Eps 117: Solo show - A Bit About Choosing in, Being Kind and Firm, Making Agreements and Following Through

Content:

• I am on the journey with you, I am with you! Highs and lows, you are my peeps!
• The teen saga continues….
• Having a teen is like birth, you think you’re so prepared and then…. Reality hits!
• Teen brain experiences everything so intensely
• Eps 115 was all about trust and surrender
• Celebrate the relationship
• Using and developing breath as a tool
• 4:45 Our children are our teachers – they picked us!
• We don’t know what we don’t know and our children highlight that for us
• Their way of being invites our “stuff” to the surface
• We then choose how to respond
• End of the day – they are operating from their developmental place, limited skills, brain development
• 7:50 Parenting is a never-ending growth and development workshop – we can choose to resist or to grow/evolve
• 9:15 There is a purpose to this journey
• Let’s live a life where we are paying attention
• Our children show us stepping stones to our own growth
• When we choose into growth and learning we can influence the experience we are having
• You can only change yourself, you can’t change others
• Positive Discipline for Teenagers
• Mistakes our kids make can rock our foundation and philosophy around parenting
• Being kind and firm at the same time is one of the pillars
• Peeling back layers of what that ^^ means
• Kindness only = permissive
• Firmness only = authoritarian
• Kind isn’t NICE, it’s connected, firm is respecting ourselves and the situation
• It’s about progress not perfection, and becoming ever more AWARE of what is happening for us
• Making agreements is a kind and firm PD parenting tool
• Get into our child’s world, here what their needs are, share what we need, make a plan together, declare a deadline, follow through (parents)
• “What was our agreement?”
• It’s not about being nice while we deliver a consequence…
• The invitation is to make agreements with YOUR children
• Not necessarily about the problem we solve, instead it is more about the life skills the kids are practicing inside of the agreement-making
• Not about finding a solution that lasts forever – every solution has a shelf life

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices