Fun With Sex Podcast

Today Nicole (@freeformcoaching) and I react to to questions Redditors have asked online about their ENM relationships. We share valuable insights that can be helpful whether you're new to ENM or not. 

Today we're joined by Elana Auerbach, author of The Sure Thing. Elana gives some great insights on what to do when the sexual spark is absent in a relationship. She goes over helpful strategies, how to create a 'sure thing' ritual, and how to re-spark curiosity. You can find her at @elana.auerbach on Instagram or at https://surethingexperiment.com/

Today we're joined by Nicole, creator of Freeform Coaching (@freeformcoaching). She gives the inside scoop on what coaching looks like, who it's for, how people can benefit from it, and how it differs from traditional therapy. 

On this week's episode, we have on guest Ann Russo to discuss her experience as an author and therapist. We dive into the topic of religious trauma and how unpacking shame relates to various identities like ENM, queer, sex positive, etc.

On this week's episode we're getting into even more advice on dating and having sex while trans and nonbinary. Guest Valerie joins us to give helpful advice, validation, and remind everyone of the silver linings.

Today we are joined by psychologist Valerie to discuss advice on dating and having sex while trans and/or nonbinary. We cover topics like gender dysphoria, how to have open conversations with partners, and more. Come back for part 2!

On this week's episode we're covering some common ENM mistakes that partners make that aren't often talked about. We have guest Ashley on to discuss these mistakes and give helpful advice on ENM.

On today's episode of the Fun with Sex Podcast, we're covering the reality of Dom/Domme sub dynamics. Today we're speaking with Kitt about common themes in BDSM dynamics, how to practice in a healthy way, and more! 

On today's episode of the Fun with Sex Podcast, we have guest Rachela on to discuss how to flirt in an ethical way. We cover how to flirt, things to avoid, consent, and more!

On this episode we cover emotional processing, sensory processing, and rejection sensitivity as it relates to sex and dating.

Dating and sex can feel more complicated while dealing with neurodivergencies in a neurotypical world. Host Natalie and guest Donovan Eyre of the Radio Free Tote Bag Podcast discuss what aspects of relationships and play are impacted by neurodivergencies, share anecdotes, and give helpful advice.

Today we cover the history of the leather community, how it came to be, their importance and integral position in queer history, and why we should not exclude groups from pride.

A new bill is being introduced that would set even stricter guidelines of what can be banned under the guise of it being obscene. We discuss the bill, the deeper implications, and what everyone should be aware of. 

Today we have Alex on to discuss all their helpful advice on trying anal. We dive into finding the right partner, prepping, sexual health, and more!

Today we cover the question on everyone's minds... 'why do people cheat?' The answers are a lot more nuanced then you'd think. With scientific data, personal anecdotes, and a fun game, we cover everything about cheating.

On this week's episode of the Fun with Sex Podcast we're discussing all thing sex work! We go over common misconceptions, the importance of decriminalization, and more from the perspective of two sex workers.

On this week's episode we respond to sex questions on reddit! We share thoughts, advice, reactions, and more!

In this episode, we dive into the complexities of threesomes and why they often don't turn out as expected. From mismatched expectations to communication breakdowns, we explore the common pitfalls that can derail the experience. We also discuss the importance of setting clear boundaries, consent, and honest conversations before and during the encounter. Tune in for a candid conversation on navigating threesomes and making them as enjoyable and respectful as possible.

STIs are common, but the shame surrounding them shouldn’t be. In this episode of Fun with Sex, we break down the myths, tackle the stigma, and talk about how to approach conversations about sexual health with confidence and care. From the realities of transmission to the differences in ENM and monogamous communities, we’re here to make the topic less scary and more empowering. Because being informed is sexy!

This week on Fun with Sex, we explore the thrilling world of sex raves—where music, desire, and freedom collide. With insights from hosts, we delve into consent, community, and what makes these spaces so transformative.

This week on Fun with Sex, we explore the thrilling world of sex raves—where music, desire, and freedom collide. With insights from a seasoned organizer, we delve into consent, community, and what makes these spaces so transformative.

Bisexuality is on the rise, especially among Gen Z and women, with more people identifying as attracted to multiple genders than ever before. In this episode, we explore why this shift is happening, from greater understanding and visibility to the breaking down of gender and sexual binaries. Are more people becoming bisexual, or are they just more comfortable claiming the label? Join us as we dive into the stats, cultural trends, and evolving definitions shaping this bi+ boom.

In this episode, we dive into the messy intersections of dating, social media, and capitalism. From the overwhelming choice paralysis on dating apps to the curated perfection of influencer relationships, we explore how modern technology both connects and isolates us. Why are relationships more disposable today? How has capitalism turned love into a commodity? And what language do we need to better articulate our desires in the digital age? Tune in as we break it all down and offer fresh perspectives on building intentional, authentic connections in a hyper-curated world.

In this episode, we explore the fine line between healthy boundaries and insecurity-driven restrictions in relationships. From veto power in polyamory to controlling friendships in monogamy, we unpack how fear-based rules can erode trust and intimacy. Learn how to set boundaries that prioritize your well-being without compromising autonomy or connection, and discover practical tips for moving past insecurity to build stronger, more authentic relationships. Whether you’re navigating monogamy, non-monogamy, or somewhere in between, this episode offers fresh perspectives and actionable advice to elevate your relationship dynamics.

In this thought-provoking episode, we dive into why Gen Z’s sexual activity is on the decline, uncovering the cultural and political forces at play. Starting with the widening gender divide, we discuss how the recent wave of conservatism among young men and anti-feminist sentiments are influencing dating dynamics. We break down the alt-right pipeline that’s radicalizing young men to blame feminism and women for personal and societal issues while demanding contradictory ideals of femininity and sexuality.

In this episode of Fun with Sex, we break down the myths around group sex—covering everything from threesomes to orgies. We dive into communication, setting boundaries, managing jealousy, and creating safe, fun experiences. Whether you're curious or experienced, this candid chat makes group play less intimidating and way more approachable.

Can kink and feminism align, or do power dynamics clash with feminist ideals? In this episode, we explore how consent, agency, and pleasure shape kink and power dynamics. We go over how kink being anti-feminist is a myth and what a healthy kink dynamic looks like.

For this episode of Fun with Sex, we dive into the world of non-monogamy in pop culture by exploring The Ashley Madison Series. We discuss how the infamous platform, known for facilitating extramarital affairs, has impacted the conversation around non-traditional relationships. Is it just a hub for cheaters, or does it open up important discussions about consensual non-monogamy, infidelity, and the complexities of desire? We break down the show, examining how it portrays the tension between secrecy and transparency, and what it tells us about the evolving norms around relationships today. Tune in as we explore the messy, thrilling, and sometimes controversial world of non-monogamy in the media!

In this episode of Fun with Sex, we're shining a spotlight on bi visibility! We'll explore the unique challenges and joys of identifying as bisexual, from navigating misconceptions to finding community in a world that often sees sexuality as either/or. Join us as we dive into the complex realities of being bi, tackle common stereotypes, and discuss the importance of celebrating bisexuality within both LGBTQ+ and straight spaces. Whether you're bi yourself or want to better understand bisexual experiences, this episode promises insight, laughter, and, of course, fun conversations about sex, love, and everything in between.

In this episode of Fun with Sex, we get real about penises and the pressure to always stay hard. From stress, sleep deprivation, and alcohol to unrealistic standards set by porn and patriarchy, there's a lot more to erection issues than you might think. We break down the stigma surrounding Viagra, why it's not always about erectile dysfunction, and how to embrace a healthier, more realistic approach to sexual performance.

In this episode of Fun with Sex, we get real about penises and the pressure to always stay hard. From stress, sleep deprivation, and alcohol to unrealistic standards set by porn and patriarchy, there's a lot more to erection issues than you might think. We break down the stigma surrounding Viagra, why it's not always about erectile dysfunction, and how to embrace a healthier, more realistic approach to sexual performance.

In this fun and sexy episode of, we explore the many flavors of casual sex and why we need more words to describe them! Casual sex is rarely as emotionless as it's made out to be—most of us crave some level of intimacy, even in our most fleeting connections. We'll dive into how straight, gay, and lesbian cultures navigate these dynamics, and how intimacy can be negotiated outside the confines of rigid monogamy. Tune in for a playful yet insightful chat that expands your vocabulary and your perspective on what casual sex can really mean

In this  episode, we explore the orgasm gap and its impact on sexual satisfaction. Join us as we discuss the causes behind the disparity, and learn practical tips for enhancing communication and intimacy. Whether you're looking to boost your own satisfaction or support your partner, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable advice for a more equitable and fulfilling sexual experience. Tune in for a deeper understanding and practical steps to bridge the gap.

In a society that often shames us for our sexual desires and discourages open discussions about sex, communicating consent becomes even more crucial. In this episode, we explore the vital role of consent in fostering healthy and fulfilling sexual relationships.We begin by addressing the societal norms that make it difficult for many to openly express their sexual desires and the importance of overcoming this taboo. Understanding and communicating consent is not just about the act itself but about creating a culture where everyone feels comfortable and respected in expressing their wants and boundaries.Setting boundaries isn’t confined to the bedroom. We delve into how establishing clear boundaries in all areas of life can lead to more fulfilling and respectful interactions. We also emphasize the importance of checking in with partners during sex to ensure that everyone involved feels safe, heard, and satisfied.Drawing from kink culture, which has long practiced the art of negotiating sex, we highlight valuable lessons on how to communicate openly about desires, limits, and expectations. The principles of negotiation in kink can be applied to all sexual relationships to ensure mutual understanding and pleasure.Join us for an enlightening discussion on how to transform the way we communicate about sex, consent, and boundaries, paving the way for healthier and more satisfying relationships.

Jealousy is a powerful emotion that can impact both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, often in unhealthy ways. In this episode of [Podcast Name], we dive deep into the complexities of jealousy, exploring its roots and how it manifests differently in various relationship dynamics.We start by acknowledging that jealousy is a common experience for many, but it’s crucial to reflect on what’s triggering these feelings and to address our own insecurities before letting jealousy disrupt our relationships. Whether you're the jealous partner or on the receiving end, understanding the underlying causes can help foster healthier communication and connection.We also tackle the sensitive topic of personal boundaries, discussing how not all boundaries are valid. Some so-called boundaries can actually be manipulative tactics used to control or abuse a partner. We offer insights into distinguishing healthy boundaries from those that are harmful, ensuring that everyone can cultivate relationships built on mutual respect and trust.Join us for an honest and enlightening conversation on how to navigate jealousy with compassion and clarity, ensuring that your relationships are stronger and more resilient.

In this episode of "Fun with Sex," we delve into the delicate and exhilarating world of threesomes for couples. Whether you're a seasoned explorer or curious newbie, our discussion offers valuable insights on how to successfully navigate this intimate adventure.We start by addressing the importance of respecting queer women’s safe spaces at gay bars and other LGBTQ+ venues. Discover alternative ways to meet potential partners that prioritize consent and mutual interest, and learn effective communication strategies to ensure all parties are comfortable and enthusiastic.Next, we explore techniques to handle feelings of jealousy that may arise before, during, or after the experience. Gain tips on maintaining open lines of communication with your partner and the third party, setting boundaries, and checking in with each other to ensure a positive experience for everyone involved.Finally, we recognize the inherent privilege couples have over a single person in the dynamic. We discuss ways to create an equitable environment where the third party feels valued and respected, balancing desires and expectations among all participants.Tune in to "Fun with Sex" for a thoughtful, respectful, and comprehensive guide to making your threesome fantasies a reality while fostering trust, respect, and open communication.

In this enlightening episode of "Fun With Sex," we tackle the many misconceptions surrounding bisexuality. Join us as we delve into the true meaning of the word "bi," exploring the fluid and inclusive nature of bisexuality as a spectrum, rather than a fixed point.We discuss the common struggle among bisexual individuals to feel "bi enough," and how societal pressures and stereotypes can lead to feelings of invalidation. Bisexuality often remains invisible in a world that tends to see sexuality in binary terms, leading to unique challenges for those who identify as bi.Our conversation also covers the discrimination bisexual people face from both straight and gay communities. We examine how biphobia manifests in various forms, from outright hostility to more subtle forms of exclusion and erasure.With expert insights and personal stories, this episode sheds light on the rich, diverse experiences of bisexual individuals. Tune in to "Fun With Sex" for a deeper understanding of bisexuality and join us in breaking down the barriers to acceptance and visibility. Whether you're bisexual, questioning, or simply eager to learn, this episode is essential listening for anyone interested in the nuances of human sexuality.

In this provocative episode of "Fun With Sex," we delve into a compelling question: Do straight men truly like women, or do they merely view them as sexual objects? We explore the challenging reality that many straight men struggle to form genuine, platonic friendships with women, and we examine the societal norms that contribute to this disconnect.Join us as we discuss how traditional masculinity acts as a cage, preventing men from embracing interests considered "feminine"—interests that could actually help them bond more deeply with women. We'll look at the irony of straight men seeking advice from homosocial environments, like far-right podcasts, on how to communicate with women, only to find themselves in spaces where women voices are absent.Through candid conversations and expert insights, we reveal how breaking free from restrictive gender roles can open up new possibilities for meaningful connections. This episode is a must-listen for anyone curious about the dynamics of modern masculinity, the pitfalls of gendered communication, and the potential for deeper, more authentic relationships between men and women. Tune in and join the conversation!

Welcome back to the "Fun with Sex Podcast" for part two of our deep dive into the world of kink! In this electrifying episode titled "Taboo Together: Igniting Kink in Your Relationship," we pick up where we left off and explore the practical aspects of bringing kink into your relationship.We'll guide you through the delicate process of discussing boundaries and ensuring enthusiastic consent, highlighting why these elements are crucial for a healthy and satisfying kink experience. Discover the importance of aftercare and how it strengthens the emotional bond between you and your partner post-play.Ever wondered how to broach the topic of kink with your significant other? We’ve got you covered with tips on how to introduce your desires in a respectful and open manner. Plus, we address what to do if your partner expresses interest in kink and how to navigate this new dynamic together.Lastly, we’ll discuss the benefits of finding a kink community. Learn why connecting with others who share your interests can provide support, validation, and a wealth of knowledge, assuring you that you’re not alone on this journey.Tune in for an episode filled with practical advice, personal stories, and expert insights to help you and your partner unlock new levels of intimacy and excitement.

In this riveting episode of the "Fun with Sex Podcast," we dive headfirst into the tantalizing world of kink. Join us as we explore the depths of consensual adult relationships, shedding light on the importance of mutual respect and clear boundaries. We break down the various types of dominant and submissive dynamics, helping you understand the intricate dance of power and pleasure.Our journey continues with a thorough definition of kink and an insightful discussion on power exchanges, demystifying these often misunderstood concepts. Plus, special guest Lola shares her personal experiences and expert insights from her adventures in the kink world, offering a firsthand perspective that's both enlightening and exciting.Whether you're curious about kink or looking to deepen your understanding, this episode is your gateway to unlocking the taboo and embracing the extraordinary.

In this special episode we take a poignant look at the final chapter of disco's story—the impact of gentrification on its vibrant, diverse communityAs the '70s roared to a close, disco faced mounting pressures from mainstream America. What began as a subversive movement rooted in the LGBTQ+ and black and brown communities soon found itself co-opted by the mainstream, diluted of its radical origins.Join us as we explore the role of gentrification in disco's demise. We unpack how predominantly white, affluent audiences flocked to discotheques, pushing out the very people who birthed the genre. The once-inclusive spaces that welcomed all races, sexualities, and genders became exclusive enclaves, shutting out those who had once found solace and liberation on the dance floor.We spotlight the resilience of queer, black, and brown communities who continue to keep the spirit of disco alive, reclaiming its roots and reshaping its future. As we bid farewell to disco's glittering heyday, we honor its legacy as a beacon of diversity, empowerment, and unapologetic self-expression.Check out History 101 episode on the History of Disco for another great reference

In this enlightening episode, we delve into the intricacies of sexual pleasure, focusing on how men can elevate their partners' satisfaction. We explore the concept of decentering the penis, shifting the narrative from a solely penetrative focus to a holistic approach that prioritizes women's pleasure. Our discussion unpacks the transformative potential of incorporating vibrators into sexual encounters, highlighting their role in enhancing pleasure for both partners.With a blend of expert insights and personal anecdotes, we navigate the complexities of the orgasm gap, shedding light on the disparities in climax frequency between men and women. By dismantling myths and misconceptions surrounding female pleasure, we empower listeners with practical strategies to bridge this gap and cultivate more fulfilling sexual experiences. Join us as we embark on a journey toward mutual pleasure and intimacy, one conversation at a time.

Welcome back to Fun With Sex Podcast, where hosts Jon and Nat delve into the fascinating world of intimacy, relationships, and everything in between. In this episode, we embark on an enlightening journey through the realms of non-monogamy. Join us as we navigate the intricate landscape of non-monogamous dynamics, from defining its essence to examining the dearth of representation in mainstream discourse. We'll explore the myriad forms of non-monogamy, from polyamory to open relationships, and discuss the importance of embracing diversity within these frameworks. Get ready for an insightful conversation that challenges assumptions, sparks curiosity, and celebrates the rich tapestry of human connection. Tune in and let's explore the boundless possibilities of love and intimacy together!

This  Conversations with Stripper Raven Rose delves deep into the often misunderstood world of stripping, challenging prevalent misconceptions and societal stigmas. Join Raven Rose, a seasoned stripper, as she candidly shares her experiences and insights, shedding light on the realities of the industry.In this thought-provoking podcast, Raven not only explores the nuances of her profession but also critiques America's puritanical attitudes towards sexuality. She fearlessly addresses the hypocrisy of a culture that simultaneously consumes sexualized content yet shames those who participate in it. Through engaging discussions, Raven advocates for a shift towards greater acceptance and regulation to combat exploitation within the industry.Listeners are invited to reconsider their preconceived notions as Raven dismantles stereotypes and advocates for a more nuanced understanding of sex work. By challenging societal norms and advocating for change, qw aims to spark conversations that contribute to a more inclusive and compassionate society.

In this thought-provoking episode, hosts Jon and Natalie delve deep into the nuanced world of casual sex, shedding light on how to elevate these encounters from mere physical interactions to fulfilling experiences rooted in pleasure, consent, and introspection.Navigating the realm of casual sex can be a complex journey, and Jon and Natalie leave no stone unturned as they discuss the importance of prioritizing pleasure for all parties involved. Drawing from their own experiences and insights, they explore how communication, exploration, and understanding one's desires can lead to more satisfying and enjoyable encounters.But it's not just about the physical aspect. Consent is paramount in any sexual encounter, and Jon and Natalie emphasize the need for clear communication and mutual respect in all interactions, whether they're one-night stands or ongoing casual relationships. They offer practical tips and strategies for ensuring that consent is always enthusiastic, informed, and ongoing.Moreover, the hosts encourage listeners to engage in introspection and self-reflection, questioning whether casual sex aligns with their current needs and desires. They challenge societal norms and expectations surrounding casual encounters, urging listeners to explore what truly brings them fulfillment and satisfaction in their sexual experiences.Through candid discussions and insightful anecdotes, Jon and Natalie provide listeners with valuable insights and tools for navigating the complexities of casual sex with intentionality and mindfulness. Whether you're a seasoned veteran or new to the scene, this episode offers invaluable guidance for anyone seeking to enhance their sexual experiences and cultivate deeper connections, one encounter at a time.

Join hosts Jon and Natalie in a thought-provoking episode where they delve into the intriguing and often complex world of threesomes. In this candid conversation, they explore the early stages of couples considering a threesome, offering invaluable insights on how to approach this potentially transformative experience with integrity, empathy, and mutual respect for all individuals involved.Drawing from their own experiences and extensive research, Jon and Natalie tackle the nuances of communication, boundaries, and consent that are crucial for navigating this uncharted territory. They discuss the importance of open and honest dialogue between partners, as well as the necessity of establishing clear boundaries and expectations from the outset.Throughout the episode, Jon and Natalie provide practical tips and actionable advice for couples embarking on this journey, emphasizing the significance of prioritizing the emotional well-being of everyone involved. From setting ground rules to addressing insecurities and fears, they offer guidance on fostering a supportive and inclusive environment that honors the autonomy and agency of each participant.As advocates for ethical non-monogamy, Jon and Natalie highlight the importance of continuous communication, self-reflection, and ongoing consent throughout the entire process. They challenge common misconceptions and societal stigmas surrounding threesomes, encouraging listeners to approach these encounters with empathy, understanding, and a commitment to mutual satisfaction and fulfillment.Whether you're curious about exploring consensual non-monogamy or seeking guidance on navigating the early stages of a threesome, this episode offers invaluable insights and perspectives to help you embark on this journey with confidence, compassion, and respect for all parties involved. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of ethical threesomes and learn how to create meaningful connections grounded in trust, communication, and mutual empowerment.

In this empowering episode, hosts Jon and Natalie delve deep into the taboo topic of slut shaming and its impact on individuals' ability to embrace and enjoy a fulfilling sex life. With a blend of personal anecdotes, research-backed insights, and candid discussions, they explore the harmful consequences of slut shaming on women and all people, highlighting the pervasive double standards and societal pressures that fuel this phenomenon.From dissecting the historical roots of slut shaming to examining its modern manifestations in media, culture, and everyday interactions, Jon and Natalie fearlessly confront the stigma and judgment that often surrounds sexuality. They passionately advocate for dismantling these damaging beliefs and fostering a culture of sexual acceptance, empowerment, and consent.Drawing from their own experiences and the experiences of listeners, Jon and Natalie offer practical strategies and resources for combating slut shaming and reclaiming sexual autonomy. Through open and honest dialogue, they emphasize the importance of self-love, body positivity, and sexual exploration in overcoming shame and embracing a fun and fulfilling sex life.Join Jon and Natalie as they challenge societal norms, debunk myths, and celebrate the beauty of sexual diversity in this thought-provoking and liberating episode. Whether you're navigating your own journey of sexual liberation or seeking to support others in theirs, this conversation is sure to inspire and empower.

Welcome to the inaugural episode of the "Fun With Sex" Podcast, where hosts Jon and Natalie embark on a journey through the diverse and exhilarating world of sexuality. In this episode, join us as we peel back the layers of our own sexual experiences, sharing intimate anecdotes and personal insights that have shaped our perspectives on pleasure, intimacy, and everything in between.As your hosts, Jon and Natalie bring a unique blend of honesty, humor, and curiosity to the table, inviting listeners to explore taboo topics and break down societal barriers surrounding sexuality. From steamy encounters to awkward mishaps, no topic is off-limits as we navigate the exhilarating landscape of human desire and connection.Through candid conversations and thought-provoking discussions, we aim to create a safe and inclusive space where listeners can feel empowered to embrace their own sexual identities and explore new avenues of pleasure. Whether you're a seasoned adventurer or just dipping your toes into the waters of sexual exploration, this podcast is your passport to a world of fun, fulfillment, and endless discovery.