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Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Is accepting your Olympic medal the time to confess your cheating ways? What happened with Bumble’s “women first” ethos? Laura's calling bullsh*t on the amount of people using their phone during sex Margot Robbie's attack on torsos Do you know someone who plays the 'dicktim'? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford and Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today we’re talking with Reuben Williams, whose journey through the justice system will open up one of the hardest but most necessary conversations we can have. Australia has been watching the case of Tom Silvagni for the past few months; a man from a high-profile sporting family who was found guilty by a jury of raping a woman. He has since filed an appeal. That case has reignited debates about how sexual violence is handled, how suppression orders can protect perpetrators, and what survivors face when they speak out. Reuben is unfortunately familiar with how the ‘system’ works, not just as a commentator, but as someone who went through the legal process himself. We speak about what actually happens when someone reports sexual assault in Australia, why justice rarely feels just, and how power, fame, privilege and suppression orders can distort truth and accountability. We also speak about: How and why Reuben advocated for himself and sought a level of justice Reuben’s court case and the process he went through His advocacy for survivors when people on the internet make comments like “they don’t look like a victim” The impact that coming forward has had on him Facing the perpetrator in person The tactics that defence attorneys use Removing 'good character' references If this conversation does bring anything up for you, support is available at 1800 RESPECT  You can find more from Reuben here  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! It’s another rough start today but not as rough as Britt’s Italian language skills. She’s been trotting around saying something wildly inappropriate. She’s also had the internet come for her after she attempted a different language. While she can’t understand most comments because they’re written in other languages, emojis are universal! Laura has reached a point of sleep deprivation that’s got her wondering which way is up. She’s remembering the last time she went through this and it’s bringing up some… memories.Keeshia’s been stitched up with a licence photo and she’s now stuck with it for 10 years.We’re diving into the super bowl! The halftime show is usually more watched and talked about than the game itself, and this year was bigger than ever. There was a lot of talk in the lead up about whether this half time show was going to be a political statement and what that statement would be. Bad Bunny gyrated all over an incredible Puerto Rican themed set. We unpack all of the Easter Eggs, messaging and ‘family friendly, all American’ alternative show that was offered by the controversial organisation turning point. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! Vibes for the week: Britt - account @aaronparnas Keeshia - The Rest Is Classified. Epstein Files Declassified: Was He A Spy?  Laura - Lacevo bra breast pump  Then we jump into your questions! BF GAVE UP SMOKING THEN STARTED AGAIN YEARS LATER, AND NOW WONT STOP My partner and I have been in a relationship for 6 years and he was a smoker when we met (maybe 2-3 cigarettes a day) but I even said to him on our first date that I never wanted to marry someone who smoked. It’s always been a no go for me - very scared of the consequences and what might happen if he continued to always smoke. Anyway, at the time (v early days of dating) he told me that he would quit one day and definitely didn’t want to always be a smoker forever. In fact, he said he would quit before we ever got engaged. And he did. He quit over 3 years ago, for a period of about a year until one day he had a falling out with his dad and was suddenly smoking again. He hasn’t stopped since and we’ve had conversations (as I have been seriously disappointed by it) and he said “fuck that promise, I smoke, either get over it or leave me”. I’m 6 years in now mate, I wish it was that simple. He clearly has no plans of quitting and I don’t wanna break up. What should I do? Btw we’re not engaged yet - but we’ve been planning our long term future forever. And he is my person, but this habit. It’s soul destroying for me. I wish he would just change because I know I can’t make him. AM I CAPABLE OF LOVE?!I've been with my husband for 8,5 years and married for 3 and we have 2 kids (4 and 2). He's not my first long-term relationship, I had one for 5 years and a few shorter ones way back in my teens. I'm just not sure if I've ever been in love? I (like any parent) love my kids with my entire being, I love my family and friends etc, and while my husband is a great guy and I'm very fond of him (lol), I'm not sure I've ever been in love. My goal was to always have kids (told him that on our first date) and my mum always said to pick a guy who'd be a good dad (my own is definitely meh and that's a whole other story to unpack). I knew he'd be a fantastic dad, which he is, and I think that's a big part of why I committed. Am I awful? Our home life is nice, we have fun and all, but would I be a better person if I "set him free" and let him find love he deserves? HOUSEWORK DIVISION My husband works 40 hours per week in a job that he doesn't particularly like but he has to ride it out a bit longer. I work the regular 37.5 hours in a job that I love. Should I be doing approx 2.5 hours more housework than he is? (Not that I would actually count it- more just the principle). He has never suggested this and is simply the BEST guy, but I find myself sometimes a bit resentful that he's not on the ball with house things as much as I am, and doesn't do quite as much... Mostly because I beat him to it. He's not good at remembering all of those little things like 'coffee machine deep clean' etc. Then the other day it occurred to me: should I be okay with doing more because he works more? Again, he has never mentioned this, and is such a golden-retriever, beautiful, kind man. For context: he is very clean and generally amazing to live with. We don't have kids or a dog: just the two of us! We will start having kids next year hopefully 😊 DAYCARE AND MUM GUILT I have a question I’d love to hear Laura talk about as she has little kids(and obviously get Brit’s ideas on too because she’s AMAZING) I’m a working mum. I work as a lawyer and I’ve always worked full time. I just had my first baby (he’s 4 months old) and I’m thinking about when I go back to work (probably when he’s 10 months old) and putting him in daycare. I’m feeling mum guilt about this so I’d love to hear your thoughts on being a working mum and will my baby be ok and still thrive as a daycare kid.   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome to Offcuts where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend!Britt is starting her weekend with a fresh shot of nutrients that came directly from Laura! We chat: A 7 year situationship seems to sum up modern dating life The AI chatbots are bitching about humans How important is height? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford and Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Beauty standards are a set of rules and guidelines that we’ve spoken about hundreds of times before. We live in a time where it feels hard to keep up with them. We’ve discussed how pretty privilege can quite literally make you more successful in your career, the halo effect and how people with more symmetrical faces are viewed as more trustworthy. But, today we are taking a deep dive into how much social media and AI have changed the way that we view ourselves and if they’re to blame for the impossible beauty ideals that we are expected to live up to! Today we’re joined by someone who has spent years studying the way beauty culture shapes us, pressures us, and sometimes totally warps how we see ourselves. Carly, or Carlz J Söda, is a photographer and a researcher and her thesis looks into how social media, AI, and beauty standards collide and what that collision is doing to our sense of self. We speak about: How we all seem to anticipate criticism that we might get for the way we look, and change ourselves before anyone else has the opportunity to criticise us The concept of ‘digital lateral surveillance’ - a theory of how we police each other  How facetune and photoshop have affected us psychologically Are we to blame for AI’s ‘beauty ideals?’ The cost of ‘beauty’ The Kardashians being victims of the beauty standards that they themselves perpetuate How the selfie camera distorts what you look like You can find more from Carlz at her instagram and her website   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, Britt is brimming with salmon…sperm. Welcome to your Wednesday!We’ve been nominated for an AACTA and Britt’s planned outfit is giving Chapel Roan at the Grammy’s but sheer on the other end.Britt’s received a particularly strange gift from Ben and she wasn’t sure whether she should be offended or be grateful for it’s practicality.Laura’s daughter Marlie Mae has been so brave and decided to busk on the busy streets of Noosa. She’s been very successful and it’s left Laura wondering if it was a good or a terrible parenting decision. Kanye, now Ye, West has taken out an ad in the Wall Street Journal apologising for antisemetic and racist behaviour. But is it a marketing tactic? We unpack the apology that Ye took out last week and whether the timing is just a bit too convenient for us to think that it’s sincere when he has a new album coming out next month. We also chat about the complexities of conversations like this when it comes to discussing psychiatric illness and being accountable for immense harm and fuelling hate. You can read the whole statement here  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford & Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deepest dilemmas and offer our most passionate, ‘lived in’ (technically unqualified) advice. We’ve got dilemmas of our own and it involves needing to shave our faces… Someone from our facebook group (that you can join here Facebook Discussion Group) is participating in top tier girl code and gamer boy better look out! Vibes for the week:Laura - UK Traitors Season 4 Keeshia - Mad Mabel by Sally Hepworth  Then we jump into your questions! I’M A SW BUT DON’T HAVE SEX WITH PARTNER OF 10 YEARSI’ve been with my boyfriend for 10 years and we essentially don’t have sex — but he constantly guilts me about it. For context, I’m a sex worker and he spent many years seeing sex workers before we met. We’ve always had an open relationship, and I’m okay with not having sex together given the rest of our relationship is amazing. The issue is that I don’t enjoy sex with him — there’s no seduction, no initiation, and it often feels rushed, painful, and disconnected. I’ve tried explaining that effort and communication matter, but he becomes defensive and turns it into “you sleep with your clients but not me.” Even my clients put more care into my experience than he does (I don’t tell him this). We avoid talking about it because he gets immature and blames me. How do I handle the guilt and resentment, and is this something that can actually be fixed — or am I ignoring a bigger problem? IS IT CHEATING IF THEY’RE TEXTING BOTS?Is it considered cheating if your significant other is on apps (e.g telegram) and is messaging “bots” ? A friend of mine has been in a relationship for around 10 months and recently found out her boyfriend had been sending messages to these bots. The messages are on the flirtier side - the bots send through an image of a woman (mostly AI) with minimal clothing and her boyfriend would reply with “” or “looking good” etc. These bots also comment on his appearance, saying he’s hot and sexy etc. She has said that it is cheating and she wants to break up with him as he is seeking sexual validation and attention from these bots. Would love your take on this! PARTNERS COMING TO GIRLS CATCH UPS?I am currently on parental leave. Twice this week I have made plans to meet different friends for walks and coffees with their bubbas, and when I arrived, their partners were there as they are on paternity leave! I really love their partners and it’s great to spend time with them too, but I find it strange that in both cases neither decided to give a heads up. Isn’t this just good manners to give a heads up if someone else is joining? But since it happened twice with two different people I'm just thinking maybe I'm overreacting? JOKES ABOUT HARRY STYLE BEING MY HALL PASS AND BF IS UPSETI love my boyfriend of four years. He is caring, kind and makes me feel so safe. Recently as you would have heard, Harry Styles is releasing new music. I was very excited about this (as a long time one direction and Harry fan!) and suggested to my boyfriend that we try to get tickets to his upcoming tour! He immediately got upset and said he would never go to a Harry style concert with me again. We went a couple of years ago when Harry was last touring. And apparently he was uncomfortable with how excited I got during the concert and from a joke I made about Harry being my hall pass, and saying how much I love him. I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong, but he feels like I was seriously inferring that I want to cheat on him. I think it’s quite common to joke about celebrity crushes and I would have no issue with home saying the same about dua lipa, for example. I don’t even remember this conversation, because I don’t think I said anything serious. I told him that I must have been making a joke about my celebrity hall pass, and that obviously I don’t actually wish to cheat on him with Harry Styles. It really bothers me that he has been bothered about this for years and never once brought it up with me until now. It’s also hurtful to me that he actually believes that I would want to cheat on him, if given the chance. We’re now not talking, and I think the whole argument is completely ridiculous. Help! What should I do? IS IT SELFISH TO NOT SHARE MY BABYSITTER DEETS TO FRIENDS?I am in a big circle of expat friends all with kids all with no family around (aka family who also double up as babysitters on occasion lol). Myself and my partner have recently started to organise some nights out again  now that the kids are a little older- 4 and 2. Like I said we've no immediate family here and only 1 lady in our daycare offers babysitting- which my friend already uses and we tend to do things together within our expat circle. Anyway I found a lovely girl offe

Hey Lifers! Welcome to our first episode of off cuts! This is where we chat about whatever piqued our interest this week in a light, fun little package to send you off on your weekend! We chat: Is your feed filled with post baby 'bounce back' content?  Would you sign away your whole persona for a billion dollars? Are you protecting your peace, or are you just euthanising your personality? “No Bare Bums.” Lose the G Strings ladies! Skyscraper Man and whether parents should take on high risk activities You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford and Lachy Pugsley Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Today we are joined again by the phenomenal Elizabeth Gilbert. We recorded an episode with Liz last year titled ‘Being Single Needs A Rebrand’  In that episode we spoke about:  What Liz’s life was like before and after the success of Eat, Pray, Love,  If she were to name ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ again it would be ‘Not exactly what I had in mind’ and How Liz used to drain herself by giving her everything to relationships but now feels being emotionally autonomous  Liz’s latest book “all the way to the river” is an incredibly honest recount of her own experiences of sex and love addiction alongside her wife’s journey through drug addiction and terminal cancer.  Today we speak about: What sex and love addiction actually looks like (it might be more familiar to you than you expect) What it feels like to be out of control of yourself Coping with validation cravings, codependency and grief Why Liz didn’t have a choice but to be honest in this book Having a deep level of intimacy with your best friend A revelation about trigger warnings Being an olympic level people pleaser Why Liz doesn’t read any reviews anymore and what that’s taught her about our sense of self The parameters she’s had to put on herself to reach ‘emotional sobriety’ You can find more from Liz at her website  And on her Instagram  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! We’re properly back after a few weeks off and we missed you all so much! We also have a brand spanking new TV show that we are hosting to tell you about!Our holidays were very different. Britt has been slothing her way into Italian life and objectively not looking her best. Laura has become particularly acquainted with the young pharmacist and is repetitively speaking about how they are not having a 4th child.None of us took part in the ‘flashback to 2016’ trend because some of us allegedly look like entirely different human beings and those memories deserve to stay in the past! We all interpreted the memo to create 2026 ins and outs differently. Laura is the only one who understood the assignment but we’ve found an unlikely soberish candidate for 2026.  You’ve likely heard of ‘admin night’ but would you try any of these? Batch meal prep party Photo cleanup and memory swap — sort phone photos together and share stories behind old pictures Clothes edit and swap — declutter wardrobes and do a clothes swap with friends Inbox detox session — delete, unsubscribe, and organise your email Password reset party — spend an evening updating passwords and enabling security Swipe party - where you all swipe the apps together   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

 Hey Lifers! Today's ask uncut features special guest and Laura's husband Matt (aka Matty J).Our favourite mum and dad had some issues getting this episode recorded so it's 11pm and there's whispering in an attempt to keep the 3 kids asleep.Also Matt would like a plug for Two Doting Dads and most certainly not to be live edited. It's bad for his flow and bad for his juju.  Matt and Laura firstly answer questions about themselves like what their qualifications are... this could be a genuine or a sassy question! They also speak about: How they've managed going from 2 to 3 kids How they keep the 'spark' alive  Being asked about gender disappointment Vasectomy considerations 'Ageing' in the public eye Plus we answer your dilemmas! IS HE OVER REACTING TO A PAD?I was in the bathroom this morning changing my pad and wrapped up the old one in the sleeve of the new one. My step son who is 10 years old came bursting in so I quickly placed it next to the hair dryer. It was just me and him. He likes to talk and ask strange questions so I answered his questions and I honestly just completely forgot about my wrapped up pad. A few hours later I realised that I might not have disposed it because I got distracted by my step son and I asked my partner if he could check. He didn't respond all day. When I got home he completely lost it at me. He raised his voice, snapped and kept going on and on and on calling me disgusting and telling me to clean up after myself. This was all over a little pad that was wrapped up and left on the side table in the bathroom. Now, I'm not embarrassed by this. I couldn't care less but his reaction feels totally over the top. Is this reasonable or is he out of line? CAN I TELL MY SISTER SHE SELF SABOTAGES?My sister is 23 which I know is young in the grand scheme of things. She's had about 4 boyfriends in the past 4 years and many situationships in between all of these guys. They have all been absolute flogs except for the most recent one. He is seriously just the best guy. He cares for her so much and he went above and beyond for not only her but our whole extended family. She ended things with him after they had a minor disagreement and is now straight back into a 'hoe' phase. Is there a nice way I can tell her that she has f*cked up and that this boy is a rarity that she will likely not come across again. She's quite defensive but she self sabotages every good thing that comes her way and I'd hate for her to lose a guy who was perfect for her. Please help from a worried sister.  MY PARTNER BAILED ON ME FOR A GAMES NIGHT WITH HIS MATESMy grandfather passed away this week at the age of 95. Today we had the viewing for him. I don't know if this is just a Catholic thing, but it happens a few days before the funeral. My partner told me he could not get off work in time to make the viewing at 4:30, which was fine. He had been there for my family and was taking the day off for the funeral anyway. The main annoying thing though, was that I didn't want our two year old daughter to attend. I was hoping that he could stay at home with her. Now, while I'm at the viewing he messages me to confess that he actually did leave work early today, and had gone to his mates place for a game tournament that they do every year. This had been planned for quite some time. I'd forgotten about it with my grandfather's death, and also the fact that I am three weeks postpartum. We have a three week old and a two year old together. Usually he is a great dad and never avoids looking after the kids, etc. but my main issue is the lie and that ultimately he chose his friends over me and the initial lie about having to work. Am I overreacting with postpartum hormones or is this a deal breaker?   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Ben Siegrist Produced by Keeshia Pettit Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! During our summer break we wanted to revisit some of our most impactful conversations that you might have missed at the time. One of Australia's leading relationship experts (although he doesn't like to be called that) Matthew Hussey! Matthew Hussey has over 488 million views on his You Tube Chanel, and has helped millions of people live happier more fulfilled lives. Today we jump into: The concept of the one Why people stay in toxic relationships The idea of a soul mate Staying in a relationship because you're already so far deep in it and leaving is hard What makes his relationship with his fiancé unlike any other he has had You can find more from Matthew Hussey here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Today's ask uncut features special guest and Britt's husband Ben!They share what they've been up to over Christmas and New Years and how they feel now living in Italy. Ben tests Britt's Italian and this is our apology to any Italian listeners 😂They speak about: Moving from Romania to Italy Being reunited after 3.5 months apart The bedroom problem they've been having How they've changed since being together Their relationship non negotiables How Ben feels being in Britt's content Conflict resolution Tongue wrestling And they jump into your questions! EMBRYO CUSTODYMy ex and I did over 5 years of IVF together and I want him to sign the embryo over to me to use solo and he is refusing. He claims to me that it's easy for him to find someone younger (I'm 6 years older than him) and he will be able to start the family that he wants. When we were together he didn't really want kids. I'm 42 and tried doing a few rounds last year with a sperm donor but they didn't work. That embryo is likely my only opportunity to have a biological baby. The next step for me would be egg and sperm donor. He has said that the only way that he will give me the embryo is if we co-parent the baby. However, he wants to stay on the dating apps and living his best life while I do all the IVF preparation and pregnancy alone. What do you think I should do? PARTNER DUMPED ME ON BOXING DAY My partner dumped me on Boxing Day on our way to my family Christmas celebrations. As you can imagine I feel pretty deflated by this and I'm in shock. My question is, do you think that this was pre planned and that he was thinking about breaking up for a while? He claims that he wasn't but it was completely out of the blue. We weren't even arguing! He just blurted out "we should end this. Let's break up." I know he was frustrated from other things going on in his life so it may have been out of anger but at the end of the day the relationship is now over. I'm also after advice on how to one day get back out there because I am completely put off men and dating.  IS IT POSSIBLE TO HAVE TWO SOULMATES?I have been with my partner for 4 years. We own a house together, a dog and a cat and I feel like a proposal is on the horizon. He is my soulmate. We have shared values and interests and he is my best friend. He is the person I see myself growing old with and raising kids with. My family and friends love him. However, I've been hiding a secret. There is a guy at work, lets call him George. He is exactly my type and he has the kindest heart. Almost a year ago to the day I had a dream about him and ever since I'e seen him in a different light. Some days I am so sure he is the person I'm meant to be with, however, when I get a bit of space or time off work my feelings die down slightly. We occasionally message non work related stuff and I wonder if he picks up on the vibe too. My heart feels like I'm torn between two people.  I JUST FOUND OUT THAT HE CHEATED 4 YEARS AGOI've been together with my partner for 11 years, married for 7. We have 2 daughters under 5 years old. He recently had to tell me that he cheated on me 4 years ago. I am devastated and heart broken. He has been my only serious relationship and we are close and enjoy each other's company. He has had untreated depression for many years and did not seek help. Since telling me this news, he is now in a mental health ward getting treatment. He is now giving me compliments and telling me he is going to fix everything now that he is getting the help. I feel like everything is too late but he feels like we can fix it. Can I please have your advice? I feel shattered. When he cheated he slept with her twice and exchanged nude photos. They were talking for about 6 months. I look at other married couples and how happy they are and I'm just broken. I feel like everything is ruined. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Ben Siegrist Produced by Keeshia Pettit Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers, During our summer break we wanted to revisit some of our most impactful conversations that you might have missed at the time. This episode was originally from May 2022 and Jessica Buchanan's story is one that we still think about often! "If I get kidnapped on this trip, will you come and get me?" was the last text that Jessica Buchanan sent to her husband before she was kidnapped by Somali Rebels. In today's episode we were lucky enough to chat with Jessica about her harrowing and heart wrenching story of being a humanitarian aid worker before being kidnapped by Somali land pirates. She was held captive for over 90 days before an elaborate rescue mission from SEAL team six, the same team that found and killed Osama Bin Laden, were sent in to rescue her.  In our conversation with Jessica, she tells us what the experience was like for her. the conditions that she had to live in and what played on her mind each day. Jess speaks about the mental and physical battle of survival and the resilience that this unbelievable story has given her.  You can check out everything of Jess' here.   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! We hope you’re enjoying your summer period. While we are on holidays we thought it was time for our most requested episode - ASK UNCUT AFTERMATH!! The highlight of our jobs are getting an insight into your deepest, burning dilemmas. We often wonder “what happened next??” And today we have some answers to that question! Some of you took our ‘advice,’ others absolutely didn’t 😂 If you’d like to flash back to the original question and response, each episode is linked below: I HAVE A CRUSH ON MY HUSBAND'S BROTHER  BEEN EXCLUDED FROM FRIEND GROUP  HOW DO I TELL MY HUSBAND I’VE BEEN ADDING TOMATO TO HIS DISHES?!  IS A 6 MIN VOICE NOTE FROM A POTENTIAL DATE A RED FLAG? NAVIGATING EX AND NEW PARTNER AROUND MY SON HE LIED ABOUT HAVING AN STI SEPARATED BUT I NEED SEX - DO I GO THE APPS?! - DON’T WANT EX TO KNOW   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Welcome to our favourite episode of the year where we take a walk down memory lane to some of the best and most unhinged moments of our year! It was our biggest year yet! We reached 100 million downloads, focussed on growing youtube this year, we added Ness and Sheri to the team, we released our first spin off mini series ‘Cloud’ and we got to interview some of the world’s biggest celebs, artists and podcasters like Kim Kardashian, Teddy Swims, Sporty Spice and Dr Rangan Chatterjee! Last year for our year in review we shared quite a lot of ask uncuts and interviews but this year we have an ask uncut aftermath coming for you next week and some of our favourite interviews. This year in review is more focussed on the funny moments from the year so strap in if you’re in need of a bit of a giggle.  We will link the whole episode for each of our favourite moments! Laura's summer break last year and Lola’s newest accessory How Britt made the very difficult decision to choose who would be responsible for transporting her wedding dress internationally As a nod to the most streamed TV show in Australia MAFS doing confessions week, we brought back an old segment ‘confessionals’ and these ones were next level! Love worth waiting for Laura sharing the news with us that she was pregnant with who we now know as Poppy!! Finding out the gender of Matt and Laura’s baby! Britt’s wedding(s).  Gen Z could NEVER Britt’s accidental roast Unfortunately I do love Laura’s smurf vag Britt wanting to do a stretch and sweep Poppy’s birth playlist Sporty Spice Melanie C!  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack some of your deep and pressing dilemmas!  Vibes and unsubscribes for the week: Britt - Incels podcast  Laura - Picture Postie  Keeshia - The Beast In Me on Netflix  MY BOYFRIEND TAKES VIAGRA BUT HE DOESN’T KNOW THAT I KNOWI’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 months and we have a healthy sex life. There’s been a couple of occasions where he has struggled to maintain an erection and he occasionally brushes it off as just a performance thing. The other day when I was at his house, I noticed a pack of used viagra on his bathroom counter. Now I honestly don’t mind that he uses viagra as personally I just see it as an aid to our healthy sex life. But my question is should I tell him I know he takes it? I don’t want him to feel insecure that he needs to take it if I bring it up. But I also feel like he shouldn’t have to hide it from me as I really don’t mind if he takes it. Help a sister out, to tell him I know or continue just having great sex without him knowing I know IS IT NORMAL TO SPEAK TO AN EX?My ex and I were in a relationship for 8 years. First love, high school sweethearts type of thing and were engaged for a year before it ended tumultuously. A lot of things were left unresolved with no closure. We never spoke to each other since, until now. Fast forward 6 years and he’s appeared on my socials. Now I’ve been married for 2 years and he’s been in a relationship for 3. We’ve cleared the air about how things ended and have genuinely seemed to have formed a friendship again and catching up on each other’s life. I don’t know if his girlfriend knows, but I haven’t told my husband. For context, we’ve had our own issues the last 6 months so it wouldn’t be ideal. My question is can you have a platonic relationship with an ex or am I setting myself up for a disaster HUSBAND HAS BEEN SEX CHATTING OUR WHOLE MARRIAGEI’ve been with my husband for 13 years and we have 3 year old twins. For content- our relationship has been really really rocky ever since the babies were born. I take full responsibility for my part of it and I’m well aware of my personal issues and the fact that I sometimes can be a pain in the ass and difficult to live with (so is he obviously). We’ve been talking things through several times and agreed to stay married because deep down we know that we love each other. We’ve just bought a new bigger house and we both saw that as new, clean beginning Now to my dilemma. A couple of weeks ago, I accidentally looked at my husband's phone (not intentionally looking for something “bad”) and discovered an app installed on his phone that’s only used for sexchatting. I confronted him with this and he admitted that he’s been sex-chatting with other girls for most of our time together, basically since 2012. Even though our relationship was fantastic (before kids) and our sex life pretty awesome, especially in the early years. All these years, he’s been doing it behind my back. Chatting with other girls, sending naked pictures of himself, receiving videos etc etc. He says he stopped doing this a couple of years ago (but I find that hard to believe- why was the app still on his phone) and he’s stubbornly insisting that this doesn’t constitute cheating. To him - this is equivalent to watching porn. This makes me even more sad and angry. I’m totally devastated. I feel grossed out and I do consider this cheating. Just the thought of him doing this while we were newly weds etc makes me sick. I’m absolutely sure that I do not want to divorce him, mostly because of our children. I can’t stand the thought of not seeing my babies every other week. I really want to forgive him and move on from this- but how?? How can I trust he’s never going to do this again, knowing that it’s been going on for years. I’ve suggested couple counselling but he’s hesitant. I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Much love from a devoted listener all the way from Sweden! (Would like to remain anonymous:) SHOULD I INVITE MY SISTER TO MY WEDDING?My partner and I are getting married next year, and we’re clashing over one major guest decision: my sister. To put it simply, my sister has caused a lot of hurt and conflict for me and my parents over the past eight years. She struggles with alcoholism, often makes everything about herself, and shows strong narcissistic tendencies.I initially said I would invite her because she’s my sister, but my partner is firmly against it and honestly, I understand why. Every time I’ve seen her in recent years, it’s ended in drama, usually fuelled by alcohol, and I’m left upset and in tears. She hasn’t really shown up for me in any meaningful way and has even taken advantage of me financially.My partner keeps remi

We’ve done a lot of episodes about dating in the past. We’ve actually done a few about dating with today’s guest! But we’ve recently had a bit of feedback that some of you in the dating scene are really struggling to find the motivation to keep dating at the moment. Some of you feel exhausted. Others feel a bit hopeless, and it turns out, you’re not alone. There has been a big cultural shift in what women want when it comes to dating and it’s got a trendy new name - “chalant dating”.To break it down with us we have friend of the podcast Logan Ury here! Logan is a Harvard trained behavioural scientist, dating expert, author, host of Netflix’s“The Later Daters,” and Hinge's lead Relationship Scientist. Logan has spent years and years unpacking the science behind dating and finding successful relationships.  We speak about: The dating trends that we’re going to see in 2026 What is chalant dating? Why do we want chalant dating more than what a potential future partner might earn or even look like? Why there seems to be a mismatch in expectations between men and women The toilet paper test The actual green flags around planning energy we should look for What are the ‘successful’ people doing on dating apps at the moment? Do you feel like you’re ‘undateable?’ The steps you can take if you’re feeling burnout from dating The switch from a ‘soulmate’ mindset to a ‘work it out’ mindset How AI will change the dating landscape Summer dating trends, cuffing season and what we tend to see when it gets colder The most popular day of the year on dating apps is coming up really soon You can find more from Logan at her website and her Instagram You can read the whole report from Hinge here  You can find some of our previous episodes with Logan cloud And here You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Today, we’re joined by Konrad Benjamin, the voice behind Punter’s Politics. Punter's Politics is on a mission to cut through the political spin and convince everyday Aussies (or punters) that politics actually matters. Konrad is the guy with the blonde mullet known for calling out corporate power, and using satire to make us understand and give a shit about what’s going on in the world of politics. Today we wanted to speak about political issues affecting young people, independent vs legacy media, housing and of course, gas.  We chat: Konrad’s career switch from being a teacher to being a content creator Some of the less obvious ways that the government can be in bed with corporations The controversy around Aussie gas that is being given away for free How the media can skew your perception of political things Coincidence or corruption? Why Konrad doesn’t think you should cheer for a political team like you do for a sports team Why politics shouldn’t actually be complicated You can find more from the Punter’s Politics website  Punter’s Politics instagram  Punter's Politics Podcast You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey lifers! It was lovely seeing all of your spotify wrappeds and every year we are surprised by how much we are able to infiltrate your ears! We think they were sneaky with how they went about ‘assuming’ your age based on your listening and Laura wants it to be clear that she is a mum and the K Pop demon hunters wasn’t her.We know that one time we kind of pulled your leg with a ‘Britt’s big life update’ but this time we actually do have a bit of a life update for you! We chat about all of the changes coming to the podcast next year! Please welcome the offcuts! Britt has sat on telling us all a story for nearly 3 weeks because she’s so embarrassed. In her own words “I’ve done something really stupid” and look, we don’t disagree! Laura has been sucked into a new hyperfixation after Black Friday sales that she’s mostly confused about and doubting the claims that you will see results in 8 weeks. We’re 2 weeks away from Christmas and with it comes an avalanche of feelings and emotions!Tanya Hennessy recently wrote an article titled “I’m homesick for a place I can’t go.” She has a recurring feeling of homesickness and restlessness, not necessarily for a place she grew up, but for a sense of “home” that she can’t define or return to.We speak about experiencing this feeling even when we’re in our own home or with family, reflecting a kind of existential longing rather than literal nostalgia. We also chat about how our sense of ‘home’ has changed so much over the years and at times thinking about what it means now can feel confronting. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions. There are two types of people in the world - the ones who shut down their laptop and the ones who never, ever, ever do unless it runs out of battery. Further on this path, are you the type of person who has an ‘order’ that you like your tabs to be in? Vibes and unsubscribes for the week: Laura - Christmas trivia Keeshia - @scotteeisfat Britt - Allison after NXIVM from Uncover Podcast  Then we jump into your questions! IS TAKING FOOD HOME FROM A DINNER PARTY RUDE?I’d love your thoughts on something that happened at my annual Potluck-Style Movie Night and Dinner Party. I host this every year for 6–8 friends, and I usually provide homemade pizzas, drinks, and an appetiser. Everyone else brings a small dish or extra snacks for the movie. This year, one friend brought cheeses and crackers and told us to keep the leftovers—great! But at the end of the night, another couple (two of my closest friends) went into the fridge, took back the drinks they brought, and packed up the dessert they had made. Here’s the question: What’s the etiquette for a potluck-style dinner party? Is it rude to take home what you brought, or is that perfectly okay? For context, this couple is extremely wealthy—but maybe that doesn’t matter? I’d love to hear your take on this. Am I overthinking it, or is this a social faux pas. I WANT SOMETHING BACK FROM MY EXLadies, I am in a little pickle-dickle and would love your thoughts on the route forward. Now, for context, I am a solo Mama that has recently ended a 3 year relationship with a solo Dad. We both have children of ages sentient enough to feel a loss here, so this was a well-thought through decision on my part, based on repeated avoidant patterns and lack of communication. He did not take it well and proceeded to block all communication herein. No worries, his prerogative. My conundrum is that he has a few things of mine I would like back, including a brand new motorcycle helmet I know he was envious of and is likely now using for himself and my 8 y/o’s scooter. I cannot contact him at all as far as I understand. My daughter’s father, with whom I have an excellent relationship with, has offered to message him to collect it... However I feel that looks really petty and like I am pitting two burly dudes against each other so I politely declined. His wife also offered to reach out....again, I don’t feel great about asking someone else to do my dirty-work. What would you do? Snail mail? Show up unannounced (which I do not feel particularly safe about doing…so that is all but off the table), message one of his family members? Or cut my losses…even though I hate the fact he is very likely wearing my shiny-new helmet and giving his kids my daughter’s electric scooter. GAY MAN - WHO SHOULD I GO FOR? I’m a 26 y/o gay male who’s been going on lots of dates after a bit of a romance slump, and now I’m seeing two guys and getting to the point where I need to choose who to keep pursuing. Guy 1: 26, lives super close (very convenient), but doesn’t have stable work, only gets a few event shifts, and isn’t really working toward any study or long-term career goals. Guy 2: 28, lives much further away, works as a podiatrist and is also doing his PhD. Me: I’m 26, a speech pathologist, and hoping to move into more acute hospital/rehab work in the next year. I’m attracted to both, and the chemistry is pretty equal, maybe slightly stronger with Guy 1, but I’m stuck on who fits better long-term. They are both great and although chemistry is stronger with Guy 1 the lack of career drive makes me nervous, Guy 2 seems like a safer option but travel considerations and the chemistry is just a bit lower. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Today we’re sitting down with someone who went from aspiring acting and hospo shifts to viral content creator and comedy queen. Maddy MacRae is someone whose face and skits are likely familiar to you. She’s grown a following of 3 million people collectively across social media. Today we wanted to talk to Maddy about how she carved out her own path in acting, what some of the realities of content creation are like and the ever evolving goal posts of content that had her living in an airport for a week! We chat: How Maddy got the career she has and the commercials that led her there What her first viral video wants The law of detachment and how it impacted Maddy’s life The one reality TV show Maddy would love to do Content fatigue and being in a period of burnout The contrast of having an amazing job but the loneliness and isolation that comes from it The current dating scene The post that Maddy really regrets You can follow Maddy on Instagram  And on tiktok    You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! We have a new drinking game for you all based on our individual ‘habits’ (flaws) and Ben has a very important question for Keeshia that could tear the team apart. Black Friday sales have got the better of some of us and Britt has a nice challenge for Laura during the busiest time of her year. Laura’s really showcasing how different things can be for the 3rd kid. Poppy’s actual birth date and full name are TBC. Britt shares a crazy story about how her dad spent most of his life not knowing his age! In a recent episode of Oprah’s podcast, Oprah tackled the rise of “going no contact” where adult children cut ties with parents or family. Is it destroying families, or is an act of ultimate self preservation and protecting your mental health? We speak about: The conversation around emotional safety, mental health and boundaries has changed What was once taboo (cutting ties with parents) is now being discussed openly — especially by our generations There doesn’t seem to be a line in the sand for what is and what is not ‘valid’ for going no contact Why family are the only people we are ‘willing’ to accept bad behaviour from Have we gone too far with ‘boundary’ talk/ don’t have enough grace for our parents? If validation and self reflection are the only solution You can watch the whole episode of ‘Oprah Explores the Rising Trend of Going No Contact with Your Family’ If you’d like to listen to a previous episode where we spoke about estrangement, you can here: Narcissistic parents Sam FischerEm Carey Bridget Hustwaite Melissa Leong  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions with the best advice we can! Britt is waving the manifestation wand after receiving a lovely message from one of our lifers!  Vibes and unsubscribes for the week:Laura - Unsubscribing shellac nailsKeeshia - Unsubscribing iOS 26 update Vibing Elizabeth Gilbert “All The Way To The River” Britt - Morning Wars Season 4 on Apple TV  Then we jump into your questions: HUSBAND DESPERATE FOR ANAL SEX BUT I HATE IT - HOW TO COMPROMISE?My husband and I have been together for 8 years, married for 5 years, have 3 kids under 5, both running businesses; so chaotic times. This year my husband has been obsessed with getting me to have anal sex to “spice things up”. I have always been a firm no but have recently caved a few times to try it after so much hassling and trying to keep the peace. But I honestly fucking hate it! It hurts, it is not pleasurable and grosses me out. He loved it. My question is how do we compromise on this? I am now fearful of it if he brings it up because if I say no he just throws a temper tantrum. I have tried to have an honest conversation with him about the fact it really hurts me however he feels it’s just something I will get used to. I honestly feel like this is a him problem, he needs to suck it up the fact I’ve had 3 kids and I may not be as tight as it once was. But is there also another side I’m not seeing where I should try to consider his pleasure in this?   MY NEW RECEPTIONIST HAS SLEPT WITH MY PARTNER YEARS AGO AND NEITHER OF THEM TOLD ME I’ve got a sticky situation which I need to unpack. I’ve been with my partner for the past 4 years, we have a great relationship and have just bought our first home together. I work in the medical field and have a new receptionist that started with us 4 months ago. We’ve been getting along really well and it wasn’t until today we had a long conversation making connections about people we knew in town, until she then dropped the bomb that she slept with my partner 5-6yrs ago! Now I’ve been talking about my partner like she didn’t know him and I’ve also been talking about my new receptionist to my partner for the past few months and he never mentioned it. I was initially shocked and kinda laughed about it. She said she wanted to say something in case someone else ever said anything. When I asked my partner about it, I was laughing the whole time (low key because I’m not good at having tricky conversations) and we both just felt weird at the end. He said he wasn’t ever going to say anything because it didn’t mean anything which I totally get but I kinda feel dumb being the one who didn’t know anything…. I’m after advice on how I should feel because I don’t know if I’m being dramatic in this situation. MY FRIEND KEEPS LYING TO ME ABOUT COSMETIC SURGERY So I have a friend that I’ve been friends with since Uni days. For context, we’ve been friends for 15 years now. I know her very, very well and I also know what she looks like. Over the last few years she’s been getting quite a few cosmetic procedures which is great, she looks amazing. The problem is that she always seems to lie about it. Most recently we went out for dinner together and it was very evident that she had her lips done. Now we’re sitting at dinner and I said “oh my gosh, you got your lips done. They look great.” To be fair, they actually didn’t look that great just yet because they were still swollen which is what I mean by the fact that it was very evident. As she has responded to every single other question that I have had around whether or not she’s had any procedures she said “no I didn’t” in almost an offended tone. I don’t care at all. I’m actually all for it if she wants to get anything done; I’ve had my boobs done. But it’s just surprising to me that she feels the need to continuously lie about it. Is it something I should bring up with her or just let it go? LOSING ATTRACTIONWhat to do about losing attraction? I have recently realised I have lost my attraction / desire towards my partner. In particular he doesn’t put any effort into grooming, so his beard is always scraggly, and he doesn’t shave his neck. In addition he doesn’t dress well, he doesn’t care about clothes so he often wears clothes that have holes in them (from having them for so long) or don’t look good on him. Now I love him so much, we get along so well, we have the same interests, goals, and he makes me laugh. We have been together for 4 years and we have a house and a dog together. When we first got together these traits were the same, so nothing has changed other than I think at the start I let it not get to me because I was so happy to have met someone who ticked all the re

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It’s likely that you’d recognise Melissa Leong’s face, she was the first female judge ever on Masterchef Australia; but today’s conversation goes into some very personal places that extend far beyond what you might see on prime time TV. She burst onto our screens in 2020 and made us fall in love with food and cooking. Her new memoir ‘Guts’ is a raw, funny and beautifully written look at her upbringing in a Singaporean - Chinese family, the behind the scenes of the food and entertainment world and some personal stories that she hadn’t shared publicly before.  Growing up with strict, authoritarian immigrant parents and ending up in a creative profession  Being no contact with her dad The path that led Melissa to not having kids Being single and getting so much connection from other areas of life “How to” divorce if you’re in the public eye and the advice she was given of when and how to announce it When the opportunity to host masterchef came knocking and Melissa didn’t jump at it Dissociating after SA and having memory loss from the time Realising that it is not her shame to bear Happiness being ‘far too fleeting a concept to hang your hat on’ and finding purpose in being content instead Being involved in the UFC - how, why and naked choke holds  What’s next for Melissa You can get yourself a copy of “Guts” through this link  You can follow Melissa on Instagram  And check out her website  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Laura has reached a milestone - her sex life has returned after having her 3rd baby but her hip flexors aren’t on board. If you or your partner has had a baby how did you go getting back ‘into’ it?Britt was in a dilemma with her Uber driver and it resulted in her inviting a complete stranger into Keeshia’s house for a rather awkward reason. Britt has also tried to get in touch with her ‘natural’ side and she has learnt the very real dangers of leaving your crocs behind.  Ageing Out of Fucks: The Neuroscience of Why You Suddenly Can’t Pretend AnymoreLast week we briefly spoke about Janette being ‘dumped’ on the bachelor and how being in the life stage that she is may have contributed to having less f*cks to give when it comes to acting in the way that the public expects you to. A fantastic substack written by Ellen Scherr argues that many women hit a midlife neurological and hormonal shift that makes them suddenly unable or unwilling to people please. This shift is what she calls “The Great Unf*ckening.” It’s not bitterness, but biology: the brain stops supporting the emotional labour and social smoothing that women have been conditioned to perform since childhood. We speak about how many relationships can break down when women reach this age where they stop taking on as much of the emotional labour of the relationship and stop suppressing their own emotions and frustrations. We also chat about some of the hormonal and neurobiological changes like oestrogen dropping, synaptic pruning and changes to the prefrontal cortex.Losing relationships because you stopped performing isn’t actually loss. It’s clarity about what was never really there. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! How long do you have to ‘hold on’ to something you’re given? We mean like cards or things your kids have made? Lola made a very nice and very heavy burger… and Laura needs to know how long she has to keep it for! Vibes for the week: Laura - The Secret Cellular Repair Night Cream Britt - Dr Diamond Keeshia - Christian Petracca On Trac Cookbook and @on.trac5  Then we jump into your questions! CAN YOU LOOK THROUGH PARTNER’S PHONE?I’ve got a bit of a moral dilemma I’d love your thoughts on. It’s about whether it’s ever okay to look through your partner’s phone — and more specifically, does it change things if what you find actually proves they’ve been unfaithful or untruthful? I’ve never been the kind of person to snoop, but recently I found myself in a situation where my gut was telling me something wasn’t right. I didn’t want to be that person, but the curiosity and the need for reassurance were eating away at me. When I finally looked, I found that my partner had been deceitful. So now I keep wondering — if your instincts turn out to be right, does that lessen the wrongdoing, or is it still completely unjustified to look in the first place? FYI my partner was extremely upset and believes the act of snooping outweighs any wrongdoing. BEST FRIEND HAD A BABY AND EXPECTS ME TO OFFER TO TAKE THE BABY (I”M CHILDFREE)My best friend had a baby this year, and suddenly I’m Public Enemy #1 because I haven’t “offered to take the baby for a few hours.” I told her multiple times I’m happy to help- just tell me when! But apparently, she “shouldn’t have to ask.” Look, I love her, but I work full-time, I don’t want kids, and I’m not exactly out here craving baby cuddles on my day off. Am I supposed to just show up like, “Surprise! Hand me your child”? Am I a bad friend, or just child-free and confused HUSBAND SLEEP TALKED AND I THINK HE CHEATEDA few days ago I had a sore come up “down there” and I mentioned it to my husband who I’ve been with for 15 years. I just put it down to stress and didn’t think too much about it. That night he woke me up sleep talking and said “no protection! Big mistake! Big mistake!!” It’s worth noting he does sleeptalk about work a lot as he works in a high stress job. Am I absolutely nuts for worrying that this has something to do with me saying I had a sore down there and now he’s sleep talking about it because he’s done the wrong thing and cheated and now he’s worrying about it in his sleep? He has never cheated (that I know about) and we’ve never had issues in the past. But I just can’t shake this feeling. The term “no protection” in his sleep talking has really thrown me as it’s such a randomly specific thing to say after I’ve said I have a sore there… please help! Am I overthinking or is this weird? Also worth noting it’s not like a visible blister or sore lol just literally a sore spot on the labia FRIEND SHARED PRIVATE DETAILS I ASKED HER NOT TOMy brother recently went to rehab and it was very much in secret - no one knows except for his very close friends who he chose to tell. I told my two best friends in complete confidence and one of them spilled the beans to some of my other friends, despite me making it incredibly clear to them not to tell anyone. This isn’t the first time it has happened, as my same friend also let slip that I had done IVF which my husband wanted kept a secret except for 2 friends so I could have my besties to vent to. I feel my trust has now been completely broken twice - where can I even go from here?   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Today’s episode is one that has been so highly requested over the years, we’re surprised it’s taken this long to talk about it! We’re talking about all things skin, skincare and myths about longevity. Joining us is Dr Natasha Cook, one of Australia’s leading dermatologists and the founder of her own skincare range DrNC. Dr NC is particularly straight forward when it comes to breaking down the facts vs the fads of skin. We want to chat about the things we all want to know but are too scared to ask — like whether saunas are secretly ageing us, if collagen supplements are a waste of money, and why so many Australian companies had their sunscreens pulled from the shelves because they weren't what they said they were! We speak about: The 6 key skin concerns. Most of us want to treat more than one. Should we prioritise skincare or nutrition? Dr NC’s answer to this might surprise you How much sugar and alcohol affects skin and can cause pimples Are collagen powders or gummies worth our money? Sleep - what products and routines help our skin If you’re serious about skin, saunas/hot yoga & pilates aren’t good Skin barriers & barrier function. What’s compromising the barrier? Botox - whether you get ‘used’ to it Perception drift and ‘preventative’ botox At home devices like LED lights, rollers, gua sha etc The “SPF Australia Scandal” and how these companies are avoiding Australian testing. Dr Cook “It is deceptive and misleading conduct.” How aerosol spray sunscreens are really misleading What lasers are best and will give the best results Dr NC’s ‘non negotiables’ You can find more from DrNC at her website including her dermatologist designed skincare  You can follow DrNC on instagram  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Laura’s whole extended friends and family have been taken down by various bugs and we all need to calm the heck down and stop socialising. Keeshia has another neighbourly gripe but also a new hobby and we just know you’re on the edge of your seat for the updates 😂What hobby did you succeed at and then bail on? Laura and Matt have celebrated their 3rd wedding anniversary by watching the finale of the Golden Bachelor. Laura shares some BTS of how you’re told to react if the Bachelor doesn’t choose you and she wants to celebrate Janette for not acting in the way that you’re ‘supposed’ to. Perhaps being in her ‘golden’ years has made her a lot wiser and have less f*cks to give when it comes to acting in the way that the public expects you to. Should you fire someone if they were found to be cheating on their partner (as their boss)?Natalie Dawson, who is a CEO, went on Diary of a CEO podcast and shared her controversial take on firing employees that were having an affair. Whilst it’s probably not legal in Australia, how much should a company’s values extend into the personal lives of employees? Would it change your opinion if it was TWO employees of yours cheating together? Can You Spot AI In Videos? Are We So Used To Seeing Fake People On The Internet That We Don’t Know What Real Ones Look Like Anymore? Body confidence content creator @em_clarkson posted a video with 9.6 million views where she is in a bikini on the beach but as the video plays out, certain parts of her body change back and forth between her actual video and the AI version. Her hips move in and out, her skin colour changes and the texture becomes softer, her boobs become bigger and more perky etc. We speak about how AI has progressed to the point that we can’t spot it and whether we are so used to seeing ‘altered’ people online that we’ve forgotten what real people look like.We also speak about an article by Mary Madigan titled ‘Baffled by natural breasts’: Men have forgotten what real boobs look like written about Millie Bobby Brown’s natural cleavage on a red carpet promoting Stranger Things. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Laura Byrne & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers! Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions. First up, an Aussie celeb has said that he loves dogs so much, he had two of them that passed away taxidermied. They live in his current house alongside his dog that is still alive. Would you ever taxidermy your pet? What’re your thoughts about Scotty’s stuffed pets?Vibes for the week:Keeshia - @Emilydbaker  Britt - Chilli and Charli PJs  Then we jump into your questions! SOMEONE TOLD MY DAUGHTER THEY’RE HER HALF SISTER - HELPOk strap in for this one. A little background I have a daughter, she’s 12 and in highschool. Her dad unfortunately was murdered and passed away 8 years ago, big trauma for both of us etc.. So fast forward to this week, my daughter has a friend at school. She's known her since primary school but they’ve gotten quite close this year. My daughter came home Wednesday and told me her friend told her a big secret and not to tell me or anyone else. This friend proceeds to tell my daughter that she’s her half sister because her mum used to be with my daughters dad’s best friend and when they were trying to get pregnant he couldn’t so my daughters dad “donated sperm”. Now while this sounds insane and like an episode of home and away, there were some key facts that were too correct to ignore, for one they knew the name of my daughters dad’s best friend so at a minimum they knew each other. After doing some digging I found out that this best friend had a kid with a woman who my daughter’s dad was friends with, and it was a girl and would be around the same age as my daughter. My question is WTAF do I do? I’ve given the school my details and asked them to pass it on to the mother because they won’t give me her details. Do I ignore this and move on? But I can’t, my daughter goes to school with this child. Also if it is true me and him would have been together at the time, either pregnant with our daughter or planning it when he “donated sperm” to someone and didn’t tell me. This has severely rocked my kid (she’s in therapy) but still. Help!!   UNDERWHELMING PROPOSALMy partner recently proposed, and I wasn’t expecting anything big or over the top, just something thoughtful and meaningful. But the moment felt rushed, unplanned and unromantic, and now I feel disheartened and oddly disconnected. I dread when people ask the proposal story and I find myself embellishing it. I feel shallow for feeling this way, but I can’t shake it. Am I horrible? Should I tell him how I’m feeling, or is that unfair? I would really appreciate some guidance, because I feel guilty, confused and alone sitting with this. NORMAL TO THINK ABOUT EX?I am 32 and have been with my current partner for 5 years. We have always had a solid stable relationship and have a one year old baby boy together. I love my partner - he is very kind, loyal, and reliable. I feel safe and secure with him. He is a great dad and very committed to our family. However, our relationships lack intimacy/physical connection (has since before the baby) and it often feels like we are more friends and co parents. We rarely have sex and minimal kissing/cuddling. My ex and I were together for 6 years from 19-25 (so we broke up 8 years ago). I was deeply in love with him. We had a really strong connection and were absolutely crazy about each other. We had an amicable breakup because he had to move for work and we decided to go our separate ways. As hard as I’ve tried to move on, I still think about him often after 8 years (I’m so sick of it lol)! I find myself looking back on our relationship and longing for that connection we had. As much as I love my partner and our life together, I have this niggling feeling that my ex was the one/the loml /penguin etc and it makes me sad that I’m never going to feel that way again with my partner. Is this a common feeling to have? How do I finally get over my ex?  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Today’s guest is someone who defined an entire generation.As one-fifth of the most iconic girl group in history, the Spice Girls, she helped shape pop culture, redefine girl power, and influence how millions of young women saw themselves. Melanie C or Sporty Spice as many of us first knew her is a dancer, singer, songwriter, author, and performer whose career spans nearly three decades. Today we wanted to chat with Melanie about what that journey was really like behind the scenes, how she carved out her own path with her solo career, the various things she is doing now and what it meant to her to have such an impact on our culture.We chat: Mel being recognised during a medical appointment Recording her 9th studio album here in Australia Why Melanie feels connected to the Australian culture How Mel met her Aussie boyfriend  How the Spice Girls started  The brutality of the UK media and all of their phones being hacked How being so young in the public eye affected Mel and contributed to her having an eating disorder How the Spice Girls didn’t choose their own nicknames They love like sisters and bicker like sisters How Geri choosing to leave affected them all differently The Spice Girl that Melanie is now closest to Starting her solo career Whether they could all live off of royalties now and if they ‘choose’ to work You can find everything from Melanie including her new song ‘Sweat’ at her website  You can follow Melanie on Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers,Britt is struggling today. She’s come down with an illness and we are rolling the dice today.Laura’s on her first outing without Poppy at 6 weeks old and she’s learnt that she’s not the most considered or prepared parent.  Laura and Keeshia have both been sent beautiful cards from listeners and we truly do have the best listeners in the world. However, Britt has checked with reception and nothing. No deliveries for Britt 😂 Britt had a sleepover at Keeshia’s house and has used products that were not meant for her.Is Oasis men’s Taylor Swift? The whole team was meant to go to the concert on the weekend but Keeshia ended up being the only one to make it and she’s never seen more affection or love be shared between millennial/Gen X men and she’s even been to football grand finals! The other day Britt shared how a friend of hers had accidentally text the guy she had been briefly dating instead of her friend telling him that there were "no hot men on the plane" and that she was disappointed. We asked what you accidentally sent and your stories did not disappoint! Shay Mitchell has launched a new children’s skincare brand called Rini that makes products like sheet masks for… 3 year olds. Shay has said that it was inspired by her own girls wanting to do ‘what mummy does’ with her face masks and that “Rini isn’t about beauty it’s about self-care.”We speak about whether we are living in the final stage of capitalism where children’s unblemished skin is an untapped market and the conditioning of beauty standards in kids. At what age do you think kids should be introduced to skincare beyond sunscreen and gentle cleanser? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep and burning questions! Britt wants Laura’s take on the now viral ‘fart’ response that our friend received after letting a date down. Laura’s been gifted something so beautiful from a lifer but they’ve left no info for her to be able to say thank you! Vibes for the week:Britt - Watching You on Stan Laura - DoHonest Baby Car Camera Then we jump into your questions! I’M NOT IN HIS HYPOTHETICAL FUTUREHey guys, just want your opinion on whether I'm reading too much into this! I've been with my bf for 10 months now. We met on Hinge and we're both in our early 30s. He is 2 years younger than me but we are both committed to a serious relationship. I've noticed that whenever he talks about future hypotheticals, he doesn't include me in them and often references a hypothetical woman in his future. For example, we were talking about my friend's upcoming wedding and he said "I think I would enjoy planning my wedding, I like being able to decide on things." I would've thought he would say "planning *our* wedding" since it would sound so much sweeter? Another example, we were talking about whether we wanted children and he said "I like the idea of kids but if hypothetically, I find out that my future wife is unable to have kids then I wouldn't be upset by it as I choose her over my desire for kids". Meanwhile I'm thinking so I'm not your future wife?? I'm worried that he doesn't see long term potential with me and hence doesn't include me in future scenarios. Am I overthinking this?  I FOUND OUT MY BF IS SECRETLY WRITING A BOOK BASED ON OUR RELATIONSHIP AND I’M THE VILLAINI was looking on my bf’s laptop recently for some old photos and I saw a file titled ‘Novel’. I was curious, so I obvs looked. We have been together for years and aren't overly protective of our devices so this didn’t seem like a big deal. What I found has really confused and upset me. It’s a book he is writing (I know he likes to write but I didn’t even know he was writing a book) and it is basically a detailed account of our relationship... but with some added drama/fiction but he's made me the villain! WTAF!?  I’m portrayed as a manipulative, narcissistic bitch, while his character is this amazing hero. I feel weird and betrayed. Do I have a right to say something, be angry, or is this just creative freedom and it means nothing? CHRISTMAS GIFTS ON SALEWe are in a family Christmas draw with the extended family, with the budget being $100 each. I always try to spend as close to $100 as possible, a few dollars over or under depending on what I can find. My question is…if you purchase something on sale (say Black Friday) do you pocket the savings or do you then buy something else to make up the difference? I think if I bought the person something that is originally $100 but on sale for $80 I should then buy something to go with it for $20 but my partner thinks because we have found the sale and the retail price is $100 that $20 savings is ours…what’s your thoughts on this petty argument?? THE REAPPEARING EXMy ex and I broke up about 18 months ago. It was rough. I was pretty blindsided. We were literally looking at rentals the day before he ended it. We had no contact for over a year, both dated other people, and I genuinely thought we’d never speak or see each other again. Then about six weeks ago, he reappeared (classic Instagram follow request) and since then, we’ve been chatting here and there. We’ve slept together three times, and we’ve both said we don’t want a relationship, but we’ve kind of slipped into a rhythm of seeing each other weekly. I don’t love him like I used to, but I’m self-aware enough to know this could be a slippery slope as I was so deeply in love with him at one point. I enjoy the comfort and familiarity, but I keep asking myself is this emotional maturity, or just a disaster waiting to happen? I’ve had to hide it from most of my friends. They were there through the breakup and have said they’d be really upset if I ever spoke to him again. I told one, and she said she was disappointed that she’d never do something like this if she was single. That really hurt, especially with me being the only single one in the group and they all have partners to go home to, while I’m single and sometimes lonely. Since that breakup, I’ve done a lot of work on myself. I see a therapist weekly and have spent real time understanding my patterns, boundaries, and emotional triggers. I'm not sleeping with him to get him back although I’ll never say never to what life brings. I’m not waiting by my phone, I don't text, and he’s the one driving an hour and a half to see me each time. The ball feels although it is in my court this time and that feels strangely healing. How do I appro

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Hey Lifers, Today’s episode is a little bit of a gear change from our regular guest episodes. Britt got to interview some of the most amazing and famous women in the world! There’s a new Ryan Murphy series called “All’s Fair” out on Disney+/Hulu and our Britt was asked to interview all 5 of the leading ladies Kim Kardashian, Glenn Close, Naomi Watts, Niecy Nash & Sarah Paulson.Britt asks about working with other women and being ‘aged out’ in Hollywood. They speak about working alongside each other, what red flags Kim Kardashian now has when it comes to romance and which of them would be most likely to end up being arrested. Also, something Britt can now add to her resume is being called a c*nt by Naomi Watts and Sarah Paulson 😂😂 You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Britt has tried to unpack her ‘Roman Empire’ this week that has to do with her husband’s huge tattoo that is actually somewhat related to the Roman Empire.Have you ever seen a monument or a wonder of the world on a walk of shame? We know this is a niche call out but it will likely make more sense if you’re reading it after listening to us speak about it in today’s episode.When it comes to TV series or films, are you a repeat watcher or do you like to keep it fresh?  Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now? Have Our ‘Symbols’ Of Success Changed? There’s been a very viral and very controversial article published in Vogue that argues that for many straight women today, having a boyfriend no longer carries the same status it once did. Rather than being a milestone or achievement, partnership can feel like something to hide or soften online. We weigh in on how the trends of content have shifted and how we feel about this author’s take.We also speak about how Keeshia feels completely indifferent about marriage and some of the reasons that she has never dreamt of the ‘marriage milestone’. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions.Britt’s broken a nail, Laura’s had to put up with a screaming baby for 45 minutes on the way to work and Keeshia is MIA because she’s as sick as a dog.Britt has the sh*ts with a truck driver who decided to order coffees and do his groceries while she (and others) were waiting for him to clear the petrol pump. Whose side are you on for this? Laura has given the delivery man a lot more than he expected when it came to signing for their package.Vibes for the week:Britt - Luna Lane Laura - Wayward on Netflix  Then we jump into your questions! DO I LEAVE MY FIANCE? I am 24 and have a partner of 5 years who proposed at the end of last year. We have always been a solid couple and never used to fight, however, twice this year he has broken up with me whilst drunk and twice we have agreed to work things out and gotten back together. Our relationship has been reasonably stable since and we’re both working on things to be better for each other. Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago when I went on a work trip and was flirted with at a bar by a stranger (this is very new to me). Since then, I have been in a spiral of wanting to invest in myself, live guilt free and have new experiences in my 20s or settling with the comfortable life that me and my partner have planned and what I currently know. I have tried really hard to move past his mistakes but I have a gut feeling that need some time to work on myself before I can be in another relationship but feel so guilty for thinking about possibly choosing myself. MY HUSBAND HATES MY TATTOORecently I told my husband of 18 years that I wanted to get another tattoo. He expressed in the past that he doesn't really like my tattoos but I enjoy having them, so YOLO. I told him I was going to get another one on my forearm for something I have been thinking about for a while. He said that of course he won't stop me, but he thinks he will find me less attractive. He was pretty honest. Fast forward, it's been two months since I've had it. I know it is my body, my choice, he said the same, and he recently told me he now finds me less attractive. I feel as though it's more a punishment just because I went and did it. I am really hurt by this as you can't take that back, where do we go from here? And should it matter that much?  CAN YOU SHARE IUD CONTRACEPTIVE COSTS?I need to get my IUD replaced and I suggested to my boyfriend of 2 years that we split the cost (I live in the US and my insurance doesn’t cover it). He is flat out refusing and is acting shocked like it is so bizarre that I would ask. I just think that we both need to be equally responsible for birth control and since I have to undergo the whole thing and deal with any side effects I think it’s only fair that he helps with something! He even said ‘well it’s your choice so if you want to do it then do it’ but best believe the man would kick up a fuss if I insisted he always used condoms. For context, we both earn exactly the same salary and split almost everything in our relationship. Am I being unreasonable? He is usually an understanding person but somehow he is not getting my point. HOW TO SPLIT TICKETS?4 months ago me and my friend bought tickets ($75 each) to a live show where we are sitting together to hang out because we are super busy and never get to catch up. She just found out she has a wedding to attend on the night so can no longer go. I wouldn’t have booked tickets to this show if it wasn’t with her. What do you think her responsibility is? Should she pay for my ticket, give me her ticket so I can go with someone else, or is she free to give the ticket to a friend? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Today’s episode is on the more unhinged side of any of the previous interviews we’ve done. We guess it’s what happens when you put 3 yappers in a room together. Joining the podcast today is podcaster, radio broadcaster and dad Ryan Jon Dunn. Ryan is half of the Toni and Ryan podcast. We’ve had the pleasure of chatting with Ryan’s cohost Toni Lodge at one of our live shows and here on the podcast and we were well overdue to chat to Ryan, so when he slid into the DM’s it was a quick yes.  Today we wanted to chat with Ryan about his career and building the mammoth podcast that is Toni and Ryan, Ryan’s search for his biological parents and the experience of being an adoptee, and becoming a dad himself! We chat: Being dot-comrads “friends of the internet” Ryan shares the story about himself that will haunt him forever His ‘past life’ as an accountant before radio Why Ryan isn’t worried about ever going back to a ‘regular job’ Being adopted at 10 weeks old and his feelings towards his biological mother How an ancestry DNA test found his biological dad What it was like meeting him Finding out that his biological mother had passed away before he met her The grief of losing the opportunity of something  Ryan’s IVF journey Deciding whether they would share their kid on social media or not New guidelines with kids and content You can find more from Ryan at his:Instagram Tiktok Website We mentioned the AiMCO family influencer’s pack  You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey Lifers and happy Halloween!Britt really put in the effort this year but we can’t work out if she’s Gandalf or God.Do you celebrate Halloween now or did you as a kid? We share some stories from our childhood about Halloween.Britt has had a beauty mishap and Keeshia has gone wagatha mode to try and figure out which neighbour stole her bin.Is it just sex or is there emotion? When it comes to cheating, is physical or emotional worse? Lily Allen has dropped the break up album of all time that has us feeling like we are reading her diary. In it, she shares how her and her husband David Harbour (of Stranger Things fame) had an unconventional arrangement where he could have sex with other people, as long as it was ‘discreet’ and ‘paid for with strangers’. Lily later found out through snooping that David had been having an affair where they in fact, played tennis!Today we wanted to unpack one particular line in her new music “is it just sex or is there emotion” and speak about how men and women seem to view emotional vs physical cheating differently.Researchers asked what kind of betrayal, emotional or physical, would hurt more. They found that on average, men report feeling more distress over physical infidelity whereas women more often said that emotional betrayal, when a partner develops feelings or emotional closeness with someone else, was more painful. Lily described the tracks as being "inspired by" what happened in her marriage, she says they are "not gospel" and that it’s “a mixture of fact and fiction.” We share how we feel about the woman who has been ‘outed’ in this and whether you can share so much that exposes other people without being clear on what’s real and what has been made up. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit  Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Welcome back to Ask Uncut where we answer your deep and burning questions! Laura has left Lola traumatised with a video she’s seen on her phone! Britt has a new idea of what she wants done with her body once she dies.Vibes and Unsubscribes for the week:Britt -Victoria Beckham on Netflix Keeshia - Unsubscribe The Woman in Cabin 10 on NetflixVibe - @mylawn_coLaura - The Traitors UK Season 4   Then we jump into your questions! SHOULD I HAVE A THREESOME WITH A COUPLE I JUST MET?Should I try to have a threesome with a couple I just met? I am currently on holiday and I have met an Australian couple who live near me back home. I really get along with them and my mind keeps wondering about the possibility of having a threesome with them. I’ve always been curious but not interested in having a threesome when I’m in a relationship. Should I go for it? And if so, how do I even approach this topic with them? (For context they are about 8 years older than me) FRIEND BOOKED OUR ACCOM WITH SHOPBACK- SHOULD I GET HALF? My friend and I are going on holiday together and we travel well together. We both are in good paying jobs however she has worked full time for around 2 years more than me. When booking our accommodation (which we looked for and decided together) she said she was happy to book and when I asked her to send the email confirmation to me for my records I could see that she used the shopback app. Now I love the app and use it all the time, but booking accommodation that’s approximately more than $1000 and getting 10% off that is a reasonable discount. Am I weird for finding it a bit uncomfortable that she will receive $100 cashback whilst I will pay full price? LOUD SNIFFER - CAN I OFFER A TISSUE?If someone is loudly sniffling incessantly on the train (and driving me f*cking insane), is it rude to offer them a tissue? Or is that taking passive aggressive one step too far?BESTIE IS DATING SOMEONE I USED TO HOOK UP WITH AND WANTS TO ALL HANG OUTMy best friend matched with someone on Tinder a while ago. They spoke a bit and she told me about him. I worked out that we had hooked up a number of years ago. We spoke for a bit and got together a few times but nothing progressed. She originally said she wouldn’t pursue him because it was weird, but then asked if it would bother me if they hooked up. I was fine with it. She was very adamant that it would only be sex. Fast forward a few months later, they are now almost exclusive. I’m not upset or ‘bothered’ by it, but I do find it very uncomfortable and awkward. She wants us all to go out on a ‘double date’ but my partner and I find it to be very awkward. Am I bad friend for not hanging out all together? Do I need to suck it up because I said it was okay? Idk how I’m going to do friendmas with someone I’ve banged that’s not dating my bestfriend?? Help    You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit  Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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We are the self help generation. There is so much access to information on how to better ourselves, work through all the sh*t from our childhoods, and break cycles. Today’s episode is going to be particularly interesting to anyone who is a parent, but even if you don’t have kids yourself, it will help you understand some of the psychology of your own experiences growing up and how those experiences show up in our day to day lives. Dr. Shefali is joining us today and she has been described by Oprah herself as “one of the most profound parenting experts of our time”.  With a doctorate in clinical psychology, Dr Shefali is a New York Times bestselling author multiple times over, and the founder of the Conscious Parenting movement. Much of her work centers around healing a lot of the stuff that we are carrying with us from our childhood into our adult lives - and how it shows up in our parenting styles. She also answers one of the biggest parenting questions we tend to ask ourselves - how to build resilience in kids in today’s chaotic world.  We chat: How Dr Shefali’s work was revolutionary at the time, but we are now immersed in it Our ego gets in the way when we are parenting How much of our experience as a parent is impacted by our own childhood The real reason children have tantrums Our kids don’t need the ‘heavily architectured’ lives we give them full of extra curricular activities every day Building resilience in kids and how to find the balance Unpacking our challenging relationships with our parents Is parenting actually a selfless act?   You can get yourself a ticket to Dr Shefali’s tour SydneyMelbourne You can find more from Dr Shefali’s website and Instagram    You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.