What Not to Say to Your ADHD Teen (And What to Say Instead)
Parenting ADHD with Annie Adjan
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Show Notes
If you’ve ever wondered “Why did that simple comment blow up?” — this episode is for you.
Parents of ADHD teens often unintentionally make symptoms worse with the words they use. In this episode, I share three common language mistakes that quietly escalate anxiety, shutdowns, meltdowns, and fibbing — and I give you exact scripts to use instead.
These small shifts can dramatically reduce power struggles, improve honesty, and strengthen your connection with your teen.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
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Why replacing “but” with “and” changes everything for the ADHD nervous system
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How “why” questions trigger threat responses and emotional shutdown
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What to ask instead of “why” so your teen stays regulated and engaged
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Why ADHD teens fib — and why it’s about anxiety, not dishonesty
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How yes/no questions unintentionally invite lying
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Simple scripts that promote honesty, cooperation, and accountability
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How inclusive, low-demand language builds trust instead of tension
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