Property and Life Update: Vibing on Life with Ben Everingham

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=udeTRKgq21c&ab_channel=OnProperty It's been a year since I've been able to come up to the Sunshine Coast and hang out with Ben and chat about life and business and property. In this video we discuss some of the key things we've been vibing on at the moment. 0:00 - Introduction1:21 - Being hard on yourself3:48 - Being present on the journey to financial freedom7:59 - Speeding up success with a plan11:45 - Gaining your best life now13:50 - What do you want?14:30 - One of the most important things Ben ever heard Recommended Videos: We're Vibing On Life Right Now (May 2018) Property and Life Update 2020: Ryan McLean and Ben Everingham (Mar 2020) Transcription Ryan 0:00It's been a solid year since I've been able to come up to the Sunshine Coast with all the border restrictions and everything to be able to come up here hang out as mates as business partners and help each other now business as I refresh it. So good talk about property, talk about live all of this stuff, I just realized how valuable this relationship is. And we had a huge walk on the beach last night, like everything we do. So romantic. Ben 0:25It was a real good luck, it was awesome. Ryan 0:27But we are vibing on life. And we've done a few of these in the past, which I'll try and find and link up down below. But it's just a more chat to kind of get to know us get to know where we're at mentally, because this is one of the most powerful relationships in my life. I know you've said the same to me. And just so much good stuff comes out of our conversations that we don't really have with other people. And I know a lot of people out there listening don't necessarily have people that are on the same wavelength to them. So we just kind of wanted to share some of the stuff that's been going on with us some of the cool things we've been learning about being present, being mindful, enjoying life now, as things are, you know, in a good spot for both of us, like, let's be real, we had a couple of years there where things were real rough on both of us financially in our lives, like, Ben 1:17yeah, and like what I'm so grateful for man is like, no matter where I was at, I've been able to like, figure it back out. Like, if I could figure it out from where I was with my anxiety like three, four years ago. Like I feel like humanity's got like an epic outlook. You know what I mean? Ryan 1:34That's an invite I can figure it out from where I was in all the debt. I was in everything that I was going through, like one thing you said to me last night when we were walking on the beach is Ben 1:46my sister's little, the tortoise. Hello, buddy, Ryan 1:49showing us his car, his toy car. But yeah, one of the things that you said to me is like, you know, if someone went through just one of the things you went through, or this or that, or that, or that, you know, they'd be struggling and like you're being hard on yourself out to go through all of these different things. And you're judging yourself saying, You're not where you want to be. I need to give Ben 2:09myself some grace. They're fully man. Like, I feel like one of the things that I've learned in the last few years is just my dad's been saying to, to me for 10 years, he's like, just be kind to yourself, man. Like, you know what I mean? And I'm like, I couldn't hear it. I'm like, No, I'm like, I'm going on this direction. I want to be here. I'm like, prepared to hustle through it and go through the pain. And I'm like, I would never speak to someone, most of the time who I speak to myself, like, why don't I just decide to be like, my best mate. And like, kind of myself and accept that, like, I've got a bit more of an active mind than most people in that sped up journey. But it's also like, you know, it's just, it's just the, you know, what I don't even know how to say what Ryan 2:50I was thinking, you and I have been so hard on ourselves, which is part of what makes us high achievers and being able to achieve what we wanted to achieve, like, through like some of the stuff, I look back now, on the last few years, and I went through a lot of stuff, I ended up in heaps of debt, way more than I should have, I should have known better, but I didn't, you know, Ben 3:09and I've got to have had to go through that I've Ryan 3:11got to have grace for that. But what I've been able to pull off in paying off, you know, 10s of 1000s worth of debt in a two year period, increasing my income becoming financially free through my business again, and just I gotta stop and pat myself on the back a bit fully. What we were able to do, and I think you and I have both gone through that things have been hard. So what did we do? Like we doubled down, we worked hard, we did what we knew we needed to do. And I guess a lot of knowing that came from internally, no one told us because of business owners, you got to work it out by yourself. But now we're at a point where we're not gunho anymore. And we're more like, okay, yes, we did what we did to get where we are, but maybe we could have taken a better path that was more present that enjoyed that time more. And that's what we're trying to get to now. And I guess what we want to share with people out there is like that being present in your life and enjoying the journey rather than you and I spent the last 10 years trying to get somewhere and we lived in the future. But you've been saying that we just lived our lives the last 10 years in the future. And now it's like okay, no, yes, we have future goals and things we're working towards what we're trying to live in the present, be more present and enjoy the process and just enjoy the arts enjoy the downs, Ben 4:32they all come and like it is it's so cliche, but it is the journey that you know, makes life meaningful and it is the connections and it is the conversations and it is figuring out a way like you said to this to me last year like at the end of last year I just come through like the Coronavirus year which is really intense when all I'm trying to do is buy property for people but they like want a psychologist at the same time like man, I haven't studied this for Seven years. I don't know what's going to happen. But I'm personally excited and doing this. But always going through that. And also with the three young kids and renovating my home and building another investment and renovating and building a granny flat on another place. And I'm like, you know, this quote came up. And it's like, if you're tired, just learn to rest, not give up. And last year was one of those years where I'm just like, the way that I have lived, which is like constantly setting goals for the future and moving forward at like a rapid pace is so cool. And I'm so grateful that my previous self could do that. But now moving forward, I'm like, I'm measuring different things like I'm measuring, not sales in my business anymore, or income as much I'm more measuring, like, contribution and how many cool people we can connect with. And Ryan 5:47this is giving me goosebumps now, because this is what we've been talking about, which is like, what are you measuring in your life? And for me, you're talking about, like, we're talking about my business and content, and YouTube views and stuff. And he's like, dude, you needed that years ago that got you to here. But he's like, that's not that probably shouldn't be your focus anymore. Like, what are you measuring? And what should you be measuring? And so like, we talked about this, at the end of last year, like finding the joy in what we do, you know, for us, we're in a good place with our businesses that it's like, okay, we can keep slogging away, if we want, we can step back almost completely if we want. But neither of us want to do either of those things. It's about finding the joy in what you do. And a big part of it is measure, like what you measure improves. And so instead of measuring, okay, how many views have I got? All? For me? It came down to like, what, how proud of my of the content that I'm creating? How proud of my of the message that I'm putting out? versus do I care how many views it gets like, No, not really. For me, it's that internal. You know, Ben 6:52I love that man. Because like the conversation that we were having last night, and I found it a lot harder to answer than I thought I would. But the question was, like, why are you doing this stuff, and it's like, I just want to be a good person that leaves like a value space life that helps other people figure out that they can achieve this. And if like a punter like me, that could fuck it up as many times as I did him, like, figure my way through with the property stuff, and, and get to the position that I am now where I'm nowhere near where I want to be. But I'm on my way. And that's cool. Like, if I continue on this trajectory, like, at some point, in the future, I'll have over six figures of passive income from my properties. And like, that's a goal that my 24 year old self set the some point in my 30s, or 40s, I'll be able to reach and that's so inspiring, because it's like, if I have the choice of how I spend my time, and I don't have to stress about money every day, what could my life look like? Like, how much meaningful time could I spend with my kids? Or how many life enriching relationships Could I have? And you know, how many servers Could I get in before my body's too old to enjoy them anymore? Ryan 7:57That's kind of what we're grappling with at the moment is like, well, how could I spend my time if I had choices, which would kind of do it's like, Okay, how could I spend, and we're trying to work out what to do that. And we were having breakfast with Ben's brother Simon, this morning is, like, a good way to start the day because you went for a surf and then what was happening, Brian? Yeah, like 10am. And Simon's like, Oh,