Knowledge For Men

Babette Hughes, did not start writing until her 80's and has now become a prolific author of books like The Red Scar, The Hat and Lost and Found, and co-author of Why College Students Fail. Now 93, she writes every day with a fluidity and grace of a woman half her age; her most recent novel is Searching For Vivian. Her earned wisdom has enriched her contributions to the Huffington Post. Favorite Success Quote "When you accept the events that happen to you, you accept life, and when you accept life, life accepts you" Key Points 1. Stop Worrying About the Pressures of Society As a man, society places tremendous pressure on you to live up to the standards it has unrealistically set. If you don't drive the fastest car, own the biggest house, have the biggest paycheck, lift the most weight, be the most masculine and classically manly man yet also be the most sensitive and kind hearted lover that you can be then you have failed tremendously. Men, just stop! Live your life, love your life and be there for the people who really matter. You will not be on your death bed wishing you had made more money or owned a bigger house, you will wish that you had spent more time doing things you love with people you love. Life is too darn short to be unhappy. 2. Don't Fear Failure, Embrace It Mistakes are often looked at as a failure, something that you cannot recover from and something that will permanently tarnish your name. This isn't true. Mistakes and failures are how you learn and how you grow into the man you need to be. They teach you valuable lessons about what is truly important and about the kind of person you should aspire to be. Use failures, don't regret them. 3. Life Takes Time When you are young, you always want to move faster than necessary and try and get to the next checkpoint in life. You want to become the man you dream of over night. But life takes time. And that's the way that it should be. Enjoy the journey and don't rush it.

Sarah Jones is an online entrepreneur and dating coach for men who helps introverted men unleash the power inside of them to attract and date the beautiful women that they desire by expressing themselves openly and authentically, and avoiding the gimmicks of the PUA community. Favorite Success Quote "Enjoy the hell out of being you" Key Points 1. Love Being You The first step that is essential to becoming a powerful man who can authentically relate with and attract the women he desires is simply to love being you. Love who you are! Love your weirdness, your quirky traits, your dreams and goals, your hobbies, your flaws, and your strengths. Many people suggest that loving yourself often causes people to steer away from personal development, but the opposite is actually true. If you genuinely love yourself and love who you are, what is the more loving thing to do? To allow yourself to live a mediocre life held back by fear and doubt? Or to break free and step into the life that you know you can achieve? 2. You Have to Live by Your Values to Truly Attract Women One of the reasons that many shy guys fail with women whenever attempting "pick up" is that the techniques and tactics taught in the pickup community, even among those who encourage you to be authentic and genuinely relate, are often out of line with the values that you may hold being an introverted male. If you value genuine conversation and connection and are then told that you have to go to loud bars and clubs start dry humping on the dance floor to attract girls, you will feel disingenuous and it will come across in your interactions. 3. Break the Touch Barrier Quickly One of the ways that many introverts fail with women is that they are quickly "friend zoned" because they have a difficult time breaking the touch barrier. A woman will never see you in a sexual light if you are not able to comfortable touch her in a respectful way (and quickly) This does not mean you have to be groping and grab assing, it simply means that being able to initiate a playful touch on the arm or shoulder, or placing your hand on her knee to emphasize a segment of a story you are telling, will go a long way in having her see you as a potential boyfriend and a not a potential friend to cry to when her boyfriend turns out to be an asshole. 4. Your Inner World will be Reflected In Your Approaches Women have a sixth sense when it comes to how you are showing up in the world. If you are inwardly feeling unconfident, very unsure of yourself, and unworthy of the girl you are trying to spark attraction with. it will come across and she will be able to tell almost immediately. You have to first develop the inner confidence and put yourself in situations where you can be yourself (for example if you love music, go join a music meet up instead of trying to force going out to night clubs and bars), and then you will be able to meet and attract women easily and naturally.

Dale Partridge is a social entrepreneur and founder of Sevenly.org and StartupCamp.com. Described as "a mind who feels the trends before market," Partridge teaches leaders and organizations how to position their brand, love their people, and develop profitable corporate social responsibility programs. He's a renowned expert on branding, consumer psychology, and marketplace trends. He is an avid speaker and has been featured in various business publications including the cover of Entrepreneur Magazine, Fox News, NBC, INC Magazine, Mashable, MSN Money, Forbes and the Los Angeles Times. Dale resides with his family in Bend, Oregon. Favorite Success Quote "Never get too busy making a living that you forget to make a life"~Dolly Parton Key Points 1. Accountability is Key On your path to becoming the best man that you can be, there are a couple of key ingredients that, if you are lacking, will cause you to fail miserably. One of those keys is accountability. You have to have strong men in your life who are willing to speak truth and push you to become your best self. Men who are willing to call you out on your weaknesses and affirm your strengths. Without a strong support system you will fail. It is essential to your success as a man, in business, marriage, and personal growth that you develop this accountability and stick to it. 2. Men Are Overly Courageous in Business and Fearful in Family A huge problem with men today is that they are courageous in business and timid in their family lives. They draw all of this satisfaction from succeeding on the front of business, making millions and achieving their dreams, that they forget to be good fathers, husbands, and sons. If you want to live up to your full potential as a man, you have to have a balance between both. You have to succeed in business so that you can provide for your family, but you also have to be willing to sacrifice a bigger paycheck to be the man that your family needs. 3. Build Generosity into Your Life One of the cornerstones of being a good man is being generous. If you want to live a life of purpose and fulfillment, build generosity into your life, don't sprinkle it in as an afterthought. Give your time, money, and resources to charities that you believe in, be willing to listen to the homeless guy on the street, sit and have a conversation with someone in need. Be generous in all areas of your life and it will come back to you, but more importantly, at the end of the day when you meet your maker, you will have a clean conscience and a full heart.

Dr. Roberto Canessa., is one of the 16 survivors of the Uruguayan Air Force Flight 571, which crashed in the Andes mountains on October 13, 1972 Favorite Success Quote "Don't wait for the helicopters to rescue you" Key Points 1. You Have to Rescue Yourself In life, no one is coming to save you, there are no helicopters on the way, you have to rescue yourself. In business, there is no one coming with that promotion you aren't willing to work and ask for, in relationships, there are no beautiful women waiting in line to marry you while you play video games and live a mundane life, there is no magic pill to make you the best version of yourself, you have to choose to be the best, and fight for it every day. You have to rescue yourself. 2. Know there is Hope No matter how bleak things look right now, know that there is hope, there is always something better waiting for you if you are willing to have patience and put in the work. No matter how hard it is, no matter how much you want to give up, stay strong and have hope. 3. Take it One Step at a Time If you want to succeed at anything, just take it one step at a time. Don't think about the massive journey ahead of you, just think about the natural next step, think about the one thing that you need to do today. If you can have laser focus on the next thing you need to accomplish your success in life and business will skyrocket. 4. Don't Wait for the Plane to Crash Life is beautiful and we have so much to be grateful for. Don't wait for your plane to crash to realize that. Spend time every day in thanks, thinking about the people, things, and experiences you love. Just be grateful and allow the world to spin in its own way without worrying about it.

Chris Duffin is an accomplished power lifter, coach and gym owner, he holds the world record for the raw squat in the 220 lb weight class and holds a Guinness World Record for the most weight deadlifted in 1 minute with 42 reps at 405 lbs. He is the head coach and co owner at the Elite Performance Center. Favorite Success Quote Reject complacency like it's a poison, chase your vision like its your last breath, this is your path to achieving greatness" Key Points 1. Reject Complacency and Live in Fear If you are not growing then you are dying. If you are a driven man who wants to achieve great things in your life and you take the action necessary to achieve those things, then odds are, you will come to a point in your life where you are comfortable. You will have made your millions, become successful with women, possibly having the dream wife, the big house, and the passive income business. But this is when life becomes most dangerous. Life is unpredictable and volatile. Once you achieve success you are at your most vulnerable because this is when you feel that you have permission to stop growing and pushing yourself. This is something that you must root out of your life like a cancer. You have to constantly grow, reject complacency, and live in fear. Live in fear because you are doing things that you don't know you will be able to achieve, things that are making you better and making you stronger. 2. Success Builds Trust If you want people to trust you, show them results. If you have a proven track record behind your name, then people will naturally support you when you start to take on more and more challenging tasks and activities. How can you expect your family to trust you in starting and growing a new business when you haven't even achieved success in your current job? How can you expect business partners and investors to trust you when you have no proof of your abilities. Do what it takes to become successful and later, whenever you are making bigger and bigger leaps, you will already have the trust of the important people in your life. 3. Prioritize Your Life The age old excuse that you don't have time for something is just a big lie you keep telling yourself. You have time for whatever you prioritize, and if you do not prioritize business, health or relationships, then they will suffer, there's no way around it. If you want to achieve greatness then you have to prioritize it.

Craig Filek is a father, a depth coach and highly attuned facilitator bringing over 20 years of experience in transformative men's work, shadow work and authentic relating to his unique process for radically clarifying your purpose, making a powerful contribution, and stepping into your flow Favorite Success Quote "In every adversity lies the seed in an equivalent or greater benefit"~Napoleon Hill Key Points 1. Learn to Be With Yourself Part of becoming the man that you were born to be is to discover who you are and to learn to be ok with your shadow, unafraid and bold in accepting who you are. To achieve this level of self knowledge and acceptance, you have to be willing to spend time in solitude truly delving into yourself and allowing yourself the space to grow. Whether this is through meditation, time in nature or journaling doesn't matter. What matters is that you make time for yourself to be alone with yourself and truly come to know and accept who you are. 2. You Have to Have a Rite of Passage to Become the Best Man You Can Be To truly thrive as a man, you must, even according to your own biology, go through a rite of passage that challenges you and leaves you a better man than before. Whether this is a retreat, solo trip around the world, starting a business, or competing in a boxing match, you need to have something that marks your transition into manhood and a new life, no matter how old or experienced you are. 3. Create a Life Map A powerful exercise to help you unlock your potential and become the man you need to be is to create a life map. Include your overarching purpose for the next 6 years, milestones along the way to help keep you motivated and on track, a daily one thing to focus on, and a list of daily habits to help you become the man you were born to be. No matter whether your purpose is to become the biggest name in personal growth, a pro musician, or simply to be the best damn father you can, breaking everything down in this way will help you to organize your life and goals in a simple way that you can easily follow and use to achieve your purpose.

This is David's second appearance on the show, he's back and better than before. For those of you who are not familiar with David Wygant, he is an internationally-renowned dating and relationship coach, author and speaker. Through his boot camps, personal coaching and his website, his advice has transformed the dating lives and relationships of hundreds of thousands of people from every corner of the globe. His funny — yet always direct — approach to dating, sex and relationships has revolutionized how people meet and interact with the opposite sex. Over the last thirteen years, David has become one of the most frequently-quoted dating experts in the media. He offers his advice as a lead writer for Yahoo! Personals, AskMen, Huffington Post and across television segments, newspapers and magazines, including MTV, The New York Times, MSNBC, Fox News, Cosmopolitan, Men's Health and E! Entertainment Television — as well as on over 2,000 radio shows. Key Points 1. Get Off Social Media and CONNECT People have lost their ability to connect. We spend our days on social media, constantly swiping and liking our lives away while the real juice of life passes us by. If you want to live a life that is full, full of love, passion, and joy, you have to put down the phone and learn to connect with people, get excited about who you will meet and what you will learn each day and turn your damn phone off! No man will ever go to his grave regretting that he didn't have enough facebook followers, but many men die void of true love and connection because they were never willing to put down their devices and connect. 2. You Are Good Enough Society, our family, and our friends have sold us a lie that we are not good enough. We have been taught that because we are not like someone else that we are somehow inferior and less worthy of love and success than others. This is b.s. You are who you are for a reason, embrace it! If you are a nerd, be a nerd, a gym rat, then be a gym rat, if you are a hopeless romantic, then embrace it and be who you are! Don't let anyone or anything tell you that you are not good enough. 3. Give Love Freely All that matters in life is our ability to love. If you want to be happy and fulfilled, then give love freely. Love other people, love the world you live in, love your family, your friends, and don't expect anything in return. As soon as you do this, the universe will open up doors and your life will be a roller coaster ride of joy, love, and connection. 4. Be Totally Present Stop worrying about tomorrow. Quit spending your precious time focused on things that don't matter. Unplug and learn to love, to be totally present and there with everyone you meet. Life is too short to live in the future. Give love and presence and your life will be more joyful and amazing than you can imagine.

Dennis Meyers was a normal everyday man until he suffered from a car accident that left him paralyzed from the waist down. After years of struggling to find joy and fulfillment in his new life, he discovered a way to make peace with his accident and has written about it in his book "You Have not a Leg to Stand On". Favorite Success Quote "You've just got to go on" Key Points 1. You Have Just got to Go On Life will knock you down, it will throw punches that put you on your knees, it will shatter you and batter you and try and keep you on the ground, but you have just got to go on. Everyone will suffer in life, especially if you ever intend to do something great with yourself, the key is not if you suffer, but how you suffer. You must accept the hardships and move on with your life, grin and bear it, be willing to laugh in the face of pain. There is little else that you can do, and allowing life to knock you down is a surefire recipe, not just for failure in business, but failure in life. 2. Learn to Take Life as it Is Just as life will knock you down and you must learn to keep moving, so will life present you with situations and circumstances that aren't ideal. While many people will moan and gripe about how unfair life is, the wiser man realizes that if there is nothing he can do to change the situation, he must simply take life as it is. Make peace with the pain, because sometimes it's all you can do. 3. Put Yourself Second While life may be difficult at times, and may present massive challenges to many people, life is much more challenging if you are operating from a selfish perspective. You have to be willing to put yourself second, to live for something bigger than just you, to truly live a life of service, if you want to find peace in this life. Serving others is the quickest way to remind yourself of all that you have to be grateful for and all the amazing blessings you have in your life.

Craig Ballantyne has been the Editor of Early to Rise since 2011. He's also a Strength & Conditioning coach in Toronto, author of Turbulence Training, a contributing author to Men's Health magazine, and a member of the Training Advisory Board for Maximum Fitness and Oxygen magazines. Favorite Quote "Success is simple" "First say to yourself what you would be; and then do what you have to do"~Epictietus Key Points 1. The First Mistake You Make in the Morning is Reacting vs. Responding In the mornings, it is so easy to sleep through your alarm, start your morning in a frenzy and get put into a mode of reaction vs. responding. When you start your day this way, the day is already lost, you have already fallen into the trap of reacting to your environment instead of responding to circumstances that you had already planned and prepared for. To beat this, wake up 15 minutes before you have to and focus on your goals. Not one hours, not two hours, just 15 minutes. 15 minutes to allow yourself to focus your intentions for the day and get into peak state. Consider it a gift to yourself, and after a few weeks of this your results and productivity will sky rocket. 2. Do a Brain Dump at the End of the Day As we go on through our days, our brains become cluttered with all sorts of stuff from work, family, personal struggles, past failures, and future worries. At the end of each day, do what is referred to as a brain dump, where you sit and write out everything that is on your mind so that you are no longer mulling over it while you should be present. Doing this will allow you to clear your head and show up fully whenever you are with your family, relaxing at the end of the day, hanging out with friends, or anything else that you decide to do. 3. Create a Vision Statement One of the most important things that you can do is to decide where you are going and who you want to be and condense this into a mission statement that will remind you of your goals and keep you on track when decision making becomes difficult. By having a vision that you are moving towards, you will stay focused on where you are headed instead of the pain of sacrificing pleasure in the moment for gain in the future. 4. Its not what you can do but what you can avoid doing A significant portion of success is not just knowing what to do, but knowing what to avoid doing. If you can understand your stumbling blocks, the things that cause you to fail and fall, and the distractions that prevent you from achieving at the level that you want to be, then you have won half of the battle. By finding ways to use accountability and leverage to eliminate these distractions entirely, you will boost your productivity, happiness, and success 10 fold over. 5. Create Personal Commandments In adittion to your vision statement, one of the best ways to add structure and simplicity into your life is to create personal commandments, rules that you follow no matter what that can guide you and make decisions easy. Some examples of personal commandments could be I will not watch adult content I will limit alcohol consumption to 3x a week, and never more than 2 drinks a night I will stay faithful to my wife no matter the temptation I will always give 10% of my income to a noble charity I can't tell you what your commandments should be, but having a list of rules and guidelines that you follow is absolutely essential to becoming the man you want to be. 6. Structure Creates Freedom Throughout much of the interview Craig discusses creating rules and guidelines for your life, and many of you may be turned off by the concept. But what you may not realize is that structure creates freedom. By having rules in place you are free making difficult decisions based solely off of emotion, by having structure in your life, you will increase your success and free time and have more freedom to pursue the things you love and spend time with people that you love. 7. Follow the Law of Action Attraction While many peopele may ascribe to the "Secret's" law of attraction, Craig suggests the law of action attraction. Basically focus on what you want, create the vision board, write the goals out, say your affirmations, and then take MASSIVE ACTION to achieve those goals. Surround yourself with A+ players, create a mastermind, enlist the help of smarter people to aid you in achieving your goals, and take massive action. Not only will you attract what you want into your life, but you will have taken the proper proportion of action required to ensure that you are ready for it. 8. Before You Start on the Journey Ask If It's Worth It Before you start down any journey, you must decide if it's worth it. You have to have a strong enough reason for doing anything, or you will fail,. Plain and simple. Whether the journey is a new instrument, sport, business, or relationship, ask if it is worth it before you begin and compare the opportunity to your vision statement and personal commandments

Jack Donovan is an author known for his writing on masculinity and tribalism. He is the author of The Way of Men which answers the question, "what is masculinity?" Favorite Success Quote "There is a difference between being good at being a man and being a good man." – Jack Donovan Key Points 1. Build Your Strength If you want to be seen as a real man and have the self-confidence and respect that comes with it, then you must become a master of the four tactical virtues: Strength, courage, mastery and honor. Strength is just what it sounds like. If you want to be a truly masculine man, you need to have a high level of physical and mental strength. You must be able to lift heavy objects, endure pain, and handle yourself in conflict. Subconsciously, women and other men will judge you based on your perceived strength. If you are constantly displaying signs of weakness in your body, your mentality, or your conviction, you will lose trust from the people who matter most and lack the confidence you need to thrive in life. 2. Be Courageous Courage, the second virtue, is typically a by-product of strength. Whenever you have high levels of self-confidence and real strength that you have tested in battle (the gym or the octagon), you will be able to charge into unknown situations with courage and fearlessness. This is imperative for success in all areas of life. How can a woman trust you if you don't have the courage to speak your mind and be honest with her? How can you business partners trust you if you don't have the courage to make difficult decisions? How can you trust yourself if you are constantly cowering away from challenges and never pushing yourself to be more? The more courage you display, the greater trust you will have in yourself and the more trust others will place in you. 3. Practice Mastery The third tactical virtue and the topic of much discussion in recent years, mastery is what truly separates the boys from the men. Regardless of the craft, all men respect a master. They respect a master marksman, a master programmer, a master weight lifter, master seducer, and a master entrepreneur. If you want to truly be held in the highest level of esteem by your peers and by society, then you must commit yourself to mastery. Whatever craft you decide to master, you must be willing to endure the brutal hours and sustained periods of practice. But at the end of the day, when you are one of the greatest in the world, all of the pain and hardship will be worth it, and you can consider yourself an even better man. 4. Embrace the Importance of Honor Honor, the final of the four tactical virtues is where the rubber truly meets the road. If you are strong, courageous, and masterful, but you do not have honor, if other men cannot trust you, if you do not keep your word, and you do not manage your reputation, then you are not a real man. Honor is not about dying for a noble cause or serving in battle, it's simply about guarding your reputation. It's about doing what you said you would do and showing up in all situations with integrity and conviction. Without honor, the other four virtues are for naught. 5. Build Your Tribe and Complete Your Rite To embrace masculinity and become the best man that you can be, you must build your tribe of men and go through a rite of passage. Men need time with other men away from the influence of women. We need time to fight and be wild, time to embrace our wildness, and time to let it all out. Once you have found that group, it's important that you undergo some sort of rite of passage signaling your passage from boyhood to manhood. It might seem simple, but creating an intentional rite and seeing it through is one of the most powerful things that you can do both for your psyche and your confidence.

Steven DeSalvo's first book 'Relationship Dynamics' in the EVOLVE series helps to answer the question: 'How can we change our world and the course of human evolution with positive outcomes for this planet and all of its inhabitants? This first book in this series has helped many to change and navigate to healthier relationship dynamics. As a certified Permaculturist, his goal is to serve others in the attaining their highest evolutionary potential through writings and personal appearances to increase awareness and personal responsibility. He moved to northern California in 2011 where he now resides and works as an independent writer, publisher, speaker and life coach. Often called a Renaissance man, Steven DeSalvo has a diverse background of creative, artistic, business and personal interests including writing and blogging on his web site www.BecomeAnAdult.com. Favorite Success Quote "Live your true authentic self"~Steven DeSalvo Key Points 1. Introspection is the First Step to Better Relationships You will never succeed in relationships with others until you are in a great relationship with yourself. And creating a great relationship with yourself requires that you spend time in introspection, truly learning who you are and falling deeply in love with yourself. If you want to develop healthy relationships with others, start by spending time by yourself and investing in the man that you want to be, the rest will follow. 2. You Have to Create Systems for Conflict Resolution In all relationships, no matter how "perfect" they may seem, you will face conflicts. It is inevitable. But what separates relationships that last from those that crash and burn is. There is such a thing as an elegant argument, but you have to be willing to let go of your need to be right. Put yourself in your partner's shoes, truly listen to them and what they are saying, not just the words that are coming out of their mouths, but the underlying message behind everything that they say. If you do this, your relationships will be happier, you will be happier, and life will be far more fulfilling. 3. A Healthy Relationship is Two People Setting Each Other Free A healthy relationship is two people setting each other free, it is not one person completing another person, or one individual trying to fix another individual, it is two whole individuals who both have something unique to offer each other, coming together and sharing their gifts, talents, and love with one another. If you get into relationships looking for someone to complete you, you will always be disappointed, but if you go into relationships looking for someone who is already complete whom you can join with and create an amazing life together, you will live a life of fulfilling and happy relationship.

Neil Strauss is the author of the New York Times bestsellers The Game, Rules of the Game, Emergency, and Everyone Loves You When You're Dead and The Truth, An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships He is also the co-author of three other New York Times bestsellers – Jenna Jameson's How to Make Love Like a Porn Star, Mötley Crüe's The Dirt and Marilyn Manson's The Long Hard Road out of Hell. A writer for Rolling Stone, Strauss lives in Los Angeles. Favorite Quote "The underlying cause of most unfulfilled lives, is simply that we are too close to ourselves to see clearly enough to get out of our own way"~Neil Strauss Key Points 1. Understand how to Gauge Feedback Life will often give you feedback about how you are doing across various areas. You may find yourself repeating the same patterns, getting into the same type of relationships, or making the same mistakes. Whatever the case, if you want to make a change you have to gauge feedback. You have to look at the patterns in your life and discover what lesson they are trying to teach you. What does it say about you and your life that you are constantly dating the same type of girl and falling into the traps of "project dating"? What can you learn from the fact that you are constantly losing jobs after a few months? Take a cold hard, honest look at your life and look at what the feedback is telling you and then change accordingly. 2. Your Level of Self Esteem will Equal the Level of Your Relationships Have you ever heard the phrase opposites attract? Well that's bull shit. Like attracts like, and if you are finding yourself getting into relationships with women where you are both in an unhealthy emotional relationship, odds are, your own self esteem is lacking. If you want to attract better women, first become better yourself and change what you accept from others and from yourself. If you have low self esteem you will never be able to attract a woman with high self esteem, and if you have high self esteem, you will never get sucked into a toxic relationships with a woman who has low self esteem. 3. Finding Your Passion is Simple If you want to find your purpose, and passion, do stuff you love. That's it. If you love doing something, then keep doing it, don't worry about whether it's your real purpose or whether you should change careers to follow the money, simply do things that you love doing and you will never fail.

Ryan Michler is the founder of the Order of Man blog and podcast which helps men to master the 8 core areas of their life. He is also the founder of his own financial planning firm and a veteran of the Iraqi war. Favorite Success Quote "I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, and most of them never happened"~Mark Twain Key Points 1. Most of Your Fears Will Never Be Realized Something that most men never realize until it is too late, is that most of the things that they fear will never come to fruition, and lead lives of quiet desperation, paralyzed by fear, and unable to take action. Odds are, if you start that business you won't go bankrupt, if you take that trip you won't get kidnapped and murdered, if you ask that girl out you won't get wine splashed on your face and cursed out. Most of your fears are completely irrational and will never actually happen. Realize this, take the steps necessary to mitigate risks, and GET ON LIVING! 2. Who Are You Not to Start? One of the questions that inevitably comes up for most men whenever they look to start a business, improve their body, or their dating lives is "Who am I to do this?" Let me ask you a better question "Who are you not to do this?" Are you really so selfish that you would rob the world of your gifts, talents, and abilities out of fear? Are you really so selfish that you would rob your family, your friends, and your country of the amazing changes and difference that you can bring about simply because you don't feel worthy? How dare you even consider keeping your gifts inside of you! You have a responsibility to share yourself and your gifts with the world, in fact, you cannot be a "real" man until you do so. 3. Take Small Steps to Get Where You Want Whenever you have a big goal, it's easy to get frustrated and overwhelmed with how far you are from your goal. But the simple way to get around this frustration is to take small daily action. If you want to start a business, begin by simply writing on your blog every night for an hour after work, if you want to get in better shape, start by doing 10 pushups every morning and adding one each day, if you want to get better with women, start by just casually talking to girls in line at the grocery store. Your goals don't have to be big and scary. Start small and keep taking daily actions and you will get there. 5. Self Mastery is About Virtue Often times, people wonder what the meaning of self master is, and simply put, it's about mastering virtue. It's about integrity and doing the right thing even when it's hard. It's about saying no to watching adult websites even though you want to, about saying no to having another drink despite the jeers of your social circle, it's about staying faithful to your spouse, and it's about doing what you said you would do no matter what.

Richard La Ruina is an entrepreneur London's top dating coach, and author of "The Natural." He has spent the past 10 years of his life building his company PUA training and traveling the world teaching men how to have better relationships and overcome their limiting beliefs with women. Favorite Quote "Do not think that what is hard for you to master is humanly impossible. And if it is humanly possible, it is within your reach"~Marcus Aurelius Key Points 1. What One Man Can Do Another Man Can Do If there is anything you want to accomplish, no matter how difficult and impossible it may seem, know that if one man can do it, so can you. Whether your goal is to create a 7 figure lifestyle business, date the girl of your dreams and overcome your social anxiety, or build the ripped sexy physique you've always dreamed of, if someone else has achieved it so can you. What one man can do, another man can do. If it's been done it can be done again. 2. Learn to Delegate Effectively As you work towards building a life on your terms you have to realize that there will come a point when you have to let go and learn to delegate. The goal of every entrepreneur should be to run his business and not let his business run him. If you can build an incredible team who can effectively do the things which you dislike and allow you to focus all of your energy on the things that you enjoy, your life and your business will flourish and you will experience more fulfillment and joy as a result. 3. Freedom Brings More Happiness than Money A mistake that many novice's make when it comes to the pursuit of happiness is assuming that more money will always mean more happiness. The truth is that happiness comes from having an impact and having freedom. Who do you think is happier? The corporate CEO earning $2,000,000 a year who works 80 hours a week with only one weeks vacation, or the lifestyle entrepreneur who earns $90,000 a year and spends his time traveling, enjoying time with his family, and pursuing his passions? Pursue freedom, not an extra 0 in your bank account. 4. Stuff Doesn't Make the Man So often in dating and relationship, men think that if they have all the right stuff, all the money, the nice clothes, the expensive cars, then attracting beautiful women will be a cake walk. However, nothing is further from the truth. Material objects don't make a man attractive, personality, charm, passion, and humor are what make a man attractive. While money can certainly boost your odds once you have the character traits in place, they do not work as an end all be all. 5. You Can't Find Your Purpose without Exposure So often you hear people complaining that they do not know their purpose and their passions, but the simple fact is, they haven't gotten their ass away from the TV in weeks and have experienced so little of life, they wouldn't know their passion if it kicked them in the balls. If you want to find what your purpose is and find what you are passionate about, you have to expose yourself to new and exciting things, take that salsa class, start that business, try things and fail. Only by exposing yourself to new things will you have a chance at finding that one thing that you want to dedicate part of your life to.

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby holds a PhD in counseling psychology and is a licensed marriage and family therapist. She is also a board-certified life coach based in Colorado. Dr. Bobby has appeared numerous times on news programs around the country (FOX 5 New York, CBS News Denver, FOX 35 Orlando) as a relationship expert, and has been featured on Time.com and in the New York Post, Natural Health magazine, and New York Magazine. She is one of nine national dating coaches trained at the headquarters of Match.com and is a featured expert with EXaholics.com, a 12-step breakup recovery platform. Favorite Success Quote "Act from your values instead of your feelings" Key Points 1. Internalizing Your Problems will not Solve Them So often as men, after something that is emotional and difficult, we decide to internalize our emotions due to the societal conditioning (e.g. just be a man and get over it). However, this path rarely if ever is the solution. Men were made for companionship and finding a friend or family member who can help them cope with the pain and be there to hold the space whenever they are struggling is absolutely essential. If you are not already, find a mentor or a men's group where you can be yourself and talk about your issues without judgement. Breakups suck, they suck worse alone. 2. Stressful Relationships Create More Intrigue One of the more interesting things about relationships is that relationships which have an element of "stress" or uncertainty and mystery tend to be more intense and more emotional, regardless of how much face time you got with the person. As your emotions are triggered with all of the excitement and confusion around your partner and their upcoming actions, you begin to become emotionally invested. This is why relationships that may have been short lived can still be emotionally devastating when they finish. Realize that stressful relationships are a double edged sword. While they can elicit a great response from women and create a number of amazing adventures together, they can also do a lot of emotional damage if not handled properly. 3. You Have to Realize that Ex-aholism is a Genuine Problem Because of how our society views break ups and relationships, it is often easy to fall into the trap of believing that ex-aholism is not a real problem, even when you find yourself up until the early hours of the morning Facebook stalking your ex girlfriend. Like any addiction, the first step to recovery is admitting that your ex is a problem and is still plaguing your emotional life. Once you do this, you are operating from a place of power where you can move forward in your recovery. 4. This too Shall Pass Something you must realize as you go through all the phases of recovery is that this too shall pass. Your biochemistry is messed up from the last relationship and it's a natural part of human life. Realize this and accept that there will be pain for a while but there will be a light at the end of the tunnel. You will be able to move on and have the relationships you've been wanting for so long. You will create the life you have been dreaming of and you will no longer struggle with depression over your ex. This too shall pass, just hold on and make it through.

John Lee Dumas is the host of the wildly successful 7-day podcast, Entrepreneur on Fire, and creator of several high level masterminds and business courses for aspiring entrepreneurs and podcasters. John has created a multimillion dollar company with Entrepreneur on Fire and continues to grow his brand and business with books, courses, and seminars. Favorite Success Quote "Try not to become a person of success but rather a person of value"~Albert Einstein Key Points 1. Work on Being of Value So often in today's society and achievement driven market place, we focus so heavily on being a man of success that we forget to be a man of value. We worry more about how others perceive us and how our possessions are ranked against other men that we never pause and slow down to realize that the important thing is who you are and not what you have. So focus on being a man of value, a man of character, of honesty, of kindness, and compassion, and everything else will follow. 2. Embrace the 7-2 Lifestyle If you want to experience financial freedom and really live the life of your dreams, you need to get on your grind and embrace the 7-2 lifestyle. Aka working from 7 p.m. to 2 a.m. If you have a family, with bills, a house and all the other bells and whistles and you aren't pleased with where you are, then investing your time in the evenings on your side hustle is truly the best way to escape the grind and achieve the financial freedom you desire. 3. Provide Great Value and the Money will Come Most of us who start businesses expect to see revenue flow immediately, however, this is almost never the case. If you want to build a kickass income online, then you have to start with offering kickass value for free to your audience. You have to give away your best work, build trust and get raving fans, and after a period of time (it took John 9 months of daily podcasts before he made any income) you will reap the financial rewards. 4. Invest in Yourself and Get Out of Your Comfort Zone People will often say that once they are successful, then they will start investing in themselves, in their health, their knowledge, their abilities etc. however the truth is that you will never achieve any real success until you start investing in yourself and getting outside of your comfort zone. The quickest way to ensure financial freedom and success is through massive personal development, because their is rarely a man who's income exceeds his level of personal development. Realize that this doesn't have to be expensive either. You can rent a book from a library, find old personal growth tapes online, take cold showers, journal, or even use your work as a way to grow your patience and tenacity. Do whatever you have to do, but keep on growing. 5. Balance is Key For type-A "alpha" males, taking time off and balancing their work and life is often difficult. It's difficult to make time for yourself, to just allow yourself to relax and watch TV or go out at the end of the day, but it is necessary. Unless you are a somewhat crazy, Gary Vaynerchuk type guy who derives all of his fulfillment from work and achievement, taking time for yourself and taking time to build relationships and fun into your life is a must. So treat yo'self and just relax.

Cade Courtley was born in Columbus, Ohio and raised in Boulder, Colorado where he spent much of his early life in the outdoors. He graduated from the University of San Diego with a degree in Business Administration and was commissioned (ROTC) into the United States Navy as an Ensign. A standout from the beginning of his military career as a Naval Officer, Courtley was the Class Leader in his BUD/S (Basic Underwater Demolition/ SEAL) training. After 19 months, two Hell Weeks, broken left leg (twice), a broken right leg, and a fractured skull, LT Courtley graduated (CLASS 202) and became a Navy SEAL. He was then chosen to attend the elite SEAL Sniper school, privilege only given to a select few. His strong background in military Special Operations made him the obvious choice to Host and Produce the Spike TV/Discovery International original series "Surviving Disaster" (2010) that to date has aired in over 150 countries. Author can now be added to Courtley's list of accomplishments when the folks at Simon & Schuster decided to publish SEAL Survival Guide "A Navy SEAL's Secrets to Surviving Any Disaster." (2012) As well as Host of the original TV series "America Unplugged" (2014) Cade is also the founder of Victory Coffee. Favorite Success Quote "If it was easy everyone could do it" "You have to get your butt kicked every once in awhile" Key Points 1. You Need to Constantly be Challenged One of the reasons that Navy SEALs are the best of the best is because they are always being challenged and forced to grow. Obvious from their motto "The only easy day was yesterday" Seals believe that to be the best, you have to push yourself beyond your perceived limits, and they do this every single day of training. Whether or not you want to be a SEAL, the lesson remains the same. Men need challenge, they need adventure, they need to do something other than sit in a cubicle. Start challenging yourself today. Get outside, exercise, take a cold shower, give up a bad habit, learn a martial art; do whatever you need to do to get out of your comfort zone and stretch yourself to new limits. 2. You have to Find a Strong Why At BUD/s there is an attrition rate of nearly 80%, meaning that for every 10 recruits who show up on day one of training, 2 will graduate. Although there doesn't appear to be much rhyme or reason as to who makes it and who doesn't physically, the one thing that all successful SEALs have in common is a strong why. You have to have a strong enough reason why you are doing what you are doing to get you through the inevitable bad times. Whether you are in entrepreneurship, fitness, family or war, you have to have a reason for what you are doing and it has to be strong. 3. Train in Peace so You Don't Bleed in War One of the core principles of SEAL training is to sweat hard in peace, so you bleed less in war. In layman's terms, this means that you have to put in the work before the stuff hits the fan. You must develop yourself into a grounded, self reliant man before you meet the woman of your dreams, you must save up and be financially intelligent before recession hits, you must work hard at your fitness before some sort of physical disaster arises. Prepare now so that you have peace of mind later. 4. Find Your Passion and Follow It Life is freaking short. Too darn short to waste in a cubicle doing something that is uninspiring and boring. Find your passion and follow it, because God only knows when your last day is. You might not have another tomorrow and the worst thing in the world would be to get to the other side and think to yourself "I really blew it, did I even matter?" Do yourself a favor. Follow your passion and make your life count

Ex-Googler Filip Syta left the tech world to write books and his debut literary novel tells you why — in a satirical, true and unsavory tale, revealing the savagery beneath the shiny veneer of Silicon Valley. In 2011, Syta graduated with a master's degree in entrepreneurship from Lund University, Lund, Sweden. He aspires to make readers identify the truly important things in life. Favorite Success Quote "Find what you love and let it kill you"~Charles Bukowski Key Points 1. Never Allow Life to Rob you of Self Reliance Often times it is easy to become complacent and allow life to rob you of your self-reliance. You find a job with great benefits, you find a wife who takes care of all of the chores, whatever happens, life becomes too cozy. As a great Persian general once said "Soft lands make for soft people" Never become soft. You need to be able to take care of yourself and get things done, if you can't be dropped into a new city all by yourself, find a job, run a household, and build a social life, then something needs to change. 2. Focus on Your Passion, not Your Paycheck People often spend so much time following the money, doing things that make the miserable, doing things that take away from their family lives, that take away from their health, and destroying your relationships. While money is important and necessary, doing things that you love and making an impact is far more important. At the end of the day, the cars you drove and the houses you lived in won't matter. The 0s at the end of your paycheck won't matter, but what will matter is how you lived your life, the people you impacted, and the passion that filled your days. 3. The Rewards are There Whenever people talk about passion and pursuing your dreams, there is also an inevitable conversation about "the grind," because greatness doesn't come without struggle. Following your passion is hard, doing what you love is hard. It is much easier to simply find a safe job that you don't hate, get into a comfortable relationship that you know will, at best, be mediocre, and not get fat. Putting it all on the line and struggling through low income, loss of love and friendship to achieve a distant goal is difficult. However, the rewards are there. Once you put the work in, you will see results. Don't stop 3 feet from gold. Keep pushing and pursue your dreams because the rewards are there.

Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life (Running Press, 2003) Dr. Glover is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome. He is a frequent guest on radio talk shows and has been featured in numerous local and national publications. Through his book, online classes, workshops, podcasts, blogs, consultation, and therapy groups, Dr. Glover has helped change the lives of countless men and women around the world. Favorite Quote "If you obey all the rules you miss all the fun"~Audrey Hepburn Key Points 1. Nothing Hidden Nothing Half-assed To stop being the nice guy and unleash your inner alpha, you have to stop hiding. Stop hiding what you are thinking because you are afraid of what other people will say about you. Stop hiding your thoughts and feelings towards women because you are afraid it will upset them and cause tension. Stop bs'ing people to make them happy. Be you Once you stop lying and keeping things hidden, you must stop doing things halfway. If you are going to do something, go all in, hold nothing back. If you are half in, it is probably a sign that you are doing something that is incongruent with who you are and your mission in life, and you should likely reevaluate your reasons for doing it. 2. You Already Have Enough Information The problem facing most guys today is not lack of information, but rather a lack of action on the information they already know. You already know everything that you need to know to begin taking the action that will help you achieve your goals in your dating, physical, and financial lives. It's simple. To be healthy, eat whole foods and exercise everyday. To get good with women, talk to more women. To become rich, work hard on a side hustle until you can quit your job and then save and invest at least 15% of your income. Simple right? But are you taking the action? 3. Women Need Emotional Tension Something that most men do not understand is that women want positive tension in their lives (why do you think they enjoy those damn soap operas?). They want a man who will challenge them and tease them. They want a man who is completely unafraid of their reaction. The best ways to build emotional tension are to touch, tease, and tell. Touch her playfully throughout the interaction. Touch her arm, spin her, hold her hand, break the touch barrier, the sooner the better. Tease her in a kind hearted way that shows you are a challenge and may even get close to crossing the line every once in awhile. And finally, just freaking tell her what it on your mind. Don't play games and don't kid people. Build the tension and be brutally honest. (Touch tease and tell)

Raised on the South Side of Johannesburg, South Africa, Rodney King has been fighting for nearly his entire life. Rodney has been practicing martial arts since a young adult, using his skills to protect himself from violence in his school and community. At 17 Rodney was kicked out of his home by his abusive, alcoholic mother. Now, many years later, Rodney coaches and trains special forces soldiers, entrepreneurs, and other high performers in martial arts and self management. He has written a book called "Full Contact Living" and is completing his PHd in embodied leadership. Favorite Success Quote "The principles of success are easy to understand but hard to master" Key Points 1. In Order to Have Success You Have to Put in the Work Success does not come without work. No matter who you are or how good you believe you are, success does not come without work. You have to put your nose to the grindstone and work, sometimes for years before your goals will come to fruition. You have to go through the phase of being at the bottom of the totem pole, being completely incompetent before you can become the master. In order to have success, you have got to put in the work! 2. Perfection is an Illusion No matter how good you become, you will never be perfect. Perfectionism is a disease that prevents you from living your life to the fullest. If you want to perform at your best, let go of perfectionism, you will never be perfect, but you can be excellent. You will never be perfect, but you can become a master. 3. Your Body's Attitude is Crucial Managing your state is an essential part of success. If your body is slouched and appears weak, you will also feel weak. However, if you have strong posture, stand up straight, smile, and take deep breaths, you will feel powerful and in charge. Your state helps you to manage your life and take better charge of your emotions and mental state. Learn to master it and there is nothing that you cannot do. 4. Learn What You Need to Learn, Set the Intention and Take Action The simplest formula for success is this. Learn what you need to learn, set your intention, and take the action. If you want to become a successful entrepreneur, read, get mentors, and take course until you have the knowledge that you need, set your goal, and start taking massive action to achieve it. No matter what your goal is, this formula will be the same whether you want to gain muscle, get better with women, become a great father, or start a billion dollar business.

Mark Palm, the president of Samaritan Aviation was raised as a pastor's son and from a very young age has had a passion for people and aviation. Mark currently holds a Commercial Pilot's license with an Instrumental Float-plane rating as well as an FAA Aircraft Mechanic's license. January, 2010, Mark and his wife Kirsten moved to Wewak, Papua New Guinea to begin Flight Operations in the East Sepik Province. They currently live in Wewak with their three children Sierra, Drake, and Nolan where they run Samaritan Aviation, a company dedicated to providing medical and missional help and support to the people of Papua New Guinea. Favorite Quote "Surround yourself with people who are smarter than you" Key Points 1. We are Here to Make a Difference So often, it is easy to get caught up in making a name for yourself that you forget why we are really here. It's easy to get caught up in making millions of dollars, having the beautiful wife, the white picket fence, and a safe, cozy lifestyle, that you forget we aren't here for ourselves. We are here to make a difference. No matter whether you believe in God, the Universe, or Mother Nature, whoever and whatever put us on this earth didn't do so arbitrarily, and your existence isn't an accident. You are here to put a dent in the universe, but that can only happen when you take your eyes off of yourself and start looking towards others. Even if you believe in no higher power, there is no life better lived than a life of service and impact to others. And the wonderful thing is, living an awesome life full of fast cars, amazing relationships, and travel and living a life of purpose are not mutually exclusive. In fact, if you approach it right, they are often the two most inclusive lifestyles you can live. 2. The Things That Bother You Are Trivial In the west, we get angry when our wifi is slow, or when we have to slow down our $30,000 car by 20 miles an hour because of traffic. And we allow these petty little things to bother us and we carry them with us throughout our day, never once thinking about how incredibly unimportant these things really are. You are blessed if you have the means to listen to this podcast. Realize that and quit allowing trivial "problems" to run your life. 3. Listen to Those Who Have Been there Before One of the best investments you will ever make is into your relationships, particularly your relationships with people who have come before you and can guide you along the best paths. Whether you are looking to become wealthy, have an amazing marriage, incredible health, make an amazing impact, or have an impeccable spiritual life, find someone who has done if before you and has the results that you want and learn from them. It could be a father or a mother, a friend, a stranger, or even a book. But be sure that you have mentors guiding you through life, because only a fool doesn't learn from the mistakes of others. 4. Make Your Word Mean Something One of the most underrated characteristics of a modern man is integrity. Make your word count. If you say something, you do it. Period. There are no ifs, ands, or buts. Be a man of your word always. People will respect you more, you will respect yourself more, and your life will become more meaningful and worthwhile when you become known as a man of integrity.

Mark Manson is a professional blogger, entrepreneur, and former dating coach. Since 2007, he's been helping people with their emotional and relationship problems. He has worked with thousands of people from over 30 different countries. Favorite Quote "One day in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful"~Sigmund Freud Key Points 1. What Struggle Are You Willing to Face One of the best questions that you can ask yourself in life is not "what are my goals" or "what am I passionate about" but rather "How much pain and struggle am I willing to go through?" Because the simple fact is this, there is no great achievement in life without pain. You will not become successful at business without going through the pain of sleepless nights, losing money, and having products fail. You will not have a happy fulfilled marriage without first going through rejections, marital struggles, and painful self work. You won't get a great body without getting off your butt and hitting the gym. There is no achievement without pain, so the question that you need to ask is "How much pain am I willing to endure?" There is no right or wrong answer, but if you tell yourself that you want to be a bodybuilder, millionaire, playboy and you aren't willing to get up, go to the gym, do work on your business, and go out on dates, then you need to reevaluate your pain tolerance and adjust accordingly. 2. It's Important for Life to Suck Sometimes Many self help gurus would have you believe that life is all sunshine and roses and that nothing bad ever happens to you if you just say this one affirmation every morning. But that's a load of garbage. Life is going to suck sometimes, if you do things wrong, it's going to suck a lot of the time. However, this is not a bad thing. No great man was ever forged without first facing some adversity. It is the times where life sucks that you will have your biggest breakthroughs and learn the most about yourself. Embrace the suck, and use it to make your best life. 3. Happiness Comes from Problems In continuing with the theme of pain being a positive in life, an important realization to come to is that hapiness and fulfillment do not come from a lack of problems, but rather from solving worthwhile problems. For some people, this means solving problems in business and figuring out how to impact more people with a limited budget or how to launch a new product when the last one failed. For others this is how to build and raise an amazing family when your marriage is strained and your children don't respect you. If you are unhappy in life, chances are the quality of the problems that you are fixing is very low, or worse yet, you aren't actually taking action to fix the problems you have in the first place. Realize that solving problems is what brings fulfillment and if you are feeling a sense of lack in your life, simply find better problems to solve whether they are physical, relational, financial, or spiritual. 4. Screw Finding Your Passion Guess what? You are not entitled to anything. So many people today will tell you that you somehow deserve to make millions doing what you love as if that is one of our "God given and inalienable rights" but the cold truth is that it isn't. Instead of focusing on finding your passions, simply do more of what you enjoy doing already. If you can find a way to build it into a business and monetize it, then great, if not, then work a job your enjoy and follow what you are passionate about on the side. Just because you're passionate about playing Jazz flute doesn't mean that you should pack up from your high end executive job that you enjoy, pays well, and allows you to be around for your children to pursue a career as a professional musician, because the simple fact is, even if you do that, there will come a time when playing jazz flute sucks. No matter how much you love something, there will come a day when you simply don't feel like waking up and doing it that day. Passion or no. 5. Do Something Feeling lost? Do something, anything. Feeling stuck? Do something, anything. As Churchill once said "The best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, the worst thing you can do is nothing." If you are struggling to find the motivation or passions in your life, then just do something. Take a trip, start a new job, launch a blog, just do something.

Jeffrey Platts is passionate about helping men design and live that has them feeling fully alive. He's obsessed with finding out what keeps people from being their most authentic. Which is actually what is most attractive. Not just physically. Professionally, financially, emotionally, sexually, socially, spiritually. Jeffrey Platts is a men's life and love coach with a background in salsa dancing, world traveling and yoga instruction. Favorite Success Quote "Whatever I think the world is withholding from me, I am withholding from the world"~Eckhart Tolle "The cave you fear to enter contains the treasure you seek"~Joseph Campbell Key Points 1. If You Want External Change, You Have to Start Internally On the road to success, in whatever field, be it financially, socially, physically, or emotionally, the change starts inside. No change will happen in your external world without first taking the time to do the deep internal work of finding your why, crushing mental barriers, and setting a clear vision just to name a few. You need to realize that if you want to see success, you have to work from the inside out and be willing to put in the time and effort on yourself before you will see the results that you are looking for. 2. Your Identity Determines Your Outcomes Often times, when individuals try to change, a huge stumbling block that they run into is that the identity that they have held for years is incongruent with the new path that they are on. If you have told yourself that you are a smoker for nearly 20 years, you will find it hard to quit smoking because that habit is so tied up in your identity. Therefor, if you want to make any sort of appreciable changes in your life, part of the inner work you need to start with is developing a new positive identity in yourself. Develop an identity of a man who is disciplined, who is hardworking, who is innovative, who is smart, who is whatever you want to be. Only when your identity is aligned with your goals will you begin to achieve them. 3. Comparison Will Kill Your Dreams The fastest way to live a miserable, unhappy life is to constantly be in comparison. Guess what, someone will always be richer than you, better looking than you, have a better family than you, date more attractive women than you, and drive a faster car than you. But that is completely irrelevant. All that matters is that you are competing with yourself. Are you living up to your full potential within the circumstances that you were given going after the goals you have set? Other people are born with different assets and skills than you and often had successes that came from hardships you would never wish upon your worst enemy. Learn to congratulate others on their successes without being threatened by them. As the old clique goes, "The only person you need to be better than is the person you were yesterday." 4. Be Who You Want to be Unapologetically In society, we are all encouraged to fit in. So fill the social mold and to do what everyone else is doing. This leaves very little room for authenticity and a life on your terms. Just be who you are unapologetically and don't worry about what society thinks. Do you love salsa dancing and yoga? Who cares that society sees this as less manly than MMA and Crossfit! Do you want to commit to a loving and monogamous marriage? Who cares that society will tell you that you are less of a man for sleeping with fewer women. Be who you are and who you want to be completely and without apology.

Rolf Potts is the author of two books, Vagabonding and Marco Polo Didn't Go There. He has reported from more than sixty countries for the likes of National Geographic Traveler, The New Yorker, Slate.com, the New York Times Magazine, The Atlantic, The Believer, National Public Radio, and the Travel Channel. His adventures have taken him across six continents, and include piloting a fishing boat 900 miles down the Laotian Mekong, hitchhiking across Eastern Europe, traversing Israel on foot, bicycling across Burma, driving a Land Rover across South America, and traveling around the world for six weeks with no luggage or bags of any kind. Favorite Success Quote "From this hour I ordain myself loos'd of limits and imaginary lines, Going where I list, my own master total and absolute, Listening to others, considering well what they say, Pausing, searching, receiving, contemplating, Gently,but with undeniable will, divesting myself of the holds that would hold me." ~Walt Whitman The Song of the Open Road Key Points 1. Throw off Societal Constraints Today, especially in Western culture, we are indoctrinated from birth with a long and painful list of 'shoulds' and 'musts'. We all "should" go to college, get good grades, get a job, and then work for forty years before we allow ourselves to travel and explore. We all "must" live life for the weekends and do a corporate job with a steady paycheck. Or else…. Or else what? If you want to live a rich, interesting, and fulfilling life, then you need to reexamine many of the constraints that society has put upon you and your dreams. If you want to travel do it. If you want to start a business, then do it. If you want to work a corporate job and get the white picket fence life, there is no shame in that. IF that is truly what you want. But if you are putting off your dreams and desires because you don't think friends, family, or society would approve, then it's time to wake up and realize that you only get one shot at this life. You need to live it to the fullest. 2. Pause, Search and Receive That said, do not throw away the wisdom of the generations that came before you. Just because they came from a different time with different technological capabilities and lifestyle opportunities does not mean that you should ignore advice from those more seasoned than you. Before you act, pause. Think about what you are doing and the ramifications from a realistic standpoint. Then search. Search for the best way that you can proceed and and develop a plan of action. And finally receive. Receive the advice, criticisms, and input from others and filter through and apply it accordingly. 3. Travel is Much Easier, Cheaper, and Safer than You Think Many people believe that travel is too difficult, expensive, or dangerous. But the simple fact is, if you do it right, there has never been a time in human history where travel was easier, cheaper, or safer. You can fly across the world for less than $1,000. If you have savings or some form of location independent income, you can live like a king in many other countries for pennies on the dollar. And if you keep your head on you and use common sense, most of the dangers can be avoided by living like a local and staying far away from the touristy areas. 4. Time is Your Most Important Currency You can always earn more money, but your time is an ever draining and finite resource with an unknown limit. You could die today, tomorrow, or 20 years from now and you have no way of knowing. People treat time like it is a cheap commodity instead of a precious resource. You will never get a single second of your life back, it is time to start living accordingly. Go after the things you want, take the year long trip of self discovery, talk to the girl, forgive the person that hurt you. Stop acting like you will live forever, because the tragic truth is this. You won't. No one will. 5. Minimalism Makes Life Easier Getting rid of your stuff opens up your schedule and your life to new and incredible opportunities that are otherwise unavailable when you are constantly caught up in and worried about all of your "stuff." While this might be hard to understand, especially if you come from a hyper-materialistic society, minimalizing your life can be one of the best things you can do. Sell or donate the things you don't use and see what sort of adventures you get into when you can keep all of your possessions in one suitcase. Or better yet, do what Rolf did and travel without a suitcase!

Neil Patel is a Seattle, Washington-based entrepreneur, angel investor, and analytics expert. He is best known for his work in digital marketing, and as the cofounder of the analytics companies KISSmetrics, Crazy Egg, and Quick Sprout Favorite Success Quote "When things are looking good, always remember that someone else out there always has it better than you. And when things are going badly for you, remember someone has it worse" Key Points 1. Do Not Operate from Emotion One of the biggest mistake that people, especially entrepreneurs, make is that they operate from emotion and not logic. Like the opening success quote, it is important that you always remember that someone out there has it better and is kicking your butt at business, but someone out there also always has it worse and the failures you are facing are not life changing. Stay grounded as a man in your decision making. Always take some time and breathe whenever you feel overwhelmed and simply think through the situation logically. (Something Andrew and many guests have suggested for controlling your emotions are cold showers and meditation.) 2. When You Are Young You Have Nothing to Lose So often, young people allow fear to stop them from taking action without realizing one simple fact…. you have nothing to lose. When you are a young single guy, without a mortgage, car payments, or child support to pay, you are free. So start your business. The best thing that can happen is that you succeed and make millions, the likely outcome is that you will make some money but it won't be your big break, the worst thing is that you learn. Is learning really that bad? 3. Keep Making Mistakes and Keep Learning No matter where you are in business, always be learning. Look at every "failure" as an opportunity instead of a mistake. Each time that something doesn't work or turn out how you want it to, you have the choice to decide to analyze the opportunity and learn from it. And remember, the more you learn, the more you earn. 4. Business is a Game; Play a Game You Enjoy No matter what business you are in, it is all a game. A game that you should be playing to win, but a game no less. Be sure that you are playing a game that you enjoy. If you are in a business that you don't enjoy, you are setting yourself up for failure before you begin. Succeeding in life and business is hard, it's significantly harder if you aren't passionate about working ridiculous hours, staying up late, waking up early, and making sacrifices. 5. Focus on One Idea and Go All or Nothing When you are first starting out in entrepreneurship, it's very easy to get sucked into a million different projects and gigs without focusing on one to master. Find something that you enjoy and freaking crush it! Go after it with everything you have got, get laser focused and devote everything you can to it. Then, and only then will you truly succeed.

Jolie Dawn is an author, speaker, and wild visionary. Through her own journey of spirituality and self-discovery, along with thousands of hours of training, Jolie has discovered her innate ability to set people free from the confines of limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging habits, so they can create a life and business that truly thrives. Jolie has fearlessly built her own platform to share her message through her popular Inner Goddess Unleashed Summit and also her retreats, online programs, and one-on-one programs. She has attained smashing success in guiding women through her signature process to help them remember their limitless potential so they can start taking immediate action on their dreams. Favorite Success Quote "You win just by playing" Key Points 1. Location is Important One of the most important factors in your success is your location, both physical and social. If you are living in a small town that is filled with fast food "restaurants", bars, and walmarts, it is going to be much more difficult to stay healthy and fit and find a like minded community than if you are living in at the beach with yoga studios and juice bars on every corners. If you are living in a retirement community full of baby boomers, you will find it difficult to find young entrepreneurs to share ideas with and create incredible businesses with. However, if you are living in a large, vibrant city, full of startups and entrepreneurs, you will find success comes much more easily. If you set yourself up to live in a location that is conducive to your goals and you surround yourself with loving and supportive people who will push you and force you to grow, nothing can stop you! 2. Play the Host Whenever you are struggling to find like minded individuals, or to find groups that you feel you fit into and want to be a part of; play the host. Invite as many people as you can to something you have put together and executed, especially individuals you respect and admire. Start taking the initiative and creating and leading events locally to get those people together, not only will you meet great new people, but those people will respect you more because they will see you as the leader and creator of a group that they regularly enjoy attending. 3. Embrace Your Purpose More than Your Relationships Your purpose ALWAYS comes before your relationships. You were put on this earth to do amazing things, to create world changing movements, to help take people's lives in a radically different direction. Your relationships are just a small part of that, they are not the whole. No matter how amazing you think a woman is, she does not come before your purpose, and if she is a woman of character who loves and respects you as a man, she will never want to. 4. Take Care of and Follow Your Body Your body is the key to everything. Take care of it and respect it, and you will live a full and joyful life. Disrespect it and treat it like a trash heap instead of a temple (or playground depending on your adventure levels) and you will feel the pain of your choices. Fill your body with good food, good exercise, and good sleep and stay in tune with it through practices like yoga and meditation, and it will serve you throughout your life. Take care of your body, it's the only one you've got.

Alex Dodd is also known as Ali Afshar and is an actor and producer, known for Three Kings (1999), Godzilla (1998) and The Siege (1998) and is also the founder/president of the world record holding auto racing team Easy Street Motorsports (ESX). He is the creator of the exclusive ESX Super Vantage Aston Martin and ESX STI Subaru vehicles. Alex and his company ESX raced for Subaru of America for 7 years from 2001 through 2007 and won two NHRA National Championships in 2006 & 2007. Favorite Success Quote "You can sleep when you are dead" Key Points 1. Always be Hustling You can sleep when you are dead, or as Newton put it "A body in motion tends to stay in motion." Once you gain momentum, it is imperative that you keep hustling and keep grinding to ensure continued success. While there is plenty of debate about the effects of sleep and success, if you want to be successful, you will lose sleep to achieve your goals. If you want to achieve great things, you have to be willing to lose sleep, put in the effort, and work ungodly hours for a certain amount of time. But it will be worth it. 2. Do What You Love As cliche as it may sound, a life spent doing anything other than things you love, is a life of drudgery and pain. Why would you willingly subject yourself to daily work that you find dull and uninspiring just for an added 0 on your paycheck? Do what you love and the money will follow (given that what you love is more than playing xbox). If you live your life doing things that light you up with a passion, you will never work a day in your life, and money and impact will be a natural byproduct. Don't waste your life with things you don't love. Follow the advice of your middle school teacher and do what you love. 3. Use Your Passions Instead of Drugs and Alcohol "Stuff" happens. Welcome to the real world. When it does, many men are tempted to fall into drugs and alcohol to escape their problems instead of facing them head on. Instead of falling for this trap, dive headfirst into your passions and create a life centered around the things you love to help yourself heal and get through the hard times. Bad things will happen, it's up to you whether you allow them to destroy you and ruin your life with addiction, or whether you use it as a catalyst to create your best self. 4. Change the World with Kindness The world is full of bad people. It's full of wannabes and windbags trying to seem important and putting others down in the process. Don't be like them. Life is short, love others, be kind and leave nothing on the table because you never know when it is your time. You will never regret a life of passion, love, and kindness. Period

Jeff Spadafora is the Director of Global Coaching Services and Product Development for The Halftime Institute. He spent 20 years as a leadership and executive development consultant for Fortune 1000 companies such as Ford Motor Company, Sears & Roebuck, Compuware, Domino's Pizza, Visteon, Northern Trust Bank, Helene Curtis, and Sky Chefs. Favorite Success Quote "As long as habit and routine dictate the pattern of your life, the full potential of your soul will never emerge."~Henry Van Dyke Key Points 1. Success Will Not Fulfill You In today's materialistic and ego driven society, we are incepted from birth with the idea that buying more stuff and achieving higher status will lead to joy and fulfillment. But as anyone who has ever been to the top will tell you, this is simply not true. While it is true that achieving goals, improving your material comfort, and reaching new heights of social prestige will increase your momentary happiness, this path does not offer any sort of contentment or joy in the long term. It results in a never ending quest to recreate the dopamine high that is released every time that you hit a new tax bracket. 2. Giving Yourself Away is the True Path to Gaining Everything While living a life in pursuit of excess material wealth won't lead to fulfillment, living a life in pursuit of generosity and impact, and legacy will. If you truly wish to live a life of fulfillment and joy, not just momentary happiness and brief episodes of ecstasy, you must start by giving yourself to a cause bigger than yourself. You must find a passion and a calling that makes it difficult for you to stay in bed in the mornings because you are so excited about how you will get to change the world. As cliche and trite as it may sound, finding a calling that is about a bigger picture than just yourself is the true path to success. Perhaps at this moment, you can't find that calling or simply don't know how you want to impact the world. This is fine. Start with simple things: Volunteer at a local habitat for humanity, give away 10-15% of your income to a cause you believe in, or even just call your grandparents from time to time. Find things to do that remind you that you are a small part of a whole, find things that let you serve and give without any expectations. Give yourself away and you will gain everything. 3.You Need to Line Up your Core, Capacity, and Context Similar to the four pillars, the Three C's are the essentials of life that must be in alignment for you to be living a "10" life. Core: This is who you are, what your mission is, and what you stand for. To have a well defined "core" (in the sense of success and fulfillment, not your abs), you must define your virtues, your beliefs, and your character traits that will remain unwavering no matter how strenuous the external circumstances become. (also called NUTS or Non-negotiable, unalterable terms by Wayne Levine) And you must also discover and be actively pursuing what you believe to be your calling and purpose in life. Capacity: This is how you are showing up in each area of your life, it's about maximizing your potential. Are you staying in the best shape you can physically? Are you being the best husband, father, friend, son, or brother that you can relationally? Are you connected with whatever your definition of God is? (Or if you are an atheist, have you done your research and do you have peace about the question of God?) Context: This is where you are working towards your calling and purpose. Do you need to move jobs, cities, or countries? Do you need to stay where you are and simply work change how you are showing up? Only you can answer these questions, and it is imperative that you take the time to do so lest you work your whole life away on something that you realize (too late) was never in line with your calling in the first place. 4. Busyness and Comfort are Your Two Greatest Enemies The two greatest enemies to success and fulfillment are not laziness or greed or ignorance, but busyness and comfort. Busyness and comfort are malicious and sneak into your life slowly, without any obvious signs, but once they are in, they slowly and surely convince you that you are ok at your current level because there isn't the pain necessary to elicit change. When you are comfortable, it is difficult to find a real reason to change your lifestyle or pursue dreams, and when you are constantly busy, you never have the time to sit down and ask these questions in the first place. Don't allow busyness or comfort to rob you of your destiny. Take time to evaluate where you are in life with an open and unbiased mind. Go down the rabbit hole and it is likely that you will come out of the other side with a better understanding of yourself, your purpose, and the actions required to achieve it.

Jason Hanson is a former Central Intelligence Agency officer the author of The Covert Guide to Concealed Carry a frequent writer for Combat Handguns magazine and Personal and Home Defense magazine and an NRA Certified Instructor He is also skilled in: Personal Protection, Risk Assessment, Firearms, Security Operations, Private Investigations, Counter Terrorism, Vulnerability Assessment, Emergency Management. Jason was born and raised in Northern Virginia and spent 6 years with the CIA. He then moved to Utah with his wife and children to start a security business and now runs Spy Escape and Evasion, training individuals on how to better protect themselves and their families. Jason is also the author of the new book Spy Secrets that Can Save Your Life. Favorite Success Quote "Every morning in Africa, a gazelle wakes up, it knows it must outrun the fastest lion or it will be killed. Every morning in Africa, a lion wakes up. It knows it must run faster than the slowest gazelle, or it will starve. It doesn't matter whether you're the lion or a gazelle-when the sun comes up, you'd better be running"~Christopher McDougall Key Points 1. A Solid Morning Routine is Essential If you want to achieve success in any area of your life, a powerful morning routine is essential! Jason shared with us in his interview how having a morning "Power Hour" has helped him instill successful habits and stay on track for years. Some of the best things to include in a morning routine are: Exercise, nutrition (green smoothie, or a healthy breakfast), meditation, goal setting, journaling and reading. 2. In Real Life Situations Try to Deflate, Not Confront In the real world, it's better to prevent dangerous situations before they ever happen. Instead of trying to prepare to defend against an attacker, focus first on never getting attacked. The basic rules of this, as shared by Jason are to 1. Always be aware of and in tune with your environment (get off of your cell phone) 2. Always keep your head up and make it known with your posture that you aren't as easy target 3. Bonus: Get fit, the bigger you are and the more you look like you can handle yourself, the less likely you are to be targeted. If you see someone following you or acting odd, don't duck and run like hollywood, but turn and face them, make eye contact, and verbally make it clear that you are aware of what they are doing with an assertive "Can I help you?" 3. A Few Safety Pointers Below are a few key safety pointers from Jason: 1. Whenever checking into a hotel, always ask for 2 keys. This makes it look like you have someone else joining you making you less of a target 2. Whenever possible always select a hotel room between the 3rd and 6th floor as these rooms are less likely to get robbed (since they are harder to escape from) but also leave you ample ability to leave in the event of an emergency. 3. When abroad, always ask the hotel about taxi services and be sure that you detail the route you want your driver to take prior to leaving with him so that you can make sure he is not taking you somewhere to rob or harm you, or simply so you know you aren't being overcharged. 4. At home, make your home the last place people would want to rob. Put up security system warning signs on the walkway, in the back windows and in the front yard. Even if you don't have a dog, leave a dog bowl outside to make it look like you do (really, who wants to tangle with a Mastiff), and if you can afford it, put cameras (or decoys) up. Basically take the rule of showing that you aren't an easy target and apply it to your home. 4. Never Give Up No matter how hard things get, never, ever, ever, ever give up. If you keep working you will see success. 10 years from now will come whether you give up or not, but your perseverance will determine whether it comes with you having achieved your goals or not.

Martin Grunburg is the designer/inventor of Habit Factor® as well as the author of the international bestselling book sharing the same name. He has presented at TEDx in the United Arab Emirates, and his work has been featured in the world's most popular productivity blogs such as Lifehacker.com and Mashable.com. Prior to developing and authoring The Habit Factor, Martin has been a partner in C3 Networx, formerly Home2Office Computing Solutions, Inc. As founder/COO, he's been nominated twice for the Entrepreneur of the Year award and has twice led his team to win the Better Business Bureau Award for Marketplace Ethics. Favorite Success Quote "If you want to find the secret of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency, and vibration"~Nikola Tesla Key Points 1. Pressure = Force/Area This basic scientific formula can actually offer incredible insights into the world of success and productivity. For examples Parkinson's Principle, which states that the pressure and speed of completion of a task will increase as the timeline decreases can be derived from this formula. Pressure (the importance of a project and how much effort you will put into it) is equal to force (the difficulty of the task) divided by area (the amount of time you have to complete a task) For example, if I tell you that you have to complete a perfectly written 3,000 word article in the next 3 months or else you will lose all of your financial assets ….how much pressure would you feel? Despite the large financial cost, you would likely feel decidedly unperturbed. Now what if I said that you have 3 hours? You would move heaven and earth to get that article done! This is actually a very powerful principle that you can leverage in your life to achieve results at a more rapid pace. By creating more impending deadlines and higher stakes, you will be forced to become more creative, find time to pursue your goals, and actually get the work done because of this positive pressure. 2. Pressure is a Neutral Tool There has been significant research done on the affects of pressure on the human mind and body over the past years, and what Martin has found is that, despite what popular science says, pressure is neither good nor bad, it is merely a tool. If unmanaged and unchecked, pressure can build up and cause all sorts of issues, like many other stressors. However, if used strategically to increase the efficiency with which tasks are completed and the speed of implementation, pressure can be a fantastic tool for massive productivity and results. So in the end, pressure, like so many other things, is neutral. It is neither good nor bad. It is simply how you use it. 3. Pressure Creates Peace of Mind Exposing yourself to intentional pressure can help create confidence, and peace of mind during stressful situations. The scientific formula for equilibrium is the equal offset of pressure. Navy SEALs go through thousands of hours and years of training before they enter into combat so that when the actual bullets are flying, and bombs are going off, they are already used to the pressure of the environment and able to respond with calm, swift confidence. By properly planning, preparing, and practicing for any given situation, you increase your chances of success dramatically once you are actually under the pressure of game day. It's like the old saying "The more you sweat in training, the less you bleed in war."

Leon Logothetis is a global adventurer, motivational speaker & philanthropist. It wasn't always that way. He used to be a broker in the city of London where he felt uninspired and chronically depressed. He gave it all up for a life on the road. This radical life change was inspired by the inspirational movie The Motorcycle Diaries. Leon has visited more than 90 countries and traveled to every continent. He is the host of the TV series Amazing Adventures Of A Nobody, which is broadcast across the world by National Geographic International and, over the course of three seasons, sees Leon cross America, the United Kingdom and Europe on just 5 dollars, 5 pounds, and 5 euros a day, respectively. Leon has documented his travels for numerous media outlets including Good Morning America, Los Angeles Times, San Francisco Chronicle,Outside, Good, Psychology Today, and The New York Times. His book, Amazing Adventures of a Nobody, is in stores now. His new book The Kindness Diaries, published by Readers Digest, is available now and chronicles Leon's circumnavigation of the globe on kindness. Favorite Success Quote "Never, never, never, never give up."~Winston Churchill Key Points 1. Removing Money Allows You to Connect with Others During his travels, Leon found that by removing money from the equation (i.e. relying on kindness of strangers and not residual income to make his travels a success) he was able to connect for fully and openly with people. When you remove money from the equation, you no longer have a sense of superiority, and you no longer act as if you have nothing to gain from genuine connection. When you rely on other people's kindness instead of your own wallet, every person you meet becomes a treasure chest just waiting to be opened. 2. It's About Kindness Not Money Life is not about income, it's about impact and kindness. It doesn't matter whether you die penniless or a billionaire, if you did not impact others and live a life of joy and kindness, it was all for naught. While money can empower you to live a life of greater impact and enable you to extend greater kindness towards others, it is not the end game. It is not the end all be all. It's a tool, impact and kindness are the products you are trying to build. 3. Live a Life of Passion and Adventure Too often, we get caught up in the social norms. We care so much about what society says, what mom & dad say, what our friends say, that we never pause to ask what do we have to say about all of this? Live life on your terms, doing things that make you passionate, otherwise, you will live a life of pain, boredom, and just plain unimportance. 4. Commit to Yourself In line with the point above. If you want to start living a life of purpose, you need to commit to take care of yourself first. This is not saying that you become a self-centered, arrogant jerk, but rather that you realize that if you aren't living a life of purpose and passion, then you will not be able to help others do the same. 5. It's Ok to be Different One of the most important lessons to learn is that it is ok to be different. As Mark Twain said, "If you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect." Are you on the side of the majority right now? Are you going with the flow because it is what everyone else is doing and what they expect you to do? Or are you living life to the fullest, grabbing it by the balls and going out with joy and excitement every day?

Geoffrey F. Miller is an American evolutionary psychologist, serving as an associate professor of psychology at the University of New Mexico and known for his expertise in sexual selection in human evolution, and for his views on the evolution through sexual selection of the human brain as sexual ornamentation. Dr. Miller has authored several books including The Mating Mind, Spent, and Mate. Favorite Success Quote "There is very little difference between one man and another, but what little there is is very important" ~William James Key Points 1. One of the Keys to Success with Women is to Put Yourself in Their Shoes If you want to become successful with women, it is imperative that you start by putting yourself in the woman's shoes. Ask yourself what it is that she is truly looking for in a man, what are her concerns, what are her fears? Women are far more physically vulnerable than men are and as such, becoming a man that women can feel safe around should be a priority when you begin your journey into the dating world. Women are also worried about their social and economic status. What will it do to her reputation if she dates or sleeps with you? What will her friends think? It's questions like this that help you to understand what women are looking for and how you can better provide it. If you want to be successful with women, start by getting into their head. 2. Understand Mating Markets This is a seemingly simple concept, but one of vital importance. If you want to succeed at fishing, go where the fish are! Plain and simple, the only way you will get good with women is if you go where there are an abundance of women. Moving to a large city, a big, liberal college, or moving overseas to countries with high populations of beautiful women (eg Argentina and Brazil) will increase your chances of success in mating drastically. 3. Looks Matter Less than You Think What science has shown us is that women value looks significantly less than they do certain mental and emotional traits. (with the exception of outliers, eg extremely overweight or a male model). What this means is that, no matter what numbers came up for you in the ovarian lottery, if you are an average guy, your success with women will be determined more by the qualities that you display than your looks. 4. Women want a Man with Potential Women love to be along for the ride, they love to find men who are ambitious and hardworking, and be there with him when he has nothing and once he gets it all. Potential is one of the sexiest things to a woman. In fact studies have shown that women would rather be with a failed entrepreneur, who put his neck on the line and tried to succeed, than they would with a trust fund baby who was rich but never worked for it. What this means for you is that you don't have to be perfect, you just have to show women that you have potential to be the man they've always wanted.

Micha Mikailian is a serial entrepreneur with over 20 years of experience and over 8 startups. He made his first million dollars in his early twenties and has continued to grow and expand his empire today. He's committed to creating and supporting businesses that live on the bleeding edge of our evolution and are contributing to a more sustainable, just, and abundant world for all of us. He is currently the CEO and founder of Intently, a website browser extension that helps you stay focused on your goals by replacing all ads online with motivational and goal oriented pictures. Favorite Success Quote "It is better to walk alone than with a crowd that is walking in the wrong direction" Key Points 1. Learn to See Yourself as an Entrepreneur When you begin identifying yourself as an entrepreneur, you start to make it a part of your identity and way of life. You no longer see yourself as an overworked employee but rather an entrepreneur who is building his side hustle into a business that will give him the time and freedom he and his family want. When you identify as an entrepreneur, you no longer see yourself as a college student trying to figure life out, but a young businessman preparing to innovate and change the world and learning the skills necessary to do it. How you see yourself will determine who you become. See yourself as an entrepreneur. 2. Entrepreneurship is a Tool Many famous entrepreneurs claim that business is a game, and while business itself may be a game, entrepreneurship is a tool. It is a tool to create freedom and wealth and happiness in people's lives. It is a tool to change the world for the better and inspire others to be the change they want to see. 3. Focus on Your Personal Development "Your level of success will rarely exceed your level of personal development because success is something you attract by the person you become" In the podcast, Micha shared how, like many pro athletes, even though he had made a lot of money, his character and personal development did not match the income. This lead to a number of very poor life choices and multiple failures. If you want to see and sustain success, you need to develop yourself as an individual. Learn to handle your emotions, learn to set and achieve goals, to have a vision bigger than yourself and interact socially. Then and only then will you be successful. 4. Outsource the Unnecessary Life is full of unnecessary tasks and redundant minutiae. The more of it that you can outsource, the better and more productive your life will be. Cooking, editing, scheduling, cleaning, anything that can be eliminated should as soon as you have the income. The less energy and brain power you expend on useless crap the more you can expend on creating your ideal lifestyle and having as much fun as possible.

Coach Michael Taylor is an entrepreneur, motivational speaker, author, and a radio show host who has dedicated his life to helping men reach their full potential. Despite being born in the inner city and dropping out of highschool, Michael became a mid level manager at a multi-million dollar company at only 22. However, his success did not last, and everything he built fell apart resulting in divorce, bankruptcy and foreclosure. Michael went on a 15 year personal development journey to rebuild who he was, and that journey has resulted in his company A New Conversations About Men Favorite Success Quote "I will do today what others won't so I can do tomorrow what others can't." Key Points 1. It's Not the External Stuff that Will Make You Happy Many men, sadly, spend their whole lives in pursuit of material possessions in a search for happiness. They believe that the fancier watch, faster car, or bigger house will make them feel more fulfilled and happy, but after the initial high of the purchase wears off, they are left just as empty and alone as before. Real men understand that true happiness comes from within, it comes from intimately connecting with others and having deep and meaningful relationships, it comes from doing work that you are passionate about, it comes from being generous towards others, but most of all, happiness simply comes by being at peace with who you are and knowing that you are enough no matter what the external circumstances. If you want to be truly happy in your life, you must realize that stuff will not make you happy. It may give you a dopamine rush for a couple of days, but it will wear off. Your focus must be on becoming the grounded man, and internalizing the fact that you are enough. Then and only then will you be truly happy with life. 2. The 5 Illusions of Manhood While many men believe that they know what it means to be a man, the majority of what is purported to be "masculine" in society is anything but. The following are the 5 most common illusions about manhood and what it means to be a real man Illusion 1: You Must Be Disconnected Society would have you believe that to be a true man, you must be a robot. You cannot express emotions, it's not ok to cry, showing that you have feelings is a sign of weakness and should be avoided at any cost. This is garbage. A man who is truly comfortable in his own skin, a man who is truly an emotionally mature man, realizes that showing his feelings is actually a sign of strength, because when you show your feelings you become vulnerable and you open yourself to the world saying "This is who I am and I won't change it to conform to your standards" That is true masculinity. Illusion 2: Men Must Use Sexual Conquests to Validate their Masculinity As men, we are told that if we want to be truly masculine, we have to bed dozens of women with complete ease, carelessness, and a borderline apathetic attitude. The truth is far different. All religious dogma aside, a real man realizes that sex is meant for connection and is in no way indicative of his worth as a man. Sex is wonderful, and when used to increase the intimacy of a relationship, becomes an incredible experience. However, if a man uses sex as a way to validate himself to the world, he is on a one way track to broken relationships and misery. Illusion 3: To Be a Man You Must Have Money and Material Wealth While there is nothing wrong with material wealth, making money your sole focus in life, is the mark of an immature man, not a masculine man. Ambition is wonderful, wanting to get to the next level is wonderful, building a lifestyle of comfort and luxury is wonderful, using materialism as a drug to sedate yourself from the struggles you are facing is not. Being a man does not have anything to do with making a lot of money. While it's true that it takes a certain breed of man to make millions, it takes an even higher breed of man to make millions while living his purpose, having deep connected relationships, and being totally in love with who he is and where he is going. Illusion 4: To be a Man You Have to Acquire Title and Fame Title and fame are irrelevant to masculinity. The simple fact is that there are more men who live and work behind the scenes who show true masculinity then there are truly "manly" movie and music stars. Being a man is about who you are, not who knows about you. Illusion 5: To be a Man You Have to Compete with Other Men Competition is a great motivator and can be a force multiplier in may men's lives. But it is not the mark of a man. True men look for ways that they can collaborate and work together, not compete. 3. You Are Not Alone While many men may feel that they are alone on whatever path the are walking, the truth is, there are hundreds of men out there going through the same things you are facing. Don't be afraid to seek help form other men, remember "Iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens another man." Stay sharp, swallow your pride and build a community wh

Vast physical pleasure, deep love, and even union with divine source can be experienced through sex. Sexual energy is the source of all life in this world. Christopher Sunyata teaches people how to embrace their sexual power and artfully conduct it through their body and intimate relationships, integrating this power into their whole life. Drawing upon decades of practice and study under masters of sexual yoga, Taoist exercises, and Buddhist meditation, he teaches ancient body-centered practices without dogma or esoteric language that lead people to discover the secret wisdom already present within their own body. By learning to trust this wisdom within their body, people can reclaim passion and life energy that is their birthright, and create intimate relationships that deepen in love and chemistry over the years. Prior to teaching he was a successful international project manager responsible for over a billion dollars in revenue, a medical device engineer with seven patents, and a ceramic artist. He has raised four children, two of his own, including one who has significant disabilities. He lives in Boulder, Colorado with his beloved wife Karlene. Favorite Success Quote "He knows himself, and all that's in him, who knows adversity. To scale great heights, we must come out of lowermost depths. The way to heaven is through hell. We need fiery baptisms in the fiercest flames of our own bosoms. We must feel our hearts hot – hissing in us. And ere their fire is revealed, it must burn its way out of us, though it consume us and itself."~Herman Melville Key Points 1. You Need to Take Time to Acknowledge Your Present Mind and Body Every man needs to take time out of his day to simply acknowledge how he feels in the present moment, but more than merely acknowledging, he needs to ask what his body is telling him. Your mind and body are telling you a story, and when you are fully present and connected to your body you may realize that there are things that are happening in your life; stressors, lack of exercise, tension, etc. that need to be dealt with for you to live life fully. 2.You Will Die Someday One of the most uncomfortable truths of life is our own mortality. No matter who you are, what you do, how much money you make, how many women you sleep with, or how big of an impact you make, you will still die. This is an inescapable truth, and although it is unpleasant can also be incredibly freeing. People tend to ruminate on shit that really doesn't matter, they worry about the car they drive, what clothes they are going to wear, and a number of other things that will make no difference in the long run. If you want to be living a life of joy and freedom, learn to accept your death and live in accordance with the reality of your own fate. Love openly and fully, connect with people, get away from your damn phone and just be present. take care of your body, never hold back anything, go on adventures. We are all dead men walking, better make the most of it. 3. Learn to Accept and Enjoy Your Various Emotional States Our life is like a river, flowing between the banks of pleasure and pain. The only time we get into trouble is when we try to get out of the river and onto the bank, either of pleasure or pain, and we try to stay there. But as long as we realize that our life is a river and pleasure and pain are the boundaries, we're going to do fine. We're right in the middle between the two of them. We can't really catch hold on either side. A lot of things go by." ~Reggie Ray 4. Perfection is About Constant Improvement So many people are overly critical of themselves because they are not perfect. They fuss over every little mishap and screwed up event in their life without realizing that perfection is an unattainable goal, a carrot on a string. True perfection is constantly improving who you are. It's about being better than the man you were yesterday, learning new things, improving your character, your mind, your body, and your spirit. Don't worry about being better than everyone else or never messing up, simply work to be better day by day and you will experience joy and fulfillment.

Olaniyi "Nee" Sobomehin is a former American football fullback. He played college football at Portland State. He was signed by the New Orleans Saints as an undrafted free agent in 2008. After being cut from the NFL due to an injury, Olaniyi decided to begin coaching and from there, in adittion to being a full time fire fighter, he has built a coaching company imnotyou.com to help young athletes be successful at an elite level. Favorite Success Quote "Life is just a battle against your disbelief that's why I'm screaming I'm the greatest of all time like young Ali"~Nipsey Hustle Key Points 1. If Your Mindset isn't Right Your Life Won't be Right Everything in your life, good or bad, stems from your mindset and your internal beliefs. If your mindset is weak, your life will be weak, it's that simple. You must develop the habit of improving the quality of your thinking daily. Stop tolerating weak and amateur level behavior and beliefs from yourself, challenge all of your limiting beliefs that say "I can't do this" or "I'm not worthy." Quit complaining and making excuses and just get to work, improve your mindset and build the life of your dreams. 2. Begin Your Morning in the Right State One of the habits nearly every successful person follows is a powerful morning routine. How you start your days plays a huge role in the outcome of your days, and your days control the outcome of your life, so if you want to take control of your life, take control of your mornings. Some habits you can begin instilling into your morning routine for rapid results are: 1. Affirmations: Tell yourself that you are the best over and over, and over 2. Meditation: Quiet your mind and get present and focused for the day ahead 3. Read: There is almost nothing as important as educating yourself, read, read, read. 4. Exercise: Get the endorphins going and the blood flowing 3. Eliminate Things That Are Distracting You From Your Goals We live in a digital age where big companies capitalize on creating products that distract us from living our lives. If you want to be truly successful, you must begin to ruthlessly eliminate things that distract you from achieving your goals. Do you really need to spend hours on facebook each day for "Business," is the next episode of Breaking Bad really more important than your dreams and aspirations? Start eliminating distractions so that you can fill your life with real experiences and real achievement and impact. 4. Read as Much as You Can One of the cornerstone habit of every successful individual is massive self education. The most important investment you can make is in yourself, and reading is one of the easiest and least expensive ways to do that. Begin incorporating an hour of reading or listening to audiobooks into your life every day. Fill your head with the thoughts and life lessons of the greatest people who have ever lived and watch the quality of your life transform. 5. To Get Good Results You Need Good Emotions Your emotions are either helping or hurting you, there is no in between. If you want to see exceptional results in your life you need to have an exceptional quality of emotions. Learn to control how you feel in each moment. Understand the affect that sleep, exercise, posture, diet, and even your clothing has on how you feel in each moment and begin to build a lifestyle conducive to positive emotions. 6. Stop Being a Wimp aka Own Your Situation Whenever you find yourself allowing circumstances and negative emotions to rule your life, or whenever you begin playing the blame game, stop being a little wimp and own your situation. You are where you are because of the actions you have (or haven't) taken. You are responsible for your life, no one else. When you take 100% responsibility for your life, there is no one left to blame, and when there is no one left to blame you can begin living the life that you were born to live.

Cole is an author, investor, award winning speaker and entrepreneur. He is passionate about truly living life, creating massive financial success for himself and others, and most importantly, giving back. Cole has taught tens of thousands of people to be more than just alive, but to become the best versions of themselves, create massive profits, and then impact others by living a life of significance. Having barely escaped death 2 times in 2 separate accidents, Cole has a true appreciation for life and lives it to the fullest. He loves boating, is a water sport enthusiast, adrenaline junkie, drives fast cars, is a husband, father, and philanthropist. Cole's story of losing everything, even temporarily his ability to walk, to now having monumental success is truly inspirational. Favorite Success Quote "The truth is you can spend your life any way you want but you can only spend it once"~John C. Maxwell Key Points 1. The World Teaches Life Wrong Society, the media, friends and even family have taught you the wrong way to go about doing life. We are all taught from a young age that if we just go to college, get good grades and a good degree, then find a safe secure job and work our asses off for 20 years, then we will be ok. We will be successful. We're taught that success is about keeping up with the Joneses, having a bigger house, a faster car, a bigger credit card max, or sending your kids to a more prestigious private school. But what we aren't taught is that success is really about doing things that you love. Success is about finding what you are passionate about and good at, finding your God given gifts and then applying those to live a life of impact. Success is about having fulfilling relationships, meaningful work, joyful experiences, and leaving a legacy. And if big houses and fast cars are a part of that for you, than more power to you. Just realize that there is more to life than society's definition of success, and keeping up with the joneses and working that "secure" job until you retire is a one stop ticket to a life of regret. 2. Focus on Creation If you want to succeed in life and business, then start focusing on creation. Spend more time focusing on how you can create better content, create more value in the market place, and create better resources for people and spend less time worrying how you can "get" more. Business is about creation, it's about adding value and building something that your audience wants and needs. 3. Eliminate Distractions that Prevent You From Living Life Facebook, Twitter, Netflix, Adult Content. All of these, when taken to extremes are nothing more than distractions that will prevent you from living the life of your dreams. If you want to be successful and live life on your terms, you must begin to eliminate distractions and toxic activities/individuals that are poisoning your life. If you constantly find yourself wasting hours on Facebook, block it. If you are always watching Netflix, cancel your subscription for a while. (Do realize that after a long day of working on important things and getting crap done, you have earned the right to crash with some Game of Thrones of The Walking Dead, it's when it prevents you from achieving desired results that it becomes an issue) 4. Surround Yourself With Top People in Your Industry Success leaves clues, it's not an accident or an art, it's a science. If you want to be as successful as you can, you must surround yourself with other individuals in your industry who are achieving at a high level. Figure out what they are doing and copy it. As Picasso said "Good artists copy, great artists steal." You must realize that success is not a solo venture, you need mentors and accountability in your life and by surrounding yourself with people achieving on a higher level you will basically shortcut your way to success by avoiding pitfalls that they made and finding the things that worked and doing them that much quicker.

Zan Perrion is internationally recognized as one of the most original and insightful voices on relationships and seduction in the world today. A regular media commentator, he has been widely featured in the international press. Zan is the founder of the Ars Amorata philosophy–a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. He is also a co-founder of the Amorati network of men and author of The Alabaster Girl Favorite Success Quote "Beauty needs a witness"~Zan Perrion Key Points 1. The Greatest Seduction is Authenticity Today, there are a plethora of dating coaches and pickup "gurus" claiming that they have the secret sauce to seduction, the one line that will immediately drop panties and guarantee quick effortless sex. However, what these so-called gurus do not realize, and where they are doing most men a disservice, is that seduction is all about authenticity. It's about being who you are, expressing your desire unashamedly and fearlessly. It's about being willing to open up and share the parts of you that you don't think women will like. If you want to be a great seducer and lover, you first have to be authentic, to be the grounded masculine man who knows who he is and what he wants in life and is openly living and expressing that on a daily basis. Forget all of the cloak and dagger techniques and one-liners, just be real, be you, and be authentic. If a woman can't appreciate that then she wouldn't have been a good fit in your life anyways and you save yourself wasted effort on a relationship that would have been built upon a facade. 2. A Great Lover Appreciates the Beauty of All Women Something many men fail to do is to appreciate the beauty in all women. Sure they appreciate the tan, fit, busty blonde, but they forget to see the beauty in every woman they come into contact with. Any time you are talking to a girl, whether you are sexually interested or not, try to find something beautiful about her and express it. Maybe it is her smile, her body, her eyes or dress, or maybe it's the way she laughs, her passion, her kindness, her gentle spirit. There is beauty in everyone if we will just look, and the world would be a far better place if more people were able to see and acknowledge the beauty within every person with whom they interact. 3. A Boy Looks for What He Can Get a Man Looks for What He Can Share The true difference between, a boy and a man is simply the focus they have. A boy looks for what he can get; sex, money, prestige, status, fulfillment etc etc. a man, however, looks for what he can give. He comes into every interaction looking for ways to lift others up and to share himself, to make others feel beautiful and loved. A man is content in himself and doesn't need the validation of others. He is already full, and as a result he can pour out into others lives without holding back. 4. There is Great Beauty in Women if You Continue Many guys have been screwed over by women. We have opened ourselves up and put ourselves on the line only to be burned and hurt. After this, we became jaded and angry, stereotyping all women as mean and deceitful, failing to realize that like all other generalizations, one isolated incident does not account for a whole populations actions. If you want to be successful with women and in life in general, you must realize that there is great beauty if you will just continue. Yes, there are women who are simply mean and hurtful, but the vast majority are beautiful creatures, incredible treasure chests of beauty just waiting for the right guy who can come along and unlock them. So keep going, keep being authentic and keep searching for the beauty in all women and you will find it. Like the bible says (and this is applicable regardless of you religious beliefs or lack thereof) "Seek and you shall find, ask and it will be given, knock and the door will be opened. " Keep seeking, asking and knocking and you will find more satisfaction and deep intimacy than you ever thought possible. 5. It's Not About the Move You Make Just That You Make a Move Just make a move. Stop worrying about doing the right thing and just do something. So many guys never have success in any area of their life because they are afraid of taking imperfect action, but what they fail to realize is that no action is perfect and the only way to be successful is to continually experiment, fail, learn, and experiment again. Don't be afraid to fail, be afraid not to try.

Dane Maxwell is a serial entrepreneur, the founder of Zannee and the CEO of The Foundation program. He has taken his businesses from mere ideas to seven figure companies within a brief period of 5 years. Success Quote "All you have to do is care" – Dane Maxwell Key Points 1. All You Have to Do is Care That's it. All you have to do is care. If you want to succeed at business, health, love, spirituality or any other facet of your life, all you have to do is care. You have to care about what you are doing more than you care about the next episode of American Idol or the next adult video you were going to watch. You have to care enough to get uncomfortable, to do the hard thing, to put in the work, to sweat, to cry and to bleed until you achieve your goal. If you want a great relationship. All you have to do is care If you want a successful, globally impactful business, all you have to do is care. If you want to live the life of your dreams and help as many people as you possibly can along the way. All you have to do is care. 2. Accept Devastation on a Daily Basis On the road to success, you will be devastated. It's all but inevitable. Part of the entrepreneurial lifestyle, and really life as a human being is accepting that at any moment you could be devastated on either a large or a small scale. If you want to lead a happy, fulfilled life, you must learn to accept this possibility and not run from it. If you live your life in constant fear of devastation and failure, you will never truly live. If you accept the inherent risk of this human existence and accept that devastation could occur at any moment, then you are free to live fully and openly. 3. With the Context of Unconditional Love There is No Concept of Worth Everyone is familiar with the concept of worth. Be it net worth, social worth or self worth, we have all heard the term and are all well versed ascribing worth to everything in our lives, especially ourselves. However, Dane suggests that we should approach this concept from a completely different angle. Unconditional love. If you love yourself unconditionally there is no concept of worth, you are loves no matter how you are. No matter how well your business does. No matter if you are successful in your relationships, no matter if you feel lost and unsure, or on fire and passionate. This idea of radical, unconditional love for both yourself and everyone in your life is the powerhouse for transformation. 4. True Power Comes from Being Vulnerable in Community We always speak of a confident man as someone who has his shit together. Someone who is unaffected by others and who feels a total independence from outcome. In the interview, Dane suggests that real power, true power, lies in authenticity and vulnerability. Real power lies in being able to look the people who are counting on you in the face and say "Guys I'm scared, I don't know what I'm doing." When you open yourself up, when you are vulnerable and honest, you are confident. It shows that you are a man who is willing to be hurt, who is willing to be ridiculed and mocked and who is willing to admit his own weaknesses and shortcomings. True power lies in vulnerability 5. How You Treat Women is Indicative of Your Character One of the greatest indicators of a man's character is how he treats the women in his life. Men who treat women as party favors and objects to be enjoyed for a night before pissing off are likely the same in all other areas of their lives. Their interactions in business, health and spirituality are likely equally shallow and disconnected. If you want to be a great man, understand a woman's heart. Be willing to sit with her for hours while she shares her feelings without any concern for your own desires. Be willing to work at a relationship and work to connect with a woman. If you can understand the heart of a woman, you can unlock everything else in your life.

David Wagner is a spiritual teacher, men's group leader, and proud father who has dedicated his life to the exploration of personal transformation. He travels widely leading workshops and retreats for people from all walks of life from all over the world. He is the host of The Whole Manchilada Podcast, is a featured meditation teacher on Yogaglo.com, and serves on the faculties of Kripalu and Omega Institutes. Favorite Success Quote "Success is messy." ~T. Harv Eker Key Points 1. Fearlessly Look at Your Mess One of the biggest challenges that modern men face is to look at themselves without bias or emotion and examine the mess in their lives. To fearlessly look at your life and examine your bullshit, taking full responsibility for it and where it has gotten you takes courage and backbone. Realize that you can never completely eliminate all the bs in your life, but you can become aware of it and mitigate its effects in different areas. Be courageous, be fearless, take an honest look at yourself in the mirror and be willing to face whatever it is that you see. 2. You Can do the "Right" Thing and Still be Screwed Something most men today do not realize is that they can do all of the "right" things by family and society's standards and still be completely screwed. Going to college, getting a good job, coming home to a mediocre marriage and a night full of sitcom reruns and reality TV is not success, it's barely existing. Society tells men that as long as they stay out of jail, and don't hit anyone, they are doing ok. But the truth is, most men are dying, in fact, most men have been dying since they left college. They give up their hopes and their dreams in favor of playing it safe and doing the "right" thing, they stay in terrible relationships that leave them drained and bitter because it's the "right" thing, and they never risk stepping out of their comfort zone and expressing themselves fully because doing what everyone else does is the "right" thing to do. If you want to be a real man, a man with grit, backbone, and balls, there will come a time in your life where you must abandon the so-called right thing in favor of "your thing." Forget living for society, your friends, or your family. If you want to be a success and enjoy your life, you must do the things that will make you happy, not the things that everyone accepts as the "right" path to take. 3. There is No One Way to Express Your "Wild Man" A common misconception in the world of men is that you somehow have to be this alpha on a Harley Davidson, sporting a beard and a full sleeve of tattoos to be a real man. The truth is that being a man is much less a matter of outward appearances and much more a matter of conviction and personal power. It's a matter of owning who you are and fearlessly expressing yourself to the world 4. Avoid Simulation and Embrace Reality With the ever growing prevalence of video games and online porn, now more than ever before, it is easy for men to live out their dreams vicariously through virtual simulations. Instead of going out and meeting women and getting to a place in their sex lives where they can have that vibrant, passionate, crazy sex, men are settling for sitting shamefully by their laptop, lotion in hand. Instead of creating a life of freedom and adventure and purpose, men are leveling up their Dark Elf Wizard in Skyrim or World of War Craft or getting to the latest prestige in Call of Duty. Men are settling for results that are far below what they are capable of simply because of the ease and comfort of simulation. While adult content and video games may have their place in some men's lives, you need to look at why you are using these distractions and make the necessary changes so that your life is so kick ass that no simulation could ever compare.

Argentina-born Dan De Leon is a powerhouse DJ, blending his unique brand of Tribal, Tech and House rhythms with a kinetic crowd connection to mesmerizing effect. His magnetic appeal has propelled him to performances at top venues around the world where he delivers a crowd experience that crushes expectations and leaves in it's wake a trail of melodies and memories that live on long after the night has ended. Dan De Leon's debut original studio production "SHOW YOU" was signed by DJ Chus and released on STEREO PRODUCTIONS in 2007. His many productions and remixes since then have hit the BILLBOARD TOP 10 Dance Chart and have appeared on the world's top DJ compilations including those of the preeminent GLOBAL UNDERGROUND and the legendary TOMMY BOY RECORDS. His remix work includes numerous BILLBOARD #1's, Top 10's and Top 20's for Noelia, Timbaland, Nelly Furtado, Kristine W and Debby Holiday. Favorite Success Quote "It is better to be impetuous than too circumspect because fortune is a woman and if she is to be submissive it is necessary to beat and coerce her"~Niccolo Machiavelli Key Points 1. You Can't Rest on Your Laurels Whenever you are an artist, businessman, entrepreneur, athlete etc. it is often easy to work incredibly hard for a success, and then allow a single victory to go to your head causing you to stop striving the way you were before. If you want to be truly successful in any profession (especially if you are a performing artist) you must have an incredibly short term memory for both successes and failures. The show that went great, the business that plummeted, the deal that tripled your profit…none of that matters, all that matters is that you continue gaining momentum as you move forward and not allow success to cause complacency. 2. Just Keep Moving Forward Boldly One of the only ways to achieve massive success in life is to move forward with bold determination every single day. If you want a result, go after it with all you have, be bold, seize opportunity and be willing to lay it all on the line for one chance, one opportunity, because that may be all that you get. 3. Always be Ready Perhaps the greatest take away from the entire interview was Dan's focus on proper preparation. Life will often send opportunities your way at unexpected times, and it is up to you to seize them. However, what is more important than taking the chances life gives you is being ready, is having developed yourself into the man you need to be to seize these opportunities properly. Life waits for no man and fortune favors the prepared. 4. Create Every Day If you want success in your life, create every day. While in the interview, Dan talked specifically about music, this is applicable to all fronts of life. If you want to be healthy, workout every day. Want to be rich? Gain momentum in your business every day Want to run a top blog? Create content every day. Always be moving forward on your goals and dreams and never let yourself lose momentum

Grant Cardone is an international business and sales expert. He has authored 4 business books and customized sales training programs for Fortune 500 companies, small businesses, success-minded individuals and entrepreneurs. Cardone, a dynamic, highly sought after international speaker, captivates audiences with his down-to-earth, entertaining speaking style as he tackles timely topics regarding sales, marketing, branding and entrepreneurship, outlining what people need to do to thrive in the new global economy. In Grant's second appearance on the Knowledge for Men show, we delve deeper into how to create a successful life and business and what mindsets and philosophies you need to make 2015 your best year ever. Key Points 1. Perfection is Just an Excuse for Inaction So many people claim to be perfectionists. They say that they don't want to publish any content until it's perfect, they can't write that book, release that podcast, publish that website, until it's absolutely perfect. The cold reality is that perfectionism is simply an excuse for inaction. No, you're not a perfectionist, you're just not taking action. You don't have writers block, you just aren't writing. You don't have any excuse to be sitting on your butt! Realize that you will never be perfect, the content you create will never be perfect, nothing you do will ever be quite perfect. But you must take action anyways! Imperfect action is better than no action, and the only thing you can do worse than the wrong thing is nothing. So get out there and start creating, start selling, start whatever has been on your heart and be willing to work through imperfection until you achieve success. 2. You'll Never Make a Shot You Don't Take A huge fear that prevents many entrepreneurs from taking action is the fear of failure. What they don't realize, however, is that the greatest failure is inaction. It is impossible to succeed at something you do not try. If you attempt a new job, business, relationship, or take some big risk and "fail" you have learned something and moved closer towards the life of your dreams. If you sit on your tail, not taking any action; you have seen nothing, done nothing, and achieved nothing. If you want to be a success, you have to be a massive action taker, get out there and tear it up! Feel the fear and do it anyways. Start that business, ask that girl out, move out and travel the world. Life is too damn short to live in fear of failure. You must make the fear of regret greater than any fear of failure could be. 3. Success Takes Persistence and Determination Grant spent over half of his life in the single minded pursuit of success. Along the way, he failed countless times. By his own estimation, he has made hundreds of thousands of sales calls, and only succeeded at a rate of 20%. But that 20% has allowed him to make hundreds of millions of dollars and become one of the world's leading authorities on sales and business success. Realize that if you want to succeed, it will take time. It may take ten years, it may take 20, it takes however long it takes. While this may seem like a big sacrifice, the simple reality is that the true sacrifice is living a mediocre life for those 10-20 years. If you want to be successful, if you want to wake up every day with a smile on your face, a beautiful women next to you in bed, a full bank account and a happy life, it will take hard work. But it will be worth it. 4. Never Abandon Your Purpose Many men (especially men with family's) believe that it is a somehow noble gesture to give up on their hopes, goals, and dreams for their family. They believe that it is somehow a worthy life to forgo everything you have ever wanted to create and be remembered for for the sake of your wife and kids. While this may sound selfless and chivalrous on the surface, you have to dig deeper to realize the more sinister implication. If you wake up every day, miserable and angry about the job you have to work so you can provide for your family, how do you think that will affect your relationships at home? If you come home every night, so exhausted that you barely have to energy to lay on the couch and watch TV, much less spend time with your kids, how do you think this will affect your family's view of you? They don't see the hours worked so they can lead their comfortable lives, they only see a father who is too tired and miserable to truly invest in his kids. If you abandon your dreams and desires for a steady paycheck, what lessons are you teaching your kids, especially your sons? What will their outlook on life be when they see their father, their role model grinding through an existence that he doesn't enjoy for a salary that still isn't enough? Now let's flip the script. Imagine that instead of giving up on your dreams, you grabbed your balls and jumped off the deep end. You went for it! You would spend a while (years possibly) in financial risk (likely no more than you already have in a 9-5), investing tons o

Alan C. Fox has lived a long and joyful life, achieving tremendous success in many different arenas, both personally and professionally. He has advanced degrees in accounting, law, education, and professional writing. He has expanded his commercial real estate company, ACF Property Management, Inc. into a billion dollar enterprise since founding it in 1968. He founded Rattle Poetry Journal (in 1994), a nationally renowned publication including his conversations with noted poets Alan is dedicated to sharing his wisdom with as many people as possible through his writings, public talks, and media appearances. Favorite Success Quote "There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved" ~George Sand Key Points 1. Learn to be Authentic not Perfect Many men have a perfection complex. They feel that unless they are perfect, they aren't worthy of love and aren't worth their goals. The simple fact, however, is that no man is perfect, we all have flaws and failures and always will. Your goal as a grounded man should be to become 100% authentic, not perfect. Be yourself, don't hide behind this facade or persona of who you want to be; this only leads to a disconnect between how people view you and who you really are. When you are 100% authentic, when you are vulnerable and open yourself up to the world, no one can hurt you, you give your full self and allow others to take it or leave it knowing that some will love you and some will hate you. 2. Accept People Faults and All Once you come to terms with your own imperfection, you must come to terms with the imperfection of others. As much as we hate to admit it, no woman is perfect, there is no "Cinderella." Every woman has her faults, failures, and issues. If you want to be a grounded man in a relationship, you must learn to love your woman, faults and all. Do not sit in judgement of them, but rather accept them, acknowledging your own faults and move forward in your relationship. 3. There Are Two "Me's" and One "Us" In every great relationship, there are boundaries. You are two individuals but one, you have two seperate lives but the same life. You must realize that a key component of any healthy relationship is seperation. You need time with your friends, time by yourself, and time away to grow. You should never come to a point in your relationship where your significant other has an issue with you spending time with your social circle each week or taking a trip by yourself to do some thinking. Accept that to grow together, you also need to grow apart. 4. Do Not Avoid Conversations About Money Money is one of the leading causes of divorce in all marriages, and one of the greatest reasons for this is a lack of open and honest communication about money. If you want to make a relationship work, you need to be open about your financial situation, debt, spending habits, and financial goals. If you come into a relationship with significant debt that the other person was unaware of (or vice versa) you are starting off your lives together with contention. As Zig Ziglar said "Money isn't everything but it is right up there with oxygen," do not let something so important go undiscussed. Realize that your value as a person and as a lover is not your bank account, you have more to offer a relationship than financial wealth. If you love the other person, you will find a way to work through financial issues together, but first you must talk about them and be open. 5. Take Care of Yourself First A simple yet profound piece of advice. You cannot be all that your partner needs you to be if you are only focused on them and not yourself. What your ideal woman wants is for you to be a masculine, emotionally intelligent, grounded man, and to do this, you must first have your own life in order. You can't take care of someone else and love fully if your life is in shambles, you can't commit to a healthy relationship if you are not making your own health and well being a priority above the other person's. Although it may sound selfish, this is truly the only way for a relationship to work. No marriage or long term committment should be two halves making a whole, rather it should be two whole people coming together to enjoy life. Become whole before you start searching for your "better-half"

Adam Braun is a New York Times bestselling author and the Founder of Pencils of Promise, an award-winning organization that has broken ground on more than 300 schools for children in poverty around the world. He is also the Director of the Global Education Platform, an initiative conceived by the UN Special Envoy for Global Education to identify and accelerate breakthroughs in learning innovation. He has been featured as a speaker at The White House, the United Nations and the Clinton Global Initiative. He has also been named to Business Insider's 40 Under 40, Wired Magazine's 50 People Who Are Changing the World, and was selected as one of the World Economic Forum's first ten "Global Shapers." Favorite Success Quote "Live not in dreams, but in contemplation of reality which is perhaps the future. "~Rilke Key Points 1. Passion is Over-rated Purpose is Enduring Many of the modern self help "gurus" and speakers talk constantly about finding and pursuing your passions. The simple fact is, passion fades away. The excitement dies, you get bored, you move on. Purpose however, purpose is enduring. If you can find your purpose, that one thing that you were put on this earth to do, and pursue it with your whole heart, you will be successful no matter what. 2. You Cannot Fake Authenticity Most people have a built in B.S. detector. They can tell when someone is disingenuous or inauthentic. If you really want to make a difference in the world, if you really want to have an impact and live a life of purpose and joy, you have to drop the mask and be authentic. Open up, be vulnerable, share the real you, unabashedly and unashamed of who you are or what people might think. Many people may dislike you, some may even hate you, but if you try and please everyone, you will end up impacting no one. 3. Get Out of Your Comfort Zone One of the quickest ways to find your purpose, to get on track to live the life of your dreams is to break out of your comfort zone. Do stuff that scares you, take that class you've been putting off, join that men's group, leave everything and go backpacking across Europe. Almost no one ever dies wishing that they had spent more time playing it safe. You only get one shot at this life. Put your neck on the line and get uncomfortable!

Jairek Robbins was born in Santa Monica, California. He is a decorated performance coach and lifestyle entrepreneur who has applied his innovative methods to living a life of adventure, philanthropy, and entrepreneurship. At the age of twenty-three, Robbins was awarded the Congressional Award Gold Medal from the United States Congress. By twenty-five, he gained international renown as the creator of a revolutionary approach to maximizing personal performance that accelerated organizational success for a wide range of businesses. Robbins's personal journey has included circumnavigating the globe on a ship, helping build schools and houses in multiple countries, cage diving with great white sharks, encountering silverback gorillas in Rwanda, and working as a volunteer in underdeveloped regions. He supports a number of charities and nonprofits, such as the Change Heroes and the Pencils of Promise Foundation. He is also the author of the book Live It!: Achieve Success by Living with Purpose. Favorite Success Quote "Life supports that which supports life" – Anonymous Key Points 1. You Must Give Before You Can Receive Today, many men focus only on getting. Getting the latest car, getting the biggest house, or getting the hottest girl friend. Unfortunately, there isn't much of a focus on giving. Jairek believes that for anyone to be truly successful, they must approach all areas of their life with a giving mindset. When you focus, first and foremost, on adding value and improving the world around you, personal success is an inevitable byproduct. When you make your business plan, ask how you can give value to the people you will be serving. When you start a new workout, ask who you can inspire to achieve optimal health. When you start a new relationship, ask how you can have a positive impact on your new friend or significant other. No matter what you are doing, always ask how you can give value to others. Life is too damn short to be selfish. 2. Focus First on Intrinsic Goals Jairek believes that one of the biggest mistake many people make when setting goals is that they focus first on extrinsic goals rather than intrinsic goals. Meaning that they focus on goals more about others than themselves. For example, many of your reading this probably at one point in time, had the goal of graduating college. For many of you, this goal was set only to please your parents and not because it was something that you truly cared about. Here are some examples of intrinsic versus extrinsic goals: Intrinsic: Going to college because you want to learn as much as you can and enjoy your field of study Learning a new instrument because you enjoy practicing and making music Getting fit because you care about your body and want to take care of yourself so that you can perform optimally Starting a business because you are passionate about something and want to share your gifts with the world. Extrinsic: Going to college because you don't want to disappoint your family. Learning a new instrument because you think girls will like it Getting fit to impress others Starting a business because you want to make a ton of money Always focus on goals that are about what you want from your life rather than what others want. Following a path because it is what friends, family or society tells you to do is a sure ticket to a death bed full of regrets. 3. Create Many "Whys" For Your Goals Once you have found and set goals that are intrisic and motivate you for the right reasons, you must create a compelling list of reasons to achieve those goals. An old personal growth saying is that "Reasons come first, results come second." You will not achieve anything of measurable significance unless you have reasons that anchor you to your purpose during hard times. Jairek recommends taking your biggest goals and writing down five new reasons to achieve them or "whys" every day. If at the end of the year, you cannot find at least five solid, reasons that send chills up your spine just thinking about them, chances are, you are pursuing the wrong goals. 4. Focus on Fulfilling vs. Pleasurable As old and cliche as it may sound, Jairek is a huge proponent of living your life in a way that is fulfilling in the long run versus pleasurable in the moment. When Jairek was in school, he used to go to bed at 10 p.m. almost every night so that he could wake up and kick butt at school and business. Even though this wasn't fun at the time, he is now one of the leading voices in personal growth, wildly successful in his business, and fulfilled in his family life. Even though choosing growth in the moment is rarely fun, it will always, always pay off in the long run. So next time you are faced with a decision between short term pleasure and long term fulfillment, ask yourself what kind of life you want to be living 10 years from now and the answer should be clear. 5. Live It All of the personal growth information, all of the seminars, podcasts and books in the world will not cha

Dale Thomas Vaughn – a champion of purpose, has worked with some of the most influential people in the world including billionaire industry moguls, academic thought-leaders and international heads of state. He has written and edited seven best-selling books, run with the bulls in Pamplona, trekked the 500-mile pilgrimage that is the Camino de Santiago, become a certified specialist of wine, and both succeeded and failed in the world of business. Today, through his award-winning work with The EmpowerMentorship Institute, Dale helps men discover what they want from their lives and then empowers them to make a concrete plan to go do it. Favorite Success Quote "The aim of life is self development, to realize one's nature perfectly"~Oscar Wilde Key Points 1. You Have to Take Your Masks Off If you want to live your life to the fullest possible capacity, you have to take your masks off. You can no longer live your life in-authentically to please others, you must be true to yourself and who you want to be. Do not allow social, familial or societal norms to govern who you are. If you believe in something that is controversial or unpopular, voice your opinion. If you want to live your life in an uncommon or even frowned up way, do it! Don't let anyone or anything stand in the way of you living your truth. 2. Introspect One of the most powerful tools in your arsenal for discovering yourself and your purpose is introspection. In today's busy world, we almost never have any time alone and in silence to spend with our thoughts. For Dale, he achieves this time by hiking, for you, it may be morning meditation, an ocean swim, or a long walk outside. Do whatever you need to do to clear your mind and get the time you need to reflect on who you are, where you are going, and what you want out of life. 3. Get a Plan for Your Life Once you have spent time in introspection, the next step is to develop a plan for your life. Who do you want to be? What do you want to achieve? What legacy do you want to leave? Once you have the answer, write out a plan for yourself to get there. Set goals and deadlines, challenge yourself and create a bulletproof plan for achieving the best life ever. 4. Break Your "Everest Goal" Down When you are setting your plan, you will likely have an "Everest Goal" something that is incredibly far off and difficult to achieve. It is important that you start on the path to this goal by setting smaller, six week goals, completing these small goals and then reassessing where you are with relation to the end. 5. Surround Yourself With the Right People Now that you have clarity on who you are and what you want to achieve, you have a vision for who you want to be, and you have smaller goals set to help you achieve that vision, it is time to start surrounding yourself with people who can help you make that vision a reality. Your social circle is one of the most important factors to your success. We all know the Jim Rohn quote that "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with." and it holds true with regards to your purpose. Surround yourself with likeminded men and women who will help you and encourage you on your personal growth journey, who have been there, done that and can help you make sure that you don't make the same mistakes. Remember, who you associate with is who you become. Make sure you are associating with the right people. 6. Follow the Six Steps to Manliness In the show, Dale shared with us the six key pillars to manliness. Whatever your personal definition of manliness is, all six of these will show up in your life in some way. 1. Purpose: Every man must have some purpose in his life bigger than himself, something he wants to accomplish before he dies that will leave a lasting legacy. 2. Balance: Every man need to have balance in his life. He must be sure to prioritize family and fun as much as he does his work. 3. Adventure: If you aren't adventuring some, you aren't living. Life was meant to be lived on the edge, not in a chair. 4. Sophistication: Find things that spark interest in you and pursue them with a passion. 5. Community: No man is an island, and having a support group of amazing people will be one of the greatest accelerators on your road to manliness. 6. Leisure: You only live once, have a little fun, relax a little, you don't always have to be "on." All work and no play is a sure fire way to live a boring life.

To millions of people across the globe, the name Bob Proctor is synonymous with success. Long before his role in the movie The Secret sent him into the realm of superstardom, he was already a legendary figure in the world of personal development. His insights, inspiration, ideas, systems, and strategies are the dimes on which countless lives have spun — the sparks that have ignited career transformations, personal epiphanies, inner awakenings, and the creation of million-dollar fortunes the world over. As a speaker, author, consultant, coach, and mentor, Bob Proctor works with business entities and individuals around the world, instilling within them not only the mental foundations of success and the motivation to achieve, but also the actionable strategies that will empower them to grow, improve, and thrive in today's ever-changing world. Favorite Success Quote "Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal"~Earl Nightingale Key Points 1. You Must Apply What You Learn During Bob's journey of personal growth, one of his greatest strengths was that he was an implementer. Like Bob, most people on this site, have read "Think and Grow Rich" and have mentors investing into the and giving them advice. The reason for Bob's success? He actually applied everything he learned. He followed the action steps from "Think and Grow Rich," when a successful person told him to do something, he went out and did it. If you want to achieve success in your own life, you must be a massive action taker and rapid implementer. Don't just read success books, live them. Don't just listen to advice, follow it. It is only by action that you will achieve the success you desire. 2. Mentors Are One of The Most Important Aspects to Success Throughout Bob's journey he had some of the most prolific and successful individuals in the personal growth world as mentors. And the fact is, almost every successful person has had someone pouring into them and helping them on their path to the top. If you want to be a top level achiever, it is imperative that you surround yourself with the kind of people who will help you get there. Become friends with individuals who make you uncomfortable, who are so far ahead of you that they intimidate you, and make you push yourself to achieve new levels of success. No man is an island, and the quickest way to the top is to find people who are already there willing to give you a hand. 3. You Can Build Yourself an Incredible Education Like many successful individuals, Bob had no formal education, in fact he never finished high school. However, the education he was able to receive through experience and mentors was worth far more than any degree or letters after his name. If you want to be successful, you must become a self educator. Read as many books as you can take action on, go to as many seminars and courses as you can afford, and surround yourself with as many high achievers as you can find. Through self education, belief, and massive action taking, success is all but inevitable. 4. You Don't Decide on a Purpose; You Discover It Bob's advice for anyone feeling lost or unsure, is to spend time alone, writing about the legacy you want to leave, and the way you want to live your life. It is his belief that we are all guided by something bigger than ourselves and that we all have a higher purpose to achieve. And while we may not be able to alter that purpose, if we discover and follow it, we will set ourselves up for a life of fulfillment and success. 5. Forget Yourself Into Immortality One of Bob's core beliefs is that we must focus on others to become true successes. As the quote from Emerson states above, we must, "Forget ourselves into immortality." Because it is only by focusing on others and leaving legacy of selflessness that we can become truly great.

Dr. Dain Heer is an internationally renowned author, of "Being You: Changing the World", speaker and facilitator of consciousness and change. For over 14 years now, Dain has been inviting people to embrace their true greatness—people from every culture, country, age and social strata of society. Originally trained as a chiropractor, he has a completely different approach to healing by facilitating people to tap into and recognize their own abilities and knowing. Favorite Success Quote "Never give up, never give in, never quit" Key Points 1. Start by Asking Questions One of the greatest tools you have when faced with a challenging situation is your ability to ask the right questions. Tony Robbins once said that "Successful people ask better questions and as a result they get better answers." By using this mindset shift, you can alter your reality in powerful and tangible ways. Ask questions every day that excite and empower you and you find equally exciting and empowering answers. Questions like: "How could it get any better than this?" open up an infinite number of doors for increased fulfillment and joy in your life. Always be asking the right questions. 2. You Create What You Have One Choice at a Time You are where you are today because of the cumulative affect of millions of small choices. Every breach or reaffirmation of your integrity, every broken or kept promise, every pursued or abandoned goal has gotten you to where you are today. Instead of dwelling on past decisions that have landed (or elevated) you to where you are, begin anew by looking to where you want to be. Set a clear vision in your mind for who you want to be years from now, and make every decision based off of that vision, big or small. Realize that there is no such thing as an unimportant decision, even the smallest of choices can have the greatest impact. 3. One of Your Greatest Gifts is Kindness Kindness is the greatest gift we can give others and ourselves. Being kind to those we know can do nothing for us not only improves the world and the society in which we live, but it also gives us freedom, joy, and a sense of appreciation for what we really have. Every day look out for new ways that you can be kind, and never miss an opportunity to show love to someone you care about. Life is short and you never know if you will have that chance again. 4. Ask Who Your Beliefs Belong To One of the most important practices you can do when you are feeling lost, stressed, or upset is to ask "who does this belief belong to." We are the culmination of the beliefs of the thousands of people and influences in our lives, and we often live so fast and so detached from ourselves that we never slow down to examine our beliefs and ask if they are really ours. Don't think you can succeed at something? Who does that belief really belong to? Think you will never achieve the relationships of your dreams? Who does that belief really belong to? Think you have to follow one career path to achieve fulfillment? Who does that belief really belong to? Take time to examine the thoughts that you have and figure out where they are coming from. As you begin to identify the negative beliefs that are not yours, you will free yourself and find more peace and joy than you have ever had before.

Jay Elliot was a senior member of the original Macintosh development team and helped Steve Jobs develop the original user interface inspired by Xerox PARC. Becoming Senior Vice President of Apple reporting directly to Steve, Jay ran all corporate operations including business planning, IT operations, Facilities, and HR for Apple worldwide. As a mentor, Jay was able to guide Steve in learning and utilizing the management principles Jay had learned at IBM and Intel, which helped make possible building Apple into a multibillion company and in turning Steve into the kind of leader who was able to inspire and create the society-changing Apple products. Favorite Success Quote "If I'd asked people what they wanted, they would have told me they wanted faster horses"~Henry Ford Key Points 1. You Need to Balance Your Life One of Steve Job's greatest strengths was the fiery intensity he had for his vision. However, this was also one of his greatest weaknesses. Jobs was never "off" he was always focused on his company and vision. As amazing as the results are that Jobs achieved, it is essential to your long term health and happiness that you find a way to balance all four pillars of your life. Never get so caught up in your business that you forget to show up in your health, relationships and spiritual life. 2. Fill Your Mind with New Ideas One of the qualities that made Steve Jobs great is that he was an innovator. He constantly surrounded himself with the newest ideas and modalities of thinking. If you want to change the world and create great things, you need to become an innovator. Always be searching for new ways of solving the worlds problems. 3. Tap Into Your Passion If you want to change the world, you must find what you are passionate about. Find that thing that sets a fire in your belly and gets you up out of bed each morning before the sun is up. You only have one shot at this life, you can either waste it, playing it safe and living someone else's life, making someone else rich, or you can live a life of passion, doing something you believe in, something that matters. 4. Dont Get Caught up in an Institutional Structure One of the biggest mistakes any young professional can make is getting caught up in an institutional structure. When you get onto a ladder designed by someone else, you are stuck in a linear path with very little room to innovate and create. The best thing you can do is to work for yourself or a startup that allows you the freedom to build and create the world as you see fit.

In 2006, Aaron Marino started a men's image consulting firm, alpha m. Image Consulting, to help average men with simple common sense advice; aimed to enhance their image, style, grooming, fashion and most importantly their confidence. Aaron Marino has been featured in countless publications, as well as guest appearances on various television and radio programs, both locally, as well as nationally. Throughout the past 7 years, Aaron Marino has worked with thousands of men from around the world, helping them with their personal style, grooming, fashion, image, wardrobe and even dating. Through his weekly YouTube posts, Aaron Marino covers a host of topics in the area of men's style, fashion, grooming and even personal responsibility. Aaron Marino has not only expanded his reach with his viral videos but also with a variety of products such as the stylesystem that was featured on the ABC's Shark Tank. Favorite Success Quote "Success does not always look like what you hope it will "~Anonymous Key Points 1. Focus on Fit No matter what your clothing budget is, always focus on fit first. A $20 shirt from Old Navy can look better than a $300 Tommy Bahama shirt if it the fit is better. Be sure to try on different sizes of clothing for different brands and styles as a medium in one brand name may be too small in another. Realize that a tighter budget is not an excuse for bad style. Look for those few key wardrobe items and buy a quality article of clothing that fits like a glove. 2. The Goal of Style is to Increase Confidence The ultimate goal of improving your style and your grooming is to increase your confidence. When your body looks great and your clothes look great, you are going to feel great. When you put your best foot forward, you will have increased confidence and self esteem, and this will lead to an increase in opportunities and relationship successes. 3. Learn to Differentiate Between Constructive and Deconstructive Criticism Any entrepreneur, businessman, or public figure is going to attract a far amount of controversy, and with this controversy always comes criticism. This criticism typically comes in one of two forms either constructive or deconstructive. Constructive criticism, although uncomfortable, will help you to grow and improve yourself as a man and a leader. Deconstructive criticism on the other hand will do nothing but toxifiy your life and lower your self esteem. Seek constructive criticism and cut out as many sources of deconstructive criticism as you can.