Not As We Planned

This episode discusses worrying about your boyfriend’s ex moving back into town, feeling on edge around a suspicious colleague who's just disappeared into thin air, and dealing with fears about your partner’s connection with his children’s mum. We also hear a powerful story of a woman who’s been through hell and come out stronger. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tash shares her news which is life changing, when you have an affair with your ex and you’re not sure what to do, when going no contact is the only way, and when your boyfriend has been hiding a whole other life for over 2 years! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Carly shares a deeply emotional update while trying to hold everything together.We hear from a woman in a sexless marriage considering an affair with her boss, a chaotic dating story involving a back-door escape, and a shocking discovery that points to a partner cheating.Plus, a powerful anonymous confession from a mum who admits she’s been gaslighting her own son.Please vote for us as Podcast of the Year!https://tinyurl.com/3n4xnt3hYou don't need to choose something for every category to submit! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Tash shares the hurdles she’s had to face during her break-up, when you stick by your partner through his addiction, a man shares an extremely moving explanation of his addiction, and needing the courage to walk away from a man who has allowed you to carry him through your whole relationship. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dating can feel confusing, frustrating and at times completely overwhelming. In this episode, renowned dating and relationship expert Sabrina Zohar joins us to answer your most pressing questions - from navigating no contact and mixed signals to building healthy, secure relationships that actually last. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s a dating episode guys and we have delivered the goods! First up, the man that shat himself on a first date, the most shocking affair we have EVER come across, the romantic stroll along the dirty river and being the third wheel with the ‘platonic bestie’  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’ve had some shocking updates from our listeners. In one case, an affair turned out not to be just one, but two. Another story involved a man desperately trying to hide his whereabouts during a FaceTime call. One mum was excited for her family holiday, only to discover her partner had already been frolicking in the sea with another woman. Another man had an affair with someone 13 years younger and, as if that wasn’t enough, she later found out he had been visiting prostitutes… more than 40 in just six months. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tash gives us an update on finally going no contact but what occurred beforehand, we share some dating stories just in time for valentines day… the man who wanted to drive into a brick wall, playing hide and seek when the date isn’t going well, being presented with a penis in the car, wanting to leave your marriage but guilt is stopping you and when you get caught in the lie! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you realise you’re carrying your whole relationship, when your partner leaves you for someone else, when your baby daddy is mia for a year and then you find out the most shocking news as to why, and stopping the cohabiting with your ex! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tash shares the sad update that her and her boyfriend have broken up. When the man you’re with punishes you for keeping your baby, a random Facebook message that brings you the truth about your partner and the worst pocket dial confession Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We unpack how she found out and how she felt with it only happening 2 weeks ago! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, we hear a confession from someone sleeping with her married boss, a long-term boyfriend exposed on an Are We Dating the Same Guy page and our advice as to whether we think a listener's boyfriend might be cheating on her. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Divorce week has hit us, and this episode is not one you will want to miss if you’re struggling with healing. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We speak about the struggles we can face over xmas, being newly single or not having your children, when staying for the kids is not an option, an email that sets us off emotionally with a lovely thank you, and we hear from a male listener whose repeatedly being cheated on…. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Trigger warning: Domestic AbuseWhen your ex partner is using drugs and tries it on with your sister, a very abusive relationship that’s hard to get out of when you’re in it, and when your perfect life falls apart when he decides he wants to leave out of nowhere! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jess shares the reasons behind the breakdown of her marriage, behind the camera of OnlyFans and where she sees her life moving forward Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We unpack the lies we’ve told ourselves to stay in an unhappy relationship, when your husband blames your appearance for the reason he left and when all the lies get uncovered from the dreaded phone!!! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When your ex gives you an unintentional strip tease, the Christmas party affair that eventually comes out, when you’re chasing closure from the wrong person and questioning if you gave up too soon on your marriage due to motherhood. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We hear about the constant betrayal throughout a marriage with some brutal advice given, a shocking story which left someone homeless, the reality of ignoring every red flag and the when love turns into survival Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We give our brutal opinion on what we believe is bare minimum rather than princess treatment, when the guy you’re dating even lied about his name and figuring out whether a second chance could work. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We hear from a broken listener who we give some much needed advice to, when the trust is broken and if you can really move forward from the deceit, and we hear from an ‘imposter’ who shares a different story!Use code CARLY20 for 20% off anything site wide @ruci_uk Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For the first time ever, Jessica reveals the detailed truths about her partner's affair, the way she found out, and what she did afterwards!!! Not one to miss! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We actually beg a listener to take our advice, or she will regret it, the lying boyfriend who made out he ended it to do her a favour, the shocking 9-year affair and watching history repeat itself! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A very eye-opening episode which will give you an insightful understanding into the coparenting world, how to manage the legal battle with your children’s parent and growing through the trauma. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We share the most embarrassing moments when you text the wrong person, Tash shares a mortifying experience, finding out you're the home wrecker only after the relationship ends and when your husband leaves you for a man Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We get an update on Carly's dating drama after being ghosted, how she joined dating app Wisp https://wisp.global/ (ad) which bans ghosters, the most graphic sexual encounter by a male listener, the 5ft7 liar, and dating a criminal! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We discuss whether it’s a good idea to date multiple men at once, swapping stories with the other woman, planning another baby with your ex and how to meet the love of your life and a lovely email to give is all hope! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Carly gives us a big life update, we have a little scroll on ‘are we dating the same guy’, realising you’ve outgrown your partner and don’t know if you should end it, and should you give your cheating partner one more chance? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to a brand-new era of Not As We Planned - and our very first episode in the NEW studio! 💖 It’s a total pinch-me moment, and we’re so excited to share it with you. Same raw honesty and bestie vibes, but with a fresh new space and energy.In this opener, we dive deep into the realities of love, heartbreak, and fresh starts. You’ll hear the jaw-dropping story of a woman who stayed in a toxic relationship for 30 years before finally breaking free, an empowering reminder that it’s never too late to put yourself first. We also answer listener questions about cheating, red flags, and “should I have stayed?” moments. Plus, catch up with us as we share the highs and lows of single life, dating apps, co-parenting, and everything in between.If you’re ready for real talk, belly laughs, and conversations that feel like therapy with your best friends, you’re in the right place.👉 Don’t forget to subscribe for weekly episodes from our new studio!#newstudio #podcastseasonpremiere #toxicrelationships #divorcerecovery #singlewomen #datingafterdivorce #relationshipredflags #breakupadvice #selflovejourney #empowermentpodcast #podcast #youtubepodcast #womensupportwomen Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We discuss the difficulties of splitting your time with the kids over the holidays, someone who needs some serious tough love from us, a clear comparison with how your life could look when leaving or staying and the man who was sleeping with 9 women!!!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We have an honest conversation about the financial pressures of being a single mum, when you catfish your partner by pretending to be the other woman, and a hard story of emotional abuse whilst managing to break the trauma bondLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mr British airways by who took so many women for a ride, when the man you’ve been dating lied about EVERYTHING… even his name! And when you compare notes with the other woman to find that he shat on both your beds!!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You guys share your most embarrassing date scenarios, when your partner informs you that he wants to watch you sleep with other men, when his memory of you is taken away and a thanks for the podcast making you not feel alone through your divorce.Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We hear from an absolute queen showing just how to handle being cheated on, when you think you’re over your husband but don’t want to leave because of the kids and an unexpected turn of events when we get told off by a listener….Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you hear from the other woman who tells you all about the affair, a man who needs our help, and yet another affair with you guessed it… ANOTHER ONELink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When your boyfriend has an issue with your baby daddy, an update from a man whose wife cheated, the massive orange dildo, and proof that no consequences means no changesLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When a short situationship does a lot of damage, your partner tells you it’s you or the dog, and when your ex has moved on but you weren’t ready for this changeLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We share the hilarious comparisons of brands that remind you of your ex, if it’s too early to date an old flame straight after a separation, and watching your partner VANISH out of nowhere!!!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We hear from a woman who’s tried everything to make her marriage work, a man who’s wife cheated on him with her best female friend and an update from the woman who was comparing herself to the girl her partner cheated on her with.Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s time for an overdue dating episode and you’ve delivered the goods!!The 15 minute date with a drunk, when your situationship prioritises spiders over you, having sex in his single bed and we share some weird prompts on the dating appsLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We share a story from a girl who tash met, when you realise you are with a serial cheater and the confessions of a micro penisLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We speak about being married to an addict and how that can impact your life, when blaming the other woman won’t make your problems go away and realising he’s not going to change!!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We both share our realisations from our previous relationships, we give some rare advice and suggest a reconciliation, and the dangers of comparing yourself to the other womanLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We discuss how Staying for the kids and for financial stability doesn’t need to be a thing, finally getting that lightbulb moment and filling for divorce, and how a cheeky bit of milk can go a long way!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/3.0/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.