of social psychology in turning everyday encounters into opportunities for understanding, connection, and growth An overview of Geoffery's research on social problems Belonging uncertainty unpacked How social climate can contribute to certain behaviors The concept of stereotype threat How can we cultivate a sense of belonging in the workplace What can be done to change that feeling of not belonging? The difference between perspective gathering and perspective taking Bridging the divide by helping people feel heard and understood Resources: Geoffrey L. Cohen’s website: https://www.geoffreylcohen.com/ For more about Geoffery, check out his Stanford faculty page: https://ed.stanford.edu/faculty/glc Get your copy of Belonging: The Science of Creating Connection and Bridging Divides here: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781324006183 About Geoffrey L. CohenGeoffrey L. Cohen is a Professor of Psychology and the James G. March Professor of Organizational Studies in Education and Business at Stanford University. He is a social psychologist by training and received his PHD at Stanford and his BA at Cornell. Professor Cohen’s research examines the processes that shape people’s sense of belonging and self-concept, and the role that these processes play in various social problems. He has studied the big and small threats to belonging and self-integrity that people encounter in school, work, health care settings, politics, communities, and relationships. He and others have developed concrete, science-backed strategies to create more welcoming spaces for people from all walks of life. He believes that the development of psychological theory depends not just on descriptive and observational research but on theory-driven intervention. He has long been inspired by Kurt Lewin’s quip, “The best way to understand something is to try to change it.”Related Episodes: 51. The Psychology of Political Division with Yael and Debbie 96. Effective Conversations About Diversity with Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado 199. Belonging From the Inside Out with Meg McKelvie 234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance 262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Striving for what you want in life can be difficult, especially when you find yourself in a stagnant situation or lack direction. However, with the assistance of Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, a Cognitive Scientist, and Humanistic Psychologist, you can learn how to implement the steps necessary to achieve your ambitions.Take a journey with us as we explore the life-changing work of Dr. Scott and Jordyn H Feingold in their new book, Choose Growth: A Workbook for Transcending Trauma, Fear, and Self-Doubt! This episode is full of empowering insights that will help you unlock your potential and create an inspiring new path for yourself. We talk about all kinds of exciting topics from reaching our goals through nontraditional paths, the growth that comes from embracing uncomfortable experiences, and the importance of finding the harmony between overusing and underusing your strengths.Listen and Learn: Introduction to Scott and his many accolades Scott's experience being featured in Oprah Winfrey's ‘The Life You Want Class’ Did Scott foresee bringing evidence-based psychology to such a broad audience at the start of his career? Scott’s tips on achieving goals through non-traditional paths The reason Scott wrote 'Choose Growth' now The importance of internal vs external locus of control Reimagining Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs The value in enduring uncomfortable experiences for growth and development The ways tribalism can hinder our growth and keep us stuck Passive, constructive responses are the worst way to respond to somebody's good news Healthy boundary setting The link between healthy self-esteem and narcissism Finding the balance between overusing and underusing our strengths Is it necessary to screen everyone for mental health? Resources: Article about Jonathan Haidt “tribalism” incident: https://reason.com/2022/09/30/mandated-diversity-statement-drives-jonathan-haidt-to-quit-academic-society/ Scott’s website: https://scottbarrykaufman.com/ Yael and Brad Stulberg’s article about Therapy versus Coaching: https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2022/05/05/therapist-coach-difference-choose/ About Dr. Scott Barry KaufmanScott Barry Kaufman is a cognitive scientist and humanistic psychologist exploring the mind, creativity, and the depths of human potential. He is a professor at Columbia University and founder and director of the Center for the Science of Human Potential. Scott hosts the super popular The Psychology Podcast and uses his research to help all kinds of minds live a creative, fulfilling, and self-actualized life. He is the author and editor of 10 books including his newest, Choose Growth: A Workbook for Transcending Trauma, Fear, and Self-Doubt that he co-authored with Jordyn Feingold and that we’ll be discussing today. Welcome Scott! Related Episodes: 34. Strengths, Goal Setting, and Grit with Alexis Karris Bachik 51. The Psychology of Political Division with Debbie and Yael 192. Happier with Tal Ben-Shahar 200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth 227. The Science of Happy with Sonja Lyubomirsky 234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Racial trauma has been caused by centuries of discrimination and violence against African Americans; a legacy of injustice that has had a long-term impact on mental, emotional, and psychical well-being. While there is no one-size-fits-all approach to healing Black racial trauma; transformation and change are still possible. A powerful tool to help those who have been impacted by racism is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).We talk with Research Scientist and Clinician, Jennifer Shepard Payne who in her book, Out of the Fire: Healing Black Trauma Caused by Systemic Racism Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, offers a thorough examination of the application of ACT to the unique problems that African Americans face. Jennifer describes how she is culturally adapting traditional ACT practices, and how this therapy can help African American communities heal from generations of oppression.Listen and Learn: What motivated Jennifer to specialize in culturally tailoring Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for African American communities Why Jennifer wrote a book on healing Black Trauma Jennifer's personal experience with racism as a Black woman in America What Jennifer thinks about the disparity in the current mental health system for African Americans Jennifer’s perspective on resilience in relation to Black racial trauma What inspired Jennifer to pursue ACT, and how beneficial it can be in assisting African Americans who have suffered racial trauma The concept of Racial Battle Fatigue The importance of collective black values for the future Resources: Visit Jennifer's website to discover more about her: https://www.drjspayne.com/ Grab your copy of Jeniffer’s book: Out of the Fire: Healing Black Trauma Caused by Systemic Racism Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781684039883 Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive!: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781611809657 Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Jennifer Shepard PayneJennifer Shepard Payne, Ph.D., LCSW, is a Research Scientist and Clinician for the Kennedy Krieger Institute in the Center for Child and Family Traumatic Stress (CCFTS) and theCenter for the Neuroscience of Social Injustice. She is also an Assistant Professor in the John Hopkins University School of Medicine with a primary appointment within the Department of Psychiatry, Division of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. She serves as the coordinator of the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) Clinical Services within the adult segment of CCFTS.Dr. Payne received her doctorate from the UCLA School of Public Affairs and is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with many years of experience in mental health clinical practice and administration. Her research interests include developing culturally tailored community-based depression and trauma interventions and addressing minority mental health disparities. For several years, Dr. Payne has been working on culturally tailoring Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for African American communities experiencing racial trauma. She developed a culturally-tailored ACT intervention called POOF® and is training and consulting on the model: www.POOF-PullingOutOfFire.com. Additionally, she is a board member of MEND, an international organization of clinicians of color who are trauma-trained to help oppressed communities (www.mendminds.org).Her new book is called Out of the Fire: Healing Black Trauma Caused by Systemic Racism Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

As we go through life, we all have experiences, both positive and negative, that shape who we are. Sometimes, we focus too much on the negative experiences and start to think "why me?". In order to counter this negative spiral, we can choose to focus on the positive and use this to empower ourselves. Instead, ask yourself "what now?". You can improve your outlook on life by changing your mindset. This in turn will help free yourself from limiting beliefs, heal and move forward. With great admiration and gratitude, we welcome an inspiring mother-daughter duo, Dr. Edith Eger, and Dr. Marianne Engel who through their expertise as Clinical Psychologists, work together to promote healing, positivity, and personal growth. In this deeply personal, yet profound interview, we take a look at the learnings presented in the latest edition of Dr. Eger’s uplifting and actionable guide to healing, The Gift: 14 Lessons to Save Your Life. Paralleled by lessons from the book, we also learn about Edith’s courageous story of surviving Auschwitz and finding her path to freedom, as well as Marianne’s own experience as the child of an immigrant parent and holocaust survivor, navigating marriage and raising children. Focusing on overcoming adversity, relationships, giving up shame, and living with purpose, we bring you a powerful and thought-provoking episode that inspires you to take on any obstacles life presents. Listen and Learn: The dangers of being a prisoner of your own mind Survivor vs. victim mindset Why Marianne is grateful to her mother for shielding her from her painful past What drew both Edith and Marianne to the field of clinical psychology The best way to move towards readiness to confront trauma Holding your truth while relinquishing the need for power and control The importance of flexible thinking in relationships Why Edith believes people should give up perfectionism How do we resist hating the haters, and we why should Edith and Marianne's tips for parents hoping to have close relationships with their children throughout their lives Resources: To learn more about Edith, visit: https://dreditheger.com/ To learn more about Marianne, visit: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-engle-7b930a2b Check out Edith’s book, The Gift: 14 Lessons to Save Your Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781982143091 Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive!: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781611809657 Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Edith Eger:Dr. Edith Eger is a sought-after clinical psychologist and lecturer who brings a message of healing and personal growth in her speaking and in her books The Choice and The Gift. She uses her past as a Holocaust survivor and thriver to inspire people to tap their full potential and shape their very best destinies regardless of their circumstances. It’s a message of CHOICE to move from recovery to discovery and beyond and encouragement to find the gifts of even the most painful situations. About Marianne Engle:Dr. Marianne Engle, is Edith’s daughter and collaborator. Marianne is also a psychologist with training in sports psychology. As a child, Marianne watched her mother struggle in the aftermath of the Holocaust. In fact, Edith didn’t tell Marianne about her experiences in the Holocaust until Marianne discovered it by finding a book in her parent’s collection and put the pieces together. Edith and Marianne are an inspiring mother-daughter duo working together to bring healing and positivity to the world and we’ll be focusing on messages offered in the newest edition of Dr. Eger’s book, The Gift: 14 Lessons to Save Your Life, which is colored with Marianne’s influence Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Finding moments of silence can be difficult in our chaotic, constantly-connected world. But, Justin Zorn and Leigh Marz, co-authors of ‘Golden: The Power of Silence in a World of Noise’, say it's worth the effort.Shedding light on the many dimensions of silence, Justin and Leigh explore how cutting through the clutter can lead to greater clarity, structure, and improved health in our lives. You'll discover how to transcend the noise and uncover a more fulfilling life and edified mind in the process.Listen and Learn: What compelled Justin and Leigh to write a book on silence? Silence: what is it and why does it matter? Silence vs. mindfulness The implications of auditory and informational noise in today’s modern world What causes us to fear silence and how can we overcome it? The role silence plays in achieving clarity, awareness, and a better sense of connection Shared silence magnifies its impact Practicing silence in the midst of chaos The importance of identifying noise and appreciating silence Resources: To learn more about Justin, visit: https://justinzorn.com/ To learn more about Leigh, visit: https://leighmarz.com/ Check out Justin’s and Leigh’s book, Golden: The Power of Silence in a World of Noise Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Justin Zorn: Justin Talbot Zorn has served as both a strategist and a meditation teacher in the US Congress. A Harvard-and-Oxford-trained specialist in the economics and psychology of human thriving, he has written for the Washington Post,The Atlantic, Harvard Business Review, Foreign Policy, and other publications. Justin is the coauthor of Golden: The Power of Silence in a World of Noise, published by HarperCollins in the US, Penguin/Random House in the UK, and globally in 11 other languages. He is cofounder of Astrea Strategies, a consultancy that bridges contemplation and action, helping leaders and teams envision and communicate solutions to complex challenges. Justin lives in Santa Fe, New Mexico, with his wife and three children.About Leigh Marz:Leigh Marz is a collaboration and leadership coach for major universities, corporations, and federal agencies as well as a longtime student of pioneering researchers and practitioners of the ritualized use of psychedelic medicines in the West. She has led training programs to promote an experimental mindset among teams at NASA and a decade-long cross-sector collaboration to reduce toxic chemicals in products, in partnership with Green Science Policy Institute, Harvard University, IKEA, Google, and Kaiser Permanente. Leigh is the coauthor of Golden: The Power of Silence in a World of Noise, published by HarperCollins in the US, Penguin/Random House in the UK, and globally in 11 other languages. She is the co-founder of Astrea Strategies. Leigh lives in Berkeley, California, with her husband and daughter.Related Episodes: 139. Neurodharma with Rick Hanson (Part 1)140. Neurodharma with Rick Hanson (Part 2)177. Mind-Body Practices for Stress and Overwhelm with Rebekkah LaDyne201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Neff210. Strategies for Becoming Safely Embodied with Deirdre Fay232. Grounded to Soar Into 2022 with Brad Stulberg251. Wonder with Frank Keil Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Assertive communication is one of the most important skills when it comes to human relationships. Be it in the workplace, with family, or in friendships, it is a skill that you must learn to develop in order to communicate in ways that are respectful, clear, and effective. Without assertive communication, your goals will be difficult to meet.Joining us for this episode is Randy Paterson, Psychologist, Director of Changeways Clinic, and Author of The Assertiveness Workbook. Randy breaks down the significance of assertive communication and associated misconceptions, when assertiveness is not always the best approach, and the different communication styles you can use to confidently express your needs, wants, and opinions in your personal and professional life. Listen and Learn: What assertive communication skills are and why they are important How people can benefit from practicing assertive communication skills When assertive communication isn't always the best approach Randy’s thoughts on picking your battles The challenges that come with assertive communication Understanding the different communication styles and how to use them The link between control and assertive communication Analyzing gender-related differences in communication styles The specifics of assertive communication and examples How to structure requests for desired outcomes The best way to give and receive feedback, both positive and negative Resources: Learn more about Randy at his webpage: https://www.randypaterson.com/ Check out Randy’s books The Assertiveness Workbook, How to be Miserable, How to be Miserable in Your Twenties, Private Practice Made Simple, and Your Depression Map. Read Debbie’s blog post on Assertive Communication Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Randy Paterson: Dr. Randy Paterson is a psychologist in Vancouver, British Columbia. He is the director of Changeways Clinic; and provides training programs across Canada and internationally on evidence-based mental health practice. He is the author of several books, including: How to Be Miserable, How to Be Miserable in Your Twenties, Private Practice Made Simple, and The Assertiveness Workbook, which is now in its second edition. He offers courses for professionals and the public through his online teaching website, psychologysalon.teachable.com. Related Episodes: 216. Managing Anger and Irritability, Featuring Russell Kolts 246. Burnout and Boundaries with Tammie Chang 252. Getting the Help You Need, with Us 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Working parenthood is not for the faint of heart. Sometimes the stress of toggling between family and professional roles can feel like too much! And... it can also be a meaningful source of joy, inspiration, and creativity. In this extra special episode, we talk to our very own co-host, Dr. Yael Schonbrun about her new book, Work, Parent Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection (When Everything Feels Like Too Much). Yael draws on psychology research as well as her own experience as a working mom of three, to offer ideas that will help even the most stressed of working parents! This book banishes the idea that the key to ultimate working parenthood is the ability to do it all. Instead, the key is to learn how these roles, together, help you thrive.Listen and Learn: ● How Yael’s own experience as a hard-working mother of three informed her ideas for her book. ● How to shift from a “work family conflict mindset” to a “work family enrichment mindset”● Why interruptions that feel really annoying might actually be good for you. ● Whether or not finding perfect work-life balance is a realistic goal (spoiler alert: it’s not)● The role of values in making choices about work and family ● How to deal with parental guilt effectively● How working parenthood offers opportunities for growth● About how cooking has offered Jill a lesson in when to grit and when to quit● The power of rest, and what Yael is up to on her tech-free Saturday sabbath days Resources:● Get your copy of Work, Parent, Thrive! ● Check out Yael’s webpage and her POTC episodes! ● Read Yael’s New York Times article on working parenthood, and other media appearances in the Wall Street Journal, Greater Good Science Center, Behavioral Scientist, Kveller, Lilith Magazine, The Wise Brain Bulletin, Psychology Today, and Motherly. ● Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.● Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Yael: Dr. Yael Schonbrun is a co-host of the greatest podcast of all times, Psychologists Off the Clock, and that’s all you need to know about her. Just kidding! Yael Schonbrun, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, assistant professor at Brown University, co-host of Psychologists Off the Clock, and mother of three. She has a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and completed her postgraduate training at Brown University. Yael’s academic research explores the interaction between relationship problems and mental health conditions. She has authored the book Work, Parent Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection (When Everything Feels Like Too Much), as well as chapters in several books and dozens of scientific articles. In her private practice, writing, and podcasting, Yael uses evidence-based science to help individuals and couples learn to manage work, parenting, and marriage in more effective and fulfilling ways. Yael’s writing on work, parenting, and relationships has appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Greater Good Science Center, Behavioral Scientist, Kveller, Lilith Magazine, The Wise Brain Bulletin, Psychology Today, and Motherly. You can follow her on Twitter, where she posts about the science and practice of work and family. Related Episodes: - 24. Choosing Both: Straddling Meaningful Career and Parenthood with Yael Schonbrun- 33. Couples with Young Children: Relationship Challenges and Strategies with Yael Schonbrun- 83. The Tao of Work and Family Balance with Tod Perry and Carl Totton- 174. How to Work and Parent Mindfully with Lori Mihalich-Levin- 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz- 267. You are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you're trying to figure out how to navigate this whole adulthood thing, and maybe even do some personal growth along the way, we have the perfect episode for you this week!Listen in as Debbie talks with Satya Doyle Byock, Jungian psychotherapist, and author of the book Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood. Satya shares her ideas about the struggle to find both meaning and stability in adulthood, and offers ideas for fostering psychological growth.Listen and Learn: Hear Debbie's attempt to "nutshell" all of Jungian psychology in two minutes or less (Jungians everywhere, please forgive her!) Some of the unique aspects of the stage of quarterlife (or early adulthood, typically in the 20s and early 30s), and why Satya loves working with this age group in her clinical practice. Why quarterlife can be a time of "crisis" for some people, and how it can be viewed as an opportunity for psychological growth How the traditional markers of adulthood reflect acquisition culture. How the traditional markers of adulthood reflect acquisition culture. The tension between seeking meaning and stability, and the unique challenges faced by "meaning types" and "stability types" What Carl Jung had to say about the "serpentine path" of self-exploration Why it can be worthwhile to explore the darker, "shadow" aspects of ourselves The four pillars of psychological growth How Jungian and behavioral psychology approaches might have more in common than you realize! (And yes, non-therapist listeners, we know you might not care about this at all!) Resources: Buy the book Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood! Find Satya online at SatyaByock.com and follow her on Instagram @satyabyock. Check out some online salons & seminars on classical Jungian psychology and its current application at SalomeInstitute.com and on Instagram: @satyabyock. Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About SatyaSatya Doyle Byock is a psychotherapist in private practice in Portland, Oregon and the author of Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood (Random House, 2022). Her clinical work and writing focus on how developmental psychology attends to the first twenty years of adulthood, incorporating a depth psychological as well as social justice lens. Rather than just emphasize the search for security and stability in this stage of life, Satya has introduced a framework for an exploration of meaning as well.Satya’s clinical work, writing, and teaching are rooted in Jungian psychology, trauma-informed care, and historical research. She teaches online at The Salome Institute of Jungian Studies, which she founded and directs.You can find her at SatyaByock.com and SalomeInstitute.com and on Instagram: @satyabyock.Related Episodes 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune 79. Thriving In Adolescence with Louise Hayes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Doing social justice work of any kind, whether it's in our homes with their families or out in the world causes us to encounter uncomfortable feelings like confusion, shame, guilt, and overwhelm. But, according to Dolly Chugh, the author of a powerful new book, A More Justice Future, it isn't a problem to have those emotions; it's more a question of what should we do with them? Join the conversation with Dolly to gain insights into our wired-in biases, our natural emotional responses to reckoning with a painful past and present, and science-backed tools to use our responses more skillfully to build a more just future. About Dolly Chugh: Dr. Dolly Chugh is an award-winning social psychologist at NYU Stern School of Business where she studies bounded ethicality, or what she calls the psychology of good people. In 2018, she delivered a popular TED talk, “How to Let Go of Being a Good Person and Become a Better Person.” She is the author of The Person You Mean to Be, which offered the argument that the more we believe we are already good people, the harder it is to become better people. And her new book, which we are here to discuss, is A More Justice Future.Listen and Learn: The power of learning to pronounce one another’s names The paradox of the narrative around American pioneers, like the Laura Ingalls Wilder family The value of being a lifelong “unlearner” How principles from acceptance and commitment therapy can help us reckon with the past How to unhook from the dominant cultural narratives to capture greater accuracy and more helpful nuance How studies of home team bias and group identity in sports help us understand that bias is wired into us as part of being human How Dolly understands the controversy around Critical Race Theory Different narratives around history, and what are the most useful kinds of narratives to adopt. What is a paradox mindset and how to practice having one How stories we tell about our history problematically obscure how change happens The power of a growth mindset in doing social justice work How to build more nuance into some of our cultural fables (and why we should) The fable of Dolly's own life that she's worked to introduce nuance into Resources: Dolly’s website A More Justice Future, by Dolly Chugh The Person You Mean to Be, by Dolly Chugh Dolly’s TEDx Talk, How to Let Go of Being a Good Person and Become a Better Person Related Episodes Episode 200: Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth Episode 234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer Episode 256. Social Justice Parenting with Tracy Baxley Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Parenting books and research on kids often lump middle schoolers together with young elementary school kids or older adolescents. This obscures the fact that middle school is its own distinct phase. Join Jill as she talks with therapist, school counselor, and middle school expert, Phyllis Fagell, about the unique challenges middle schoolers face and how parents can help them build key skills to thrive. Fagell sees middle school as parents’ “last best chance” to influence their kids at a time when they are still impressionable and still really care what their parents think. Listen and Learn:· What Yael’s friends and son shared were their greatest middle school challenges· Why middle school matters—what is unique about this development stage and why we should attend to it· How we can encourage critical thinking in middle schoolers using hypothetical scenarios· The importance of purpose, what purpose really means, and how to help kids connect with theirs· Why kids tell lies and how to handle it when they do· How to manage tough questions about sex, drugs, and other challenging topics· The difference between bullying and other interpersonal challenges and when to intervene vs letting kids work things out on their ownAbout Phyllis FagellPhyllis L. Fagell, LCPC is the school counselor at Sheridan School in Washington, DC, a therapist who works with kids and families inprivate practice, and an author and journalist. She's the author of “Middle School Matters” and a frequent contributor to the Washington Post. She also freelances for publications including Psychology Today, CNN, Working Mother, U.S. News & World Report and Your Teen, and her ideas have been shared in outlets including The New York Times,The Atlantic, The New Yorker, Edutopia, Mindshift and NPR. Phyllis currently is working on her next book, "Middle School Superpowers, Raising Resilient Tweens in Turbulent Times," (Hachette, August '23). She lives in Bethesda, MD with her husband and three children.Resources:Phyllis’s website and sign up for hernewsletter: https://phyllisfagell.comPhyllis’s twitter: @pfagellRelated Episodes· Episode 79. Thriving in Adolescence with Louise Hayes· Episode 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan Pollak· Episode 159. Challenging Time During Adolescence with Louise Hayes· Episode 214. How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Jerks· Episode 240. Talking to Kids and Teens with Big Feelings with Adele LaFrance· Episode 265. Social Justice Parenting with Traci Baxley· Episode 267. You Are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla NaumburgOffers and Events:The way we approach and treat trauma has been evolving – even in just the last several years. The National Institute for the ClinicalApplication of Behavioral Medicine (NICABM) has interviewed the top experts in the treatment of trauma and narrowed down hours of interviews to a carefully curated training program. Each week, all the experts focus on a single topic in trauma treatment. It’s free to watch the weekly course broadcasts, you just have to sign up at TraumaMasterSeries.com/POTC Or, you can purchase the GoldPackage to own the complete program (with transcripts, video and audio downloads and bonuses) at 50% off the normal price! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Friendships matter deeply for our mental, emotional, and physical wellbeing. But unlike kids, adults generally don’t knock on their neighbors’ doors and say, “Hey wanna come outside and play?” Making and keeping friends in adulthood is tricky (to say the least). Join us for a special conversation about friendship. In the first half of this episode, Yael and Debbie discuss how they see some of the issues in cultivating friendships in adulthood. The second half of this episode features clinical psychologist, Adam Dorsay, whose TEDx talk, Friendships in Adulthood: Five Things to Know lays out important ideas we can all learn from. Tune in to learn about common challenges and tips for overcoming them, what to look for in friends, how to be a good friend yourself, and much more.Listen and Learn: The science behind why quality (not quantity) friendships are so important in adulthood Common challenges to making friends in adulthood The problem of loneliness The challenges inherent in investing in adult friendships relationships The dangers of expecting too much of any one friend and how to overcome that challenge Ideas for finding new friends Considerations in choosing friends Understanding what being a good friend looks like Data on why is friendship good for our love lives About Adam DorsayDr. Adam Dorsay is a licensed psychologist and a certified executive coach working in private practice in San Jose, CA. He is the co-creator of Project Reciprocity, a resiliency program based out of FaceBook’s headquarters. In 2021, Adam was a featured TEDx speaker on the topic of friendships in adulthood. Resources:Adam’s website: https://dradamdorsay.com/Adam’s TEDx talk: Friendships in Adulthood: Five Things to Know Article on the power of the casual check-inRelated Episodes: Episode 85. Emotion Efficacy with Aprilia West Episode 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan Pollak Episode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah Tannen Episode 266. Future Tense with Tracy Dennis-Tiwary Episode 269. Connection Through Vulnerability with Rikke Kjelgaar Offers and Events:The way we approach and treat trauma has been evolving – even in just the last several years. The National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine (NICABM) has interviewed the top experts in the treatment of trauma and narrowed down hours of interviews to a carefully curated training program. Each week, all the experts focus on a single topic in trauma treatment. It’s free to watch the weekly course broadcasts, you just have to sign up at TraumaMasterSeries.com/POTC Or, you can purchase the Gold Package to own the complete program (with transcripts, video and audio downloads and bonuses) at 50% off the normal price! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this special bonus episode, we hear an excerpt from Daniel Pink, author of the book The Power of Regret, on the podcast A Slight Change of Plans, cohosted by cognitive scientist Dr. Maya Shankar. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In order to show up as our best selves for others, for all the roles that matter most to us, and to make the world a better place, we need to be able to have the important conversations with ourselves. In his new book, How Am I Doing?: 40 Conversations to Have with Yourself, Dr. Cory Yeager, a clinical psychologist and therapist for the Detroit Pistons, offers us 40 questions to help us start those important conversations with ourselves. Join Dr. Cory and Yael for a powerful conversation about why we need to have these conversations with ourselves and how to get that conversation started.Listen and Learn: Why we should be having more conversation with ourselves What can get in the way (and how to overcome it) The value of balanced positivity in the face of racial injustice What narrative solution focused therapy is How to form a helpful internal supreme court How to move from making the “right”choices to making your choices right Why being vulnerable can free you Why moving forward often requires us also to look back What you can do with just 23 seconds Resources: How Am I Doing?: 40 Conversations to Have with Yourself, By Cory Yeager Dr. Corey’s website About Dr. Corey YeagerDr. Cory Yeager is a therapist who merges his two main passions–athletics and therapy–as the Detroit Piston’s psychotherapist. In this role, he supports the overall organization, individual players, coaching staff, and front office leadership. His work also aims to advance dialogue about race and racism and he has facilitated conversation across the country with various organizations including The Oprah Winfrey Network and elsewhere. And he is also known for his appearance on Harry and Oprah's show, The Me You Can’t See on Apple TV+. Related Episodes Episode 85. Emotion Efficacy with Aprilia West Episode 183. Permission to Feel with Marc Brackett Episode 265. The Power of Emotions at Work with Karla McLaren Episode 269. Connection Through Vulnerability with Rikke Kjelgaar Offers and Events through POTC:The way we approach and treat trauma has been evolving – even in just the last several years. The National Institute for the Clinical Application of Behavioral Medicine (NICABM) has interviewed the top experts in the treatment of trauma and narrowed down hours of interviews to a carefully curated training program. Each week, all the experts focus on a single topic in trauma treatment. It’s free to watch the weekly course broadcasts, you just have to sign up at TraumaMasterSeries.com/POTC Or, you can purchase the Gold Package to own the complete program (with transcripts, video and audio downloads and bonuses) at 50% off the normal price! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do you want to be a badass? Sometimes being a badass means asking for help, being vulnerable, and admitting you can’t do it all on your own. Join Jill as she talks with psychologist and ACT trainer, Rikke Kjelgaard about how to live a full and meaningful life through psychological flexibility. In this episode, Rikke and Jill get personal, sharing their own vulnerable stories and experiences in hopes of inspiring listeners to get out of their comfort zones and get brave.Listen and Learn: What it means to live “full size” and be a badass How Rikke’s learning history led her to be a “superwoman” who never asked for help—and how she overcame this How childhood patterns “work” when they develop but cease to be helpful later in life The importance of discriminating in what contexts behaviors work or don’t work The importance of connection and community, especially when being psychologically flexible gets hard A values clarification exercise developed by one of Jill’s clients The importance of holding outcomes lightly How to play big even after you get cut down About Rikke KjelgaardRikke Kjelgaard is a licensed psychologist, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, an awarded fellow of the ACBS, author, speaker and chief rock’n’roller in her own business. Rikke is on a mission to help therapists thrive and to be brave and authentic helpers. Trained as a clinical psychologist, she has a 15 year background in the science of human behaviour and the practice of behaviour change. Rikke is a popular speaker at the Scandinavian as well as the international stage, and she is known to bring both passion and vulnerability to her talks. She transforms the lives of her audience by bringing evidence based strategies to her listeners in ways that are edible, manageable and impactful. Rikke is known to leave her audience in tears with compelling stories from her own life and to create extraordinary interactions between people. ResourcesRikke’s essay in Passionately Striving in Why: An Anthology of Women Who Persevere Mightily to Live Their Purpose: https://www.rikkekjelgaard.com/passionately-striving-in-why/Rikke’s website: www.rikkekjelgaard.comRikke’s ACT Practitioner’s Academy that opens on October 1st: https://www.rikkekjelgaard.com/actpractitionersacademy/Related Episodes265. The Power of Emotions at Work262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us252. Getting the Help You Need with Us238. Values During Times of Transition with Us198. Belonging From the Inside Out with Meg McKelvie198. Break the Good Girl Myth with Majo Molfino Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Suicidal thoughts are a more common human experience than you may realize, and many lives are impacted by suicide. Often suicidal thoughts are an indication that a person is in emotional pain, and there are tools that can help. Talking more openly about suicide can help to reduce stigma, and encourage people to reach out for support. September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, and this week we are grateful to have Dr. Katie Gordon, a suicide expert and author of The Suicidal Thoughts Workbook on the show. In this conversation, Katie shares practical ideas that will be helpful for people having suicidal thoughts, as well as their friends and family who want to support them. Listen and Learn: How stigma about suicide can can get in the way of much-needed support, and why we at POTC think it’s important to talk more openly about suicidal thoughts. Why people think about suicide Ways to cope with suicidal thoughts and urges The role of hope and hopelessness in suicidal thinking The importance of belonging and meaning in suicide prevention How to support a loved one who is thinking about suicide. About safety planning for a suicidal crisis Resources Pick up a copy of Katie's book, The Suicidal Thoughts Workbook 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) Crisis Text Line Website for International Suicide Hotlines: http://www.suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html National Sexual Assault Hotline Trans Lifeline The Trevor Project Rocky Mountain MIRECC for Veteran Suicide Prevention Suicide Prevention Resource Center Click here for information on what to do when someone is suicidal Click here for information on what not to say about suicide The My3 Safety Planning App The Virtual Hope Box App for Apple and Google Play Postvention Alliance (for coping with suicide attempts or suicide) SPRC Postvention Resources Uniting for Suicide Postvention Click here for information on how to talk to a child about a suicide attempt Safety Planning Intervention Webpage A suicide safety plan quick guide Two different options for safety planning templates can be found here and here Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Katie GordonKathryn Hope Gordon, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist. She lives in the Boston area and specializes in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). Prior to working as a therapist, Gordon was a professor for ten years. She is a mental health researcher who has published more than 80 scientific articles and book chapters on suicidal behavior, disordered eating, and related topics. Her clinical scientist approach is informed by her graduate training at Florida State University, and her predoctoral internship at the University of Chicago Medical Center. She is the author of The Suicidal Thoughts Workbook: CBT Skills to Reduce Emotional Pain, Increase Hope, and Prevent Suicide. Gordon cohosts the Psychodrama podcast, blogs for Psychology Today, and shares mental health information through her website: www.kathrynhgordon.com. She writes a newsletter called Mental Health Minute, which you can subscribe to here. She is licensed in Massachusetts, Minnesota, and North Dakota and provides suicide prevention trainings to clinicians.Related Episodes: Episode 190. ACT for Suicide Prevention with Sean Barnes Episode 261. The Secret Life of Secrets with Michael Slepian Episode 118. Moral Injury and Shame with Lauren Borges and Jacob Farnsworth Episode 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard Episode 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser Episode 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you think you’re a horrible parent, well, you’re not alone! Thinking we such at parenting seems to be an inherent part of parenting made worse by the pandemic, financial stressors, and general unease we live with. The wise and witty Carla Naumburg joins us to share tools from her latest book, You are Not a Sh*tty Parent. Along with some humor and spicy language, we can self-compassion to better cope with the unavoidable stressors of parenting. Listen and Learn: What is self-compassion and what isn’t it How self-compassion differs from being nice Why engaging in self-criticism to connect gets us in trouble The metaphor of first versus second arrows and how this helps us understand how to better respond to our suffering Noticing practices Practices to connect to the present Practices to connect to common humanity Practices of curiosity About Carla:Carla Naumburg is an author, clinical social worker, and mother. She’s the author of five non-fiction books, including her international bestseller, How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids as well as You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent. Carla’s writing has appeared in a variety of online and print publications, including The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, Mindful Magazine, Slate.com, Psychology Today, WBUR’s Cognoscenti Blog, Brain, Child, Motherwell, Parents.com, PsychCentral, and Today Moms. Resources: Article on the dangers of body positivity: What’s the Difference Between Body Positivity and Body Neutrality? Carla’s website Book: How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids Pre-order You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent here! Related Episodes: Episode 75. Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer Episode 80. Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics with Jeff Warren Episode 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan Pollak Episode 129. Yoga for All and Body Kindness with Jennifer Webb Episode 149. How Not to Lose it with Your Kids with Carla Naumberg Episode 201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Neff Episode 223 Mom Brain Returns with Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco Episode 251. Wonder with Frank Keil Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Anxiety has long gotten a bad wrap. But maybe part of why anxiety is so much on the rise and harming so many people comes back to how we understand anxiety. Tracy Dennis-Tiwary, author Future Tense: Why Anxiety is Good for You (Even Though it Feels Bad) joins us to discuss why re-thinking anxiety can help us out. As Adam Grant noted in his blurb, this conversation and this book “Is going smash your existing views about anxiety and replace them with more helpful ones.”Listen and Learn: The three principles of being anxious in the right way Tracy’s insights into the difference between fear, stress, anxiety, and anxiety disorders Why anxiety has a public relations problem What are the useful functions of anxiety Why hope is so fundamental to anxiety How shifting our anxiety mindset can help treatment for anxiety disorders more effective Why the medical model of treating anxiety is so problematic Why children, even children with anxiety, are anti-fragile (and how to wisely approach anxiety in youth) In-the-moment strategies to manage an upsurge in anxiety What Attention Bias Modification is and how it works to help us manage anxiety The connection between anxiety and creativity Resources: Jeremy Jamieson’s study of mindest shift for individuals with social anxiety Study cited investigating the link between creativity and anxiety Alia Crum’s Ted Talk Kelly McGonigal’s Ted Talk Tracy's website Tracy's book, Future Tense: Why Anxiety is Good for You (Even Though it Feels Bad) About Tracy Dennis-TiwaryTracy A. Dennis-Tiwary, is a professor of psychology and neuroscience, Director of the Emotion Regulation Lab, and Co-Executive Director of the Center for Health Technology at Hunter College. Her company, Wise Therapeutics, translates neuroscience and cognitive therapy techniques into gamified, clinically validated digital therapeutics for mental health. Dr. Dennis-Tiwary has published over 100 scientific articles and delivered over 400 presentations at academic conferences and for corporate clients, and has been featured throughout the media, including the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, ABC, CBS, CNN, NPR, The Today Show, and Bloomberg Television. You can find Tracy at her website or on Twitter.Related Episodes: Episode 209. The Art of Managing Pressure with Hank Weisinger Episode 227. The Science of Happy with Sonja Lyubomirsky Episode 233. Dopamine Nation with Anna Lembke Episode 235: The Urge with Dr. Carl Erik Fisher Episode 259. Rethinking Delusions with Victoria Sheperd Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you think emotions don't belong in the workplace, think again! Emotions, when welcomed and respected, are an essential part of productive and healthy workplace environments. In this episode, Debbie talks with Karla McLaren about the power of emotions at work, problems with the modern workplace environment, and her ideas for how to implement real cultural change at work.Listen and Learn: Why Debbie is such a big fan of Karla's work on emotions at work. Reasons why so many workplaces are "toxic" and what makes them so. The toll of invisible emotional labor. Why emotions are important and necessary at work. Ways we can foster better communication and more humane workplace environments. About Karla McLaren:Karla McLaren, M.Ed. is an award-winning author, social science researcher, workplace consultant, and empathy pioneer. Her lifelong work focuses on her grand unified theory of emotions, which revalues even the most “negative” emotions and opens startling new pathways into self-awareness, effective communication, and healthy empathy. She is the founder and CEO of Emotion Dynamics LLC and the developer of the Empathy Academy online learning site. Her applied work, Dynamic Emotional Integration® (also known as DEI) is a trailblazing approach to emotions and empathy that reveals the genius and the healing power within the emotional realm. Karla has also developed the groundbreaking Six Essential Aspects of Empathy model that highlights all of the processes in healthy empathy and makes them easily understandable, accessible, and attainable. Karla is the author of The Power of Emotions at Work: Accessing the Vital Intelligence in Your Workplace (2021), Embracing Anxiety: How to Access the Genius of this Vital Emotion (2020), The Dynamic Emotional Integration® Workbook (2018), The Art of Empathy: A Complete Guide to Life’s Most Essential Skill (2013), The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings are Trying to Tell You (2010), and the multi-media online course Emotional Flow: Becoming Fluent in the Language of Emotions (2012). Karla has won several honors and awards, including the 2010 Gold Medal from the Independent Publisher Book Awards. Karla has taught at such venues as the University of San Francisco, Esalen, Bioneers, Naropa University, Kripalu Center, and the Association for Humanistic Psychology. She’s also a Certified Human Resource Administrator and a Certified Career Development Facilitator with a Master’s Degree in Education. She lives in Sonoma County, California.Resources: Grab your copy of Karla's book, The Power of Emotions at Work: Accessing the Vital Intelligence in Your Workplace (2021) Grab copies of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! Related Episodes:207. Burnout with Debbie and Jill183. Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett130. Working Less with Alex Pang45. Rest with Alex Pang230. The Laziness Lie with Devon Price Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Many of us grew up being told we must be members of “the clean plate club” or that we shouldn’t waste food because there are starving children in other countries. The diet industry rakes in billions, profiting off messages around striving for an unattainable “thin ideal.” All of this contributes to the development of unhealty relationships with food and our bodies. As parents, we are at risk of passing along unhealthy messages and patterns. In this episode, Jill interviews Sumner Brooks and Amee Severson about how we can break these patterns and raise children outside the toxic diet mentality so they have healthier relationships with food and their bodies. Listen and Learn: What is meant by “intuitive eating.” What is diet culture and why is it problematic The inaccuracy of data around obesity and morbidity/mortality The three keys to raising an intuitive eater Why it’s important to talk about bodies The power of modeling healthy attitudes and behaviors toward food and bodies The difficulty and importance of letting go of over-control How Acceptance and Commitment Therapy can help Resources Sumner and Amee’s book, How to Raise an Intuitive Eater Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resche’s book Intuitive Eating The ALLHAT study about the surprising relationship between BMI and cardiovascular risk. About Sumner Brooks and Amee SeversonSumner Brooks is a mom and licensed registered dietitian nutritionist (LD, RDN) based in Oregon who has spent over 13 years working in the field of nutrition and eating disorders. Her experience includes providing nutrition therapy for adolescents and adults, public speaking and pursuing advanced training in trauma-informed, weight-inclusive healthcare. She is also the founder of the online training platform Eating Disorder Registered Dietitians and Professionals (EDRD Pro).Amee Severson a Registered Dietitian (RD) in the Washington State (CD) with a private practice outside of Seattle, Washington. Amee specializes in eating disorder recovery, healing and preserving food-body relationships, and focuses on gender-inclusive and LGBTQ+ affirming care. She is a Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor, and a Certified Body Trust Provider.Related Episodes Episode 231. Eating Skills and Emotional Eating with Josh Hillis Episode 68. Body Image and Eating Disorders with Emily Sandoz Episode 129. Yoga for All and Body Kindness with Jennifer Webb Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.