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"Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years." - Bill Gates I'm still working on my patience level. I find I need to have patience with practicing patience although I'm a lot better than I used to be. There are many things that one wishes would happen faster in their lives and in their organizations. In the last five years, my life has changed a lot. I've moved from starting at the bottom in a new organization to now leading others and changing the culture at that same organization. This week's episode of the Women and Leadership Podcast is about learning to be more patient. Take a listen as I cover: 1. How resting can help you get more done, not less 2. What James Clear says about making 1% improvements every day. 3. What might trigger impatience and how to deal with it. Resources: Make sure you join the Accelerate Your Leadership Academy waitlist at www.herleadershipway.com/ayla Join the Women in Leadership facebook group   Chapter Summaries: [00:00:01] - This week on her leadership coach, Rochelle is talking about getting better at patience. Rochelle admits that she's still working on her patience level. She finds that she needs to have patience with practicing patience although she's a lot better than she used to be. [00:00:48] - There are many things that one wishes would happen faster in their lives and in their organizations. In the last five years, Rochelle's life has changed a lot. She's moved from starting at the bottom in a new organization to now leading others and changing the culture at that same organization. According to James Clear, making 1% improvements every day is a good way to get better at influencing others. Every day. It can feel like nothing's happening when we're first starting out, so it's easy to give up. This has happened with me over the past few years in a number of ways. I've been on a personal development journey for 30 years. In the last two years, the change for me has been massive. [00:11:14] -  If you want to improve by 1% a day (or more), join the Accelerate Your Leadership Academy. Other episodes you'll enjoy: S1E10 Taking care of you S1E4 The 7 types of busyness Connect with me: Facebook: www.facebook.com/groups/hlwactiongroup LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rochelle-marie-hlw/ Website: www.herleadershipway.com  

"To be honest, I'm not a fan. I don't like the term quiet quitting." Quiet quitting is when you only do the tasks in your role description within the hours you're paid to work. According to Gallup, 50% of American workers currently fall into the quiet quitting category. In this episode, you will learn the following:1. Why quiet quitting is a bigger deal in America than it is in Australia2. The four reasons quiet quitting makes sense.3. The one reason you wouldn't quiet quit.   Resources:Make sure you check on the Done, Not Dusted course details at www.herleadershipway.mykajabi.com/donenotdusted and join the waiting list. Chapter Summaries:[00:00:01] - Quiet quitting is when you only do the tasks in your role description within the hours you're paid to work. It was coined in 2009 at an economic symposium in Texas. In the last few months, quiet quitting has become quite a trend on TikTok, especially for those in the Gen Z and Millennial age range.[00:01:50] - According to Gallup, 50% of American workers currently fall into the quiet quitting category. In Australia the trend isn't as noticeable as it is in America. There are four reasons why it makes sense to quitely quit your job and one reason not to.[00:11:00] - Acting your wage is another term used for quietly quitting. If you want to get a leadership role, you need to be acting the wage of the role you want, not just the one you're in. Aspiring leaders need to act as role models to avoid burnout.[00:14:39] - Join the Women in Leadership Facebook group to continue the conversation about quitely quitting.  Other episodes you'll enjoy:S1Ep3 The 7 types of busyness S1Ep10 Taking care of you Connect with me:Facebook: www.facebook.com/groups/hlwactiongroupLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rochelle-marie-hlw/Website: www.herleadershipway.com We would love it if you could rate the show and leave us a review. Leave us a review and rating on Spotify by:  Go to the Her Leadership Coach show page on Spotify Tap the rating immediately underneath the podcast's description. Alternatively, tap the More (…) icon, then choose Rate show. Drag your finger or tap on one of the five stars (preferably the 5th one!) to leave a rating. Leave us a review and rating on Apple podcasts by:  Go to the “Her Leadership Coach” show page on Apple podcasts Click on the SHOW, not the episode Scroll all the way down to “Ratings and Reviews” Click on “Write a Review”

"Self awareness can make us better at our jobs, better communicators in the workplace, and enhance our self confidence and job related well being."As a leadership coach I believe that being aware of your thoughts and feelings is one of the most important parts of being a leader. This week, I talk metacognition, or thinking about our thinking and self-awareness. According to research, among other things, self-awareness can make us better communicators in the workplace, which is exactly what we need to be as leaders and aspiring leaders. In this episode, you will learn:1. What Metacognition and self-awareness are and why we need to practice both 2. Metacognition and self-awareness can help us uncover our biases and bring our behavior back into alignment with our values.3. Mark Manson suggests that when practicing self-awareness, it's best to go just a few layers down until you start repeating yourself.Resources:Make sure you join the Accelerate your leadership Academy waiting list at www.herleadershipway.mykajabi.com/aylaChapter Summaries:[00:00:01] - Rochelle is the her leadership coach. She believes that being a leader from the inside out is the most important part of the accelerate your leadership method. She was listening to a book this week, all about Metacognition, which is thinking about our thinking. Self awareness is the ability to observe and accurately identify one's thoughts, feelings and behaviors. According to research conducted by Sutton, Williams and Allenson in 2015, self awareness can make us better at our jobs, better communicators in the workplace, and enhance our self confidence and job related well being.[00:08:59] - When we practice metacognition and self awareness, we can uncover our biases and bring our behavior back into alignment with our values. She encourages people to give it a try, as it can help them to uncover their biases and build better relationships.[00:13:36] - There are three ways to get better at thinking about all the things. The first is journaling. The second is to talk it out with someone you trust. The third is to sit in silence.[00:16:51] - Mark Manson is the author of the Subtle Art of not giving a F*ck. He suggests that when practicing self awareness it's best to go only a few layers down until you start repeating yourself. He illustrates this with a story from 16th century India where a young man climbs a mountain to speak to the sage at the top.[00:18:57] - Join the Women and Leadership Facebook group to continue the conversation about metacognition and self awareness. If you liked the podcast, please share it with others and leave a review on the website to help others find the show. Until next week, continue to lead the way her Way.Other episodes you'll enjoy:S1E8 How to make your values work for youConnect with me:Facebook: www.facebook.com/groups/hlwactiongroupLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rochelle-marie-hlw/Website: www.herleadershipway.comLoved this episode? Leave us a review and rating on Spotify by:  Go to the Her Leadership Coach show page on Spotify Tap the rating immediately underneath the podcast's description. Alternatively, tap the More (…) icon, then choose Rate show. Drag your finger or tap on one of the five stars (preferably the 5th one!) to leave a rating. Leave us a review and rating on Apple podcasts by:   Go to the “Her Leadership Coach” show page on Apple podcasts Click on the SHOW, not the episode Scroll all the way down to “Ratings and Reviews” Click on “Write a Review”

"As leaders, we are called to be a role model to others. We want to show them that self care is important so that they can do so, too, without feeling guilty about spending time and money on themselves." I went on a retreat last week and it was amazing. I used to feel guilty when I took time out for myself, but now I realize that it's actually really important. As leaders, we need to be role models for others and show them that it's okay to take care of themselves. So this week, we're talking about what gets in the way of self-care, and how we might embrace the habit instead. It's not always easy to make time for self care, but it's worth it. In this episode, you will learn: 1. How I used to feel guilty about taking time out for myself, and how that has changed (mostly). 2. The importance of self care for leaders. 3. How to make self care a habit, and some tips for doing so.   Resources:  Women in Leadership facebook group   Other episodes you'll enjoy:S1Ep8 How to make your values work for youConnect with me: [email protected]

  "Managing up is not about getting your manager to do what you want them to do." In today's episode, Rochelle talks about how to manage up and why it's important for aspiring leaders. In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. How to manage up in a way that will actually accelerate your next promotion. 2. How to get your needs met outside of your manager 3. How to let your manager know what you're capable of without appearing to be a bragger. Resources: Women in Leadership facebook group Chapter Summaries: [00:00:01] - Rochelle is the her leadership coach. On the podcast, Rochelle is talking about how to manage up on today's episode. Managing up can feel daunting at first, but it's simply good relationship management.  [00:01:12] - After ten years in public service, she has learned a lot about managing up. Today she will talk about three techniques that will help you manage up in a way that will actually accelerate your next promotion. [00:04:55] - As an aspiring leader, you need to build relationships with your team, your colleagues and your boss. You need to find out if your boss is an introvert or an extrovert. If they are more task oriented or people oriented, adjust your communication with them accordingly. [00:08:19] - There are two reasons why people feel their bosses are difficult: Their values aren't the same as their employees', and/or they're not meeting their needs. Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak, the founders of Apple, didn't have the same values, but together, they changed the world. It's okay to have different values from your boss. It doesn't make one of you better or worse than the other. [00:10:38] - It's time to show your boss what you can do when you're not in the room, listening for opportunities to share stories that highlight things you've accomplished in the past, letting your boss know where you want to go in your career and what will help you get there ahead of time. Other episodes you'll enjoy: S1E8 How to make your values work for you Connect with me: [email protected]

"You have far more choice in what your values are than we are led to believe" It took me a while to get to my leadership role the second time around (after kids).  So I refused to quit trying even when I suffered knockbacks and difficult times trying to get to my leadership role. All because of my why. I was determined to make a difference by doing leadership in a way that was going to have a positive effect on my team rather than a negative one – and that was based on my values of fairness and making a difference.  In this episode, you will learn the following: The importance of knowing your values How to be more intentional about living in alignment with your values That you have more control over what your values are than you think Resources: Woomen in Leadership facebook group Chapter Summaries:  [00:00:42] - If you want to make a positive difference to your life one of the first steps is to identify your values. The second is to take stock of how well you live your life according to your values. When we live in alignment with our values, we have more energy and life satisfaction. [00:04:22] - Being a leader in itself is not always easy. Unfortunately many people give up trying and convince themselves that they never really wanted to be a leader. It helps in getting to a leadership role to know your why. And underlying your why is your values, your deepest values and your goals that align with those values. [00:06:34] - There are clues as to how well you are living in alignment with your values. If you feel icky or triggered at the moment, you might be out of alignment with the values behind those feelings and need to look for a solution to bring yourself back into alignment. [00:08:29] - Rochelle's word for 2022 is "intentional". It is important to live in alignment with your values and to make intentional choices about what your values are, and what you do and don't do based on those values. [00:14:06] - I invite you to consider what do you value most? I encourage you to get down to your top five values to help decision making and keep you focused. Then ask yourself if you are living your life aligned to those values yet. [00:14:55] - Join the Women inLeadership Facebook group to continue the conversation about values. Leave a review on the podcast in order to help others to find the show. Until next week, continue to lead the way, her way. Connect with me: [email protected]

"Try this first. Think about what you're assuming this will say about you, and by default, what you're assuming they will think about you if it goes wrong. And then I challenge you to come up with a completely different meaning, a completely different reaction that you could assume someone was going" I turned 50 this year, and I made a commitment to myself to do 50 new things before the year is over. It's important for leaders to be willing to try new things. It shows that you're willing to take risks and that you're open to new ideas. Sometimes people won't try new things because they're afraid of what others might think if it doesn't go according to plan. But I challenge you to reframe what the possible outcome could mean. It might not be as bad as you think. In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. What's so good about trying new things? 2. Why is it so difficult for people to try new things? 3. What if you're wrong about the meaning you've put on something? Resources: Women in Leadership Facebook group Chapter Summaries: [00:00:01] - Rochelle turned 50 this year. She made a commitment to do 50 new things before the year is over. Being willing to try new things is an important trait for a leader. [00:02:23] - For some people, the last new thing they tried was 20 years ago. Some new things are easy to try, like a new lipstick or a new color of beer. Other things are a bigger deal, like jumping out of a plane or swimming with sharks. There are things in the middle that people are still afraid to try. They think failing at them means something about them. What if you put a different meaning on something? What if not hearing a response of I love you from the other person simply means they come from a family that never said it before? If choosing a restaurant that turns out to be awful means you and your friend both have a good laugh about it, if not being able to work out how to use the Digital Planner straight away is a great way of role modeling to your team, [00:10:36] - Tracy's daughter has been teaching herself Spanish, and she'd asked Tracy to learn it with her. Tracy had let her fear of being terrible at it and the meaning that being terrible would disappoint her daughter, stop her from doing it altogether. Giving it a new possible meaning has allowed her to take action and start to learn the new language. Connect with me: [email protected]

The words we use - both to others and to ourselves - have the power to shape our reality and change our world for the better. Do you know that the words you speak can shape your reality? "Your words are powerful." I was listening to the Her Leadership Coach podcast the other day and it got me thinking about the power of words. Our words are so powerful and so often we don't realise it. We can use them to positively or negatively impact ourselves and those around us. Just one word can change the meaning of a whole sentence. The next time you're talking to yourself or someone else, be mindful of the words you're using and how they might be received. Words can shape our reality and change our world for the better. In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. The power of words to shape our reality 2. The importance of using positive words when talking to ourselves 3. The significance of the words we don't use  Chapter Summaries:  [00:02:11] - There are a few three-letter words that can make a difference to how a sentence lands when you're talking to someone. The author has been working on reducing his use of the word 'but' for a while now.  [00:05:56] - Carol Dweck coined the Term “growth mindset”, which is a belief that we have the ability to better ourselves through effort, through learning and through good teaching. A fixed mindset is the belief that you are born as you are and you can't grow anymore. One of the exercises to help children and adults change from this fixed mindset to a growth mindset is to add the word “yet“ to a number of sentences. [00:09:32] - Positive and negative words affect us on a deep psychological level and have a significant impact on how our lives turn out. Negative words release stress and anxiety inducing hormones. [00:13:19] - Today's first challenge is to come up with a new phrase to replace a negative one you use with a positive one. Decide in advance and write it down so that you don't have to think of something on the spur of the moment. Over time, it will build the neural pathways and you will find that you stop using the old phrase and start using the new one. [00:15:11] - The last point of today's talk is about the words we don't use. When we just don't address the elephant in the room. We turn our backs on it, pretend nothing's gone on and we've got nothing to say.  [00:16:27] - Today's second challenge is to think about the words you're not speaking right now and what it is you're scared about saying them out loud. Next, think about how would the best leader version of you find a way to speak the words she's afraid of? [00:18:14] - If you liked today's episode, please share it with a friend. If you have a couple of minutes to rate and review the podcast, I would love to hear from you. If you want to carry on the conversation, join the Women in Leadership Facebook group. We're a friendly bunch! Other episodes you'll enjoy:  Don't miss Episode 3, 7 types of busyness - listeners have said recognising their type is 'uncomfortably true'. Connect with me: [email protected]

I'm sharing the final three pieces of the Done Not Dusted framework so that you can get productivity, focus, and freedom. "I've come to see energy as one of our most precious resources."Hi, I'm Rochelle, the Her Leadership Coach, and I help quietly determined career women step up into leadership roles. In this episode, we're finishing up the work we started last week on the three pieces of the puzzle to getting things done without stress. This week, we're focusing on energy, habits, and systems. I believe that energy is one of our most precious resources, and we need to do everything we can to protect it and work with our natural rhythms. Our productivity is shaped by our habits, so it's important to be mindful of what we're doing and choose habits that will benefit us. Systems can help us be more productive by taking away the need to make decisions or reinvent the wheel every time we do something. I hope you find this information helpful and that it allows you to lead the way, her way.In this episode, you will learn the following:1. How our habits shape our productivity2. How energy levels affect our ability to focus and be productive3. How systems can give us back our freedom Resources:The Done, not Dusted course details are at https://herleadershipway.com/donenotdusted  Chapter Summaries: [00:01:15] - Last week, we went through the first three pieces of the puzzle: clarity, the scientist mindset, and being a person of integrity. This week, we're looking at the remaining three: energy, habits and systems. The six areas fall under the framework:. Who do I need to be? How do I work? And what do I do?[00:02:35] - Energy is one of our most precious resources. We need to protect our energy and work with the natural rhythm of that energy. Get the sleep, eat the foods that give you energy and do the exercise. Work with our energy rather than against it. Think about when you are naturally most awake.[00:08:13] - Habits are important because they affect our productivity and stress levels. It's important to be mindful about what you're doing, and cataloging your habits is a good place to start the phone, picking up, drinking coffee and going for a run are some of the habits that can be changed.[00:11:09] - Systems are a set of practices and procedures that are applied to specific activities to achieve a specific result. Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg and others have a system for their clothes, so they wear the same clothes every day. System gives you back your freedom and gives your brain more space for creativity.[00:14:40] - If you have a couple of minutes to rate and review the podcast, I'd really appreciate it.Other episodes you'll enjoy:S1Ep4 The Six Areas You Need to Embrace for a Productive, Less-Stressed Life (Part 1)Connect with me: [email protected]  Women in Leadership facebook group

"Is it really possible to be productive without stress? Find out here!" You can do less plate spinning, and feel in control of your world again."If you think you can or you think you can't, you're right." -Henry FordIn my early days as a Project Manager, I realized that I often sabotaged myself by being a perfectionist. When I shifted my mindset to see things as experiments I had so much more time! That's just the start of my journey to getting a LOT more done, and lowering my stress levels. In this episode, you will learn the following:1. How a scientist mindset can help you get more done in less time2. The importance of integrity in becoming more effective3. The need for clarity in order to know what is important and what is notResources:Find the Done, not dusted course details, and get signed up today.Episode Chapters:[00:02:15] - The Done, not dusted three - part framework.[00:06:32] - The problem with perfectionism.[00:11:32] - The importance of having integrity.[00:15:54] - How we work frame.[00:20:02] - What area of your life are you neglecting?Other episodes you'll enjoy:S1E3 Understanding the 7 types of busynessConnect with me:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hlwactiongroupLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rochelle-marie-hlw/Loved this episode? We would appreciate if you leave us a review and 5 star rating to help other quietly determined career women to find us too.

Everybody these days is just so busy! Yet how much of that is self inflicted vs a necessity? Join me this week as I discuss the 7 types of 'busyness' that we might be allowing in our lives. It's really hard to find a solution to something if we can't pinpoint what the problem is in the first place. So take a listen and discover which types you most identify with, even if you don't want to. If you want to continue the conversation, join us in the Women in Leadership facebook group. If you want to know more about how you can work with me email [email protected]

The 2nd key pillar for accelerating your leadership journey (covered in accelerating your leadership method) is building your connections. There are so many benefits to increasing your network and having solid relationships with a wide group of people. In this weeks episode I am talking about the 2 key areas to focus on to help you build great relationships at work. If you want to join the conversation, come and join us in the free facebook Women in leadership facebook group. Have a topic you would like me to cover in a future episode? Email me [email protected]

In this first episode of Her Leadership Coach we go right to the heart of what works for woman to get promoted to a leadership role. You will learn: The 3 key pillars, or rules of the game, that help you get promoted faster and How to become an outstanding leader in the process If you want to join in the conversation, come and join us in the Women in Leadership facebook group. If you have a topic you want me to cover, or want to find out about the Accelerate your leadership academy email me [email protected]

Welcome to the Her Leadership Coach podcast with Rochelle Marie. This podcast is for you if you are ready to get a leadership role at work OR you're in a leadership role and looking to progress to the next level. This is for you if you know that it's not just about getting the job, it's about being the kind of leader people are lining up to work with. It's about making a positive difference for the people you lead and the organisation.  Being a great leader isn't a destination, it's a journey. One that will challenge you, occassionally frustrate you, but man is it rewarding. This podcast is all about being a leader from the inside out, and in the process, levelling up in your career. Subscribe to the show through your favourite podcast app and if you get value from it, please rate and leave a review. That's what leaders do isn't it - help others to find value as well. If you want to continue the conversation, come and find me in the Women In Leadership facebook group or email [email protected]  Music by Stockaudios from Pixabay