I bought my first vibrator with babysitting money - Jazz

Jazz is a 31-year-old gender non-conforming, femme-identified person who uses the pronouns "they" and "theirs". They describe themselves as black, polyamorous, and pansexual with an active dating life.

The major theme of this episode is gender. Jazz talks about how genitals are not the be-all-end-all of gender. If all of the recent talk about gender as a spectrum has you confused or uncomfortable, this is the episode to listen to!

• Jazz's "attacks of pleasure" in elementary school
• Their first time masturbating at age 14
• How training as a performer left them disembodied and dissociated
• The emergence of Jazz's gender non-conforming identity
• What non-binary means
• Jazz's first boyfriend, including a lack of negotiation and advocacy for themselves
• Discovering vibrators and toys
• Discovering attraction to multiple kinds of bodies and kissing a girl for the first time
• Jazz's defines what "solo-poly" means to them
• What is a comet partner?
• Trying out triad relationships
• How Jazz's body shape has impacted their experience of sex—not being able to be fully themself because partners have identified them as female
• Being affirmed in a recent relationship and embracing their chin hair
• The joys of group sex

Audio extras for this episode are:

• Jazz talks about their journey to discovering non-monogamy
• The extended Q&A

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EPISODE CREDITS:

Host / Producer – Leah Carey (email) Audio Editor – Gretchen Kilby Administrative Support - Lara O'Connor, Maria Franco

Transcript creation – Jan Acielo Music – Nazar Rybak