My Best Life Lived

First off, I want to thank those that decided to take some time to listen to my podcast. It's been a great experience for me and I hope for you as well. I've learned some things and I hope you have not only enjoyed it, but maybe just maybe took something away from it. This is my last podcast, or at least I think it is. I'm thinking about doing my podcast on YouTube in 2025, no telling.I want to thank you for taking time to listen and remind you to be a good human, and do the best you can

Well it's sad that we now aren't able to respect each others opinion, fighting over that seems to be the way most people now spend their time. When did these all happen. Look if you think one way, have an opinion that's different than someone else, believe in something that others don't it should be ok.

Ok, its true, well as far as pop culture goes, in fact I have a new helper at work and Im 50 years older than him. Hard to keep up with things these days by all means, if fact I was sent a link to a couple Chappel Roan videos, and to be honest, not my cup of tea so to say, guess its cause Im not a lesbian. But I have a lot in common with them, see I love woman too.

Knee deep into Autumn

I love Autumn, 2 reasons, one, it's an amazing season and second its about change. Change is an amazing thing, it allows for growth and improvement. To understand that change is a good thing, yes its hard, but dont let fear be your driver.

Well its a long hard road to be able to respond instead of reacting. Why because somethings just piss us off, but with some practice it gets easier, just like everything.

Well, it so true, the goal is to learn how to respond, even to the things that trigger you. I work on it almost every day, Im thinking one day I'll figure it out.

Yes , its true, now it might take some time, some learning and by all means some confidence, but yes you can do it. So get after it.

Its true, I get caught up with stuff and have to decide what I can do and what I wont be able to do. It takes some arranging and when I don't get it all done, I remember it's ok.

I can't, this episode is revisiting the concepts of being creative. I think all of us have that desire. Those abilities, for some it's what we do and for others maybe they just indulge in that, well they should. All in all, we need to, its one of the parts of living a full life.

It's hard to remember sometimes there's always two sides to everything. Yes most things that is. I work hard at really seeing that in everything. So unless you make a choice to go through life crabby, this is a must.

Yes the fine art of asking, it's really simple for some, but for others, it's terrifying. "Oh my lord asking for something? What if the answers no?" What if the answer is yes. Guess that's really what it comes down to a person who leaves by the motto what if. At no point should we be afraid of the word no. As the old saying goes if you don't ask, you don't get.

well that's an easy answer, everyone. I've noticed a lack of it and it made me think is it real, does it still or has it ever existed? I like to think so, at least for me. Humanity is simple, it's free, you can practice it everywhere and anytime, so why have we started to have it fade in so many?

Fear is something we all have in common, the difference is some live in it some frozen by it, some are motivated by it and some create it in others. I know that it serves a purpose also, it keeps us safe, it reminds us to stay out of trouble by what can happen. It can and is part of the human experience.

Its easy for us to think about the past in a way that features only the best parts, like a memory editing machine. However sometimes it stops us from the reality of why we moved on or what it was really like.

Funny how we forget the bad parts of the past and remember only the good parts, or maybe we selectively disregard those parts and pretend they ever existed. I call that selective memory but in some cases dealing with addiction recovery they are called Euphoric Recall.

Well its really about some of things we all hate and how it's easy to fall victim to joining the haters these days. But when we really look deep into why people hate things its simple, sometimes it's fear or misunderstanding things or just using the word hate without understanding what that word really means.

Having friends is amazing and sometimes we can lose contact with some of the people we meet along the way, then again we can also maintain friendships that last for decades maybe even a lifetime. I've been thinking about that and how friends can bring so much love and joy in our life and how some friends can also be a pain in the ass.

Vacations are a requirement by all means. Since we just spent 10 wonderful days traveling around down south. We drove around 1500 miles, visited old friends, went to some new places and all in all had a great trip

As I get older, I have new questions, I've always had questions and of late this is one of the new ones. What was left behind? Is there something were suppose to be doing were not or a secret meaning to this amazing opportunity called our life?

At one point we're all looking for something. Maybe it's your car keys, where you parked your car at the grocery store, some lost passwords. Perhaps something a better job, a place to life, a shortcut or maybe just maybe some answers that have eluded you for years. Its true, since the dawn of time humans have looked for things. Some of those things we find some of them we never do. Today we all look for answers maybe more than ever before, so I ask what are you looking for?

Yes it's true. When you feel the learning curve is a bit steep, take a step back, raise your hand, do your research and most of all remember you've probably done hard things before. The more things we learn to do, the easier it gets to jump in with both feet, they call that mastery. Doing new things is awesome and even if learning can be a struggle at first, so what, no one said you need to learn it overnight, did they?

Ah, the fine art of comebacks, speaking up and calling people out on their bad behavior. Now I know not everyone is comfortable doing that, but I've decided to give you a few of my favorites. Feel free to practice them, and then the next time some person decides to be abusive, rude, or disrespectful, you might just think, its time to call them out. Let them know their behavior is no longer acceptable. And if you don't, at least you can think one of them and send them that energy along with an eyeroll.

Yes its true, bad things do happen, but good things happen too. When I'm around people who are consumed with waiting for the next bad thing, it makes me sad for them. They seem to be caught up in a spend the quicksand of fear. It's one thing to understand and accept that bad things do happen, however its quite another to waste time waiting on it.

Yes, the world seems more upside down then ever, but really it's always been this way. The trick is to figure out whats wrong with yourself and then start to understand you can only do the better if you have the right tools. Issues can be solved, problems dealt with but some of what makes us live better is learning how to manage live and our faults and knowing how to use the tools available. Life's hard so get a helmet

Of course we all miss a day or two now and then. However hopefully it's not a day when there's an opportunity to learn something that helps you forever. You just never know, guess that's the point, we don't know much unless you show up and listen. Learning is an amazing part of living a great life

It seems like that's a question that often comes up, in fact the older you get you may find as we all start to understand that life has an expiration date attached to it. Of course we all ask that question throughout our live sometimes. Maybe its a question that never really has an answer or maybe it does.

Thought I would share a story about what one of the things I love, things with motors. Yes I know, its been a big part of my life and I guess maybe its from growing up in Detroit or maybe its just something that is in my blood, I think it's both

This episode is about the times we either push our boundaries or are thrust into learning or doing something new. Most of the time we all rise to the occasion, at least these 3 stories go that way. I think its good for us to be throw into new things, in fact the more it happens the more likely you have the confidence and experience you'll do just fine.

I have always found it amazing how and why our brains work the way they do and sometimes they don't work. All the things we think about and why do we think about them. What makes us tick so to speak. We all have the same organs and needs for the most part, but what makes us different is the way we think. Sure there are plenty of like minded folks out there. None of us are mind readers and if we were we might all go insane once we figured out who's thinking what.Music by: www.waynedetroit.com

Yes I know, a lot of people hate their job, and for good reason, some jobs suck, some companies suck and some bosses suck, however maybe its time to rethink your current work situation . They say that if you do something you love, you'll never work a day in your life, I couldn't agree more. Now don't get me wrong I know we all have bills to pay and things we want, but that doesn't mean waking up everyday and living in the world of discontent or for that matter hating what you have to do for work. Call it a means to an end, make some plans, dream some dreams and make some changes.Music by: www.waynedetroit.com

It's bound to happen at one point or another, the new normal. It's when we move forward or at least time does and were not always ready for that, hold on, you'll have to figure out how to or else you'll be stuck in the past. The future isn't always what we thought it would be, but that doesn't mean its bad.Music by: www.waynedetroit.com

We all know someone that is always the center of drama. In fact drama is part of life and yes we have all been guilty of being part of or worse causing some drama at one point or another in our life, its going to happen. Life is full of drama, so I wonder why some people need to cause it or thrive in a constant state of drama.Music by: wwwaynedetroit.com

After living in what I call ground zero of the snowflake movement, I just had to share some ideas about this social blizzard that has cripple humor, effected us all and made us aware about a new breed of the emotionally stunted youth of today.Music by:Vampires from Uranus and www.waynedetroit.com

Yes it true, I learned one of my most important lesson about living a better life in art class. It was simple once I figured it out, and to this day it helps me to be the best me I could be.Music by: www.waynedetroit.com

Its a brand new year and with that comes, opportunities and changes. Sometime these are small and yet still have an impact and sometimes they are big and can change our lives forever, This is one story that has done just that, changed my live forever

The Miss White Trash Pageant started in 1999, The 1st pageant was in 1998. It was The Miss K.O.A pageant. I produced 11 pageants total and they have been some of the most entertaining shows I ever did.

Pressure is something that just happens in life, it's how we deal with it or better yet how we manage it that counts. I do pretty good with managing it or at least very rarely am I overwhelmed by it.Music by: www.waynedetroit.com

Yes, it's true, I thought I would never get old or do some of the things I'm doing now and by all means embracing or should I say bracing for that fact. I have to admit it's kind of fun as I start to get into the "Hey Get Off My Lawn" part of my life.Music by: www.waynedetroit.com

After decades of battling addiction, mental heath issues and depression it was time to make some changes and DBT, Dialectic Behavior Therapy opened the door to my understanding change, well being and what real opportunity is all about.

It's that time of the year and so I thought I would share some thoughts, a couple stories about the Holidays, December, Aluminum Christmas Trees, New Years in Southern California and recording the Jesus Presley's Christmas CD. Music by Jesus Presley - #ChristmaswithJesusPresley

It's no wonder America has gone crazy. When facts aren't the bases for truth anymore it's easy to see how things get upside down quickly.

It's about living my best life and how that happened in spite of myself. It's about sharing stories, concepts, ideas, adventures, information about DBT, things I've learned and my experiences over the past 6 decades. From touring on motorcycles, to being a frontman and running a 14 piece band for 18 years to being a creative, the fulfillment and struggles that come from that. It's about life, death and the journey in between.

It's a story about how art is a mere reflection of life and imitates it. How could it not. If you like my podcast please subscribe, and thank you for taking some time to listen. Intro music by: Wayne Detroit. www.waynedetroit.com

Being creative isn't about end results, it's about the doing. Here's a story about being creative, trying new things, a town in the middle of nowhere and vampires