Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

Jennifer is a therapist who is feeling physically depleted after working with clients. Christine gives her best tips for protecting her energy and serving people in a way that is energizing, not depleting. James is 54 years old and has worked at the same office job for three decades. He is interested in shifting to becoming self-employed but is disappointed he has not been able to get his new career off the ground. Listen in as Christine addresses both these topics. Links mentioned: Love: Practice Makes the Master! Join Christine and Aubrey Marcus for an empowering and transformational retreat in Austin. https://www.eventbrite.com/e/love-practice-makes-the-master-tickets-33443861490 EP 83: Letting Go of Parental "Mistakes" with Cathy. Make sure to listen to this episode to hear Christine talk about the difference between sympathy and compassion.h christinehassler.com/2017/04/episode83/

This episode is about breaking the cycle of generational patterns. Today's caller, Cathy, experienced corporal punishment as a child, and finds herself doing the same thing to her daughter. As you listen to the call, I hope you are able to separate her character from her behavior. Her behavior is a reaction to her past. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode83] I've said many times, parenting does not come with an instruction manual. Often, we play out behaviors we learned from our parents. It requires a conscious awareness to know what behaviors we want to leave in the past, and which we pass on to our children. We need to have deep compassion for our parents and then forgive them, to stop repeating generational patterns. Stopping the cycle entails awareness, healing of our past hurts, and then the reparenting of ourselves to become the loving parent we never had. Abuse continues because the victim never heals. The victim either becomes the abuser or internalizes the abuse. Often, people do not share about past abuse, because there is so much shame. This is not just true for abuse, it is for any generational pattern. Coaches Tip — When clients share things that are hard to hear, don't go into judgment or sympathy. If you catch yourself doing so, say, "I forgive myself for judging or feeling sorry for this person," then shift back into compassion. Aubrey Marcus and I are facilitating a 3-day retreat in Austin, Texas over Memorial Day weekend. If you don't know Aubrey, he is the CEO & Founder of the human optimization company, ONNIT. The focus of the retreat will be about Mastering Love, for men and women. Email [email protected] about joining my Inner Circle membership community. Keep These Distinctions in Mind: ● Acceptance versus judgment. ● Compassion versus sympathy. Cathy's Question: Cathy wants to understand how she may have adversely affected her daughter's self-esteem. Cathy's Key Insights and Ahas: ● She feels she made mistakes with her first daughter. ● She finds herself going back to the parenting tactics of her parents. ● She didn't like being a girl growing up. ● Her daughter is mirroring her. ● She has unresolved issues from her childhood. ● Her mother didn't defend her. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should talk to her younger self through a photo, and tell herself she did not deserve the punishment she received. ● She should work with a counselor or a coach who has experience with childhood traumas. ● Research parenting and discipline tools. ● When she gets triggered, she should practice giving herself a time out. Assignments: ● Get a picture of little you and commit to sending love to the little boy or girl inside of you. ● If you are aware of your need for healing, get professional to walk you through it. ● If you find yourself triggered by something, give yourself a time out. ● Use the scientist technique of Expectation Hangover and become an observer in your life. ● Consider what patterns you want to pass along to your children, and which ones you want to break the cycle of. ● Read Family Secrets by John Bradshaw and Conscious Parenting by Shefali Tsabary.

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This episode is about overcoming the pain our inner bullies create. Today's caller, Ravi, was bullied as a child, and uses his inner critic as a protective measure. He became isolated and disconnected from his intuition, and he cut off listening to his heart because he didn't want to feel. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode82] When we cut off our feelings we not only cut off the pain, but we cut off the love and inspiration as well. What happened in the past does not have to create your future. You can get over it and on with it, but you must be consciously committed to letting it go. To transform, you need love, wisdom, and compassion from your heart, and alchemy. I guided Ravi through a heart meditation, like this one from a Coaches Corner episode. Ravi experienced clarity after the meditation. His heart said it wanted expression through art. The next step was to transform his trauma and pain, but Ravi said he didn't want to go there. Remember, the fear of feeling pain is what keeps you from transforming it. It is possible to alchemize passion, or suffering, into something you love. It takes a lot of energy to suppress pain. If you have had trauma, it can be scary to go there on your own. You should find someone to work with, someone who can go there with you to hold a space for you. The more you listen to your heart, the more it speaks to you! Join me this September at my retreat in Bali. Visiting a magical place with like-minded people will transform your mind, body, and spirit. It's a unique experience where you can experience significant healing that will last the rest of your life. Email [email protected] to sign up. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you trying to figure out your issues or challenges in your head? ● Were you bullied, teased or criticized as a child or a teenager, and it still haunts you today? ● Do you have a past trauma you are terrified to address and feel? ● Would you say you live more in your head than in your heart? Ravi's Question: Ravi wants to know how to find purpose in his life. Ravi's Key Insights and Ahas: ● He disconnected from his conscious mind to cope with the trauma. ● He internalizes the external bullying. ● He's scared of failure and being made fun of. ● He has managed his pain, but has not yet transformed it. ● He is in an avoidance pattern and protective mode. ● He's been in the midst of self-loathing. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● He should tap into the passion he experienced to create art. ● He could help other people who have been bullied. ● He needs to listen to his heart. ● He needs to start alchemizing his pain. ● He should practice release writing when he feels sadness. Assignments: ● Read The Lesson Quest and Your Life's Purpose in Chapter 9, The Spiritual Level in Expectation Hangover. ● Be honest about what you are attempting to figure out, and alchemize it. ● Listen to my Coaches Corner with Jim Kwik. ● Volunteer and be of service to someone else to help you with your inner critic. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Over It and On With It Listener Survey Expectation Hangover Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] for Bali Retreat Information Bali Retreat Enrollment Page

This episode ROCKS!! Listen to Jim share some brain-changing tips that will change your life. Get ready to take some notes and have your mind blown in the best possible way as Jim shares tips for learning, improving memory, rewiring your brain, and altering your self-talk. Learn more about Jim and get some free goodies here: https://kwiklearning.com/ And check out his Kwik brain podcast here: https://kwikbrain.com/podcast

This episode is about issue-based relationships. Today's caller, Rachel, has been in a relationship for 6 years, and for most of that time she has been uneasy and lonely. She says she doesn't know if she should leave the relationship. But as you will hear in the call, Rachel knew the answer to her question before she even asked it. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode81] More often than not, the issue that comes up in our romantic relationships has to do with our parents. Whatever we craved but didn't get from our mother or father, is what we tend to look for in a mate. And, until you heal your core issues, you will continue to seek out approval or attention from your parents, in your romantic relationships. During the call, it was clear to me Rachel was in an issue-based relationship. Issue-based relationships have a lot of chemistry, and the couple is super-attracted to each other. The physical part of the relationship, especially the making up, hooks you in. One of the reasons you are attracted to the other person is because your issues dovetail. The beautiful thing about issue-based relationships is they are learning opportunities. They bring unresolved issues to the surface, which makes them easier to identify and heal. It is time to be honest with yourself about the kind of person you are attracted to. Are you playing out unresolved issues from your past in your current relationships? I recommended Rachel join my Inner Circle Community to give her a support system, and a place where she can openly share. It is truly a place where you can invest in yourself. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Whose love, attention, or approval did you crave the most as a child? How has that played out in your relationships? ● Are you in a relationship you are questioning? ● Do you know you should be single, but you are frightened by the thought of it? ● Is your connection with a higher power something you would like to deepen? Rachel's Question: Rachel wants to know if she should stick with a relationship she feels uneasy and lonely in. Rachel's Key Insights and Ahas: ● She's not sure what she loves about her partner. ● As a child, she craved her father's approval. ● She entered into the relationship without knowing who he was, because she wanted to be chosen. ● She feels like she is falling apart. ● She's unfamiliar with being by herself. ● She needed permission to trust her intuition. ● She feels it's time to fly. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should take a break from the relationship, and work on herself. ● She should ask for help from her higher power. ● She should take a year off from dating. ● She should move out on her own. ● She needs to get some outside support. Assignments: ● Think about whose love, attention, approval, and affection you craved the most, your mom or dad's? How are you still searching for it in other people? ● Start journaling. A good sentence starter is … Dear Mom, I wish you … or Dear Dad, I wish you … ● Get individual therapy or coaching. ● Ask for help. ● Make yourself your number one priority. ● Join my Inner Circle Community for support from those who WANT to support you. Sponsor: Freshbooks: Get a Free 30-Day Unrestricted Trial to Online Accounting Software. Enter "Over It and On With It" in the 'How did you hear about us?' section. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Over It and On With It Listener Survey Expectation Hangover Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] for Bali Retreat Information Bali Retreat Enrollment Page The Work by Byron Katie

Your wish is my command :) Many of you asked for a guided meditation to support you in listening to the wisdom of your heart so here it is. Enjoy. Big love from my heart, Christine

This episode is about freeing yourself from pain and anxiety. Today's caller, Nicole, is struggling to find her true intuition. She feels it may be lost to her, or clouded over by her deep-seated anxiety. She has used her anxiety for many years to protect herself, but she now realizes it is time to get over it and on with it. We made a beautiful discovery together I hope helps you connect some of the puzzle pieces in your own life. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode80] The wonderful thing about pain and anxiety is that we have the power to free ourselves from it. Many of the overwhelming feelings we are having now are rooted somewhere in our past. Something devastating caused our young minds to create a program to follow, so we didn't have to feel that way ever again. As we grow, the ability to address our fears, and overcome our 'victim story' becomes available to us. We are able to comfort our younger selves by self-parenting and through work that is healing. We also have the ability to acknowledge our need for protection, thank it for its service to us, and move our energy to where we need it now. We can then replace our impulsive responses with our inner voice, which is guided by our intuition. When we find our higher purpose, we find another more self-honoring, self-supportive way to get it. Retreat Information — Enrollment is now open for the upcoming Bali Retreat in September. Step into your dreams. Don't let excuses stop you. Contact [email protected] to sign up. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Do you suffer from anxiety? Is there something you would like to be free of? ● Whenever you try anything new, does it come with a lot of fear? ● Do you prefer control over uncertainty? ● Did something happen in your past that might still be impacting you, but you are not sure what to do about it? Nicole's Question: Nicole has anxiety-driven panic attacks, and lacks self-confidence. She longs to have a deeper life and become connected to the world. Nicole's Key Insights and Ahas: ● She uses her anxiety as a source of protection. ● She needs to feel she is in control of a situation. ● As a child, she felt vulnerable. ● Her intuition will be clearer when anxiety subsides. ● She needs to respond rather than react. ● It's OK for her to make mistakes. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should tell her younger self, "things will be alright." ● Say, "I accept," and then, "I am choosing to." ● Interrupt the patterns of anxiety. ● Turn up the volume of her calm inner voice. ● Understand the difference between resignation and acceptance. Assignments: ● Think about the "big deals," or significant events in your life. What belief systems were formed then, that might be impacting you today? ● Tell yourself the things you needed to hear during your "big deals." ● Understand that it was not your fault. ● How does your protective mechanism serve you? Give it a new job description. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] for Bali Retreat Information Bali Retreat Enrollment Page

Listen in as Christine answers two listener questions. The first is about how to handle very different decisions making strategies in a marriage. The second is about opening your heart and being more vulnerable in dating after you have been hurt in the past.

This episode is about self-sabotage. Today's caller, Drew, is an inspiring entrepreneur who has overcome odds such as being homeless and obesity but he is still getting in his own way. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode79] I acknowledge Drew for being honest, real and raw during our call. He is a seeker who is committed to his growth. He truly believes he is worthy and is committed to shifting. Often, we doubt ourselves because we haven't made the changes we want, or haven't achieved as much as we would like. The discomfort that comes from the feeling of not living into our potential, and the seeker who emerges from within us, are feedback to let us know we are well on our way. We do not optimize ourselves overnight. Part of living into our potential is feeling and dealing with the pain of not being there yet. It's how we polish the diamond of our spirit. The problem is we label it as suffering because it's uncomfortable. What if feeling a desire to transform is a symptom of being a seeker? It's important to keep going. You will eventually feel a shift. You will start feeling less pain and more purpose. Your focus will shift from yourself to your mission and vision. You will heal core wounds and let go of limiting beliefs. This will attract different things into your life. What you do is not as important as how you do it. Allow your choices and subsequent actions to come from a place of self-love, acceptance, and service. A podcast I did with my friend Aubrey on his podcast is a great supplemental resource to this session with Drew. We talked a lot about self-love, judgment, and the inner critic. The Aubrey Marcus Podcast #89 — Self-Love and Psychedelic Medicine. Retreat Information — Bali is a place of healing. I have been visiting for 10 years, so my retreats offer an authentic Balinese experience, in addition to the retreat work. Enrollment is now open for the upcoming Bali Retreat in September. Step into your dreams. Don't let excuses stop you. Contact [email protected] to sign up. Learn ways to trust yourself in my Inner Circle private membership community. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Have you overcome huge obstacles, but still don't feel over the hump, or are still facing large obstacles? ● Do you feel like you have something to prove, and is it often the fuel that drives you? ● Are your self-worth and self-love conditional? ● Do you have an expectation to be strong and confident, but feel rejected on the inside? Drew's Question: Drew would like to know how to stop self-sabotaging himself and how to find the strength to pursue and achieve his goals. Drew's Key Insights and Ahas: ● He knows he is not broken. ● He feels he needs to prove himself. ● He sees himself through a lens of judgment. ● He puts conditions on his self-worth. ● He has a huge, low ego. ● He has felt invisible and rejected most of his life. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● He needs to create a daily practice around own his worth. ● He needs to become a better friend to himself. ● He should remove the conditions he puts on love, acceptance, and worthiness. ● He needs to stop trying to prove himself. ● He should use the Release Writing exercise in Expectation Hangover before meditating. ● When he feels himself drifting into self-sabotage he should remind himself of his why, his worth, and his true value, and feel love. Assignments: ● Examine what is driving your behavior. ● Write out your conditions of worthiness. ● Write out new rules, or the truth about your worthiness. ● Try a heart meditation. Allow love to fill your entire physical being. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] for Bali Retreat Information Bali Retreat Enrollment Page The Aubrey Marcus Podcast #89

This is a MUST LISTEN!! So real, raw and FULL of wisdom. Christine speaks with Ali Golden, the author of "A Good Soldier." When Ally Golden heads off to college, she breathes a sigh of relief; she is ready to discover herself, independent of her mother. However, this newfound freedom and several failed attempts at intimacy soon leave Golden feeling adrift. But even as she withdraws from the world, Golden feels an all-powerful emotional connection to the woman who raised her. Moving into adulthood, Golden tries to envision a future in which she can begin her own family—as the mental decline of her mother reaches its lowest point. Will Golden be able to heal her relationship with her mother before it's too late? Golden's raw honesty and stunning emotional insights will comfort anyone who has been on the chaotic and unpredictable journey with a mentally ill friend or family member. Check out A Good Soldier on Amazon in trade paperback or ebook

This episode is about being conflicted when making a choice. Today's caller, Anna, wants to leave her marriage but is unsure as to whether or not it is "the right thing to do." [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode78] There is no right or wrong when it comes to ending anything. Giving up or getting out of something just because it's hard or takes work is quitting, but opting out of something because it doesn't align with your core values is a self-honoring choice. So, how do you know if you are quitting or giving up too early, versus when something has reached its expiration date? I believe any relationship takes work, and can be transformed, but sometimes it doesn't serve either partner to stay together just because they made a commitment, if there is a drastic difference in values and vision. And, having guilt is useless. We feel guilty when we judge ourselves for doing something "bad or wrong," and we think to suffer through the feeling of guilt somehow makes it better. If you are not married yet, my advice is to wait to marry until you are in a place where you are not looking for someone to fill a void or to meet a need, but rather someone to share your life with. Trusting ourselves is important. If you want to live in integrity, you have to have self-trust. You can learn ways to trust yourself in my Inner Circle private membership community. Retreat Information — Bali is a place of healing. I have been visiting for 10 years, so my retreats offer an authentic Balinese experience, in addition to the retreat work. Enrollment is now open for the next Bali Retreat in September. If you have objections, but you really want to do it. Don't let excuses stop you. Contact [email protected] to sign up. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you in a situation that has reached its expiration date? ● Are you paying more attention to the opinions of others, rather than your own voice? ● Have you left a situation, but feel tremendous guilt about it? ● Do you tend to jump from relationship to relationship, believing that it will be different? Anna's Question: Anna wants to be sure she is not making a decision to leave her marriage from a place of fear. Anna's Key Insights and Ahas: ● She doesn't need someone to make her feel safe anymore. ● She doesn't want her marriage to work out. ● She doesn't know how to deal with the guilt of leaving. ● She needs to take ownership of her feelings. ● She felt she couldn't trust her own voice. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should acknowledge and appreciate everything her husband has done for her. ● She should use listen to her inner voice and find her own truth. ● She needs to forgive herself for buying into the misunderstanding that she was a bad person. ● She should be clear about why she is leaving, and honor it by being a partner to herself. Takeaways: ● If you are trying to stick it out in a situation out of pride, fear, or worry about what others will think, be honest with yourself, and make a self-honoring choice. ● Reach out to people who support you and can give you spiritual altitude. ● Make a list of all the qualities you want in a partner, and become all of those things. ● Find yourself during my retreat in Bali. Sponsor: Freshbooks: Get a Free 30-Day Unrestricted Trial to Online Accounting Software. Enter "Over It and On With It" in the 'How did you hear about us?' section. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Inner Circle Membership Community Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] for Bali Retreat Information Marie Forleo's B-School

Listen in as Christine answers listener questions. The first if from Jessica who is new on the personal growth path and having difficulty dealing with all the awareness and changes that are coming up. She has found herself in a funk and wants to know how to get out of it. The second one is from Lara who is asking about the difference between spiritual bypass and actually doing the work. And finally Christine takes on a question from Kelly who wants to leave her "safe" job and go for her dreams but is scared of leaving the security of a salary and benefits. And remember: FreshBooks is offering a 30 day, unrestricted free trial to my listeners. To claim it, just go to FreshBooks.com / CHRISTINE and enter OVER IT AND ON WITH IT in the "How Did You Hear About Us?" section.

This episode is about pursuing dreams, overcoming fears, and stepping into the freedom of being an entrepreneur. Today's caller, Katie, feels a calling to start a business as a coach, but fear is holding her back. We don't get out of fear with pep talks or trying to push our way through. We get out of fear through action. One of Katie's action steps is enrolling in B-School. [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode77] Fear about what other people think of you will paralyze you, if you are not focused on service and impact. If you make your work about you, it will drain you emotionally. You will constantly be trying to protect yourself from criticism or judgment. It is not possible for everyone to like you. Feedback is feedback. You can choose to get triggered by it, and take it personally, or you can receive it neutrally. You have your own unique group of people you are supposed to help. Stop giving your energy to the people who aren't your people. If you stop analyzing everything, and start taking action, you will be able to use the energy to generate momentum in your business. Please stop wasting your time and energy obsessing about what other people think. If you feel a calling and feel like you have gifts to share, stop stalling, and trust your gifts; it wouldn't be there if it wasn't leading you somewhere. Your dreams and desires are not random. But, only you can turn them into reality. If you desire freedom of time and freedom of self expression, or you can feel a calling to do what you love, enroll in Marie Forleo's B-School. I use what I learned in B-School in my business. It has helped me to uplevel every aspect of my business. Enrollment ends March 3rd, so use the payment plan and get started. It pays for itself. I am offering 4 free 90-minute group coaching calls, access to a private Facebook group, guided meditations, mastermind day and other bonuses because I believe in the program so much. Consider/Ask Yourself: Do you feel a calling, but fear is stopping you? Do you want to put yourself out there, but are concerned about what other people will think of you? Do you believe you need to be perfect, and have everything figured out, before you can help others or start a business? Do you worry about being too vulnerable? Are you wondering where the line is between being relatable and being professional? Katie's Question: Katie would like to know how to get through the fear and anxiety that has come with the attention her new business is getting. Katie's Key Insights and Ahas: She's afraid of what people will think about her. She is judging herself more than other people are judging her. She doesn't know where to draw the line, when sharing her personal situation. She knows sharing her story is important. She should lean into her excitement and not the fear and anxiety. How to Get Over It and On With It: She should focus on serving others, not on herself. She should own her feelings, and acknowledge she may not be completely through her stuff. She should acknowledge which stage her business is in. She should lean into what she wants more of, and how she wants to serve others. She should get excited about her new business. She should write out her mission and get clear on her why. She should focus on the people who resonate with her. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] Marie Forleo's B-School The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level, by Gay Hendricks

Listen in as Christine coaches Chip, a fitness entrepreneur who wants to increase his impact and income by launching an online course but is not sure of where to begin. You'll get to hear a different side of Christine's coaching as she puts on her business / entrepreneur hat and supports Chip in getting clarity on the specifics of his course and launch. If you are an aspiring entrepreneur and want a clear step-by-step plan for how to build or grow your business AND would love Christine's coaching then you will LOVE B-School which is the the world-renowned online business school for modern entrepreneurs. The 8-week online training offers step-by-step guidance on how to build a profitable brand that stands out, market your business in an authentic, non-sleazy way, and seriously increase your online presence so that you can spread your message to the masses - and make money! Enrollment opens only once a year, so if you're considering B-School do not delay! Go there to see the bonuses Christine is offering and to enroll: www.christinehassler.com/bschool

This episode is about becoming getting over your past and becoming connected to your heart. Today's caller, Jane is still impacted by a traumatic childhood. She would like to move past it and find someone to share her feelings with. [For show notes go here: http://christinehassler.com/episode76] I acknowledge Jane for her courage and her vulnerability. Just calling in is a testament to how far she has come. It's true that when we are ready, we are guided toward our resources and teachers to help us heal. Jane said she felt anxious. For many people, anxiousness comes from having a chaotic childhood, not having structure, or having too much structure. If it's true for you, don't make yourself wrong, but also don't use your past as an excuse to either be a rebel, or to feel like you can't parent yourself or add structure to your life. You can. Our hearts are an intuitive voice of wisdom, guidance and reassurance. In our logical, mind-based world it is often easier to think than to feel, but emotional processing and healing cannot be done in our heads. People tend to be able to process and release emotions through writing. If you have been repressing your emotions, or distracting or numbing yourself, try writing down your feelings to help you hear your heart. Remember strength is not pushing through something. Strength is vulnerability. To truly live into our potential, we must connect to our hearts. Special announcement — We hit 1 million downloads in February! I am so grateful to all of you, and to celebrate I am giving away a gift to 3 of you. The prize is one month in my Inner Circle membership community for free. You can win by sharing why you like #overitandonwithit on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. Just post, tag me, and don't forget to add the #overitandonwithit hashtag! I recently spoke about the importance of connecting to our hearts at Aubrey Marcus's Go For Your Win event. You can listen to what is probably my favorite interview of all time, Coaches Corner episode with Aubrey, if you are not familiar with him. Would you like to connect deeply to your feminine power, and get clarity that leads to deep healing? At the end of September 2017, I am hosting a retreat in a place which has cracked open my heart. Enrollment is now open for my women's only Spiritual and Self Love Retreat in Bali. Contact [email protected] to register. If you want to actualize your dreams and have a heart-based online business, enroll in Marie Forleo's B-School. I am offering free mastermind day and other bonuses because I believe in the program so much. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Is there something from your past that is creating problems in your present? Are you frustrated, and believe you should be over it by now? ● Do you deal with rushing around, running late, and feel like you are not meeting your deadlines? ● Would you like to be able to feel and connect to listening to your heart? Jane's Question: Jane would like to finally like to move past her traumatic childhood. Jane's Key Insights and Ahas: ● She recognizes how strong she had to be, to get through her childhood. ● She has a lot of anger and sadness. ● She has felt alone for a large part of her life. ● She appreciates her ability to keep trying. ● She welcomes people in her life to share her feelings and to be honest with. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should practice more release writing. ● She should get Expectation Hangover and perform the Temper Tantrum technique. ● She should find a professional to help her process her feelings. ● She should tell the universe she is ready for her guides to come forward. ● She should find a place to volunteer with children. ● She should say 3 loving things to herself about herself. Assignments: ● Practice release writing. I teach you how to do it in Expectation Hangover. ● In your spiritual practice, pray for your spirits, guides, healers, or coaches to come forward in a physical human form. ● If you are processing pain from your childhood, volunteer with children or animals to feel unconditional love. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] Marie Forleo's B-School

Listen in as Christine answers listener questions. The first one is from Frank who is 34 and dealing with a massive career expectation hangover. He keeps experiencing setbacks at work which are negatively impacting his confidence and ability to financially support himself. The second question is from Debra who at 52 found herself having a very unexpected (and inappropriate) romantic connection with a 33 year old colleague. Also be sure not to miss the FREE video training series about how to build a business and life you love from Marie Forleo. Go here to check it out: http://bit.ly/2kl15Wg And for more info on Christine's retreat to Bali go here: http://christinehassler.com/bali-retreat-2017/

Today's episode is about manifesting a relationship. Leila has been impacted by her father's happiness, or lack of it, much more than she realizes. She would like guidance on how to remove any blocks she has formed. [For show notes go here: http://christinehassler.com/episode75] As you heard in the call, Leila's true inspiration for calling in was the desire to be in a loving relationship, and to understand why she wasn't attracting the kind of relationship she wants in her life. Programming from our past can impact us more than we are aware. In Leila's case, she didn't realize her father's apathy towards his own life affected her. As a child, she felt like he wasn't excited to be with her, and she felt not chosen and not fully seen. She longed for a connection with her father. We can only give the love we give ourselves. A parent's impact on us is often more obvious when they have been abusive or suffer from an addiction. It's important to look at the more subtle things that may be affecting you. Leila also didn't want to take on the responsibility of fixing someone or making them happy. She felt taking on a relationship would be a heavy weight and a burden, and she would be responsible for making the man happy. It's important to note that the role of a romantic partner and role of a parent are two very different things. Listen to my Coaches Corner with Marie Forleo of B-School. B-School is an online business school that covers everything you need to know to start your own business, plus I am offering bonuses because I believe in the program so much. I am offering four live group coaching calls, a guided meditation and visualization for each module and some new surprises for 2017! Email [email protected]. And Andrea Owen from my favorite podcast, Your Kick Ass Life is offering her e-book and audio, How the Crap Talk in Your Head is Making You Crazy and 3 Ways to Change It, for free if you text 'selftalk' to 444999. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● How has your parents' overall level of happiness affected your level of happiness? Leila's Question: Leila would like to more deeply understand her feelings surrounding her father's work, to make sense of why she has difficulty with committed relationships. Leila's Key Insights and Ahas: ● She picked up her father's shame about his job. ● She doesn't share details of her life with her father. ● She never felt important to her dad. ● It is not her job to fix her dad. ● She is looking to fill a void. ● She feels an over-responsibility towards men. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● Make a list of what she wanted from her dad, and forgive him for not being able to give her those things. ● It is time for her to get a clear idea of what she wants from a romantic relationship. ● She should step into her divine masculine energy and give herself the validation, appreciation, and encouragement she longed for from her dad. ● She should let go of the belief she has a block towards being in a relationship. ● She needs to break the pattern of believing she needs to fix anyone. Assignments: ● Look at beliefs or ways of being you have taken on from your parents, and write a letter to them giving those things back. Rip it up or burn it, afterward. Do a visualization of you giving unwanted fears, judgments, or limiting beliefs you acquired from your parents back to them with love and forgiveness. ● If you want to attract a romantic relationship or upgrade the one you have, have a clear picture of what you want and what you have to give. ● Let go of the belief of a relationship block, or you are doing something wrong, and get excited about any investment you make in yourself in a way of giving to your future partner and family. ● If you want to make a change in your career, or take your business to the next level, look into B-School. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — Send your questions to Christine, to be answered on Coaches Corner. Marie Forleo's B-School Your Kick Ass Life Podcast

I have such a treat for you all this week as Marie Forleo joins us on Coaches Corner. She drops SO much wisdom in this interview. Some of the topics we cover include: What "modern marketing" really is all about – and why it's not sleazy! How to overcome fear when it comes to your business and stepping into your purpose The reason why taking action is critical . . . even if you do not know your final destination How to get clarity in ANY situation What you can do to figure out if your business is viable idea Marie just released a FREE video training series where she gives you some incredible guidance on starting or building your business. Go HERE to get it. (http://bit.ly/2kMiqV0) Also, I am a proud affiliate partner of B School and will be announcing my special bonuses soon (one of them is coming to my home in San Diego for a free masterminding day with me!). Be sure to sign up at www.christinehassler.com for my emails so you stay in the know. A little more about Marie Forleo: Named by Oprah as a thought leader for the next generation and one of Inc.'s 500 fastest growing companies, Marie's mission is to help you build a life you love and use your gifts to change the world. She's the creator of the award-winning online show MarieTV with over 26 million views on YouTube with an audience in 195 countries. She's the founder of B-School, an online business school for modern entrepreneurs. Through her Change Your Life, Change The World initiative, every product purchased helps support a person in need.

Today's episode is about stepping out of your comfort zone, and following your dreams. Mel has financial security in her current position, but feels called to do something more impactful. She would like guidance on how to get to where she wants to be. [For show notes go here: christinehassler.com/podcast/episode74] Mel was experiencing two major blocks: fear, and her own limiting beliefs about not being good enough. When we don't know what is ahead of us, we are faced with uncertainty, and with uncertainty comes fear. Our security doesn't come from an external source. The person who makes you safe is you and your connection to source. I encouraged Mel to take off the golden handcuffs. It may feel like safety and security to her, but it is not freedom if she is not happy, and she feels called to do something more. Financial security and wealth are available through various forms. There is a fine line between fear and excitement. If you are at the tipping point between excitement and fear, I encourage you to lean into the excitement, and stop fighting with fear. Mel's belief of not being good enough was something we all experience at one time or another. I reminded her that we all have an infinite amount of potential. During the call, the use of numbing agents came up. The use of pot, alcohol, shopping, etc., are common when we suppress both emotion and desire. Mel had some unprocessed emotion from her childhood, and she felt suppressed by her parents. But, as an adult, she was doing to herself what they did to her. If you use numbing agents to suppress your emotions and desires, listen to my Coaches Corner episode How to Stop Numbing with Pot. Special announcement — We hit 1 million downloads! I am so grateful to all of you, and to celebrate I am giving away a gift to 3 of you. The prize is one month in my Inner Circle membership community for free. You can win by sharing why you like #overitandonwithit on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. Just post, tag me and don't forget to add the #overitandonwithit hashtag! And, be sure to listen to my new Coaches Corner with Marie Forleo of B-School. And Andrea Owen from my favorite podcast, Your Kick Ass Life is offering her e-book, How the Crap Talk in Your Head is Making You Crazy and 3 Ways to Change It, for free if you text 'selftalk' to 444999. Also, I created an Over It and On With It survey, just for my listeners, and I would really appreciate it if you would take 2-5 minutes to fill it out to let me know what you like about the show, and what you want to hear more of. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Do you feel imprisoned by golden handcuffs? Do you struggle with the limiting belief of never being enough? ● Do you think following your dreams is careless or risky? ● Do you believe you deserve happiness, and are capable of creating it? Mel's Question: Mel would like to know how to lessen her attachment to her income and transition out of her current position to follow her passion. Mel's Key Insights and Ahas: ● She allows fear to make her feel not good enough. ● She doesn't completely believe she can feel happy and fulfilled. ● She believes being happy is being careless, irresponsible and selfish. ● She would like a closer relationship with her parents. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should get clear on what will make her feel prepared to make a change. ● She needs to stop using numbing devices and work through her sadness and anger directed at her mother and father. ● She needs to write or record her vision to reprogram herself. Assignments: ● Prepare yourself to make a change by getting clear about what you want. ● Stop using numbing devices to suppress your emotions and desires. ● Write down or record your vision. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — Send your questions to Christine, to be answered on Coaches Corner.

I share BIG NEWS in this episode and give you a way to receive a FREE month into my inner circle. Also listen in as I answer two caller questions. The first one is about why letting of of ex's you know are not good for you is so hard. In the second question I cover challenges related to being the child of alcoholics.

Today's episode is about how to let go of relationships from your past, and how to heal old wounds. Danielle is consciously aware of what she is going through, but is still triggered by things in her past. One frustrating part of the human experience is when we are consciously aware of something, but we are still affected by it in a negative way. We have to be gentle with ourselves, and know that when we go through a change, it is typical for a part of us to be a little freaked out. And, we don't get over it by giving ourselves a pep talk. We have to go back, and give ourselves permission to feel our sadness or our fear. Danielle was aware of her anxious attachment, and she knew it needed to stop. Her willingness to get over it created the insights and shifts she had during our conversation. If you want to get over a relationship you are invested in, you have to be willing to let them go. Danielle never felt chosen by her biological dad. She had more pressure on her, in her family, than support. She was there for everybody else, but no one was there for her. It was important to get Danielle out of her rational head, and into her heart. She consciously knew her issues, but she kept attracting the same type of relationships, because she never shifted emotionally. My work with Danielle was about going back and understanding what her younger self really needed. I asked her to go back and speak to herself as if she was her father speaking to her, and tell herself the things she wished he would have said. Let go of any belief someone will choose us and make us worthy. I created an Over It and One With It survey, just for my listeners, and I would really appreciate it if you would take 2-5 minutes to fill it out to let me know what you like about the show, and what you want to hear more of. I will be co-hosting a retreat for men and women with Aubrey Marcus in Austin, TX in April. More details to come! Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are there things you consciously know, but you are still being triggered and affected? ● Are you still attached, in a relationship or energetically, to an ex or another person in your life? ● Do you think there could be some hurt involving your parents, you haven't quite dealt with? ● Do you keep attracting the same type of person over and over again? Danielle's Question: Danielle was in a dysfunctional relationship for three years, and is still attached to the person, even though they broke up nine months ago. Danielle's Key Insights and Ahas: ● She kept her feelings hidden as a child. ● She chose a partner who reinforced her childhood belief that her feelings don't matter. ● Her ex was never there, and was never consistent with her. ● She started her dysfunctional relationship shortly after her father passed. ● She is still wanting a relationship with her father. ● She was told she was supposed to save her parent's marriage. ● She may not have discovered who she really is. ● She will have more compassion for herself. ● She will allow herself to feel her feelings without overthinking them. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She needs to connect to her inner child, and make herself know she is worthy. ● Attend the Women's Spring Retreat in March. ● She should use the Release Writing or Temper Tantrum tools in Expectation Hangover. Assignments: ● Be honest with yourself about any dysfunctional relationships or anxious attachments, and be willing to let them go. ● Stop using your head so much. ● Allow someone else to help you, by getting a coach, or going to a retreat or workshop. Sponsor: Freshbooks Get a Free 30-Day Unrestricted Trial to Online Accounting Software. Enter "Over It and On With It" in the 'How did you hear about us?' section. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] — Send your questions to Christine, to be answered on Coaches Corner.

Christine answers emails from listeners and covers two very important topics on this episode of Coaches Corner. The first question is about whether a young woman should stay in a job she absolutely hates. The second question is from a man who is in a relationship where he is facing domestic violence where leaving is not so easy due to other factors. Tune in to hear all the details. Be sure to check out one of Christine's favorite podcast "Your Kickass Life" with Andrew Owen. http://yourkickasslife.com/blog/

Today's episode is about finding your true purpose, and how it relates to your career. Emily is longing for more confidence, and to show up more consistently in her work. She wants to feel more connected to her purpose and the people she feels called to serve. During the call, I switched roles with Emily, because when she felt like she was on the spot, her self-judgment took over, and she couldn't get to the level of clarity she wanted to. She kept coming up with reasons why she's not consistent and sharing scares her. Ask yourself, what are you not doing that you know you should be doing? With what are you inconsistent? Often, we are not all in, because we don't have a big enough why. And, without a big enough why, or a big enough vision, we lack motivation and inspiration. We all have to process enough of our pain to re-orient to be pulled by a vision. If you really wanted to be doing something consistently, you would be doing it. The only true and pure purpose of life is to grow and become more aware of the love and the oneness that we are. But for most of us, that understanding is not fulfilling enough. We yearn to share and express our love in some way. And like Emily, we feel called to make a meaningful impact in the world. And, please, please, please give me some feedback. I created a special survey, just for my listeners, and I would really appreciate it if you would take 2-5 minutes to fill it out to let me know what you like about the show, and what you want to hear more of. Women with a Vision Mastermind features brilliant speakers, and will cover building a heart-based business, accessing your intuition, embracing your feminine power, and creating an action plan to drive your vision forward. May 5-8th, 2017 in N. Carolina. Early bird pricing is available until March 7th. Go here for more info: https://sacredplanet.samcart.com/referral/5ikUEXGB/739197 Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Is consistency an obstacle for you when it comes to taking action? ● Does striving for perfection stop you from taking action? ● Do you know what you should do, but just aren't doing it? ● What is your why? Do you have a vision that pulls you forward? Emily's Question: Emily is looking for guidance on how to be more open with her clients. Emily's Key Insights and Ahas: ● She feels people won't take her seriously. ● She is inconsistent in her business. ● She is self-absorbed and lacks a why. ● She lacks self-acceptance. ● She has unresolved pain from her past. ● She's on a mission to figure out who she authentically is. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She needs to write out her why. ● She should commit to a consistent social media plan. ● She needs to meditate and create her ideal client avatar. Takeaways: ● Be honest with yourself about which pains are still pushing you. ● Get clear about your why. ● Join my Inner Circle community. Sponsor: Daily Energy — Get 30% off of Daily Energy. It's the simplest life hack you can do for your health this year. Audible — Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. I highly recommend Elizabeth Gilbert's Big Magic. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] - Send your questions to Christine anytime.

A mix and match episode of Coaches Corner this week!! Listen to me answer a listener question about using marijuana as a salve to soothe some hurts, anxiety and restlessness. I also have a chat with Zlata Sushchik about balancing masculine / feminine energy related to our workouts and nutrition. She also takes us through a step-by-step process to feel our own version of "sexy fit" And a reminder to take the SURVEY about this podcast. I want your feedback!!! www.christinehassler.com/survey More about Zlata here: http://sexyfit.com/

Today's episode is about being confident in your current relationship. During this coaching session with Nicole, she tells me she is in her first serious romantic relationship, and she is afraid she is going to sabotage it. Nicole is to be acknowledged for her level of awareness and coachability during this call. It was fun to work with her to update her belief systems and to get her excited about learning how to be in a relationship. One thing we didn't talk about was her possible "Upper Limits" issue. Nicole is getting more love and emotional availability than she ever has before, which is what she wants; she just doesn't know what to do with it. I wanted to empower Nicole to enjoy the relationship she's in, because it's important to know the difference between when it's time to go back into our past and chip away at something, and when it's time to get over it and on with our lives. So, we worked on Nicole's belief systems, and I allowed her to adopt a beginner's mind. She didn't have a healthy model for being in a romantic relationship, so I recommended she learn about what a healthy romantic relationship is. Get my guide, 6 Steps to Intuitive Decision Making, free when you check out my fresh and updated website. My Inner Circle membership community is growing quickly. It's a place you can hang out with like-minded people, where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my customized, guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. E-mail [email protected], with any questions you may have. * There are only 2 spots left for my Women's Spring Retreat March 10-12. Sign up today, so you don't miss out. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Is there something in your life you are afraid of losing? ● Do you feel new at something, and feel you should just know how to do it? ● Are you aware or think you have some limiting beliefs from your past that are negatively impacting your current situation? Nicole's Question: Nicole would like to know why she feels triggered to leave romantic relationships. Nicole's Key Insights and Ahas: ● She's afraid of losing the things she cares about. ● She felt her parents were emotionally unavailable. ● She feels it's better to be alone than to feel disconnected when she's with someone. ● She gets panicked in the moment. ● She will try enjoying her relationship more. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should reprogram her brain with her new belief system. ● When she feels panicked she should place one hand on her heart and one on her belly, and ask, "What do I need, right now?" ● She should get books to help her learn about love and relationships. ● She should have patience, get excited, and have fun. Assignments: ● Are you having an Upper Limits issue? Check out The Big Leap, by Gay Hendricks and listen to my Upper Limits Coaches Corner. Make a list of all the reasons you deserve the good things that are happening to you. ● Update and reframe your belief systems. Go to Byron Katie's The Work for free worksheets. ● Have a beginner's mind. Sponsor: ONNIT: Get a 10% discount on your order by using this link. Freshbooks: Get a Free 30-Day Unrestricted Trial to Online Accounting Software. Enter "Over It and On With It" in the 'How did you hear about us?' section. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] - Send your questions to Christine anytime. David Deida Alison Armstrong Harville Hendricks

Christine answers caller questions from Adam and Ally. Learn about why when life gets too good. we often freak out, worry it's going to end or accidentally sabotage it. This is called an Upper Limits Problem. Christine also coaches on how to get out of a victim funk, man (or woman) up and change your life.

Today's episode is about moving from being single to being in a relationship. I coach Alex on uncovering fears and limiting beliefs that can keep us from being in a relationship, or anything we truly want. When we desire something, and it does not manifest in our life, we have a tendency to blame ourselves, do a spiritual bypass, or mentally obsess about what we need to change and fix about ourselves to make it manifest. Often, these strategies do not work. What does work is taking a deep and honest look at why not having what we want, is actually what we want. Consciously we want something but there is a hidden fear or limiting belief, that is creating a block. For Alex, it was her fear of rejection. Not being in a relationship feels safer for her. It doesn't matter how much she desires something, if part of her is scared to have it, it's hard, if not impossible, to manifest it. This is very different approach than the dating advice we often hear. A relationship is not a symbolic trophy of self-love. If you are single and want to be in a relationship, ditch the apps, the dating columns, and relationship advice for a while, and do some of the things I encouraged Alex to do. Get honest about what really scares you in having what you want. *Coaches — Notice I didn't coach Alex into making a plan to date differently, to love herself more, or to step more into her feminine. Be willing to let go of trying to find a fix-it solution for your clients. Instead, guide them to discovering what is in their way. If your intention for the new year is to connect with a tribe of like-minded people, and to feel and act more confident, joining my Inner Circle will assist you with both. The Inner Circle is a membership community, where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my customized, guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. E-mail [email protected], with any questions you may have. There are only 3 spots left for my Women's Spring Retreat March 10-12. Sign up today, so you don't miss out. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you craving a relationship but not having much luck with dating? ● Do feel conflicted about having a relationship? ● Do you judge yourself, or think something is wrong with you, because you are single? ● Is there anything in your life, which is not manifesting, but you don't know why not? Alex's Question: Alex has reached a phase in her life where she thinks she would like to be in a relationship, but is not sure why she hasn't drawn in a romantic partner. Alex's Key Insights and Ahas: ● She feels as if she is always pursuing dating. ● She believes she isn't doing something correctly when it comes to dating. ● She is afraid any relationship she gets into will not be successful. ● She fears rejection. ● She knows she is a great catch but may not 100% believe it. ● She feels suffocated when she is overwhelmed by anything. ● She could be scared of herself. ● She feels with her head instead of her heart. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She needs to write out guidelines for what she wants to feel in a relationship. ● She needs to be willing to be vulnerable, and open up her heart completely. ● She should incorporate a meditation and visualization practice into her life. ● She should drop the persona she created to keep herself safe, and let herself be truly seen. Assignments: ● Ditch the list of everything you want to attract in your life. Work instead to identify the fears that may be in your way. ● Be vulnerable. ● If there is something you want in life, but it's not manifesting, it may be time to reach out to a coach. There are two spots open for private clients. It's an investment of both time and money. Email [email protected] for more information. Sponsor: Daily Energy — Get 30% off of Daily Energy. It's the simplest hack you can do for your life this year. Resources: "Being Single is Not a Disorder" Blog Post Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] - Send your questions to Christine anytime. Christine's Books ● Expectation Hangover ● 20 Something. 20 Everything

This week I answer questions related to dealing with anxiety and panic attacks and overcoming financial blocks. To submit your question, email [email protected] And exciting news! FreshBooks is offering a 30 day, unrestricted free trial to my listeners. To claim it, just go to FreshBooks.com / CHRISTINE and enter OVER IT AND ON WITH IT in the "How Did You Hear About Us?" section

Today's episode is about breakups. I coach Jackie through what she calls an earth shattering, heartbreaking breakup, but the lessons that surface during the call can be applied to any type of Expectation Hangover. After a breakup, our hearts hurt, we feel grief, and we miss the person we ended the relationship with. The way to get out of grief is not to obsess over your ex, beat yourself up, or go out looking for someone else. The way through the grief is to milk it for all it's worth, and to see what it is bringing up for you to heal. In Jackie's case, her breakup is an opportunity to reframe old beliefs she had around betrayal. She continued to collect evidence for the story she believed from her childhood. Jackie was basically dating her dad. She was trying to get the love, attention and approval from her boyfriend that she never received from her dad. Remember, whatever you are going through, no matter how challenging it is, remember it is happening for you, not to you. We can get stuck in the loop of pain if we are just looking at the current situation. Don't think a relationship was a failure just because it ended. Some relationships have an expiration limit. Look for the lessons the relationship is there to teach you. Look for the reasons you brought the person into your life in the first place. If your intention for the new year is to connect with a community of like-minded people and follow through with your meditation goals, joining my Inner Circle will assist you with both. The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my customized, guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. E-mail [email protected] with any questions you may have. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● If you are going through a breakup, are you willing to see the pain as a catalyst for growth? ● Are there breakups from your past you got through, but never really got over? ● Could old wounds be impacting the people you are attracting to a relationship? ● Is there someone you know is bad for you to be in a relationship with, but you find yourself going back for more? Jackie's Question: After a recent breakup, Jackie would like to know how she can move past a relationship that was bad for her. Jackie's Key Insights and Ahas: ● She feels people are deceptive and tricky. ● She felt lucky her ex chose her. ● She played small around her ex. ● She feels like it's unsafe to be her, and she wasn't good enough. ● She collected evidence to confirm her long-held beliefs. ● She longed for attention from her dad. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should ask herself what she is learning, and why she drew this person to her. ● She should release the judgment that being vulnerable makes her messy or weak. ● She needs to confront the truth that she was the daughter of an alcoholic. ● She should go back and communicate to little Jackie. ● She should find a connection with the divine masculine. ● Write out a reality check letter to herself. ● She should attend My Signature Retreat in March 2017. Assignments: ● Read and watch my blog and Vlog about How to Get Over a Breakup. ● Read my book Expectation Hangover. ● Take an inventory of your previous breakups, to see if you are repeating patterns in current relationships. ● Try to attend the ladies only Signature Retreat this March. Sponsor: Freshbooks: Get a Free 30-Day Unrestricted Trial to Online Accounting Software. Enter "Over It and On With It" in the 'How did you hear about us?' section. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] - Send your questions to be answered on Coaches Corner. Christine's Books ● Expectation Hangover ● 20 Something. 20 Everything

Happy New Year! This is a guided visualization and meditation that will support you in completing this year and consciously creating the next. In this twelve minute journey, I guide you through identifying the lessons and blessings from the last year so that you can clearly envision and begin creating what you'd like to experience in the coming year. This is especially great to listen to around the New Year but you can listen to it anytime of year to complete your past, focus on your present and create your future. Set some time aside to gift yourself with this process. Sending you love for a prosperous and joyful New Year

LIsten in as I coach Anneke on putting her self doubt behind her so she can make the career changes she longs for by tapping into her unique gifts. It is important we all take time to look at the gifts we were born with. They are the gifts that lead to your calling, and the gifts that make you, you. Often, we disconnect from our gifts and the truth of who we are. It is when we are too paralyzed and blinded by self-doubt that we forget about and disconnect from our natural gifts. This call with Anneke was the first episode of the Over and On With It podcast. This session stands out for me because we explored the question, "Who am I?" and because of the level of vulnerability Anneke shared. Remember, we get to choose who we are. Not being who we are can be suffocating. We are not defined by other people's views of us. We are all born with natural gifts from the divine. It's up to us to embrace them and use them. After listening to this call I welcome you to revisit and complete the 'Who am I?' essence exercise from my introductory episode, The Why Behind this Podcast. Would you like to connect with a community of like-minded people and get all of my #lifehacks? You will when you join my Inner Circle. The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my customized, guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Do you feel like you are really living authentically? ● Are you fully expressing who you are, or are you being a version of yourself? ● Do you struggle with loneliness? ● Are you in touch with your emotions? ● Are you concerned about what other people think of you? Anneke's Question: Anneke is about to make a big career change and would like to know how to be open and honest about who she really is, and to shift from her pattern of keeping herself small and not seen. Anneke's Key Insights and Ahas: ● Acknowledging she sugarcoats her difficult emotions. ● She doesn't want to be a burden on others. ● Loneliness has been her friend, because it's when she gives herself a break. ● It's ok for other people not to like it when she is her authentic self. ● Recognizing she is staying in her comfort zone, because those emotions are familiar. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● Try taking actions to trust yourself and be consistently authentic. ● Don't compare yourself to other people, embrace your own essence. ● Be willing to remember the essence of who you truly are. ● Invite spirit into your space. ● Practice self-forgiveness. ● Don't be defined by what other people have told you about you. Assignments and Takeaways: ● Write out who you are, what is your unique essence? Then, for 30 days get in front of a mirror and make 'I am' statements with your answers. ● Pick 2‒3 people to practice intimacy and authenticity with. ● Write a thank you letter to loneliness for giving you time alone. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts The 'Who Am I?' Essence Exercise Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected]

Happy Holidays!! This is a beautiful and sweet time of year, which can bring forward so many feelings and experiences. Some of you may be absolutely blissful – you love this season and are in a place of peace. Others of you may be really struggling this time of year. Perhaps you feel alone. Or family dynamics are challenging. And some may be feeling a mix of both. You have moments of peace and joy and other moments of loneliness, anxiety or even sadness. Wherever you are is okay. Please remove the expectation that your holidays are supposed to be any certain way – otherwise you will just keep waking up with an expectation hangover! My intention in sharing this meditation with you today is to remind you about what is most important not only this time of year but in every moment of every day, which is LOVE.

The holidays can be stressful. The good news is, you get to decide how much stress you are willing to take this holiday season. Oftentimes we have stress because we allow ourselves to have it. We say yes to too many things, and we hold an image of perfection, and it is the perfect, perfect, perfect BS, that stresses us out. Remember there really is no stress, only stressful thoughts. This can also be a very lonely time of year. Especially if you are not in a romantic relationship, or recently went through a breakup. There is a blessing to be found in a lonely holiday. It can be a time to turn within and nourish your relationship with spirit. We can practice self-love through the act of being kind, gentle, and accepting with ourselves. Then from a place of self-acceptance, you can set strong intentions, and take action to bring more love into your life. In today's incredibly moving coaching session, Daniel would like to know how to deal with anxiety when he is away from home or in social situations. He is working towards moving past the abuse he experienced in his youth, but he needs practical advice from someone who acknowledges him from a place of love. Our call was less about the why's of Daniel's anxieties, and more about coaching him into the experience of connecting with his younger self. It's his younger self that is being triggered by events, not his grown-up self. All kinds of abuse are painful. But, you do not have to be sentenced to a lifetime of suffering, because you are not a victim. I encourage you to break the cycle of abuse by healing your own. It is time to do healing work with the younger parts of yourself, so you can mentally process what happened, and tend to the part of you that went through the experience. Healing is the application of love to the places inside that hurt. If you are feeling guilt and shame about being abusive to others, your healing involves applying love to the places inside that hurt. Reach out and get support from real people. Therapists and coaches can be extremely helpful in working with you, through dealing with your abuse. Would you like a behind-the-scenes look into all of my #lifehacks and to join my Inner Circle? The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. Finally, a place to meet like-minded people! Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Is anxiety something you struggle with, especially in social situations? ● Have you mentally processed your past, but can't seem to shake some of the feelings that went with it? ● Do you have a history of physical, mental, or emotional abuse? ● Do you tend to minimize things from your past, because they weren't as bad as things that happened to other people? Daniel's Question: Daniel would like Christine to help him through his anxiety in social situations, and to dismantle his protective shell. Daniel's Key Insights and Ahas: ● He feels physical discomfort from his anxiety. ● He is minimizing his abuse. ● He can't seem to shift his guilt and shame. ● He needs to tend to his younger self. ● He should talk to himself from a place of love. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● He should practice the "empty chair" process, and tell himself it's over. ● He should reassure his younger self through a handwritten a letter. ● He needs to be a loving, protective father to his younger self. ● He should visualize a safe place — his grandma's house for example. ● He should start a meditation process. Assignments and Takeaways: ● Work through the "Empty Chair" process, which is included in my Mastery course. ● Create a dialogue conversation with your younger self, through journaling. ● Practice visualization. ● Bring your mind back to the present moment, with meditation. Sponsor: Daily Energy - Get an exclusive 30% off Daily Energy Superfood Solution. Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts - Schedule a time for your personal session. Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected] [email protected] - Send questions you would like addressed on a future episode of Coaches Corner.

"Agree to disagree." This is often what we attempt to do when someone else has an entirely different opinion. But it's not easy, especially when we feel incredibly passionate about something. And it's also not always the best advice. So what do we do when we are upset about another's opinion or viewpoint? This was the question I was challenged to answer for a group of High School students last weekend. I share about our conversation and give you tips on how to deal with people you don't agree with in this episode of Coaches Corner.

Confidence is not something you can develop just by sitting in your house, thinking about all the things you will do when you feel more confident. Confidence is developed by going out and doing those things. Just like we gain courage by feeling fear, and then taking action anyway. We begin to feel more confident, when we actually do things we feel insecure about. In today's coaching session with Teisha, she would like to know how she can gain more confidence, and how she can truly believe she is a prize. We also discover why confidence has been a struggle for her up until now. She wasn't ready to learn the lesson of confidence. Having an understanding of our past is so important to move us forward. During our session, Teisha acknowledged she is safe. That was her key elementary lesson. After recognizing it, her entire energy shifted. She was able to release the judgment of not feeling more confident. It's hard to develop a new quality, when we are judging ourselves so harshly about not being good at it. Coaches, managers, parents, and teachers take note — I got super specific with Teisha about the action steps she was committing to. When walking someone through behavior changes, you want to help them with clear, measurable steps they feel truly committed to. Is avoiding short-term pain preventing you from long-term happiness and fulfillment? What feels worse — experiencing failure and/or rejection, or never stepping into your full potential? Failure is not bad. Failure is necessary if you want to learn, grow, change, and get the things you want from life. So is perceived rejection; if you spend your life avoiding nos, you will never get yeses. Would you like a behind the scenes look into all of my #lifehacks and to join my Inner Circle? The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to one-on-one coaching calls, my guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle practices. Also, I will be in Australia for a Business Training/Mastermind on personal and professional development. This training is perfect for you if you are a health coach, a life coach or entrepreneur. You could benefit from a session if you are dealing with fear, are getting in your own way, or are ready to take your business to the next level. Send an email to [email protected] ASAP, for more information. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Would you like to have more confidence? Do you spend more time thinking about the things you would like to do, than actually doing them? ● Are you terrified of rejection and failure? ● Did you grow up not feeling safe, loved, or seen? ● How are you at keeping your word with yourself? When you commit to something, do you actually do it? Teisha's Question: Teisha is constantly doubting herself, and would like to know how she can get more self-confidence. Teisha's Key Insights and Ahas: ● Her self-doubt serves her by protecting her from the pain of failure. ● She has a lot of 'what if' questions. ● She didn't feel safe growing up, but has kept herself safe as an adult. ● She will take action and go to a meetup group event, apply for employment outside of her comfort zone, and join a yoga class. ● She wants to be part of a movement to change perceptions about women and work. ● She knows she is a prize and a great person with a good heart. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should be curious about the people she encounters. ● She should be honest and vulnerable when she meets new people. ● She should give herself compliments and really mean them. ● She should ask herself if it serves her to believe the lies she told herself. ● She should give herself the spiritual and physical gift of yoga. Assignments and Takeaways: ● Is there something you need to feel or experience, before stepping into confidence? Can you accept you are ready to move to the next lesson? Can you see you've done what you needed to do, and are ready for the next step? ● Write down a list of all the unique qualities and gifts that make you, you. ● Get out of your comfort zone. Do things you may not be good at, or that may be embarrassing. ● Commit to taking action steps to create the feeling and experience of confidence. Make the steps measurable, specific, and give yourself a timeline. ● Consider joining my Inner Circle, where developing confidence will be an upcoming project. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. I'm reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. Why not make this book your first download? Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected]

There are many common, limiting beliefs when it comes to love and romance. One belief is the success of a relationship is based on the time it lasts. So, if there is a breakup or divorce, the relationship was considered a failure. Or, if you love someone, you must love them unconditionally and stay with them, for better or for worse, no matter what. Another limiting belief is, the purpose of a romantic relationship is to find THE one who completes you. In today's coaching session, we bust through the limiting beliefs to get down to love and truth. Today's caller, Andrew, finds himself at a challenging crossroads in his marriage. He would like to know how to be supportive to his wife after her recent cancer diagnosis without becoming a doormat. Andrew shared he is working towards a growth mindset, and up until now his wife has had more of a victim mindset. While I only got to hear one side, I didn't hear any blame or resentment from Andrew as he shared his story, so I sense his description of the situation is fairly accurate. That is why I coached him to love his wife, to support her and to hold space for her, as she and the entire family process this diagnosis. And in time, have a heart-to-heart with her about how they plan to journey through this Expectation Hangover together. Diagnoses can be an opportunity for deep healing and transformation. Sometimes, what is for the highest good is not always the easiest or most obvious choice. I coached Andrew through the distinction of spiritual connection and spiritual bypass. It basically comes down to love and truth. Andrew loves his wife, but in truth, they may be growing in different directions. Does this mean the relationship should end? I don't believe in shoulds. People in a relationship can be growing at different speeds, but still along the same path. Remember, spirituality is not tolerating people treating us the way they want to treat us. Love and truth go together. Self-honoring choices are often for the highest good of all, and that is the ultimate high road. We can love, encourage, support, and be an example for people, but we can not save anyone else, that is up to them. Would you like a behind the scenes look into all of my #lifehacks and to join my Inner Circle? The Inner Circle is a membership community where you get access to coaching calls, my guided meditations and visualizations, and lifestyle tips which include beauty, health, and wellness. And, I will be in Sydney, Australia for another amazing Mastermind, possibly a training, and half- and full-day intensives. My visit will focus on the needs of small business owners or those of you transitioning into a new career. You could benefit from a session if you are dealing with fear, are getting in your own way or are ready to take your business to the next level. Send an email to [email protected] ASAP for more information. Consider/Ask Yourself: What soul lessons are you currently learning from your relationship or relationship status? Are you making your relationship with yourself or your higher power a priority? Are any of your relationships at a point where you are growing in a different direction from each other? Do you wonder if being there for someone else in a supportive way is putting your own needs at risk? What is the difference between having a spiritual orientation to your relationship, and doing a spiritual bypass and becoming a bit of a doormat? Andrew's Question: Andrew's relationship is experiencing trials and tribulations. He would like to know how to spiritually cope with his wife's recent thyroid cancer diagnosis. Andrew's Key Insights and Ahas: His wife's hormones have been elevated due to a thyroid problem. He feels spirituality calling him. It's not his responsibility to save his wife. He has recently started a spiritual practice. He doesn't believe his wife is a willing participant in the relationship. His current lesson may not yet be resolved. It is now up to him to re-parent himself. How to Get Over It and On With It: He should write his wife a letter to share what feels about her and how the diagnosis may be a wake up call to stay committed to working on their relationship. Also, let her know he can not do it alone. He should hug his wife every day. He needs to take 100% responsibility for his 50%. Assignments and Takeaways: Look back at your romantic relationships to see what lessons you have learned. Write down how each partner has been a soul mate. Nurture a relationship with a higher power. Do something intentional and devotional every day for someone you care about. If there is a difficult conversation you need to have, write a letter and either read the letter to the person or give it to them. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagra

Anahita Joon Tehrani - is a twenty-year veteran in the field of personal development. Having lived through many incarnations including sacred Dancer, Yoga Teacher, Activist, Coach, Poet, Shamanic Style Priestess, & Spiritual Psychologist, Anahita now embraces being all things and not just one thing. Anahita is fiercely devoted to serving the awakening of the divine feminine and is an advocate for radical self responsibility as access to power and embodiment. As the co-founder of the movement- Force of Nature Women Anahita is passionately leading the way for a new brand of Feminine Leadership and sisterhood www.anahitajoon.com

Today's caller, Amanda, wants to know how to stop obsessing about calorie counting, her physical appearance, and working out. Like many of the sessions, you hear on this podcast, the focus of our conversation takes a different direction. Amanda acknowledges she felt controlled by her parents growing up. And, the biggest thing I taught Amanda is how we often pair certain behaviors with love. For example, we know our parents are supposed to love us, so the way they parent us is what we think is love. In Amanda's case, it was being strict because she knew her parents loved her. So, she formed a correlation between being strict and controlling, with love. Her attempts to parent herself, care for herself, and love herself the way her parents did, are a big part of her food and calorie counting obsession. She believes that is how she keeps herself safe, much like her parents thought their strict parenting would keep her safe. It ends up as a fear-based version of safety, and it's exhausting. Another thing at play was Amanda's history of rebelling. When we have one extreme that feels limiting, we go to the opposite extreme in an attempt to free ourselves. Amanda felt controlled, so to move away from it, she was rebellious and acted out to get free of the feeling of being controlled. Coaches and Health Professionals — are you practicing what you preach? Are you attempting to save yourself through serving others? You can share your story and help others, but make yourself your own best client. We can't shift ourselves by saving other people. Remember, it's important for you to show people they do have a wisdom voice inside, and a part of them that is connected to a pure, untainted heart. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you a bit of a control freak in your life? Are there areas you are obsessive or rigid? ● Do you have an inner rebel? Does part of you act out or engage in addictive behavior? ● Are you in a profession where you are not practicing what you are preaching? ● Is your self-talk negative, and you would like to shift it? Amanda's Question: Amanda feels mentally exhausted. She wants to know how to trust herself and change her patterns. Amanda's Key Insights and Ahas: ● Her obsessing is her attempt to care for herself. ● She's afraid she doesn't deserve a good relationship. ● She believes she is broken. ● She has constructed her persona, and doesn't know who she is. ● She doesn't know how to talk to herself. ● She is trying to use her clients to help herself. ● She should practice what she preaches. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should talk to herself every day from a place of acceptance. ● She should parent herself in a way that is full of unconditional love and support. ● Attend Christine's Spring Retreat to help process her old belief systems. ● She needs to be able to lose control and to know she will be ok. ● She needs to read Expectation Hangover. ● She needs to treat herself like she treats her clients. Assignments and Takeaways: ● Identify and deconstruct certain behaviors that may be cross-wired with love. ● Consider getting a pet. A pet is a way to learn about unconditional love without getting into codependency. ● If you are in the pattern of control or rebellion, start a spiritual practice. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Expectation Hangover Women's Spring Retreat - March 2017 Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] [email protected]

Chris Seiter is a professional relationship consultant specializing in breakups. He teaches men and women how to get over a breakup or even how to get back with an ex if the situation calls for it. He has been featured in publications like YourTango, Elite Daily, She Knows, Readers Digest and LifeHack. You can learn more about him at www.exboyfriendrecovery.com and www.exgirlfriendrecovery.com.

Collectively we are all going through a rebalancing of masculine and feminine energies, not only in what it means to be a man or a woman, but what it means to be human. We are just moving into rebalancing this energy so masculine and feminine energies can be in flow together. While women struggle to find their place in the masculine energy, men struggle to fit into more feminine things, such as being vulnerable or pursuing more creative endeavors that may feel less manly. This is not a time to be discouraged. We are all longing for belonging and connection. This episode is about questioning the old paradigms and rules. Today's caller, Jake, thinks he is stuck, but from my point of view he is at a crossroads. Will he continue to let old programming and belief systems drive him, or will he make a commitment to move past the fear of old paradigms, and step into his full potential? During the call, I didn't want to take Jake down the road of investigating his past, because he had already spent too much time analyzing the past and worrying about the future. Jake said he had an easy-going upbringing without a lot of drama or trauma. Often, feeling that degree of comfort as a child makes it harder to take risks as an adult, because we don't have enough experiential evidence to recover from failure, risks, and things that scare us. We have to stop asking ourselves why, why, why. We don't have to self-analyze ourselves to death. We need to be aware of the patterns and self-limiting beliefs, so we can shift them. We all need to step up into our full potential, and not allow outdated paradigms hold us back. Men, it is ok to be vulnerable, to talk about your doubts, and to admit to confusion about who you are, and how to find your purpose. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you a man, or with a man, who is questioning his career path or purpose? ● Is fear something that is stopping you? ● Do you relate to sabotaging yourself? Jake 's Question: Jake feels drawn toward another career change. He wants to know how to get out of his own head to move forward. Jake 's Key Insights and Aha's: ● He is sabotaging himself. ● He has competing intentions. ● He has a propensity to not follow through. ● He battles with fear and low self-worth. ● He has time management issues. ● He has created motion toward what he wants by putting himself out there. ● He is afraid he won't live up to his full potential. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● He should invest in a coach. ● He should read The Way of the Superior Man, by David Deida, and other personal development books. ● He should work on shifting his belief system and get clear about what his vision is. ● Over the next 40 days, he should do 10 things that get him out of his comfort zone. ● He should make a schedule for himself and stick to it. Assignments and Takeaways: ● Go out and engage in behavior which pulls you out of your comfort zone, to develop trust in yourself. ● Commit to rewiring your brain. Visit NeuroGym to learn more. ● Stop obsessing about what you think is a liability. ● Show up fully for yourself, be your own word. Make commitments and don't break them. If you do break them, re-negotiate and start again. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler - Book a session to be on the show! Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] NeuroGym

"A core principle of my own life, and upon which this company was founded, is that one should leave everything and everyone better than you found them." Jordan Harbinger has always had an affinity for social influence, interpersonal dynamics, and social engineering, helping private companies test the security of their communications systems and working with law enforcement agencies before he was even old enough to drive. Forbes named him one of the 50 best relationship-builders anywhere and Inc. Magazine calls him "the Charlie Rose of Podcasting." Jordan has spent several years abroad in Europe and the developing world, including South America, Eastern Europe, and the Middle East, and speaks five languages. He has also worked for various governments and NGOs overseas, traveled through war zones, and been kidnapped — twice. The only reason he's still alive and kicking is because of his ability to talk his way into (and out of) just about any type of situation. Here at The Art of Charm, Jordan shares that experience, and the system borne as a result, with students and clients. Find Jordan at: Twitter Facebook YouTube Subscribe to The Art of Charm podcast in iTunes here.

This episode is about fulfillment and what to do when we start to feel restless, bored, or lose our passion for something. Today's caller, Corey, is feeling unfulfilled regarding his job, but many of you may be feeling unfulfilled in your romantic relationship or friendships. Corey thought the solution to his lack of fulfillment was changing his job, but he didn't know what to do instead. A lack of fulfillment often comes with a lack of clarity. Corey will gain clarity and feel fully, authentically self-expressed, the more he takes risks and listens to his heart. We think that changing the external situation of finding a new job, or finding someone new to be with, is the answer -- that is not often the solution. It could perpetuate the problem. So, what are you truly longing for? Tap into the longing, and instead of thinking you need to change your external circumstances, think about how you can give yourself what you are longing for, now. How can you take action, and create behaviors that support you? Before you quit your job, or end a relationship, get honest with yourself about what might be there for you to learn, and how you might be creating your own discontent. Often, we feel an inner call to reach out to someone, or to share something, and we ignore it. Please don't ignore it, because you never know what will happen. The only way you can get a no for sure, is if you never ask or never reach out. The only way you are ever going to fail, is if you never try. Regret is far more painful than risk. So, take that risk. Reach out to that person. Speak up. Do that thing your intuition has been nudging you to do. You never know how it will impact the person on the other end. Don't allow your self-doubt, or fear of another person's reaction, to stop you from listening to your heart. Let your intuition be louder than your inner critic. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Is there an area of your life in which you feel unfulfilled? Are you fantasizing about leaving your current job or relationship? ● Do you relate to being a "yes man," or a "yes woman"? Are you afraid to say no and stand up for yourself? ● Do you long to feel safe, validated, and accepted? Corey's Question: Corey is considering leaving his current job but is trying to figure out what is next for him. Corey's Key Insights and Aha's: ● He feels burnt out and unfulfilled in his current position. ● He felt he was always loved conditionally. ● He searches for external validation. ● He has no idea what is next for him. ● He comes up with excuses to keep himself safe. ● He doesn't feel authentically self-expressed. ● He realizes he has built a box around himself. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● He should take steps to change his behavior and take more risks. ● Transform himself in his current position, so he can move through the reactive energy. ● He should establish a better relationship with himself. ● He should listen to his heart, and act on his intuition. ● He should celebrate who he is, and receive the compliments given to him. ● He should carry a picture of his younger self, and when he is self-defeating he should look at his picture. Assignments and Takeaways: ● If you feel unfulfilled how can you take responsibility, and change on the inside, instead of making an external change? ● What did you crave when you were little that you didn't get, that you need to give yourself now? ● How can your current soul family support you in making changes? ● Take a deep breath and breathe into the truth of who you are. Then, set the intention to be more authentically self-expressed. ● Speak kindly to yourself. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler - Book a session to be on the show! Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected]

I have heard from so many listeners about how to deal with the Expectation Hangover they are experiencing regarding the presidential election in the states. This is a special edition of Coaches Corner where I share a few thoughts about this time and encourage you to choose love not fear. I also lead a guided meditation. I am reminded (and comforted) by the fact that sometimes a massive expectation hangover is needed to create massive change. This is a time where those of us who continue to choose love instead of fear are needed even more.

When we are so paralyzed by the fear of making mistakes or failing, we don't develop grit. Grit is what gives us confidence. If we don't have to figure things out on our own we find ourselves paralyzed when making choices as we get older. When parents place too many expectations on their children, their children may grow into adults that don't know what they truly want. If you are a millennial, take the pressure off of yourself to make the right choice and allow yourself to make a mistake. Failure is how you learn. If you are the boss, manager or parent of a millennial, stop making all of their decisions for them. This episode will be useful for ANYONE at any age. Today's caller, Lorena, is having a highly-charged emotional reaction to the circumstances in her life. The pressure of living up to parental expectations is clouding her ability to decide what she truly wants. ● If you are a millennial and you are having difficulty with your parents, remember you are the child. It is not your responsibility to live up to their expectations. ● If you are the parent of a millennial, it's time to let them go so they can be their own person. Let them make their own mistakes. Stop telling them who they are so they can discover it for themselves. ● If you relate to having a high-standard of achievement, don't let achievement to become your identity. Don't let your self-worth be hooked to your achievements. People get tripped up when they start with the end game instead of having a vision of how they would like to feel. Sometimes it is just about taking the first step. Consider where you may be holding yourself prisoner by letting someone else define you? How can you step into freedom by defining who you are and making your own choices? Coaches - Lorena's belief system was triggering her emotional response. As you can tell by her response, it was greater than what was necessary for what was really going on. Remember, there is what happens, and then what we make it mean. When working with people you want to honor and hold space for their emotions, at the same time ask questions to shift belief systems. Your goal is not to coddle a person but to get them into their insight. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Do you ever feel upset over something you shouldn't be so emotionally triggered by? ● Do you put a lot of pressure on yourself to live up to your own expectations or those of others? ● Have you received a lot of external validation for your achievements, and you constantly crave it? ● Do you feel that you owe someone something, or that you have something to prove? Lorena's Question: Lorena has recently decided to start over and go back to school to give herself the opportunity to do something greater. But, she doesn't know what she wants to do. Lorena's Key Insights and Aha's: ● She wants to have an end goal. ● She excelled at academics and was praised for it. ● She feels she doesn't meet her parent's expectations. ● She may be too emotionally upset to reach clarity. ● She doesn't want to end up resenting her parents. ● She appreciates the difference in her life and her parent's life. ● She should use the gifts her parents have given her. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should realize she is the child and she doesn't have to live her life according to their expectations. ● She should express her gratitude toward her parents, plus let them know she needs to make her own mistakes. ● She needs to stand in her own choices. ● She needs to let go of her guilt in order to be free to explore. ● She should write a letter to her parents and ask them to support her. ● She should listen to her inner voice. Assignments and Takeaways: ● If you are having a difficult situation with someone, write a letter to them, even if it is emotionally charged. ● If you experience heightened emotions, take a deep breathe and ask yourself "What do I know to be true in this moment?" ● What belief systems are you wearing that just don't fit anymore, or are they actually someone else's beliefs? Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler - Book a session to be on the show! Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] 20 Something, 20 Everything, by Christine Hassler

This is an incredibly important conversation to listen to. Alexandra and I talk about what is really underneath our food craving and how we can satisfy ourselves in a healthy and lasting way. As the best-selling author of Women, Food & Desire, co-creator and co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me, and highly-sought-after wellness expert for thousands, Alexandra Jamieson has made it her mission to empower women to create epic lives--by honoring their cravings and kicking body shame to the curb. She is the creator of The Crave Cast, a #1 rated podcast on iTunes where listeners from around the world are educated and captivated by thought-provoking interviews on wellness, cravings, sexuality, and more. Her work has been praised and adored by Oprah, The Today Show, Dr. Oz, Goop, Martha Stewart Living, the New York Times, CNN, Fox News, Elle, Marie Claire, USA Today, People, and the American Heart Association amongst many others. As a life-long learner, her wellness expertise has grown out of a decade of experience, as well as her education at the Natural Gourmet Institute, the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, and a certification in Applied Positive Psychology.

Are you hard on yourself, especially when it comes to your appearance? Do you do something, and then immediately wish you had done it differently? Many of us allow our inner critics to expend energy on low-frequency, physically exhausting, nasty, self-defeating self-talk. You may not realize it, but your self-talk influences the way other people receive you. If you are happy and filled with self-acceptance, you send out a good vibe. If you are negative or hard on yourself, you can suck the life right out of the room. Today's caller, Gabby, is struggling with her weight and self-worth. She is clinging to the away-from-motivation of 'if only I this,' and 'if only I that,' instead of using toward-motivation, to get what she really wants. During the call, Gabby's energy shifts as soon as we discuss creativity and connection. This toward-motivation practice allows her to focus her energy on what she wants to bring into her life, instead of what she wants to move away from. This practice is sustainable, because she is focusing her energy on a positive outcome instead of a negative one. Obsessing about appearance and weight is a waste of energy. If weight is something you struggle with read my book, Expectation Hangover, and: ● Find a new way to soothe yourself. ● Get a new way to feed your soul. ● Commit and take actions towards your commitments. ● Stop making your weight mean something negative about you. You are enough. You are lovable. You can change and heal anything in your life. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Are you making your self-worth and acceptance conditional? ● Do you struggle with body image issues? Has losing weight been a constant theme in your life? ● Does fear of rejection haunt you? Does it keep you from taking risks? ● What are the sneaky ways you're being selfish in your life? Gabby's Question: Gabby has felt rejected a lot lately and would like to know how she can not worry so much about what others think. Gabby's Key Insights and Aha's: ● She feels undesirable and fears she is not good enough. ● She has body image issues. ● Food is her only source of pleasure. ● She is self-obsessed. ● She is jeopardizing her relationships by making everything about her. ● She may be attracting rejection into her life when she does, because of her self-rejection. ● She hasn't asked God to love and support her in dealing with her issue. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should stop waiting for external validation to find her confidence. ● She should realize she is not alone in how she feels. ● She should create a joy and creativity plan for herself. ● She should be present, curious, and connected in an authentic way. ● She could ask God for assistance in letting go of her obsession with her weight. Assignments and Takeaways: ● If there is something you want to shift in your life, make a list of your 'toward' motivations. ● Make a list of what you are committed to, and get an accountability partner. ● Take on a role to shift your confidence, and change the way you see yourself. ● Pray for help with your growth. Ask for help in making the shifts in knowing who you truly are. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] Over It and On With It Initial Podcast Expectation Hangover, by Christine Hassler

This is a MUST LISTEN. One of my favorite people in the world and someone who is truly a soul brother to me, Aubrey Marcus, and I talk about purpose, relationship, having a tribe and going through the FIRE of life (aka the personal growth path). A little about Aubrey…. He is committed to empowering people to achieve their fullest human potential. He is the founder of Onnit, known for nutritional supplements based on a holistic health philosophy he calls Total Human Optimization. Aubrey Marcus has since grown Onnit into an industry leader, providing innovative peak performance supplements, foods, fitness equipment, and apparel. Aubrey has a degree in philosophy, a multi-sport athlete (check out his instagram page @aubreymarcus and see some of the crazy physical stuff) and lives life with intense focus and willingness to seek the Truth. He is about to start a new course which you can join in on "Go for your win" which you can learn more about at www.goforyourwin.com And get a discount on any Onnit product at www.onnit.com/christine

The human experience is a beautiful thing, even when it's challenging. It is sacred when someone is vulnerable. Today's caller, Toni, shares her vulnerability as she asks for guidance. She reveals that many of the decisions of her life come from a place of fear. Toni is confused about what security and love really are. We talk about having a relationship with a higher power especially after she has gone through times in her life when she didn't feel there was any kind of God. There IS some kind of higher power. There are so many names for it, so many ways people interpret it, but to me, it is infinite unconditional love. It may be hard to believe in any kind of God, when there is so much suffering in the world. The best way I can attempt to understand all the horrible things that happen, is that they happen as a result of human choice and free will. While many human choices are still made from a place of pain and fear, we are in a time of awakening. We are in a massive shift in consciousness. What is available to us all, is to make the choice to see the world through spiritual eyes. See ourselves through more spiritual eyes, without judgment; to see through the eyes of infinite and unconditional love. To heal our own pain that is preventing us from feeling connected to a higher power. We are moving into more acceptance, forgiveness and gratitude. If you are craving a deeper spiritual connection, please don't wait for God to prove itself to you -- instead, open your heart, and pray to be shown the way. You are a spiritual being having a human experience. You are one. You are love. You are connected. Consider/Ask Yourself: ● Do you feel you are operating more out of fear than faith? ● Are you making a lot of decisions with fear or self-doubt? ● Are you a people pleaser, who is afraid of disappointing people? ● Is connecting to a higher power challenging to you? If you do have a connection, would you like to deepen it? ● Are there situations in your life that make you doubt whether a God exists? Toni's Question: Toni feels all aspects of her life are affected by her making decisions from a place of fear. She would like to find a way to think more productively. Toni's Key Insights and Aha's: ● She fears failing and disappointing people. ● Her self-worth is based on her people pleasing. ● She's confused about what security and love really are. ● She hasn't felt protected, or connected to her spirituality, since her father passed. ● She feels like she would be clearer, if she had a spiritual connection. ● She has been operating in survival mode. ● She should know she is not broken. ● She can change her relationship with herself, today. ● She can focus on her blessings, not on her fears. How to Get Over It and On With It: ● She should realize she can access her spirituality. ● She should start processing her pain, and remove judgment, to arrive at forgiveness and love. ● She should put herself in an environment where she can heal. ● She can start cultivating her relationship with God, by talking to him/her. Assignments and Takeaways: ● What is in your way of a connection to a higher power? ● What is keeping you in patterns of people pleasing and indecision? ● Do you have old trauma that needs to be processed? ● What beliefs may be keeping you from having beliefs? ● What religious upbringing did you have, which no longer resonates with you? ● You need to find which truth resonates with you. ● Look for a spiritual community of people who are committed to awakening, and who know we are all connected to source. ● Start to develop a relationship with your higher power. ● Pray. Pray for experiences, feelings, and pray to be shown the way. Sponsor: Audible - Free audiobook download and a 30-day free trial. Resources: Christine Hassler Christine Hassler Podcasts Christine Hassler Free E-book Find me on Snapchat @chrishassler @christinhassler on Twitter @christinehassler on Instagram [email protected] Over It and On With It Initial Podcast

So much good stuff in this coaches corner. Everything from dealing with a break-up, to dating tips (learn how to write a great online profile), to being better in your relationship. Listen to my friend and incredible dating coach, Marni Battista and I share about love and dating. A little more about Marni: Marni Battista has a Masters in Education and is a Certified Life Coach by the International Coaching Federation. She is also a Master Practitioner at administering an Energy Assessment, "The D-Factor," that helps clients pinpoint exactly why they are, or are not date-able, and what types of messages they are unconsciously broadcasting to others based on their thoughts, feelings, actions and attitudes. Marni is also trained as a Facilitator and Mentor Trainer by the Hoffman Institute, a world-renowned leader in personal development. In addition, Marni is the on-camera Dating & Relationship Coach to Tristan Couveras, star of the new hit reality TV show, "ControlTV," produced by Seth Green and Ken Fuchs, producer of "The Bachelor." Get so much more from her here: http://datingwithdignity.com