I Wish You Knew

Are you tired of going on endless first dates that go nowhere? Sick of swiping through apps that seem to get more exhausting and less satisfying every year? You are not alone, and this conversation is going to change the way you think about finding a partner entirely. Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist, sits down with Alessandra Conti, celebrity matchmaker and founder of Matchmakers in the City, for one of the most honest and practical conversations about modern dating you will find anywhere. With nearly 14 years of experience working with celebrities, royals, and high profile clients, Alessandra has seen every pattern, every mistake, and every thing that actually works when it comes to finding the right person. What you will learn in this conversation: 1- Why dating apps are not the problem but the way almost everyone uses them is 2- What matchmaking actually is and why guided courtship has worked for all of human history while modern dating has been failing for 100 years 3- Why building female community before dating men is one of the most important things a single woman can do and why so many women resist it 4- Why no sex until monogamy is not just a values decision but a strategic one that protects your heart, your judgment, and your future 5- How good men actually respond when a woman holds her boundaries and what it tells you immediately about whether he is worth your time 6- The most destructive thing women think they are looking for in a man and what they actually need instead 7- Why men with a plan are the most attractive men in any room and what that means in practice 8- What women should never do on a first date if they actually like the man and the surprising thing they should do if they do not 9- Why both men and women are walking around wanting the same thing and completely failing to find each other and what to do about it If you have ever felt like the modern dating world was designed to keep you single, this conversation will show you exactly why that feeling is right and what the alternative actually looks like. 📚 WORK WITH ME 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–26, 2026 | San Diego, California 4 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat-new/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/9 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/9 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://bundle.adamlanesmith.com/attachment-quiz-organic/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/9 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_content=4/9 Connect with Adam on your second preferred platform: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentbro X: https://twitter.com/adamlanesmith Threads: https://www.threads.com/@attachmentadam Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith/ I Wish You Knew Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCh_uRUnpQwNZb_WG76TxTTw?sub_confirmation=1