Modern Manhood: The Podcast

On this episode of Cold Takes, Veronika and I go into what it means to have gendered role models as we reflect how we grew up noticing gender (including school dress codes). We also talk about the death of RBG and try to gingerly walk around the controversy of the movie 'Cuties.' This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Today we're joined with Garrett Carlson from https://dudefluencer.com/ to talk about his ex career, the one of teaching and what made him leave. His frustrations which mirrored my frustrations. This will be the first of a multi part series on the Education System. This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

On this week's Cold Takes, we take a look at what is the slippery slope that can make a socialist or leftist movement unwelcome for women and people of color. We also dive into the politics and masculinity of the documentary "Boys State" https://gen.medium.com/the-lefts-misogyny-problem-3fc37eea6e0e https://medium.com/mel-magazine/advice-for-the-bro-left-from-an-og-socialist-dd45572305cd https://www.vice.com/sv/article/yvekng/how-to-spot-a-brocialist-the-guys-with-righteous-politics-but-dodgy-attitudes-to-girls https://www.vox.com/identities/2017/10/24/16503462/dsa-women-cumtown-chapo https://www.amazon.ca/Women-Race-Class-Angela-Davis/dp/0394713516 This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

One of the biggest pet peeves I have when I read or look at things about gender, is the amount of assumptions we make around what makes a man and what makes a woman. How many times have you heard the word or phrase: “Men’s brains are like this and they think about sex all the time or they think about being the protector because that’s how they were born to be because of their real life masculine brain.” So in this episode we’re going to find out, are men really cavemen? And why essentialism is a slippery rope Links: https://stanmed.stanford.edu/2017spring/how-mens-and-womens-brains-are-different.htm https://forge.medium.com/how-i-finally-got-men-to-talk-about-their-feelings-in-therapy-cddd48b0af4c This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

In the latest episode of Cold Takes, we'll investigate what masculinity has to do whether you wear a mask or not. As well we go deep into what universal basic income is and how it can be a project worth fighting for. Masks and Masculinity - - https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2020/jul/03/covid-19-masks-men-masculinity - https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/politics-and-gender/article/toxic-maskulinity-the-link-between-masculine-toughness-and-affective-reactions-to-mask-wearing-in-the-covid19-era/8753DA181D76C7D59D6712C8F0C666E7 - https://www.nbcnews.com/think/video/masks-and-the-modern-man-liz-plank-on-what-covid-19-can-teach-us-about-manhood-89344581761 UBI - https://www.versobooks.com/books/1847-four-futures - https://pfd.alaska.gov/ - https://www.nationalgeographic.co.uk/history-and-civilisation/2020/05/universal-basic-income-is-gathering-support-has-it-ever-worked-and This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

In the midst of the bigger conversation about Black Lives Matter, Abdul Malik sent me a message about something he has been thinking about for a while, the intersection of his culture within the ever-presence of toxic masculinity and white supremacy. The intersection of race and masculinity is real, and we’re here to talk about it. You can find Abdul Malik at abdulmalik.com or on Twitter @socialistraptor This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Today Veronika has a special treat in which she will share with us some findings of Sexual Violence awareness campaigns she's learned. As well we talk about the Male Happiness Scale and what really makes men happy (Hint: It's Jobs). Research on Sexual Violence Amy R. Baugher and Julie A. Gazmararian: Masculine gender role stress and violence: A literature review and future directions Carline, A., Gunby, C., & Taylor, S. (2018). Too drunk to consent? Exploring the contestations and disruptions in male-focused sexual violence prevention interventions. Social & Legal Studies, 27(3), 299-322. https://www.doi.org/10.1177/0964663917713346 Silver, N., & Hovick, S. (2018). A schema of denial: The influence of rape myth acceptance on beliefs, attitudes, and processing of affirmative consent campaign messages. Journal of Health Communication, 23(6), 505-513. https://doi.org/10.1080/10810730.2018.1473532 Resources on Sexual Violence SACE I am with you Jeffrey Epstien documentary Catch and Kill Athlete A Restorative Justice & Sexual Violence Traditional justice system responses don’t work for us (and we know it)https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/pub/85-002-x/2017001/article/54870-eng.htm Restorative Justice Difficult, but really wild TED Talk - Our story of rape and reconciliation | Thordis Elva and Tom Stranger.. Tom raped Thordis when they were teenagers….their ted talk together. https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/rp-pr/jr/2019rsd-rr2019/p31.html https://www.ctvnews.ca/canada/i-do-forgive-him-as-a-human-rape-victim-confronts-her-attacker-in-restorative-justice-process-1.4665519 Harry’s Study on Men’s Happiness https://getpocket.com/explore/item/the-strongest-predictor-of-men-s-well-being-isn-t-family-or-health?utm_source=pocket-newtab This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

The Murder of George Floyd has sparked an international wave of reconsideration and doubt over many things. Many things that we may have considered as normal. The main one has been around the idea of policing. What does policing look like in the modern world? And is it broken? And do we even need it? Questions that not only question the role of one of the most established institutions that we have, but questions that break open what systemic racism looks like in the US, Canada, and throughout the world. Most importantly, I have to recognize that this has been a cultural moment that started in the US. So I wanted to speak to people to John Morrison (@John_Liberator) and Josh Indy Leidy (@Indi_SRS) about not only the wave shift, the idea of police abolition, but also their fight to remove a Philadelphia acknowledgment of Frank Rizzo. This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Two Weeks ago, George Floyd was murdered in the streets of Minneapolis. George Floyd, a black man whose body was treated like nothing, was killed by a police officer, while three other police officers stood by. All of this was caught on camera as another example of police brutality against black people. Ever since then, the cities of the world and especially in the US have exploded with protests, calls of action, calls for reform, calls for resignations, and calls for systemic change. I invited two people who will be able to speak on their experience living as black people here in Edmonton. We will talk about what’s it like to be black here, as well as invite them to share their thoughts about the moment in America and here in Canada. This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Today on Cold Takes, Veronika and I talk about the Joe Biden sexual assault allegations, and the problem of partisanship within the #MeToo movement. As well, we will talk about the crappy neoliberal history of social work. This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

If you look back at the 2019-2020 hockey season, it should be really eye opening to anyone who considers themselves a hockey fan. First came the misdemeanor charge for Auston Matthews, who intimidated a female security guard. Then came the firing of Mike Babcock and then the revelation of this toxic intimidating mind games towards his younger players, then came the revelations that Flames head coach Bill Peters used racist language towards a player of color, Akim Aliu. He was also fired from his job. Then came the firing of long time broadcaster Don Cherry after his xenophobic comments. Then came the racist zoombombing of black hockey player K’andre Miller. And now the Leipsic incidents All of these incidents can be looked as isolated, in the moment, and not indicative of what the “culture” is like. And many have chosen to look at it that way, unfortunately. Another way to see this is the symptom of the culture that hockey, and dominant sports fandom creates. The toxic, racist, misogynistic culture that continues today, behind the scenes. This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Ask people to define what Positive masculinity is? Well, you’ll get a variety of answers, from being virtuous to being self-reliant, but not too self-reliant; being emotionally open, being a good father, or being a good partner. It gets confusing, especially if we’re looking for examples! There’s a lot! But I get why we as men who really want to relieve ourselves from toxic masculinity want to look for what is positive masculinity. We want to be better, we want to be the opposite of toxic. At the same time, we get stuck with the definition. I believe there’s a reason for that. There’s a reason why we turn ourselves in knots. I’m here to tell you that there isn’t any labels for positive masculinity. Links: Raewyn Connell: http://www.raewynconnell.net/p/masculinities_20.html Men's Lib Discussion: https://www.reddit.com/r/MensLib/comments/cvau9g/lets_talk_about_positive_masculinity/ New Masculinity Same as Old Masculinity: https://medium.com/the-establishment/meet-the-new-masculinity-same-as-the-old-masculinity-25dc5a65c7df Dr NerdLove: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fqXhUwNYnYQ This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

CW: Talk about Suicide On today's edition of Cold Takes, Veronika and I talk about the economic impacts for men and women in regards to COVID-19 and how it aligns with the genders. As well we went on a deep dive on the movie 'The Platform' (get it). Articles discussed: The Platform: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RlfooqeZcdY Gender and The Economy: https://www.gendereconomy.org/primer-on-the-gendered-impacts-of-covid-19/ Gender Based Violence Stats - https://canadianwomen.org/blog/covid-19-pandemic-gender-based-violence/ Hasan Minhaj and Anand Giridharadas: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mS9CFBlLOcg This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

COVID-19 affects the aging population at a greater risk than it does anyone else. Self-isolation we hear time and time again is not so much for us not to get the virus, but it’s so we don’t transmit it to the aging population who are at a higher risk to die. So for this Modern Manhood, you will hear from three aging males tell their stories of their life and the struggles they may face before we even knew about the coronavirus. Articles: https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/2020/3/27/21195762/coronavirus-older-people-quarantine-loneliness-health https://www.vox.com/2020/3/12/21173938/coronavirus-covid-19-social-distancing-elderly-epidemic-isolation-quarantine This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

In this episode of Modern Manhood, we're going to start something new and hopefully something continous. A way of reacting to the news cycle and having some fluid conversations with someone who is not only a good friend, someone who came up in the volunteer space around gender about the same time. Introducing "Cold Takes" a space to talk about articles and everyday life with my co-host Veronika Ilich, coordinator for Next Gen Men. In this episode, we talk about BBC report about worldwide UN gender studies. And another report where it showed mothers being more unpleasant about little boy's emotions than fathers. This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

For the 100th episode of Modern Manhood, I want to think about the future. I asked people from the r/MensLib and Next Gen Men community to send me recordings of what they think the future of masculinity would be like. And you will hear my thoughts on the future of politics and culture in regard to gender. As well as ponder about the end of gender. Everyday Sociology article: https://www.everydaysociologyblog.com/2018/06/the-future-of-gender.html MM100 Party!: https://www.facebook.com/events/614647642701514/ This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Cleo Stiller is the writer of Modern Manhood: Conversations about the Complicated World of Bring a Good Man Today, and we had an awesome chat about the book Modern Manhood, (obviously our values align here) and where the conversation about some of these tough issues around gender begin, and where we can go. As well, there is a SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT You can find all of Cleo's work at cleostiller.net This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

(CW: Sexual Assault) I know of Kobe Bryant. I know the titles, I know the 81 points, I know when he wanted to be called Black Mamba like in Kill Bill, I know the commercials, I have even said “Kobe!” when I shoot paper basketballs at garbage cans. I also know about the rape case, I know about Denver, I know about the trial, and I know about the arrest. What is appropriate to say at these times? And why can’t we say the full story, the full complexity of humanity? Think Progress Piece: https://thinkprogress.org/the-legacy-of-the-kobe-bryant-rape-case-6a42f159be7b/ Jessica Valenti: https://gen.medium.com/why-do-mens-legacies-matter-more-than-women-s-safety-b832c43735e9 This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Today, we speak to writer Barrett Swanson, who attended an EVRYMAN men's retreat and wrote about it for Harper’s for a piece titled "Men at Work". He will tell us through his eyes, what some of the red flags, emotionally, physical, and sociological groups like EVRYMAN can be. You can find Barrett at: https://www.barrettswanson.com/ Men At Work you can read here: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/58fa0c831b631b196e64ad3a/t/5dd970c38f514102b43bcab7/1574531272477/Swanson+11-01-19.pdf This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

On the last episode of Modern Manhood, we surveyed the landscape of masculinity in the last ten years starting from Tony Porter’s Man Box and the election of Rob For all the way to end of 2017 In this episode, the first of 2020, we continue the conversation with Jake Stika, Executive Director at Next Gen Men, highlighting what caused ripples in the world of gender and masculinity. Starting from Van Attack in Toronto all the way to the Don Cherry firing, finishing off with what we think the next ten years will look like for us and this world This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

It’s been ten years since Tony Porter introduced The Man Box to us. A tool and a theory that has shaped the way we see gender with men, and the system that hurts us and hurts others. But a theory is only as good as it’s proof of concept. And you can say that in the last ten years The Man Box theory has been proven over and over again. On this episode and the one after this of Modern Manhood, we’ll look back at the 2010’s with my friend and the Executive Director of Next Gen Men, Jake Stika. This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Lately, we have seen a lot of warnings. From moms, dads, from adults that are worried about their sons. Their sons, for the most part, are easily susceptible and can be easily manipulated into communities online that are toxic, unhelpful, and in some cases downright dangerous. Most of this is happening online, and for a lot of caregivers, they are fighting an everyday battle to just understand what is going in the digital lives of their sons. And right now they are losing the war. In this special episode, I will show you the live talk that I did in front of an audience at the Diverse Voices conference about anti-violence here in Edmonton, Alberta. This is a community issue and one that must be faced by everyone, and I thought it was appropriate to bring to this conference. I also was lucky to be joined by Michael Hoyt from the City of Edmonton to talk about sorts of healthy communities, like Men Sheds. This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Learning about masculinities, gender power structures, and feminist ideals can be key when people are organizing to fight the climate crisis. So in this episode of Modern Manhood, we’re going to take some of the beautiful speeches done at the Wolfpack about the environment, and weave it with ideas and thoughts about masculinity and the environment. Links: https://www.nationalobserver.com/2019/11/21/analysis/independent-alberta-would-be-worlds-worst-climate-polluter (Alberta, if they secede, would be the number 1 polluter per person) https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/men-resist-green-behavior-as-unmanly/ (men resist green behavior as unmanly) https://www.humansandnature.org/humans-nature-the-right-relationship (Humans and Nature) This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

The way Albertans reconcile with the Oil industry is a major way in which Albertans see their own identity, and the people who work in the oil patches are also in the crossfires and have been for ages. The rates of suicides went up, the rates of negative mental health have also gone up. Today we talk to Dylan Rhys Howard, one of the directors for the documentary "Digging in the Dirt" which talks about these things. These are the un-talked about consequences of the oil industry. Un-talked about until recently. Links: https://www.buzzfeed.com/omarmouallem/oil-heartbreak-and-manhood (Oil, Heartbreak, and Manhood) https://www.nsi-canada.ca/2018/11/peak-oil/ (Peak Oil) https://dylanrhyshoward.com/portfolio/digging-in-the-dirt/ (Digging in the Dirt) https://www.thestar.com/calgary/2019/04/21/for-some-oilpatch-workers-a-sober-life-means-the-end-of-a-lucrative-career.html (Star-Metro) This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Oil and Gas dominated the conversation for both elections here, and the people involved are caught in the crossfire. The workers who are mostly men have come to demonstrate the stereotype of Alberta men, the pickup driving, beer-drinking, hard ass. Yet, they are just humans as well. How has this industry affected the men who work there, and affected the community around it? The way that we look at Oil in Alberta is very common to how we look at dominant masculinity. Articles mentioned: https://www.nationalgeographic.com/environment/2019/04/alberta-canadas-tar-sands-is-growing-but-indigenous-people-fight-back/ (National Geographic) https://www.pyriscence.ca/home/2017/9/30/boys-will-be-boys-albertas-toxic-oil-culture (Pyriscene) https://www.parklandinstitute.ca/how_gender_and_race_shape_experiences_of_work_in_albertas_oil_industry (Parkland Institute) https://www.policyalternatives.ca/publications/monitor/extractive-populism-and-future-canada (Canadian Center for Policy Alternatives) This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Two months ago we talked about mentoring young men here at The Pint for Wolfpack. We're going to hear from a school counselor and a person from Big Brothers and Big Sisters about mentoring young men. Young men are feeling much more anxious, there is a lot more questioning of how men quote unquote should be in society. And there’s also a lot more complexity in the world, which allows not only for more breathing room for being your own self, but there’s a lot more pressure to pick a self that you want to be. So the question around what it means to be a man, to me, breaks down to how do we treat our young boys? This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Fat. It was a word that I was called when I was a kid, and a word that I still get called, by myself. It was the constant barrage of images and messages of what it was to look like a man. I wanted to examine why as men we’re very obsessed with not being fat. And the mental gymnastics people do to justify insulting people who are fat, and then insult themselves. This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

In this episode, we go through a personal journey of how I am reconciling my feelings on Junot Diaz and Michael Kimmel. As well wondering how far do we take issues of "cancellation." How do we separate the message from the man? Or do we not? Carl Landra and Veronika Ilich join me in helping me navigate these muddy waters. This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

We’re here in 2019 because the media created a monster. So much that being anti-racist and anti-sexual harrassment or using gender pronouns or talking about toxic masculinity is somehow a political thing. Or that we’ve come to the point where issues that I think are community issues is now a wedge between man vs woman or left vs right. This type of media is not working anymore. And this media created a monster that platforms dangerous and troubling ideas. How is the media handling this? How is the media dealing with gender in a bigger case? We speak with Michelle Da Silva from Xtra to find out more. This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

We had an awesome Wolf Pack last time. It was our one year anniversary of Wolf Pack in Edmonton and we celebrated by talking about how work has a gendered lens to it. Either through the careers we choose, to the trouble we give to men and women who are not working their “traditional work roles." We wanted to hear from the people that have experienced both sides of the coin, and to try to get to the gritty knowledge of what it’s like to be in those roles. This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Toxic Masculinity, it’s what many people think this podcast is about, a term that comes loaded with many definitions: gender roles and dominations, expression of emotions, the opposite of healthy masculinity, whatever that looks like, and what can be noted as traditional. All of them add to the confusion of what Toxic Masculinity, a phrase that is entrenched in our vernacular, actually is. So I ask, does the media get this essential part right? This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

The way that masculinity gets talked about in the general mainstream media really annoys me. If anyone wants to learn more about how masculinity shapes our daily life, or how gender affects the world at large, the media does a piss poor job of explaining even the basic of concepts. How does someone even learn about multiple masculinities, gender inequality structures, systemic issues that deal with masculinity? Is there a solution to all of this? Or is this even a problem? This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Ryan if you don’t know is one of the co-founders of Men Edmonton, and most importantly one of the men that guided me into the pro-feminist masculinity movement. I met him at a coffee shop in Edmonton, he wanted to suss me out before I could join Men Edmonton. Well i guess I fit the bill and I was invited in, and have been thankful ever since. And now he’s joined the Next Gen Men family, as the Program Manager for Wolf Pack. We got a chance to talk about what it's like to be at a Wolf Pack, the highs, the challenges, and the tension. About the group and about masculinity in general nextgenmen.ca This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

To celebrate the third anniversary of Modern Manhood, I asked for people to submit questions that they have wonderings of in regards to masculinity and gender. So here's me answering a few. We're going to talk about: -Straight Man's Anxiety -Young Boys -Facts and Logic Bros -Men's Groups Links: Harper Bazaar's "Men have No Friends and Women Bear The Burden", Deloitte's "The Design of Everyday Man" This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

We have been talking about the relationship between men and female friends for a long time. It was the basis of the movie When Harry Met Sally, a good 5 years before Friends invented the Friendzone. The issue is that the lesson of those movies and in fact of society is that men and women are sooooo attracted to each other that they cannot be friends. So today, I’m going to give you a small treat, I’m going to give you a listen to the last WolfPack we did here in Edmonton, to get a chance to listen to our storytellers talk about The Friendzone. Jessica runs Ripple Effect, go check her events out This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

There is a notion especially in western society that environmentalism is deemed girly or not manly. Either by being vegetarian, caring about animals, or just caring about the environment in general. Why is that? Even though issues like climate change is a non-gendered issue that affects everyone, men for the most part resist green behaviour or activism. Why do a lot of men think being eco-friendly is unmanly? This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Even in the year 2019, there is a worry about the label of feminism when it comes to men. I just want to be clear, when I get a chance to talk to a lot of men there’s a lot they agree with in regards to pro-feminist values. You know except a few idiots here and there that try to be contrarian. It might feel like those idiots are everywhere but they’re not. Not that I see anyways, I see a lot of guys that are confused, misinformed, feeling shamed, feeling anxious about what they should support. They’re worried that if they embrace the word feminism, that they are more prone not only from other men but from women who are now holding them to a much higher standard. My question is, why is that label so hard to hurdle? why is it so hard for men to say that they are feminist? Men's Lib Thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/MensLib/comments/b9vs3u/do_you_believe_that_menslib_should_be_considered/ and my episode with Matthew Hodges from MensLib The Man's Survey: https://www.chatelaine.com/survey-define-masculinity/ This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

The brunt of parenting and the fathers who are working to make a better more equitable world is tough when you think about ideas like paternity leave and mentorship. We’re going to talk to two individuals who are taking these two outcomes to reality. Two fathers, two lives, and their thoughts around gender, and fatherhood in modern world. This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Ever since the movement to create better ideals around masculinity, there have been a lot of popular male figures stepping up to the plate to talk these issue. None bigger though than movie and TV star, Terry Crews. I got to hear Terry speak in an event hosted by the Alberta Council of Women's Shelter, so from then I wonder what is it about Terry Crews that we like? Why is he the flame in which this message gets carried on? Or is he just a man? Flawed like any other? This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Hockey, one of the most masculine sports in Canada. So much so, that a lot of Canadians feel a certain set of confidence when we measure it up with other sports. In the manliest of manliest of professional sports in Canada, how does masculinity play with how we view violence and gender? We speak to Tim Skuce from Brandon University and Megan McCormick. This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Youth for the most part, they understand the rules but usually hate playing by them, and question why they’re there to begin with. In their eyes issues like gender and equality are night and day and they question why don't adults understand? So how do we teach youth when adults are fighting this battle as well. How do we teach boys when men are confused as well? This episodes includes conversations with Carrie Starbuck from Happy Lands and Nick Sandor from Man Made A clip from CBC Metro Morning with Matt Galloway is included This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

A lot of think pieces came out after the story of the Covington young men, and many focused on the social education of young men, and of the work educators of all stripes need to do create healthy role models for men. So we will talk to two young male healthy relationship teachers (Jonathan Reed, Brendan Kwiatokski), and hear from youth as well. Brendan is at Remasculate Jon's Breaking The Boy Code This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

In the past few years there have been countless and countless examples of how gender has shaped our conversation, and how a lot of men and society are working to have this conversation around masculinity. #MeToo has ignited that conversation ten fold. For this episode I wanted to go back to those instances and talk about that......but then a perfect little storm happened when Gillette focused their new ad campaign tackling Toxic Masculinity We will explore the ad and the discussion around it with Al Harris, Nick Sandor, and Elliott Tanti. This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Robert Kandell is an accomplished teacher, coach, and lecturer, helping men find themselves and utilize their internal power for fourteen years. He is the host of the well-known podcast, Tuff Love and is currently writing his book, unHIDDEN – A Book for Men and Those Who Are Confused By Them. In here we talk about men’s feelings, mens’ next steps, and you’ll also listen to me ramble on and on about systemic change. Stay tuned. This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

In 2018, a lot of things happened, and it’s hard to encapsulate all of what happened, and all the thoughts around gender and masculinity I had into a lot of what went on. So to help me not only look back and think forward, I invited my buddy, Jake Stika who is the Executive Director of Next Gen Men to take some time dissecting the year that happened and look forward to the year that is going to be This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Wanted to do a quick interview with David Lion who is starting a summit with his own interviews around masculinity. It's going on right now, and through this he explains his process and his own life. Check it out at Summit.evolving-men.com (PS, there's a bit of sound problem at the end, blame the Zoom thing!) This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Trent Wilkie is a writer/journalist/performer in Edmonton Alberta, Canada, and host to The UnDad Podcast. We continue this conversation with Trent and we touch upon subjects like crying in public, and the release of it. As well as answering a question I always had in my mind, why don't parents give themselves more credit? We are supported by the Otherwise Show, Let's Do Coffee, and of course Next Gen Men This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Trent Wilkie is a writer/journalist/performer in Edmonton Alberta, Canada. Trent has written for everything from CBC Radio (The Irrelevant Show) to Adbusters to Fangoria to almost every print media in Edmonton. He is also an experienced canoe guide, he in his words "considers the deep dark woods a therapy that only comes at the cost of comfort." Trent is also a new father late in his life, and someone who was adopted at a young age.This is one of many reasons why I wanted to talk to Trent about his vision for manhood, his ideas around fatherhood, and his wonderings about therapy. You can find the UnDad Podcast here, or if you go to the Alberta Podcast Network website. If you want to attend any of the Wolfpacks coming to Toronto, Calgary, and Edmonton, go here to sign up! Or just follow Next Gen Men on Facebook and Twitter This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Brendan Kwitkowski, a Ph.D. student out of the University of Edinburgh, and a Canadian teacher out of BC, spent his master’s research time wondering why were 81% of students diagnosed with behavioural disorders male? Why are males 4-7 times more likely to commit suicide? Those questions (among others) led him towards research that held the socialization of males at least partially responsible for these worrying statistics. So he dug further and did some research with young men. This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/

Vivek Shraya is an award winning artist artist who has published many books before but her newest book, titled I’m Afraid of Men, explores how masculinity was imposed on her as a boy and continues to haunt her as a girl—and how we might reimagine gender for the twenty-first century. Not only that, she’s a person who is my age and was raised in Edmonton. This is why I wanted to talk to her and I was lucky to do just that before she spoke at LitFest and interviewing Tegan And Sara at macEwan university. vivekshraya.com This podcast cannot be done without the support of Next Gen Men, which you can support by subscribing to our online community at nextgenmen.ca/joinYou can also subscribe to the Substack at https://theferdinand.substack.com/