Four Titles, One Truth

Most of what we think is “just who we are”… is really what we’ve been through.In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, we explore how our past continues to influence how we show up today—our reactions, relationships, communication, and decision-making. Through real conversation and lived experience, we unpack how patterns are formed, why we repeat them, and what it takes to recognize and change them.We’re joined by Dr. Gloria Vanderhorst, a psychologist, writer, advisor, and mentor, who adds perspective on how early experiences, learned behaviors, and emotional patterns carry into adulthood.This episode covers:• How past experiences shape present-day reactions• The difference between who you are and what you learned• Why we suppress instead of process• What it actually takes to break patterns and growA grounded, honest conversation about awareness, ownership, and choosing how you show up moving forward.Let’s Keep The Conversation Going personal growth, self awareness, mindset, behavior patterns, emotional intelligence, relationships, communication, trauma, childhood experiences, life lessons, mental health, breaking patterns, identity, self improvement, leadership, fatherhood, marriage, masculinity, black men, podcast

Everybody says “protect your peace”…But what if what you’re calling growth is actually distance?In this episode, we unpack what it really means to outgrow people, places, and even old versions of yourself and the tension that comes with it. We challenge the idea that a smaller circle always means progress, and take a hard look at the difference between alignment and isolation.Through our own experiences as husbands, fathers, and veterans, we talk through the cost of growth, how it shows up at home, and where “protecting your peace” can cross into avoiding the conversations that matter most.This isn’t about telling you what to do it’s about giving you something real to think about.outgrowing people, personal growth, self development, loneliness vs growth, protecting your peace, relationships and growth, emotional intelligence, mindset shift, life transitions, veteran life, post military life, leadership and growth, marriage and growth, fatherhood perspective, identity shift, mental health conversations, black men conversations, real talk podcast, growth vs isolation, setting boundaries

Before streaming… before playlists…music came from somewhere.From your parents’ records… the radio…and the streets you grew up on.And the songs we heard back then?They didn’t just play… they shaped who we became.This episode is a conversation rooted in lived experience not judgment, not advice… just honest reflection.In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie and Lance take a trip back to the music that shaped their childhood growing up in the Midwest during the 70s, 80s, and early 90s.From the sounds that filled their homes…to the songs they discovered on their own…to the moments that still come rushing back when certain tracks play…This isn’t just about music.It’s about memory, identity, and the experiences that helped shape who they are today.In this episode:• The music their parents played and how it influenced them• When they developed their own taste in music• Where they discovered new music growing up• Songs that instantly take them back to specific childhood moments• The one song that represents their childhoodThis is a conversation about more than songs…it’s about the soundtrack of growing up.music we grew up on, 70s music, 80s music, 90s music, childhood songs, nostalgic music, black music culture, R&B classics, old school music, music memories, songs that defined childhood, growing up in the 80s, growing up in the 90s, Midwest culture, black childhood experiences, family and music, radio era music, cassette tapes, old school R&B, hip hop beginnings, music nostalgia podcast, storytelling podcast, four titles one truth

The United States Army is built to fight and win our nation’s wars. So why do militaries often find themselves relearning the same lessons every generation?In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie and Lance sit down with Command Sergeant Major (Retired) Carl Cunningham to explore institutional memory in the Army.Drawing on decades of leadership experience from the Cold War era through the post-9/11 wars, the conversation examines how lessons are captured, why some are forgotten, and what today’s leaders can learn from the past.From training culture to leadership development, this episode reflects on the challenge of preserving hard-earned experience across generations of Soldiers.Military LeadershipU.S. ArmyVeteransLeadership LessonsMilitary HistoryNational Security

Black excellence is something many of us were taught to pursue.But what happens when excellence starts to feel like exhaustion?In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie Jones II and Lance Taylor reflect on the expectations many Black men grow up carrying — the pressure to succeed, the responsibility to represent more than just ourselves, and the quiet weight that can come with constantly striving.This conversation looks honestly at the balance between pride and pressure, and how those expectations shaped our upbringing, our careers, and our approach to fatherhood.This episode is not meant to speak for all men.It’s simply our lived experiences, reflections, and lessons learned over time.In this episode we discuss:• What Black excellence meant growing up• When pride in achievement can start to feel like pressure• The expectations many Black men feel to succeed for others• The difference between what we were raised with and what our children experience today• What we think about when it comes to what we pass down to the next generationFour Titles, One Truth is a real-talk podcast for Black men navigating life as:• Husbands• Fathers• Veterans• MenThrough honest conversation and lived experience, Tommie and Lance explore leadership, identity, family, and growth.

What did leadership actually give us — beyond rank, titles, and responsibility?And what did it quietly take?In 🎙️ Season 2, Episode 25 of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie Jones II and Lance Taylor reflect on what decades of leadership in the U.S. Army produced in their lives — internally, relationally, and personally.This isn’t about leadership theory.It’s about lived experience.In this episode, we unpack:• The emotional weight of being “the one in charge”• How leadership shaped our marriages and fatherhood• The difference between authority and influence• Identity after the uniform came off• Lessons we didn’t fully understand until years laterWe’re not telling anyone how to lead.We’re sharing what leadership did to us and what we learned from it.Whether you relate, disagree, or see it differently, that’s the conversation.Four Titles, One Truth is a real-talk podcast for Black men navigating life as fathers, husbands, veterans, and men building community through truth, growth, and shared experience.Let’s keep the conversation going.

Military Retirement Reality: Identity, Purpose, and Life After the UniformRetirement from the military doesn’t end with the ceremony and for many, the hardest part begins afterward.In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, we have an honest conversation about transition shock, the mental, emotional, and identity shift that hits many service members after retirement. Retired leaders Tommie & Lance, along with their guest CSM (Retired) Gabriel Camacho share their lived experiences navigating life after the uniform, from the silence that follows constant responsibility to redefining purpose, leadership, and importance in a new season of life.This is not advice from experts, it’s real talk from men who lived it.If you’re approaching retirement, recently retired, or supporting someone through that transition, this conversation is for you.

In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, we reflect on what Black History Month has meant to us...then and now. This conversation isn’t about teaching history or speaking for everyone. It’s about lived experience, reflection, and how Black history has shaped who we are today.What We Talk About:• When we first became aware of Black History Month• How our understanding of Black history evolved beyond the classroom• The hard truths we didn’t learn until adulthood• How identity, experience, and history intersect• What we hope Black History Month gives the next generationThis episode is shared through our personal lenses as husbands, fathers, veterans, and Black men. We don’t claim to represent all experiences, only our own, and we invite thoughtful reflection and conversation.Listen on all major podcast platforms or watch the full conversation on YouTube.Join the conversation and share what Black History Month has meant to you.

What happens after the realization that parenting changes everything?In Part Two of this conversation on Four Titles, One Truth, we continue the discussion with Terance Huston, COL (Ret.), and Kelsie Huston, LTC (Ret.), exploring how parenting, partnership, and purpose evolve over time.This episode picks up where Part One left off—digging deeper into sacrifice, maturity, marriage, and the long-term impact of the choices we make as parents and partners.Rather than offering advice, we reflect on lived experiences: the moments that tested us, the lessons we didn’t expect, and how raising children reshaped how we lead, love, and see ourselves.If Part One made you reflect, Part Two will make you sit with it a little longer.Parenting doesn’t just change your schedule—it changes who you are. In Part Two, the conversation goes deeper. vacation planning

🎙️ Aren't we all just raising our children without a script?In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, we’re joined by retired Army officers Terance Huston and Kelsie Huston for an honest conversation about parenting, partnership, and purpose.Together, we reflect on what it’s like to raise children without a manual—how our upbringings shaped us, how marriage and communication matter in parenting, and what it means to lead a family while still learning and growing yourself.This isn’t a conversation about having all the answers.It’s about sharing lived experiences, lessons learned, and the realities of parenting, marriage, and family leadership.This episode is Part One of a longer, in-depth discussion.If you’re a parent, a partner, or someone navigating family life while still figuring things out, this conversation will resonate.

Send us a textHow Fathers, Culture, and Generational Trauma Shape Modern Manhood in the Black CommunityIn this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie and Lance have a real, reflective conversation about manhood — where our ideas of it come from, how they were shaped by our fathers and environment, and how those definitions change as we grow older.This isn’t a debate or a rulebook. It’s a lived-experience conversation about what we were taught, what we questioned, and what we’ve had to unlearn along the way.🔹 What We Covered•Where did Our first definition of manhood actually come from?•What did we need to hear from our father that we didn’t realize was missing?•How much of manhood is inherited trauma disguised as strength?•Are Black men judged by a different standard of manhood?•Are men taught how to love, or just how to protect their pride?•When did we realize that presence matters more than just good intentions?•How does a man find balance across generations?•What does it cost a man — and his family — when he refuses to evolve?If this conversation resonated with you, connect with us on YouTube and all podcast platforms by searching Four Titles, One Truth.And join us next time, so we can keep the conversation going.

Send us a textBreaking the Silence on Prostate Cancer Risk, Advocacy, and Survival for Black Men.Prostate cancer is often called a “silent killer” — and for Black men, the risk is higher, the conversations are fewer, and the consequences can be deadly when warnings are missed.In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie and Lance sit down with retired CSM Maurice Jackson, a prostate cancer survivor...For an honest, perspective-based conversation about prostate cancer through three Black men’s lived experiences.None of us are speaking as doctors. We’re speaking as men — one with medical training and close family exposure, one who learned the seriousness of prostate cancer late in life during military retirement exams, and one who was in peak physical condition when rising PSA numbers were initially overlooked before being diagnosed with prostate cancer in his 33rd year of service.Together, we discuss:•When prostate cancer first became “real” for each of us•Why prostate cancer is rarely talked about openly among Black men•What we didn’t know — and wish we had known earlier•The importance of self-advocacy in healthcare•Fear, masculinity, and avoiding shame around screenings•How personal and family experiences change how we approach our health•One immediate step Black men should take after hearing this conversationThis episode is not medical advice. It’s lived experience, shared to raise awareness, encourage dialogue, and help Black men take ownership of their health before silence takes something that can’t be replaced.🎧 If this conversation made you uncomfortable, that’s okay.🎧 If it made you think, that’s the point.🎧 If it leads you to take action, then it mattered.

Send us a textGrief and depression are often treated as the same thing — but they’re not. Until they are.In this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie Jones II and Lance Taylor have an honest, needed conversation about grief, mental health, and the fine line that many men — especially Black men — are taught to ignore.We talk about how grief shows up differently for everyone, why men often suppress it, and how unresolved grief can quietly turn into depression if left unaddressed. We also discuss generational expectations, emotional silence, leadership pressures, and the danger of believing you have to “just push through it.”This episode isn’t about diagnoses — it’s about awareness, ownership, and giving men permission to acknowledge what they’re carrying before it becomes something heavier.If you’ve ever told yourself, “I’m fine,” while feeling anything but — this conversation is for you.🎙️ Four Titles, One Truth — honest conversations through the lenses of husbands, fathers, veterans, and Black men.

Send us a textRacism, Power, and Accountability in America: A Necessary Conversation About Prejudice and ResponsibilityIn this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie and Lance take on one of the most uncomfortable — and misunderstood — topics in today’s conversations about race: racism, power, and accountability.This episode goes beyond surface definitions and challenges listeners to think critically about the difference between racism and prejudice, the role of power and systems, and how accountability applies to everyone, including within the Black community.Drawing from lived experience as Black men, veterans, husbands, and fathers, Tommie and Lance don’t aim to inflame or deflect — they aim to inform, challenge, and encourage honest dialogue.This isn’t about thin skin or finger-pointing.It’s about growth, responsibility, and having the conversations that move us forward — even when they’re uncomfortable.

Send us a textHealth Is Everything: Chronic Illness, Prevention & Black Men’s Physical WellnessIn this episode of Four Titles, One Truth, Tommie and Lance tackle a topic that often gets pushed to the side until it’s too late — physical health, especially for Black men.This conversation goes beyond gym routines and quick fixes. We talk honestly about chronic illness, prevention, genetics, stress, access to care, and the cultural mindset that often teaches Black men to “push through” instead of getting checked out. From ignoring warning signs to not prioritizing doctor visits, this episode breaks down why prevention matters and how health directly impacts leadership, family, longevity, and quality of life.This isn’t about fear — it’s about awareness, accountability, and choosing to live longer and better for ourselves and the people who depend on us.What We Cover in This Episode:•Why Black men are at higher risk for chronic illness•The cost of ignoring physical warning signs•Prevention vs reaction — why early action matters•How stress, work, and culture impact Black men’s health•Doctor visits, screenings, and self-advocacy•Physical wellness as leadership and responsibility•Changing the mindset around health and masculinityFour Titles, One Truth is a real-talk podcast for Black men navigating life as fathers, husbands, veterans, and men — building community through truth, growth, and shared experience.Follow us @fourtitlesonetruth on:FacebookInstagramTiktokYoutube