I was training for the Olympics and my abuser won Coach of the Year - Debbie
Good Girls Talk About Sex · Leah Carey
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Show Notes
Debbie was formed by experiences of both pleasure and pain. She was blessed with good early relationships, but also is a survivor of the epidemic of sexual abuse in elite women's sport. Her faith in herself helped her choose to heal.
Debbie is a 52-year-old cisgender female. She describes herself as white, heterosexual, monogamous, married, and post-menopausal. She describes her body as average.
- Debbie's first memory of sexual pleasure is at age 16 with her first boyfriend, who had learned a fabulous trick with ice.
- She shares about growing up in church, conservative but with a touch-generous loving youth group.
- Debbie then opens up about a deeply traumatic experience: she was molested by her gymnastics coach. She talks about him being charged and acquitted, and about subsequently being groomed in his tutelage.
- Getting her parents to admit what happened was difficult. The lack of public condemnation was even more harmful.
- Debbie discusses two other painful sexual traumas.
- She speaks to the fact that despite the trauma, she is not broken, and she wants to assure other victims that a healthy sex life with pleasure is still possible.
- After they separate, Debbie's husband buys a self-help workbook and actually does the work. Things become peaceful, and then they turn around in a big way.
- Debbie still deals with chronic tendonitis in her hips, which impacts sex, and she talks about being post-menopausal.
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EPISODE CREDITS:
Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco
Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak