Healing Anxious Attachment
Johanna Adriaansen
Show overview
Healing Anxious Attachment has been publishing since 2023, and across the 3 years since has built a catalogue of 52 episodes. That works out to roughly 20 hours of audio in total. Releases follow a monthly cadence.
Episodes typically run twenty to thirty-five minutes — most land between 19 min and 30 min — though episode length varies meaningfully from one episode to the next. None of the episodes are flagged explicit by the publisher. It is catalogued as a EN-language Society & Culture show.
The show is actively publishing — the most recent episode landed 6 days ago, with 8 episodes already out so far this year. The busiest year was 2025, with 21 episodes published. Published by Johanna Adriaansen.
From the publisher
Let's talk about the realll experience as a woman who is craving to be in that book-worthy loving relationship but knows her old patterns are getting in the way. We're here to lock in on the inner work so that your relationship is beyond your wildest dreams. My approach is beyond talk therapy and into the deep layers of subconscious programming and somatic healing. Listen in to learn the road map and tools to create a securely attached nervous system, that makes you confident in love and life. Prepare to feel supported, resourced, and held 🦢. Send me your shifts, insights, or lightbulb moments! To go deeper: Join Becoming Secure - Course + Coaching + Community. The life changing program where you learn everything you didn't about love, needs, and boundaries, and become the confident, peaceful, life-partner material you know you want to be. https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/podinfo-becoming-secure-program Connect with me on insta: https://www.instagram.com/johhhannamaria/
Latest Episodes
View all 52 episodesCan You Actually Heal Anxious Attachment?
How to Calm Relationship Anxiety Right Now
Why Men Don't Commit to Anxious Women
Ep 50Why You Should Spend Time Away From Your Partner
In a world that often glorifies constant closeness, this episode explores the power of space within relationships.We dive into the concept of polarity - how attraction thrives when there’s a sense of individuality and magnetism between two people. Because when you’re always merged, something can start to fade.We also touch on why space can feel especially important for avoidant partners and why many men, in particular, value freedom as a way to feel safe and open.See in you in there!Say Hi on Instagram - I love hearing from you @johhhannamariaGO DEEPER Join me inside Becoming Secure - a 3 Phase Method for changing your attachment from anxious to secure at the nervous system level 🧡Mentioned in this episode:❤️🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships
Ep 49Cycle Syncing for the Anxious Nervous System
One week you feel empowered, hot, regulated, grounded, making progress. The next you're spiralling, your inner critic is screaming, and you're convinced you've undone everything you've worked for. It's not a a setback - it's your internal winter. In this episode, we cover the four seasons of your cycle and how to eat, move, and schedule your life accordingly. Plus the specific codes that helped me personally reduce luteal phase irritability. You'll learn what cycle syncing looks like if you're on birth control, and an intro to seed cycling as an easy hormonal support tool.See in you in there!Say Hi on Instagram - I love hearing from you @johhhannamariaGO DEEPER Join me inside Becoming Secure - a 3 Phase Method for changing your attachment from anxious to secure at the nervous system level 🧡Mentioned in this episode:❤️🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships
Ep 48What Disordered Eating & Anxious Attachment Have In Common
What if your relationship with food isn’t just about food?In this episode, I share my own struggles with disordered eating and anxious attachment, and the surprising parallels I’ve noticed between the two. From craving reassurance in relationships to seeking comfort or control through food, these patterns often stem from the same place - fear of abandonment, lack of safety, and a deep need for control.This is a conversation about the emotional roots beneath these behaviours and what healing has looked like for me as I’ve started building more security within myself.PS. On March 5th I'm hosting "The Language of the Body Workshop" which is a perfect intro to somatic therapy and will give you frameworks for understanding what it means to rewrite patterns on a subconscious level and free you of old stories, blocks, and even symptoms.Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡Over 30 guided somatic practices2 live calls a monthNext workshop March 5th! (Replay available) Individualized coaching from Johannalearn more here 💐Mentioned in this episode:❤️🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships
Ep 47ChatGPT Interviews Me! (and didn't hold back)
I asked chatgpt to play interviewer and focus on what would bring you the most value. Some of the questions we covered are:"What's one moment in your healing anxious attachment journey that really changed the game for you?""When we hear that the other person isn't ready to deepen a relationship what's one practice we can do to deepen our self trust in those moments?""What's one daily ritual or mindset shift you'd recommend that can help women stay on track, especially on the tough days?""Many women feel their still repeating the same pattern of situationships, if you were sitting across from them right now, what's one first step you'd have them take, to break that cycle for good?""What's one gentle piece of guidance you'd offer, to help women step into that new chapter?""What's one word you'd love for your listeners to hold on to, as they step into their journey?"Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡Over 30 guided somatic practices2 live calls a monthIndividualized from Johannalearn more here 💐Mentioned in this episode:❤️🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships
Ep 45Why Effort, Patience, and People Pleasing Stops Working
In this episode, we explore what it means to move from forced to self-sourced. When external crutches like validation, and good-girl syndrome aren't enough and you’re called to become your own anchor.This conversation unpacks the emotional shifts, inner resilience, and self-trust that are built when you stop outsourcing safety, validation, and direction.If you’ve found yourself gripping and forcing to hold yourself through uncertainty, this episode is an invitation to step into deep self-reliance, inner security, and embodied confidence.👑 ✨ SELF-SOURCED 8 Week Group Program Waitlisted 👑 ✨ Learn more.An 8 week initiation into your own power, through and beyond healing anxious attachment into regulation, inner security, and amazing relationships.https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/ss-ep45-btmMentioned in this episode:❤️🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships
Ep 44Anxious to Secure in 1 Year
In this episode, we dive into what it truly takes to become secure within one year. This conversation breaks down the key shifts, practices, and mindset changes required to transform your inner world. If you're ready to step into a version of yourself that feels calm, confident, and worthy of love, this episode is your roadmap to getting there. 🌟Join Becoming Secure Learn more here: https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/-ep44🧡Mentioned in this episode:❤️🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships
Ep 43How to Survive the Holidays - Boundaried, Grounded and Restored
The holidays can be triggering, here's how to protect your peace. This episode covers:-How you can bring more depth and feeling into your traditions -5 ways to clear and protect your energy-Discerning when to have the intense conversations Go Deeper into you Inner Work Journey: Join the Becoming Secure women’s membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡30+ guided somatic practices2 live calls a monthIndividualized coaching from Johannalearn more here 💐Mentioned in this episode:❤️🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships
Ep 42Finally Dating a Good Guy but Feeling Anxious
In this episode, we explore what happens when you finally meet a good, emotionally available man, but your anxious attachment starts to panic.We talk about why healthy love can feel unsafe when you’re used to chaos, inconsistency, or having to prove your worth in relationships. You’ll learn how to recognize when your nervous system is reacting to safety as unfamiliar, and how to start soothing that part of you that expects love to be hard.This conversation also touches on the difference between genuine connection and emotional intensity, and how to stay grounded when you want to run, overthink, or self-sabotage.Enjoy this episode 🙏🏼.Go Deeper into you Inner Work Journey Join the Becoming Secure women’s membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡30+ guided somatic practices2 live calls a monthIndividualized coaching from Johannalearn more here 💐Mentioned in this episode:❤️🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships
Ep 41Breaking the Toxic Pattern of Productivity as Self Worth
In this episode, we dive into the toxic cycle of tying our value to how much we achieve or produce and why it pushes away healthy love. We talk about what happens when our reality revolves around being busy, rather than being fulfilled. And how women suffer when pleasure, joy, and creativity fall to the bottom of the list.This conversation also explores how perfectionism and the need for control can pull us further from ourselves. Enjoy! Go Deeper:Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡Over 30 guided somatic practices 2 live calls a month Individualized coaching from Johanna learn more here 💐Mentioned in this episode:❤️🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships
Ep 40Having Secure Standards: The End of ‘Almost Right’ Love
If you’ve ever held out for someone’s potential because you could feel how good they are deep down… this episode is for you.We’ll talk about:Why emotionally unavailable men can still feel magneticHow to stop mistaking intensity for loveMoving from shrinking into high standards for love What it really means to feel safe being chosenJoin the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡Over 30 guided somatic practices 2 live calls a month Individualized coaching from Johanna learn more here 💐Mentioned in this episode:❤️🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships
Ep 39Releasing Anxiety from the Body
Release anxious energy on every level, from shifting your perspective to completing the stress cycle, holding discomfort, and using somatic practices to create real relief.I explore how to release anxiety on every level: the mental layer (shifting perspectives and letting go of rigid expectations), the physical layer (rest, hormones, and completing the stress cycle), the emotional layer (building the capacity to hold discomfort), and the subconscious layer (somatic practices and parts work).DO THE INNER WORK Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anxious attachment 🧡Over 30 guided somatic practices 2 live calls a month Individualized from Johanna learn more here 💐Mentioned in this episode:❤️🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships
Ep 38Psychology of the Inner Critic: Releasing Negative Beliefs
The inner critic and negative self-talk often feels like our own voice, but many of its harsh words aren’t truly yours. In this episode, I unpack how limiting beliefs get handed down through parents, teachers, and society, and how even one painful comment can loop in the mind as self-criticism. You’ll also learn how projections shape the way you see yourself and others, and I’ll guide you through a simple questioning process to dismantle unhelpful beliefs so you can move toward a kinder inner dialogue.In this episode, you’ll:Discover how the inner critic is formed and why it speaks so harshly.Learn how projections influence your beliefs about yourself.Explore a practical questioning process to dissolve negative self-talk.Go Deeper: Join me in the Becoming Secure women's membership. Tools, teachings, and practices to do the inner work, and Heal Anxious Attachment 🧡Mentioned in this episode:❤️🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships
Ep 37Trauma Explained: How Your Mind and Body Hold (and Heal) the Past
Trauma isn’t only about life-threatening events, it’s also the smaller wounds and unmet needs that shape how we think, feel, and protect ourselves. In this episode, we explore the layers of the mind (conscious, subconscious, unconscious), the difference between Big T and Little T trauma, and the trauma response or defense systems that develop as a result. You’ll learn how the body holds these memories and why healing through somatic work can feel surprisingly safe and natural.Go deeper inside Becoming Secure. A high-touch Women's Group with live workshops and Q&A calls, somatic healing videos, accountability for your personal growth, and a place where you'll immediately remember that you're not the only one going through this 🧡 Join the Becoming Secure membership here. 7 Day Free Trial. Monthly subscription and cancel easily, anytime. Mentioned in this episode:❤️🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships
Ep 36Inside Your Nervous System: Survival Modes & How to Feel Less Anxious
Your body has a default survival pattern like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn which shape how you respond to stress, emotions and triggers. In this episode, you’ll learn how to recognize these patterns, understand your “window of tolerance,” and work with your nervous system to feel calmer and more in control.By the end you'll Understand the four core survival responses and how they can show up in subtle, everyday behaviors.Learn what the “window of tolerance” is and why it’s essential for emotional and nervous system health.Discover practical tools to move from anxiety back into calm.Resources Mentioned: Join my Becoming Secure women's group for 30 Days of Somatic Practices, and monthly live workshops and coaching calls. Connect with me on Instagram, I love receiving your messages 💖Mentioned in this episode:❤️🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships
Ep 35Discovering Your Core Needs (+Somatic Practice)
One of the most powerful things you can do on your healing journey is get good at knowing and trusting what you need — not what you were told to need, not what you think you should need, but what your body and heart are truly craving. This episode answers a question from a Becoming Secure Community Member who asked: “How do I even know what my core needs are? And once I do… how can I meet them on my own?”Together, we explore:Neediness versus NeedsWhen to meet your own needs and when to ask for your needs to be met Discovering your deeper emotional or relational needsHow to reconnect to your needs through your bodyCore needs in the realms of intimacy, sex, safety, self-expression, and relationshipsThe connection between your needs and your valuesThis episode also includes a somatic practice to help you tune in and feel your needs rather than just think about them. You’ll walk away with clarity, direction, and a deeper sense of connection to your inner world.Resources Mentioned: Quiz - Which Anxious Attachment Type Are You?Becoming Secure Community - Course + Community + Coaching Mentioned in this episode:❤️🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships
Ep 34Why You Struggle to Receive (Even Though You Want Love)
In this episode, I’m talking about why receiving often feels uncomfortable — especially for women with anxious attachment — and how this survival pattern shows up in your body and your relationships.We’ll explore:Why high-functioning women resist supportThe somatic signs you’re in survival modeHow childhood patterns shaped your ability to receiveWhat it really takes to let love landAnd if you’re ready to shift this not just in your mind, but in your body — join me for my upcoming live workshop: Held – Letting Love In. In the Becoming Secure Membership.In the workshop we go deep into the somatic healing needed to turn off survival mode and turn on your capacity to receive.Mentioned in this episode:❤️🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships
Ep 33How High-Functioning Anxiety Blocks Love — and What to Do Instead
You never “need” anything. But underneath, you’re anxious, and wishing to feel more held.In this episode, we explore what happens when high-functioning anxiety plays out in relationships — from early dating to long-term partnership.And most importantly, how it impacts your ability to be met, supported, and chosen.You’ll hear:Why overfunctioning can push love away — even when your intentions are pureHow emotional management erodes polarity and leads to motheringThe kinds of men we attract when we’re performing vs. when we’re rooted in selfAnd what to practice instead — so you stop chasing safety and start receiving loveIf you’ve ever said “I did everything and he still pulled away, why wasn't I enough?” this episode is for you.WORK TOGETHER 🧡🌻 🫳🏼 BECOMING SECURE MEMBERSHIP COMMUNITY - Course + Coaching + Community 📲 Find me on Instagram Mentioned in this episode:❤️🔥 No More Situationships | Free Live Workshop ❤️🔥Save Your Free Seat! 👉🏼 https://link.becomingsecurecommunity.com/pd-no-more-situationships