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Never Split the Difference
Episode 43

Never Split the Difference

Negotiations Ninja Podcast · Mark Raffan, Chris Voss

August 6, 201834m 12s

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Show Notes

If you don't know who Chris Voss is, do yourself a favor and pick up a copy of his book: Never Split the Difference. It will change the way you look at negotiation forever. In this episode, Chris and I talk about some of the finer nuances and intricacies behind the tactics he teaches in his book.

Voss spent 24 years working in the FBI Crisis Negotiation Unit and was the FBI's chief international hostage and kidnapping negotiator from 2003 to 2007. Before that, Voss worked on NYC's Joint Terrorist Task Force investigating terrorist activities and attacks. After working on more than 150 international hostage cases he retired from the FBI in 2007 and founded The Black Swan Group.

Outline of This Episode
  • [2:18] Chris's background in FBI Crisis Negotiation
  • [3:48] Why you want an early "no"
  • [6:50] Two needs: to be understood and accepted
  • [8:57] What is the late-night DJ voice?
  • [12:36] The major failure in negotiation training
  • [16:56] Why you should NEVER split the difference
  • [20:01] The concept of extreme anchoring
  • [21:48] Calibrated "How" questions
  • [23:14] Why you want to hear "that's right" NOT "you're right"
  • [25:14] Be as assertive but nicer
  • [28:02] Don't take yourself hostage
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