#211 Expert Mentors Live - Achieving Success by Challenging Limits and Setting Goals with Michelle Saward

How much pain are you willing to take to live the life you want? Imagine how your business and life can turn around once you overcome your limiting beliefs. In this episode, John and Michelle talk about breaking a belief system and helping change your mindset toward success. You'll also get insights into how courage and discipline separate you from being average to what you want to achieve! Show Notes 1:16 Michelle's background Early on in her career, it did not seem to be good for Michelle. She was laid off by her realtor and does not want to work in a cubicle or return to bartending. She has a real estate license, and she's got a college degree and at some point; she did not know what to do with these. Either way, she still showed up to her job, treating it like a real job, and fast forward 21 years later, she was able to achieve what she wanted. 4:43 The pain that you can tolerate Both John and Michelle agreed that sometimes it was not realizing what you want, but it's the tenacity to show up and tolerate what you do not want that you can figure things out. How much pain are you willing to take in order to live the life you want after all those things? 7:01 The dark side helps out too Michelle elaborated that your dark side is there to help you just as much as the light side. The dark side can be in the form of unemployment or doing what you do not want and all of these things are messages and guidance that are going to gear you toward where you're supposed to go and what you're supposed to be doing. 11:58 Forming your belief system When you know you did not want to go back to a particular situation that challenges your thinking and you form a belief system around it. This drives your actions that will ultimately lead to all the results that you have in your life. 12:39 Breaking limiting beliefs The biggest thing to break those limiting beliefs is to get curious. If you're curious about other people - what are their motivations, what makes them tick - and start asking those questions, you can start to guide them down the path that's going to help them grow and succeed. 16:00 On being a coach Too many coaches push their agendas on other people, but on the contrary, it's not really about the coach. A great coach can bring the whole tools, frameworks, and principles and none of them really matters until you get clear what the individual is trying to achieve. 23:53 Challenging your mindset Challenging your mindset is one of the hardest things to do. If you don't have a coach or mentor, you need to have somebody that's going to give you hard advice that you might not want to hear because sometimes it's even hard to see it for yourself. It is hard to break the habit of being yourself. 28:39 Discipline comes from courage It takes courage to be disciplined. The most disciplined - to their thoughts, to how you show up every day, to their actions, to follow through even on the days they don't want to follow through - that's the separator from being the average to whatever level you want to achieve. 30:05 How discipline carries over to your goals Consistent action equals results. Valleys are going to come, bumps will happen along the road. It means you're being tested and the challenge is to have the discipline to continue to show up whatever happens. You need to decide and have the courage and discipline to keep going. That's when things that you wouldn't imagine will show up to help you in pursuit of that goal. 34:12 Why do people fall short of their goals People fail to achieve their goals because they don't think through the amount of time it will take and how much are they willing to invest for that outcome. Confidence is a collection of wins. John loves micro wins because if we're getting micro wins every day, that builds a bigger confidence, and that's where the momentum keeps going. 42:05 Running in the right direction Humility is the defining trait of whether a person is coachable. You have to have enough humility to know that you needed to be held accountable, and you also needed that guidance and coaching if you desire to be better. You have to build the framework of what it is that you want and you have to have the right people guiding you to make sure that you're running in the right direction.