What’s a Life Goal – 2

https://youtu.be/oIg8u1-E_FM Auto-generated transcript: So we're talking about the coming at or deciding on your life goal and as I mentioned to you yesterday or not yesterday I recorded yesterday but the last episode on this the first one that I suggested to you that you should narrow down your choices to not more than two, two different choices. So after that what you do is as much in-depth research about those choices as you possibly can. Research on different careers and so forth has become now thanks to the internet, thanks to social media and so on has become much easier than it was. So utilize that. Social media is generally harmful or negative but in this case it's useful. So utilize that and we do as much research as you can and find out about the two career choices that you have narrowed down to. Once you've done that part of that research you should have come up with the names of the top people in that profession and this should be part of your research so you would have you would have names. Pick three top ones of that. Now these are people who are in effect living your dream. They have been there done that they have achieved what you are setting out to achieve. They are at the goal and you are starting out on the path to get to the goal. Now I'm not suggesting to you that these people will give you you know their life is exact copy or exact model of what you should do with your life. No but it's the closest that you're going to get to that and you're looking at a success model. So you're looking at somebody who's had done that, who's struggled and who was successful. So obviously they will have wonderful things and potentially they will have a lot to to teach you. So take that and then contact them and request to be allowed to shadow them. Now this is very important because you want to get as much of a hands-on experience as much of a hands-on experience of the profession before you actually get into the profession and the way to do that is to shadow somebody who is in that profession. So if you want to become a you know bus driver for example or say a long distance 16-wheeler truck driver. So before you actually get a truck license and whatnot ask one of the truckers if you can ride with him ride with him and my experience of people is that most people who are successful are very open to sharing their lives and their struggles and their goals with anyone who is genuinely interested in listening to them and please notice my words genuinely interested not somebody who's sort of passing by no genuinely interested. So you need to convince that person that you are truly interested in learning from them. Once you convince them and it doesn't take long anyone worth his salt will figure out in the first you know 30 seconds of your conversation whether you're serious or not. So then request to shadow them. As I mentioned people are very willing and open to that and once they agree then you shadow them and do it for a few days maybe a week or so because otherwise you don't get it and get a clear idea of that profession because especially if there's something you want to do it would seem very exciting and and nice to begin with and before you can come to the painful aspects of it which every single profession has you would have got out and you would have got out with a wrong impression so you don't want to do that you want to make sure that you understand it fully and to understand fully you need to be to have enough of an experience the one week is still not enough but it's the best you can do so ask for that and then that one week must be the most serious week of your life be very very serious with them and with their time because their time is valuable and for you it's something which is even more valuable so don't treat that lightly they have taken the troubles to share their life with you so take it seriously now what does that mean in in practice it means that you show up before they show up so if they're working hours begin at depending on who you are shadowing if you are shadowing for example a surgeon most surgeons begin their surgery very early in the morning 5 a.m so if the surgeon is beginning at 5 a.m you make sure that you are there well before that and so on and then stick in there and don't say i'm feeling hungry or i don't know i am tired i need to take my afternoon nap or i need to run to mama for my milk no stick in there no complaints where you need to where you are with them for example the surgeon takes you after surgery takes you to the cafeteria pull out your wallet and pay for the coffee or pay for the the lunch or whatever you are having if he stops you then you might gracefully accept his hospitality one time but otherwise always be the first open their car doors pull out chairs for them to sit right treat the whole thing as that this person is doing you an enormous favor and for the duration of that week you are their servant and you are honored that they took you into their service so you're not doing them a favor they are doing and they have done a favor to you and you're trying to pay it back to the extent possible knowing full well that you can never pay it back because they it was their initiative they agreed in the first place otherwise you wouldn't be having this conversation in the first place so treat it with respect treat them with respect read their time with respect this is very very very important um i've had many cases where people ask to be mentored they ask to be coached and then they try to call the shots um i i have a very important thing that i need to talk to you about it's okay fantastic um can i see you at 6 p.m on wednesday okay i'm saying what can you see me at 6 p.m on wednesday now whose need who whose need is it your need or my need and you want to call the shots you want to tell me when i must make myself available to you come on give me a break i wasn't money yesterday right you asked me when can i see you and if i tell you that i can see you at 9 a.