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2761: Bending Without Breaking: How to Identify Needs and Preferences When Dating by Kara Shade of Gottman
Episode 2761

2761: Bending Without Breaking: How to Identify Needs and Preferences When Dating by Kara Shade of Gottman

Kara Shade challenges us to distinguish between needs and preferences in dating

Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting · Optimal Living Daily | Greg Audino

October 12, 20259m 52s

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Episode 2761:

Kara Shade challenges us to distinguish between needs and preferences in dating, revealing how clarity on this distinction can prevent heartbreak and guide us toward stronger, more intentional relationships. Backed by Gottman research and insights from relationship scientists, her piece encourages reflection, flexibility, and honesty, principles that remain just as relevant in long-term partnerships as they are in early dating.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/bending-without-breaking-identify-needs-preferences-dating/

Quotes to ponder:

"When people show you who they are, believe them."

"Being clear and honest about your needs and asking the tough questions are critical functions of that process."

"It’s less about what you’re doing and more about how you’re doing it together."

Episode references:

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: https://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797

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