Eps 166: Solo show connecting the dots between how building relationship leads us to more effective parenting

Solo show!

News:

• No shows in December, Happy Holidays!
• January
• Parenting Teens Audio Summit, YAY!!
• Launching the first of January – stay tuned to register
• Summit is live January 21st – 25th
• Validation, inspiration, nuggets to PRACTICE
• Patreon
• Woop woop
• Alternative to membership program
• Opportunity to be in exchange of energy
• patreon.com/joyfulcourage
• $1, $5, $10/month options
• $10 private FB group, Chaos to Calm Ecourse, monthly Webinar based on the questions that are coming up in the group

This week’s content:

• Positive parenting is easy when there isn’t a lot of challenge – more challenging when our kids are rubbing up against our triggers
• Toolbox metaphor
• Higher our emotion, more likely we use desperate tools (rewards and punishment)
• The more tools we put in to toolbox, the more likely it is that the ineffective tools of rewards and punishment slide to the bottom
• We can always do better
• Relationship matters!!!!!!
• When our relationships are disconnected, navigating behavior in a harsh way isn’t useful for anyone
• Fear takes us towards harsh punishment
• Mistakes are opportunities to learn
• There are always consequences
• Inviting out kids into relationship
• Can feel uncomfortable
• Taking accountability for how the relationship currently is and get vulnerable
• Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean we stop being curious with our kids
• Start paying attention to the body
• Support ourselves by noticing what is happening inside
• We get more access to our toolbox when we are grounded and neutral
• At the end of the day what is most useful is your relationship
• NOT permission for being a permissive parent – still hold boundaries
• Stronger relationship the more likely your child will open up and talk to you
• Creating an environment where our kids can thrive and be a soft landing when they get it wrong
• Shame/blame does not promote accountability and personal responsibility

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