I thought our sex life was perfect, until he for new things – Shasta
Good Girls Talk About Sex · Leah Carey
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Show Notes
Shasta is a 45-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as Canadian First Nation/Cree, heterosexual, monogamous, and married to her husband who she has been with for 20 years.
Major themes in this episode include
- balance of power in heterosexual relationships,
- bedroom boredom in a long-term relationship, and
- working to heal childhood issues as an adult
You can find Shasta online at www.ShastaTownsend.com. Her book, Happy, Sexy, Shameless – What Our Mother's Didn't Know About the Birds and the Bees, is available at Amazon.
- Her first memory of sexual pleasure, masturbating at age 4
- The challenge of overcoming staleness in the marriage bed
- Rediscovering masturbation as an adult
- Encountering shame and childhood trauma when her husband requested new sexual explorations
- What she learned as a child about being a "good girl"
- The messages we hear about being a smart and outspoken female
- Using sexual dominance as a protective measure, sexual prowess as power over men
- The cultural balance in wanting men to pursue women and ask for things vs. men being perceived as aggressive/entitled
- Shasta's experience with body image—being the "smart one" but also flaunting/accentuating what you have
- Trying new things with her husband to break barriers around shame and stories
Audio extras for this episode are:
- Shasta talks more about her First Nation/Indigenous background and what it was like to grow up as a mixed race child in Canada. She also talks about the messages she heard about being a "good girl."
- The extended Q&A
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EPISODE CREDITS:
Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco
Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak