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Hey Lifers, PLEASE VOTE FOR US IN THE AUS PODCAST AWARDS Britt's jet lagged after her trip to Romania. It was somewhat eventful and she's now an experienced quake girly. Laura's daughter Marlie is about to graduate from preschool and we're curious to know what your graduation song was. Was it Green Day or... eye of the tiger?Now that Laura has had a week off and Marlie Mae is about to go to school, she's back considering having another child. Britt is strongly considering blackmail! If you already have kids and you’ve thought about having another, did you mention it to your kids? Did you want their thoughts on whether they’d like an extra sibling?A dating app has brought in a new feature to try and reduce dating fatigue and avoid analysis paralysis. Hinge will now stop you from matching with someone new if you have 8 or more messages waiting for a response from you. The idea is to make it a more conscious effort and only have a few conversations going at a time. If you're in the dating world, is this good news for you?Do you think it will cut down on people 'window shopping' or just swiping for validation? We spoke about the episode we did with Therapy Jeff - Why Is Dating So Hard These Days? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers, Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. This episode was recorded a week in advance as Britt is visiting Ben in Romania. Britt opens up about some of the challenges of long distance and what she’s really struggling with at the moment.Britt has also called one of our listeners a loser. We deeply apologise YourGirlSidney Do you think it’s okay to be in a relationship if you know that the person isn’t ‘the one’ (or end game) for you? How long is it okay to be ‘working’ this out? Does it depend on the age of the people in the relationship? Vibes for the week: Britt: Your Girl Sidney Keeshia: Medusa Wispy Light Human Hair Fringe - Air Bangs- Clip In Laura App Eat Club Then we get into your questions! HE WON’T GO DOWN ON ME & DOESN’T MAKE AN EFFORT TO PLEASURE MEI'm 21 and my male partner is 23. We have been together for 3 years. Since we have been together he has only gone down on me maybe 3 times in total for about 20 seconds. I have brought this up with him and asked why he doesn't do it and he replies with "I don't like it sorry" which is totally fine but when we do have sex I never get anything out of it as he never really tries to pleasure me. We have tried sex toys but I think he gets awkward about it and then it never happens again. I talk to my friends about it but all they say is tell me that my relationship is not right and tell me about how good they have it. Sometimes I wonder what I am missing out on. Every other part of our relationship is amazing because he is an amazing human who I love so much. Am I missing out ? And if so what the hell do I do? HE LIED ABOUT HAVING AN STII’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 7-8months. He asked me to help him with a work medical claim, he sent over a pack of documents for me to read to help him write a letter. Reading the documents it said he had herpes. When we first started dating I made sure we both had sexual health checks - he was pushing to have sex without a condom, something I’ve never done and didn’t feel comfortable doing without the STI checks prior. The tests came back with no issues flagged so we started having unprotected sex. 7 months later I read this document - he said initially that “he forgot,” then ended up telling me he lied to me because he thought I would break up with him if I knew. Additional context: his previous girlfriend gave him herpes and also didn’t tell him until 2 months into dating. I don’t know what to do - I thought this guy was my penguin, help! FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS WITH A COLLEAGUEShould I enter a short term friends with benefits situation with a colleague that’s leaving at the end of the year even though I’m inexperienced and not sure how I’ll emotionally handle it? I think it could be a great idea for my overall satisfaction and self confidence, but I don't want to get rejected, or catch feelings and then get really sad when I’m rejected and/or he moves away. Is it worth the risk for good sex? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Before being known as Danielle Laidley, she was a hugely successful AFL player and played 151 games for West Coast Eagles and North Melbourne football clubs, and winning premierships and going onto be the youngest senior coach ever at 36, coaching North Melbourne for 149 games across seven seasons from 2003 to 2009. For decades, Danielle kept her gender to herself and threw herself into sporting success and became a workaholic. Eventually the pain of keeping this secret led to some dark coping mechanisms like substance abuse. In May, 2020, a police officer took a photo of Danielle in an interview room at a St Kilda police station while wearing a wig and make-up. This photo was shared in a group chat before it was leaked to the media & the public. Now, following her diagnosis with gender dysphoria, Danielle works extensively as an advocate for transgender people, raising awareness in a quest for acceptance of diversity. In this chat we speak about: The different phases of Danielle's life & always knowing who she is Growing up in the hyper masculine environments of football and cricket How she coped with the public exposure of her transition before she had been able to speak with her family and friends about it How the football world has responded to Danielle's transition How parents can help support their kids who experience gender dysphoria Her beautiful relationship with a woman she's known since grade 1 Danielle's perspective on transpeople in sport You can find Danielle's Instagram and book - Don't look away You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers,Keeshia is in the hot seat filling in Britt while she's in Romania.Have you ever accidentally done something illegal? Laura's renovation project has made Keeshia realise that she's been accidentally shoplifting for over a decade.Do you ever lie or withhold information from your partner? Do you hide packages or lie about new items that you've bought and say that you've had them forever? There's a tiktok from Thewestcoastmama that has us questioning what's normal and who is in the wrong.Today we take a deep dive on what friendship means to us and whether we're too quick to deprioritise friendship when other responsibilities rear their heads. We spoke about Simon Sinek and his conversation on the Prof G Podcast and his Youtube with Trevor Noah What are you currently looking for in friendship?Has that shifted over the years as your life has gone through different chapters?Is there too much pressure to maintain friendships when there are all of these other things that we are trying to do well? 92% of you have experienced a friendship breakup. Most of you think about the breakdown of a friendship more than the breakdown of a romantic relationship. We speak about our own experiences of friendship breakdowns and whether we would ever be able to reestablish those friendships. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. On the show:  Producer Grace gets stopped at security Nickname origin stories Lola was not writing in her 'diahorrea' Massages gone wrong   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers, Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. Laura and Matt are having some *creative differences* in their house reno visions. Laura wants to live under the rainbow and is anti beige brigade. Matt wants a bright blue laundry. When it comes to the aesthetic of your house and you having opposing opinions to your partner, who gets final say?Vibes for this week:Keeshia: Perfect Wife on Disney PlusLaura: Figma Colour WheelBritt: Tanologist Self Tan Drops Then we get into your questions!DO WE STILL HAVE TO GET THEM A WEDDING GIFTOne of my closest friends is getting married in Canada, I am one of her bridesmaids and I am so stoked for it. Obviously to go to the wedding my partner and I have booked flights over to Canada (not cheap) and also booked the hotel that was chosen for the wedding party (also not cheap). I don’t mind about these costs because it's my close friend and it's a holiday to Canada! My partner and I have debated whether we should get them a wedding gift? I don’t mind getting one and like giving gifts, but my partner thinks we have already spent a lot of money going to the wedding. I’m curious to know what you guys think? Should you get someone a wedding gift if you have already invested $4,000 to get to the wedding and stay there. DO I DOUBLE MESSAGE HIM?My now ex boyfriend broke up with me a few months ago after I found out he was cheating on me. It was awful as we lived together and I went to uni not only with him but also with the other women. We were together for 3 years. Another guy I also go to uni with and used to date 5 years ago (my ex was aware and they were still really good friends) also broke up with his girlfriend he dated for a similar amount of time. We have always been friends ever since the breakup and I was also friends with his ex girlfriend. Fast forward to now, I am now a lawyer and finished with uni and don’t have to see my ex except at social occasions. I have caught up with this other guy a couple of times and we have had a vibe for about a month now. On Saturday he invited me to his house with a bunch of other lawyers from uni including my ex. After a lot of alcohol my ex and the other people left and this other guy asked me to stay and chat which I did. One thing led to another and we had sex and it was really good. He also said he really enjoyed it. I stayed the night where we hugged. He made me coffee and breakfast in the morning and took me home. A few hours after he dropped me off I messaged him and said thank you for dropping me off and I had fun last night. He read the message and still hasn’t replied, in the whole 5 years I have known him he has never left me on read. I don’t want to come across as desperate but do I double message him? I still have his clothes and don’t know what to do. It’s also not like we will never see each other again, we have lots of mutual friends and are both invited to another party this weekend. Please help! PUBIC HAIRI’ve always been curious how females maintain pubic hair?? My husband says he doesn’t care whether it’s bare or hairy .. but I still can’t figure out what I prefer either … like what’s the norm these days? Completely bare or hairy and how do you maintain and how often? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jeff Guenther AKA TherapyJeff is here to help you take control of your dating life, by tuning into who you are, what you want, and how you can get there. Therapy Jeff has over 3.8 million followers on socials. He is a licensed therapist with twenty years’ experience in private practice. Today we are going to unpack a bit of the psychology behind why we are the way that we are in relationships and how that impacts different aspects of our dating lives! Today we chat about: Growing up with a mum who is also a therapist. Is that good or bad? Can we blame our parents for who we are attracted to? Why is dating so hard right now? If you’re on dating apps, you could be dating an AI avatar of the person When we ARE the problem and how to take control of that Patterns: are you after chaos and drama or a healthy stable relationship? No, but really what are you actually searching for? How much can you change someone to help them meet your needs? How to spot the difference between love bombing and the honeymoon phase Can you survive cheating? What determines whether you can or can’t Find more from Jeff’s websiteFind Therapy Jeff on Instagram and tiktok You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers,Sorry for the start of today's ep. Not sure what else to say about it to be honest. If you've had the 'back' lasered, how do you get it done? What's your therapists 'go to' position? Britt is headed to Romania to see Ben! She shares how some of the challenges of being in a long distance relationship have affected her and why she's looking forward to seeing him so much! Unions are pushing to keep bosses from 'trawling' social media and reprimanding employees because of what they're getting up to on the gram. It could be a faked sickie, or a perspective that doesn't align with the values of the business. Do you think employers should be able to reprimand their employees for things that they post on social media? We also speak about the brave woman Gisele Pelicot, who has chosen to waive her right to anonymity after her husband drugged her and allowed her to be sexually abused by 70+ men. We speak about the shift in the way that society views victimhood and the strength that it takes for victims to publicly share their stories to advocate for justice. We also look at the role the media and legal systems play in shaping the choices of survivors. If this conversation brings up anything for you, a confidential information, counselling and support service is available at 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732) You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. On the show:  Britt has a fight with a taxi driver Mitch gets his regular Ask Uncut Yo-Chi Icks The kid who broke a 3500 year old urn Mitch's Pitch You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, This is ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions after we've had a bit of a gasbag about our own personal dilemmas! Have you noticed that children's dolls are now wearing g-strings? How do you feel about that? Vibes for the week: Britt Netflix doco The Lie: The Murder of Grace MillaneLaura Glass Podcast by Shameless MediaKeeshia Love and Loss Piece by Zara Seidler Then we jump into your questions! PARTNER WATCHES PORN BEFORE WE HAVE SEXMy fiancé and I have had issues in the bedroom for years. He’s struggling with anxiety and takes a medication which has massively affected his sex drive. Over the past few months he’s been asking me if I want to have sex, but it's always been after he’s been on his phone in bed, and already has a raging boner - so I assumed he’s watching porn. I looked at his google browser history on the computer we share (the same google browser on his phone), and it turns out he’s been watching porn right before asking me for sex, as I assumed. I know I shouldn’t have looked at his history but I was going crazy. I’m in two minds. One is complete jealousy as I feel like he needs another girl to turn him on before he can sleep with me. But I also know that he’s probably just doing what he needs to to get it up and get the job done as I’ve been putting the pressure on lately. For context: we have a great relationship, we’re getting married in a month, I know he finds me attractive - he’s constantly tapping me on butt, grabbing my boobs etc, but I’m just struggling to be okay with this. I also don’t want to tell him that I’ve looked at his browser history so I don’t know how to talk to him about it. FAMILY NOT COMING TO KIDS BIRTHDAYI come from quite a messy family. I have 6 siblings, all half. My dad is on to his 4th marriage and my mum has had 2 divorces. I’ve always been close with my mum but have only become close with my dad in the past 5 or so years. My parent’s break up was very messy and they’ve never been amicable since. I now have a beautiful partner and a darling little daughter who is just about to turn one. We’re throwing her a party and have invited all our friends and family. However, a few weeks out, my Dad has just said that no one from his side of my family (himself, my step mum, brother and his family) will be coming because they feel uncomfortable and they would like to have a seperate party for my daughter instead. I’m so disappointed! It’s been over 20 years since they divorced, he’s had 2 marriages since! How are they still hung up on this to the point that they can’t be in the same room for an hour? I never wanted my daughter to have to celebrate everything twice like I have. What would you do? Do I suck it up and throw two parties? Or just say to my dad that he’ll unfortunately have to miss out? DITCHING A WAKEShould you ditch a wake (after a funeral), to go to a footy match? Our team has made it into the finals, but the day of the game is the funeral of a grandparent. My sibling thinks it’s ok to go to the service and skip out after to make the game, but I think that is in very poor taste. What are your thoughts? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Eleanor Mills is an award winning journalist, editor and broadcaster who has taken a bit of a pivot in her mid life by creating a community called ‘noon’. At 49, Eleanor was abruptly made redundant from her role as the editor of the Sunday Times Magazine and chair of women in journalism. She lost her sense of purpose, and her identity - and her family lost its main source of income. She felt washed up and burnt out; like everything which had defined her life for the last 25 years was gone. But then she noticed something: she wasn’t alone. Today we are going to unpack what Eleanor calls the midlife cluster fuck, our perceived value as we age and a lot of the motivators and values that we hold as career driven women. We spoke about: Identity in ‘success’ and our jobs What happens when that identity is shattered Real life ‘Succession’ after working for Rupert Murdoch for 23 years Gendered ageism in our culture vs what we truly have to look forward to ‘Queenagers’ - the freedom of becoming the woman you always wanted to be Power is fleeting when it’s based off of fecundity and fuckability The double edged sword of speaking about menopause; exposure vs it being weaponised against up How Eleanor has helped so many women realise that there’s much more to come past 50 Eleanor’s new book titled ‘Much More to Come’ can be found hereEleanor’s InstagramEleanor's organisation Noon can be found here! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Britt's had a baby!!! Well, technically her sister Sheri just gave birth, but we are claiming it as our surrogate Life Uncut baby. She was 5 weeks early and we have a bit of a chat about whether the person closest to Britt having a baby has shifted the needle on whether Britt wants to have kids of her own! Did your sibling or best friend having a baby change your drive to have one of your own? Matt went and got a tattoo while Laura was away and it's... not good! How did you and your siblings know who the 'favourite' kid was? Was it because they were the 'password' kid? Was it because only one of you is tattooed on a parent's body? Armie Hammer has entered stage 3 of his 'redemption' arc. He's shared a video on instagram about how he is selling his beloved truck because he can't afford to put gas in it anymore. We unpack false victimhood and all different kinds of celebrities performing authenticity online. How do we know the difference between real suffering and performative authenticity and can Armie Hammer be uncancelled? We unpack our thoughts. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. On the show:  Mitch has beef with Delilah Gen Alpha slang Strava scams A little Mecca mishap  Petty Revenge A special message on Father's Day See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Welcome back to therapy Thursday where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions!Is there anything more awkward than the entire restaurant/bar singing happy birthday to you? What the heck do you do? Smile and sing along??Would you like to know that you were getting proposed to or prefer it to be a surprise? Britt and Keeshia met a couple where she definitely knew it was happening!Vibes for the week:Britt: Netflix American Murder: Laci PetersonKeeshia: House of Sculpt PilatesLaura: Couples Therapy on SBS on Demand/Paramount plus Then we jump into your questions! DO I TELL MY MUM I GOT SENT HER NUDES?Just over 2 years ago, I was getting ready for bed one night when I got a notification on messenger for a message request from someone I didn’t recognise. It said “I just thought you would like to know what your mother had been up to lately” followed by nude images of my mum and screenshots of texts exchanged between her and this person's husband. I was shocked and hoped that she hadn’t sent these to any of my other siblings. I ignored the message as much as I could until my youngest brother called me in hysterics telling me that he had just received the same message. I ended up reading the whole text exchange. There was a week where she visited him in his home town on her week off work. I looked at the dates and it all hit me again. She was meant to come visit me and my newborn interstate that week but said she had covid and had to stay where she was (his hometown). As terrible as I feel for my mum's partner, this is what shook me the most. She used me and my child as a reason to go where she was going just to “inconveniently” get covid and not be able to travel any further. She used us to cheat and it makes me sick. Ever since I found this out I haven’t been the same around her. I haven’t told her I know and I haven’t told her partner either. It’s an unspoken thing between my brother and I but we both feel the same towards her. I am also so mad at this woman for sending these explicit things to us as if we had anything to do with it. Why punish us and make us bear the weight of it all? Anyway, my questions are…My mum and her partner are still together with no bumps in sight. Do I tell my mum I know? Do I need to tell her partner? Or with it being over 2 years since do I just need a top notch therapist to deal with this myself? CAN WE HAVE SEX WHEN OUR CHILD IS ONLY METRES AWAY?My partner and I recently took our 2 year old daughter on her first family holiday. We all stayed in the same room with 2 queen beds. She slept in her own bed and I slept with my partner. My partner wanted to have sex on the holiday and would always make jokes like "what are you doing later" which were good for him shooting your shot. BUT my mindset was how can oh have sex when your child is sleeping legit no more than 1 metre away from you isn't that strange ? I guess my question is, are people having sex on holidays in the same room as their kids?? Is this a thing because it makes me cringe but he thinks it's so fine because she's asleep? DO I REFUND HERI sold a labour tens machine on facebook marketplace a few months ago for $60. I had originally purchased it as an ex hire machine but did not use it for my labour as it was too fast. I had tested it and it seemed to work fine to the best of my knowledge. Up until I sold it, it had sat in the pack it came in without the battery in it, untouched. Before I sold it to the lady I checked it again and it all seemed to work fine still. She had told me she wanted a receipt for the item as she had some trouble buying off marketplace before. I empathised with her but told her I can’t provide a receipt for it. Now a few months have passed and she has contacted me saying that it was rubbish, didn’t work as it should and is not in good working order. She also said that it impacted her birth and her experience was horrendous. I have sincerely apologised and explained my situation but I know she’s fishing for a refund. Do I refund her the money or just ignore her messages and move on? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Gus Worland is a TV, podcast and radio host, and the director and founder of the mental health foundation Gotcha4life. Gus is a passionate advocate for building mental fitness. Gus is particularly good at helping women connect with the men in their lives in ways that enable vulnerable and real conversations about their mental health. We chat: Gus’ childhood friendship with Hugh Jackman, or ‘Jacko’ as he calls him Whether Gus is jealous of Hugh’s friendship with Ryan Reynolds What mental fitness is & why we have such an issue with mental health now Where men disproportionately struggle Why so many men are suffering in silence and don’t speak up when they’re struggling Not letting anyone struggle alone Creating ‘villages’ around us Gus also speaks about some really practical ways that we can connect with blokes, not try to ‘fix’ everything and create relationships where they feel comfortable speaking up.You can find more from Gus on Instagram Gotcha 4 Life Instagram Gotcha 4 Life Website If this conversation brought up things for you, please reach out for 24/7 support at Lifeline or call 13 11 14 You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, We are back from a little few day vacay! Laura's friend catch up FINALLY made it's way out of the group chat and into reality! She had a little mishap at the airport and there's a valet parker who hopes she never comes back.Britt and Producer Keeshia went to Bali to sus out Britt's wedding venues and food tastings. They ended up getting sick and missing some of the important parts. Chaos and motion sickness; very on brand for life uncut! The world is in mourning as JLo and Ben Affleck file for divorce! Lots of the world are talking about whether you think it's ever a good idea to go back to your ex. But, we're more interested in whether you think divorce can make you a better parent.There was a really interesting article by Kathryn Jezer-Morton in the Cut that explored the idea that the end of a marriage, while challenging, can lead to personal growth and improved parenting skills. We discuss: Whether our experiences of divorce or parents staying together influenced our views on relationships and marriage Whether you should or shouldn't stay in a step kid's life Whether we think divorce is always traumatic to kids How it shaped our views of conflict Parents who are only staying together for the kids - is this a good thing or a bad thing? Does being a 'child of divorce' make you more 'realistic' about marriage? We mentioned a podcast that we recorded with Esther Perel You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. On the show:  We have a surprise SPOILER it's James Bay Chat GPT roasts us Matty J wrote a book and Laura is proud as punch Headline and Headlies with Matty J See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers,Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions!It's Britt and Producer Keeshia's birthday and they're off on a romantic, couples holiday as a taste tester (quite literally) of Britt's wedding.Have you ever taken a vibrator to Bali? We might get stopped at customs for reasons we weren't expecting!If you have had a wedding, did you have a 'first look' and do photos before your ceremony or did you wait to have photos taken after the ceremony?Laura had an 'interesting' back drop in some of her wedding photos that caused a smell that didn't fit with the feelings of the moment.Vibes for the week: Laura: MCoBeauty Miracle Flawless Skin Foundation Keeshia: Podcast The rest is politics US Britt: Ilona Maher Instagram Account Then we jump into the questions: WHEN TO PUT BEST MOVES ON IN THE BEDROOMWhen is the right time to pull out your best moves in the bedroom? My best friend has started to see new people after coming out of a four year relationship. As her longest single friend she asked me when is it too soon to use your best moves on a new sexual partner? Which got me thinking, Do you leave it all on the floor on your first time because you want to impress them? Or do you keep some of those party tricks in the locker for future? I personally have had experiences in the past where I have been complimented on certain acts in the bedroom in almost a “you must do that alot” kind of way as if I’m being judged for having too much experience (charming I know). So I need to know your thoughts. Do you hold back with a new partner in fear of being judged for being too experienced or do you go hell for leather and pull out all the moves on the first go? In this question we mentioned the great episode we recorded with Tara O Sex Isn't a Stage Show, So Drop the Act SHOULD I SUCK IT UP FOR MY HUSBAND'S SAKE OR IS THIS DISLOYAL?My husband's best friend (best man at our wedding) and his long term wife got a divorce due to him cheating. The wife was clearly devastated, they had started trying for a baby and it came as a shock to everyone. The husband less than 2 months on finds a new girlfriend and gets her pregnant, they have only a few weeks ago had the baby. I cannot bring myself to congratulate him. I am still close friends with my ex wife. And he is essentially living the life that they had planned together which is devastating to her. My husband is still close friends with him despite his actions, but I feel he's not the person we thought he was. Am I rude and selfish for not congratulating him on the baby's arrival and I should just suck it up for my husband's sake?FRIEND ONLY CONTACTS ME WHEN SHE WANTS ME TO BUY FROM HER BUSINESSI've had a friend for 10 years, we used to work together and have kept in touch ever since and see each other a few times a year. Recently, she’s started a business, and now all messages end in "do you want these products?" or ways of trying to sell. I am considering ending this friendship because of this. She usually takes weeks to reply to messages, but when she is trying to sell something to me, she replies straight away. When I said “no” she goes back to taking weeks to reply. I see that she is active on instagram stories 10x per day, trying to market and sell this product. I just feel a bit used. What should I do? Any advice would be appreciated. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Back for the second time is the hilarious Ellie Cole. Ellie is the most decorated Australian female paralympian of all time & a childhood cancer survivor. Ellie has joined the podcast before in Feb 2023 “I threw my leg at him and it hit him like a shish kebab”. Ellie has just touched down back in Australia after doing poolside commentary in Paris at the 2024 Olympics. We have a whole bunch of Olympic questions for her like: -The funniest/most meme-able moments from Paris 2024 -What is the Olympic Village like? -Can and do the athletes all hook up with each other? -What are the Olympic beds like? -Should the Paralympics and Olympics be at the same time? -Pay parity, the ‘equal Olympics’ and misogyny in commentary We also speak about Ellie becoming a mum, their IVF journey and her fears about her son being bullied when he gets to school for having two mums. You can find more from Ellie here! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, Things are slightly more unhinged than normal due to some sleepy, post Logies Britt and Laura! Laura thinks Britt looks like checks notes Charlie Sheen...We take a bit of a peak behind the curtain of what actually happens at the Logies.We spoke about the highlights and lowlights, who left early, how the red carpet and outfits all work and also we are now Felix Cameron and Larry Emdur stans.Britt speaks about her mum overstepping on what was intended to be a generous offer and Laura finally shares the real story behind her wedding planner who was a bit of a scammer. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions! Britt has some terrible dating advice that includes faking a celebrity interaction.The tide seems to be turning on Raygun. There is more speculation around the ethics of her journey to the Olympics since we recorded on Monday morning.Laura helps Britt learn about her (Ben's) new home in Romania. Vibes for the week: Laura: Two Doting Dads Book: The Quest For Free Time Keeshia: It Ends With Us Film Britt: Diary of a CEO podcast with Francis Ngannou Then we jump into your questions! AM I UNFULFILLED OR IS THIS NORMAL? I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years. I have kids, he doesn’t. I have always felt like he is my best mate, not necessarily my penguin but at the same time it’s been 5 years we’ve put in the work and my kids now adore him. His best friend moved in with us a year ago. I obviously noticed this man was attractive and I’ve known him for a long time but I was happy and content with my partner and I thought hey it’s normal to just appreciate someone’s good looks. Until… he messaged me one night. I was at work and he had been drinking. It said “Hey please don’t repeat what I’m about to tell you.” He goes on to tell me that he finds me irresistible and the reason he chose to take a FIFO (3 on, 1 off) job was because he struggles to be alone with me. He said he thinks about me non stop. I would be lying if I didn’t say I felt the lust. I went home, slept it off and felt so guilty that I showed my boyfriend the messages. He kind of just said ‘Oh wow he is thinking with the wrong body part’ and has since pretended like it never happened. Now I’m in a tailspin. I dream about this man. He creeps into my mind constantly. He comes home in a week and I’ve tried gently suggesting to my boyfriend that we ask him to move out. Obviously I haven’t told him that I am attracted to his best friend but I just said that it’s a little awkward. My partner just replied that the extra income is helpful and he probably won’t try anything. But what he doesn’t know is that his friend has messaged me since telling me he is sorry, however I am just so beautiful and kind, how I’m the sweetest and he can’t help but think about me. I truly think that I’m just feeling this way because after 5 years and being a full time working mum, I feel invisible to my family so having a man call me irresistible is a thrill. I do not want to go against my morals and destroy someone’s trust over a fling but I also don’t want to tell my partner how I feel. Should I be looking at this as a sign I’m unfulfilled in my relationship and maybe it’s time to move on (not with his friend) or is this just a normal reaction to having an attractive man show me attention and once he has moved out I can just move past this without hurting my boyfriend? DON'T WANT TO WEAR THE BRIDAL OUTFITHow do I tell the bride and groom of a wedding I’m attending later this year that the bridal party outfit they have chosen for me is awful and I don’t want to wear it? Keep in mind they also asked me to pay for it (so now I am out of pocket too). I live in a different state to them, so had to order online without trying the outfit before buying. It is unflattering, does not suit my shape, and I feel so uncomfortable in it. I do not want to wear this in public, let alone in front of a crowd at a wedding. I had suggested early on that if I’m paying for it, could I buy a nice dress in their colours that I’d be likely to wear again. They insisted however they wanted everyone to be ‘uniform’. Do I just have to suck it up, as the day is not about me? (Also, this is a destination wedding so I am already spending thousands on travel and accommodation to attend) I DON'T LIKE HIM DRINKING ALONEMy husband and I had a disagreement and both genuinely could not work out who was in the wrong, so reverting to the brains trust! My husband works shift work, so often has midweek days off or finishes really early on weekdays that I'm working. Sometimes (say once a week) he likes to go to the local pub by himself and have a few beers until I finish work. He usually comes home tipsy on these occasions. I feel uncomfortable about him drinking by himself and coming home tipsy after doing so. I don't have any issue with him drinking with friends or if we have a few drinks together - it's just the by himself aspect (which I think stems from growing up with parents who had issues with alcohol). He gets upset by this and feels like I'm trying to control how he spends his free time. He doesn't think it's unreasonable to do this once a week. I don't have an issue with him doing any activity by himself that doesn't involve alcohol, so don't feel that I'm being controlling. Who is in the wrong?! Am I being unreasonable? We both have had multiple convos about this and both are not sure if each of us are in the wrong. For context, we are in our early 30's and have no kids, just living at home the 2 of us (and otherwise

Brittany Butler spent nine years as a targeting officer within the CIA's Directorate of Operations, Counterterrorism Center. Brittany has worked both at Langley and in the Middle East and has first-hand knowledge of how the CIA recruits spies and how intelligence organisations discover and apprehend terrorists. In today’s episode we speak about: How Brittany was recruited to the CIA Our perceptions of what someone in the CIA would look and be like vs reality Whether she told her loved ones what her real job was Meeting terrorists and whether Brittany was ever scared How the collaboration between CIA, FBI, secret services and police works Who was ultimately responsible for the security at former president Trump’s assassination attempt What Brittany is and isn’t allowed to speak about from her time in the CIA Is the CIA a boys' club? Honey pot operations and the value that women bring to intelligence organisations Advocacy for women’s rights in the Middle East Writing spy novels from a female perspective and sharing those experiences! See more from Brittany: Brittany's Website Brittany's Tiktok Brittany's Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers, Laura is an elite athlete now. She's possibly getting a ticket for indecent exposure but we're focussing on the success of doing 14km with a donkey pram!Britt has done one of the more Britt coded things possible and embarrassed herself again.If you could theoretically find out who the love of your life was going to be and specifically when you would meet them at the age of say 18, would you? Would you like to know?If you had a crystal ball and could see whether you and your current partner were going to be together in 10 years, would you like to know that? Ben has moved to Romania and Britt knows a bit too much about Dracula...Laura has an update on how her conversations with her girls went about their grandfather passing away.The entire world cannot stop talking about Raygun. We unpack where the line between trolling and criticism is, whether the commentary is gendered and whether it's 'good enough' that she 'did her best'.We also take a bit of a dive into her own research in the field and how it seems to contrast her performance at the Olympics. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. On the show:  Chivalrous or weird - Britt got picked up Amy Shark joins the show The renovation poo plot twist Mitch paying it forward Millenials vs Gen Z See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions!How do you feel about group saunas? Are they good for a bit of a group therapy session or human stew? Vibes for the week can be found here!Britt: Tom organic period cupKeeshia: The Shocking Effects of 500 Days Without Alcohol - Mark MansonLaura: Koala Suffolk Chair Then we get into your questions! DO I CATCH UP WITH HER OR LEAVE ITI had this girlfriend I’d only known for a short time through work. Early in our friendship, just a couple of months in, she asked me for advice on proposing to her boyfriend. I encouraged her to go for it and a few weeks later I found myself hiding behind a beach umbrella, camera in hand, capturing her proposal. Not long after, she asked me to be her bridesmaid. I was flattered and accepted, although I was a bit surprised given how new our friendship was. Then, the wedding was postponed for a year due to a venue mixup. Life got busy for both of us, but I made an effort to stay in touch, regularly checking in. Her responses were few and far between, until one day out of the blue, she sent me a long text telling me she didn’t want me at the bridal party anymore. She claimed I was the reason we’d drifted apart but said she still wanted me in her life. Yet, when the wedding finally happened, I wasn’t invited at all. A few months after the wedding, she messaged me saying she wanted to catch up. Now, I’m torn: should I take the high road and give her a second chance, or cut ties since she was the one who cut me off first? We still have mutual friends, so it’s likely we’ll run into each other at some point. NO MORE BABY TALKMy best friend sometimes makes comments when we are out for dinner with our closest girl group like ‘no more baby talk’. It’s a punch in the gut for me. This year my entire life has been consumed with my baby. I was on family leave and just started back up at work now. At this point of my life, all of it revolves around my baby. I feel confused and don’t know who I am any more, I feel like I have nothing else to talk about, and to my friends who I love dearly, I’m boring them. Normally I wouldn’t want to care what people think of me, but her opinion of me really matters. My best friend does want to have kids (but in a few years). I guess my question is, how do I navigate this friendship, since we are both at different stages of our life? How do I navigate the comments? How do I find myself again? I sometimes miss the old me (freedom and time to do things I want to do), but I especially miss the old me when I feel I’m boring my best friends and have nothing else to contribute. Or how do I care less about this? NOT READY FOR MY MUM TO MEET MY NEW BOYFRIENDI’m going away on an overseas holiday with my new boyfriend. We have only been dating for 2-3 months but a holiday is a holiday so why not! My mum is actually going overseas (not with us) at the same time and our flights come in on the same day around the same time. My mum has asked if we can give her a lift home from the airport. It’s only early days in the relationship and a long 2 hr drive home from the airport. This might possibly be the first time she and he meet and I’m not ready for that. I don’t know how to say no without feeling guilty and if I tell her I’m not ready for her to meet him she won’t understand. I know she will take over the car ride home and won’t stop yapping or complaining. I’m feeling so anxious about it already. I’m 35 yrs old if age helps with context. Keeshia mentioned a great conversation about going sober and alcoholism with Emily Weir & you can listen here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Zoe Marshall is a lot of things. A podcaster, a content creator, an ex radio host, a mother of 2 and she’s now an advocate for mindset and manifestation. She’s joining us today to talk through why mindset is so important in our lives and the science behind some practices that have been thought of as a bit 'woo woo'. Zoe also speaks about what led her in a different direction from the successful podcast 'the deep' and how we all process and manage trauma. We speak about: How ‘manifesting’ has been labelled as only for the privileged Finding purpose in less conventional ways Conscious thought and taking action especially in relationships Reticular activation system Shifting mindset from fear to gratitude It’s the feeling, not the ‘thing’ that you actually want You can find everything from Zoe here Zoe’s course "How to Manifest" - use code LIFEUNCUT for 25% off You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Laura has had a really heart breaking week. Her wonderful step father passed away last Tuesday night and today she shares some of the best bits of who he was as a man. We also have a conversation about living alongside grief and how life is somewhat expected to continue 'as normal' when you're experiencing it. Laura also shares how she's finding it challenging knowing how to explain what has happened to her two young daughters.Britt has tried on her first wedding dress and it brought her (and only her) to tears!The wedding date is closer than any of us expected! We have a bit of a laugh about what styles of dresses we expect Britt to pick. Was the dress you ended up choosing to be married in the 'style' that you expected or was it different?Is it best to publicly call out a cheater? We unpack the growing trend of people using Tiktok to call out what they think is cheating in an effort to out them and find the wronged partner to let them know. Is it always better to ‘expose’ them? Or do you think that is more humiliating for the person who has been cheated on?Is publicly calling out a cheater justified, or does it cause more harm than good? We mention an episode with a polyamorous family that we absolutely loved! You can listen here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Producer Keeshia is filling in today and Britt is curious about her chewing gum and toilet choice habits. Britt has had a very serious emergency that could have had a very dire outcome. This story isn't for a laugh but more a word of warning!Vibes for the week can be found on our websiteBritt: Keeshia: Modern Wisdom - How to stop feeling like your success is never enoughand Apple airpod max headphones Then we jump into your questions! IS HE LYING TO ME?A few years ago when I was around 7 months pregnant I noticed a condom missing from the pack. The only reason I noticed this was because we don’t use condoms and only had them because we were going through fertility treatment and advised to use them prior to egg collection and embryo transfer. I confronted my husband about it and he said he likes to wear them when he ‘relieves’ himself because he likes the feeling of it. Fast forward to now and we have been trying for a second baby for almost 9 months. We have embryos frozen so have decided to go through fertility treatment again. Again, we have been advised to use condoms to avoid multiples etc. My husband hasn’t used any of ours since then, or told me that he’s brought more. For the past few months he has been working away a few nights a week and staying at a friend’s house while he’s away (this friend is married with kids). The other day our 2 year old was going through his bag. He opened a zip and pulled out 2 condoms saying ‘daddy biscuits’. A few hours passed and a comment was made and we ended up talking about it. He told me again he liked the feeling of it and that I have nothing to worry about. My sex drive has been very low the last few months trying for a baby again and sex feels like a chore. He doesn’t want to push me or put any pressure on so finds the need to ‘relieve’ himself which is totally fine. I explained to him why it seemed suss and he understood where I was coming from and said he never even saw it that way. Now the question is - I don’t know if this a red flag and he’s lying to me or is this a legit thing and I should just trust him? We are about to have another embryo transfer and I’m just all over the place with my emotions and how I feel about this. I don’t have actual proof he’s done anything wrong or cheated and I don’t have reason to not trust him. AM I A BAD FRIEND?I’ve got a friend who seems to chase chaos in relationships. She is clearly the reason her last wonderful relationship didn’t work out, and since then she has dated multiple toxic guys back to back, and says she loves red flags - as if it’s funny, until it’s not funny anymore. She also never takes any accountability for her bad behaviour. I wish I didn’t get so invested and didn’t care what she did with relationships but it’s put me off our friendship. She’s never done anything bad to me but I find myself with the ick and not wanting to hang out with her because I can’t possibly listen to one more of these chaotic and red flag guy stories. Am I being a bad friend? NOT BUDGETING FAIRLYMy family is going on a big holiday for a whole week. I’m talking about my sisters, their husbands and their kids + my parents and me (I’m single). One of my sisters has been the arranger of the whole trip. It was her idea so she has booked and budgeted everything and explained how much everything is costing and how it’s getting split. Now it’s coming to the crushing time of paying everything and getting close to us all going but I’m starting to feel as if things haven’t been fairly budgeted. What’s your perspective? We are 3 sisters helping pay toward ours and our parents' holiday however 2 of us have partners also contributing to the 1/3 expected on each of our behalf and then there is me who has to support the whole 1/3 on my own. Is this just the way the cookie crumbles or should this actually be split by 5 to include my sister's husbands? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In today’s eye-opening episode, we bring you the harrowing story of a woman who has endured relentless and ongoing stalking. To protect ourselves, we made the decision to keep our guest’s name anonymous as the further we got into this chat it became apparent just how dangerous the man stalking her is. For her, the stalking began years ago and despite every effort she has made with police internationally, she has not been able to have the perpetrator convicted. In this episode, we discuss: The reality of being a victim of stalking Self-gaslighting and doubt: how women often question whether the threat they face is severe enough to involve the police. Ongoing stalking & this continuous ordeal with a persistent and dangerous stalker. Ignored evidence: despite having substantial proof of harassment and stalking behaviour, law enforcement's response has been disappointingly inadequate. The emotional and psychological toll of living under constant surveillance by a stalker. Why the police often fail to take stalking cases seriously and the systemic issues contributing to this neglect. What needs to change with international stalking and harassment laws You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers,What're your thoughts on the skateboarding in the Olympics? We're hooked!Britt has had an old roommate come to visit and it's got her reminiscing on the good old nostalgic days of stitching up a housemate when they bring home a date. The men (human and canine) in Laura's life keep on sh*tting in inappropriate places but it's bringing a lot of joy to the Life Uncut family! Republican vice presidential candidate J.D. Vance previously made some outlandish comments that included the country being run by “a bunch of childless cat ladies”. He's joined the conservative Megyn Kelly show on Friday and somewhat doubled down on the commentary. It's a story that now has Jennifer Anniston, Hilary Clinton and Opera involved so we thought we'd throw in our two cents. It had us asking a few questions: -Do you think it shifts voter’s perspectives on who will be best to run a country if they have children or not?-Do your perspectives on how you see the world shift when you have children?-Are you more ‘entitled’ to a vote if you have a kid that will live in the world that we are creating policies for? We spoke about being child free by choice with Danni Duncan here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers,Welcome back to your weekly venting session where we unpack all of your deep, dark and dirty questions!It was our 5th birthday but we missed it... We reflect on what the last 5 years have meant and you're all the fkn best for listening to this podcast and helping us create this community! WE HAVE A NEW HOME FOR OUR VIBES!!Vibes and Unsubscribes page! Britt: Netflix Simone Biles Rising Laura: One Life film Keeshia: Book - Everyone Here Is Lying Then we jump into your questions: WEDDING SAVE THE DATESI’m getting married at the end of this year, we sent the save the dates February this year. Since then we have lost touch with a friend (never see them, never talk to them over social media etc) they are still close friends with mutual friends of ours. If you send someone a save the date, do you have to follow through with the invitation? There’s no other aspect of money being an issue or anything like that, just purely aren’t close with them now and don’t foresee us being close in the future? PARTNER WANTS TO TELL GROCERY STORE, I WANT TO KEEP THE REFUNDMy partner and I can’t agree. He collected our grocery order tonight for $140 worth and they have had IT issues so we never got the message to say our ‘direct to boot’ order is ready so he went inside the store to grab it. Two hours later we got a message to say our order has to be cancelled and we will be refunded due to IT issues. I think they will take the refund as they are a huge company - we spend at least $300 weekly (family of four- 3 kids in nappies🙈). We are farmers in drought struggling to make ends meet so I think treat it like winning the lottery. He thinks we should ring them to let them know we got the order. I know he is morally right but surely sometimes you have to just take a win. What do you think? DATING SOMEONE WHO DOESN’T QUITE FIT WHAT I PICTURED I’m 28 and have never been in a relationship. A couple of years ago I wrote a list of my ideal man; ambitious, funny, chatty, reliable etc so when I was dating I wouldn’t entertain anyone who wasn’t right for me. I’m in the early stages of dating someone and he ticks everything off the list: he’s really great, I feel safe with him and my friends love him. There’s one small thing that’s niggling at but as I haven’t been in a relationship before I’m still figuring it out. I always pictured myself with someone being the centre of his friend group, could dominate a room, in a sense a bit cocky. But this guy isn’t quite like that! I’m not saying that he’s not confident, but I suppose it looks different to how I envisioned it. I realise I’m overthinking and doubting but any thoughts or advice? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Tori Dunlap is a New York Times best selling author and host of the #1 money podcast for women in the world and was a self made millionaire in her 20’s. Tori is unapologetic about her finances. She uniquely doesn’t just talk about numbers but the systemic issues and value systems behind money and how much control we actually have over personal finances.In our chat we speak about: Unpacking where our values and beliefs about money come from, How the patriarchy really fucked us up when it comes to financial independence Why the stock market and investing scares most of us & how complicated it really is What the priority is between savings, debt, emergency funds etc The mistakes women make investing Renting vs buying a home - what is best for you? Talking about money in your relationship Splitting costs like hens parties & dinner with friends Should the person earning more pay more? Should you have transparency over what your partner earns? Should you ever fully combine finances? You can find everything from Tori including her book and her website You can follow Tori on Tori's Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, First up, have you seen Avatar or Brokeback mountain? They're life changing apparently!We had a group dinner with some podcast friends that didn't end with Biden stepping back from being a presidential candidate but did end with a huge penis. Laura has called for a welfare check on someone and created an enemy in the process! We are seeing an increase in people publicly sharing their breakups on social media, something that previously was almost exclusively done by celebrities. Over the past week we saw two opposite types of break up posts. One was from the Princess of Dubai, Sheikha Mahra & the other was a joint statement from Maya Jama and Stormzy. But why are people sharing this kind of content online? Is it for closure? Is it for clarity? Is it for clout? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. On the show:  Mitch is an uncle! Delilah is a menace Laura's obsession with the Netflix doco - the man with 1000 kids See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Big changes have struck the life uncut team and it's got us questioning 'are you okay?'We speak about female hair loss and the changes that happen with hair during and after pregnancy. Vibes for the week:Britt unsubscribes from podcast that paywall their content after they've hooked you inVibe: Brita water filterKeeshia: Netflix stand up. Hannah Berner - We Ride at DawnLaura: Apple TV doco Jacinta Then we get into your questions: TRADIES IN HOUSE Recently we have been having renovations done to our house, meaning lots of trades coming and going. Tradies were literally arriving at our house and not long after were requesting to use the toilet and doing number 2s (with the sound effects). Not just a once off; this was happening everyday of the renos. Am I the only one to think this is not acceptable? My husband was a lot more understanding than I was; maybe because I’m the one who had to clean it!?). Should tradies not ask to use the toilet if they need to do a poo or am I just being very unreasonable!! DOES YOUR PARTNER INTERACT WITH YOU AT THE END OF THE DAY? My boyfriend's default after coming home from work is to be on his phone , watch reels, news, stocks etc. I have told him before to give me attention for a few minutes and just be nice to me so I feel loved. Tonight, Friday night, I'm home from work and looking out onto the balcony as if it's a nice sunset. He comes home, says hi (the door is right across from the balcony ) and sits on the sofa and starts looking at phone. (I was expecting him to walk over to me and give me a hug and kiss). I ask him to come out to the balcony and he says no and continues looking at phone. After a few minutes I ask him to give me some attention (exact words: "babe can you give me some attention?") He throws his phone down and says "stop complaining" and goes into the bedroom and doesn't come out for 45mins. He came out later to the living room and said sorry but he was upset. I asked him to come outside, and he didn't want to. He thinks I'm dramatic and I create a scene ....What do you think? Is it normal to want to be greeted at the end of a work day or am I expecting something that isn’t normal? SIS IN LAW SHOWER WITH MY DAUGHTER My sister in law has showered my daughter with her a couple of times, which I don’t feel comfortable with. My biggest issue is that she never asks if it is okay before doing it. I have mentioned it to my husband but he didn’t really think it was a big deal. How do you bring the conversation up without creating an argument because his family is always on the defence about everything I saw and did. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, Conversations about the end of our lives and the end of the lives of the people we love are hard. Sometimes they’re so hard that we completely avoid them and we can put ourselves in situations where we don’t know how to manage the last part of a loved one’s life. With that being said you might assume that today’s conversation would be a bit of a difficult listen, but hospice nurse Julie somehow makes it light, interesting and even humorous!Hospice Nurse Julie aka Julie McFadden started educating people about death on tiktok and has grown to have over 3 million followers. In today’s chat we speak about: Julie’s nursing life showing her that prolonging life wasn’t always the best option Processing and accepting the idea of letting someone go Death bed phenomenon like the rally & visioning Voluntary euthanasia. How it works and what it is Some of Julie’s experiences witnessing people’s last breath The most common thing people regret What to expect from a loved one’s death Julie has a brand new book out called Nothing to FearYou can find Julie on TiktokAnd Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, Delilah has been kicked out of dog school. Again!Britt shares how she feels like it's a reflection of her and it turns out that pretty privilege also exists in the canine world!Very sadly, Laura's nan passed away last week. We speak about the concept of the 'rally' where people in the last stage of life seem to have the fog lifted. Laura got to enjoy this moment with her nana. Have you ever heard of a shut up ring? What about a shut up move? We unpack these ideas and how we determine where the line between nagging and good communication is. Is it always ‘if they wanted to he would’ or do some people need prompting? Whether you feel satisfied with a shut up move because you got what you wanted, just not in the way that you wanted it. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. On the show:  Mitch goes to LA and comes home offended Lilly Allen is selling feet pics Britt has strong feelings about a controversial dating expert Mitch has a message for the Cronulla Sharks  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers,Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions!Laura has had to deal with our worst nightmare; it involves gastro and a child burrito. Vibes for the week:Britt: The Beautiful Game on NetflixKeeshia: The Rest is Entertainment podcastLaura: App "Juggle Street" Then we jump into your questions! SHOULD I TELL MY HUSBAND I SLEPT WITH HIMI’ve moved back to the town I grew up in and had a situation where I recognised a tradie that came to our property… I had slept with him! I didn’t mention it to my husband but then I had a thought that maybe I should have told him. I would never lie if he asked outright but now I don’t know if I need to divulge this information voluntarily. Just to add, I didn’t speak to him at all, he didn’t see me and he won’t be returning. It was purely a short fling and it was so long ago who knows if he’d recognise me back. What are your thoughts? HOW TO STOP OBSESSING WHEN DATINGI’m 35 and in the dreaded dating scene. I’ve just been ghosted suddenly after a few great dates and what felt like a really good connection forming. How do I stop obsessing over what I may have done wrong and what could’ve been. I feel like this will make my dating anxiety even worse. I feel like I’m losing all hope that I’ll ever meet someone that actually likes me back. SHOULD HE BE CONTRIBUTING FINANCIALLYI moved to another country to be with my partner. I have said that it’s really important for me to go back home twice a year (4hr international flight, but it’s also a 4hr drive to the airport). Some of my friends and family mentioned that they reckon he should be contributing financially to me going home because I’m the one that moved away. I've always just paid but it did get me thinking and I think it sounds reasonable that he helps me out (he makes significantly more than me) but he doesn’t think so. We’ve been together for a few years now and don’t have any shared finances. What do you guys think? CHEATING NOTE ON MY CARI met the greatest guy ever! My family adore him and he treats me so well. We were living in an apartment complex in a main city where we had an external car park with allocated parking. One day on my way to work, I noticed a note on my windscreen. When I pulled over to read the note, it said, "he cheated on you babe." As soon as I read it, I instantly thought, nope, this isn't for me but as I got to work I kept thinking about it. I started to get upset and told my boss I wasn't feeling well and had to leave. When I confronted my partner, I told him if it's true, let's just talk it over because I can appreciate people who make mistakes. He remained very confident in saying this was not true and he was upset that someone would do something like this. What are your thoughts on this? Would you believe a note someone left on your car, without a contact name or number over someone you loved? Why are people such assholes? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Joining the pod today for an exclusive interview is the wonderful Frankie Muniz; the beloved child actor who starred as Malcolm in "Malcolm in the Middle" and has now made a name for himself as a NASCAR driver. Britt and Frankie were campmates in the "I'm a Celebrity, Get Me Out Of Here jungle and it was so nice to continue those in depth and personal conversations with Frankie. We spoke about: How Frankie got into acting and landed the role of Malcolm at just 8 years old. How getting into acting isn’t an exact process. It’s likely due to chance The rules of child acting and how schooling worked The sacrifices that his family made to enable his career to exist Child actor finances -the reality of child actor earnings and financial management Frankie's experience with his manager stealing money Avoiding rebellion: Why Frankie didn't follow the typical rebellious path of many child stars. Transition to racing & what inspired him to switch gears and pursue a career in NASCAR. The type of dad he wants to be You can find more from Frankie's Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!We are BACK from a little holiday and feeling refreshed, but truthfully still as unhinged as ever! Britt made a big hotel mistake and Laura admitted that Matt was right to be annoyed about something she did when she went away.At the time of recording, media outlets across the world have reported that Margot Robbie is pregnant, despite not having it confirmed by Margot or her husband. It feels like we're not living in 2024. Just over a week ago Miss Universe from 2012 Olivia Culpo married NFL player Christian McCaffrey. Her wedding attire and subsequent interview with Vogue has cause quite the stir with the question of whether her dress was meant to impress or suppress.We unpack the internet's response to her interview and weigh in on whether we think it's a conservative campaign with a side of Madonna whore, or if she should be able to choose whatever wedding dress she wants for any reasons she likes! You can find the tiktok we speak about here - Gown Eyed Girl TikTok You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we debate your deepest and darkest dilemmas.First up, we are taking a hot little 2 week break from the podcast! Laura promises to not get any new tattoos... We're all excited to get some zzzzs.Vibes for the week: Britt - Fanta & Red Wine Sangria Laura - The Daily Aus The rise in young women getting labia plasty Keeshia - Search Engine Why'd I Take Speed For Twenty Years IS IT RUDE TO LEAVE WEDDING BEFORE BRIDE AND GROOM? Is it rude to leave a wedding before the bride and groom? I have always thought you shouldn’t leave before the couple. But, recently at a wedding heaps of people were leaving early and now I am wondering if I was wrong or if people have just given up on this notion. HE DOUBLED DOWN ON WHY HE GHOSTED ME A guy I was dating for a month ghosted me 2 months ago and I didn’t bother following up because we both kind of knew we didn't like each other enough. (He was really hot though so I wouldn't have minded something casual). Fast forward 2 months to now, he decided to call me randomly out of the blue and when I asked his reason for calling, he said he had been reflecting and felt bad that he ghosted and wanted to formally tell me that he didn't think we were compatible. He then went into the reasons why we wouldn't work out. I don't know what's worse: being ghosted or having a ghost pop back up to tell you why he ghosted?? I had a little hope that he wanted to try dating again but he literally just doubled down on why he thought we wouldn't work out. Any thoughts on what's worse? HOW TO WIPE YOUR BUM My friend and I are having a SERIOUS debate… about how to wipe your bum. We’ve settled that we’re both TP folders and not scrunchers, but we wipe our poops SO differently. Please help, do you: Sit on the toilet, reach underneath between your legs and wipe that way? Sit on the toilet, reach around the back and wipe from that angle? OR, Stand up and wipe?? I’m option B, she’s option A and she thinks I’m absolutely crazy for doing so…. Am I? I also occasionally go for option C so I think I’m just fucked up but would love to hear yours and the lifers thoughts. We also settled on wiping from both back to front, or front to back, it just depends on the situation down there…. Is that normal too? Thank you 🤣💩 You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We've had conversations about men's violence against women and domestic violence on this podcast for 5 years, but to say that it's still a huge problem in Australia would be an understatement. Many people feel as though we've been speaking about this for decades. It's time that men were a part of the conversation and the solution. This episode with Tarang should help you have those conversations with the men in your life. Tarang Chawla is a keynote speaker, writer, broadcaster, advocate and academic at Monash University. He is also the co-founder of ‘Not One More Niki', an organisation working to end men’s violence against women.Tarang’s younger sister Niki (Nikita) was murdered by her former partner in 2015. She was 23 years old. Tarang has worked tirelessly to educate people about the cultural, political and individual factors that can contribute to men’s violence with the goal of reducing men’s violence. In our conversation we spoke about: The patterns of behaviour that lead to violence Creating a solution focussed conversation with people who say ‘not all men’. What has changed in the past decade surrounding domestic violence awareness in the public and in government How men can be the solution Tarang’s personal opinions on ‘justice’ for murderers Why media and institutions shape the narrative of who the perpetrators of violence How we teach boys and girls about their place in the world You can find more from Tarang's Instagram You can contribute to Not One More Niki You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, It's been a HUGE week!Laura got nits, producer Keeshia won a media week award and as you all likely know, BRITT GOT ENGAGED!It's been 5 years of us having the privilege of doing this podcast, sharing all of the best life moments and deeply cooked dating lives, whilst praying to all of the Gods that Britt found her penguin! On today's episode, we take a little trip down memory lane of Britt and Ben's love story and then they answer all of your questions about their engagement and future plans!They speak about:-Whether Britt knew it was happening-How the day panned out-All of the ring details and Ben & Laura's secret messages-What's going to happen once they're married with where they live-Any plans for the wedding You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. ON THE SHOW Mich pisses off a tradie Talk to your Dad's about their prostates  Offended at the beautician  Britt surprises Mitch with her big news We talk to Ben about the ring Laura has the stongest feet known to man See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

OUR BRITTY IS ENGAGED!!!!! Today's recording included a HUGE surprise for Laura and Keeshia and we're all crying so you're welcome to too.First up, Laura wants to help her friend know how to avoid catching the feels for her 'friends with benefits' pal. Vibes for the week: Britt - Netflix "Geek Girl"Keeshia - Unsubscribing from The Kardashians. Vibing The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck podcast The Harsh Truth About Self Discipline ft Rich RollLaura - Tony's Chocolonely Caramel Sea Salt Milk Chocolate Block Then we get into your questions and one little surprise: I WANT TO KEEP THEIR DOG My friends have a 2.5yr old toddler and a newborn. To help them out, I agreed to look after their puppy for 18 months as they raise their kids as the puppy can be a bit much. I’m currently two months in and realising I did not think this through. The thought of giving him back in a year is really upsetting. The timing of me taking on their dog has come after A) the death of our family dog, and B) I am healing from a toxic relationship so I really needed a little buddy to latch onto and that has been my friend's dog. I also feel like I’m a better home for him as he has my full attention and has made so many friends at my local beach/dog park. The husband is keen on me having him, but the wife is on a very different page and wants the dog back in a year. I genuinely will be heartbroken if I have to give this dog back. How should I approach this with them to convince them that I should keep their dog? PORN SHOWER My husband was in the shower and I needed a lil wee so I went in to do that. As I was on the loo I was perving on him in the shower… he looked good, a potential semi, so I decided to strip off and jump in. We had sex in the shower. When we finished I turned to get out and something dropped on the floor. It was his phone. It had been propped up in the shower. So essentially when I had come in to use the bathroom he was watching porn on his phone in the shower and about to have a wank. He was interrupted. I felt weird, like a bit used, as in he was semi hard from watching someone else and then I finished the job. Should I feel weird about this? And then Britt's own question! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In the past few weeks, the Netflix show ‘Baby Reindeer’ has been the number 1 TV show in the world. The bio of the show reads “When a struggling comedian shows an act of kindness to a vulnerable woman, it sparks a suffocating obsession which threatens to wreck both their lives.” This show provided quite a nuanced look at the insidious nature of stalking and a lot of the complex emotions that the victims can experience. Joining the podcast today is Nicole Madigan. Nicole is a journalist and the author of “Obsession”. Nicole was stalked for over three years. It wreaked havoc on her life and trapped her in a constant state of fear. In this chat we speak about: Nicole’s story and how a stalker infiltrated her life The emotions experienced by victims of stalking Whether Baby Reindeer on Netflix was an accurate representation of what stalking is like How stalking and harassment isn’t taken seriously in our worlds or by law enforcement How difficult it is to prove that someone is stalking you and where authorities come into it The 5 different stalking types What percentage of perpetrators are men/women and the gender break down of victims Misconceptions of stalking You can find more from Nicole hereWe mentioned a previous episode that we recorded with Dr Angela Jay hereYou can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers!Poor Laura has come down with either gastro or food poisoning today so (one of) the boss(es) is away and the mice will play!Producer Keeshia is filling in today.Britt went on a magical holiday to Hamilton Island and met Skippy but also potentially ruined someone's wedding photos.Have you accidentally ruined someone's special day? Have you had a failed proposal? We take a deep dive today on how to know whether you should break up with your partner. A bunch of experts put together a list of signs and we also added a few questions of our own like:-Am I staying in this relationship out of fear of being alone?-Have you ever stayed in a relationship longer than you should have? What kept you there?-How do you distinguish between a rough patch and a fundamental incompatibility in a relationship?-Do you think happiness is a good indicator of the relationship? We spoke about these episodes in this chat: Fix the Sex, Fix the Relationship - Uncut with Ester PerelHow to manage a break up - Uncut with Jillian TureckiThe original list was published here in women's health magazine You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. ON THE SHOW Meghan Trainor joins us on the show Cheating TikTok trend Mitch asks Britt for some eggs The name Alexa is out See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers and welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer all of your deep and dark questions and weigh in on all of the dilemmas! How incredibly awkward can facebook marketplace be? Laura's had the person who is way too keen for a chat and Britt has ended up... not paying for some boogie boards!If you received a message saying "Available when? I work m-f and get home around 9ish" what would you think it meant? There's a man in Florida who, ahhhh misunderstood those of us working weekdays... Vibes for the week:Britt Podcast Trump TrialsKeeshia "Dancing for the Devil The 7M TikTok Cult " on NetflixLaura Hippo Closet Dehumidifier Then we jump into your questions: I'VE BEEN SLEEPING WITH MY BEST FRIEND'S BROTHERI have been friends with my bestie since primary school. We are in our early 20’s now. About 6 months ago I was staying at her house and I slept with her older brother. We had had a few drinks and it honestly just happened. I didn't say anything because I felt bad and thought it would never happen again. But, we have started sort of sleeping together… and now I have feelings! AHHHHH I am in so deep. What should I do? How do I know if it is worth seeing him seriously and risking the awkwardness with the whole family, and do I tell my friend regardless? I know she is going to be upset. IS IT OK TO GHOST FRIENDS YOU'VE OUTGROWN? I am in a group chat with a few girls I went to high school with 10 years ago. I am close-ish with one, used to be close with two, then the other I never connect with. Every now and again the chat pops up about making plans and I never am really interested in being involved. I feel like I have to respond and make up a reason for not joining. I am asking, is it ok to ghost the chat? It feels harsh, but I can’t say “sorry guys I’ve outgrown the group”. The hard bit is that one of the girls I want to preserve my friendship with, and of course don’t want to seem ‘mean’ to the others. How do I approach this? MY EX NAMED HIS DAUGHTER AFTER MEMy ex-fiance and I were together for a few years in our early twenties. After a few years of no contact we have since remained friendly and kept in touch with family updates, happy birthday etc. A couple of years ago he messaged me out of the blue after a few years and shared that he had a daughter. His message was friendly but he didn't share the daughter’s name which seemed like an odd omission at the time. We had planned a family and named our future kids so I did wonder if he had used *our* name. He popped up again today and curiosity got the better of me so I did a Facebook deepdive and within 10 minutes found his daughter's name. He hadn't borrowed *our* name but to my shock his daughter shared my name. I don't know what to think. I did some more research and it seems I am not the first person to ask this question. Many girls seem to be named after their fathers' ex-girlfriends, crushes, and mistresses. Is this a whole thing? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.