Marriage Talk

Sheldon and Valerie talk about heading towards the “potholes” in our relationships rather than avoiding them.

Sheldon and Valerie talk about some ways we can celebrate our spouse on Valentine's day and everyday throughout the year.

Sheldon and Valerie talk about some mental health myths and some things we can do if we or our loved one is struggling. Here is the link to the article mentioned in this episode. https://www.crossway.org/articles/5-myths-about-mental-illness/?utm_source=Crossway+Marketing&utm_campaign=b29a9fc372-20230918+History+-+Puritan+Women+Debunk+3&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_0275bcaa4b-9fa497e845-%5BLIST_EMAIL_ID%5D

Sheldon and Valerie talk about reactive and responsive communication and the impact they have on our marriages.

Sheldon and Valerie talk about the principle of sowing and reaping and how those things can get mixed up in marriage.

Sheldon and Valerie talk about some things that can help us navigate change well and come out the other side stronger and closer.

As 2023 draws to a close we are replaying the top 3 most listened to shows from the past year. Here is #1 - Episode 15 “Teddy’s Beautiful Life.” ​​Sheldon and Valerie talk with Shaylee and Levi Durston about the loss of their son and God's faithfulness through it all.

As 2023 draws to a close we are replaying the top 3 most listened to shows from the past year. Here is #2 - Episode 19 “Doing Marriage well with Neil and Sharol.”

Sheldon and Valerie talk about spiritual pathways, different ways we can connect and draw close to God.

Sheldon and Valerie chat with FamilyLife Canada staff couple, Matt and Josie Jaggers, about ways they have intentionally sought more of Christ in their lives and marriage. Check out their blog post for practical ideas on bringing more of Christ into your marriage this Christmas season.

Sheldon and Valerie have a conversation with Matt and Josie Jaggers about their marriage journey and lessons about conflict, getting healthy personally and the “marriage mirror”.

Sheldon and Valerie talk about signs of a disengaged spouse and some things we can do to engage. Here is the blog from Drs. Les and Leslie Parrot that is referred to in this episode - https://www.symbis.com/blog/my-spouse-is-disengaged-from-our-marriage-what-can-i-do/

Sheldon and Valerie talk about the undercurrent messages that might be affecting how we think about and see our spouse and marriage.

Sheldon and Valerie interview Derrick and Kasia Moncrief about their marriage journey being a professional athlete.

Sheldon and Valerie talk about the idea of creating an atmosphere of fun and flirtiness in our relationships.

Sheldon and Valerie continue their conversation from Patrick Lencioni’s Ideal Team Player conversation to talk about examples of what it looks like when we are lacking in a significant way one or more of the humble, hungry and smart virtues.

Sheldon and Valerie talk about The Marriage Meeting. What it is and how it has helped them and so many other couples.The Marriage Meeting Blog - By Sharol Josephson - www.familylifecanada.com/meeting

Sheldon and Valerie talk about the why, what and how of thankfulness and gratitude.Link to Billy Graham article mentioned in the episode. https://billygraham.org/story/how-to-be-thankful-in-all-things

Sheldon and Valerie Talk about Patrick Lencioni’s concept of being an Ideal Team Player and how that relates to our relationships.

Sheldon and Valerie talk about decision making. We all have decision making styles which can have an impact on our marriages.

Sheldon and Valerie talk about ways we can help a friend who is struggling in their marriage.

Sheldon and Valerie talk about some ways to improve our conflict so it is healthy and helpful.

Sheldon and Valerie talk about trust. Why it’s important and how they have built trust in their marriage.

Sheldon and Valerie interview Matt Cline, founder of Restored Ministries, about the effects that pornography and sexual addiction has on a marriage and how to find freedom and healing. Restored Ministries - https://www.restoredministries.caPure Victory Podcast - https://www.restoredministries.ca/purevictorPure Freedom Community - https://purefc.ca/

This week Sheldon and Valerie continue their conversation about emotional intelligence with a focus on how we develop in this area of our life.Here are the different links that are mentioned in this episode.Dr. Juli Slattery Blog - https://www.authenticintimacy.com/learning-to-say-i-was-wrongGotQuestions Article - https://www.gotquestions.org/emotional-healing.htmlThe Feelings Wheel - https://feelingswheel.com

Sheldon and Valerie talk about how emotional awareness, control and development can increase our emotional intelligence and the positive impact that can have on our marriages.Here is the link to the Discipline that Connects With Your Child's Heart course (https://connectedfamilies.org/discipline/). Save 10% on registration by entering FLC10.

Sheldon and Valerie talk about the stuff we bring into marriage from our family of origin and our life experiences and how that can affect us unless we deal with it.

Sheldon and Valerie discuss the fact that what we focus on will significantly impact what we see and how we feel about a situation.

Sheldon and Valerie talk about relationship ruts. What they are and how to break free from them.

Sheldon and Valerie finish their discussion on tough love as presented in a Focus On The Family article entitled Tough Love In Adult Relationships: what it is, what it's not and how to use it. Here is the article: https://www.focusonthefamily.com/family-qa/tough-love-in-adult-relationships/

Sheldon and Valerie share on an article about Tough Love In Adult Relationships. What it is, what it's not and how to use it.Here is the article that is discussed on todays show: https://www.focusonthefamily.com/family-qa/tough-love-in-adult-relationships/

This week Sheldon and Valerie talk about romance in marriage… why it’s important and how to cultivate it.Here is a link to the assessment they talk about at the end. https://www.betterlove.com/

Sheldon and Valerie continue their conversation with Bryan and Bonnie Pue from the Union Movement and this time they focus on their marriage journey and the things they have done well… and not so well. Trigger warning - We do talk briefly about sexual abuse and past sexual mistakes. Here is the website of The Union Movement if you would like to know more about Bryan and Bonnie - https://www.theunionmovement.com

Sheldon and Valerie interview Bryan and Bonnie Pue, cofounders of The Union Movement. Through their ministry they seek to bring help and wholeness on the topics of identity, sexuality and relationships. They are passionate about helping people talk about sexuality with a biblical worldview and love to equip parents and churches with tools and language on how to approach the topic of sex and sexuality with all age groups.https://www.theunionmovement.com/

Sheldon and Valerie talk about how unsolicited chronic advice affects relationships, why we do it and what to do about it.

Sheldon and Valerie continue their conversation about emotional needs. How we can think about them in a healthy way and how to identify our own emotional needs using Dr. Willard Harley’s emotional needs questionnaire. Emotional Needs Questionnaire - https://www.marriagebuilders.com/download/library/questionnaires/the-emotional-needs-questionnaire-enq-2.pdf

Sheldon and Valerie talk about emotional needs. How we can think about them in a healthy way and how to identify our own emotional needs using Dr. Willard Harley’s emotional needs questionnaire. Emotional Needs Questionnaire - https://www.marriagebuilders.com/download/library/questionnaires/the-emotional-needs-questionnaire-enq-2.pdf

Sheldon and Valerie talk about money and the things that have helped them to get on the same page regarding finances.Ron Blue (Financial Planning Worksheet) - https://ronblueinstitute.com/tools/#financial_planningDave Ramsey (Every Dollar App) - https://www.ramseysolutions.com/ramseyplus/everydollarSheldon's Blog (How We Finally Stopped Fighting About Money) - https://www.familylifecanada.com/blog/how-we-finally-stopped-fighting-about-money/

Sheldon and Valerie talk about celebrations and holidays. What gets in the way of us enjoying them and some ways to get on the same page and celebrate well together.

Sheldon and Valerie talk about some things that might be affecting how we view household partnerships and some things they did to navigate this. Here are the processing questions:How has your family of origin affected this area in your marriage?What are some things you appreciate about how you manage your household partnership?What is one area you would like to improve on in household partnership?

Sheldon and Valerie talk about what we believe causes our behaviour. If we want to change our behaviour we have to change our beliefs.

Sheldon and Valerie talk about what to do if we or our spouse are workaholics.

Sheldon and Valerie talk about how our words can impact our relationships.

Sheldon and Valerie talk about forgiveness. Why it's important, how to do it and what it does for us in our marriage, parenting and life in general.

This week Sheldon and Valerie talk about living on purpose. And one way we can do that is to practice self-discipline.

Sheldon talks with Jay and Gretta Kennedy about their parenting journey. The good, the struggles and the things they have learnt along the way. Check out the FamilyLife Canada Parenting Conference happening April 14-24, 2023 (https://www.familylifecanada.com/parenting-conference-2023/)

Sheldon and Valerie wrap up their conversation about love from 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. They talk about how love does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth, love bears all things, hopes all things, endures all things, love never ends.

Sheldon and Valerie continue their conversation on what love is based on 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. They talk about how love is not arrogant or rude, it does not insist on its own way, it is not irritable or resentful.

This is week two in the Love series. Sheldon and Valerie talk about how love is patient and kind, it does not envy or boast.