Healing Anxious Attachment

In a world that often glorifies constant closeness, this episode explores the power of space within relationships.We dive into the concept of polarity - how attraction thrives when there’s a sense of individuality and magnetism between two people. Because when you’re always merged, something can start to fade.We also touch on why space can feel especially important for avoidant partners and why many men, in particular, value freedom as a way to feel safe and open.See in you in there!Say Hi on Instagram - I love hearing from you @johhhannamariaGO DEEPER Join me inside Becoming Secure - a 3 Phase Method for changing your attachment from anxious to secure at the nervous system level 🧡Mentioned in this episode:❤️‍🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️‍🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships

One week you feel empowered, hot, regulated, grounded, making progress. The next you're spiralling, your inner critic is screaming, and you're convinced you've undone everything you've worked for. It's not a a setback - it's your internal winter. In this episode, we cover the four seasons of your cycle and how to eat, move, and schedule your life accordingly. Plus the specific codes that helped me personally reduce luteal phase irritability. You'll learn what cycle syncing looks like if you're on birth control, and an intro to seed cycling as an easy hormonal support tool.See in you in there!Say Hi on Instagram - I love hearing from you @johhhannamariaGO DEEPER Join me inside Becoming Secure - a 3 Phase Method for changing your attachment from anxious to secure at the nervous system level 🧡Mentioned in this episode:❤️‍🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️‍🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships

What if your relationship with food isn’t just about food?In this episode, I share my own struggles with disordered eating and anxious attachment, and the surprising parallels I’ve noticed between the two. From craving reassurance in relationships to seeking comfort or control through food, these patterns often stem from the same place - fear of abandonment, lack of safety, and a deep need for control.This is a conversation about the emotional roots beneath these behaviours and what healing has looked like for me as I’ve started building more security within myself.PS. On March 5th I'm hosting "The Language of the Body Workshop" which is a perfect intro to somatic therapy and will give you frameworks for understanding what it means to rewrite patterns on a subconscious level and free you of old stories, blocks, and even symptoms.Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡Over 30 guided somatic practices2 live calls a monthNext workshop March 5th! (Replay available) Individualized coaching from Johannalearn more here 💐Mentioned in this episode:❤️‍🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️‍🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships

I asked chatgpt to play interviewer and focus on what would bring you the most value. Some of the questions we covered are:"What's one moment in your healing anxious attachment journey that really changed the game for you?""When we hear that the other person isn't ready to deepen a relationship what's one practice we can do to deepen our self trust in those moments?""What's one daily ritual or mindset shift you'd recommend that can help women stay on track, especially on the tough days?""Many women feel their still repeating the same pattern of situationships, if you were sitting across from them right now, what's one first step you'd have them take, to break that cycle for good?""What's one gentle piece of guidance you'd offer, to help women step into that new chapter?""What's one word you'd love for your listeners to hold on to, as they step into their journey?"Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡Over 30 guided somatic practices2 live calls a monthIndividualized from Johannalearn more here 💐Mentioned in this episode:❤️‍🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️‍🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships

In this episode, we explore what it means to move from forced to self-sourced. When external crutches like validation, and good-girl syndrome aren't enough and you’re called to become your own anchor.This conversation unpacks the emotional shifts, inner resilience, and self-trust that are built when you stop outsourcing safety, validation, and direction.If you’ve found yourself gripping and forcing to hold yourself through uncertainty, this episode is an invitation to step into deep self-reliance, inner security, and embodied confidence.👑 ✨ SELF-SOURCED 8 Week Group Program Waitlisted 👑 ✨ Learn more.An 8 week initiation into your own power, through and beyond healing anxious attachment into regulation, inner security, and amazing relationships.https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/ss-ep45-btmMentioned in this episode:❤️‍🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️‍🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships

In this episode, we dive into what it truly takes to become secure within one year. This conversation breaks down the key shifts, practices, and mindset changes required to transform your inner world. If you're ready to step into a version of yourself that feels calm, confident, and worthy of love, this episode is your roadmap to getting there. 🌟Join Becoming Secure Learn more here: https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/-ep44🧡Mentioned in this episode:❤️‍🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️‍🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships

The holidays can be triggering, here's how to protect your peace. This episode covers:-How you can bring more depth and feeling into your traditions -5 ways to clear and protect your energy-Discerning when to have the intense conversations Go Deeper into you Inner Work Journey: Join the Becoming Secure women’s membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡30+ guided somatic practices2 live calls a monthIndividualized coaching from Johannalearn more here 💐Mentioned in this episode:❤️‍🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️‍🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships

In this episode, we explore what happens when you finally meet a good, emotionally available man, but your anxious attachment starts to panic.We talk about why healthy love can feel unsafe when you’re used to chaos, inconsistency, or having to prove your worth in relationships. You’ll learn how to recognize when your nervous system is reacting to safety as unfamiliar, and how to start soothing that part of you that expects love to be hard.This conversation also touches on the difference between genuine connection and emotional intensity, and how to stay grounded when you want to run, overthink, or self-sabotage.Enjoy this episode 🙏🏼.Go Deeper into you Inner Work Journey Join the Becoming Secure women’s membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡30+ guided somatic practices2 live calls a monthIndividualized coaching from Johannalearn more here 💐Mentioned in this episode:❤️‍🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️‍🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships

In this episode, we dive into the toxic cycle of tying our value to how much we achieve or produce and why it pushes away healthy love. We talk about what happens when our reality revolves around being busy, rather than being fulfilled. And how women suffer when pleasure, joy, and creativity fall to the bottom of the list.This conversation also explores how perfectionism and the need for control can pull us further from ourselves. Enjoy! Go Deeper:Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡Over 30 guided somatic practices 2 live calls a month Individualized coaching from Johanna learn more here 💐Mentioned in this episode:❤️‍🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️‍🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships

If you’ve ever held out for someone’s potential because you could feel how good they are deep down… this episode is for you.We’ll talk about:Why emotionally unavailable men can still feel magneticHow to stop mistaking intensity for loveMoving from shrinking into high standards for love What it really means to feel safe being chosenJoin the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡Over 30 guided somatic practices 2 live calls a month Individualized coaching from Johanna learn more here 💐Mentioned in this episode:❤️‍🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️‍🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships

Release anxious energy on every level, from shifting your perspective to completing the stress cycle, holding discomfort, and using somatic practices to create real relief.I explore how to release anxiety on every level: the mental layer (shifting perspectives and letting go of rigid expectations), the physical layer (rest, hormones, and completing the stress cycle), the emotional layer (building the capacity to hold discomfort), and the subconscious layer (somatic practices and parts work).DO THE INNER WORK Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡Over 30 guided somatic practices 2 live calls a month Individualized from Johanna learn more here 💐Mentioned in this episode:❤️‍🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️‍🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships

The inner critic and negative self-talk often feels like our own voice, but many of its harsh words aren’t truly yours. In this episode, I unpack how limiting beliefs get handed down through parents, teachers, and society, and how even one painful comment can loop in the mind as self-criticism. You’ll also learn how projections shape the way you see yourself and others, and I’ll guide you through a simple questioning process to dismantle unhelpful beliefs so you can move toward a kinder inner dialogue.In this episode, you’ll:Discover how the inner critic is formed and why it speaks so harshly.Learn how projections influence your beliefs about yourself.Explore a practical questioning process to dissolve negative self-talk.Go Deeper: Join me in the Becoming Secure women's membership. Tools, teachings, and practices to do the inner work, and Heal Anxious Attachment 🧡Mentioned in this episode:❤️‍🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️‍🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships

Trauma isn’t only about life-threatening events, it’s also the smaller wounds and unmet needs that shape how we think, feel, and protect ourselves. In this episode, we explore the layers of the mind (conscious, subconscious, unconscious), the difference between Big T and Little T trauma, and the trauma response or defense systems that develop as a result. You’ll learn how the body holds these memories and why healing through somatic work can feel surprisingly safe and natural.Go deeper inside Becoming Secure. A high-touch Women's Group with live workshops and Q&A calls, somatic healing videos, accountability for your personal growth, and a place where you'll immediately remember that you're not the only one going through this 🧡 Join the Becoming Secure membership here. 7 Day Free Trial. Monthly subscription and cancel easily, anytime. Mentioned in this episode:❤️‍🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️‍🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships

Your body has a default survival pattern like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn which shape how you respond to stress, emotions and triggers. In this episode, you’ll learn how to recognize these patterns, understand your “window of tolerance,” and work with your nervous system to feel calmer and more in control.By the end you'll Understand the four core survival responses and how they can show up in subtle, everyday behaviors.Learn what the “window of tolerance” is and why it’s essential for emotional and nervous system health.Discover practical tools to move from anxiety back into calm.Resources Mentioned: Join my Becoming Secure women's group for 30 Days of Somatic Practices, and monthly live workshops and coaching calls. Connect with me on Instagram, I love receiving your messages 💖Mentioned in this episode:❤️‍🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️‍🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships