Growth Marriage

Scrupulosity, or religious perfectionism/OCD, can be debilitating for both individuals and couples. The belief that unless you do everything right, keep all the rules, are perfectly obedient, and live according to God's will... something terrible will happen. This episode with perfectionism expert, Dr. Menije explores how our anxiety leaks out into our spiritual life. She provides some great examples of what scrupulosity can look like, and what we can do about it.

In order to master your anxiety, you must become differentiated. Differentiation is the ability to separate your thoughts from your feelings, and to separate your own thoughts and feelings from the thoughts and feelings of others. This is a practice you will be working on for the rest of your life. Today's episode will introduce you to the first part of differentiation, and give you some first steps to start calming yourself down.

Friendship is the foundation of your marriage. If you can't be a good friend to people outside your marriage, it's unlikely you'll be a good friend to your partner. Also, friendships outside your marriage are CRUCIAL for the survival of your relationship. Your community is your bedrock. In today's episode, I talk to the author of the new book, "Friendship in the Age of Loneliness," Adam Smiley Powsolwky. We talk about why friendship is important, and give a bunch of ideas of how to cultivate more meaningful friendships.

Anxiety is basically negative emotions that your brain manufactures to help keep you safe from potential threats... kind of like a smoke alarm. But just like a smoke alarm, there's no special mechanism to help it detect the severity of the threat. Bacon burning on the stove gets the same treatment as a house fire. This is a problem because at some point in your marriage, your partner is going to hurt you, disappoint you, or let you down. That means your brain will detect them as a threat, which will drive a wedge between you. In order to keep the connection alive, we need to learn to effectively manage our internal anxiety alarm. In today's episode, the first episode of the Anxiety Series, I'm going to talk a bit more about what anxiety is, and what we're supposed to do about it.

Some people have relationships that just look so easy, so smooth, and so natural. How do they do it? Are they just lucky? Or are they doing something that everyone else is missing? In this episode, I sit down with John and Ana Mann, authors of the book "The Go-Giver Marriage." This interview (and their book) uncomplicates love and marriage in a really beautiful way. I hope you give it a listen, and check out their new book at: HTTP://gogivermarriage.com

Affairs are more common than you'd think. Roughly 50% of marriages are faced with some sort of infidelity at some point during their relationship. So... what do you do if you're caught up in an affair? What do you say if you've fallen hard for someone that's not your partner? How do you respond if your spouse just told you they've been cheating? How can you recover? That's what we're going to talk about in this episode with Kimberly Holmes from Marriage Helper.

Were you ever told that "Becoming One" was the ultimate goal in marriage? Or if you put your partner's needs before your own (and if they do the same) your relationship would flourish? Every day I see people who buy into these nice-sounding mindsets, only to watch their marriage slowly crumble. If you are: A fixer... Or you avoid negative emotions because you think they're bad... Or you find yourself turning to things like porn, video games, social media, or workaholism... Or you really struggle to ask for what you want... Or you're subtly dishonest and manipulative... You should check out the Epic Husbands Experiment right now. There are only a few spots left, and doors close in a few days.

Dr. Robert Glover says,"Nice Guy Syndrome represents a belief that if Nice Guys are 'good,' they will be loved, get their needs met, and live a problem-free life. When this life strategy fails to produce the desired results — as it often does — Nice Guys usually just try harder, doing more of the same. Due to the sense of helplessness and resentment this pattern inevitably produces, Nice Guys are often anything but nice." Today, I sit down with 2 other recovering Nice Guys and talk about the toll Nice Guy Syndrome had on our relationships and some of the things we've done to try to get better. If you need help overcoming Nice Guy Syndrome, check out the Epic Husbands Experiment. Spots are limited, so apply soon!

Is your partner checked out, no longer invested, withdrawn, or distant? Do you want to know what you can do to change them? To re-engage them? To get them invested in the marriage again? In this episode, I'll show you how the concepts of animal training can be utilized to help you take responsibility for your actions, words, and thoughts to influence change – and even transformation in your partner. The results often take time, but the proof is in the pudding: If you're truly committed, you can change your partner, and change your marriage... simply by changing yourself. 🙋‍♂️ If you are a husband who wants to experience how this works, apply for the Epic Husbands Experiment here: HTTP://epichusbandsexperiment.com 🙋‍♀️ If you are a wife who wants to experience how this works, start the Epic Wives Experiment today: HTTP://epicwivesexperiment.com

This is the full, unedited version of my interview with Dr. Menije, the Queen of Perfectionism.

Perfectionism will ruin your happiness and fulfillment in life and in your relationships. Perfectionism is NOT a good thing. It's often a symptom of deeper issues, like depression, anxiety, or OCD. Check out this clip with Dr. Menije, the queen of perfectionism, to better understand what perfectionism is, why it's harmful, and what we can do about it!

If you're feeling tired, burned out, or like a failure... If you're feeling unfulfilled, unimportant, or disrespected... it could mean despair is creeping into your life. And despair can lead to resignation, checking out, apathy, and even nihilism. In today's episode, we talk about things you can do to get rid of the despair, and feel good again. For more from Chad, text: 844-479-0134 For the Epic Husband's Experiment, click: HTTP://epichusbandsexperiment.com

Depression has been a struggle we've dealt with throughout our marriage. It's even been at the source of some of our most painful arguments. In today's episode, we want to share about our journey with depression, and shed some light on what depression is, what it's like to struggle with it, and how you can help yourself, or your partner if they are struggling with it. Here's the article that helped Angilyn: https://stunningstyle.com/style-secrets/how-i-found-fast-anxiety-and-depression-treatment-getcerebral Here's the service she used to take an assessment and meet with a provider: https://fbuy.io/cerebral/8ebhd2tn

You know who has happy marriages? Happy people. If you bring happiness into the marriage, it multiplies. If you rely purely on your partner to make you happy, the relationship consumes all the happiness and leaves miserable, demanding partners in its place. Find out how to create your own happiness in today's episode.

Truly incredible marriages don't happen by accident. In today's episode, we're going to talk about 4 qualities you need to develop in order for your marriage to be truly epic. If you don't... you'll likely get stuck in perpetual conflict, boring routines, and have an unfulfilling relationship. This episode matters a lot. It will change your perspective in a big way.

Today, I wanted to share a special presentation I did for couples struggling with unwanted pornography use. Most couples focus on the question, "How do we get rid of the porn?" And the porn keeps coming back... because they're focusing on the wrong thing. This episode will show you an alternative that has worked for thousands of couples... and I'm confident it will help you.

Laura Doyle is the NYT Bestselling author of The New York TImes Bestselling book The Surrendered Wife. Her advice about the importance of being a good receiver in this episode is game-changing. I hope you enjoy it! Check out more of her work at lauradoyle.org

Shock collars are used to train dogs not to leave the yard. They use pain and fear to incentivize action. Are there things you're doing in your marriage to inflict pain on your partner in exchange for compliance? What do you think is the cost of that?

Resentment is corrosive to your marriage. It can be a gift if you know what it's trying to tell you. But if you sit in it and let the resentment stew, it will corrode the love, trust, and connection in your relationship and leave you feeling angry, bitter, and alone. Today, Misty McIntyre joins me to talk about what to do when we're feeling resentful in marriage.

😱 Most people don't know that Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages (the most popular relationship book of all time), almost got divorced. 💡 As a matter of fact, it's because his relationship was in such a dark place that he discovered The 5 Love Languages. 🚨 If you want to see how Dr. Chapman saved his marriage and came up with the Love Languages concept that was subsequently turned into a book that's sold over 20 MILLION copies... check out this episode.