Mums F**king Matter

Did you know that you have a right to be mindful of where your precious energy is spent?! This is one of my favourite topics — and most commonly talked about with clients.Here is a link to episode one of my podcast, as I mention: Apple podcasts here and Spotify here.In this episode I speak about:energetic vacuums and radiatorsnot taking on other people's negative projectionsholding your own in who you are, what you do and whyknowing your approach is valid and expressing resistance to receiving unsolicited adviceletting go of people pleasing and over apologisingmenstrual cycle awareness (and pre-menstrual TRUTH) and planning your diary to avoid certain things and peopleinner child worklooking after me and how it helps me and my daughterthe mother loadDr Gabor Maté's research on women and ill healthThemes: Boundaries, Parenting, Motherhood, Mental HealthAt the end, I share a poem written by Danielle Doby.Did you enjoy this episode? Want to learn more about working with me? Why not book in for a commitment free 30-minute connection call here?For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

This conversation with Nat Biviano, Life Coach and founder of 'Spine Tingling Marriage' is so juicy, emotional and insightful. Nat's wisdom and passion is so beautiful and moving to witness. She truly cares about helping women and Mothers and I'm sure you will hear that in this conversation…In this episode we speak about:what it means for Nat to be a woman and a Mothertuning in to our feminine naturethe power of working on ourselves to heal in our relationshipsthe Disney dream vs the real life experiencematrescence and relationshipshow and why our self-worth can be affected in motherhoodmaking the implicit explicit and the difference it can makeNat's experience in the near break down of her relationship, and working through the messy middlethe NUMBER 1 problem that comes up time and time again in relationshipswhat the feminist movement did that didn't help usThemes: Parenting, Marriage, Relationships, Motherhood, Mental HealthAt the end, I share a poem written by Danielle Doby.Did you enjoy this episode? If so, please leave a review on the platform that you listen. Want to learn more about working with me? Why not book in for a commitment free 30-minute connection call here?For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

Children are not Tamagotchis. They won't just do and say what they're told. They are little humans with feelings and minds of their own.Please note: I am not attempting to be a parenting coach. I am simply exposing what I feel passionate about and I know a lot of others will and do relate to.In this episode I share my perspectives and approach to the ridiculous pressures we can feel as parents in this day and age, in the hope that it may bring you some relief (and a giggle or two).In this episode I speak about:the pressure on Mumswhat society expects of parents and childrenmy approach to said pressure ;)Themes: Parenting, Motherhood, Mental HealthAt the end, I share a poem written by Karen McMillan.Did you enjoy this episode? Want to learn more about working with me? Why not book in for a commitment free 30-minute connection call here?For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

I first heard Lucy Rowett talking on a podcast in 2020 and I've loved listening to and learning from what she does ever since! I'm excited to have her on the podcast, talking about all things pleasure, sex and relationships.In this episode we speak about:learning to be comfortable in your body and how HUGE that isknowing the anatomy of your genitalia (you might be surprised how few people know)letting go of sexual shamepurity culture and faith deconstructionknowing your wants, needs and boundaries (in the bedroom or not)subconscious behaviour that can play out in relationshipsLucy's course on sexual communicationLucy's top books on self-pleasure, sex and desireThemes: Sex, Intimacy, Pleasure, Healing, RelationshipsYou can find more information on Lucy and all the fabulous things she offers here.At the end, I share a poem written by Danielle Doby.Did you enjoy this episode? Want to learn more about working with me? Why not book in for a commitment free 30-minute connection call here?For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

Since 2019 I've had quite a journey with my skin health. Now it's finally better, I wanted to share my experience in case it's helpful for anyone else to hear/learn from.In this episode I speak about:getting help from a naturopathic nutritionistreceiving unsolicited advicehow I needed to adjust my dietwhat my body was saying in it's sufferingallergies to ingredients in skin productsgetting help from the wrong personhow we're potentially conditioned to feel like we 'should' look flawlessthe deep upset that my skin problems caused meThemes: Nutrition, Gut Health, Naturopathy, Mental HealthI mention Ebony Jane Nutrition. I also mention Shea Butter Cottage. At the end, I share a poem written by me.Did you enjoy this episode? Want to learn more about working with me? Why not book in for a commitment free 30-minute connection call here?For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

Do you ever think about how truly amazing the/your body is? With all that it does and has done for you, what you're able to do and feel and create with your body. — Listen in, as I gently invite you to (perhaps) appreciate yourself a little bit more.Please note: This can be an emotional topic. There is no pressure or judgement whatsoever to be or feel any different from where you are now. In this episode I speak about:the wisdom our body holds and conveys'listening' hands and loving touchthe significance of our feetbreath work and yoga as powerful tools to tune inwardswhen our organs show warning signswe're "not a sum of broken parts"*decent posture and moving wiselyThemes: Mental Health, Physical Health, Yoga, Breath*I mention Glennon Doyle.At the end, I share a poem written by Selina Denton.Did you enjoy this episode? Want to learn more about working with me? Why not book in for a commitment free 30-minute connection call here?For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

In this episode I am talking to the brilliant co-founder of Becoming Mums, Fi McQuay. I absolutely LOVE the work that Fi and her co-founder Beth Allum are doing, supporting Mums in the Berkshire area with the groups that they run and the community they have created. In this episode, Fi and I speak about:anxiety in early motherhood how 'Becoming Mums' came aboutthe power of community holding space for storiesbeing given unsolicited advicethe sanctuary of non-judgemental groupsThemes: Motherhood, Mental Health, Postnatal SupportTo find out more about Becoming Mums, see here.We mention Pregnant Then Screwed. At the end I read something by Caitlin Moran.For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

I think a lot of women are put off doing exercise because they get the idea that it needs to be intense to have any benefit. — That it needs to be lifting super heavy weights, running ultra marathons, or spending hours in the gym. Not true! There are soooo many benefits to moving gently but WISELY. Knowing how to train well — in ways that don’t lead to burnout or cause you to dread the whole thing — can be a game changer.I warmly welcome you to a way of moving that may suit your mind and body a f**k load better 😋. In this episode I speak about:how ‘fitness’ doesn’t need to be hardchanging our wording to be less punishingthe negative effects of intense training when stressed and/or tiredthings to watch out for in your postnatal bodyhow I train differently since becoming a Mumfinding enjoyment and PLEASURE in how you choose to moveworking with the breath in yoga and exerciseThemes: Fitness, Mental Health, Physical Health, Postnatal ExerciseAt the end, I share a poem written by Safire Rose. Did you enjoy this episode? Want to make progress with your health? Why not book in for a commitment free 30-minute connection call here?For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

The sheer magic of music is huge. Right?! I am sometimes surprised why people don’t talk about music more. It is/can be insanely powerful in helping boost our mood or shift energy; whether that be feeling something fully and allowing it to come up or maybe dancing it out.In this episode I speak about:what music do you love? And why?how music can stir us deeplythe power of songs from 'kids' filmsignoring people who try to cuss your choicesthe electric experience live music can belyrics and languageSusan Cain's work on 'bittersweetness' and allowing ourselves to feel Themes: Music, Emotions, Healing, Mental Health, Physical HealthAt the end, I share a poem written by Cleo Wade. For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

Welcome to my first guest interview on the podcast! I am so excited to share with you my conversation with Zoe Charles, Mums of two boys and Founder of 'The Cheek Of It!' School of Burlesque and Cabaret.I connected with Zoe after hearing about her classes — which I cannot WAIT to participate in. After exchanging a few lovely audio messages, I knew I wanted to invite her onto the podcast. In this episode we speak about:Zoe's background, what led her to create 'The Cheek Of It' and her passion for working with and holding space for womenchallenging disempowering beliefs through burlesque and performance as a rite of passagethe practice of taking up space, enjoying our body and the ripple effect of that on other womenZoe's experience of birth trauma, finding help and healing her relationship with her bodymotherhood, rejecting the claim "You can have it all" and witnessing the magic of our children as they areThemes: Dance, Burlesque, Drama, Motherhood, Birth Trauma, Mental Health, Physical HealthTo find out more about Zoe and her fabulous offerings, see here on 'The Cheek Of It!' website.At the end (34 minutes in), I share a poem written by today's guest, Zoe Charles. For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

Are you aware of menstrual cycle awareness (MCA for short)? And if so, do you apply it to your life?In my work with women, I have noticed that MCA is not known about nearly as much as I think it should be. (Boys and men will benefit from knowing about it too.)In this episode I speak about:the work of Lisa Listerhow I now work (and rest) in harmony with my cycleavoiding giving from a place of resentment with MCAgently informing and educating my daughtercyclical wisdom for when you’re no longer bleedingdiscomfort during ovulationadvocating for ourselves to find out morePMT = premenstrual truth — it's not 'just' being hormonala brilliant podcast to listen to (see below)Themes: The Menstrual Cycle, Periods, Mental Health, Physical HealthI mention Lisa Lister and her book ‘Love Your Lady Landscape’ as well as 'Wild Power' by Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer (this is the book I forget the name of).'28ish Days Later' is the podcast with India Rakusen that I reference.At the end, I share a poem written by me.For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

There are so many wonderful benefits to doing baby massage with your child. — For all the family, not just your baby.Here I share my passion for this precious tool for calm and connection, that has helped hundreds of parents I've taught, in the hope that it may help you in similar ways.In this episode I speak about:doing baby massage after birth traumahow I started teaching baby massagebody awareness from a young agethe value in slowing down in a busy worldpositive hormones that are releasedusing massage for a deeper connectionthe ripple effect on the familyhow loving touch is nourishing for babies — and ususing massage with my daughter, years after her being a babyThemes: Baby Massage, Mental Health, Physical Health, Birth RecoveryAt the end, I share a poem by Phyllis K. Davis.For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

The world of food, diets and how you choose to eat/principles you enjoy adopting can be complex and a very loaded topic.How you choose to eat e.g. omnivore, vegan or simply intuitively — regardless of the label it may have — is up to you, and you only. Yet, in today’s society we can be advised/told how to eat left, right and centre.In this episode I share my personal experience, what I have done in the past and what works for me now. I speak about:growing up veganfuelling your body for optimal healthtoxic/cult-like diet culturethe pressures/opinions you can get from otherswhen and why I became an omnivorebeing ostracised (and Brené Brown’s wisdom)strict diet ideals and stigmasallowing ourselves to thrivethe words we use around food and eatingThemes: Food, Diets, Naturopathy, Nutrition, BoundariesAt the end, I share a poem written by Nikita Gill.For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

Have you experienced burnout? Or come close to it perhaps? Burnout is a very real thing and something I experienced in June 2023. We are not taught to slow down, pause and rest. Messages from society say “do more”, “keep on”, “don’t give up”. But sooner or later our body can and will slam on the brakes.In this episode I speak about:my diagnosiswhy I got burnout, despite being good at self-carehow my Doctor really listenedgiving myself permission to stopthe mental load that we carrywhat can you let go of?taking rest seriouslythe art of receivingpracticing healthy boundariesasking for help allowing ourselves to thriveThemes: Burnout, Mental Health, Physical Health, BoundariesAt the end, I share a poem written by Danielle Doby. For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

What would you do with your free time? So often, we spend ‘free’ time giving to others, ticking things off to-do lists, and completing chores.It is incredibly common for Mums to forget their needs and desires. To a greater or lesser degree, we can *lose ourselves in Motherhood. (*In the long run we can find ourselves too! More on that in another episode.)Therefore, I wish to gently invite you to think about you more.In this episode I speak about:giving yourself permission to receivetime spent on you is not selfishthe significance of being alone when used to giving all the timetuning into yourself, your truth, and what makes you YOUthe sanctuary that 10-minutes can bebringing more awareness to your bodyletting go of the guilt and the ‘shoulds’finding ways to nourish youThemes: Boundaries, Mental Health, Physical Health, Birth RecoveryAt the end, I share a poem written by Emma Heaphy. For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

What is your relationship with crying? How does it feel to cry? Many of us (young and old) have been told not to cry, or that it’s not ok to show emotions in that way. We are often embarrassed or even ashamed to be seen to cry. However, crying is a natural response to some of the things we will experience as human beings. So, I invite you to ponder your relationship with crying and perhaps let go of the negative label a little.In this episode I speak about:the cultural view on crying, sadness and angerhow other people’s opinions about crying can influence our ownbeing curious about what our body may be telling uswhy it’s unhealthy to suppress certain emotions for long periodscrying at an ecstatic dance event and why it felt GREATthe unhealthy pressure on men to suppress emotionsallowing all feelings to surface, in yoga and otherwisethe energy it can take to not crywho can you comfortably cry with?tears of joy and gratitudeI mention the amazing poet, Hollie McNish.Themes: Emotional Health, BoundariesAt the end, I share a poem written by me.For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

The period following the birth of a baby (and the birth of a Mother really) is a precious time that needs to be protected and treated with reverence and care.In this episode, I share 3 top things to be aware of and put into practice after having a baby. I speak about:advocating for your needs AND desires (there's a big difference)boundaries* and people pleasing tendenciesknowing your capacitythe importance of a circle of supporthow true support is different to those who drain your energyI mention Mark Groves' podcast and Terri Cole.(*For more about boundaries, please see Episode 1 of the podcast, titled 'Healthy Boundaries; Protecting Your Energy and Why It Matters'.)Themes: Postnatal Wellbeing, Boundaries, Birth RecoveryAt the end, I share a poem written by me.For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

Do you dance? Have you ever hesitated to dance, even though you love it?In this episode, I invite you to break free from inhibitions and explore the myriad benefits of dancing. Whether it's to music or in silence, discover the transformative power of movement.Join me as I share insights into my passion for dance, its positive impact, and why prioritising dance is hugely beneficial for our well-being.I speak about:dancing alone, choosing the music (and the volume of it!)the importance of shedding the labels of being "good" or "bad" at dancingopenness to new dance settings, exploring beyond the familiar the positive emotions that dance brings, lifting mood and aiding in emotional processingthe healing power of dance as a holistic well-being practicedance as a means of self-discovery and a tool for connecting with others celebrating the innate ability of children to move to music, tapping into their natural rhythmreflecting on the simplicity and authenticity of children's connection with dance.Themes: Dance, Exercise, Mental Health, MusicAt the end, I share a poem written by me.For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram, and don't forget to sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

We explore the world of postnatal fitness and movement in this episode. Mothers returning to exercise — whether it's weeks, months, or years after childbirth — often lack the right support and education that they truly deserve.We need to recognise that issues like incontinence and chronic back pain are not things to simply endure.Your body requires a unique approach, along with increased reverence and respect post-pregnancy and birth.This applies not only to biological mothers but also to those who have adopted; considering factors like sleep deprivation and the physical demands of parenting.In this episode, I discuss:the importance of selecting a specialist or someone experienced in postnatal fitness and motherhoodhow your preferences matter — your feelings are valid!why excessive pressure isn't always beneficialthe right balance between pushing yourself and knowing when to go gentlythe subtle yet significant aspects that contribute to growth and progresshints on training methods that won't exhaust you or make exercise feel like a chore.recognising the signs of a healthy coaching relationship and understanding the prevalence of gaslighting and judgmenthow the language, manner, and energy of a coach can make a significant differencethe importance of being challenged in a safe way, both for the body and the nervous systemtaking relaxin into account with postnatal exercisesand it's okay to say "f**k the 'shoulds' "Themes: Women's Health, Postnatal Fitness, Maternal Mental Health, BoundariesAt the end, I share a poem by Liezel Graham.For more insights, you can follow me on Instagram here, and don't forget to sign up for my weekly newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com.

Why does it really help us, as women, to know our body better? Find out in this episode. From knowing/learning the names of your genitalia — because let’s face it men know theirs pretty well, right? — to listening to the body’s instincts and intuition. So many women come away from birth deeply affected by what their body now feels and looks like. I gently invite you to get to know your body better, to tune inwards and be an advocate for yourself.I speak about:knowing the parts of our genitalia and why many of us don’t knowmy healing experience at a ‘Paint Your Vulva’ workshopAnna Lou Walker’s book ‘The Little Book of Vaginas’the clitoris and how it is not one single pointpracticing love and reverence for the body, especially post-birthhow the body speaks up with instincts and intuitionthe benefits of yoga for tuning in to the body's wisdom and our truththat we all deserve to be continent and confidentself-pleasure and knowing what feels goodsupport for pelvic floor issues and upsetthe different signs of our health and not self-silencingfeeling comfortable ‘down there’ is just as important as anywhere elseThemes: Women’s Health, Sex, Intuition, Self-Advocacy, Self-Care, BirthI mention Lucy Rowett, Sex and Relationship CoachAt the end, I share a poem by Danielle DobyConnect with me on InstagramSign up for my weekly newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com

In this episode I share the ‘why’ behind what I do as a Birth Recovery Coach. You will hear me share some of the resources and people that really helped me, and how I recognised that I needed help. I touch on my personal experience as a new Mum; birth trauma*, PTSD and subsequently the growth. I speak a little into the unnecessary pressures placed on new Mums and why recovery and true support after birth can set us up much better for the road ahead.Pregnancy, birth, motherhood and matrescence deserve far more respect, reverence, appreciation and compassionate understanding. What a woman and her body goes through is huge, and I aim to convey why that and she matters in this episode.Themes: Birth Trauma, PTSD, Mental Health, Postnatal Fitness, Postnatal Recovery*For anyone affected by birth trauma and worried about being triggered, I do not talk about my birth experience in detail. I do share a poem I wrote about my birth experience at the end though (19 minutes in).Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebirthrecoverycoachSign up for my weekly newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com

Having healthy boundaries can make a huge difference, especially when you’re a new Mum. In this episode I talk about why boundaries are super important, how they can help you and that it’s not selfish to say “no”. I share a little bit about the practices I use and support my clients with to preserve precious energy, so that you’re more able to give from a place of feeling nourished, not knackered and resentful. It is vital that you receive to balance out the giving and in this episode I share why and some ideas of how. Let’s help meet your needs and desires, much more — and without shame or guilt — with healthy boundaries.Themes: Boundaries, Health, Parenting, Mental HealthInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebirthrecoverycoachSign up for my weekly newsletter at www.thebirthrecoverycoach.com

Mums F**king Matter with Lucy Wylde is a weekly podcast aimed at helping Mums to feel more seen and validated in their experiences of motherhood and matrescence. Just because society doesn’t (yet!) respect the monumental role of Mothers, it doesn’t mean that we can’t value ourselves. As a coach, yoga teacher, perinatal exercise specialist and Mum, Lucy shares her experience, passion and gentle activism for creating greater ease, pleasure and joy in body and mind, to help you adjust to one of life’s biggest transitions; Matrescence.To find out more about Lucy you can visit her website hereOr visit her on Instagram